How to Keep Your Man

[@lydiamontey9194]

A lot of men are children w low self esteem and that's why they cheat. Like you said in your other video they leave to go find someone who hasn't seen their flaws Yet

[@bygracethroughfaith589]

Ladies don't do anything sexually that you're not comfortable with. If he really cares for you he won't demand you to cross any boundaries in sex life. If a man really leaves me for a freak, at least I kept my dignity.

[@michellemichelle5202]

Agreed

[@divineshine4482]

Amen

[@rocio292]

But Shera said, do it for money!! There are no principals in her book! You need to sacrifice your individuality to get all the Material wealth you can.

[@alexisbyrd5571]

Amen.

[@Burrburrcloud]

​@@rocio292 Your not forced to do everything someone says...😂😂

[@hanael8627]

Good looks don't pay the rent....unless you're a woman!! #thatpart #Hunnyyes #teamFlavaFlav

[@SheRaSeven1]

haha its true

[@fluffypinkglitterwingz8082]

She's the bomb! Lol

[@trisha1989]

*young woman*

[@candice446]

I used to nag and complain about everything in the world. I have ran a few men away 🤦🏽‍♀️ I learned!

[@SaraFJones]

It’s not all about the nagging, picking good fits is a must. Because your “nagging” was for a good reason. You prefer what you prefer, just pick well.

[@stefmonroy7509]

Sometimes the guy is the one who nags you! And then when you let him know he's nitpicking and nagging and being critical, he says you're nagging him. What about those men?

[@Sportylottie]

@@stefmonroy7509Narc behaviour

[@antisocial_socialite]

In a nutshell never get TOO comfortable in a relationship to the point you slack up on what you was doing to get that man to fall for you. Which is why its important to be yourself from the get go. For example if you wore heels in the beginning when you met him to impress him and that aint what you do, You'll have to keep that up and if you start slacking up when you try to do what you did in the beginning of the relationship it will feel like "too much work".

[@rocio292]

Uggghhh everything is a chase given from expectations

[@Mimi-ss3xx]

I love the counter fantasy tactic. I use that with my husband all the time and he always says no. Ladies don't do anything sexually that you're not comfortable with.

[@sandramorris2439]

No fantasies without a ring. Have boundaries.

[@datbishruby4430]

this is why i think women should get with older men

[@natashavaugn1018]

I'm 21, former beauty queen in college, dated a 37 year old who has a 8 year old, in debt, divorcee, appeared like the perfect target until I found out he was in DEBT and a passive man,

[@MariamAli-wg6gk]

@Natasha OMG-almost the same story!!!😱

[@carrolllinda2519]

Careful.Older does not always equal wiser,and financially prepared.lol

[@indigoGoddess7]

@@carrolllinda2519 lol you still have to vet them. Vetting a person shouldn’t be exempted, but 🤷🏿‍♀️ I’ve been there before. Lol lessons learned 🙂

[@KaylaJay7]

@@natashavaugn1018 go a little higher in age. 45 & up at least lol

[@karenscales5517]

I do not understand why women do not get this. It is so true, men want to feel like a man...not a child. Women already have leadership skills...u must tone it down.

[@aachalsilwal]

Never ever stop making videos like this ; it gives me so much knowledge! Specially being a single child I don't have someone by my side to provide me informations like this !!! And also please, if you read this comment, please make a video on how to (whatever) with in laws!!!! Cos my last two previous relationships got ruined by in laws and this time i wanna make it right with your knowledge!!! Please; please!!! Thank you and i hope I get a older man !!!

[@bygracethroughfaith589]

And look at Beyonce, she's way prettier than Jay, she's always reinventing, she's younger... And he still cheated. I think a lot of Shera's advice is good but women shouldn't have to twist their own personality in order to please a man.

[@PHOliciousEnt]

Jay z is also very rich so he has options when it comes to women. Either way he seems like he wont leave Beyonce. Point is men cheat on their wives but not all will leave them and will still provide.

[@indigoGoddess7]

@@PHOliciousEnt Beyoncé isn’t going to leave Jay Z ever lol. There’s been information about him cheating from when they first started dating. I think the woman just has to be smart & IMO if the guy can’t afford to cheat (money for you to have your lifestyle) & put him on probation. It’s not worth it. 🤷🏿‍♀️🤣

[@nomindnomess]

Beyonce is a BOSS dont get me wrong but from all the interview I've watched, it seems like she lacks personality. In many ways she seems "untouchable" and not playful. There's also the problem when the women are busy making millions of dollars, two busy alpha people can't make much time for each other.

