How To Improve Your Communication Skills

[@GSPV33]

A key piece of advice for anyone watching: I healed, completely, after *years* of social anxiety. At first, videos like this actually made me feel worse. But now i understand; there's a specific frame you have to interpret these videos in for them to help you. The change came after I was so overwhelmed with anxiety, that i gave up on trying to be 'enough'. I deciding I wanted to be radically honest. I wanted to be vulnerable, to show my embarrassing feelings instead of trying to fix them first. When I met people and felt nervous, **I would tell them.** "Honestly, I'm kind of a shy person. I feel nervous about not having something interesting to say." Often times, to my surprise, they took it extremely well and actually were MORE open and interested in getting to know me than ever before. And I felt like I could be myself -- including the vulnerable parts. I'd often even hear, "Whaat? You don't seem shy to me!" Because it turns out that being honest about your fear IS courageous. Then it clicked. Why was I watching videos like this? Because I thought I needed to learn how to be something different. To not be nervous, to not be awkward, before I could socialize healthily. The truth is exactly the opposite: Socializing well comes from deciding that it's OKAY that you feel nervous, that you're awkward, and being honest about it. It turns out, your awkwardness is mostly your self-judgment for FEELING awkward. You think you're supposed to feel differently, that others "just feel comfortable socially." It's not true. Everyone gets nervous and weird sometimes, everyone has awkward silences. When you become okay with it, and own it rather than trying to change it -- that is, ironically, when you get healing. What you resist, persists. Let yourself socialize AS socially anxious you. Let yourself feel shy, and then give yourself grace to not beat yourself up for not "performing." Confidence is not the assurance that you'll be liked -- it's knowing that you'll be okay, and treat yourself well, even when you embarrass yourself or feel shy. So yes, practice socializing. But not as a technical skill. The thing you're actually practicing, the fundamental layer that all healthy socializing comes from, is this: You're practicing BEING VULNERABLE. You're practicing COURAGE. The outcome of any social interaction doesn't matter, only that you let yourself be brave, and honest. If you're like me, it will rapidly transform your life. Wishing y'all well. Be kind to yourselves.

[@youarestellar1131]

Yaya

[@Maria-em4oz]

Tysm u wonderful human

[@hab1939]

Thank you very much for your well-written insights.

[@jedistreamz4542]

I literally paused the video to read your comment. Thank you for sharing

[@k.l.manring2083]

Well said! I've learned that is often a question of perception or frame of mind along with projecting. Am a work in progress and I focus on progress rather than challenges ahead and progress is far better than perfection.

[@amruteshmishra4921]

So, in short , to get better at talking to people, we need to talk to people

[@samikshakharat4955]

yeah.

[@mattnos4312]

yes

[@Fershuyt]

Si

[@dumbage]

exactly the more experience the more you master speech-craft

[@SupaHot7]

No one gets better at football, studying, singing, socialising or anything without actually doing it. We gotta do the same for physical touches as well🥲

[@yua-chan8445]

“You were not born socially handicapped!!” ASD: allow me to introduce myself..

[@rebeccaboulding2291]

It’s literally why I’m here 🤣

[@yua-chan8445]

@@rebeccaboulding2291 ME AS WELL 😭

[@gimygaming8655]

Same

[@RG60Ibanez]

True

[@cheddarcheezit2647]

Frrr 😂

[@nielfollero5]

The best way to get better at something is by doing it. Accept that there will embarrassment, mistakes and cringy things that you will inevitably do, but these are just part of it.

[@EmiilyBroadway-e5d]

4sure

[@KevinTyler123]

Failure can lead to success.

[@nuthinbutlove]

Part of life. It's inevitable we'll stumble along the way but it's important to keep taking steps.

[@Mr.Rgdias]

As a self-aware introvert I could say this is easier said than done.

[@V1Salvo]

Don’t make excuses. It’s not like you have a disease or disorder or something. Just do it. It may be difficult but it’s very possible. There are people in worse positions than you.

[@Mr.Rgdias]

How could you possibly know what I can or can not do? So you can surely say I don't have a disease or disorder? It seems you're making random assumptions about a total stranger.

[@ndGio]

​@@Mr.Rgdias Unless you have autism or any other social disorder that prevents from doing do, the effective thing to do is to just push yourself through the pain and anxiety because if you don't do it now, then when are you going to do it?

