How to Know if You are Stuck in Grief? @grieftherapist

[@grieftherapist]

If you feel stuck in your Grief? The Grievolution Experience can be found here.. www.jomcrogers.com/grievolution-experience.html

[@joniwilmoth5826]

Do you have a paetron program set up for viewers to contribute monthly support in gratitude for your services?

[@Blessedgirl1955]

I definitely feel stuck in my grief and find the only real peace I feel is when I am asleep. I also feel just exhausted mentally, emotionally and physically.

[@lisao3753]

I feel exactly the same. I feel Its aged me also.

[@mariannejohnson6529]

I’m every P. July 7th will mark three years that my 42 year old daughter , mother of two young boys 3 and on July 9th turning 7 was found at 6am dead from drinking so much alcohol she died in her backyard. My grief and pain is exactly as you say Jo. Thank you for confirming that I am not alone.

[@meskalokys]

Stuck in grief? Et Tu Brutus? You know well enough that grief never ends. It becomes a life long companion, sometimes walking beside us, sometimes ahead, sometimes behind, but always with us. The permanence you speak of is the permanence of the loss. Only time has dulled the sharpness of the grief. I live with grief, it is my companion and I’m stuck with it.

[@terryparrish8477]

I agree. I read another comment from someone else on another grief support video saying basically that "grief is not a "process" to "get through", but it is a condition of the soul." Now that we've suffered a tremendous, life-changing loss, that loss is permanent. And, so is the accompanying grief that goes with it. Maybe not feeling quite as deep or intense as in the early months as time goes on. But always there. Yeah. We're "stuck" (with it) as it's a part of us, now.

[@miltonvann646]

Stuck in permanence. The loneliness can feel overwhelming.

[@HomeFrendsten]

We are stuck in grief due to toxic people, who don't understand that they are responsible forit , It is hard to think, act and make decision

[@molaurie]

Permanence. Am I going to feel this horrible forever?! It’s been 18 months.

[@jeanmarieguitard202]

I feel stuck in all three ways even though I have been seeking and using every type of support available. Almost 10 months since I lost my son. It never ends.

[@jennifershort3104]

I have been exhausted for most of my grief. My mother has been gone for 5 and a half months and my father died 15 months before her. My sleep patterns and eating patterns have been messed up. I found help over a month ago and am finally making a little progress. My waves of grief can still be concerning when I get stuck in my head, but I do recognize when things are easing up as I come out of it. My problem is my siblings wanting to prepare the house for sale starting in September. I'm supposed to be out by then. Only 4 months to get a new life?! Are they serious? That has set me back in my grief journey. 🤯

[@lindafrazier8092]

❤

[@lisao3753]

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[@fabiolaballiu]

Hugs

[@annekebrinkhof991]

Please ask them to give you more time It is not fair of them 😢

[@sheliabryant3997]

jennifershort:. What a nightmare; so very sorry for all you're trying to muddle thro'. Wish I had wisdom to share; well-intentioned experiential advice that might offer something more than additional burden. I don't. I am not religious; that was forced upon me all my life. We have religion to thank for all the absurd platitudes & social attitudes presented as "norms." Together these are each and all masques for the basest urges of human behavior; you might say, "vulture culture." Or, simply, family. At 75, still having the awful nightmares EVERY NIGHT since childhood & only just now realizing this is "life on the freeway." Have always understood that "Life is hard. And only going to get harder.". As last resort, in early 40s, turned to the One I had loved as a child til I went to orphanage age 4+half. I got pretty mad at Him pretty quick & stayed mad very long time. One day, I found myself just sliding off foot of my bed into a 93# pile of bones, no longer able to go to my great big wonderful job decked in Calvin Klein paisley silk charmeuse or Ellen Tracey or Donna Karan mud boots. Guts had been bleeding for 10 years by then but I just painted my face & put on my really big show. A regular Emelda Marcos parade on Wilshire Blvd. (Every city on earth is L.A.) My last parade was the day before. No more parades. No more shows. No more war. The float would not float; the tank was tread-bare. The million-dollar retirement was not even a bag of pennies any more. All I could do as I went down was say, "I give.". [There was no parental home for me to be kicked out from; my siblings had already drained that & would continue to drain what I did have in future. I had been poisoned by the "cannot-say-no, don't com- plain, be-the-peacemaker, respect- able, responsible (for yourself + everyone else, esp "family"), reliable, relentlessly chippy, chirpy, shiny, SILENT, HUMBLE Go-getter, .... That One did very often & softly whisper, "I Am here if you ever need Me.". But, of course, I never did. Until I did. I was 41. I, too, am still here. Because I understood that day (& every day since). And I asked. Every day thereafter has been exactly like that day. Some even worse! But I ask. And I seek. And sometimes , it feels like I have broken both feet KICKING the door. But I tell you truly: I would not be here otherwise. 💜

