How to Heal a Broken Relationship - Bishop Barron’s Sunday Sermon

[@GoWatchRob]

You are amazing sir! I’m am joining RCIA because of you and my mother in law! Please keep going, you give hope and speak to so many!

[@dusti755]

Praying for you and mother in law on your journey, welcome!

[@BishopBarron]

How wonderful! Thanks and God bless you both.

[@teresawarlow2631]

God bless you on your spiritual journey.

[@Bman130958]

May you walk with HIM, all the days of your life. May HiIS blessing be upon you and yours. Welcome home,Rob! Shalom.

[@clairemcintosh8071]

@@BishopBarron Forgiveness is at the heart of healing... We cannot begin to heal as human being spiritually or otherwise without being prepared to forgive. My family are in the midst of so much non forgiveness and punishment, it has torn the family apart for over 20 years, it began to heal a few years ago and last week, Satan has a grip of my so called Catholic family... Please pray for my family, I am piggy in the middle, talking to both sides but not attempting to intervene, Our Lord I pray for understanding and forgiveness 🙏❤️

[@georgerainone2940]

This hit so close to home. My Dad and his sister had a falling out more then 65 years ago. As a result I never knew two if my cousins until last year. We were robbed of all the memories that cousins should made growing up. Resentments often have innocent victims.

[@noescape2108]

Yes, my happiest childhood memories are from visiting my cousins and aunt. But the resentment between my dad and my aunt caused us children to be robbed of more memories.

[@JohnR.T.B.]

It's time for healing, it's time for mercy, it's time to forgive your enemies. It's time to stop the politicization of our Universal Church. It's time to stop using the name of Christ for your personal gain. It's time to adore Christ truly in the most Holy Sacrament. It's time to bring Christ into the world with faith, hope, and love. Amen.

[@marypinakat8594]

@The Anthropologist _Forensic Yes, truly☆

[@marypinakat8594]

Yohanes R.T.B, Awesomely creative and Gracefilled comment☆

[@andytownsend7828]

As a wise nun once told me, "Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die."

[@CharlieKulis]

Great quote

[@tdioxin2658]

A rare, wise soul

[@chackojegan6868]

That's an incredibly wise quote

[@robertvacon167]

In a nutshell, brilliant!!!

[@alicemcpherson7961]

So true!!! Forgive and let go 🙏

[@hidalgov1]

The devil is all about anger and vengeance, God is all about love and forgiveness. In which side do you dwell? Who do you want to serve?

[@jgil1966]

O.H. Gotta Serve Somebody

[@TheBellaphoenix]

@@jgil1966 0p oof

[@rudybeck4816]

Each piece of anger, each piece of desire for revenge are like rocks you carry in a sack on your back. Over time, the sack fills up and becomes heavy and heavier - but we don’t realize it until one day we boil over. Carrying those rocks of anger and revenge in the sack weighs us down in ways we do not acknowledge until we look inside the sack. Then, consider throwing that sack of ‘rocks’ at the foot of the cross and truly saying “Here, I give you all of these, with your help I will be free of each one.” You will find a new sense of freedom. And, then you must do your part, to forgive or ask for forgiveness - then you will have done your part. Just don’t go back and get one of those rocks!

[@aadmirer5527]

There is a 12 step program which all of this sounds a lot like sans biblical reference

[@molesalpoder]

Thank you, sir. It is people like you who restore my faith in the Church and in people in general.

[@kerrieshin1062]

Thank you Bishop Barron. Forgiveness is very difficult when the other person is not sorry, refuses to even consider that what they did was hurtful and continues to hurt you. I sometimes have to pray to want to forgive and pray for God to just take that poisonous feeling out of my heart because I'm incapable of overcoming it on my own. I have also found it sometimes best to forgive but not to maintain a relationship with someone who continues to speak and act without love.

[@kerrieshin1062]

@@alwaysbekindlove but after I wrote this, I thought that God always seeks to maintain a relationship with us no matter how hurtful we are. I think in a case of someone's ongoing cruelty, it's best to speak with a priest in confession about the unique dangers and difficulties in each individual experience of a broken relationship.