[@АнастасияЦыганкова-ю4ь]

Yep I just get tired and overwhelmed

[@vividchilling2492]

@@V1Salvo This attidue is the way tbh, it is hard though, the best thing to do it just put your self in the fire.

[@supergirl2099]

One thing I learned from interacting with people is that everyone just wants someone to listen to their problems and actually care and ask questions about them. So I started doing that and it helped me a lot with friendships (I have social anxiety so it’s really hard for me). Unfortunately though some people don’t bother ask what the other person’s problems are and only care about themselves

[@Benthing.]

Supergirl

[@leowzhilin]

It's difficult for me to be genuinely interested in others tho. My attention span is short so I may be interested for a few mins, then I jus taper off. And often, I just literally don't care as much. U jus ran into an old friend at the store? Oh cool. U jammed your knee into the table on accident? Oh cool. But I want to improve. I have social anxiety too. Do I jus read books to increase my attention span? Or interact with ppl more? How do I get myself to care?

[@joonie_tae.army7]

This means they just talk for attention and not for finding a solution cause if they wanted to solve their problem... They would have not even shared about it with anyone-

[@Seamannon]

​@@leowzhilin Why do you think you should get yourself to care? Why don't you care in the first place? I know you said you have a short attention span and this was your answer, but is there really nothing you care about for a longer period of time? There must be something that you do care about and want to know more about or practise more. I guess it's probably the case that your environment isn't very supportive of your interests. I sometimes wonder how the world could look like if everybody was more appreciative and supportive about other people even if our interests don't match, because diversity is necessary to social improvement. Which means that you should be supported in your individual interests, so that you can serve the broader society with your unique skills and you should support individual interests of other people so that they can be of service with their unique skills. If this dynamic is properly balanced, everyone contributes in the best possible way to others so everybody wins in the long run.

[@wowkekejmejjdneejenenhdht]

​@@SeamannonWell said and that's a really great and necessary idea for the world!

[@Lov3leyy]

During Covid, I stopped going out and stayed home. I spend more time on my devices rather talking to people outside. My communication has gotten worse ever since covid.

[@spofsterr]

Honestly though, covid really just ruined everything :/ and the thing is is that the whole quarantine and wearing a mask thing would help reduce covid mightve not been true, and the people who said it was true were pretty much guessing

[@W1nterdust]

SAME plus it completed ruined my relationships with my friends

[@djgulston]

It's definitely a use it or lose it kind of thing. I experienced this exact same thing. In fact, I graduated during Covid in 2020, and I struggled to find work after graduating which made me fall into a depression. So my confidence was totally rock bottom. I couldn't remember how to talk to people anymore, and I was quite chatty and sociable in my early 20s. But I recently started studying again and I met some new people. The more I see them and interact with them, the better I feel at socialising. But it took me a while to find the right crowd. I had to sort through a lot of people that I don't get along with before I found the ones that I can actually talk to.

[@Mariana-vc6sv]

THIS! After Covid I completely forgot how to talk to people other than my own family. It's been a struggle ever since then, but I've become a lot better. My advice would be to just force yourself into social situations (ik it's hard). Basically just exposure therapy. Force yourself to be in places with a lot of people and engage in small talk with strangers (even if you don't feel like it, you never will lol). Such as cashiers, people in line at the store, in church, and school. I also love how in the video he talked about observing people! That's what I did at first, I would listen to people's conversations and watch their body language (trust me you learn a lot). I also came up with a list of responses to general questions that people usually ask (such as how are you). As well as my own questions for other people (what have you been up to recently?). Also don't be afraid to take charge of the conversation, I've found that it's a lot easier than just being shy and letting the other person interrogate you (taking charge also helps you feel more confident). And I've been working on changing my mentality about people, just reminding myself that they are no better or worse than me. They're just a person with their own ways of thinking and opinions, and it's okay if they disagree with or dislike you.

[@Mariana-vc6sv]

It's incredibly difficult to force yourself out of your comfortable little bubble, but unfortunately it's the only way to become better. I've learned that the more I stay in my comfort zone, the worse I feel about myself. Usually it stems from feeling stuck and not getting better. The more you stay home and avoid people, the deeper the pit that you're stuck in will get. And consequently, the harder it is to get out of that pit. Which is why it's better to force yourself to do difficult things rather than not. It is through struggle that we get stronger and more durable.

