The #1 Toxic Trait Women Have in Relationships with Men

[@kbruff2010]

A society that doesn't distribute accountability fairly is the root cause of this selfish behavior.

[@bigwill9421]

💯🎯‼️

[@Hurtzilla]

Powerful!

[@reekinronald6776]

Exactly, since the birth of Feminism, women have being getting Rights while avoiding Responsibility. This happened right at the beginning when they got the vote. The common man got the vote in exchange for conscription. Women got the vote....just because. It's been the same story since then.

[@DangerousFacts48]

Yaass queen slay

[@imonit4272]

A society that doesn’t promote VIRTUE is the root cause of this selfish behavior. No non-virtuous vvoman can ever practice accountability…she’s already wrecked. Besides, she’ll never respect any man foolish/weak/pathetic enough to take her seriously after she’s stained herself with Alpha Chad/Tyrone’s semen. No amount of accountability can fix that paradox. Accountability is damage control…it’s already too late.

[@TheHighwinder]

You can rub a woman's nose in the evidence/consequences of her own behavior, even explaining the concepts of right and wrong to her like she's a child, and she'll STILL deny everything and refuse accountability. This is the answer to "Where have all the good men gone?" when they hit the wall.

[@watchmanonthewall14]

Bam!

[@georgeelder8415]

Yeah man. They hit the wall, we ran the other way...

[@LastRebel1978]

We just stopped because there was a wall and thought about ways around or over. Unfortunately no one bust a scared person walls down man’s or woman’s. Something someone has to see for self and just unlock and open the door but they lost the key many years ago

[@nicknicholson2465]

Yep!

[@leemorrison7113]

Accountability is like kryptonite to them

[@davidm4566]

If we as parents raise daughters to be little princesses who can do anything, without giving them chores and responsibilities, we are preparing then to become self-centered, entitled adults. Especially if we blame others when they misbehave and don't properly discipline them.

[@ThatWeirdLady2519]

I think you have hit the root cause of the issue and fathers have a big part in that.

[@JimmyCapricorn77]

My sister was raised with a princess attitude and she’s a butthead to her husband and everyone else. She always plays victim and has no accountability for her actions. It’s always everyone else’s fault for everything. My parents wonder why she’s so awful but it’s one of those geez I wonder why mom and dad moments.

[@fredcavalcante1887]

Exactly! Most fathers are partially guilty of the terrible women's behavior that we see. Educate your daughters to have good values, such as justice, honesty, logic, empathy, accountability and courage!

[@justineyu8317]

amen to that

[@davidm4566]

@@ThatWeirdLady2519 Oh, fathers have a huge part in raising this type of women. Even if just by inaction or allowing it to happen.

[@simonswamy688]

Staying away from women who are toxic is a blessing to your body,mind and soul 🙏

[@christopherclyde7791]

..and that's a fact... I never had gray hairs... the moment I went into a toxic relationship, the right side of my head ..started displaying gray hair.... I kidd you not.

[@markhicks7171]

​@@christopherclyde7791no bp issues no shingles until I married Cruella

[@susanhaines7358]

Absolutely

[@Ess_Bee56]

Easier said than done 😏

[@MGWGuitars]

So, stay away from 99% of them...

[@gerrymcquagge4986]

Many years ago a grandmother enjoyed taking her grandchildren camping on the weekends, so they could enjoy the outdoors and bond together. She stated she had to stop taking the girls...only the boys. She described how the girls always created drama and made the experience unpleasant. She only take the boys now...amazing to hear such from a grandmother.

[@nerychristian]

Bingo. Women are evil by nature. Even as a child, you can see how girls will always act like spoiled brats.

[@thomaspepper2201]

That is a very daming comment, and it comes from a Grandma, I'm sold, got it, my friend.

[@pescatoralpursuit1726]

To what extent did Grandma go to reach the kids and help set them straight?

[@nerychristian]

@@pescatoralpursuit1726 What does it matter to you? She was the chaperone. She can decide who she wants to take.

[@pescatoralpursuit1726]

@@nerychristian What does mattering to me matter to you?

[@mafp22w]

Coming up on 30 years in marriage. This is the number one thing that has hurt our marriage. The minute my wife started hiding feelings from me was the minute our sex life stopped. It is impossible to be one flesh with one that has cut you off emotionally.

[@mikey92362]

Oh man I feel that! I never wanted sex with my ex because I could feel that she just wanted physical validation. She never wanted to be with me specifically. To her, I was basically no different than any plastic sex toy in the nightstand drawer.

[@SlimTortoise]

Same here, I think she has lost big time,, but she is to selfish to admit it.

[@TheHighwinder]

Emotional and physical cutoffs like that don't happen out of the blue. There's a reason, so begin your investigation. Don't listen to a single excuse unless you get one form her doctor - because it's a 90% chance there's another man in the picture. Look for extra burner phones hidden in cars, closets, and offices. Long trips to the bathroom that don't make sense, etc. Test her with "open social media account inspection" polices, see if she reacts. Believe it or not, the shocking statistic is that the ages most associated with cheating are 55-to-70, something nobody would have ever guessed. Even worse is that it's almost always the woman who steps out at these ages.

[@BreezeeGreenz]

How are you handling it? Still dead bedroom?

[@rayrwyr]

The Wall Theory is BS. Never take relationship advice from women. You only will get BS. Women are slaves to feelings/emotions. The same women who are heartless to their husbands become completely vulnerable and pouring their hearts out for their exciting Chads (affair partners). Women crave turmoil, drama, excitement, thrills. They like getting their hearts broken to pieces repeatedly. They can't get enough of that. That's why they keep going back to get pounded by the bad boys, the heartless criminals with neck tattoos who shows no respect, the lying bums low-lifes. But the same women put nice stable boring guys on the friend-zone until these women are all used-up and discarded by the bad boys.

[@SlimTortoise]

After 5 years of trying with my wife, I have now given up, I don't see my happiness going forward making her happy as I use too anymore, all I want is to be left alone and so long as she leaves me alone then I'm happy, I don't care if she is there or not, in fact if we are apart I feel my heart rate raise and a feeling of freedom. That is what 5 years of coldness does to a man, Sometimes what you sow is what you reap.

[@BreezeeGreenz]

Sorry to hear that. Sad stuff.

[@j.p.5716]

If no kids are involved then dump her. You don't have a marriage, you have a prison sentance.

[@Your_Dad_CO]

Sir, I feel your pain, but in my experience you have to face her. Forgive yourself and her and press forward into this. She's only going to become increasingly lonely and cheat or divorce you and take half of what you worked for. I get it if you're not a fan of confrontation, but you need to stand up and face it. Do the shadow work journal or something similar and improve who you are and then confront her or at least call her out. Use mediation if you have to, but at some point, she's got to face who she is and, honestly, it your job as her husband to do that. She'll likely get mad and fight, but if you come from a position of authority and love being willing to show your emotions, she'll come around eventually. It may require a separation for her to really figure it out, but she's got to be held accountable and you're not doing that.

[@uknowamsaying]

@@Your_Dad_CO I feel sorry for you, mate. You will take, tolerate, soak in and absorb a lot just to remain married. @SlimTortoise, please ignore this advice. What you need to do is start strategising how to hide your assets over the next two to three years (especially get it outside the West), so she can never take half. Don't let her have a clue what you are doing. Leave her and go find your happiness. I can 85% guarantee you that no "talking to her will achieve anything", most women are generally incapable of: 1) Accountability 2) Giving a hoot about a man's challenges, worries and problems when they have fallen out of love with them 3) Thinking the inferior/lower value/contribution they are contributing is equal (or even better) than what a man does for them 4) Not being selfish and self-centred 5) Not being delusional 6) Not seeing themselves as the "victim" 7) Not feeling entitled and getting annoyed when you don't deliver "their entitlement" If the situation has gotten to the level you described, I can guarantee you that a) She does not respect you; and women can NEVER love a man they don't respect b) You will never regain the respect back; she is just tolerating you now c) She is now fully immersed in her selfishness and it will be in auto-pilot; and she would cheat soon or is already cheating because she feels "you are failed her", so it is "your fault" if she cheats

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

I understand this. "I'm a broken soul"

[@MOONBASE_Stereo_Side_Touchdown]

Hi. I'm 1 of billions of men, who are verbally and physically abused by our unaccountable and "no remorse" wives. You're vids are very encouraging and brings new hope for men, shedding light on female lunacy when it comes to men. Thanks on behalf of all men for your efforts. It's refreshing to have it translated into "womenspeak" and "womanese" to any women who aspires to be a successful wife and can't grasp why men don't want them or regard them as wife potential..

