How To Have it ALL in 2023... Without All The Pressure

[@bigamae]

I love the intentionality of waiting until March to define the next year. I have depression and it gets harder in the winter months. I always feel so much pressure to get everything sorted before the next year and I just don't have the energy to do so. I'm going to set a few small goals and really be present with myself to figure out what I want for the year, not what society is pushing on me! Thank you for continuously providing content that is authentic. I'm looking forward to next year!

[@aliciavelice3806]

Green Tea, and I have made my goals but they are very much the same as last years lol saying that I did complete last years now we are onto phase two lol or three? At the start of this year i learned i had cancer and diabetes, so this has pivoted everything to be about health, and self care.

[@HeyyJillian]

In the last couple of years I’ve been working with the astrological calendar & the sabbats, and I’ve found that to be a much more natural way to live ❤

[@sadhbhomahony7949]

I still haven't processed all the sht the pandemic did to my mind and body, I love the idea of not restricting myself this week to get myself back on the horse but moving softly and slowly and starting to appreciate the journey

[@Nicole_Riviere]

Well, I did yoga teacher training and had a personal “one” year (numerology). So I guess that means spring! Exhausting, exiting year, a new beginning. Lots of new ideas and projects. Need a calmer year now 🥰

[@JG-di8oi]

I'm 31 and still have felt so lost and judgemental about myself and my life. Thank you for helping me feel more calm. 💗

[@Nightsky6823]

I was just thinking this. I turned 30 this year and always learn so much from Kalyn lol

[@angellalee5418]

I turn 30 this year. Same! *hugs*

[@kaitlinsshmaitlin]

Drinking ice cold water while I fold my laundry listening to the coffee talk today. 😌 I don’t really have much to say, just leaving a comment to support the channel. Love you girl, and happy new year! Virtual cheers to another year of comforting content. 🥂

[@freethetomatoes]

I would really love a video on processing. I know everyone's journey is different, but I struggle with even knowing where to start or how to discover my paths. Sometimes I think it's just the stress and overwhelmingness of the issue but it's something I definitely struggle with!

[@samkcatladyaks]

5:56 if you would’ve asked me in April how did I grow this year I’d probably say “I’m not sure I’ll make it to the end of the year” and here I am still. I grew stronger and I started to forgive myself and stop living in the lies people had told me about myself. I owe a life saving thank you to the two specific therapists out of many this year who were finally able to help me find light again in myself, other people, and the world. Your videos helped a lot too:)

[@LucaAnamaria]

Glad you decided to stay. ❤️

[@Sally0779]

So glad you are still here. I feel lost in the sense of not sure where I’m going or how I’m getting there. I have faith things will open up for me when I need them. ❤

[@onlinecareertrainer8030]

Fabulous content! Subscribe & Like! “If you believe it’ll work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you don’t believe it’ll work out, you’ll see obstacles.” -Wayne Dyer

[@taramurphy3556]

Thank you, I have had one of the roughest years of my life, I titled 2022 as my 2 little 2 care year and decided I would do anything I dreamed of. Long story short I ended up in one of my darkest patches and now closing out the year, things have turned around, and I'm starting to enjoy life again. I have been taking December 12th to January 12th to do nothing but rot and reflect. No to do lists, no bending over backwards to please others, putting me first, and it has been so therapeutic for me. Thank you for validating the slow transition ♥️♥️♥️

[@sarahharrison2657]

Drinking red wine that is definitely going to give me a headache tomorrow.

[@Ana19Agosto]

Thank you Kalyn. I have been feeling this calm energy about my future although my life is about to go through a drastic change and i didn't really understand this feeling but this chat really helped me organize my brain. Thank you so much for all these enlightened talks. Have a great new year 🥰

[@breh6935]

My son is two months old today and I’m drinking oat milk.

[@jfeebz11]

O M G i would absolutely die at the opportunity to go back and forth with you on a coffee talk!! I’ve been watching for Y E A R S and I can honestly say you’ve had more of an impact on me and my growth and my mental health than my own parents and family. I love love love listening to these videos, thank you for continuing to share your wisdom and knowledge with us❤️❤️❤️

[@isaseijas9297]

Thank you so much for this. Ive been putting so much preassure on myself and havent slowed down at all and all I felt was confusion about my goals. It is already Febreuary but I am going to take my time to be present and create for no reason.

[@sagieaesir13]

Hey Kalyn! I LOVE the idea of doing conversations! This past year has been, for me, a year of learning how to be self-responsible. It's been difficult, but I genuinely think that it's so important to understand that nobody is coming to save you, but yourself. I love this video, thanks so much!