[@LoveandStargirl]

Anxiety: allow me to introduce myself

[@Benthing.]

Love n star girl

[@samir6035]

Anxiety comes from the fear of failure, the trick is to be pessimistic and expect yourself to fail and laugh it off when you do

[@starz1234-q2m]

@@samir6035what abt the intense body heat and sweating, fidgeting, everything being overwhelming, shaking, stuttering, voice changing and intense fear? what do u do abt that

[@samir6035]

@@starz1234-q2m someone made a comment about being open about how you feel when interacting, you should give it a read

[@noface3928]

100% solid advice. Observing is probably the most important thing you can do to get better at conversations. I used to be considered really shy to the point some people thought I was “mute” as a kid. When I got into college though I started to get better at actually listening to what people were talking about and asking questions about themselves, their thoughts, etc. Now people actually ask about me and want my input.

[@Zoolitsky]

Us Neurodivergents: 👁️👄👁️

[@ziruiwang4806]

Autistic people exhists😂

[@ziruiwang4806]

😢

[@takefrom2]

So you are implying that neuroplasticity doesn't exists just because you're autistic? What a shitty way to lure attention.

[@orcenstilldrawz]

"it just takes practice!" Neurodivergent people: 🫠

[@bradShank]

I've spent more than enough time around people and social interaction to know that I do not get along with many people and I often just don't care enough about anyone to bother trying conversation, I'm happy in my own company

[@bailey2517]

That last sentence is not true and you know it. Sooner you acknowledge it and decide to fix it the better.

[@angl0_]

​@Bailey251 I'm curious why is it not true tho? Ppl can prefer to be alone and enjoy their own company right

[@chillpill2098]

@@bailey2517it can be true some people genuinely like being alone and that’s fine why r u so cynical

[@bailey2517]

@@angl0_ it's very uncommon. Most likely they are just saying that as a coping mechanism but deep down they (maybe subconsciously even) know they don't want to be lonely.

[@bailey2517]

@@chillpill2098 the world is cynical. Get used to it. 🤷

[@Balloushop13]

There is no shortcut to greatness. Practice makes perfect.

[@shuem_]

Can confirm the baby fact. I was a bit awkward at communicating but sometime after that I started observing how my dad interact with people and without noticing I copied the same exact way he did. He always tease people a bit in conversations and nonetheless I do that too haha.

[@wingedjaguar_]

cute

[@ems.master]

I knew this "secret" for a long time. The problem is that I can't find people willing to deal with my socially awkward side until I learn, but I can't learn until I find people. I'm stuck in a loop.

[@pippip8237]

My method that got me better was socialize or do something when you count 3..2…1 in your head get into a EXTROVERT mentality and just DO it regardless cause if you DON’T you missed out on socializing and will never gain practice. You’re in this loop you can get out of FAST or slowly depending on your mentality of your situation. YOUR’E GONNA HAVEE AKWARD FIRST CONVOS people may not accept you (their loss) but you at least gained experience and you’ll get out of that loop with time. 😊 Also people not accepting you is what you’re gonna deal with social OR not they’re just like judgmental props you gotta get through to get to •actual interesting nice people•. Be the bigger person, socialize, get your experience, then leave , YOU would get something out of it THEY DONT all they did was have hatred in their life 😬

[@vividchilling2492]

@@pippip8237 true true

[@ryanpmcguire]

The biggest lie implicit in today’s society is that social skills are set in stone. I can quickly tell when someone has underdeveloped social skills, even if they have surface charisma.

[@rchaelk2319]

So what are they?

[@MinhNguyen-ds7el]

What are clues that indicate to poor social skill. Perhaps i could give myself a quick fix 😅

[@Brianna.98]

I’m legit so shy and so awkward I don’t know how to make conversation with people and I fear making a fool of myself so I just avoid human interaction best I can… 😅

[@nurulnuha8582]

This is me as well. Growing up, i was shy and avoiding interactions bcs i was afraid of making things awkward and weird. Then it caused my social skills to be underdeveloped. So now im trying to put myself out there as much as i can and risking myself to be embarrassed and make mistakes. Now, it hasn't significantly improved yet but it's better. It might be embarrassing yet that's how improvement is made

[@SuhVamp]

The Truth is one that noone evet talks about: You are fine at talking to people. People just suck

[@SuhVamp]

Ur weélcome

[@baki577]

Why be so cynical?

