How to Know When Divorce Is Right: 3 Considerations for Good Men

[@bobkonradi1027]

People who never get married are never burdened with the necessity to consider divorce.

[@smokingcrab2290]

There needs to be serious indepth training for anyone considering marriage.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

@@smokingcrab2290 Don't even think of marriage.

[@darrellbarry3402]

The only difference is paperwork, otherwise its still a shitshow.

[@Ainttheone84]

No fkn sht

[@petrosnemardos]

And are never happy either.

[@CushRayman]

"you didn't get the wrong wife, you married a woman" this tells me that most of my married friends don't talk about their marriage troubles, because A: they think it's just them and B: they think it's loyal and protective to keep it to themselvs and C: they think it's embarrassing. So men suffer in silence, because they are good men. Men, we need to share this with each other. We are not alone.

[@Korschtal]

It also lets me be a bit more gentle with my wife: she's not especially immature or selfish, and she's not doing it to be unkind. She's just a normal woman.

[@LawlessGaming13]

I got friends like that too. Men like that are cowards to me. And the most preachy, thinking they've found the most exceptional woman in the world. And any time theres a discussion about women with married men, they want to try to measure you by whether or not you're married. They'll ask well, how can you speak on the subject when you've never been married? I answer, I wouldn't speak on marriage and won't pretend to understand whats it's like to be married. However, I DO very well understand women, which is why I was smart enough not to marry one. They hate that answer lol

[@andrewphillips969]

A lot of times, in my marriage, it would’ve been your letter B. But, it’s also that some women have a way of making you feel like things are ok when she has one foot out the door. She’s not gonna blow it up until she feels like she has the other guy. I knew life wasn’t perfect, but for about 18 years out of 19 I thought I had a good marriage, then she started an affair and left. It was only after she started that affair that she caused the bigger issues.

[@smokingcrab2290]

The greatest ammunition a man can have in marriage is to create a purpose for himself outside of the marriage. The woman is not your first love. You are. And she is merely a helper and accessory to your purpose and passion. There are things in this world that can bring you more joy than a woman ever could. Find those things and pursue them, then if a woman wants to help you pursue them, let her. But if you make her your purpose and if you seek her love, you will be reduced to a beggar and a cuck. You have to keep yourself and your own mission in life #1 and then keep her 2nd to that. This is what shifts the dynamic is when women realize we are perfectly fine without them. And for most of us men this degree of enlightenment requires a lot of pain and suffering to reach. It did for me. I thought my wife was my greatest treasure and all she did was emasculate me and push me away. So I decided to find my own joy outside of her and ever since then everything has shifted for the better between us. She hurt me bad and for no reason, and I'll never be as vulnerable with her again. But I'm better off because of it. I found a way to create my own peace and my own passion regardless of her behavior. And this makes me stronger and it makes me not only her rock, but my sons rock.

[@JonathanTodd-og7dd]

I find that hard to impossible to believe. There are many men that actually married a good woman with a high libido that loves and cares for her husband and doesn't emasculate or put down her man. And they stay happily married. Unfortunately the older you get the less likely you will find a good one.

[@j.p.5716]

The biggest mistake we make as men is to think we are marrying someone who is equal with us. We expect them to be the same as us, as logical as us, as mature as us, as rational as us, etc. Women are different is virtually every possible way and most of those ways are inferior. The only way that the vast majority of us are going to get a good wife is to mold her and make her in to what we want her to be. It has always been this way but in our current post-feminist, gynocentric society, it is harder than it has ever been. The best chance we have is to get one while they are young (virgin preferably) before they get too independent and set in their ways. Sadly, even if you do marry a debt-free virgin with no tattoos, it can still turn out bad. Just ask Steven Crowder.

[@Korschtal]

I've noticed that men tend to project the best we are onto women, which leads to disappointment. In return women tend to project the worst of themselves onto men, which led to feminism.

[@Sir_Viver]

100 % !

[@Hairyderriere]

Nah. I don't think this works or is desirable. But maybe for you? If I felt like you did, I'd just buy a dog.

[@Jaco3688]

Truth spoken here. Unfortunately, however, the culture which surrounds a young bride will eventually influence her, sully her, and eventually destroy the marriage. I have no answers.

[@willylumpnj]

"Equal with us: you left out "as loyal and truthful as us".

[@thedynamicsolo4232]

When one party kicks God out of the position of "ultimate authority" over a marriage, its DONE. That is what happened to me. No accountability, "My feelings" come first, tingles for the old sinful life, comparing your marriage with others, having a new friend from work whispering in her ear "you can do better, you don't have to put up with that". All destroy marriage. Comparison is the theft of joy.

[@yahnferral9163]

She either works on herself or doesn’t. If she doesn’t bye bye. Simple.

[@bgrego88]

True that

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

Sadly, most "work on themselves" by pursuing New-Age hocus-pocus and going to years of feminist therapy. Instead, women should be listening to their husbands and following his lead.

