How to Heal an Abandonment Wound with Susan Anderson

[@GodsOath_com]

Abandonment Wound = Self Sabotage = Procrastination (outward manifestation) The failure to engage in Self Care is a form of Self Abandonment If you refuse to take care of yourself it is self abandonment. This is eye opening. I look around at my surroundings and I see it. I have to start doing things…and complete them.

[@krash6951]

This is very true.

[@danielaarreola9787]

holy shit.. eye opener for sure

[@IntuitiveHealingLife]

Wow just realizing that now after feeling so much pain that I’m not going to abandon myself, I learn to love myself because the guy was there for me in many ways but I couldn’t also receive because any little sign for me was a rejection

[@robertbaindourov134]

I know I'm in trouble when I stop brushing my teeth.

[@katharina1439]

The pain feels like dying😶 because as a little kid we felt/knew like if our caregivers don't do their job, we'll die!!! That's at least how i feel. It's not sadness, it's grief and pain. Like some little part of us died and we are still not able to cope

[@AtHomeWithLulu]

Yes. That is exactly how it feels.

[@krash6951]

Im sorry you had to endure this. You’re a good person

[@storm_delany894]

It's like your heart is literally being crushed

[@__GirlGetUp__]

Feeling this so much right now …it’s so painful

[@millier9658]

Yes. And it keeps on replaying itself in my adulthood. I have this inherent sense of being abandoned, I don’t belong anywhere and there’s horrible internal conflict whilst all this is happening at the deep core. I’ve accepted this fate yet I know this is wrong but I don’t know how to come out it.

[@coachingwithroxy4552]

Fear doesn't dissipate - it incubates!!! WOW

[@malcomdave9238]

Hello dear , how are you? I am Malcom i decided to say hi when i came across your profile, you have an adorable one if i must confess🌹hope my message doesn't offend you

[@kritisharma6222]

Just came across this beautiful conversation and got so many answers. Like you mentioned, a lot of people don't even know why they act differently and simply think they've gone crazy. KZbin can be a good place sometimes. Kudos to you guys. :)

[@kirstenanderson7313]

I have read, recommended, and given away this book many times, since about 2002. Next to the Bible, this book really helped me heal more than any other. READ IT, you probably will have a hard time putting it down.

[@coachingwithroxy4552]

I had an alcoholic mother. Also, my ex-husband had an affair and left me and my 3 young children during breast cancer. This is so helpful, and I plan to read your books! TY!

[@tammybarnardo6313]

Excellent point about the difference between self-nurturing and self-indulgence. Self nurturing whispers "I can trust myself." :)

[@n_tink9512]

Thankyou 🙏🏻

[@stephanieerd8452]

Life changing. So glad to have been connected to your both. Thank you.

[@jessicajones-wd3fz]

Thank you so much, I m discovering all these new concepts and going through a divorce and it s helping me so deeply. iI can only be grateful, all my love

[@rockyfjord3753]

Susan Anderson is a veritable genius, authentic, in this ambit of understanding abandonment in the context of our human make-up and just as important, in the circumstances of living. She has that insight that clarifies and so we can grasp complexity in self consciousness, or so I think.

[@maripilianguiano3945]

Amazing. I've always felt so grateful for having both of my parents together, specially when I hear other people's life stories on how their parents got divorced or one abandoned them, but I learned that there are more situations that can cause the abandonment wound. I didn't know what trigger my self-sabotage and my on and off relationship. I can finally understand a little more and I realized I have an abandonment wound that I need to heal. I will definitely be working on my inner child dialogue as well. Thank you si much for this interview. Sending so much love to you!!!