[@truongquangduy6090]

But u cant change people. The only thing u can change is yourself

[@JESUS_Is_KING573]

Most of it is pointless and not productive

[@vividchilling2492]

@@baki577 I think he lowkey right in a very basic sense

[@Crystalaxe-z9l]

I'm gonna die alone 💀💀💀

[@JB-qu8pv]

Yea, this seems easier than it actually is when you have social anxiety. I’m finally able to go back to uni after a brain injury, but I feel so disconnected to others because I’m older, have to deal with accessibility accommodations, and just don’t know what to talk about. Would like some advice as to where I should go to find people locally, especially those that already don’t have their own social groups.

[@mattbarachko5298]

Well, to be fair, the whole point of the video is to tell you that it’s not going to get easier until you just do it. Will there be people who might make fun of your inability to communicate the way THEY want? Maybe, but I’d argue most people are kind enough to not do that though, at least not in your face. But those people aren’t worth your time. You can find like-minded people all you want but until you learn how to talk to people you have nothing in common with, social anxiety will always be a struggle

[@heyitsdefault]

​@@mattbarachko5298 it indeed does get easier the more you try. It's always gonna be difficult to do it, just easier.

[@devvv4616]

same. was out of it for 3 years during the pandemic. came back and just feel older and out of touch. planning to join those student organizations if they ever open up tho.

[@GSPV33]

Hey J B. I know how you feel. Mind if I share my experience here? I related very much to you, and was able to heal completely in time. "A key piece of advice for anyone watching: I healed, completely, after *years* of social anxiety. At first, videos like this actually made me feel worse. But now i understand; there's a specific frame you have to interpret these videos in for them to help you. The change came after I was so overwhelmed with anxiety, that i gave up on trying to be 'enough'. I deciding I wanted to be radically honest. I wanted to be vulnerable, to stop trying to conceal or "fix" the embarrassing parts. When I met people and was nervous, I would tell them. "Honestly, I'm kind of a shy person. I feel nervous about not having something to say." Often times, to my surprise, they took it extremely well and actually were MORE open and interested in getting to know me than ever before. And I felt like I could be myself -- including the vulnerable parts. I'd often even hear, "Whaat? You don't seem shy to me!" Because it turns out that being honest about your fear IS courageous. Then it clicked. Why was I watching videos like this? Because I thought I needed to learn how to be something different. To not be nervous, to not be awkward, before I could socialize healthily. The truth is exactly the opposite: Socializing well comes from deciding that it's OKAY that you feel nervous, that you're awkward, and being honest about it. It turns out, your awkwardness is mostly your self-judgment for FEELING awkward. You think you're supposed to feel differently, that others "just feel comfortable socially." It's not true. Everyone gets nervous and weird sometimes, everyone has awkward silences. When you become okay with it, and own it rather than trying to change it -- that is, ironically, when you get healing. What you resist, persists. Let yourself socialize AS socially anxious you. Let yourself feel shy, and then give yourself grace to not beat yourself up for not "performing." Confidence is not the assurance that you'll be liked -- it's knowing that you'll be okay, and treat yourself well, even when you embarrass yourself or feel shy. So yes, practice socializing. But not as a technical skill. The thing you're actually practicing, the fundamental layer that all healthy socializing comes from, is this: You're practicing BEING VULNERABLE. You're practicing COURAGE. The outcome of any social interaction doesn't matter, only that you let yourself be brave, and honest. If you're like me, it will rapidly transform your life. Wishing y'all well. Be kind to yourselves." For you personally, J B, what this means is: Talking to people *about what you just told us in your comment.* What unconscious assumptions are stopping you from doing that? Do you feel like others would be bothered, inconvenienced, don't want to hear your problems or won't relate because of you being older, or something? These are all caricatures. People GET IT. We all connect through vulnerability. If what's stressing you out is the difficulty of connecting socially after getting an injury and returning to college late, then mention it to people you meet. You can be honest without being dramatic or seeking a savior: just be okay with talking, casually, about the REAL things you're facing. I know it can feel like people will be overwhelmed or off-put, but that's usually not the case. That comes when you try to MAKE THEM solve your problems - but when you're comfortable casual talking about your problems, you're OWNING them. The same way if a friendly person tells you, "Yeah, I'm a bit shy. So i feel nervous meeting people sometimes." -- you don't feel repulsed, you feel drawn to their brave honesty. They're not self-victimizing and trying to make you save them. They're just okay being real about what's rough. And that's so valuable. In short, the most valuable, rare thing you can offer socially is being radically vulnerable. Being okay with what you're feeling, and with being honest about it. Most of the time, weirdly enough, people interpret this as courageous non-neediness. Because you're accepting of your own emotions and struggles, and being real. So they feel they can be open and real around you, too. Nervous, frustrated you is enough. More than enough. Give yourself some grace, and let yourself be a little more open, a little more courageous. It'll work out over time. I guarantee it.