[@ez-g3090]

Don't put up with that snotty sk@nk. Get rid of her.

[@georgeelder8415]

If we, as men, were to even consider a lifelong commitment with today's women, not only would a credit and background check be required, but a psych evaluation...

[@kurtvanluven9351]

Couldn't have put it better. ^like he said!

[@deadislander]

exactly what this comment said^^ I was raised by women, my walls are down I'm an incredible partner because of that. but that also primed me for narcissistic abuse from women which I didn't know was real or possible or a thing at all. they'll have you feeling sorry for them from day one so that you never question the relational boundaries they cross almost daily.

[@gturcott1]

And you stay!

[@Flotsam7jetsam]

We teach men: Do what's right. We teach women: Do what's right ... for you.

[@j.p.5716]

More like: Do what FEELS right... to you.

[@dukewilliam3660]

Do what you feel.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

Men have been selfish since the beginning of time. Get over it

[@ericbibeau5631]

Shit way too true. Should be illegal.

[@micahwoolfolk4020]

No lies told today

[@steveos5112]

Isn't it a complete mystery that women (most women) can not look inwards and figure out how to fix this. Yet we have magazine articles after magazine article, talk shows after talk shows over the decades and women REFUSE to look at the real issue. Amazing isn't it?

[@kbruff2010]

That's is by design - exempt from ownership and self-reflection

[@jonlately2668]

Ha ha. Yes. Even when you tell them plainly.

[@davidm4566]

Tailor Swift has a song called Antihero with lyrics where she says that she would rather stare at the sun than look in the mirror.

[@ECO473]

Notice the OP has NOTHING to say about this in response. I think she's completely disingenuous.

[@hawkeyeted]

Magazine articles and TV shows show women how to shift accountability. They use terms like "toxic masculinity" to dodge their own toxicity.

[@worldcitizen242]

These are conversations women need to have with each other. Thought about sharing this with my wife, but I know it's a waste of time. I've been focusing on myself lately and planning my exit strategy.

[@Slim_Charles]

You’re absolutely right. So many women choose to view men as a gender as their adversaries, and so anything we say, no matter how true or well-intentioned, they will reject and counter on principle without even taking the time to consider the truth in it. Doesn’t matter how good the advice is, they’ll disagree and do the opposite simply because it came from a man’s mouth. Maybe their fellow women could get thru to them to show them that even that attitude stems from the heart of their real issues.

[@LosT-rn1ku]

Grow a pair and get out. You don't need the headache dragging you down and killing your dreams. 6-12 months working on yourself and you will be out of her league.

[@Michael_Arnold]

Bitcoin, purchased anonymously, stood me in very good stead in my divorce situation. Jus' sayin'.

[@JRRodriguez-nu7po]

As a general rule, women talking to each other worsens the problem ten fold. This woman here is one of the few that has looked in a mirror. I wonder how many women she has managed to actually changed. The only thing worse than women talking to each other is them talking to anyone in Church. Most, and I mean more than 90% of modern Church is a gynocentric misandric echo chambers whose only goal is to get money from foolish women or by guilt tripping ignorant men. I am a Christian 47 years who reads the Bible in Hebrew and Greek, taught himself as well as Church history, hermeneutics, ect. I am so serious about my theology I can no longer stand to step foot in any Church less than an hour drive away since COVID when the PCA, OPC and SBC went totally woke. I'm starting a home Bible study that night grow into a home Church. I tell you, do NOT trust your pastor or priest. Consider the words if Christ of the leaders of his day. Of course there's exceptions, like John McArthur, but they're rare and getting rarer. Genesis 3 is starting all over again.

[@7ackass]

Become more observant and strategic and keep your third eye open so that you can see everything going on. You will need all of the power you can get and resources in case she has a trick up her sleeve.

[@millyardopeacecraft9778]

Accountability is a woman's kryptonite . PERIOD. Accountability is taking action to correct your wrongs. Not cheap talk of being sorry. Which more time that not women have zero remorse and blame shift as much as possible.

[@imonit4272]

Modern vvoman. VVomen who squander their virtue on Chad & Tyrone’s D’s are lost souls that can never be healed. This has been common knowledge since the dawn of time but we ignore it now. Once a vvoman has pre-marital sex, the rest of her romantic life amounts to nothing more than damage-control, deceit and cover-ups. No hymen, no ring, NO exceptions.

[@axl1002]

You can't keep a monopoly accountable, you lose your kids, friends and your life, because being husband has become your identity.

[@CodyH88]

To your point, it's the definition of "actions speak louder than words". Woman or man, it's a huge problem in today's society. Deflect and ignore.

[@henriqueccruz]

Being sorry, if sincere, shows that she's remorseful. My ex-wife didn't go as far to give me at least that.

[@DL-cd7ew]

I have never heard a woman apologize. Have you?

[@bradleyboyer9979]

No, I have not.

[@Gollumfili]

I have heard them say the word "sorry", but only part of a larger sentence like "aren't you sorry you hurt my feelings?" or "you should say sorry"

[@bobbyjames4300]

It happens but they don’t like doing it. You can see on their face it’s not sincere at all.

[@BradleyBishop]

Nope. I always assumed that they thought it made them weak because only the strong were right all the time. Also, it's tough to get genuine appreciation out of a woman. My wife did it once and you could tell that someone told her to do it and it was one of the most unnatural things (you looked visibly awkward like she felt like she had to say the words but didn't know what they actually meant) I had seen her do. She only did it that one time and it wasn't genuine. We've been divorced for about 20 years now. I don't date. I won't date. I won't ever marry again. I never want to live through that kind of misery, and let's be clear - that's what it was, ever again. I live alone. I have a dog. I own my own house. I do what I want with whom I want and don't take bullshit off others. This is a FAR better life than marriage.

[@barbarabrown9269]

I apologize all the time, even when I don’t mean it! 😊 it’s my husband who has said he’s sorry maybe twice in the entire 50 years of marriage! Not kidding!!!

[@PCProphecy]

When I noticed a woman's wall, the easiest fix was to distance myself from her twice as much. For example, if I pick her up and she shows up moody, DON'T ask questions, that's her responsibility to openly disclose, just drop her off where you found her. If she always meets you at the front door when you arrive at her house and she just unlocks the door or leaves it slightly open and doesn't meet you at the door, just turn around, get back in your car and ghost her for the day, that means no contact (ignore text and calls, and don't go anywhere she knows you might be, cause her next move will be to show up at your house). She'll open up in no time. Then again, don't have relationships with women who aren't ready for a relationship. Women are quite simple. If you notice bad behavior, withdraw your attention.

[@AndrewTannerMusic]

Yup!! Bad behavior gets met with my absence from her…EVERY TIME! I have a zero tolerance for BS, drama, and attitudes. If you can’t discuss things and/or your feelings like a healthy, mature adult, I don’t want anything to do with you…EVER! These women are so conditioned by weak men, they short-circuit when a strong man comes along and doesn’t tolerate her BS. They think we’re being “mean” by us not wanting to be used, abused, manipulated, and discarded. What’s mean about a man’s self-preservation???

[@sofarsogod]

"don't have relationships with women who aren't ready for a relationship. " same goes for men, Ive learnt this the hard way, Im a dude, but I know men do the same shit. This year with my last break up in which for the first time I trully fell in love I realized that this shit is serious business, and you trully want to see both man and woman be trully commited and be 100% sure about the relationship because if there is 1% of doubt in any of the parts then thats a big time issue. I dont want to say Im a big fan of red flags, but my ex gf was very wishy washy about many things from the start, I didnt think it was a big of a deal at first but then after the break up I got to realize she didnt know what she wanted, and I wont deny I was kinda in the same boat. Relationship didnt last and now its over, but Ive learnt a very important life lesson.