[@elizabethgraceb]

drinking a starbucks latte thinking about the blooming metaphor…this year i found a therapist and psychiatrist who worked with me through different forms of trauma therapy and i learned the ins and outs of my brain and felt true happiness for the first time in my life. feeling abundant going into 2023 for sure

[@livelovebeprouddinejoe665]

Loving your new energy. Your calm gives me calm.

[@sdafergu]

Drinking an iced milk tea protein shake & hot earl grey matcha tea (in separate glasses). I really enjoyed how you said sometimes withering can mean you are beginning to change into something new. Going to tell that to a friend who is going through a tough time.

[@elenaAGN]

Thank you for another year of cozy and inspiring moments with you! ❤

[@1996RUD]

I wish you an amazing creative and peaceful year ❤ thanks for all these years of content and inspiration 🥰🤗

[@jbwellbeing]

The best advice, I received as a high achiever, is that it’s ok to take the pressure off and have a year of consolidation. This was life changing ❤ Happy New Year Kalyn 🎉

[@melon_ayo]

Watching this while I conquer my sink full of dishes

[@heathersstories6765]

Coffee and Kalyn advice on how to tackle the new year. My day is made and it isn't even 10am. Also, can't wait for the relaunch!

[@clairewood99]

This year I feel like I’ve come long strides in my mental health and not letting it hold me back, I’ve grown in ways I didn’t even think possible. I’ve achieved things I had planned back for 2020 before covid hit and I feel like this coffee talk had exactly the advice I needed to hear. ❤️

[@truecollar9059]

Absolutely loved this chat, and to have a slow new years. I definitely have been feeling the pressure to make goals asap, and it was nice to hear that I can take this time to reflect and circle back when I’m ready ❤

[@MariJadeWrites]

Thank you for this coffee talk episode! I am feeling hopeful for the new year energy, taking a moment to journal on it now :)

[@joanacgarcez]

drinking a mug of golden latte while I organize my room with today's coffee talk as my companion

[@LucaAnamaria]

I always look forward to your coffee talks. Watched this while sipping a warm Earl Grey on a chilly winter morning and eating an apple, almonds, and some homemade Christmas cake that my mum and grandma made. Oh, and I have a super cute fluffy bunny hopping around my feet and poking me with his nose, asking for cuddles. 😊🐰

[@signedNSE]

Drinking water, on lunch, and writing down stuff for the week and the end of the year when this popped up & was like ahh, good timing

[@beckyyccarter]

I’ve been taking my winter break day by day trying to separate from nursing school stress before I jump back on it next weekend. But also getting some winter cleaning/revamping for the new year :)

[@winterstellium]

Currently drinking Matcha Green Tea with Tumeric while I play Genshin Impact and I listen to this in the BG. I haven't listened to a Coffee Talk in a long time, but I decided to get back into it again. Thanks so much for these videos. This gives me a chance to unwind and settle in (especially since I'm on Winter break for college).

[@CookingWithAlphaDior]

Thanks for the coffee talk , currently drinking iced matcha, love the video!!!!

[@elizabethwells6311]

Drinking a festive gin and tonic!

[@amongoaksandowls]

This was so needed! Thank you for this chat. Going to keep repeating to myself, “presence not productivity” ♥️🥰♥️

[@karissalundie3477]

I am letting myself go with the flow this new year, and working on giving myself the metal space to breathe and ease into the year. I do still have a few resolutions, to do more yoga, journal again, and try to look after my mental and physical well being, but I am going forward with the mindset of gentil consistency - do what I can, how I can, as often as I can, without judgement! I am so excited to join you on this new path post Koze (I have been here since before you moved to Toronto and really feel like we grew up alongside eachother! I moved to London Ont around the same time you moved to Toronto and your videos helped me transition from a smaller town where I could rely on my parents into a city where I often felt alone) Thank you

[@lifecoachlissa]

4:18 when you talk about coffee talks where you invite us to talk about blooming (or not blooming)... I would love to jump on that topic!!! As a certified life coach, I support my clients around living life with awareness and how to be conscious about where you are in your journey, holding yourself with compassion rather than judgement to allow the feelings of safety in order to grow. When you are caught in a story that your growth is stunted, or youre withering, you are unable to access the wisdom in the wounds which actually say that the withering is an opportunity to plant new seeds or fertilize the ground for future things. I hope everyone has a blissful 2023 filled with pleasure, peace, love and ease

[@elizabeth91482]

Love this video! I agree with all of this energy for this season into the new year! Being present and resting ❤

[@lillianneecondez]

Drinking some cranberry juice cause I’m out sick! Love taking this time to rest and prep for the new year with you ❤

[@polipavlova8101]

I love that concept "it's about presence not productivity", I'll write it as my motto and theme this year

[@freethetomatoes]

I withered and I withered badly last year! I started January out strong for the most part but ended up in the hospital at the tail end/beginning of February. Later in spring my grandfather and family friend passed away, in summer, my grandfather on the other side of my family passed away and I got diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. Then last month I started chemo. I felt I set myself up to bloom but then rain and the sun never came. All droughts have to end eventually though, right? This year I started with the focus that my body isn't broken, it's just uniquely mine. I have to rediscover how to work with it despite all the obstacles. It's definitely not easy and I wish I had advice for anyone feeling in a similar state but all I can really offer up at this point is to hang in there and keep going! Sending much love and light to anyone who needs/wants it!