[@jashaehall154]

She literally tells us they got a divorce and had to get re married. He messed up and she left. Listen to their album together.

[@lc-il6wr]

Black women R not appreciated!

[@allyjaaayy]

U can only keep a man that wants to be kept

[@not_the_same_]

Wow this chick got some gooooood advice!!!!

[@nappyscribe1987]

My husband don’t know how cute he is. He is eye candy. But he’s big. I guess that’s my savin grace. He looks better than me and thinks of things to do for me before I can think of it. This situation is an exception to the rule 🤣🤣🤣.

[@flygirlmetaphysics5049]

My guy looks like a nerdy trey songs...lol. He dont even know he really has the looks. Good cus he knows Im the prize♥

[@rachelreii5952]

That's so adorable

[@Paola01.]

This is so true about the attractive men. I broke up with mine because he got so cocky and started talking to an other girl like on Facebook right in the open like an ex fling of his. Therefore, I said no way men, see you with your good looking butt good for nothing. He didn’t even treat me good because he looks good, it’s bye bye bye!

[@JohannahArrington1908]

I am married and your videos give me new creativity. So long time married ladies can benefit as well. Plus you are hilarious! And it is so much fun! 😘🥰😍

[@yourroyalhighness3243]

You are the truth!!! I admire everything you have to say because it’s the truth!! Ladies take heed to her knowledge you’ll learn a lot!!!

[@stellakamau6994]

Look what Jesse Williams did to his wife. He's a pretty boy, after he made it he left his day 1 wife who looks basic for Taylour Paige who looks like a model

[@allenarust4152]

You told the dirty honest truth! :-)

[@cpeacenlove]

Allena Rust YES, she did...

[@antisocial_socialite]

As far as being cool and current. ...its not in everyone to do that. If you gotta go through all that to keep a man you might as well just leave him alone. Personally I find it fun to switch it up but everyone is just not into it.

[@queenr.480]

So annoying, it's not our job to make him feel like he's a man! All these damn tricks and reinventing ourselves for him just to keep him is ridiculous. He will always get bored no matter what! These men ain't going through hoops to keep our interest or us sexually attracted... This is why I stay to myself. It's definitely a man's world and having a man is just social currency and shallow status. I'm over it. Ladies keep fighting over these men, I'm out of the game and creating a new path for my life. High investment with these men and the pay off is :he stays! Physically at least 🤔

[@travelfoodielove]

Shera always spitting the truth

[@alwayz100percent]

Wow. I think I need to update my approach of how I view relationships. I have always wanted things to be equal and seen as a pleasure. Things are about to go a lil different 'round here.

[@Ccphilly]

Yes true talk... I got my babe 17 years older then me... I love our relantioship because your right im hes young girl

[@swiitdoll]

C.C Philly Reviews mine is ten years older. 🙌🏾

[@dutchessofcreativity9397]

when you are 48 who looks 38 you get younger guys after you....

[@merciaroberto7246]

Sound like a a lot work so I will stay single

[@allisonmcinnis5929]

Not if he's a multi millionare or billionaire

[@allisonmcinnis5929]

@Linda Hines bitter 🤣🤣

[@kamseumelanie5911]

Linda Hines you’re right..they always want to try other things not necessarily because they don’t love you but for adventure

[@proactivemimi6473]

😂😂😂

[@kiaraartis8866]

I’ll wait to date until I’m ready.

[@Ishtarthemoon]

most models are super insecure about their looks and also their ability to provide (most of them don't earn a lot, esp the boys), so as long as you are as good looking as a model (but not necessarily one, cos we know they have ridiculous height and size restrictions in the industry that aren't tied to what's most sexually attractive to men, AT ALL), i don't think it's too bad an idea to date a male model, as long as he's got sth else going for him besides modelling. There's nothing more humbling to a beautiful person than working in the modelling industry where you're constantly being told how you don't measure up and everyone else looks better than you, it will take him down a few pegs, trust me. the male models i dated were no more fuckboys than normal men, unless they were really young and just starting out and hadn't been jaded by the industry yet.

[@moondust8770]

So true. All the female models I’ve seen only had stable relationships with male models

[@nappyscribe1987]

I’ve always been the star beside the good older men I chose. I married a man only 2 years older than me.