[@samuelevander9823]

Great! Thx for the tip. I learned silence to punish cheating women from Alexander Grace video. I started doing it to my ex. Good to know that I potentially have to use it with potential problem women as well.

[@PCProphecy]

@samuelevander9823 Alexander Grace, I find he has decent information, but he won't win you any "bad boy" awards. In my day, we had a guy called "Jason Capital," but he quit giving dating advice and began giving financial advice. To simplify things further, the example above I gave about a woman always doing something for you, in this case she meets you at the door to greet and kiss you. That's a form of intimacy, and if she withdraws any sort of intimacy, then she's likely receiving intimacy else where. Huge red flag. (2) If she's moody or angry and she doesn't want to share why she's upset, it's likely because it has to do with another man that's currently in her life that she can't figure out because he doesn't want to take her serious, the true meaning of, "it's complicated". Yet another red flag. NGL, this will sound harsh and eliminate a lot of modern women, but if you're looking for a wife, know that if she has slept with even ONE guy, she has already been broken into, therfore, she's broken. There is no need to ask for a body count if she's already broken into.

[@samuelevander9823]

@@PCProphecy What about when she acts hot & cold/push & pull throughout the relationship? Also, I don't need any badboy awards. I just want to protect myself against the women who go for badboys & waste my time.

[@MichaelBrown-zp1sf]

My wife can never ever apologize to me.

[@j.p.5716]

That seems to be a theme for all women. Even the ones who can say they are "sorry", are not really sorry for what they have done, (that would require accountability) they are only sorry for the problem it created.

[@JO-uy6zs]

NEVER

[@Utubedeletescomments]

She doesn't respect you

[@mybiz1006]

Don't confuse narcissism with women in general...

[@M-S_4321]

​@@mybiz1006many women fall into the Cluster B Personality Disorders grouping: Antisocial PD Borderline PD Histrionic PD Narcissistic PD

[@bigglyguy8429]

The mother of my daughter was like this, and then blocked access to her when, after a couple of years of trying to get past this wall, I finally left. I was so disgusted with the UK's treatment of father's in that situation - zero rights, just demanding money - that I left and moved to Asia, where I've been happily married for 20 years now. Happy ending - I was able to contact my daughter when she turned 18 and we got on great, so great that after 8 years of emails and SMS, she flew out here to Asia to meet me... And when we met.. the same wall was there. She has the exact same wall around her as her mother, which she couldn't hide in person. I can't describe the pain of it but I give up. I know that wall is impenetrable, so no, I'm not going to hurt myself and waste my life trying to get through it. My real family is here now; time to move on.

[@hari4406]

Give it some time for the daughter. Its probably not walls she put consciously. She just met you. She has not bond with you as she didn't grow up with you. We have to be patient with our kids. They will make mistakes. We have to be patient and guide them correctly and communicate how we feel about things without putting a wall ourselves. Just my opinion. Not accusing you or anything. I hope you stay in touch with your daughter. I hate when kids and parent get estranged. Hopefully you both will be patient with eachother and gradually build a healthy relationship. It won't be easy to do.

[@deplorablemike3349]

That’s some story. Ever think about writing a book ? A lot of people might benefit from it and they say it’s therapeutic.

[@bigglyguy8429]

@@hari4406 Well it's been 8 years...

[@bigglyguy8429]

@@deplorablemike3349 That's a valid and good idea, but I'm a professional writer and it would just feel like more work! I'm not pushing her away, I've just given up making any effort to get past impenetrable barriers. Practically, that means I've quit sending Whatsapp messages and then getting upset when she takes a week or two to bother replying. She's 26 now, so up to her. I can't keep being a dad if she's not being a daughter, so I'll get on with enjoying my own life and quit beating myself up over things I can't control anyway *sad shrug emoji

[@MickeyMishra]

I can attest that there is no reason to bother. The More you reach out, the more she will put up an affront. She already has it in her mind that YOU left her. Even though that was not the case. Its like Public school. Once they are programed? They are not able to walk away from the conditioning. Be glad that you have a daughter. A great life and a Family. As a women? She is born in the very best time to be alive. She has the most power and freedoms of any women in history. A life that only women in the past could dream off. Just the fact that she was born is miraculous since not less than 20 years ago, they were euthanizing Female children at birth. I know its going to sound cold, but in this case? She will always find jealousy and mistrust that you left her mother as that is what has been programed into her head for well over 20 years now. And the same goes with her side of the family and quite possibly your extended family as well. My Boss when I was 14 told me the best advice a kid could get. "Just wash your hands".

[@jeffincanada5060]

It becomes even worse when a woman won't drop her walls, and then she gaslights you, saying that you are not opening up.

[@whiteshadow204]

One of the reasons I initially fell in love with my wife is that she let me inside the walls. For a time. A year or so into the marriage she started keeping me out. Your language is EXACTLY the same words I used to describe my experience in our marriage. She locked me out of her fortress. Now after her affair and leaving me, I realize that what I thought was a beautiful castle inside there that I wasn’t allowed in, was actually a prison of her own making. I am just so impressed at your videos. You exactly hit the mail on the head of our marriage. I sure wish my wife had experienced the journey you did. I’d give anything to have her heart again and for our family to be whole.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@whiteshadow204, beautifully said - "I realize that what I thought was a beautiful castle inside there that I wasn’t allowed in, was actually a prison of her own making." Bless you, and thank you so much for sharing.

[@santosh911]

😢

[@UPalooza]

You weren't in a marriage. You were in a transaction.

[@godsangel67able]

You know she tells people it’s your fault though

[@hansjusmeus5023]

You said , she had an affair . Why would you like to go back with someone that is unfaithful to you ?

[@tidelovinyankee1368]

I went through this with my first wife. She died of cancer after 32 years of marriage. I dated for three years after her death, and had the same experience with other women. Then I started dating a woman I had known as a friend for thirty years. Now, 23 glorious years later, I am so blessed to be with this woman. I thank God that there are actually wonderful women like this in the world. I finally know what it is liked being loved unconditionally by someone who is so open to me. We talk for hours each day, hours of drama-free bliss. Thank you much Karyn, for your fine videos.

[@s.mothale1326]

how old are you ?

[@tidelovinyankee1368]

@@s.mothale1326 79

[@tidelovinyankee1368]

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[@user-j1spswelskisj]

Maybe your wife had to tolerate you and your "friend" of 30 yrs throughout her marriage

[@nortons7040]

@@user-j1spswelskisj If that was the case he wouldn't waste three years dating other women. Men are nothing like you, women. So it's meaningless to judge him by yourself. Men don't have backup "friends".

[@theunbreakable1587]

Was with my son's mother almost ten years. Probably within the first year she told me this story of being hurt as a child and said that was the moment she said to herself she will never let that happen again. She repeated this story several times over the years. Basically this video is 1000% accurate to what Ive experienced.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

My last girlfriend informed me she will never totally give her heart to anyone. That is maybe the only truth she ever told me.

[@truhartwood3170]

Yup. Last woman I dated was awesome and amazing, but wouldn't connect or be vulnerable with me. I was doing everything I could to show her that I was trustworthy and there for her but just constantly felt unappreciated and pushed away. It hurt. And when I told her that what she was doing hurt, well, that made her feel attacked, and that I was telling her she wasn't good enough which meant my expectations were too high which meant I was demanding and expected too much and all of this hurt her feelings which meant I was hurting her which meant I was an a-hole and now she hates me and the whole experience, as far as she's concerned, just reinforces that men aren't safe and so she needs to keep her boundaries up even more. Yeah. Needless to say, when I saw she was thinking and reacting this way, it was obvious a relationship with her would be impossible. I'm not going to be in a relationship where expressing my needs and boundaries makes me an a-hole.

[@simjam1980]

Most likely a narcissist. They are so insecure and will create drama out of nothing, make you walk on eggshells, make you over give to prove yourself to them etc. It's all manipulation to make you give all of yourself and they barely give anything back.

[@wldwon]

how you were loved as a child is the same love you seek when you grow older ...how did your mom love you ???

[@truhartwood3170]

@@wldwon I have worked on that a ton, so that wasn't an issue for me, personally. My relationship started great and became more as described above over time. I recognized it pretty quickly and tried to talk to her about it. When it wasn't going anywhere I ended the relationship pretty quickly.