[@joolz5747]

It is harder to forgive depending on the hurt. Someone may have abused us or something very horrible. Another priest said forgiveness does not mean to resume a relationship. The evil may still be there. Pray for the person and do not be a victim. The offender usually does not want help. Pray for them! Hurt feelings are far from someone badly abusing a person.

[@micranley9880]

I think we all would agree...including BB... if there's abuse or ongoing mistreatment, and you've been able to separate from the unrepentant perpetrator, you're not encouraged to resume the toxic relationship, but rather, seize God's grace to forgive them in your heart everytime you recall the pain and pray for them, asking God to forgive them and work out their repentance and conversion so they too will be saved. Often we need to ask first for the desire to forgive... It's something we will, not usually feel... A choice, not a feeling - like love.

[@conniedetevis2119]

@@micranley9880 Amen. Very well stated!

[@bernadette573]

Yes, I hope BB speaks on toxic empathy at some date, where people have become so helpless they hold no one accountable.

[@itinerantpatriot1196]

“When you hate, the only person who suffers is you because those you hate probably don't know, and those who do, don't care.” ― Medgar Evers

[@bamboolaceway]

Yet another homily by #BishopRobertBarron 's homily's bring's tears to my eyes! Thank you! I remember a homily a few years back where the Sister Mary said at a retreat she was told to think about each time she had been hurt and was still angry about it. For each time, she had to put a stone in a sack. Then, for the entire weekend, she had to carry the sack with the stones every place that she went. When she went to each lunch, the sack was next to her, when she went to the ladies room, it was on the floor next to her. Should she forget it someplace, she would have to rush back to retrieve it because she had to have it by the end of the weekend. Sister Mary said it was an incredible experience in what carrying a grudge really does to you.

[@madams.5976]

Pray for those who have grown angry and bitter and bitter of those who are doing well around them. We can’t fix them as much as we want to. They need prayer. They cause toxic relationships and they see the stick in other peoples eyes but not the 2x4 in their own. Pray, pray for them. Prayer is the only way to break the cycle. 🙏🏻

[@joycejballesta4860]

... let go of our anger , our wrath ... we must forgive endlessly ... THÄNK ÝÖÜ for these reminders ... in the NAME of the FATHER GOD ALMiGHTY , of the SON JESUS CHRiST , and HOLY SPiRiT ... AMEN !!!!! 🙏 👼😇

[@larrybgordon]

Making amends to another is not about how they react; it is my way of building a bridge. I cannot control their reaction. And when someone comes to me and says "I'm sorry for ...", it is important, when I am ready to do so, to close the 'forgiveness loop' by saying "I forgive you."

[@lindarichards8334]

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing I believe you do for yourself. Unfortunately even though I have forgiven, some people are just toxic and will take advantage of good will. In this case I have to keep my distance.

[@marypinakat8594]

I wish we all strive for and pray for the grace, even the Gift of *'unilateral forgiveness'.* *"Unilateral forgiveness* is unconditional. *Unilateral forgiveness* is always available to us, regardless of whether the other person apologises, shows remorse, is deemed deserving, or is even alive."

[@terryhemingway6983]

A beautiful sermon with insightful advise. As I listened, I thought of Blake's poem, "The Poison Tree." I was angry with my friend, I told my wrath; my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe. I told it not; my wrath did grow. And I watered it in fears, night in morning with my tears. And I stunned it with smiles, and with soft deceitful wiles. And it grew both day and night, till it bore an apple bright, and my foe beheld it shine, and he knew that it was mine. And into my garden stole when the night had veiled the pole. In the morning glad I see my foe outstretched beneath the tree. You are so right, Bishop Baron! How destructive is unchecked anger! How beautiful the gift of forgiveness, which we discover in God's love for us through Christ,

[@karenfaricy5315]

Bishop you are correct, we Catholics benefit by instruction on the Old Testament. Thank you.

[@marilouasong7391]

Thank you Bishop...as always...your words are true to the core...greetings from the Philippines...

[@jesse10]

Forgiving those four people who pressed the dislike button.

[@barbaramazzocca4605]

Can you imagine?