[@yahnferral9163]

@@ruralsquirrel5158 they cant take accountability for marrying someone they don’t trust. It wastes their time and his. Very disrespectful.

[@rob21]

I've never met a woman who wasn't high maintenance, both personally and externally. Every girl I've dated, I end up going to her house to fix things, help with the yard, cleaning, etc. Never the other way around. / Divorced now, dating yes, but the heck I'm getting married again. I have more peace living alone.

[@VivatVeritas1]

They’re the human beings who see us as human doings.

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

A woman doesn't get to make me her personal slave, and certainly NOT before marriage. Relationships are not a one-way street.

[@papadoug2898]

Every thing you said “rings true “!… I’m definitely married to a woman that is high on the spectrum, I’ve been married to her for 44 years now. I’m so glad that your channel is available. Thanks so much for this advice.

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

Fool

[@joelhernandez41]

Cheating and disrespect is the only reason I see divorce is mandatory. Let them learn on their own after we leave

[@smokingcrab2290]

Weaponizing sex is another

[@downtostandup]

I don't think humans were made for monogamy. As much as I would want it to be true. Actions speak otherwise

[@ceasetheday87]

@@downtostandupIf you believe humans were not “made” for monogamy, what do you believe the reason for the lack of monogamy to be? Do you think monogamy is a choice? Would the reason be biological or psychological?

[@downtostandup]

@ceasetheday87 I'm simply stating that based upon my own observations AND supported by marriage/divorce stats and historical documents both religious and non religious... I believe, nah know, that human are serial monogamous with a blend of polygamy by nature. I'm not basing things on what humans say they desire, no I'm basing it off facts, stats and observations. The majority of people are not with one partner their entire lives. Period

[@Ja50nkAt]

You cheat, you pay she cheats, you pay

[@sypherd.3771]

It’s actually ingrained into this society. It has a lot to do with how women are consistently conditioned to believe that the male perspective doesn’t matter. And that men are essentially just misguided women. This is not the case in every society. Women across the board do have similar tendencies, but it is drastically different in western society.

[@P01234y]

Relationships don’t last because they require effort (hard times). Often I find that women jump ship during these times or they lose feeling for the man during those times.

[@duhg6059]

Bingo

[@MrOJohn]

Seeing you guys in the comments have helped me somewhat to at least know I'm not alone.

[@racebannon96]

You are not alone. I kept quiet because we had two kids. The wife knew she had me in a corner and I would not leave our children. No affection or intimacy from her. She refused to help me with our kids and daily chores. After 10 years, she left us for her alcoholic boyfriend. It turned out to be the best thing she ever did for me and it is the gift that keeps giving. Good,luck to you.

[@MrOJohn]

@racebannon96 "The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it" blessings to you and yours and for it turning out good in the end.

[@RPMentorTokyoChannel]

I've been researching the relationship between men and women for years. I think men on the whole would be accepting of women's nature if they were allotted the opportunity to objectively understand it. Unfortunately, society tends to gaslight them as well as cling to plausible deniability when it comes to these subjects. You can think of the women who go on about men being the ones who end relationships, but anyone who is aware of divorce statistics, knows that women are the ones leaving. I can also recall a woman who, with a smirk, stated that women just want peace. Mind you this was the same woman who would insist on causing drama.

[@thevisitor1012]

The feminists would never allow it. Women generally feed off this uncertainty as it's advantageous to them. A good example is how quickly you'll see a woman deny that hypergamy exists, even though it's frequently observed in mating.

[@downtostandup]

You can understand women or you can love them. You can never do both

[@killert-cell9943]

Demonic.

[@feloniousmonk3049]

I have found that at age 65, having many male friends that have been divorced and raised kids, that the only way forward that works for me with women and their inconsistencies, is an arrangement of friends with benefits. Even a long term relationship resembling marriage with cohabitating together is women making your life stressful. Don't co habitate, Have an agreement or a code phrase that both understand means let's have a bootie call. You'll be much happier.

[@A_W2016_love]

😂😂😂 you’re gonna have to be ready to have many friends with benefits. Unless she’s unattractive and desperate for some form of affection. But even that will be dangerous. Women are emotional beings. When I was younger I had a FWB and I made him cry when I was done with him and wanted a real relationship. Now he’s married and I’m married. Good luck with that, I could be wrong but I doubt it. 😂 no we didn’t marry each other, I could not be with a guy the way he would hide me from his family.

[@neurodivercyndi]

I just watched your Happiness video (the one you link to in another video) and it REALLY resonated w/me. I watched it this morning, texted my husband about it, and we actually watched most of it together tonight. It led to a lot of deep conversations. I consider myself to be a redpilled wife who is always looking for ways to be better... yet I STILL found tremendous value in your video. The things you said made me feel like you've known me for 20 years! You articulate the female struggle with finding happiness in SUCH a relatable way. I'm really thankful to you and to this channel. You have a gift. Please, keep it up.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@neurodivercyndi, Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment and kind words. Bless you.