[@wldwon]

@@truhartwood3170 that's great ....but the point still is you attracted a toxic woman .. or maybe there were small signs in the beginning which you didn't see.... just saying stay well, peace

[@truhartwood3170]

@@wldwon I knew her for 2 years and we hung out almost every weekend before we started dating. She's a great friend, mom, sister, daughter. I was pretty cautious and looked for any red flags and there were none. It was only after we started dating and had been together about 4 months that her issues came up. She's been hurt before and so it turns out she has the "avoidant" attachment style (distancing and second guessing everything) when it comes to romantic relationships. She's incredibly wonderful in all other types of relationships, though, so I didn't see it until ours became romantic in nature. She's not toxic, just a very sensitive person who's been hurt a lot and hasn't healed that yet.

[@kitcassim4156]

The level of truth from a female is unparalleled. I am flabbergasted. I have never in my life witnessed this EVER.

[@danielwilson3313]

I've been with my wife for almost 8 years. Till this day I do not know her and she is currently destroying our marriage in the exact behavior you speak of in your videos. She has never been vulnerable with me and bc of the way she treats me we have no connection anymore. I'm so deflated and tired. So tired. We have 3 children and she has weaponized our stepdaughter against me. She does all this and is heavily narcissistic. Please pray for me. I'm dying inside. I wish she could understand your videos.

[@Crottinger]

Document everything she does. Open a secret bank account and save some money. Film her behavior. Consult an attorney and work out a divorce strategy. Then move to SE Asia and never come back.

[@Arven8]

Sorry to hear you are going through that. I hope you have someone who is in your corner -- a friend, a therapist, someone.

[@mikey92362]

You'd assume that they'd appreciate you for stepping up and being a dad to the step daughter. Sadly, it doesn't happen much of the time. Same thing happened to me. They grow up and just resent you, no matter how hard you tried.

[@CephlonMayngrum]

Why would you agree to marry her if she never opened up

[@mikey92362]

@@CephlonMayngrum because they fool you up until they get the ring and legal contact

[@dnaphysics]

How did you ever come to see yourself so differently?!! It's amazing, and beautiful, and awesome!

[@antongruber5978]

Spot on ! So many women need to hear this and set themselves free . Men are less complicated and require very simple benefits to be fulfilled in a relationship . Keep up your good work and yes I guess the truth will dig into many women's hearts hopefully for the better of mankind

[@thehappywifeschool]

@antongruber5978, thank you for watching and supporting the channel. "Men are less complicated and require very simple benefits to be fulfilled in a relationship." - So true.

[@ghanna7787]

​@@thehappywifeschool That's a very interesting generalization of men.

[@esotericveritas]

@@ghanna7787I was thinking the same thing. I notice many women (not all) generalize and over-simplify men - and because i'm male i must fall into the stereotype. I think people are much more unique and complex than we give credit.

[@kevinhaney293]

My wife of near 50 years has become a mean ,nasty ,crazy alcoholic. It takes considerable effort on my part to keep my peace, focus on my interests, stay on the right path. I honestly think she is going insane. I have no hope for anything good, I only try to keep myself upright. She often attempts to start a fight, and I just walk away. Then I hear the insults, name calling, recriminations, etc. It's like living with a crazy person. She is a bully in her manner of speech. Everything is an imperative command , never a kind word. I would never tolerate a man talking to me as she does, I would knock him flat on his ass. Of course, I would not hit her. This is a woman I loved, provided for, had seven children with and now she is the worst person I know. I avoid her as much as I can. Thank God I have a shop !

[@532bluepeter1]

Did she start out love bombing you?

[@RodizellMusicalOne]

To be honest this is why Women take this approach, because they really have no consequences for their actions, yet we still have to protect, pay and do our part as Husbands! It’s very unfortunate but I believe the government and society condones these behaviors, because if they were punished for foolishness like this, guaranteed there would be less abuse (that’s exactly what it is)! If we go live a separate life with a Woman that makes us feel like a Man, then come home to be treated this way, when it’s found out we are the worst Man in the world but nobody understands our side of the equation, she becomes the victim and we Men become the cause, the dirt bag, the cheat, the one that broke the vows! That’s why, “To Love and Obey” should never have been allowed to be taken out of the vows, because according to God’s Word, we as Husbands are over our Wives but society has fought for equality, when we really aren’t equal! We have our roles and responsibilities but we are not equal, we are partners in this relationship but “WE ARE NOT EQUALS”!

[@charlesrobinson5572]

God is your refuge, This too shall pass

[@humanistology]

She is likely a Narcissist and age & alcohol are intensifying her toxic and abusive behavior toward you… all Narcissists get worse as they age but the alcohol (addiction) intensifies it… get out if you can, it will only worsen. Hope this helps❤️‍🩹

[@canbennyfixit748]

I only lasted 14 years. Your only option is to leave. I did. It was difficult but it’s by far the best option.

[@BeADad2447]

The emotions on this woman are so beautiful! The regret she feels is so genuine! I'm happy for both you and your husband! Just for you to acknowledge that your husband is a good man! Incredible!

[@lawrencedobesh776]

Most women wouldn’t recognize a good man if he crapped on her shoe Good men always finish last they are just suckers!!

[@JO-uy6zs]

Imagine acknowledging that her man is good. My wife would rather die. She's so hurt inside. I can't seem to fix it. Nothing I do helps. We NEVER have sex or affection anymore and I can't keep trying. I can't. It's so humiliating.

[@Eddybo22]

​@@JO-uy6zs It is an unfortunate reality that once they get what they want which is the marriage, they just shut down after that. They just want the ceremony but not the hard work that comes with keeping the marriage alive especially when it comes to sex. Personally I have never understood why anything should change between just being in a romantic relationship and being married. Nothing changed expect the ceremony in all aspects and a woman should actually be more grateful that she has managed to "secure" her future with her spouse. Unfortunately once they cross that threshold they realize they're the ones in power and the man ends up being trapped because leaving only damages himself, and not her.

[@esotericveritas]

@@Eddybo22i unknowingly married a sociopathic narcissist when i was 24 - i was (thankfully) divorced at 25. And i left the love of my life (though i didnt realize it at the time) to get with the ex-wife. That woman changed the second we got married - her true self came out. She was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive. There are not enough resources for men who have been in an abusive relationship and were not the aggressor. In my case, I was laughed at by friends and family - and forget the police, they laughed and asked me what i did to piss her off. I am afraid that the issues we face are endemic to society.

[@ricklogan1433]

Toxic woman will poison your mind soul and your spirit. They are damaged and far beyond any help.

[@YoungDen]

I don't want to agree but having gone through the motions I am glad I found a way out.

[@christopherdockstader16]

Our mind is our main trap and lifelong obstacle.

[@wang220]

My ex-wife even told me she had walls. She was abused as a child. 7:47 Of course I pleaded with her to get some professional help and she never did. We are now divorced by her decision. She’s having a rough go at her new life because she thought she could find her Prince charming in her 50s. The things she never realized is that her unhappiness is with her self, and until she realizes that she will always be looking for something else better.

[@weaintfree]

Ohh, it comes back on them. By the time they see it, it’s way too late.

[@ricardocamara1602]

Wow that sounds like my life right now mine to has discarded me for another woman and is moving out to be with her after 26 years

[@vendomnu]

​@@ricardocamara1602 Guess what lesbian couples are famous for? Partner abuse. So she'll likely get hit at some point.

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

What's the difference between a divorcee and a widow? A: the widow will get more offers.

[@cryptosuperg]

The women that would benefit the most for this don't see this. Keep up the good work Karyn

[@Your_Dad_CO]

Exactly! How do we get it in their feeds?

[@Jasmeet-Singh-Sahib]

Can I please salute you a 1000 times for being a person who can change themselves when they know there is scope for improvement. Very few people have a courage of this level. Respect from India 🇮🇳 🙏🙏🙏

[@raynat-zoe6215]

This level of vulnerability and accountability is healing and I’m a man!

[@planefrog]

A consequence of these walls is that the vast majority of wives take but don't give. They take every kind of support from their husband but give virtually nothing in return.