[@TinyLiving939]

I'm drinking peppermint moca coffee with peppermint moca cream

[@marysamaniego8050]

I needed this one...thanks!!

[@vvmarie9922]

I want this coming up year to be good for me and get my mental health on track , the end of January will be 2 year's since my dad passed so the holiday season is rough as it is I have anxiety and depression so on top of that it's gotton bad there is so many things I want to do but I have to get my metal heth good first

[@miss88keys7]

Big things went wrong for me last year 😞 this year I need to get back on my feet and make things feel stable again.

[@MsAmie-sm1rm]

I love that there’s a safe space that Kalyn has created for us here, softer start to 2023 is definitely what I need. We all know what’s best for ourselves, just gotta give us the permission to believe in it.

[@chelsead2924]

Was looking for a 2023 reset type video but NONE resonated except yours! All the others were just so cookie cutter whereas yours stood out and was exactly what I was looking for so ty and happy 2023 everyone! All the best to nurturing ourselves to be who we want to be a year from now. 💕

[@Rayaelle]

Yeah for presence without pressure nor productivity.

[@canfeclub]

1:55 not having a drink, but I'm taking a bath 🚿

[@patriciapires852]

I'm drinking my guarana berry soda as it is hot here in Brazil, and I just wanted to thank you for the coffee talks, they've helped me a lot this year as it was a challenging one for all of us. You are my inspiration to be more human and happier with myself. Thank you! Wish you and your loved ones a blessed and amazing 2023 ❤️

[@abbyg8589]

Drinking a nice tall glass of water on my lunch break! I feel like I’ve been withering the last two years, but I finally feel like I’ve planted seeds for 2023

[@jenni230]

That‘s what I needed 😌💕

[@AndiGurl]

Your voice is very soothing. I needed to hear this message today. I definitely need to reflect and ease into the new year. 😌

[@s.z.6640]

I feel kind of “softly inspired” for 2023. Other New Year’s Eves I’ve either felt too energetic about changes I want to make then crash a week in from unsustainable expectations on myself… or I’ve had N.Y.E.s where I just feel like a slug and have no plans about thriving at all. This time feels different, in a good way; I think it’s just a situational thing, I’m hoping to reprogram my brain out of survival mode (I’m in my 30’s and finally comfortable, but still having anxiety about survival even though things are good.) I’m going to be gentle with myself and see what happens. 👍🎉 Thanks for your coffee talks! ❤

[@TheTryna99]

Having a cup of coffee with silk oat creamer :) and a cup of water too.

[@CherryBerryFashion]

This blooming metaphor was really helpful to me

[@suzannecosper8144]

Thanks!

[@epicherbalism]

Your kid is so lucky ❤️

[@emmaporter8690]

Having a regular cup of coffee, listening at work. I have been binging the coffee talks and relistening lately. I started a new job last week and have more downtime throughout the day, so excited to keep listening!

[@jihane_blh]

Thank youuu kalyn For this koze talk ♡♡♡

[@stoneyblue603]

Thanks for giving up to the pressure of reaching so much high goals that it can only be a disaster. A goal that set myself for the next year is to be at a place where I have not been before, once in a month. And that can be ablot of things, visit a town I never saw or a new restaurant. In january it will be my townhall. I live in this town for over twenty years and never visited the townhall. How strange is that ... I want to change that. And I'm excited where this goal will get me. Thanks for your support, thoughts and ideas

[@shannonsmith7618]

I really resonated with this talk today. Thank you for the reminder to reflect on this year. And I love your aesthetic today, because it’s so calming and fitting for the season!

[@Alice-zs3eh]

Thank you for being present with us too Kalyn! Somehow so many of your videos seem to time in perfectly with whatever is going on in my life/I’ve been reflecting on and they’re always such a comfort and help me expand my thinking. (I’m sure you’ve been told this before but I think you’d make a fantastic therapist if you ever choose to step away from social media later in life). Hope you have the beautiful and peaceful start to the new year you’re hoping for✨

[@leabeckman3558]

This year my goals is read all the books I own! And incoming #Feels your work. My mind is full of wanna read. I’m currently reading The Never King by Nikki St Crowe.