[@carlmanis879]

1. she forgot the pre married training. 2. She refuses to except any attempt of altering her bad behavior. 3. she forgot about her wedding vows about have and to hold until death due us part. Then it is time to divorce and let the true training start.

[@GotChrist60]

How sad...I signed up for something that I didn't get, only to lose it all on false pretenses... Then to swallow it.

[@Jaco3688]

I’m so sorry. God will repay you for your efforts.

[@GotChrist60]

@Jaco3688 you have no need to apologize. I appreciate your love and support. I sit here only wanting what I asked for....someone to love me, some one to to talk with and someone to hold. They never had to work. I provided them with everything. I'm retired military, 100% disable combat retired and retired from another position. I don't understand how hormones can do so much damage. Now, I'm left to have some judicial folks divide the spoils... Pathetic

[@smokingcrab2290]

@GotChrist60, spend all the spoils on the most vicious lawyer on this continent. You will win. And it will be worth it.

[@GotChrist60]

I don't believe that I have option of a divorce per the Bible

[@Jaco3688]

@@GotChrist60 Ditto that. Time is short. Our Lord is returning very soon

[@orangeandslinky]

Are men and women even compatible for marriage? I never got married to fix any woman at all. I didn't see getting married as something to get me strong at all. I thought it was shared love and shared companionship for both of us.

[@niner8tangojuliet149]

My ex was a functional alcoholic. I believe she blamed a lot of things on me that was due to her excessive alcohol consumption.

[@christys.3912]

Alcoholism ruins a person!

[@pilotandy_com]

I had to give up after 5 kids and 16 years. She wanted me to fix all my problems and tried to force me to, but wouldn't even acknowledge any of her own. I was on the brink. The second it was over, I felt such relief. But it's hard, especially with kids. Be a great dad to them!

[@Hairyderriere]

All good points. And fair. I stand by my decision to divorce but also take responsibility for giving my power away. I'm learning why I did that, so I never do it again. That said, I experienced the most awful behaviour over the years. Truth is, I should have never returned when I first left 25 years ago. But I know why my vulnerabilities allowed me to be pulled back in. Not going to let that happen again.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@jusbe47, I appreciate your comment. Good for you to learn from your experience to understand what happened so as not to let it happen again.

[@Hairyderriere]

@thehappywifeschool Thanks. I feel it's the only way. I didn't know what to do about it all until a therapist encouraged me to forgive myself for not knowing what to do. How could I know? That is making space in me to let responsibility back in and has started me on my deeper journey of embracing all the hurt parts of me. There are many. It will take time. But rebuilding my masculinity into something I can be proud of is the goal.

[@akhenatonmarcano3703]

​@@HairyderriereReally love this comment. That is the only way to "win" when all is said and done

[@gilgamecha]

For all the insight in these videos there is no understanding that marriage is objectively stupid for a man. It's like putting your head in a crocodile's jaws. No amount of "positive thinking" is going to make that a smart move.

[@tonyscott4333]

You never hear anyone tell a woman to stay in an abusive relationship, but yet this woman is telling you that maybe you shouldn’t leave an abusive relationship. You should leave an abusive relationship.

[@JonathanTodd-og7dd]

Exactly. And not all women are like this. Their are 20 percent of marriages in which they are happy and not abusive, women who take care of their man, have exciting and fulfilling sex lives, communicate, don't emasculate, and love with all their being.

[@doug-low-carb]

Abusers of any gender work to isolate their victims to make it hard to leave. Once children are born it can become impossible. It took me almost 5 years to get over topics like "hate the sin, love the sinner" and "I'm a guy. Guys fix stuff". All resources including friends were long gone. Or so it seemed. It took me a year to prepare my escape. And yes, until my ex drunk dialed my parents and apologized for beating the crap out of me, they pressured me to stay.

[@Xinkgs]

Absolutely

[@bgrego88]

Women only speak to men in regards to her receiving benefits from you or women receiving benefits from you. NEVER in a man's interest don't trust these snakes

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your comment. It is never that simple for good men. "Stop trying to change reality by attempting to eliminate complexity." - David Whyte

[@Ja50nkAt]

"You didn't marry the wrong woman, you married a woman" that hits home.😅 If I never get married though, I don't have to accept or potentially impacted by unfair consequences of divorce 🤔

[@Sir_Viver]

At 1:17 Common yes, but not normal. Unfortunately, selfishness and lack of accountability in women, because they are so common, have become "normalized".

[@ronp267]

This is certainly a tough topic. I like that you say that all women are similar, and changing women will usually result in the same issues. Especially if we do not look at our own short comings and failures, and grow/mature. As a Christian, restoration of relationships should be our number one goal. As we age our family and children are our greatest value. I have found that I have no skills in resolving conflict, and a very passive personality. Being married was not a safe place for me. I own my decision to leave, and would rather be alone than in an unhappy relationship.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@ronp267, thank you for sharing your experience. Good for you to have the courage to leave your marriage, knowing it was not a safe place for you.