[@RisingWoman]

I'm so happy to hear you had a realization during this interview. It's true, we often disregard our experiences or compare them to others, but when we're small and can't differentiate, there are a lot of little fractures that can leave an imprint on us as adults. So excited for you to begin the inner-child dialogue process. Lots of love to you, Shay

[@tumentoraivonluna]

I just bought the book. Thank you

[@CreativePenguinGirl]

Brilliant! I just bought her book :)

[@sebastianparsons1462]

Which one did u get x x

[@gertwolters3433]

Very good interview ❤

[@frederiekewoudstra9241]

Such clear and wise words, thank you so much - I feel like you offered me a structure to reparent myself and it even seems very doable instead of overwhelming as it felt before! The inner and outer child makes total sense, this will help me grow the practice a lot ❤️ I am grateful to have found this interview and your work :)

[@rachelsspaceyogabreathsoun7954]

Wow thank so much for the wonderful interview!!!! Really resonated and confirms why I’m feeling this way! Great reminder on small change is where it’s at and the importance of re-parenting/tending to the inner child 💕😘

[@ambergionet1787]

I'm so glad I found this talk. I'm going to get theses books. I love Rising Woman, you're a great interviewer! Thank you.

[@monikafilar5878]

Amazing video!!

[@lunisedelinoir6937]

Thank you. I've struggled with this. So helpful for your self help lady

[@lunashines7390]

Thank you so much for doing this amazing interview . Both of you are beautiful. I’m happy to have found your channel . I am ready for this healing . This video is a wonderful gift and I hope more people come across this powerful content . Much love to the both of you .💓👑🙌

[@Amyprof]

Thank you for this interview. Thank you Susan I have your book. 🙏🏼😇

[@erykawatson6780]

I love this video. Thank you

[@JustMinhaz]

This helped a lot! ♥️

[@SonamSingh-sp6ey]

💙

[@bobdudonis3355]

Would it be worthwhile for a man to watch this?

[@sebastianparsons1462]

I’ve seen Susan has 4 books? Which is the best book to get? Thanks xx

[@baharpishgahi90]

Is outer child the same as ego???

[@RisingWoman]

I am not sure if this is how Susan would categorize it but you could say so yes, as the outer child acts in the same ways the ego does - self-sabotage, protection, creating separation, etc.

[@baharpishgahi90]

@@RisingWoman thanks alot🙏🙏

[@rjjenkins5601]

Also the same as protector of an exile in no bad parts

[@domenicosellaro306]

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[@nicolemoore3823]

The interviewer is so limited. It seems as if the only word she has in her vocabulary is “crazy.” so deep,

[@dorijoe]

Many toxic families, especially in the upper middle class identify strongly with the belief that they are a good family when that is in fact not the case. I discovered only in my mid thirties that my family is totally disfunctional and we are putting on this facade what a great family we are. There was no space whatsoever on reflection. I ended up estranging myself from them. The point is I am trying to making: don't buy into the 'we are a good family' narrative.

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

Ugh true

[@sabrina77769]

So hard to accept. Im learning to love them from a distance

[@camillemanly3800]

I have a friend who told me, “you shouldn’t dislike your parents. They’re still your parents.” .. I’m not gonna sit here & lie about my experience! I’m sick of it.

[@krash6951]

@@camillemanly3800 yea no. I have friends who dont even like their parent(s). Its one thing to have unconditional love like yea thats your mom but just because they’re your parent doesn’t mean you need to like them or their personality, thats just bullshit. I still do believe in having basic common respect if you’re in their household or what not and you’ve got past your anger but yea. I feel sympathy for those who went through bullshit from their parents, im one too. If you feel like your self esteem got damaged or you’re suffering through bullshit childhood trauma they put you through, Healing your emotional self by Beverely Engel is a good book to clear that up and live a more satisfying richer life

[@lonnawarden4334]

I have been rejected from my family who are toxic and a lot of them have a drinking problem. I’m the older grandmother that they use for gifts,etc. I have helped all of them money wise and emotionally. I just feel sad but actually that’s better than what I used to be. I have had years of extreme depression and anxiety. I’ve done a lot of work on myself ( therapy and 12 step meetings) it still hurts. It helps to read the comments.

