How to Heal From a Narcissist with Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Ep. 305

We are overjoyed to welcome back Dr. Ramani Durvasula to talk about healing from narcissists in your life - whether it be a parent, friend, or romantic partner. She briefs us on what narcissists actually are and what motivates them, then we dive into the handling and healing process, everything from recognizing to acceptance to how to communicate with them and finally, moving past the trauma and self-actualization. We also play a game with her - Narcissist or Not - crowd-sourced from our listeners. Before Dr. Ramani joins us, we’re talking about the something men love to mansplain (that dries us right up), and the “dressing down theory” of having better luck on the dating scene when you’re in casual, comfy clothes. Enjoy!
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[@DoctorRamani]

Thanks for having me back! Great conversation! Hope viewers find it helpful!!

[@MDPrime33]

Counting the days until my book comes in the mail

[@mimareens7245]

I found it so helpful! Thank you!

[@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv]

Very Very Very Helpful!!!! Thank You 😊!!!!!!! 💜!!!!!!!

[@phalinimcleod8819]

So good, so relatable, so uplifting.

[@olgab3937]

You’re just great Dr. Ramani, thank you so much for your work!

[@agatakjoy]

"A child should not be hearing their parent's story of abuse. Not as a child." Thank you, Dr Ramani

[@StaticRooster]

:( My poor partner had his mother wake him up most nights so he could cuddle and reassure her as she cried and rambled about all of her past traumas and issues for hours making him incredibly tired for school the next day. This started when he was 8 and continued till he was 12. Disgusting 😢

[@hannahhughes4801]

Sad

[@kimberleylangford5536]

Thanks! I've been following Dr. Ramani for awhile and what she says has helped me with my healing journey of surviving the Narcs in my life!

[@sherriepawlikowski4935]

Narcissist go through this world. What a gift to think nothing is your fault ever. You hit it head on.

[@maevebutler4641]

DrRamini's daily videos on You Tube has saved my life & my sanity re narcissistic abuse & learning how to heal from Narcissistic relationships

[@hannahhughes4801]

Me too ❤

[@healingpain3]

Deeply grateful for this interview and the wisdom from Dr. Ramini. Her work supports Alice Miller's questions and findings in The Body Never Lies. I am definitely getting It's not you.

[@sheah4854]

I love how she mentions how alot of therapists and mental health professionals just don't see it. I was in therapy and the narcissistic abuse was so evident. Looking back I always wondered why she never said or did anything. But knowing they don't receive that training now let's me know she wasn't failing. She just didn't have the information and training she needed to truly help me.

[@elizaappleweed1579]

Such useful, practical advice from Dr. Ramani!

[@BrittanyNgo01]

I love Dr. Ramani. Shes been so helpful in processing my narcissistic father's abuse. My father actually died a little over a month ago and that was honestly the most healing I ever got from our relationship. I remember trying several times to have ernest, frank conversations with him about how his behavior was hurting me immensely and I just remember him sitting in his chair, arms folded and just checked completely out. He was fully unable to do any self reflection or to have any empathy.

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

My daughter tried having a heart to heart take her dad and he literally blew her off .. only convo you can have w narcs is a shallow one sadly

[@lydiajacob2949]

Rayna, gold accents on you is ITTTTT!!!! You looooook beyond unreal & I love your hair up like that 🔥🔥

[@ChanningWearsSunscreen]

Dr. Ramani is the best

[@LeahDeVito]

this is so major!!! I love Dr. Ramani

[@hannahhughes4801]

My girl is getting me the book for mothers day but I've missed the goody's, aww nevermind I love listening to you Dr ramani. Thank you ❤

[@OasisJones]

35:55 Ramani intro 42:23 definition 45:36 NPD 48:06 talking back 51:24 why it was written 53:06 parent 56:24 healing 58:56 radical acceptance 1:01:38 grief 1:05:25 hate when people say 1:09:58 expressing needs 1:10:43 1:10:37 ice cream 1:12:49 mourning connection 1:14:17 you can’t win 1:15:38 true north 1:17:01 they’re tortured 1:18:41 authenticity 1:21:50 forgiveness 1:22:28 survivor thrive 1:24:03 they missed out 1:24:49 emotional betrayal 1:25:29 remembering 1:29:32 switch sides 1:31:05 wrong date

[@OasisJones]

1:03:54 1:11:39

[@emcon4446]

Hello GGE gal's! Would be so great if you could possibly put the book recommendations into the video caption 🥰

[@lauracollins4268]

Dallas was the best show of my life. Glad this is a core memory for others too

[@anitajohnson381]

I did it, yes! I told My Mom she was and is...but I love her

[@phalinimcleod8819]

Or...'Stop crying or I'll give you something to really cry about!' That was a common threat in my family of origin.

[@sherriepawlikowski4935]

Me too! I also hear myself repeating it to my kids now Grandkids.

[@07tthom]

Hey some of us girlies are obsessed with Marvel 😊

[@leilagomulka5690]

Dr. Ramani rock and roll s

[@Kyshalise]

I love this

[@tropicalsundae]

YAAAAS! love the pink ladies

[@morganleverence4283]

I legit put my husbands briefs on for the first time ever… the way Ashley said “what are these spanks”. Those were my LITERAL thoughts. We forget our ass and thighs have curves hahahaha

[@seedsoftruth57]

I still don't understand how they can not see what they do ...

[@sherriepawlikowski4935]

Ooohhh they see and know what they are doing! They do know the difference of "Right & Wrong" But choose to Do It Anyway... Most know some don't. And let's not forget they are delusional.

[@vodkavuitton]

They think they are special 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@1Airwaving]

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv]

💜

[@finchm1104]

Why yall gotta hate on Marvel so hard and act like it’s something that only men watch/could like 😅 plenty of females enjoy it too.

[@SWHBOYCE]

....3....😃😂....

[@KorinGoetz]

That’s funny I was seeing this guy that worked in radio and he went on the radio asking for people to call in if there is significant others farted in bed I guess he would lay awake at night and listen to me fart don’t know but I didn’t eat it on the radio

[@morganleverence4283]

Are Marvel Movies - men’s REAL Roman Empire?

[@vodkavuitton]

I am beyond sick of their hating ass begging for attention & trying to control my life because they’re obsessed & desperately need someone to leech off ✌🏿 one thing’s for damn sure IT AINT ME