[@jesse10]

@@barbaramazzocca4605 ???

[@Holy_Misfit]

I find myself stumbling on a homily that was exactly what I’ve needed to hear for five years. Thank you, Bishop Barron.

[@richardjasonminehart3198]

This guy is really good. It's like Los Angeles needed a really good Bishop and the Lord provided :)

[@AndreaStoddard-te4lu]

Bishop Barron You lead so many people to God with the word on Fire Institute I took the Course Pivotal Players at a Bible study at my church a few years ago I was so taken by your writings and evangelism .Brilliant and wise at spreading the God's word

[@markfrank0924]

Bishop Barron draws from his intelligence, education, pastoral mission, and common sense to reveal a better path on which we all must follow. There are so many times spiritual leaders advise us not from their own experiences but from their reading of scripture. Bishop Barron reveals himself in sermons telling us we, all of us together battle Satan each day.

[@shellytgregory1]

Thank you, Bishop. This message resonates deeply with me. So beautifully stated. Very raw in truth. Much needed to be heard. I will refer back to it over and over with the openness to keep moving toward giving and receiving forgiveness. It is a beautifully transformational humility into a more glorious Spiritual strength.

[@lourdesbalo9066]

Bp im happy listening your sermon,i look at you, tired pls rest be cool & relax,God bless,gud nyt....

[@nvno1943]

Some of the best advice I have ever heard was leave the past in the past. We ruminate over past offenses, keeping them fresh. Every time you start to go down that road stop yourself and change the subject in your mind. It takes practice, but eventually you can get good at it.

[@petepelayo8540]

Taking this homily to inmates this morning. Thank you Bishop Barron. you did all my homework for me.

[@lornavaughan1684]

Thank you Bishop Barron, for your lovely and interesting sermon. You are a great preacher .GOD bless you ➕ ❤

[@provi628]

For me the antidote is having compassion for the other who most likely is living in so much pain without even knowing it that has no other means of expressing himself. I also remind myself quite often that life is not about my own little ego but I'm just a player in God's team to advance His game, not mine, for the glory of God

[@Richie016]

To let go and live a renewed life, gifted by God's spirit, is a wise choice.

[@charliezhu6858]

After viewing this sermon I am quite convicted deep inside to go forgive my mother whom I often have arguments with. I also feel like my bad relationship with my mother is making it hard for my father... but sometimes I just don’t know what to do. My mother and I have quite incompatible personalities and I just don’t even know how to begin, partially because it gets very awkward very quickly but also because I really don’t know what my mother is looking for when I attempt to forgive. I’ve also never read the Book of Sirach as a non-Catholic, but from what I’ve heard today it sounds to be filled with wisdom, so thank you for sharing, Bishop.

[@johnhenrymcmahon6878]

Hey Bishop Barron! Thank you for this very powerful message. It cut right to the quick for me. In my own life certainly, but also in our current world with the endless demonizing of "the one who is not like me!" This message would best be taken daily! I can see this clinging to the unhealthy abuse at the hands of my deceased father. It comes up in waves like a spring, and turns into resentment if I let it. Like a drop of ink in a huge tub of clear water, polluting it all. I thank God for the awareness and willingness to work on myself and change, as difficult as that often is. And accept what was, and what is. Anyways, thanks for your wisdom and eloquence. God bless you all here. :) JV Johnny

[@Reconsiderate]

Perfect homily for our wounded society right now 🥰 let's hear more and more and more on this topic, choosing to be the bigger person even when you have every legit reason not to

[@palinho555]

Dear Bishop, I have not heard you talking about abortion. This will help to open hearts and face one of the greatest evil in the worl and in all times.

[@WmTomDavisOSA]

In holding grudges and being unforgiving makes us victims of ourselves. Sometimes we need to forgive ourselves! Forgiveness is the greatest healer there is. Let it go, and let God!

[@ritabiro5105]

IT IS A MATTER OF CONFESSION AND THE FORGIVENESS OF JEZUS

[@brianmelville520]

Watched again. 22nd JAN 2023.

