How to Honor Your Parents in Christian Dating: Do You Need Your Parent's Permission for Marriage?

[@valeriedhodson3014]

If my mom did not like him, it would concern me very much. The same goes for my kids, friends and pastor. Often the people who love us see warning signs we may miss because of our love cloud.

[@sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699]

Been there its great to have family looking out for you God bless💓

[@hunterowens2970]

This was so helpful I am a 14 year old Christian boy. And have been rehearsing my lines to ask a girls father to date her for a long time. And then it came to me am I really supposed to ask her dad of legal guardian. And this helped me a lot I have not asked her out yet or her dads permission but I am building up the confidence and guts to ask him with the up most respect. Wish me luck and thank you so much God and AGW.

[@nikkivh]

This was so very helpful. And a point of contentious most people try to avoid. It has and can cause huge issues in any family especially trying to differentiate between obey / honor and child/adult. Thank you.

[@michaele.odonnell9814]

Both of my parents are gone but, I listened and gave a thumbs up. I'm glad I found no varience between our opinions on this.

[@bluezase4796]

Mark 10:9, KJV: "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Obedience to parents is not absolute in the Christian life, but loyalty to Jesus is.

[@debonaesimpson3742]

My parents aren't disobeying God in their motives but they're strict and restricting, and I get tired of it. And I'm at a age now we're I'm old enough to have a boyfriend, but ik they wouldn't approve yet. We have a really good relationship and they believe in God and my mom goes to church and we pray, and I understand and I appreciate their motives, but I think some restrictions can be loosened now.

[@scottbrockman4327]

I have just watched this video on KZbin. In my opinion, I think that when it comes to dating or marrying someone, even though I'm an Adult and I still live with my parents, my parents and my family are still a little overprotective of me, especially when it comes to me dating or looking for the right woman for me :-).

[@vasenone3879]

Excellent video and very good explanation! Thank you

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad it was helpful Vase None :)

[@MonstaMike33]

As a man, an adult, I respect my parents and my fiance's parents but, I don't need to "ask" permission from her father to marry her. She is a grown woman and and we love each other. I feel a wedding is about the union of me and my fiance under Christ not, under God as long as the permission of her father is there. Imo

[@41A2E]

While I totally get where you are coming from, I think it is wise to communicate this decision with their parents. Personally, if I was a father I would feel a little disrespected if some man, no matter how good he is, whisked off my daughter without saying anything. You are right, you two are grown adults capable of making your own life decisions, but as I mentioned, it could cause strain in the relationship with your in-laws. Of course that's not guaranteed and if it did, resolution *can* be made relatively easily, but it is a very real possibility.

[@eternallight8024]

In Bible which guy snatched a daughter from a father and married her ?

[@Clauds71]

So helpful Mark, thanks 😊🙏

[@sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699]

Thank you so much God bless you and your God sent Family!😍💓

[@TeresaMimi]

I was just thinking about this today.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad this was on time TeresaMimi :)

[@roseclark1685]

Hey Mark, I'm 17 years old and live with my mom. My best friend and I are dating despite her disapproving of it. I talked to her about it before but she told me to break up with him, which she thinks I did. We want to get married after we finish High School in a year, so it's pretty serious. I hate that I'm lying to her, but I really feel like this isn't her decision, especially because her conviction is ratber cultural than from a religious standpoint. My boyfriend and I push eachother closer to God in most aspects of our relationship and friendship, except for, well, this part. How do I handle this situation? The Bible also says that a man will leave his mother and father and join his wife, and the two will be one flesh. Shouldn't I stand for my relationship regardless?

[@sexiiliexi]

Im in a similar situation but post college. I hope you've both been prayerful and that God's will is done in your lives 🙏🏽

[@debbiebarnett1920]

My parents care about me, but i don't think they would care about whether someone asked for their permission to marry me. Not that i think That'll ever happen. I don't live at home. I'm 43yrs old they'd probably accept anyone lol. They're not Christian anyway. I'm the only one

[@nikkivh]

And not only does this relate to dating it can relate to various other topics as well, from the clothes you wear to career path, etc.