[@Dansyoung]

I have a lot of respect for someone who recognizes these issues and addresses them, unfortunately most folks project these issues onto their future partners.

[@matthewwilsonn6748]

If the reasons for women’s toxicity and deceit is because of walls, then I vote for more laws to protect men from “women’s walls”

[@amandlaawethu1538]

The boomers men clocked out. Now Gen X men must vote to rebalance the scales. Lock them up & men take the children back. All men must 🥊 against WS. WS is the core reason Y none black men get caught up (collateral damage). U mistreat 1 U have to mistreat all

[@PJ-pj8lr]

If we go back to common law, then 99% of the BS laws become defunct, NO NEED FOR MORE BS LAWS, everyone is free.

[@wshyangify]

Instead they will twist it around and blame men for said walls.

[@amandlaawethu1538]

@@wshyangify Women project there emotions & thoughts. For example they claim to B stuck on a man cheating (not true) or a man being physical (Abusive). They project (pre stack the deck) to forecast if it fails (which it most certainly will) it never her fault it his because he crossed 1of the boundaries. False. These R women who ain't sht & R low class to Begin with (some not all). So with emotional manipulation gaslighting emotional abuse & projection it always looks like it's the man's fault. When N reality she doesn't qualify for a good ma. She wants control more than she wants love. So they chase off good men.

[@boethius1812]

Yes! Let's get the government involved.

[@fakshen1973]

I married my ex and my status with her decreased. I was the absolute lowest concern of hers. If I was injured, sick, or exhausted she didn't care. I was yelled at for being an inconvenience. How dare I bleed when she had plans, how dare I want to take a nap after working 36 hours straight with no sleep.. she wanted to hang out with friends. The princess complex comes from being raised by a daddy-do-it man and a mother that thinks her daughter is the best-est ever.

[@robertfriedman6686]

Here’s one guys. Was married for almost 20 yrs. Around yr 15 things changed drastically. New neighbor ( single guy) moved in next door. I commuted 3 hrs daily to work and back every day so we could have the “ American dream” House, cars, beautiful vacations and holidays etc. Then all of a sudden nothing was good enough. I found out she was seeing the neighbor while I slaved away at work. Divorced her and now 10 yrs later I’m happily remarried to her former best friend and she’s been alone ever since. Was not looking for Karma but it just worked out that way.

[@ardent9422]

As always deeply profound. When you say that men withdraw it's the truth, as a man that's what I do and that's all that I can do if I want to keep a good reputation. When you talk about women starting to build their walls from the first hurt that they experience I can see it, with many women it feels like I pay for hurt that other guys caused them and never get a fair chance, the next guy always seems to pay for the last guy.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@ardent9422, thank you for your insightful comment. It is very true that men pay for the hurt women have experienced with past men. Often, the hurt is not caused by past men, just a natural by-product of life and relationships.

[@theeclectic2919]

At some point, we just give up. We stop trying. What's the point? It's all down hill from there, but you just accept it as unfortunate and try to tolerate the misery.

[@johnmaus4408]

You are so very correct. The walls start as child survival behavior but continues long after the maladaptive behavior ceases to be effective. When we are children and parents dont listen or abuse it becomes a survival behavior to just go along and survive. This doesn't make it right or less painful. The worst is zero accountability or an ability to apologize and ask for forgiveness. Never once,not once in 34 years did my ex apologize. Not once.

[@johnmaus4408]

Of course my wife was raised by the wickipedia definition of a mean narcissist. Learned from a pro.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

​@@johnmaus4408can't imagine any successful relationship when one person cannot apologize.

[@jwg9338]

Dated well over a dozen and a half women in my life. I can think of only three, THREE of them being reasonably accountable. That's less than 10% of women today, and I can pretty confidently say that seems inline with what I see in the workplace as well. My exwife has virtually no accountability, and it's worn off on our young daughter. You should see me crush our daughter's little soul when dad lays down the law when she's over, the crocodile tears don't work anymore, I had too much practice with her mother! 😂

[@theeclectic2919]

I've dated a lot more than that and I can say that it's more like 5% of women are accountable. Only about 2 of them could actually be self-critical. The rest were constantly playing the victim and blame others for the outcomes of their own actions.

[@christopherdockstader16]

When the world doesn't benefit you, the world is wrong. This is the tempting mantra of the spoiled.

[@rnedlo9909]

If you could line up the women I had in my life, you could see how I tried to find someone different from the last. It turns out, all the differences were superficial. THE thing that was the same in all of them: SELFISHNESS. They sucked the life out of me.

[@Camper292000]

You're right. It's like a pull on your heart. It's like someone is trying to draw too much energy or too much out of you.

[@christopherdockstader16]

@@Camper292000 It's the selfishness that is self-defeating. That short-term dopamine hit for her that protects once, but slowly erodes the relationship over time. It seems fewer people are seeing long term anymore.

[@markfields1692]

This is astonishing to me because it was about 15-20 years ago my wife made and offhand comment about “feeling her walls go up”. I asked what she meant and she would not elaborate. I heard you say women build walls and now it makes sense.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I think this behavior has gotten especially worse in the modern age. When times were tough (think the great depression) women didn't have time to build walls. Women had to straighten up because if they didn't, they were screwed and if the marriage didn't work it meant the woman had no security. But now things are so propserous that women are told they can be as toxic as possible with no reprocussions.

[@antonioamaral7471]

👍🏻

[@MickeyMishra]

On the bright side? It showed clearly that women in their natural state are this way by default. Not sweet or nice.

[@esotericveritas]

and that messaging is constantly reinforced by the media and society - i dunno if many people realize this, but our society is very, very sick. I cant tell you how many times i have had my heart broken - but i always approach each interaction with a woman as unique and don't compare the current interaction with the previous one. Its taken a lot of self-work and introspection to get to that point, however.

[@rbeysrl7]

A widower now for almost three years. I know now I had found the "needle in the haystack". Would love to find a "graduate of The Happy Wife School"...what Karyn says is soo true of women today, "what will you give me, what will I get" is the prevailing attitude - doesn't need to be said, men are NOT stupid, we sense it a mile away....no humility, no real love...Thank you Karyn!

[@antonioamaral7471]

Concordo sem generalizar totalmente. raríssimas são as excecões. Agulhas no agulheiro.

[@christopherdockstader16]

Yeah, but we younger men have most often been inculcated with this type of female so that we don't know any better and think it is normal. Counter to any long lost instinct.

[@thegray5730]

Trauma shapes men, but defines women. For you, that fateful April first was life-altering and devastating. For him, it was a Monday.

[@weaintfree]

Your first line is so true! Golden words there.

[@D3athM3tal-i4c]

My marriage was ruined by a woman who go closed off emotionally. When dating we did a lot of things together went out or stayed in equally. After married and had a child she never wanted to go out or would send me alone to get things. Then it progressed to her staying in bedroom whenever I was off work to take care of our child.

[@MickeyMishra]

Been there man. Tough it out for the kid and do the best for you as you can.

[@christopherdockstader16]

Trapped in her own mind. That's rough for all.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

Always thought things were my fault. Finally gave up on relationships, but not happy. Now I see that I ignored what was going on. I do not know the future, but I am glad that both men and women who really desire to have a healthy relationship are learning to heal themselves, and at least be available if there becomes another opportunity. Just because I CAN survive alone does not mean I wish to. Good luck out there ladies.

[@JohnBoulding]

Most women have emotional damages and trauma damaging any and all relationships. Finding a woman who isnt damaged today is nearly impossible.

[@j.p.5716]

That is why modern dating is a horrible idea. Also, we need to go back to the old rule. No Hymen, No Diamond.

[@gaiusbaltar8915]

Most *people* have some form of emotional trauma, period. You gotta find those that are courageous enough to face life anyways, and not hide behind some bullshit behavior like this

[@Thecruisingrancher]

As a married man in his late 50’s, men are very basic creatures. We don’t require much, but what we do require is extremely important. One of the most important things to men is the need to protect their wives. This protection is not just physical, but emotional as well. When women emotionally shut out men, they are denying their husband one of his most basic needs. Years ago, the best thing I did for my marriage was to surrender to it. I let go of me and made it us. The walls came tumbling down shortly thereafter. Blessings to all!