[@katharina1439]

Holy shit! The first woman explaining my procrastination and why I never do stuff! And the thing with asymmetrical relationships is true! In all my friendships- like she said, I gave gifts and stuff on their birthday, but when it's my birthday they always have an excuse! Wow😳

[@lisamsch2982]

Sameee

[@xhen12]

Yup😢

[@malcomdave9238]

@@xhen12 Hello dear , how are you? I am Malcom i decided to say hi when i came across your profile, you have an adorable one if i must confess🌹hope my message doesn't offend you

[@Starstorm111]

Omggg same same! This year no one of the friends even called on my birthday.. I have plenty of projects in my mind, like a me inside that know that is here to do some interesting things but I can not find the motivation I feel desorientaded

[@Kelly-sl6vz]

@@Starstorm111 start with very small, micro projects. Like sweeping off your front porch, or something that’s very small that will make a difference without overwhelming you. Little things that you do to improve your home and life, little bit by little bit, will make a huge difference overtime.

[@annastayziaa]

24:56 self-love is taking good care of you overall so much so that you trust yourself more and feel more confident vs self-indulging and perfectionism. Delayed gratification vs. instant gratification. 27:50 face fears or else they grow. Trauma responses don’t mean you’re not ready. 37:30 asymmetrical friendships & giving vs. manipulating in order to receive love 38:03 “giving” to friends vs. giving to self

[@anitadoinel]

thank u so much

[@LondonDreamSoul]

thanks 😊

[@lesliesantiago6058]

I wish I would of found this video 2 years ago 😢

[@camillemanly3800]

Thank you!

[@ccgt6667]

"No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear." C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

[@sarahspocksocks]

I had so many breakthrough epiphanies while watching this. I needed it so much. Answers to long-held questions about "what's wrong with me." I'm happy to go with this knowledge and know how to begin to heal!

[@pamelapoe7441]

Yes!!!!! Same here

[@AutumnHaunts]

Thank you so much. I am finally starting to do the work I’ve been putting off for years... it’s very clear that I have an abandonment wound.

[@janebarrett9276]

Po8p0il00jpl

[@Java_87]

Me too. I really hope your inner work is helping.

[@notaburneraccount]

I like that you call it abandonment wound instead of "issue". For me, it's trauma and it's so hard trying to heal from it.

[@ashleyqunh]

I needed this so badly today and boom! There was your post on IG which led me to this interview. I’ve struggled with abandonment all my life beginning with childhood wounding which included moving all the time, my mother running away with me and ADHD, which, one of the 3 primary defining characteristics happens to be Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. I caused my fiancé to end our relationship just over a year ago and frustratingly, I just haven’t been able to really get in deep and make any meaningful progress with what is now acutely activated abandonment. Thank you so much for your post today. This is the first time I’ve felt there may be an effective way to heal those wounds. I’ve done so much therapy but nothing’s really cracked the surface. This gives me hope! I’m going to devour SA’s books and start writing my letters to little me tonight!

[@RisingWoman]

I'm so sorry for the pain and heartache you endured as a small child, and I hope you know how loved you are. So happy you are here doing this work now. I am so excited for you to have stumbled upon Susan Anderson's work - and so grateful you're following along with us. Stay tuned as we will be creating more programs centered around this on Rising Woman. Lots of love to you, Sheleana

[@ashleyqunh]

Rising Woman Thank you and I’m looking forward to it!!

[@pamelapoe7441]

Let me say how proud of you I am that you’re doing the work and instead of giving up when something didn’t work, you keep pressing forward and seeking. ( if you seek you will find Matthew7:7) your message Resonates with me as my Husband also has ADHD and suffers with a severe case of Rejection sensitivity. However, he refuses to address it and as a result , our marriage is in a grave state. . I’m praying very hard that the Lord will have content such as this cross his path like it has crossed mine. But also convict his heart to desire to begin seeking answers. All the best to you Sis! Don’t give up!! I agree this content was very helpful and offers a ton of hope💜

[@lonnawarden4334]

Yes!! Write a letter to little me! I love that. It’s getting in touch with our inner child.

[@thebinxesvlog7505]

Yes.go girl

[@pamelapoe7441]

I saw this clip on IG. Came here in full anxiety- feeling so much pressure- like I was in the edge of sanity- ( I’m going through a divorce) I literally felt the tension in my body dissipate as she explained what loving yourself really looks like. This was sooo good! And very much on time. I was hoping to take a trip to the bookstore as an outing to get these books. Thank you - thank you 🙏🏼 GREAT INFORMATION

[@Cicieee]

🙏🏻

[@tinastewart4905]

Shalina (?), you are a terrific interviewer. Great questions and follow-ups, no interruptions or awkward interjections. Brilliant. A very interesting topic with new insights. Thank you.