[@racebannon96]

Getting out and staying out of toxic relationships is a priority for me to maintain my sanity. There are a lot of miserable people that will make it their mission in life to destroy everything that is important to you, including your wife/ex-wife. I was one of the fortunate dads when the wife abandoned us, she left our kids with me. When her affair partner wasn’t working out, she tried to come back. I got the divorce done as quickly as possible. Good luck to you.

[@jimjohnson394]

That is true about being in "camp victim" about red pill content. I suppose that is what the black pill is about. The victimhood mindset is so pervasive today that it is really stopping most people from improving the situation we are in. Even if things are unfair, we need to do our best to work around it, and then fight against the injustices.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@jimjohnson394, thank you for your comment. "Even if things are unfair, we need to do our best to work around it, and then fight against the injustices." - Well said.

[@crabmanrockefeller9117]

These are the reasons young high value men - the engineers I work with - are getting vasectomies and not getting married. It's the highest percentage I have ever seen. Married in 1983 and still married. Kids and Grandkids. Would I do it again - hummm - not knowing what I know now and having seen what I have seen. Fewer and fewer of the divorced guys are even looking for a second wife. It is what it is. I also think the 50 plus year old ladies are the most unhappy in my lifetime. Constantly not happy and cannot find a man that will take them seriously in a relationship. The guys go golfing fishing and hunting at will once single with grown kids. Thank goodness this state did away with permanent alimony.

[@mikelp72]

Growing up in church we boys were told to wait until marriage for sex. So I did. But once married, sex is rare and a chore for the wife. 21 years in, I have no answers.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Prepare your exit, and cut your losses.

[@Jireh_woolridge777]

I thought I was alone 🙌🏾🙋🏽‍♂️😭💔

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

You're not alone! You're loved! Listen to Karyn. She can't change most women because most women don't listen to her but she can change what you think and how you feel!

[@Dee-th4mr]

Not alone by far! I used to think that too

[@Jireh_woolridge777]

I appreciate you all! 🤎💪🏿🙌🏾

[@racebannon96]

There are plenty of men that are currently or have been in the same position as you. Take care of yourself. Reading Psalms was a big support item that helped me through difficult times when I was alone.

[@drumsnbass]

You don’t start a business and end up paying forever if it fails

[@chanceem371]

Right. Taking risks should be based on gaining a potential beneficial payoff that is greater than the potential losses and negative outcomes. Marriage does not fit that criterion at all. You are guaranteed to suffer and not receive the expected payoff if you marry. Your odds are far worse than playing slots in Vegas.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

Some have no conscience. Drives one to tears.

[@anthonytorres4725]

Maybe one day, my ex of 4 months will listen to this video and take it to heart. She is the one who filed.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

I hope she does but probably won't, I talked TO my wife for years, it was wasted effort, after 30 years it finally broke me, I filed to save myself, now she plays the victim and I'm the bad guy, SHOCKING 🙄

[@duhg6059]

She wont.. never let her see it hurt you.. smile in the face of evil

[@downtostandup]

4 months. You won't fully heal until right around the three year mark. Then everything will be clearer. I won't say it will be easy but magically the pain goes away, I promise

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

i’m approaching 2.5 years. i do feel the weight lifting.

[@joejones4296]

A man can have strength and confidence, and maybe his wife cannot emasculate him, but she can sure divorce him. Mine did just that after 32 years of marriage. Accused me of being "violent and abusive" under oath. My experience lines up with what you teach. My ex stayed in "Camp Victim". It was and is devastating. I'm having to start over at 60.

[@franksauer6329]

I have been listening for while. The light bulb finally went off on “Camp take responsibility”. I’m 77, in my second marriage (30 years and counting) first marriage was 25 years (she was a serial cheater). Both have been almost entirely sexless. Your listing of “Woman’s Dynamics” is an eye-opener; finally saw her behavior in a new perspective. She is a Good Woman, as I am a good man. The sexlessness initially happened due to illness but continued due to her relationship history as seen as Camp victim. I am not getting a divorce-she is a good woman, gave me a step daughter (I, her mother, and, most importantly,she, see herself as my daughter) that now has become a family with grandchildren. I married the right woman, who gave me all that , and never cheated! I now have a “track to run on” to deal with this from a Camp take responsibility perspective for her consideration. THANK YOU for this and for giving me hope!

[@franksauer6329]

Another thought-How would you describe a “Good Woman”?

[@smokingcrab2290]

My buddy just told me today that his girl left him and took his son. Why? Because she believes she needs to work instead of stay at home and be a mom. He didn't agree with this. So she took their son and left to go be with her parents 15 hours away so she can get a job while saying she "needed a better support system".. All while simultaneously destroying the greatest support system she ever had. And this guy makes plenty of money to support them.

[@NateWilliams-h8q]

Men sacrifice their happiness for their families. Women sacrifice their families for their happiness.