[@antonioamaral7471]

👍🏻

[@1168PJ]

😄 sorry to burst your bubble but you need to use modern technology to know what's happening to you. And once you do, "abandon the vehicle and flee on foot across the fields".

[@Jaco3688]

Women put up “walls” because of their insecurities; they don’t want to be hurt. Those insecurities can never be assuaged and completely cured by any man. Her insecurities can only be reduced/eliminated by resting in the assurance that there is a God who loves her and wants the best for her. Her husband can supplement those feelings, but he’ll never be able to BE her security.

[@steveos5112]

I believe in God but so so many don't especially nowadays. Even when many [females] believed in God those walls still went up. Sooo? what now?

[@Jaco3688]

@@steveos5112 If you don’t have God as an ally, you’re left with shouldering the burden of life on your own. 😬

[@steveos5112]

@@Jaco3688 You are preaching to the choir.

[@ethosterros9430]

If she wont let them down then maybe they can be broken

[@Jaco3688]

@@ethosterros9430 I started praying for that very thing a month ago. She was diagnosed with cancer. (Not exactly the answer to prayer. Was hoping for to soften her mindset, but we’ll wait and see, I guess).

[@misterknight3901]

I've only seen this and one other of your videos. I've learned more about what has happened in my marriage than than the hundreds of advice from friends, coworkers, councelors etc. You are the first woman to ever say "let me honestly examine myself and see what my faults are before accusing him". My wife is the only one of five in her family that is not divorced/remarried. No one in my family of seven is divorced, including my parents. But the attacks I have endured, the manipulations, will bring me to be the first in my family. My children are grown. And once my youngest graduates college and is established I'm done.

[@MickeyMishra]

Get your exit plan ready NOW. Get as much of your life started in another country while things are great. Get ALL you Passports renewed NOW. Get a Driver's License from another country ASAP. Then Apply for the International one on that D.L. Put your money in some kind of Account that YOU are NOT the OWNER, but a Trustee, so they can't garnish or Pilfer your funds. You have to be a sly and selvete as a women doing this. Get Everything ready to make your exit plan and NEVER look back. You should be able to get on a flight, and head out to your OWN Apartment or house you got for peanuts and have a car, Moped or motorcycle there ready for you. Tools, things you like to do etc. Start now by packing all your "Memories" and save and back up all those old VIdeo tapes and photos you been putting off. Don't stray from the plan. When you get there? Don't be in any hurry to plow a women yet. Get settled in first and find out the lay of the land and customs. Also? Get a Google Voice Number attached to your Phone. That way you always have a Phone number and the rates are cheap . They can still call and leave you messages without paying a toll fee. Make sure to set up a Home cam if needed so that any false allegations go out the window. When you are READY to Pop smoke and Ghost? And I mean you have a Plane ticket Already RESERVED as in you have on on file already? Then start picking up work and extra shifts till you hit that no return day. Get A Hobby as going camping. That way the Packed Bags you got for your camping / Fishing trip are not obvious. Make sure to go around the house and take DETAILED Video and photos of how you left the place in side and out. Have a lawyer you have on a retainer if needed, but it's mostly useless. It just costs you more money unless you have tons of assets. Now is the time to get rid off a much of that and turn that into Liquid to be used for you new life as possible. Don't Carry LARGE amounts of CASH. (Civil Asset FOrfeiture. ) Better to put that money on your own cards as a Positive balance or on an AMEX and then enjoy not having to worry about your bank accounts being frozen. Get ALL you Passwords and every bit of Medical care you want done in the states NOW. Don't worry about the meds. Those are cheap overseas. Right now is the time to start looking for work in the area. Even if its just some low paying work. this will make sure you blend right in with the community. Cash payment is always a good idea at first till you settle in. Sure you won't NEED to have a Job, but if you have one? That should cover your expenses monthly so you stay out of your Rainy Years funds. Be prepared for everyone to backlash at you. Be prepared to make new freinds. And leave all the troubles behind you.

[@jackgoodings]

Then there's the problem of them using the hard earned money, for their own use, meant for the family .. no respect or value for the financial stability of the family as a whole. Sooooo destructive. I finally had to leave, the last option left, to try stopping it .. and it STILL carried on

[@BreezeeGreenz]

Still carried on in the form of alimony?

[@1unsung971]

Brave and honest. Wow!!! Bravo and thank you. My wife made zero effort in our marriage. She left. Living alone, with my son is terrific. She's an average mother and a terrible wife.

[@mikthe2004]

Bruce Springsteen nailed it when he sang in his song "Human Touch" : "Oh girl that feeling of safety you prize, well it comes with a hard hard price. You can't shut out the risk and the pain, without losing the love that remains." Never were truer words spoken.

[@gregorygarcia6542]

Thank you boss.

[@SIB1963]

Not sure why some responders are hating on the woman who put up this video. She shows deep insights, honest self-reflection, and bravery for being willing to be so open. I would think that rates some thanks and thumbs-ups.

[@stevens2706]

This is so spot on!! Walls geez my wife has built a fortress!! They are not coming down, and the stories she tells herself is crushing our 25 year marriage. Has crushed!! Sadly it's dead. I am no longer willing to be totally open with a woman who shares nothing but lies!!

[@trkernan321]

It takes a truly sophisticated woman; who hasn’t been, to recognize genuine. I appreciate your truthfulness.

[@duwaynelangham]

its refreshing to hear the truth men face from a women, great content!

[@tommcgrath8977]

My wife is the ultimate pain avoider (although not without good reason), both physical as well as emotional. She had a pretty severe trauma when she was young, suppressed it, and as such things are wont to do, it bubbled up years after we were married. I think i am a pretty good guy & safe. To prevent "advances" or emotional stress, she wound up withholding everything, even endearments, as well as being loath to talk about any difficulties. So thank you for this. It was the clearest explanation I have encountered. My therapist would tell me "it's not about you" but I never understood as I was the one bearing the consequences.

[@JO-uy6zs]

💯

[@Boosted_aj]

It’s about her.

[@kevin9218]

Truth. And after a few years or a decade or so of bashing his head into that wall: your man will eventually give up and stop trying. Then you'll blame him for not trying hard enough. He tried for years and got nowhere. What do you expect?

[@TheBeeRescuer]

Pretty much where I'm at.

[@christopherdockstader16]

exactly

[@christopherdockstader16]

Self fulfilling prophecy with some cognitive dissonance peppered into it. The effects on her mental health will be subtle, but slowly increase in apparentness over time. Being bitter because you are bitter only leads to more bitterness. Be water, my friend.This applies to all.

[@davebenz8271]

It rings so true in my 31-year marriage. She never really let me into her heart. It broke my heart.

[@deanjacobs1766]

A young female fan of romance novel writer Melvin Udall once asked him how he wrote so well for women, his response was “ I think of a man and take away reason and accountability.”

[@Hope_Boat]

36 years together. Never felt she cared about my feelings. All that matters for her is that I listen to her, how her day at the office stressed her, who's this or that makes her unhappy. Progressively from being the listener I became the cause of her unhappiness. I was not making enough money. I was not taking care of anything in the house (she didn't cook, didn't iron, didn't pay the bills...) she was too tited for bedroom fun. I was snoring too loud... I waited till our son was an adult and had a diploma. When I left her 3 years ago she didn't understand why. No one had ever told her that men had feelings too. We are walking wallets.

[@phutton88]

Great video! There are many videos out there, but it’s refreshing to see a woman that’s been in darkness about the truth come forward and say the words we men are looking for from the partners that have abandoned us for their ego. As a 36 year old man that just got dumped after experiencing the deepest and most committed relationship he’s ever been in, this is one of the few bits of material that made me stop what I was doing and get emotional and exclaim “yes! This woman gets it!” Thank you for existing and choosing to reach this far with this concern. We feel so alone.

