How to interpret 'non-duality' without losing your sense of self

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[@stargirl3972]

Also I read something that emphasised the importance of your uniqueness and the self, it’s the idea that if there was no ‘you’, then this oneness wouldn’t be one because it would have a hole in it, where ‘you’ are missing. You are so important, we are all so necessary and needed in the beautiful fabric of the universe. Tim Freke talks a lot more about this for anyone who is interested ❤

[@robinschindelka2117]

Love this insight! Very true 😊 thank you for sharing!

[@stargirl3972]

Thankyou for talking about this! This is something I very much struggled with, this idea of being ‘no one’ was so scary to me, but you put it beautifully ❤ we are connected but all unique! I like to see it like a beautiful tree with many branches and leaves that are all different and unique but all part of the same thing!! Also merry Christmas to you!!! I’m so excited 🎄🎄🎄⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@mingramh]

Wow, fantastic, thank you, Merry Christmas!!

[@robinschindelka2117]

Merry Christmas to you too! 😊

[@TheMartoon]

I love that way of looking at it :D

[@ca7582]

Non duality is precisely what sent me into my existential crisis, so I guess I'll skip this one 😂 this idea provides nothing to my life, it's just a non-existent, manmade concept that sends me spiraling down. My truths are my family, friends and passions. Outside of that, I don't need any religious and/or metaphysical thinking (which is what it is: thinking) to sustain me or to be forced to accept in a sort of "spiritual peer pressure or FOMO". These are not truths; nobody has them, nobody knows for sure.

[@robinschindelka2117]

I believe that the insights of the video might make you feel reassured :) of course you don't have to watch it but what I talk about is that it can actually encourage the expression of individual uniqueness, not take it away. ❤

[@ashleyfeinberg2988]

Nonduality is exactly what sent me into my DPDR also. Specifically the book Untethered Soul. What a nightmare. He literally says that you will discover that you are not what you think you are - that you are not even a human being. You are just the consciousness behind it all. He presents this idea that the purist form of spirituality is turning consciousness back on itself in meditation. This is the practice that triggered my DPDR and turned my world into a hell hole. Thank God I had a levelheaded therapist to go to who told me that author is a dick to throw the book in the garbage. I literally threw the book in the garbage and then threw one of my kids dirty diapers right on top of it. 😂 I've actually been avoiding watching this specific KZbin video for a month because I was worried it would trigger me to feel derealization again. I finally felt like I was in a place where I could reapproach the topic without it being triggering, and I was right. I can leave it as a concept that is not right for me and move on with my life. Maybe we are all connected, but not in the way that non-duality presents. At least not in the way Michael Singer presents it in that terrible book. I realize now that it doesn't even matter what is true or not true in the grand scheme of existence. Knowing or not knowing the "truth" about existence changes nothing except to drive me crazy, and since I cannot know what is "true" I will just accept that it's the great unknown. Because that's the real truth.

[@ca7582]

​@robinschindelka2117 hello Robin! Sooo... today I remembered this video. It's been a hellish 4 months for me since my Existential OCD / DPDR started. 2 months ago, when I commented, I was still very much sensitive and anxious. Right now, after a lot of recovery work and exposure, I can even say that yes: I find it beautiful and reassuring. I was struggling with the exact same notion that you address in the video, some sort of "metaphysical guilt" of not being able to be a human and partake in human things like reading novels or watching movies or playing tennis because they were "not natural" and "not true / an illusion". That being said, now that I'm more chill (but not quite right yet), I am glad to say that I begin to feel free to do whatever, express my own individuality and enjoy whatever life brings. I still very much think that the Truth cannot be articulated and that all you can (fortunately) do is to select your own truths with the criteria that bets suit your happiness. Although I don't really know what the Truth is, non-duality no longer scares me and I even find it beautiful -at least more beautiful than the materialist/physicalist paradigm. Plus, who knows what will discoveries in quantum mechanics bring in the near future? Anyways, it's all good. I think my recovery is also looking good. I'll be well soon. Thank you for your videos, Robin, as always. You were the first person, 2 days into the onset of my existential dread, that made me feel that it was possible to get out. The first light in the darkness! Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤

[@stargirl3972]

@@ca7582hey! Im not Robin but I just read your comment and wanted to say I’m super proud of you! I’m so happy you’re in a much better place, it takes so much strength to get out of the dark place of dpdr and you’ve come so far! You’re so strong 💪🏽i wish you all the best moving forward and I enjoyed reading about your insights❤

[@Seanus32]

I would say we 'experience' the non-dual and don't interpret it. However, I appreciate that this is an attempt to convey it so, ....