[@ketsial5669]

Wow. I didn’t know impactful this was until I found myself referencing so many of the gems from this interview. One of them being that relationships can be a way to strengthen your relationship with yourself. Perfection is a myth. Love that ✨🙏🏾 thank you for this conversation.

[@victoriac.attorneyatlaw]

I got the double whammy! One parent is an alcoholic, the other is a malignant narcissist. My entire life has been affected by constantly be abandoned & neglected.

[@aml8760]

Same

[@meverly7834]

I’m sorry. My alcoholic father was a malignant narcissist, but my mom was a sweet lady. She left to save herself and I understand that, but having her in my life made it so much better and I’m aware of that, so I feel for you so much. ❤

[@user-ft4jo6jj4n]

Most people grow up left with some or more empty spots in their hearts. The best thing is to learn self love, fill your own inner well and it will overflow and come back to you. It takes a lot of reflection, self honesty and awareness. The awareness will come when you allow it, take the time to go within, check in with your feelings. Many people need help to heal the wounds of life, we are all seeing with our own perceptions and we are the only ones who can allow ourselves to truly be healed. Acknowledge when you need help to get to those voids if you see repeating patterns and know that it is your right to review, feel and heal! Great talk! Thank you both.

[@CORI177]

Im only 20 minutes in and this is better than any therapy Ive had so far. I feel recognized on many levels. I came from a loving family and have the worst anxious attachment/abandonment wounds.

[@foreigncontaminant2015]

When I was little, alone and sad, I actually took a sharpie and wrote "ABANDONED" in clumsy letters on the chest of my favourite toy, a large rubber duck. And more than 30 years later it took watching this eye-opener to make me confident I have a clear path. Being a bit savvy on programming, I used to think everyone gets the mental equivalent of rootkits (non-self thoughts seemingly coming from the legitimate self), I used to imagine my fears as medieval criminals on their way to the executioner, being mocked by the crowd (my actual self). I just might go further by finding my lost, scared, scarred and sad inner child, and provide the love, understanding and confidence he has never known.

[@monicanapier9087]

Lots of love n hugs .. you are loved!

[@aminahmyrick9778]

First time listening I really needed to hear this Abandonment feeling’s paralyze me with fear. I hope too see more videos ❤

[@GadgetsGearCoffee]

I hope it gets easier and more automatic to self check in and not self abandon, it feels like so much self doubt and questioning everything you can't even trust yourself

[@malcomdave9238]

Hello dear , how are you? I am Malcom i decided to say hi when i came across your profile, you have an adorable one if i must confess🌹hope my message doesn't offend you

[@lorella8718]

Thank you, thank you! I never knew what was wrong with me... now i can see clearly! its a quite painful process and so many negative emotions and repressed memories come up...but Its worth it❤️🌙

[@jessicajones-wd3fz]

Dear rising woman where could we find all these resources and links? Thanks a lot once again.

[@RisingWoman]

They are in the comments above :)

[@danielr3522]

The point about self-honesty and integrity in regards to our underlying motivations is such an important one - Jesus wasn't wrong when he said that it's the truth that sets you free, even if it can also be very painful. You really have to want the truth more than you want to avoid discomfort or pain, and so many people just prefer comfortable delusion.

[@rjjenkins5601]

And the woman at the well who had given up on marriage bc of bad relationships told everyone “He told me everything about myself”

[@ricardotrinidad5030]

Thank you for teaching me about this pain. I could not understand why the love of my life starts to freak out all of a sudden and it's a fear and I was thinking it was insecurities not realizing it was abandonment and how raw that can feel. Please let us know how we can support a partner who is going through this.

[@lisamarie6214]

Be reassuring not critical

[@ramraja]

Brilliant! I wish you do a similar show for men as well. Even though most of this applies to all of us There are so many men who need to be seen, held and acknowledged for their abandoned self. Would do us men a whole lot of good.