[@thewildwooddream7220]

I am so glad I found your videos. I have never been married. I may have messed up on a few details when I was younger, beeing in a constant "survival mode" I kept man at a safe distance for fear, but still felt the deep need to connect and I just didn't have the tools, didn't know where to begin from and didn't have a role model where to take example from (my parents at least were an example of what NOT to do in a union), but I was thought to always take resposability for my actions so here I am, seeking guidance, knowledge and understanding, still eager to learn about a man's world and how I can show up for him, and honour myself too. Although my childhood traumas, I don't have hate for anyone: I will always have love and respect for a man's essential masculine nature, for his good character and values. We are different and in those differences, those who seek understanding find answers, and like in everything in life, if we both come to a common ground to try to understand a little about each others words, great things can be accomplished, it's a teamwork. Man and women are complex creatures in different ways, no one is to blame and both sides should be held accountable, always. Love e live long!

[@antonioamaral7471]

Bom encontrar um canal com comentários de pessoas adultas e conscientes.

[@martinvulu1848]

This is why the question, "Who HURT you?" is sooo disingenous. It is asked from a mindset that envisions a life DEVOID of pain, that any pain experienced is unnatural & therefore the FAULT of the person IN PAIN.

[@bobleglob162]

Except if they are in pain then it's a man's fault

[@martinvulu1848]

@@bobleglob162 well, yes of course! That is the rule! For WOMEN, pain is ALWAYS externally generated.

[@meier259]

I am man. I listen to alot of your material to help me understand my wife a little better. Thank you for the info.

[@michaeldalton8374]

The reason women “feel” pain so acutely is because they have no experience with it. They have their asses kissed from baby to 37, or whenever the looks give out. Any man, any employer, any system that does not contain this fantasy of easy mode is immediately stricken and marked as a danger. It has never been experienced before, and must NEVER be allowed again. The slightest hint of this experience (like being told “no”, or even to wait) immediately sets off the sirens.

[@mroeplz]

This is an uncompassionate opinion. The people who feel pain the most are the ones who have felt a lot of pain. Survivors of trauma, war, ptsd feel immense pain everyday. People with happy secure childhoods don't turn to medical grade painkillers to cope. It's people who've been through the worst that experience pain sharper than anyone else. How easy your life must have been to write off other people's suffering

[@mikey92362]

Single women over 40 might start to get an idea of what it means to struggle or to be lonely. But yeah, 99% of women think they know, but they really have no idea for exactly the reason you said. But in the end, it's a blessing for men, not a curse. Our value doesn't decline with age. I can imagine it's pretty awful to be a single female and realize that your value is going down every day and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it because it's so tied to your physical form.

[@VivatVeritas1]

@@mroeplzHis comment was about people who have come to see any kind of pain, discomfort, stress or misfortune as ‘unnatural’ and something to be avoided at all cost, thus limiting themselves to a cushioned and risk-averse lifestyle. They tend to walk when and wherever the going gets tough. It breeds a sense of entitlement as well as resentment. In short, these people keep building and expanding their own victimhood status and get quite attached to it.

[@stevescuba1978]

​@@mroeplzyou make some valid points, but I counter with the idea that modern western women literally (and I mean literally) consider and treat every single (perceived) negative event as traumatic. Ladies, being told no is not trauma. A childhood breakup is not trauma. Being held accountable for your actions should not cause trauma. Many women whom I've had deeper conversations with seem to be hell-bent on turning every event they've ever experienced into a traumatic one.

[@woodlandbiker]

I have a great relationship with my wife but 11 out of the 13 guys i work with say their wives withhold physical contact or romance of any kind. All they get is grief, yet if they look at another woman their wives jealousy surfaces. Never understood that. They dont want them but dont want anyone else to want them either.

[@demonderpz7937]

In movies, the "walls" are only ever displayed through male characters who "lost their wife/family and will never love or trust again" at least until the 3rd act, so I really appreciate you talking about this and expressing that it's not just a uniquely male issue. I believe men do have walls, as do women because it's a normal response to loss (including the loss of a relationship) without properly grieving that loss or healing. I truly think it can be mended, but it's very difficult for men to deal with this, and it's very difficult for women dealing with this from their men. I just think it goes both ways.

[@7thFreeSon]

I'm going thru this right now. It took me a while to learn to treat women with respect, trust them and put my walls down. Now I put my walls down, constantly open up to my girl and show her respect. I get the disrespect and my feelings ignored. Then it makes me lash out. It's like if I'm not this dog I use to be then I won't get the respect or acknowledgement I deserve. It's like they want to be treated like shit for them to respect their men. But that won't change me. I j it just learn she is not deserving of my love of she can't reciprocate that same love in return.

[@Gnomesmusher]

I don't know if I'm a good man but I sure wear my heart on my sleeve. Plenty of women have told me that. And it's the only way I know to be. Even after having been hurt badly by women hiding themselves.

[@thechaostrials1964]

Thank you for your channel. It makes me feel less insane. I went through ALL the things you talk about here. I was in a sexless and loveless marriage in which I was basically her personal assistant. I did everything to try and save that marriage. In the end, I had to leave. Since then I have had one toxic woman after another. I've made my peace with being single and alone. It's not what I want. I loved being married. I'm built for it. I would never cheat. I've only ever been cheated on. It's heartbreaking. Please keep telling women there are good men out there who want nothing more than to love and protect them "'till death do we part."

[@christopherdockstader16]

The nice tend to be abused.

[@MarcosLopez-cu6ui]

I’m learning so much from you! Thank you for your work. This helps me to understand and put into coherent words what I’ve experienced. Being in the receiving-end of this kind of behavior is hard to explain to the other person and keep a calm mind… because the other party just won’t accept it… but then you’re here… Thank you. Deep gratitude from this man👍.

[@thebenefactor6744]

Flashing lights can hypnotize, sparkle someone else's eyes.

[@staysane7049]

Dear Karyn, l just want to thank you for making this video, for women & men alike! I could feel the pain in your voice, and have nothing but respect for you. It shows you are a beautiful person on the inside and out to have the self awareness, inner strength, integrity, honesty to become the best version of yourelf. I am single ( hopefully not forever), but l have noticed my best interactions with women have been with total strangers, who l have struck up a conversation with. That is the kind of women l would like in my life. It seems where l live everyone seems guarded, ( walls up), and l don't have the energy or time to unlock the persons hidden dark wounds. I shall save this video and show it to my sister as she has played me for a fool all my life! Love to you and your husband, God is good!❤

[@wLBlue]

Yet somehow in the beginning there are no walls or boundaries...they magically happen once they feel they have control

[@christopherdockstader16]

Because they have to perform well until they get security, but then it is too intimate after that, then the walls go up. But who knows, walls may have always been there.

[@Blueblackngold]

Was never attracted to husband, wanted the validation of getting him. Got him. Lost attraction. Validation above all. It’s that simple

[@braub1196]

I scrolled down reasonably far, and did not see a single comment from a woman. Not even one. Thank you for making this video. You don't look happy tho, and to most women, their own Happiness is a God. Selfishness is truly the Sin of Humanity; and to be fair, Personhood is hard to manage, whether for a man or a woman.

[@j.p.5716]

The only reason that she does not look happy in this video is because of the topic she is speaking of and it bring up her past life and the pain and remorse she has for all of the pain and suffering that she caused her husband that he did not deserve. She has remorse for her past bad behavior.

[@siouxsielover88]

Can't imagine why. you want to walk into a room of people that hate you and be like hiya fellas?

[@braub1196]

@@siouxsielover88 It is not loving to embellish, exaggerate, or flat out (little "white") lie. I do not mind being in a room of people (women, or otherwise) who hate me for speaking truth. If it's not the truth, say so, and why, please.

[@siouxsielover88]

@@braub1196 Per my last comment. You don't see these bitter comments? I represent what they are yelling at and about. a wife that became hip to her husbands bs. I put up walls like any normal human being would, and now it's my fault the relationship is going downhill. There's no accountability about why I became this way to begin with. I trusted him to have women friends until I found out otherwise. I've only matched his actions, and here we are. My fault.

[@braub1196]

@@siouxsielover88 You are responsible for your reaction (I'm gathering that you revenge cheated?). Please don't misunderstand my tone, if this post were "for men" I would have much negative to say to men too. Your guy should have never, ever, ever let himself have female friends. Finland is the happiest country on earth, supposedly, but they also have one of the highest infidelity rates, (usually with a friend of the family).How can this be, because it's wrong, and there is no excuse for your guy, and don't you take the blame for his evil behavior: that was his wrong choice. May God heal you, and go on to good things.