[@cdelaney3455]

My Kevin went to be with Jesus 6/29/21 and I still cry almost every day. Sometimes it is debilitating. Especially holidays like today.

[@estherauger943]

I lost mom 😢in 2011 and I’m still hurting about her loss

[@81evadavis]

Same… I lost mine in 2016 and it feels more painful each year.

[@bluestarfc7370]

Yes i understand a lot in this video i been stuck in my grief 6 year's it comes and it goes. Last 6 months i haven't been myself. I lost my mam and dad December months everything come back the memories. Been finding it hard to snap out of things

[@steveparker2938]

I have recently passed the second year mark of my husband's death. Six months into my grief I knew I needed help and I sought it in the form of grief therapy. It made all the difference in the world. I have most definitely found a place for grief in my daily life and it feels comfortable there. The lingering "problem" I still have is solo decision making. For 21 years WE made decisions together and now I have to make them alone. Again, most of this has resolved itself, but the BIG one is whether or not I should move out of state and start fresh or stay in place and work through what is.

[@grundiallenphd75]

My daughter passed 2 years ago, and I feel like I am on a roller coaster. I am raising her daughter/ my granddaughter. My daughter's birth date is approaching, and I feel intense emotions, and I am afraid that I am going back to the beginning of my grief. I don't know who I am anymore. I obtained my PhD. right before she passed. I don't know anymore. I am just going through the motions.

[@joniwilmoth5826]

Thank you so much for all of the tools and videos that you have provided on KZbin, free of charge for those of us who are unable to participate in more costly counseling. You have already helped me immensely with your kind understanding and suggestions.

[@Kay-pb8tm]

Oh my goodness Jo you are spot on! At this 3 month, I'm still going through all 3 Ps, and you describe them absolute! It's an acknowledgement hearing what I'm going through is real.

[@charleneware6574]

#3 for sure. It will be one year on May 21st and I just can't get out of this "funk"

[@emmawats5467]

Thank you for this. I am so grateful for the lens into the future that your videos provide. It's like getting a map of the land mines ahead.... I understand that the fear , anxiety and work ahead is arduous but getting a glimpse at it is helpful.

[@maryannmartinez9425]

I feel i have no purpose anymore

[@reaper_of_hope]

I definitely feel stuck and lost since my parents died I can't and don't know how to get out of this funk

[@mariejosesale4115]

It is impossible not to get stuck in grief. So easy to burst into tears with a tiny reminder of the lost person! But you do not feel stuck as often as the days pass. It is lurking in the background. Very sneaky and clever grief. A smell A date A colour A flower Etc etc God bless you all

[@MsEssmess]

I just wept for my grandmother.... died decades ago!!!! 😢❤

[@lisao3753]

Help, stuck🙇‍♀️

[@susnorth40]

Permanence. :(

[@MADELENEC1]

FIRST TWO P'S

[@michellenash-powell5651]

To be honest... I still have emotions of all the Ps . It's been 18 months now. I've tried counselling it didn't help I've had no support. My husband's family are causing me so much stress also. I feel stress has been in my life with parent in laws for over 8 years now grief on top for 18 months

[@emmaherbert2067]

How do I forgive?

[@nikkipage9132]

This is a primer for a 1400 dollar course. No free answers here.

[@guesswho1235]

You certainly are stuck, stuck on grief is only caused by the dead in ones life. What about the loved ones who changed into the one most trusted all your life into the one who was so trusted you never had need to fined out truth, then out of nowhere, you get ripped off 100's of thousands. You search for something to grab life line to fined out that you aren't grieving at all. Thank You. JO

[@rhondamaryjenner7868]

I do feel intense emotion not sure what I need to do next every thinknseenn suplivous at monent it 6half hubby past Rhonda