[@JB-qu8pv]

@@GSPV33 I like your comment man. The problem is that the people around me don’t think that way. Every time I go to uni people always give me a weird glare because they think I’m messed up or something. It’s not really an assumption when it’s obvious people look at you differently. Already discourages me from conversing with them. I’ll still continue to do my best for myself

[@Deepa_Panwar08]

Observation is the key for beginning of the interaction and communication

[@mahnoorabid1599]

This was a much needed wake up call. I can't express how much I'm thankful to you for making such real and amazing content. Easily one of the best videos that I've come across everrr!

[@mrcool2107]

The problem is not being able to talk but the main problem is when you talk to someone they are not even interested to listen to you or they ignore you . Also when you talk to them they will respond with small words and then awkward silence 😑

[@minhyuksssmile]

i agree lol

[@noulafrantz8589]

Than found someone who's interesting talking to you

[@alessadolan5718]

there are many people on the planet who are intrested in talking to you, try to find these people. make sure to not talk to much about yourself or else you will get these response like "hmm okay" or "ahhh"

[@Jeremy3901]

I experienced that its very hard i dont understand how people do it but i got better at socializing the last 6 months 😅

[@doppelgaming2986]

Practice ✅️ Experience ✅️

[@leserbeacerbe6910]

You have to disconnect from your anxiety if you want to improve, just practice is leading nowhere.

[@pippip8237]

I agree. My social anxiety runs me and gives me disadvantages. I don’t practice cause I sound awkward and people think I’m weird which gives me more anxiety so I just get into the mind set of a social person, disconnect from my anxiety and wing it. Fake it till you make it 😅

[@Mario-wp8ut]

What about autistic people where observing social standards/cues is a problem for them

[@sulkel]

man who cares

[@butterflyqueen9260]

Great question

[@car9182]

​@@sulkel I care

[@teIekid]

We are just fucked.

[@sulkel]

@@car9182 no. No you don't. Don't kid yourself.

[@ndeutsch]

Kurz und bündig. Sehr gut erläutert

[@chaosdweller]

As someone who is NOW...completely socially handicapped, ...i appreciate this message wish me luck....🤞.

[@kaushikkundu]

This is best channel for self improvement.

[@vantaze6955]

You need to go out and practice more with what you learn and observe their reaction to later learn from them and that will help you become better at talkimg to people. So remember, go practice more by talking to more people and observe their reaction . Because thats how u learn

[@Korixon.]

I remember when I really did not talk to people at all beside some friends. Over time I started to talk more and it’s true, you slowly got better at socializing. You could even just listening to more people. I still don’t always like talking to people

[@Khoirulanam-wz8dz]

So, the secret to getting better at talking to people is talking to people. That's awesome.

[@alexandermashriq3363]

Talk only when words are more important than silence. Lord Ali

[@bobross4447]

So true, I was extremely social as a kid but then I got medicated for my adhd which caused me extreme social anxiety and disinterest in socialising for a year so I basically spent a whole year not talking to anyone other than my parents and teachers. After I finally convinced my mom to let me off the medication I was basically socially disabled for the next ten or so years, but the more I put myself out there the better I got at it. Had to spend lots of time with people to make up for all the lost social development in that year. And parents, DO NOT Medicate your kids to make them talk less! It’s extremely harmful!