[@belleamourphed1111]

OMGEEEE I am rolling, hollering & dying laughing!!! I just love your aura so much 😍😍 TY TY TY so much for the wisdom Queen 💛💖💜 I am taking mental notes & binging every day!

[@laurentgravot7831]

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[@mahoganyblack2208]

I agree older guys are more appreciative. Me personally I dont have no type. Its all about how the guy makes me feel. I've dated more older guys than guys my age & I think they fit my style. Maybe not? I love the 70s & 80s style blow outs & bell bottoms sort of retro & hip. Idk. I'm just eccentric. Some people have suggested I look older for my age (26) because the "older" guys take your youth. Idk.

[@SariahLoves]

Mahogany Black how can a man take your youth ?

[@NoName-sp5dp]

suyrriah xo they suck u dry. Old guys want to feel youthful again

[@SariahLoves]

Kufre Akpan it's mutually beneficial if you suck their pockets dry & get way more from them then they are getting from yo

[@SariahLoves]

Kufre Akpan like shera did

[@kamseumelanie5911]

suyrriah xo it’s very possible.. through sex.. the more you stay with him the more emancipated you become

[@Janays]

Good advice girl for all women, thank you

[@karenwilliams8977]

The attractive men of this era are different than the attractive men of previous eras.

[@keke8880]

In my ex's case, his new obsession with a weird sex fetish was a manifestation of a porn addiction. I never did it. It's been 5 years and he's still never found anyone to do it with and he still tries to get me back every now and then to even do vanilla stuff lool. He offers his money etc to even see him for coffee lool nah bro

[@bambam6231973]

yep but key is font let them drag you into looking a mess they will do that and then leave you...leave first... and level up find someone else better

[@Naturallynatural3]

Fanny pack 😂 I always think mom jeans and those high hair styles and feather bangs, all that hairspray

[@angelherron5944]

well damn my husband is 10 years younger then me... am I doomed ....

[@Blondie727]

Angel Herron Nah, you might have him trained. I have a stunning looking friend who’s engaged to a man 10 years her junior that has a very good job. He bought her a house, fake breasts, Botox and takes care of HER daughter. She told him verbatim “if you want an older woman; you better keep me beautiful”.

[@ten25.]

Angel Herron yes

[@DaniiMarie333]

Not with an *UNWAVERING CONFIDENT mindset*

[@khwezay]

Yes

[@basicinfo2022]

Not unless he's an old soul. Priyanka Chopra and Tina turner married very younger men. It'd character that determines if he's husband material

[@BrujaCarrieLiz]

Can you please speak louder or find a way to fix your volume when you record? I love watching your videos, but whenever I watch I can barely hear what you say, even when I turn my volume all the way up.

[@flygirlmetaphysics5049]

Volume is just fine

[@Anchu23]

A little louder would help.

[@damaraboyd5661]

Loving the look in this video, you are absolutely beautiful !!

[@SlimmDrea]

Omg all this about keeping up with trends. I’m young I don’t have that problem so now I’m wondering is it just me lol.

[@Dreamgirlhav]

I know sometimes you read those questions like.....bruh...lol. I know you're glad you have your way of thinking

[@xxmegababygirlxx]

Me doing my makeup from the 80s even tho I was born in the 90s. Trying to learn tho 😂😂😂😂

[@mahoganyblack2208]

Thanks for sharing. Much Love & Appreciation.

[@crystalarnoldfortune]

I enjoyed this video...thanks for the info

[@maris7236]

very true.. thanks for sharing!

[@sexyladyakb]

Bind them ! 🤣😂

[@nicolenicole2198]

Bhahahhaha 😈

[@raccooneyes2099]

it's weird that in the animal world the MALE is always the pretty one and the female is drab and plain looking.. but in the human world, the female has to be the pretty one.

[@buckshot226]

oooh I didn't know that! everyday learning something new.

[@mzparker33sexy]

And in the animal kingdom the female usually ends up being a single mom providing for her children alone... In the human wold women have brains enough to put on make up and be as attractive as possible, because we know men and how they operate.

[@sexyladyakb]

Raccoon Eyes not in my relationship 🤣😂 my hubby is the pretty one 🤣😂 I dress up / makeup when we go out but yea 🤣😂🤣

[@chichichiugo8532]

No the males are just the larger one. The females tend to be drabby especially in the bird species because they need to blend into the surroundings to avoid predation because they’re main obligation is protecting and nurturing the offspring. I hope you understand that the male is not always the pretty one but rather, mainly, the larger one or the one who stands out.