[@meekoosh]

Sounds like a made up excuse. She wanted out

[@lanejensen455]

I've been watching all the videos. I have become aware of what was happening in my marriage. I began to take responsibility and stand up for myself. To disengage from the manipulations. I made know my feelings of emasculation to my wife. I held off sharing the videos but realized I may not have another chance. As she had pulled away all affection for or 7 months. I was crying inside. I decided it was time to share the videos and Laura Schlessinger's book on husbands. They're was a denial of these attributes and actions weren't related to her. Although she agreed she was emasculating. Weeks went by and I was served a "order of protection" and a smear campaign being of me. I've tried in everyway to reach my wife hold her accountable build up my masculinity and not engage. This order has cut me off from all communications. I'm left with no alternative.

[@joejones4296]

I'm sorry. Your story is very common. Stay strong.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Bless you.

[@frankwhite1928]

My first wife after many years of marriage decided (probably counseled by someone) to suddenly stop contributing her paycheck into joint account. After having bought a house for us to live in, a new car for her to drive because she went thru the used ones I bought for her like toilet paper. (all the money I earned went pay bills, no gambling, drinking, smoking, drugs) It was the 2X4 that broke the camels back. When I left her for an adult, she changed her mind, too late !!! I have no regrets, my second and third wives did not have this problem to the degree my first did. The second marriage was dissolved on a moral issue, we got along fine.

[@balticstain7150]

My wife has forgotten what the meaning of marriage is about still...

[@timjackson7734]

LEAVE, SIR, LEAVE

[@OldCanadianguy953]

True story. Divorce is right when your wife gets things really messed up with the family dog as well as wanting to take off to join a cult because she “plays on the other side” now. 🤦‍♂️

[@Cedartreetechnologies]

Thanks for that perspective. Believe it or not, this red pill realization has helped me to stay with my model. It also helped to realize that marriage is an institution of great benefit to even grown children. Also to larger society.

[@christys.3912]

Yea too bad most marriages fail.

[@jamescrabtree5778]

90 percent of men do Not make "THE CHOICE" to seek a divorce ! Women Initiate a large majority of divorce filings ! Men will take the time to discuss the challenges of marriage and the female partner agrees with you, just to not have to agree that there are minor problems. So, the choice is usually made by the Wife , Not the husband. I have never heard of a wife filing for divorce until she thinks she has a replacement waiting in the wings !

[@xyzct]

Karyn, consider doing an episode on Coach Greg Adams' _Marriage Wheel._ It's as brilliant as it is profound, and I suspect your audience would benefit greatly from your thoughts on it.

[@loverofgolf]

Karyn has opened the eyes of more husbands than she can ever imagine.

[@saintoflastresorts2272]

Lol no one runs away from women. Men have lived happily in solitud for ages.

[@rogerwalker3969]

You always have good content, thanks for posting.

[@1gramps4julian]

Have to disagree somewhat with your premise. I married a cantonese/mongolian princess who grew up in a prison camp for seven years... her father was the king of a border country in the Himelayas. (I should have paid more attention to that consideration than how beautiful she was) at 24, I wasn't conscious of the ramifications...

[@flybywire1799]

And what happened?

[@1gramps4julian]

@@flybywire1799 details are not for public discussion.

[@saltomanga]

That one sounds a little written on the wall but yea

[@1gramps4julian]

@@saltomanga yeah, when yer young and dumb ya think love conquers all... NOPE!

[@canelareina3795]

What premise are you disagreeing with? What is wrong.with it?

[@Englishwithteacher-wj3ct]

A lot of us are just walking away from the game because we don't want to have to fight every day

[@craigpeacock1903]

You have basically talked me out of marriage. Why would I invite a woman into my life if none of you are integrous and honest

[@geography_guy335]

I think that abusive(verbal, emotional, physical) women fall outside this spectrum. They are very good at hiding it until after they say "I do". Those types of women were always the wrong woman.

[@racebannon96]

Men are rolling the dice when they get married. It is not worth the risk.

[@M5guitar1]

My wife just spent $6000 on her new bed, since we are apart within the same house. There was no prior discussion with me, but this crossed the line. She's nuts.

[@felsiejones2299]

This is liberating content. Lost a lot of years being uninformed

[@meirweiss3523]

Wow she is spot on

[@Truth-is-King]

Thank you so much for these truthful messages dear sister

[@jorgealicea2088]

Hi teacher. I agree about the similarities of most good women. The difference is how they respond to a man's leadership. That could make a huge difference.

[@milesdragicevic6256]

You are such a good woman wish my X had worked on herself such as you did

[@virtual-viking]

Consideration #4: Is it cheaper to keep her?