[@thisfreakofnature7447]

Do you know of ManTalks? I think his name is Connor Beaton... ?

[@sunnystar111_]

Such a brilliant chat. Thank you so much for this healing. 🙏❤️

[@RisingWoman]

You are so welcome! Thanks for being here :) Shay

[@firdevs6196]

Thank you! This is gold.

[@makeupbybree6539]

This interview was absolutely amazing for me. I feel like every single little thing that ive been so confused about and trying desperately to heal but not knowing even where to start were answered easily and im feeling so confident about moving forward. Thank you for introducing me to this beautiful author 💖

[@seekingspiritualtruth2393]

Love this author- Definitely checking out her inner child & outer child healing books too- I love audibles, that's where i first found her. Hopefully I can find them on there. Thanks for this podcast. I too suffered through a lot of childhood trauma- Learning true self- love's assisted me, its still a work in progress, as am I- I'm still not great with love relationships- Maybe someday- More healing to do.

[@ms.seipatisekokotoana6694]

21:40 Self sabotage. it pains because it fully explain myself.

[@XxSongoftheHeartxX]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I really needed this video.

[@reg8297]

I recent was in a house where lady my age was loved unconditionally from that she made her loving friends onto her loving husband family everything was a dream way her life turned out I just sat there tore open inside that I got such evil instead of good how does a person heal from that all good removed from there life I've been told stay in present moment that doesn't work the pain is unbeatable

[@cindihunter9119]

Wow! I completely resignated with this podcast! Thank-You! ♥️😎♥️

[@charlieskinner6386]

Great video. Just ordered this book. And you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen on KZbin.

[@ChantelleSauchelli]

I have no words to explain how insightful and helpful this was. Currently dealing with a breakup after an 8 year relationship which without me knowing has brought up feelings of abandonment from my childhood. Any recommendations to which book to start with? Or a preferred order to read them in? Thank you so much 💕

[@bijoupam]

How are you doing now? Which books did you read and what was helpful on your recovery journey?

[@ChantelleSauchelli]

​@@bijoupam I'm doing great now. I have definitely gone through a lot of learning and understanding of my upbringing which has resulted in some tough times but I have found understanding why I am feeling these emotions has given me better insight and management of those down times. I listened to the audiobook of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson and cannot recommend this enough!

[@bijoupam]

@@ChantelleSauchelli Thank you for your reply! Wishing you all the best on your healing Journey!

[@Linusrox123]

I came upon Miller's work after searching about abandonment, but after listening to the audiobook I feel anxious to get to the outer child taming sooner. Hope I can be patient - remembering the painful parts is so difficult to stick with

[@MrsLori530]

I have the book - am starting it TODAY!! Using 'in relationship' as a teacher rather than running from it: what happens when your ex partner is emotional abusive and a covert narcissist?? I have no doubt I did the right thing in leaving!

[@RisingWoman]

Lori Abramson only you know when it’s right to stay and when it’s right to leave. It sounds like you made the healthiest choice for you. Sending love. 💕 Shay

[@Supsup7777]

I just dated a guy briefly for a month. When I got interested he pulled back. I had to walk away because he just didn’t show up and kept me at arms length. It hurt a whole lot. It became one- sided fast and I can’t do that.

[@VanessaSimon26]

I can’t take the panic and the grief. I am going through it. This is so challenging. I just cry and cry. Being emotionally neglected and sexually neglected has bent me. My heart is open for surgery . I can’t use anyone or anything to soothe me it hurts so deep. Please God help me.

