How to Help Someone with Dysphoria

[@nikc-pg1xf]

this helps me a lot: pressing a pillow against your chest (squishmallows work wonders) it gets rid of chest dysphoria and along with a distraction… you’ll forget about your chest

[@rescuecpr571]

Recently entered a relationship with a woman who went on T and thought she wanted to be a man, but then changed her mind, and suffers immensely from dysphoria and the mental illness that comes hand-in-hand with that. I love and support her, and just want her to be happy and comfortable in her own skin. This provided some very good insights and answered some pressing questions I had concerning how I could best help her. It comforts me knowing I've been doing all of this stuff anyway, and that I am doing everything I can correctly, especially letting her have time to herself. Thank you for the reassurance and insight into this, Connor. I sincerely appreciate it. I love her so much. I can't stop smiling every time she crosses my mind. Be it unlocking my phone, talking with her, or just holding and touching her. I'm so glad she's in my life, and I want her to know she's not a monster or unlovable, no matter how many times she says it. I'm glad you were able to confirm that I've been doing everything right regardless. Thank you.

[@stealthynoodle2707]

~Writing down every tip, sticking the sticky notes everywhere~

[@ashleypayne4559]

I'm genderfluid and I stumbled upon this feeling very dysphoric and alone. It made me feel, I don't know, more legitimate? Either way, thank you for giving me ideas for both myself and my partner. Means a lot to me that we're both happy, and these tips will help a lot. Lots of love -Ash

[@randomhuman4525]

:0 My names Ash too! :D

[@useddentalfloss2484]

THANK YOU! I'm a cis-gender, pansexual male. But I accept people for who/how they present themselves to me. If you introduce yourself as male? I use male terms. Same with female and female terms. If you're neither? I use they/them. It's just... Easy to me? However, that being said, accepting people as people does attract all sorts of people and all varieties of cultures. Friends I've gained recently are in the trans community. And they're awesome people, but... One of my closer friends went through dysphoria recently, and I didn't even know what it was. They explained it but, because I'm not in their shoes, I had no idea how to help. Enforcing their pronouns was an obvious one, and just listening to them. Offering head pats and validating responses when I could. I care deeply about people. As much as I joke I don't, the reality is I actually do. Especially my friends. And I hate not being able to help someone. This video helped shed some light onto things, and educated me how to better just... Be there for my friends when they need me to be. So, thank you!

[@Quackin24-7]

Yes, I agree! I’m on similar terms! I’m a cisgender girl who’s lesbian, and I have a friend who has recently came out to me as non-binary and I’m the only one who knows and they have a bit of dysphoria and I’m trying to figure out how to help ;-;

[@Kale.Brocksieker]

I suffered from gender dysphoria since I was a kid. I’ll be 23 in two months. Yes, I’m a trans guy.

[@emilynapper6978]

I have a new trans friend. And while I've always been supportive of trans people.. he was feeling really down today. Thank you for this video.. very much appreciated

[@kyliecombs1662]

Thank you so much, this gave me an idea on how to help my boyfriend. He isn't exactly too open about it yet, but I at least know what to do know. I wasn't exactly sure how to help him or what to do when his dysphoria kicked in

[@TheFriendCorp]

dylan here, i can only say that i really dont know a thing about you, but as your coworker i think that you're a pretty swell guy and it'd be cool if we got to know each other, you seem very talented and i respect you for who you are. also as someone who identifies as a pansexual gender fluid person, know that i can refer to you by any specific or general terms when necessary

[@ConnorOKeefe]

Thanks man, I really appreciate it. And I'm definitely open to any questions you might have, specific or general.

[@disgrace.e]

THANK YOU SO MUCH, my best friend has dysphoria and I want to help them so much, but idk how to act or respond, I try to support them in any way so thank you for this video

[@kimberlyclouse9267]

So helpful. They will help me help my son.

[@sarahbuchmann121]

Thank you this is very helpful I'm gonna do this with my best friend :)

[@minniemousesvideos]

Thank you! My friend is going through a lot of gender dysphoria right now. They don't know if it's a phase, but I told them that no matter what I'll help. Because they're biologically male, sometimes they want encouragement whenever they attempt to make their voice higher. Or want to try girls clothes without their family knowing yet. And sometimes they just want to talk it through with someone. We have been long distance friends for years now (we've met in person a couple times though), and this gender dysphoria has only come up in the last year. But I want to do my best to show them that I'm their friend, and I'll help them through this. Whether it's a phase or not, I'll be here through thick and thin. Thanks for making this video, it tells me I'm on the right track to supporting them.