[@meekoosh]

No because you’ll end up dead from stress

[@roberthibbs1898]

Karen, I have been watching and listening to you for several months now, While I agree with a lot of what you say I relay disagree with you on some of your points that you make consistently. I am not aware of how many women you have been married to or divorced from. I am a 60 year old man who lives in Dumas Texas. I am twice divorced, I was engaged to one in between the marriages. I have been divorced for 7 years or so. Last year I met a lady who I plan to marry in September. All 4 of these women are unique human beings beyond there biological female traits. For 23 years I was married to a hell cat who you describe in great detail, but she refused to do any thing around the house and was very verbal abusive to all three kids and me. All of our adult children still have issues from being raids in that household. I did resist the "emasculation" our entire relationship, that only let to verbal and physical abuse on both sides. I thought that I was staying for the good of the kid but that was a huge mistake for every one. I did marry the wrong woman. Telling men or women that they did not marry the wrong person could lead to a death of a child or a spouse. It is absolutely true that GOD designed women with the traits to accomplish his goals for them, just like he designed Men with the traits to accomplish the goals he had for us. To that extent you can correctly state that all women have some similar traits, so do men that is by Gods design and how we are meant to survive, we compliment each other. But no man or woman is perfect and we both contribute to the success of a good relationship. We can both do harm the the relationship. I am nothing but an old redneck hillbilly trying to get by, nothing for credentials except the school of hard knocks. If I were going to try to state what I think you are trying to tell us it would be similar to this. We as men and women were natural designed to compliment each other, care for each other and take care of responsibilities assigned by GOD. The very fact that we are designed to handle our own tasks demands that we have a different view point, one that the other side does not and can not understand. Other wise GOD would not have a use for both men and woman. I promise you that I see the "Woman ways in my Fiancee" I find value in it, I find comfort in it, I feel safe in it as the Lord intended. She sees the same in my MAN Ways. If we have a problem we discuss it and work it out. This will never be a "Women's fault" or a "Mans Fault" Cause then your saying God's design is flawed and it is his fault. The problems are generality the combined fault of two less than perfect human beings, who would do better by listening to GOD which I understand but fail at miserably. I very much appreciate your work and your diligent effort to make a better life for all of us. Thank you Robert D Hibbs

[@christys.3912]

I have to agree! If both are under God's authority the way he intended, a marriage can work. Sometimes even if one is, the rest will fall into place. People run into problems when they are u equally yoked, but even then God can work all things for the good of those who love Him! Thank you for admitting we are all broken and all have faults. Both male and female need to be willing to see their flaws and work on them though.

[@LuisGuzman-f4m]

Ive been debating this for years ! With covert narcissistic! Married wrong women

[@JohnnyDiamondHands2077]

So youre essentially saying all women are the same….I seriously doubt that. Id accept most women are the same but not all. What if i said a woman didn’t marry the wrong husband she married a man… but her particular man was a serial killer or a molester or an abuser, so all men are the same, you see how that statement is fallible. Some DO marry the WRONG woman, and they realize that with the 2nd wife. If we all had an equal success rate in marriage as everyone else the divorce rate would be alot lower, some men are corrupted, some women are selfish, its essentially rolling the dice on marriage because we never truly know who they really are inside until after we have lived with them for a good while. All women are not the same, all men are not the same.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

fellas, it’s not your job to make her happy but rather keep her from becoming unhappy. that is an impossible task when they won’t communicate. eventually they “shutdown” and the shrewdness emerges. when the first sign of gaslighting occurs consult an attorney. line up your ducks for what could be the inevitable. i’m not saying that you should not try to salvage your marriage but run both plans simultaneously. in hindsight, i wish i could have seen it coming.

[@nineteeneightyfour3680]

I tried for 34 years and it never did anything but get worse. We are retiring in six months and then we begin the sad difficult journey of the guy loosing his ass but the misery will finally come to an end. She ruined our kids with never making them work then spending $200k so they could go to Belmont and make them not only victims but entitled to what we went to college 12 years for then worked 80 hours a week to succeed and now it’s all about to be split but i don’t want anymore of it. I feel stupid for thinking it would get better and I just had to keep hoping. Truth is it only got worse every year so aside from the fact that I will get skinner by the feminist soros judge who hates men particularly if she finds out they are not democrats so I might be living in a dumpster when it’s over but it’s well past time and i am already a fool for staying as long as I did. Wish me luck and anyone else who knows that it’s the only option, my prayer are with you.

[@Texas2Step79]

Ive got to do something ive busted my ass with no avail.... but i cant continue a no sex no touch marriage any longer ... if that sounds selfish youve never had to experience it...

[@Dee-th4mr]

I agree wholeheartedly. I’ve been told I’m being selfish but no one knows unless you feel it.

[@malcolmplanet100]

There are women who cheat and women who don’t cheat, so there are different women out there who can make or break a marriage/relationship.

[@jasoncarter4343]

Getting divorced and marrying another woman certainly benefited me. My first wife behaved like an absolute monster, so the bar wasn’t set real high.

[@tablatejr2010]

Dang!!! All facts!!! Thanks

[@AndrewPierce-t1i]

It's a heavy message to hear as a man. And I confess, I don't know if I'm worthy to be in a relationship given the shoes I have to fill as a man.

[@HeavyK.]

So ... what about getting married?

[@chanceem371]

Don't. It's a trap door that will dump you straight into Hell.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Message to all men ;-) NEVER marry, so you avoid divorce.