[@hanettasavary8788]

This was helpful ! God bless

[@777LoveStory]

My parents are Jezebels who only care about the money aspect of anything. They'll tell me to pick someone at least somewhat affluent over a man of God. They think it'll reflect better on them that I marry well, if I don't at least do well on my own. They're also emotionally withdrawn and rejecting. They told me many times growing up they wouldn't help me with my wedding, financially speaking, but my brother got married a few years ago and they paid for the rehearsal dinner as is customary. My mom had the audacity to say that she may not even come to my wedding. "We'll see." Maybe I shouldn't invite her, so that I don't have to play on the emotional roller coaster ride of will-she-or-won't-she. I'm not going to ask for their input about anything that concerns my life. They are sick twisted people AND they think they believe in God. They believe in the god... of money. They're happy for my brother that he married a pharmacist, consider him successful for this, and think it makes them look good that at least he's well off because of her potential income. They appeared worried a few years ago when I wasn't involved with the greatest of guys... because of the money situation. I found this out recently. There was plenty else to be worried about in that situation, which took me forever to figure out. It was only ever about the money. And my mom waited forever to tell me her true opinion (generally, hers seem to change all the time), because she thought it would be unloving to say anything upfront. I'm sick about being related to these people. Why couldn't God have given me to even decent people?

[@PCLHH]

Get a job and move out. Don't even bother about getting married. It's just a money-making business. But don't just move in with some guy. Look after yourself. Be strong.

[@thamis.arruda]

Sooo good! Praise the Lord

[@m3lanch0lic]

Sorry...this is quite long, but I'm really trying to look for answers. I am 31 years old and just broke up with my boyfriend of four years. We are an interracial couple and he is 4 years younger than me. Both of us knew each other from church (both workers of the church) and our relationship evolved from being the best of friends to partners. However, when his parents found out, they were against our relationship because we're of different races/nationality and because I am older that their son. I find this very hard to accept because my partner's father is the Pastor of our church. I thought he would be more accepting with no judgements. He said that our relationship is against God's Word (about race and age). We decided to separate ways (my partner initiated) because of his fear of the repercussions of what it would cause to his family and to me, if we continued and they were to disown him. He said that he does not want that baggage of bitterness (for not being accepted by his parents) to be there post marriage as it would be destructive. I would like to know what is written in God’s Word with regards to interracial marriages and with the woman being older than the man?

[@lizescobar1]

I think that is racism If you mean different religion I understand In the Bible says we can’t get married with another person with different beliefs But interracial ? That is racism God love us equally If we follow God’s will we will blessed Read the scripture and ask God for answers He is the only answer Listen and take the good things and discard the bad thing I hope it helped !

[@mjhernandez1248]

What if the parents don't like you because they are unbelievers

[@bravo_steve]

Good question. Surprised no one answers.

[@spiritsavage]

I understand most of your, albeit disagreeing about what Biblically defines a child. However, what it's not the parents disapproving of dating a certain person for a certain reason, but instead encouraging someone not to date, or to "date around" and to try to make up reasons to add to that?

[@Rose-go9fg]

This is my current life my parents loved my boyfriend untill we both got born again and we have spoke up about there religion being not biblical and now my parents want me to not get maried and end the relationship my parents are not born again i love them much but they do not belive in the Bible 100% . I receved a dream from the Lord and conformations from God many times and i know the Lord wants me to get married but just hard cause i want them to be apart of it but they are not wanting to

[@vania698]

Thank you!

[@emelayf]

Super relate

[@livingunashamed4869]

I don't agree with one person not having to obey their parents because they live with them and if you don't live with them you don't have to when it comes to relationships. I think you should really take what they say into consideration especially if they are christian parents but ultimately its your choice. I would want my parents blessing though but I don't come from a christian home.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Although I have a different take on it, I respect your view Kevin B :)

[@livingunashamed4869]

Much love, God bless.