[@SC-li6pf]

OMG 😱 finally !!!!!! I realize what’s wrong with me and why I get anxiety and panic attacks 😢thank you 🙏🏼

[@kit6863]

how do you repair abandonment at birth? This is where mine stems from, and Ive just realised now that its the abadonment that is crippling my life. I chased the love of my mother all my life and recieved nothing but cruel emotional abuse, physical abuse and rejection. My mother had a traumatic birthing experience with me and clearly had PND as a result. In 1974 they didnt know anything about PND and so she went untreated. As a result, she never picked me up unless she really had to, she was never affectionate or kind, she never gave me praise and the only attention she ever gave me was cruel, cold or even violent. She put alot of energy into making sure I knew she hated me my entire life. Now Im 46, I have zero contact with her and she has excluded myself and my daughter from the family. Im ok with this this... but I need to break free from the mess and chains of abandonment that has been left behind. Im just confused as to how I put this all into practice as most of what the book says is about relationships breaking up. I dont remember the break up, I dont have a relationship with her..... I dont know what to do.

[@Polina-hn7hu]

Listen to 3 part workshop of Gabor and Daniel Mate...there they say sometimes u just need to accept that u ll never get from ur parent what u are looking for from them. They way they treat u is not their choice but the consequence of their own trauma they havent dealt with. U dont need to participate any longer in her projecting her trauma onto u. If u become a mother to ur inner child, you will no longer need your mother to do that for u. Imagine if she went blind and deaf and you could never resolve it...how would u feel? U would accept it and maybe even feel sad for her. It is now ur job to heal that abandoment as u can make a choice. Ur mother is clearly not capable of making a choice so let her be. Ur priority now should be not passing this trauma/wound onto your own daughter. If u dont heal it, your daughter will get projected on by you. Dont let this happen. Make a choice. Good luck.

[@DJ_Flame_Jade]

My mother was an alcoholic, it was her coping mechanism, my dad was extremely abusive and much more she had to leave me when I was 9 it killed me and other issues growing upxxxx thank u for this x it kills me when I’m rejected I think it’s coz there is something wrong with me 😢

[@MrsLori530]

I also read Black Swan - it was fantastic. Designed a tattoo around it!!

[@redsoxhater424]

I am and I'm having a hard time understanding what the black swan is telling "Amanda". Who is the black swan and I don't understand what he's telling her to do.

[@momu1971]

Thank you for sharing this conversation. I am struggling to overcome sudden abandonment and divorce after 26 years of marriage. Coping is becoming harder as time progresses. I am realizing that I must address it now.

[@Mitziroczen]

I had to turn this off midway through. While I think there are many good points here, I do feel like some of the advice further promotes shame. When a person is in shut down (depression) and experiencing toxic shame which can be traced back to an attachment would, it is not always possible to be more “disciplined”. Sometimes, for someone who is in NS shut down, a bubble bath actually is enough self love. The idea that we need to be more and do more as a form of discipline transfers to the idea of still not being enough. Loving ourselves means accepting ourselves as is, not waiting to accept ourselves once we’ve accomplished XYZ. I do agree that having discipline will help build self trust and motivation, but the notion that a person in the depths of toxic shame must be more anything in order to accept themselves is faulty. Bigger picture: beating deadlines, having the perfect weight, getting the PHD, will not matter in the end. What will matter is how much you loved and accepted yourself as is because how much we love and accept ourselves is exactly to how much we can love and accept others.

[@2atalkandpolitics422]

My dad is retired United States, Navy submarine force 20 years I was adopted at eight days old from a 13-year-old mom. My dad was gone for the first six years of my life which are the most critical bonding time in a person lives with the parent last year he was in the Navy, who was gone over 300 days this day. I still have an estranged relationship with him its cost me multiple relationships and I am now in counseling for this

[@Kelly-sl6vz]

This was an absolutely eye-opening interview and I am so very grateful to you ladies!! Thank you so much!!

[@cathychase663]

Makes so much sense, My childhood- they from outside appearances, were "good" parents, but not really- no engagement, not caring for my health, (had stuff) was scolded for not being married young and so I married a bad dude....my biggest was my adult son whom I thought was close to me wrote a note and left for another country. I don't trust anyone but my dog now. I just avoid which I know is not good.