[@PlunderAndPillage]

I am so lost.I feel so alone. My wife and I have been married for 23 years. We have had the same argument for the entire marriage. I love her so much. I work 2 jobs. I am not abusive. I do not drink. I do not use drugs. I do not ask anything of her out side of the bedroom. I want a healthy, abundant, rewarding, adventurous sex life. She just doesn't care. She is so passive. It's like the words I say are never heard. They never turn into action on her end. I work my butt off to give our family what we need and want. I only want one area of my life to be my way. Is that wrong? Is that bad? I have gotten to the point where I feel hopeless. It's like the only logical thing I can do is to not be here anymore.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Dear P&P. You deserve a good sex life. She is withholding and knows that damn well. Tell her to go to the doctor, DEMAND she goes to a doctor to examine if there is sexually something wrong with her. That is step 1. First wake-up call.

[@PlunderAndPillage]

@@Billy-the-Kid thank you. So much

[@Billy-the-Kid]

@@PlunderAndPillage Hello my fellow man. You are welcome. Tbh, it's man up time for you. You probably have starfish service now, if any at all. If you complain about it, she 'feels' you are needy and even get less respect from her. Stop being needy. Go to the spare room and tell her in her face you will look for a side piece.

[@davebrucher5550]

Story of mine is similar, please do not wait another 20 years of suffering in silence, resentment, anger and despair that nothing will ever change. Even the thought of splitting the wealth and property seems easier than another waste of a year of your short life.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

@@davebrucher5550 Yours is withholding too? On purpose?

[@aperspective2170]

How does this woman even exist? ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@paulthobe3489]

1000%.

[@taylormullins3820]

I told me wife yesterday we are basically not even in a relationship we just live in the same house.

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

I made my fiancée two promises 1 you will never do with out or be cheated on I will treat you fair no drama or demands just do my job as a husband 2. If you ever disrespect me or get stupid enough to call me out your gone immediately dumped thrown away...well I divorced her because i keep my commitments play stupid games win stupid prizes no second chances she got exactly what i promised her and yes it hurt me beyond anything i have ever been through because i loved her more than anyone but God himself

[@timothydye1316]

Dated a divorcee. Jesus Christ could not please her.

[@oukastoukast]

I think she got this part wrong. "You did not marry the wrong woman. You married a woman" Not all women are like this. Just the majority of them.

[@taidbendigedig8690]

Wait, wait, wait…perhaps everything you said in this video just blew past me. I have watched some of your other videos and got the impression that the craziness was not a good husband’s fault. It was womanly ways. Now it is the husband’s fault because he is too stupid…ah, inept…um, inexperienced….to know how to control his wife’s womanly ways. It always comes back to the husband’s fault…. Just sayin.’

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

Try to "control" your histrionic and psychotic wife and she will call the cops, level false charges, and your life is ruined. Men have no power or authority in their own family anymore and therein lies the problem.

[@bgrego88]

Why do we have to "handle a situation?"

[@addressingtheelephant]

I love your stuff, but I want to share a disagreement here. There *are* women that can hold themselves accountable to a man and say "I'm sorry" to a man when she actually did something wrong. I have yet to meet one, but that's probably because men like me (and probably those following you) like women that show weakness, either in stature, build or circumstance. In my view, issues of accountability often stem more from dynamics of power rather than gender. For example, when someone feels physically smaller or weaker than the person they've wronged, they might resort to various coping mechanisms, similar to how a person (even men) become evasive when questioned by a police officer about speeding. Also, these women you speak of, also are attracted to men that are taller and stronger than they are, because that gives them space to persist in a child-like state of mind without ever needing to take responsibility for their life. It's just part of the weird dynamic we've created in our species. It's woefully incompatible with modernity of course. And that's why I've started a series on "enlightened relationships" because I believe that's the only path forward for monogamy in modernity. I personally love women just as they are. But maintaining traditional relational dynamics might be more feasible in a different societal structure, perhaps akin to living in small tribes without the complexities introduced by modern technology and social media. Consequently, I've chosen to remain single, as the legal and social risks involved in relationships today seem disproportionate to the benefits, especially without substantial personal wealth. This decision reflects my view that, increasingly, romantic involvement may become a privilege primarily accessible to the wealthy.

[@A_W2016_love]

I apologize to my husband when I’m wrong. But maybe this is because I don’t see myself as better than him but as a human growing with him and if I’m wrong he needs me to acknowledge it and he should do the same. We tend to mirror each other especially if we find the other person attractive and want to grow into that type of person. For me someone who is honourable is much more attractive then someone who things playing the bad boy persona is attractive which is taught by movies.

[@chanceem371]

@@A_W2016_love Holy crap! Bro, I found a unicorn! No, really.....at least she sounds like one. But she's married...of course.