[@fallujah0351]

Almost as if this issue, and all the unavoidable issues that follow this, are a direct result from not acknowledging that women having sex before/outside of marriage turns them into damaged goods and not wife/mother material, but strictly recreational use instead. It’s a Father’s job to ensure that this is taught to his daughters

[@dannyl8876]

Thanks. Finally, I realized I am not crazy for having the same observation.

[@pitapita3559]

Thank you for speaking true; for loving your husband, for your true love for your Husband. God bless and love you!

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

Withdrawing from a woman who is behaving badly and chooses to not cooperate is pretty much the best option that doesn't require a divorce. There aren't too many more options than that.The more some women try to guard their hearts, the more they unintentionally hurt themselves in the end. It is very interesting.

[@mikey92362]

When my wife left us, after 25 years, i found hundreds of pages of messages and chat logs between her and her boyfriends over the last thirteen years of our marriage. One of the messages that really hurt the most was when she told her boyfriend that he was the first man she could truly give herself 100% to and could let down her walls. She cheated on me, her ex husband, and multiple boyfriends in the past, I later found out. And it never occurred to her that it might be because she was never fully committed to any relationship. You're so right that men don't have walls. It cut me to the bone to learn that i was the only one fully invested in our relationship. How can you have kids and build a life with someone you aren't fully committed to?

[@ethosterros9430]

Woman logic

[@mikey92362]

@@ethosterros9430 pretty much, I guess. The happy ending is that her boyfriend dumped her the minute she was single. I guess he doesn't wanna get tied to a cheater. LOL

[@bobleglob162]

She was fully committed to the fantasy of her and that guy's relationship. There was no risk for her there so she could pretend to be madly in love and open-hearted with him. And it was probably some bullshit she knew would hook him even harder if she said it to him.

[@ethosterros9430]

@@mikey92362 yea its pretty obvious. Dudes who prey on other mens women cant get their own. They need to hunt for unhappy women and sell them a fantasy and let her hamster ignore all the red flags while she projects all her unhappiness as your fault. They have it coming scapegoating loyal men so carelessly.

[@ethosterros9430]

@@bobleglob162 I've known more than one woman who lies like that. Its sick

[@L6FT]

Ahh. This is a breath of fresh air hearing a woman speak about accountability and encouraging her sisters as well. We need more of this. Not to say men don't have their share. A lot of men need to hold themselves accountable and not treat women so pushover nice, but also show her appreciation, not egging for her approval, just appreciation when she does well.

[@toadman5184]

Good men leave themselves completely vulnerable to the woman they love, and often do EVERYTHING they can to make their woman feel loved and protected. So, when she does throw up the walls often for the smallest or non-existent slight, it's basically a giant insult to our efforts. I ask myself "why the hell am I putting in all this effort when she clearly doesn't actually trust me, or perhaps therefore even love me?" Without trust there is no love.

[@Camper292000]

Ding ding. The slightest perceived insult. Do you want to do everything for her and you don't keep a list or anything you just do it out of love because you want to give and help and make your life better. In one day is she text you and pushes you a little too far you have a moment and you start thinking about things and you start making that list and you don't want to make that list, and then as a man you start logically looking at the facts of the situation

[@P.M.O.S.69]

I was married for over 20 years. We are both to blame for its failure. I cannot see any good reason to get married again, because eventually, this is what it turns into.

[@patrioticamerican8355]

My wife became cold at me after she was crushed by her sexual affair with a crush online in June 2023, and secretly aborted her pregnancy, but she posted depressed girl images on her whatsapp for 3 months while she was pregnant from May till July 2023, and aborted in August 2023, while was in a treatment center --- she made all her friends block me so I wouldn't ask questions, but they all told me --- were divorced now

[@djgtrident]

In a nutshell, they're vile

[@panfergan]

When I used to ask her “What’s it all really about?”, she would reply “I just hate myself.” So thankful to no longer live with this psychotic woman.

[@AirgunJohnny]

Amazing information, just watching a few short videos I can see you have submersed yourself into your own mind and heart and pulled all of this info from yourself and others. You’re doing the work of saints thank you!

[@raamtselon]

Wow you made me tear...I wish the woman I married and adopted her son, cared to listen to you and grow up - it could have saved our marriage and children... I wish she was mature. Your maturity makes you attractive to your man - what a blessed man.

[@kaizenexcellens]

Thank you. What a shame so many husbands have already departed this planet.

[@Welcome28487]

Yup! This is super common! I remember before I got married when I was “dating around” I would get frustrated when a girl told me my ex hurt me and blah blah blah. So basically I had to jump through crazy hoops to prove myself. I’ve learned at a young age after doing it a couple times that it got me nowhere and I ended up being hurt because I put a lot into her. I would always ask why wouldn’t you just enjoy our time leave stuff in the past I just want to enjoy being with you. I’ve never put up walls because a girl hurt me I just watched for certain behavior and just pulled back if I noticed she was ghosting or acting indifferent.

[@mjchecksfield914]

Walls can also be a result of never having found yourself. My wife had big walls and denied it always, but I knew she just wasnt happy deep down and wasnt that sure about who she was. It really tests your love if you can wait and slowly see if she becomes a better more open and happier person, or if she gets stuck within her own walls.

[@JO-uy6zs]

I realize now my wife hates herself. Trauma and abuse and church convinced her she doesn't deserve to be happy. So I created a safe space and made literally all of her dreams come true. But instead she blames me for how angry, sad and lost she is. We had sex 1x this entire year. It's our twentieth anniversary, and EVERYTHING is my fault. She said she'll consider some affection and physical contact once I fix everything about myself and become an entirely new person. She is using sex as a reward for goid behavior. That's so increadibly unfair and cruel. But she has so much PTSD and pain I can't bear to confront her.

[@joshopincar4347]

I resonate with what you have to say here...been married almost 20 years...I once asked my wife when she was starting to withdraw and I was heartbroken -- what was it all about...she said it was her and not me and how she was feeling in our intimate relationship. I soon realized that either she never really knew who she was in her relationship with me or somehow lost a sense of herself completely to the point where we are now - complete withdrawal. I've decided for myself not to be intimate with her, even if she suggests that we can. I withhold in myself, because I respect her enough and also not to devalue or degrade myself in even trying to be intimate with her. It's been this way now for almost two years...not sure where the next turn is or where it will lead us as a couple. No easy answers, but I do appreciate Karyn's perspective.

[@malhenning1608]

Thanks for that. Again and again through my life I have found that deep healing only comes from accepting the monster that is within me. It has only since I was red pilled through a mates suicide that I have come to understand that women I care about have been denied this.

[@johnmcascone]

“…She'll let you in her heart If you got a hammer and a vise But into the secret garden, don't think twice” I tell my wife, this is your song.

[@johnnywoodmusic]

Your honesty about yourself hurts my heart. I think about all the relationships and families in the past that have hurt without anyone ever knowing what happened. 😢

[@hokie6384]

I tried so hard my dear to show that you're my every dream. Yet you're afraid each thing I do is just some evil scheme A memory from your lonesome past keeps us so far apart Why can't I free your doubtful mind and melt your cold cold heart Another love before my time made your heart sad and blue And so my heart is paying now for things I didn't do In anger unkind words are said that make the teardrops start Why can't I free your doubtful mind, and melt your cold cold heart You'll never know how much it hurts to see you sit and cry You know you need and want my love yet you're afraid to try Why do you run and hide from life, to try it just ain't smart Why can't I free your doubtful mind and melt your cold cold heart There was a time when I believed that you belonged to me But now I know your heart is shackled to a memory The more I learn to care for you, the more we drift apart Why can't I free your doubtful mind and melt your cold cold heart Hank Williams ~ Cold, Cold Heart

[@erinbyrd5377]

I completely relate to this. I have envisioned a citadel around my heart, creating this impenetrable fortress, and how that led to discord in my marriage. I thought I was the only one.

[@MrEliasdl]

A woman's work and/or the kids is the woman's favorite building material for this wall they put up between themselves and their husband.

[@gpj5366]

Great video. Your message is so truthful. It comes from Your personal life experience. I'm so happy to hear that your marriage is in tact and You have been able to successfully work on Your most important relationship. Powerful words of wisdom.