[@melitanoronha9944]

I did offer a mile to help, wrote emails and texts and phone calls to try and help in order to make the place of worship safe but to no avail our Parish priest would listen. I was annoyed, I have stopped going for the moment, praying and the reading of forgiveness on Sunday, Monday the feast of THE EXALTATION OF THE CROSS and now your sermon - yes I will forgive but do I have to write as I said we ie my husband and I tried our best, we have been there in that church for 44 years. Thanks Bishop Barron GOD BLESS Mel

[@margarethhuapcent1270]

I'M not anger with if not cause i can't be the excuse for anybody get be in sin cause wants whatever if is it false. And so then i hate my way of suffer once or much times but then i Accept my suffer and let all gone with blessings not with sin. If i know but if i don't know i hate me more cause i don't wanna hurt anybody. somethings are new for me and others are constantly the same. With my suffer deepest i'm trying to Jesús help them to change, the offer is be far of them.😇😇😇👼🔥☄️and with all of you i Talk with them without resentments with the promise of be far of them while Jesús works inside not me. I know i can't. I wait nothing less 😇😇😇👼🔥☄️ thank you for my Heart Bishop Barron!

[@treezmathew]

From spiritual mediocrity to spiritual heroism. That makes sense. Thank you Bishop Barron.

[@theclapaolini4322]

Thank God Bishop Barron who tells us what we need daily to gain Heaven.we hear it all clear as crystal and we can grow in virtues that please God.Many thanks Bishop you help to shape this chaotic mixed up divided world. Stay well keep safe !!!!!!

[@vinniep2612]

Forgive and Live. Until we forgive, we are controlled by those who hurt us and we cannot fulfill God's will for our lives. Once we forgive, we are the Christian example that allows others to stopping holding on to hurt and anger and leads them to freedom in Jesus Christ. God Bless you Bishop Barron.

[@1964Titty]

Thank you Bishop Barron

[@sophianguyen8771]

Come Holy Spirit, grant us Faith, Hope and Love. Ps 103:8, Mt 18:22 “I must dedicate myself to the service of God until death, on the understanding that I am like a slave." 😇 St. Peter Claver , pray for us sinners!

[@tadeuszurbaniak710]

Thank You Bishop Barron - again!!!!!!

[@teresawarlow2631]

God, give us the Grace to let go of those things that bind us to the world. Give us strength to open our arms and release all that keep us from You. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

[@kanal_katholon]

Thank you for your Sunday Sermon, Bishop Barron! Word on Fire is food for my soul! Through You I came to Christ and to the Catholic Church. I hope you can do your valuable work for a long time and continue to help people with it! God bless you and Greetings from Germany. 🔥🙏

[@maryannchaisson6742]

Thank you Bishop. As usual a great, thought-provoking homily. Always wondered what to do if one tries to repair relationships, but the other person does not want to. I give them to The Divine Mercy and pray extra prayers for them. I find that most times the other person is in a lot of pain and can’t get beyond that. So, pray and give them to God. Very difficult in families. God Bless! 🇨🇦 👏☮️ ❤️

[@marqueztramon]

Oh God,How much I need you, Have Mercy on me a sinner. Amen

[@michaeldavis-fg4gn]

58, decades long attendance in 12 step meetings, evolved, a miracle and you’ve proven I’ve never actually forgiven anyone for anything Ever.

[@juancarloslopezsalcedo5878]

Cada vez me sorprende más la forma en que el obispo Barrón explica la palabra, mil bendiciones!!

[@alicemcpherson7961]

Thank you Bishop. This is exactly what I needed ❤🙏

[@celestemary915]

Thank you Bishop Barron! You are making us saints!!! God bless you.