[@musicartjournal2270]

Thank you, thank you, God bless you both 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I finally found what's wrong with me.... my heart recognized this, just felt a worm sensation and told me this is.... this is what I am trying to say to you with all the madness I gave you in order to understand what I need. Now I see. You literally saved my life 🙏🙏🙏🙏 I am crying....it's amazing how we people save each other how we care for each other and that we support each other in every dark corner ot the journey. It's so beutiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@apoc3037]

I have an insane amount of deep abandonment wounds and now late 20s i am trying to find true healthy relationships but the rejection kills me and i manage to experience a lot of it. not really when i meet someone in person but when its about to organize to meet again it feels like i cant live with that distance and just Belief of it happening naturally idk. but its almost killing me literally, i hope so much i will find love and just some happiness and security its so fking bad Interview was pretty good and i am gonna read her books she really seems to know what shes talkin about thank you

[@lonnawarden4334]

I so disagree with what she’s saying about relationships. I’m a relationship addict ( I lose myself in a relationship) She’s not addressing that issue. She’s saying to go back out there even if you don’t feel ready! That’s so wrong. I have spent a few years in SLAA( sex and love addict anonymous) they say wait a year before jumping back in and work on yourself . All the other info is really good.

[@theredqueen6911]

It’s been 3 months. I still think I’m going crazy and can’t do this. How long do I have to do this?!

[@josezamudio2483]

I wish Sheleana could ask more questions instead of making more questions instead of making statements. Susan is very informative.

[@loragwood]

We grow through each other! I love this 😍

[@malcomdave9238]

Hello dear , how are you? I am Malcom i decided to say hi when i came across your profile, you have an adorable one if i must confess🌹hope my message doesn't offend you

[@alejandraascencio1522]

Thank you for making this accesible. Watching this in 2022. Part of my new year resolutions to work on my inner child and abandonment. :)

[@tumentoraivonluna]

This tools are great, I am so thankful Jesus is with me, so its not all up to me, The love of God heals and he never abandon us.

[@Aquarian_Heart]

"...as you put yourself into a more important position within your own life.. you do start to choose differently"

[@satuahonen7943]

Has Susan's books been translated to other languages?

[@malcomdave9238]

Hello Satu, how are you? I am Malcom i decided to say hi when i came across your profile, you have an adorable one if i must confess🌹

[@kathleenangel8196]

I really valued this conversation and received a lot from it. I have purchased the workbook and am looking forward to using it

[@abdulrahmanalhashmi9582]

This is absolutely life-changing you actually saved me!

[@statesunlocked]

This is lovely to read

[@cathychase663]

I love the self-abandonment concept- I thought about that before when I have some goals...and I tend to not go throughw/them.

[@CosmicHealingGoddess]

This was so helpful and enlightening ♥️🙏🏻 Thankyou

[@annasomma2212]

Thank you for this video and books:) helps me a lot with what is going on in my life right now :))

[@lovepeaceundharmonymeinelieben]

I am sobbing since the first few minutes lmao thank you so much this was so helpful

[@TokioTE]

I'm so glad I found this interview, it was so insightful and illuminating, thank you for sharing 🙏 Described my way of being in words I didn't have, I'm excited to have found the possible (root) issue and start solving it!

[@victorianicholson6850]

Just thank you so much for the light work your doing. I have recieved this and it has landed deeply! I'm so grateful 🤲🙏🙏

[@AnnaBreit]

This makes so much sense and feels so validating. I’ve had so much abandonment in my life and due to the BPD label placed on me at 15 I’ve felt like the entire therapy world has blamed me for being traumatized and forgotten about.

[@sunshine030480]

I love this interview! Thank you so very much for your beautiful work, both of you are such precious and unique gems!!!

[@enrichingenvironments]

This truly was incredible and spoke to me so deeply. ❤️🙏🏽. Thank you.

[@AllisonJaffeID]

Thank you so much for this video. I just discovered you on IG. Most importantly for validating my not understanding why I have never understood why I struggle with my relationship with rejection and abandonment even though I grew up with two parents that loved me. It feels so good to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way and that my rejection and abandonment could be because of a multitude of subtle past incidences.

[@annastayziaa]

Tysm🙏🏻

[@teresavalenza9609]

This was excellent - you guys hit the nail on the head with what I believe is my deepest issue. Definitely going deeper! Xx

[@babandeeprathore]

This is such a good talk. Thank you