[@DaniiMarie333]

Peacocking is a term that means wearing bright colors and dressing up to attract attention.. and yes the pretty ones are the males.. hnm... maybe they are all gay

[@bubblesreyes3417]

I love watching your videos! Do you give classes online?

[@brentcproductions]

7:50 is very true game. My woman is younger now and it works

[@shellyslife4427]

I met a guy who still speaks from the 70's lol

[@She_So_Solo]

I can dig it.

[@charlita25]

“Cause there always is “ 😫

[@brendaanncrawford169]

I WENT TO A CONCERT-- THE WRONG ONE LARRY BLACKMON (CAMEO)GOT ME PREGNANT & NOW HIS SON HATES HIM & ME! HE KEPT RUNNING FROM CHILD SUPPORT ! & IM LIVING SINGLE STILL& ON MY OWN-- NO HELP- SO I NEED ALL HELP TO " LEVEL UP" -- THE WHOLE "SHABAG"! LUV YA GURL!! UR LIKE A SISTA I ALWAYS WANTED!!! (I'm 63yrs young)

[@ladywytch129]

Wait... I can't wear my pink snakeskin miniskirt??? Noooo.... 😂😂😂

[@lovedog49507]

You can to attract men.

[@peekaboots01]

No. It's out of style. That's what she's saying.

[@swiitdoll]

Go buy a red one and match it with thights and heeled boots

[@dipanwitasaha5914]

Write a book girl. I'll buy the first copy❤❤

[@NA-vt6mz]

Dipanwita Saha it’s already on amazon

[@butterflyqueen9260]

I don't have time for "cool".

[@tiffpruitt84]

and what do you do when your husband goes for a woman 12 years older than you and 2 years older than you???

[@ShadaeBalancesKnightAstro]

tiffpruitt84 Are you still married to him?

[@rosalindvaca5412]

I worked all my life and I helped him get his desk job and I worked hard jobs and now Im just getting a pay check and he works through home. people pay a lot out when they dont work hard jobs like me he is lost. that makes me so mad

[@Tyrone005]

hi shera!!!

[@aakankshanidhi4989]

Why do younger boys find 30 year old ladies attractive then, and the men of 30 years age find the younger girl attractive lol

[@basicinfo2022]

Early 20s are usually lower maintenance and easier to control. Women are Desired at any age by all aged men

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@basicinfo2022 this keeps getting truer with my age. I used to get pursued by creeps and predators when I was younger. Now, men pursue me in my 30s 😂

[@jessicahoyle4326]

Hi Ashera! how can i inbox you? i'm 22 and have a few relationship questions that i kind of dont want to ask in the comment section. Thanks in advance!

[@lagrecia1121]

How many years older do you suggest the guy should be ?

[@user-og8ii5dc4l]

10-15

[@kamseumelanie5911]

For me 5-10 is just fine.. anything above this range is too much and out of your age group

[@Irispia97]

15+

[@rickimcfarland2269]

8:15 is what I tell my peers.

[@Hannah-pn2gs]

I think just you do when it comes to fantasies men have with my men and opened to explore. But he still cheated on anyway...

[@hanbeau1985]

12:29 😂😂😂😂 danger danger dangerrrr

[@leafmealoynederpydeu85]

Such shit... People get independent anyway you can if this is how superficial they are get better. One who don't screw you over and use up this way. Father should protect and teach his dauughters this crap so they can have some type of life. Been held hostage pretty much whole dam life

You are so insightful and funny. LOL

[@taylorstar2483]

Lol I got a older man too girl😂😂😘😘😘

[@Trust788]

This is why i choose to be single men are complicated not women

[@thebrownivory9670]

Fanny packs are in!!!💃

[@SoulSearch11110]

I disagree with the advice on the fantasy. Don't tease if you're not going to do it and don't try the"well key me do this to you"that doesn't work. Just give him his fantasy.

[@zoicaparaschivescu1005]

Way don t they speek about the "bedroom" before??

[@antisocial_socialite]

Good video by the way

[@meganwilson9702]

Hi SheRa Seven! I've just started the process of how to make my guy friend jealous and my question is how long is the waiting process until he responds after he's seen the pic that I posted of me and another guy on social media ?