[@adamkallel8925]

Thank you your excellency. You always speak to the heart of my problems. I am In RCIA now because of your preaching. Your words on forgiveness are well met

[@mariab.774]

@Adam Kallel Thanks for sharing! I'm happy for you

[@kerenstar13]

God bless you 🙏

[@simmone5879]

What I beautiful homily! It touched me deep. ❤

[@maryaguirre1220]

My children refuse to let go of their anger/bitterness toward me from divorce, although I have asked for forgiveness for hurting them, time and time again they maintain their distance,, I pray for God to hear my prayers as time is quickly passing,,,,,, :( Thank you for your presentation Bishop,,,

[@JesusIsLove2512]

Praise the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 Mother Mary Pray For Us 🙏Abba Father Bless us and we Adore You 🙏

[@richardanthony8784]

Thank you Bishop, a talk I needed to hear. The bonus about not back biting has bought shame on me, I will be confessing my partaking in this poisonous activity. Thank you again a please pray for me. God bless you.

[@luisapollino2687]

God bless you always

[@johnpunchakunnel7716]

Excellent preaching Rev. Bishop Barron. May Almighty God bless us all. Every day I get to read and meditate your daily scripture messages.

[@wenshan9101]

This sermon opens up all our own wounds, only for us finally to consider resolving them. If no sin is too great for us to seek God's forgiveness, no reason should hinder us seeking reconciliation through forgiving.

[@jimmyribble6332]

I'm taking concrete step, right now, I'm hugging A. in gesture of love n friendship. PS Bishop reminds of a Mr A, 50 years ago in college [Why I maybe don't take to His Rev.. to easily..] Thanks ..I'll keep working on it. 😂😂

[@diogsouza4660]

Thank you dear Bishop, In going to call my sister today.

[@mazikode]

Amazing..forgive quickly that helps not to fester in anger and a grudge

[@gailgoth5618]

Wow did you get me this morning. So beautiful, so hard to do, and yet so necessary. Thank you Jesus for the reminder, and blessings on you Bishop Barron

[@nheshn3734]

I need this Bishop Barron.

[@dawnlapka2433]

Middle East. That's the International level, there. We are asked to be people of peace in a world that wants to find ways to argue all the time, Bishop. Thank you for your homily, today.

[@colleenfeehan-richardson8053]

I am reading a book called “Oneing: An Alternative Orthodoxy - Anger,” published by Fr Richard Rohr’s Center for Action and Contemplation in which various authors, including Richard Rohr in the Introduction, argue that there are times and situations when anger (but not out-of-control, abusive anger or violence) is not only an understandable response but actually even a necessary one. They argue that the rush to forgiveness in some cases, is even harmful, and that we need a way to channel and reconcile our anger with our faith.

[@staceyspargo5897]

Thank you Bishop Barron. I carried anger and misunderstanding for years for a young man who hurt me deeply years ago. I began learning of forgiveness 40 years ago, but have at times had to reflect on the event that hurt me. In the process I learned the event also hurt him. Through the years the hurt diminished in my mind and heart. I reflect now with a different outcome. It takes forgiveness to move on and forgiveness to diminish the hurt and eventually all is well within the soul. Thank you for this Sermon.

[@minmcfarland6605]

Always admired Mother Teresa and loved her legacy quotes: People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God; It was never between you and them anyway.

[@loricomley2500]

I felt like you were speaking directly to me, as this is something I struggle with on a daily basis. It’s easy to say and so difficult to do. Thank you, Bishop Barron.

[@cacnalesliemartinez]

I like your messages. Because you speak peace. Although it is difficult. Some times it’s tough or hard to forget.🙏

[@maureenparker6185]

I really try to forgive quickly. Even if that person has hurt me more than once. But I do have a temper and I pray that God helped with it. It doesn't last long however ..sometimes I say things in anger I do mean. BISHOP BARRON pray for me to stop my anger before my mouth says the things I will regret later. I promise my anger lasts only a bit...I forgive easily but the words I say doing and I am not forgiven for what I say in anger.

[@margaret3119]

🙏 Amen. I will go forth and follow what my Lord has done for me. Beautifully stated and to the heart.

[@emjayscat5947]

God bless Bishop Barron....Im in a deep struggle of resentment and unforgiveness.

[@annatomani1563]

Bishop Barron, I thank God for gift of you to his church and also thank you for your effective way of transmitting the truth of our faith. Up to your sermon on “forgiveness” I didn’t know what a Christian forgiveness really meant. I read about it but I didn’t get it. Listening to your sermon melted my heart, I wrote everything you said word by word and I am planning to share it with others. God bless you and your ministry. ✝️❤️🙏

[@robertolopezjr]

Thank you, Bishop Barron for your effort to educate, and evangelize the culture, and for making your wonderful sermons available in an online format. May God bless you.