[@minniemousesvideos]

P.s. I'm using they/them pronouns because that's what they asked for when I'm referring to them online. And she/her when we're gaming together.

[@peyton1254]

My partner and I are both NB, but they have much worse dysphoria than me so I’m just here to see how I can help them despite our distance due to covid 🥺

[@secretterces3793]

Hi, I’m genderfluid but not dysphoric, but I have had a dysphoric trans friend for about a year now and wanna help out when needed to and this helped a lot, so thank you❤️

[@avocadojuice1307]

I can't thank you enough. My boyfriend gets really really bad when he's dysphoric and i felt horrible that i didn't know how to help. These points are a great start thank you so so much 💛

[@xaviergonzalez8263]

Thank you for the advice, really helps my relationship

[@samjackson1895]

It helps me when my friends tell me I'm passing well and when they validate my masculinity. Simply being acknowledged as a man helps me feel a little better.

[@characaponigro9570]

Thank you for this. Maybe now I can try and help my child.

[@oona1331]

One of my closest friends is trans and it breaks my heart to see him suffering or feeling dysphoric. I'm really glad for this video because it helps me understand how I can help. Like in school I can see when he is feeling dysphoric, but I don't always know if there is a way for me to help. I know sometimes he just needs space and time, but I find it nice to know I have an arsenal of potential measures to ease it up as best I can.

[@camarocougar2726]

My friend and I are on the opposite sides of tranisiton, and I only recently started understanding my own disphoria so this really helps me find ways to help him. Thank you so much for this heartfelt video, it means a lot, and I really appreciate it.

[@anna_kcx]

Thank you so much

[@hxneybe33]

I found myself here because a few weeks ago, I met a person online that I quite honestly couldn't get off my mind, still cannot. Recently, he came out to me as trans, and I 100% support that, although it's hard to understand what he is going through because it's been a long time since I hated how much I looked feminine (I'm genderfluid and cut my hair). I stumbled upon this video while thinking about this and how he told me that he felt dysphoric and that his dad doesn't support the lgbt+ community, not sure about his mother, and so he cannot buy a binder or cut his hair. I want to help him so so bad but it's difficult since he's over 3000 miles away from me. I feel so bad and every time I think about the position he's in, I start sobbing. I'm trying super hard to be there for him and support him no matter what. I wish I could do more. Deepest apologies for the rant

[@zshethey6906]

something that helps me is drowning myself in music, guess that would fall under distract me? idk

[@janelann5523]

Thank you. I hope my spouse wants to help me someday and that this video is found.

[@rmeows5087]

I’m non-binary (as an umbrella term) and have come out to some people, two of which are the other people in a group chat that we named Therapy (because we all need it). Late at night yesterday one of my friends (who’s also non-binary) made us aware in the group chat that they were going through some really bad dysphoria and them and my other friend had a long conversation about dysphoria and mental health and crushes. I feel bad that I wasn’t there for them but I was asleep when they texted.

[@komjanuszvincentpowell8195]

One thing that's hard for me is that many people don't really believe I'm trans. They think I'm looking desperately for answers in the wrong places. I feel desperate to be understood, which prompted my coming out and beginning to transition to be myself and stop lying to me and the world. Do you know resources that can help explain why to trust what we are feeling? If it's better I send this as an email, I can do this. Thanks!

[@captskyz2763]

I feel dysphoria but I don’t fell physical pain

[@Native_Beats_]

I need this video. I have a friend online who's going through this.

[@afsanaparvez6112]

Thank u for sharing this video to help aid people

[@brihubbard7638]

this really helped me. so my partner is trans, girl to a boy. i love them so much. they are having really bad dysphoria lately and im trying to help them as much as possible but i dont know how to help and its making me feel like a shit partner. they have only just came out to me after a year of dating and i so proud of them. what else can i do to help? thanks

[@isaacalexander7339]

Using he/him instead of they/them. Also saying FtM (meaning female to Male) instead of girl to boy might make him feel a little better.

[@ThumbToeShow]

I find that talking about my dysphoria doesn't actually make it better. What do you think?

[@anintjcommented3798]

Look this god damn dysphoria is killing me

[@AlysianneO]

Sent to my partner, thank you so much

[@allright9785]

The thing is i don’t want my close ones too feel to bad for me so i never tell them I’m dysphoric😅

[@ooongaboonga9274]

It sucks bc nothing helps my disphoria

[@h3arty]

how can you tell if someone is going through the dysphoria if they won't communicate it

[@LailaMay4]

I'm literally non binary but my friend just came out as trans and I didn't know what to do🤧😅