[@tannisarkar8334]

people busy on phones should realise that this is a shoutout to them. 😂😂😂

[@ItsDaiyBaby]

This makes a lot of sense....I live a very isolated life...but I'm also autistic soooo socializing is just plain harder for me

[@UnknownDafaJR]

thank you this video makes me feel better

[@nyanby]

I'm trying to heal my social anxiety and i will try this out

[@appleboyapostrophe]

Short answer: be around people

[@y2kplanet]

that makes much more sense, you see I’m a youngest child and my mom sheltered me all the time, never got to play outside or talk to friends much. I didn’t have any convos to observe lol

[@50subschallengewith3videos4]

Introverts left the chat

[@hiddenmutant]

I find this true even as an autistic person who is not inherently socially savvy or easily aware of social cues others find obvious. I actually studied human body language and psychology fairly deeply, both in and out of social situations, and it helped create a basis for me to be a more skilled communicator. Autistic people tend to absorb rules and patterns well, so it's very useful to think of socializing in the same way, instead of something chaotic and completely unknowable.

[@cheddarcheezit2647]

"You were not born socially handicapped." Me, autistic: That's nice lmao

[@mckennalynn1916]

Best way to start so you don't go from 0-100 is just start talking to your co-workers at work or customers and build off from that.

[@TheBraveHawk]

time to ace this meeting now

[@justinedeannbillington6268]

That's really encouraging to hear...cool... thanks!🎉!

[@relaxolotl834]

Probably the most helpful advice

[@GamerBoy.1761]

True, maybe I never practiced socializing much bc I never make time for it or never take the opportunity to. But now, I am slowly getting better recently.

[@elodeagg457]

Very interesting and inspiring. Just what I needed to hear. Thank you ❤

[@issabuenaobra7854]

Social anxiety is real however the more we press on the anxiety the more it grows, if we put on practice, step out day by day, the more we encounter people the more we can conquer it.

[@drtraveller2704]

I’ve never seen a secret that’s so obvious and true at the same time 🙌🏼

[@mirrorcreativity]

Great advice 👍🏻😮thanks ❤

[@Samenamena]

"touch grass" bro said wisely

[@makp.2586]

And it might also be helpful for the other person too,

[@lauraprater2300]

"How much more rough could it get?" "Rough." She's literally telling you.

[@jarvisholland7837]

Great advice

[@Morganjay00]

I’ve spent my entire life sitting in the back and watching people I think my brain has had plenty of time 😂

[@Noah_0821]

I’m literally born socially handicapped ♾️

[@user-tr1nvisiblering]

Gotta be clear with your decisions

[@megacatplayz]

And then theres me, who can’t speak to people i don’t know because it’s scary 😌

[@mahisharma9396]

Welp,I am an alien learning to be a human😂.Love from andromeda galaxy:)

[@BigBoris]

“You are not born socially handicapped” Autism: Allow me to introduce myself.

[@djgulston]

The thing that bugs me is that I've observed it's a use it or lose it kind of thing. There was a time in my late teens and early 20s when I came out of my shell and began talking to a lot of people and I would easily form connections with people. But after I graduated from university and was struggling to find employment, I fell into a depression, isolated myself unintentionally and forgot how I used to make friends so easily. I started studying again at university and I slowly began interacting with people again. I'm beginning to remember what it was like to talk to people again. Although, it was a bit of a rough start because I initially hung around people I have nothing in common with upon my return to university and it dipped my confidence a bit, but then I met a few nice people who I get along with quite well, and now I'm slowly coming out of my shell again.

[@OddlyAnimated1203]

"Bee friend" lol, these bee puns are everywhere.

[@elpais_Sano]

Anxiety joins the chat*

[@TraciMoon]

Feel the fear and do it anyway!! Find comfort in the discomfort 💕 does eclipse set the tone for the next 14 years! This is the time right here right now

[@Roknroblo]

Underated advice

[@Athelstan_lothbrok]

Everyone seems so busy these days. For me, the first step to talk directly to people is so overcome the "i'm so busy" label and not getting too nervous by it when i did it. It's a short dopamin rush. Most of the time i communicate by digital writing/voice mails via smarphone or computer. But as it's said, to get better in something, DO the thing you want to get better in.

[@kittykittymeowers]

My autism: Allow me to introduce myself.

[@sulemanmughal5397]

talking isnt hard but getting meaning full growth out of it is hard.