[@karenolivo8524]

Kevin B Yes i agree with you, I was actually going to write a similar comment myself lol. It is your choice in the end but of course, like he said it doesn’t have to be a big fight it is just respectfully telling them so

[@livingunashamed4869]

:)

[@theholistichome]

So you should move out, and then it’s okay to not have my fathers blessing? (Yes, he is a believer.). Why does Gen talking about going from the father’s covering to the husband. Where do you see this in between time for a woman to not have her father’s blessing? Can you give me Biblical example where this didn’t happen but God’s blessing was there after the marriage? Where as I seem to find that the opposite is true in the scriptures. Why wouldn’t we want their blessing and to not have the blessing of long life? Not having our parents blessing now doesn’t mean we won’t have it later? It’s usually comes down to all involved trusting God. If we can trust God to change our spouse when we don’t like him in certain aspects why wouldn’t we also trust God to change our parents minds?

[@Nameless0525]

Hi Mark..I believe my mother is a devoted Christian.when I told her about a certain guy who is showing interest on me, she immediately said that he is not for me(i believe it is because of his spiritual status, he was my churchmate back then but now he is working and dont find time to go to church). But i had fallen for this guy..i dont know what to do.. Do you think it is biblical to leave this guy I am with? Is hurting him by leaving him biblical just to follow my mother?

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Perhaps this video will help kzbin.info/www/bejne/b2GyhqekiaZ4g9E

[@hunter4338]

What if my parents have a gut feeling something is wrong with my GF.even after meet and talk for several times,my parents still can't find the cause of their gut feeling.but they still forbid me meeting her.

[@hunter4338]

I just can't accept that they have no logical explanation for their disagreement with my relationship

[@alpacataken6901]

Same.. I'm going tru the same thing. My bf parents hates me.

[@beatricevillar1439]

Amen. Thank u

[@caribbeankpoplover]

To be honest, especially if you have Christian parents, majority of the time they can pick up on the intentions of the person you want to date/marry and will give good advice on what to do next. Though one of my parents are more on the lukewarm side, because of that advice, I've avoided being in potentially harmful relationships.

[@latreases.jonesjr.459]

Thank you Mark for this video. I have been wondering this for a long time. I'm 29 and I still live at home and last year my mom forced me to abort my child because she felt like I was not ready for a child and now she will not let me move out despite me wanting to do so. I explained to her that abortion is wrong and because I wanted to obey her, because I still live under her roof, I went through with the abortion. I asked for forgiveness and since then I've been wanting to move out and date a great Christian man named Jonathan but my mom won't let me be with him because I met him online. She is constantly telling me I should find a 'decent' guy the old fashioned way even if he is not a Christian. I don't want to be unequally yoked just because I want to please my mother.

[@collettealexander6280]

PinkiePie 44 I don't know if she's the best person to be taking advice from if she made you abort your child..... what's the reason she gave for not wanting you to leave? And for not dating someone you met online? I'm kinda in the same situation

[@latreases.jonesjr.459]

Collette Alexander she keeps telling me that I'm making bad decisions that's putting people's lives in danger and that's why she thinks I'm not ready to leave home. She says I'm not capable of taking care of myself because of the choices I make.

[@collettealexander6280]

And you're right about not being unequally yoked, I'm learning that I need to follow God's Word even if it doesn't match what my Christian dad says (Matthew 10:37, Luke 14:26), it's been tough though balancing living for God and honouring my dad

[@livingunashamed4869]

Don't sin, obey your parents but not if it causes you to sin. Don't follow people would lead you to sin. About the guy if she can't give you reasons why besides the online thing idk seems like she pulling you away from God tbh. Pray about it and ultimately trust the Lord over everything.