[@dynamic9016]

Peace.

[@OrigenisAdamantios]

Thank you! Asking your Archpastoral blessing, and kissing your right hand.

[@saintamata1841]

Oh my goodness Bishop. This was wonderful. Thank you.

[@harrietthespy2119]

I think anger is an emotion which can be cause of harm or cause of good change. Most emotion is essential for good decision making but shouldn’t be the only thing guiding our choices. Invalidating our pain by jumping to “forgiveness” before we show self compassion in “siding with ourselves”, adds to our pain and prolongs the internal conflict (and there really is no true forgiveness until that internal conflict is reconciled).

[@randymacallister3337]

Thank You Bishop Bob - You are a blessing each week with your insight and understanding of connecting human nature to the divine.

[@luciafernandez1360]

Praise God !! Thank you Bishop Barron for your dedication to the Word. Holy Spirit continue to guide you. Excellent talk....

[@rrdg9799]

This life passes by so fast we have no control God never changes surrender to Jesus he heals all our wounds Thank you, Bishop Barron

[@lisan8561]

Bishop, yesterday's Mass readings spoke volumes to me. Your homily is full of wisdom and reminders of God's forgiveness and mercy. Thank you

[@lynettecabeen9927]

There are times when you find out too late that you are dealing with someone with serious mental health issues that are far beyond your pay grade to deal with, and it was not a healthy relationship from the start. It is, therefore, very unhealthy for them as well as you to continue to attempt to pursue any relationship at all. Forgiveness is not so much restoring relationships that were never healthy or "letting them off the hook" for the pain they have caused as it is "letting go of their throat" and letting go of your own desire to be justified or "right". Pray for them, that they receive blessing and everything they need from God, and do not harbor resentment in your heart. However, unless they receive help for their illness wherein a healthy relationship could then finally happen, it is best to let them go in God's hands.

[@ABB14-11]

Yeah, sometimes forgiveness is just letting go but not really reconciling/ getting back together.

[@dhldt1021]

It shouldn't be difficult Your Grace, to Forgive, but I'm sorry, in reality, It is difficult to go the extra mile as you described so perfectly well.

[@jacquelinelee720]

Sounds like a similar movement today , grudge and hate, harm. May God soften their hearts. Praying for unity also to end of abortion/prochoice .

[@teresata2105]

Thank you so much Bishop Barron. You are truly a great gift to our church. Thank you so much for responding to your call!

[@marqueztramon]

This may sound hard believe But alot of unforgiveness happens in the churches today, We as the Body of Christ need to Pray alot and forgive one another Amen

[@christinacorcoran6002]

Thank God for the Lord's Prayer.

[@PatriciaHernandez-un1xp]

Thank you so much. I think it is the first time in my life that I truly understand forgiveness. This has hit my heart so hard and for good. Thank you again. I am a loyal follower from Mexico City.

[@ABB14-11]

This is really applicable to a lot of situations including my own but there are also times when forgiveness is not reconciliation but simply letting go (i.e. toxic or abusive relationships, when you're too weak to keep taking the blows, etc.)

[@wildplumbeauty]

Remember when St.John Paul ll got shot in 1981? He forgave the shooter. I think that’s a great example of forgiveness.

[@jean-guydallaire6527]

A fine example and we all saw both sitting next to one another to exchange their sorrows and forgiveness.

[@victorinoterradillosortega2539]

Paz y Bien. Gracias. Muy cercano y con espontaneidad.

[@garygrant6987]

Heroism. 🙏 Thank you, Bishop.

[@gunnyo.7914]

Excellent points on forgiveness and resentment. You’ve greatly helped dear Bishop!

[@jgil1966]

God bless you Bishop Barron, may God bless those who persecute you and disarm them with His love and mercy.

[@helenawalsh6971]

Prayers for peace in our world 🌍 Amen