[@adimaraishaalimuddin6939]

i aprove this is so true

[@ReneRingnyu]

That's the secret just go out there and start talking with more people-best way to learn communication just start a career in sales, cold calling and meeting a lot of buyers and trying to persuade many people to buy

[@primeapple8091]

So.... We have to interact with more people to interact with more people?

[@MCA_Lives]

Practice practice practice.

[@MicahBanks-m4t]

Listen

[@gokulpraveen3688]

I have a big difference in personality before looking and after looking mobile

[@laszlotorok472]

Thanks!

[@gregoryfriston7091]

Leave a baby to grow up in a room constantly filled with adults and within a few years it'll learn to give up trying to be heard.

[@lavatr8322]

I'm not kidding , I go out of the way and try to make connections, PEOPLE DON"T RECIPROCATE! I'm an introvert... during childhood I was all alone, My parents would go to Work , no siblings, no one to talk. over the years I got so COMFORTABLE with being alone that now it is taking a toll on my social skills....

[@guzimafh8558]

Impressive 👏🏾

[@helena_555]

I spent lots of time staying in my room since i was a kid yk and my parents usually dont go outside so.Ppl mocked me made fun of me at my age of 5-12 and i started become insecure abt myself and now i am 14 i became an introvert with social anxiety and having lots of insecurities.And also when i try to talk they's r talking with oths everytime so i feel left out.It's really hard for me to ask something to someone like i dont even ask my teachers when i dont understand anything but i am trying to be more socialize. I think the environment changed us.

[@James_Gerald]

But I am autistic. How do I get better at social interactions then? The more I tried, the more I got rejected and now, after being at home for a year (due to mental health issues), I am finally going back to school again but how do I even have a normal one to one conversation?!

[@alvarezmichelle]

Thank you for sharing. I love your video. ❤

[@languagelearner-4305]

Thank you very much

[@Oshi_1330]

How to talk to people: talk to people

[@lyfebehyndbars9729]

I want to believe that all I need is more practice, I have been mostly alone most my life, so could be that. But sometimes I feel like I’m just slow. Reading and communicating feel so unnatural to me. I can’t keep up with people.

[@user-tr1nvisiblering]

I aint tripping , you and your family KNOWS !

[@michealmicheal8609]

You stalk them, and follow them to their homes, find out more about their families and loved ones, that is observation

[@increatejr17]

wrong -20 baby aura

[@increatejr17]

real lol

[@Kranella_]

I used this when I was 7 the pattern thing I practiced by greeting my teachers and replying saying “I’m fine thank you how about you?” In reply to when they ask if I’m ok

[@litomanuel8611]

thx doc love u

[@solox5853]

i started talking to prossies first then i started talking to roadmen and steeet folks..........now im a gangleader in london..........socializing can be a problem too

[@cheyzs488]

i guess this applies more to allistics lol Yes im social i love talking to people its just allistic society doesnt accept the way i am socially as an autistic person. i mostly speak monotone, etc. but people tend to take it the wrong way even when i tell them i dont mean it in that way or whatever.

[@lyrzartist]

Thanks

[@itiswhatitismindset]

this makes me feel even more autistic 😭 my entire life i've been talking to people based off of my observations of the way others talk so ig its the right way

[@bara2636]

Yeah i was as a shy and timid child.. Both my parents always working.. And as a child i rarely made first move to approach or talk to neighboorhood friends they alwas come and invite me to play with them... Most of them were older than me... So i grew up not knowing how to communicate or make friends with same age kids... This spiral continues till i'm in my 30's.. I still don't know how to approach or talk to other person.. Even though i know how to make a small talk... But i never really could step further to become their best friends... It seems like there's always a wall between me and them... Now i just feel so tired trying to know other people.. I don't have the energy and i don't feel like I need a friends or something... I'm just happy with my own... Talking with people is just tiring and troublesome

[@dogaozmen8889]

This is great advice, really uplifting thank you!!! Wouldn't it be easier to say "they" when giving an example though? I just thought it sounded better and is easier and quicker to say than "he or she" since it's shorter

[@estelamino6356]

Gracias

[@user-tr1nvisiblering]

She thought celebs will make me jealous bros fams 😂😂😂 it's in her head but, not in real life 😂😂😂😂

[@houssamel4k]

Great !!

[@Smoneey]

I was literally born socially handicapped dude