[@latreases.jonesjr.459]

Collette Alexander it really is tough balancing living for God and listening to my mom. Sometimes I'm not even sure if she is truly a Christian but I don't want to argue with her. But if you want to talk more about anything feel free to message me.

[@PCLHH]

What if you come out gay and your parents cannot accept it and throw tantrums and go into depression and try everything to get you straight, but you are gay and there's nothing to change about it?

[@adenikealadegbaye2680]

You cant come out gay. It's against God's Word and it's a deception from the devil regardless of wwhether anyone approves of it or not. See Romans 1:26-27.

[@gracekuhn2552]

TheVaultdweller you cannot change who you love and have feelings for. if your parents cannot accept that, are they really Christian? Its like being left handed. Some people are, most people aren’t, and that’s just how it is.

[@ddawawiaw]

@@gracekuhn2552 amen!

[@merlinsvdd]

Hey, this is on the spot because I took my dad's advice by not talking to the guy I like at my friends wedding in April. It felt good not talking to him coz I was hurting too by now our friendship is ok. We can talk to each other on Facebook and whattapp normally- asking him something and he'll answer directly to me.

[@phibakorislanongbri5040]

I am 32 and I belonged to a nonChristian family but I am the only one from my family who have accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I am dating a Christian man and his parents are not happy becoz my family are non Christian . After 3 years of our relationship they wanted to break our relationship and started to blame me for doing black magic to their son. This breaks my heart however my bf still loves me and trust me and our relationship is still strong. I'm still waiting for the his parents acceptance for our marriage.

[@sarahlove9830]

Thy light of god will shine around your relationship, my daughter also experience same problem..her man was a good man but his parents plan to stop him not to marry my daughter...until I located a powerful pastor who set us on deliverance and healing and everything wok out ...he can help you too

[@sarahlove9830]

Message pastor on WhatsApp number [phone]

[@carolperdro6739]

@@sarahlove9830 thank so much,same problem here,I will message him now

[@phibakorislanongbri5040]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@sarahlove9830]

@@phibakorislanongbri5040 bless you

[@michelles7060]

Is he single? That’s the question 😅

[@anonymousdontbotheraboutit2895]

"You have to obey your parents and if they don't want you to date somebody, then you shouldn't date them because that would disobedient." Yeah, I dare you to go up to someone who is still a teenager and he/she has been heartbroken by someone they're madly in love with and tell them they should be ashamed of themselves, that God hates their love and they will go to Hell if they disobey their parents for the person they consider to be the love of their life. I truly dare you. I do not believe that God would do such a thing. I know the Bible might be interpreted that way but I cannot believe it. I just can't because I've been in that situation before and I took comfort in the belief that God stands beside me while I am broken and wanting to kill myself. Instead, the message I'm getting from this video is that he wanted to punish me for the "sin" of being in love and heartbroken. I'm really sorry if you feel that I'm attacking you personally. I understand that you have the best of intentions, but the message sickens me because taken to its logical conclusion, it means that a teenager being in love and heartbroken deserves Hell. More evidence that fundamentalist Christianity more often contributes to people's problems than solve them.

[@ladys2564]

Hey, don't think that's what he meant. He never said anyone should be ashamed of themselves. If you were taking comfort in the belief that God stood beside you while you were broken and suicidal, you weren't wrong, but neither is he. God will stand beside you and comfort you when your heart is broken. but it is true we are supposed to honor our parents and obey them. I think obedience is more a thing when you are a minor, maybe while you still live with them in the sense that you still respect their rules. but you are always supposed to respect them. but if you fall short of that, if you dated soeone when they didn't want you to, God will still be there for you. you don't go to hell for disobeying your parents, but it's always advisable to trust what God wants for us..we only go to hell though if we don't recgonize we are broken sinners who need Jesus to save us and accept Him.

[@sexiiliexi]

This is so so helpful! God bless you