[@JuliaRoseThorn]

I’m feeling productive - New Year’s Eve and day I helped my friends move Today (January 2nd) im cleaning my space in prep of the full moon and just resetting my world with things I’ve procrastinated on

[@kelseygreason9774]

I lost my son at 17 weeks early last year (2022) and if I’m in a cycle, 2022 was death. There wasn’t growth- there was pain, regression, struggles with mental health, loss of trust and optimism and self. It’s the first year in my life I’ve felt no growth, and where there should have been blooms, there was dirt.

[@SH-ec6ev]

You are my laundry-folding go-to lol. Thank you so much for being who you are and bringing wisdom and good conversation to the world. Happy New Year!

[@pattywood586]

Drinking lemon ginger tea with honey... And hoping it cures my week-long killer flu. Lol.

[@katemcg1987]

Thank you for this message. Very excited for the new year coffee talks. I am thinking of buying a journal and using these ideas as prompts. Very inspirational content!

[@leabeckman3558]

Also I want to work on my emotional regulation and reparenting myself and figure out what is causing my anxiety. I have been using affirmations at work. To calm myself down from narcissistic co worker and boss. My favorite is “ this negative energy doesn’t belong to me”

[@Hannaa008]

presence about pressure/productivity - exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you xx

[@shayannasamowski6866]

This is the best New Years video I have seen yet ! Subscribing. This is what I needed so much about resetting feels stressful I just wanna ease into it and softly explore my goals and dreams for the upcoming year. Thanks

[@HeyyJillian]

The song “Space & Time” by wolf Alice definitely came to mind :) thank you Kalyn I needed this message!

[@danniescream2859]

Last year I started doing something I called "hibernation" through February and basically took that time between New Year and February to kind of go quiet and look inward and figure out/work on the things I needed and wanted in the upcoming year. I loved it and I think it's really similar to what you are suggesting, so that is really cool to me and I can vouch for the idea being the good one. I noticed that the end of it almost aligned with the Chinese New Year, which was completely unintentional but I also thought was pretty cool so I think I will be more intentional with the alignment going forward. Needed some of these reminders, so really appreciated this video

[@shikhagupta1783]

Hey, you forgot to complete description today (I always read it ;) I have a few intentions for the new year, but I am starting very small- that way I get to make a change in my life, but also not feel overwhelmed.

[@brittanyadays]

100% Needed this for the new year, thank you for sharing! Can't wait for next week

[@eddaquatics4058]

It's really nice listening to what you were saying. Team shyjhade

[@Erika-pq7ip]

The fact that we make the new year into this huge thing leads to a lot of anxiety in my opinion..like at the end of the day, it's still the continuation of the previous year. Yes, let's set goals and be excited but also, chill out two days ago it was still 2022 you won't change everything that quickly.

[@coriewankenobi]

"even if you're withering, you're still growing" girll i needed this !!!

[@chrissyhammerbeck4133]

I am drinking coffee. I was not in a good place last year. I was about to turn 40 and I was freaking out. Doing a little better now. But still got room to grow.

[@momoberri]

Hey Kalyn, You should try to live stream on a topic every once in a while. That way, people can comment on things and add to the conversation

[@lizariholtzhauzen]

Thank you for the great advice, I feel less pressured for the year ahead😊

[@losamiiya7]

there is so much magic you miss when you’re not present and still. this is your sign to stop, put your phone down and feel. ❤

[@shivaniprasad3180]

Drinking chai and water, needed this video under a lot of pressure for doing great next year.

[@mlkrx]

Oooo love the idea of Coffee “Conversations!” Would be honored to join you sometime 💜

[@chrisoulalakkas7935]

I pledge to unlearn my own toxic patterns this year!

[@whitneysanchez]

Listening to you makes me feel like im chatting with a bestie while we share some coffee time. ❤️

[@StephanieInYourFace]

I love that you have this mug because I have one too!! Shoutout to loblaws 😂❤

[@LeahB-vv2to]

I didnt bloom, but those roots are digging deeeep down and getting ready for it

[@julia4528]

I am having a nice Cup of Coffee wirh oat milk

[@chrissyhammerbeck4133]

But now I know, turning 40 is not a big deal.

[@mckennaclements616]

I needed this video so bad! Thank you

[@MaryPreciousJonesHuntsville]

I enjoyed the coffee talk

[@pearlh1051]

Are you a therapist now?

[@dididj97]

We need more presence, not presents 😂👌

[@cozylifewithjc]

Thank you for another year! 💕

[@oykureads]

This was so refreshing🫶

[@Shelladiaries]

Welcome 2023

[@emilydunning1]

i love these vdes so sosooooo much!