[@NaiyaNicole_Artistry]

Megan Wilson if he doesn’t like you then he won’t care. Also, if you aren’t dating him then it is a slim chance that it’ll work.

[@munchkineatsalotvent9899]

He doesn't like you ,he not going to get Jealous lol

[@She_So_Solo]

How is she suppose to know when he's going to reply? He probably doesn't even care that you posted a pic let alone with who. Y'all are asking to much of Shera. The object of these videos is to listen and take what you can and apply it. She giving out gems of wisdom from what she's experienced, that's it. Take some leave some and go on with your life.

[@carriea.2467]

I agree with everything you said in this vedio😉

[@mildredfeforticaballero1870]

You're great!

[@classyclark7379]

Love your channel

[@ebonimurphy7037]

fanny packs back in style😂🤣

[@JohannahArrington1908]

@asheraseven1... I am married and used some of your advice. And he paid for my breasts. ”How you doing”?...

[@kates6]

So my bf feels jealous when I hang out with my guy friends, but doesn't make a big deal about it. He only tells me he is jealous. But recently he told me that he will not hesitate to hang out with other women since I hang out with other guys. I don't want him to hang out with other women and I feel really jealous even thinking about it, but I still want to hang out with my guy friends. @sheraseven1 how can I prevent him from hanging out with other women??? He hasn't yet but I don't want him to start

[@SheRaSeven1]

lol... stop hanging out with your guy friends... or get a man who will do whatever u tell him too, otherwise if he cheats hewill blame you for always being with other men

[@kates6]

Thank you :) Can you please make a video on how to get a guy to do whatever we want ? I have learned a lot from you bc before I was more naive, but I need to keep getting better

[@SheRaSeven1]

Kate S if you figure out who to work on his ego and find his weakness you can pretty much get anything you want

[@unicorngirl1901]

what’s the age gap between you and your hubby

[@tanianino8490]

sad

[@Naibushon]

True

[@asmrrmsa1321]

But what if your man is not into having sex and you are what if he does not want to do it as often as you or do the things you want? If the money is good and the guy is stable and you love him but he is just not satisfying you in bed.

[@queenie_the_virgo]

ASMR rmsa get a toy and keep getting money

[@Dee.Allure]

Decide if sex means more to you than stability. According to your answer will be your next move.

[@keke8880]

He might be addicted to porn

[@lightninglioness2012]

Same

[@butterflyqueen9260]

wow! a first from her I totally disagree with. I am changing for someone else.

[@nothingbutme1150]

Ha i love it !

[@nadiyakaralash7878]

So smart

[@TruthBeyoundHuman]

♓️

[@tarasrygler324]

An older woman......

[@happyjhappy4765]

i love u too funny

[@goddesswildredspeaksTruth]

Love Love Love

[@charlibaltimore9569]

The guy i like is very cute he told me all hes gonna get me is kids w light skin and good hair lmao only problem is to get him to take care of me.

[@holliecharles684]

yea girl... danger danger lol

[@holliecharles684]

especially if hes telling u in so many words his value is light skin and "good hair" haha...

[@nothingbutme1150]

Love ...he is selling you a pipe dream and he sounds like a narissist

[@kind-heartedgoddess]

run

[@prv3115]

Yeah, run, lol! When a man tells you something, believe him. They're usually very literal. He doesn't have serious intentions.

[@HabitualLover]

OMG. Shera, by acting like it's natural for men to get their second wind in life by latching on to a young woman, you're only setting young women up for our lives to be sucked out of us by old men who need to get themselves grounded by doing their internal work, not by leeching youth from young women. That's a Pickmiesha mentality in disguise: "I'm young, I'm the best for men..." But never at any point are men undesirable. You're crazy to be selling women's lives to crappy men like this, Shera. Come on, now.

[@indigoGoddess7]

You’re still thinking about marrying a dusty that’s why you’re not understanding what she’s saying. There’s a *smart* way to marry and Shera is letting you know. Location,location,location! Lol change your surroundings - you need to see men of caliber. Even if you exercise in a different neighbourhood. Change your settings.

[@peacefullife5565]

Don't listen to her she sounds so superficial.

[@indigoGoddess7]

You don’t have to listen to her.

[@buckshot226]

after all that might still look for something else. you forgot something, respect, respect, respect! respect him even if he earns less than you. make sure you always cook. happy stomach happy husband. my grandma thought me that.