[@addressingtheelephant]

@@A_W2016_love Yep, like I said, women like you are out there and they are special. Chances are you have a good and enlightened man too

[@A_W2016_love]

@@addressingtheelephant could it be I was brought with brothers and understand guys more then females… either way thx for the compliment It’s appreciated. No wonder I don’t have many female friends 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@addressingtheelephant]

@@A_W2016_love hah! :) lack of female friends is an unfortunate (or perhaps fortunate in these times) side effect. Growing up with brothers helps but only if you're not the oldest. I'm assuming you have at least one older brother? If you are the oldest of the bunch, that would really surprise me unless it's only by 1 year. I think the best predictor of women becoming like you is them having a positive view of their father (or older male role model like an older brother) and furthermore one that was not emasculated by the mother. Daughters of such families are the gems of our society I believe.

[@purplesprigs]

Ecclesiasticus 25:24 "Of the woman came the beginning of sin, and through her we all die."

[@unquiche]

I wouldn’t be looking for a replacement / new / better wife after divorce. I’d be looking to spend my remaining years in blissful solitude - no incompatible ideals or politics, no psychotic double standards, no spiteful whoopsie “helpful wife” behaviors, no listening to the passive aggressive sighing and stomping around.

[@TuerlingsTim]

The point is that when only negative energy giving and not good give any positive energy back, better find peace because it’s not worth. Recover first before next relationship, the behavior of lot of ladies are the same. Better lonely that experience only negative energy and being a prisoner 😉

[@A_W2016_love]

I have to comment on that sign in the back. My husband can make me unhappy, and I could make him unhappy too. 🤣 if I don’t give him S3X he’ll be unhappy and find happiness else where, then I’ll be unhappy cuz he couldn’t express his feelings. P.s. that’s not my actual life I’m just saying I hear a lot of those stories.

[@ivanfontaine8855]

Only married 1 time.But she had kids already.Women have alot of the same traits yes.Add kids and all bets are off.I was used for a bank account for her youngest.Finally walked away after 17 years of lying and secrets.

[@jstrct]

I was not gonna say anything, but... I was a little shaken up that I waited a month for our consultation only for you to cancel an hour before. I get you wanted to value our time and that I needed a real therapist because my wife and I argue alot. It would have been better if at the very least been told that in person.. I just felt like a number.. I watch a lot of your stuff and I agree. You're not like most therapists. It felt like I could have gotten some real help here, so it was kind of a letdown to not have a resource to go to after being rejected for a consultation..

[@taidbendigedig8690]

I have no idea how to deal with womanly ways.

[@zeroexea]

Is it just me or does it feel like she's telling everyone to get married anyway even if you know it's a bad idea and then to just be a man about it and take on all that suffering because it's yours and your responsible

[@canelareina3795]

She was condonung divorce in this video.

[@zeroexea]

@@canelareina3795 So she's saying You should just suffer okay close enough

[@canelareina3795]

Okay, yeah I see your point. Other red pill channels say be a promiscuous bad boy with no children or stay away from women (monk mode or pork bub) She's saying leave your wife, but you wont find better. Or you could stay, and don't take it personal when she treats you bad.

[@zeroexea]

@@canelareina3795 Fair things to say but not solutions of much

[@canelareina3795]

@@zeroexea Passport Bros. Date for marriage from day one. Dont go to to Timbucktoo and date casually.. There were plenty of hootchies at home. Look in traditional subcultures in your own country. Again, dating for marriage from day one. Not hooking up with the few floozies in the subculture.

[@yolandawestbrook8240]

Aaww, I love to see how much men love their wives.

[@cookster155]

Please tell me what a good woman is ? you define a good man and bad boy's........no hymen no diamond..........

[@tridentstacking]

Same fate as the doe doe bird

[@scottm8879]

Yeah I want to run away from women and will never attempt a relationship again. About that she is wrong. That much I have learned from my past

[@CruceEntertainment]

Bratty, b-tchy; bossy…. gotta check it

[@paulofurtado4925]

No it doesnt, its always the mens fault.

[@sjmccafferey4437]

Never take advice from divorced women.

[@InstigatingInsulator]

Yeah or hang out with other divorced women unfortunately mines at a cabin with two?? Going fishing never heard any of them talk about fishing in 18 years!… I’m taking it I’m fukd but going back to work after next week for who knows how long best stretch was 6 weeks hopefully I can break my record

[@williambarber2523]

Hopefully you understand that there's just as many bad men as there is bad women.

[@davegayaldo]

don’t agree with you completely

[@yesterdayseyes]

Do you really think ALL women are like you? We are not. Speak for yourself. I'm good to my husband. He's excited to come home to me every day. Not everything is "oN a sPectrUm" duuuur 😂

[@SarahR-yl2ts]

Why listen to someone who has no training or certificates. fraud!

[@JamesPetroff]

Man up. Don't be a little boy and cry for yourself. Be strong and act without fear. Life doesn't reward cowards. Find a woman who will honor you, as you honor her.

[@RPMentorTokyoChannel]

This isn't going to motivate the men watching this.

[@gilgamecha]

You will find that woman next to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. In other words - repeating the same thing and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity.

[@garrett621]

Mr. Motivational Speaker.

[@chanceem371]

LOL!!! Yeah ok, hotshot. Tell us all about your unicorn.

[@NateWilliams-h8q]

There's always one blue pilled simp in the comments 🤣