How to Learn Inner Child Communication

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[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

#selfhealers, inner child communication is an important part of inner child work. Sit with the video, + if you are called to it, begin to practice. Share this with the people you love. The more openness + communication we have around this, the more we heal as a collective. As always, I appreciate all of you so much -Nicole

[@Mithunbajaj]

This is such a good video. Please do a video on different ways of how to release stuck energy in the body..

[@sandrajovic9304]

@@Mithunbajaj yes please u read my mind...

[@murraylong2071]

This process makes great sense, but what is to be done if our partner is unable to identify and/or share their own feelings? Do we then hit a permanent relationship brick wall?

[@thomascoleman298]

As a 58 yo, issues from abandoned at childhood seem to have caused a bunch of Mh issues. Getting better today. Wish I knew this info decades ago. Still a work in progress. Daily grind.

[@sivap4243]

@@thomascoleman298 take care

[@amandacook5771]

This came at the perfect moment for me. I'm in touch with my inner child,I love her and am reparenting her with so much loving kindness, she's able to open up to trusted people now. Its the allowing the listener space part I'm struggling with. My inner child is so desperate to be heard, she finds giving space to process and respond really difficult. To her, it feels like she's been ignored. Again. I am so thankful to you for teaching me to practise patience and to listen♥️

[@mikeolsen6927]

Hearing this at 65 is an answer to questions I never knew I had🙏

[@radicalhonesty3628]

lots arises in me as I watch this video. mainly this: I'm falling, again, for another unavailable person... because the illusion and fantasy and escape of this person, is all I've got... so I let myself fall. let myself get attached. because I'm old now, and the deepest shame and agony of my life, is that I've never-ever been in an intimate-romantic relationship... and the reality of this anguishes me, consumes me. fills me with: grief, shame, rage, longing, loneliness, despair, wanting, needing, desperation... so I cling, achingly, to anyone that shows me: any attention...

so perfect and timely, especially with it being cancer season now.

[@nickjohnson1430]

I watched your videos and thought you were great. Why aren't you posting more videos? :-)

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

Yes, tis' the season. And I second that! I really enjoy your videos.

[@Thefitty]

Cancer season?

[@cjharris594]

theFitty the sun sign ‘Cancer’

[@ngabui2309]

oh hi, dr. naika!!

[@talktimewitheddiej]

I love these nuggets Dr. Nicole the time limit helps me to keep full attention to digest the information. Perfect 😀👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@amyj.4992]

Inner child healing, is the therapy. Accountability and redirection, is absolutely everything. Thanks for saying that, "my inner child is feeling..." From the mouth of a legitimate psychologist herself. My inner child always talks her shit, but when she get too disrespectful critic (daddy) be stepping in. Higher self guides her truth, and I just let her be. Inner kids, Gon be kids. It takes a village to properly raise a child

[@briannacovers8113]

Thank you for being a beacon of light for all. You have helped me grow and overcome so many obstacles. Through watching your videos I learned it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to not always feel good and in those moments there are skills to process what I am feeling. You are doing something so much more amazing then you can even comprehend. Thank you 💖

[@rainbowconnected]

What a lovely idea! I have long practiced using "I" rather than "you" statements and done plenty of talking with my inner child. But I've never intentionally spoken from that place outside of therapy. I could imagine that with a safe person listening, this could be incredibly powerful and healing. Thank you for all the helpful and healing information you share!

[@MB17700]

I can not thank you enough for this video ....it has really made me want to continue working on this area of my life as it has affected me so much in my 51 years. I have stopped the macho nonsense and actual started looking at my self in details. Although external factors have brought me to this point, it was this video that has moved me forward.....I hope you will be in the UK at some point as I would like to hear you face to face... thank you so much

[@Wonderland_Homestead]

I swear I used to know you for a short time. If you're the same person (and aren't we all?), you're doing really well and should be so proud.

[@matar_y]

Thank you so much for this. I'm realizing more and more that almost every interaction I have with my parents triggers me and I need to wok on how I respond and how I can share my feelings in a way they don't perceive as a threat.

[@meganpeach9546]

This could not have been shared at an absolute more perfect time for me today. I’m not normally open to share but I had my first conversation with my mum regarding our estranged past today. I only recently started a relationship moving in with her and the family since being independent from 14 and I feel I did exactly as you have presented, it was emotional but healing for me and her to even be able to discuss and listen and both feel safe as I have always struggled to actually be open out of fear how people would process my perception always putting theirs above my own in past. I have been sharing my knowledge gained with you with her lately to help her understand my journey prior too. Having just written about it in my journal I can’t even explain how hard I have related and the fact this was your topic for today I’m shook haha. Thank you for being such an amazing person and sharing your content, your a true credit to everyone out there healing and I know it means so much to so many.

[@MonicaJaye12]

You work is priceless, thank you. Taking notes of how to incorporate this new way of communicating into my relationships.

[@nickjohnson1430]

The timing couldn't be more perfect! Thank you.

[@simonekeenangarner6420]

So glad to have found you and your work. It all makes sense now and I can understand my patterns fully now.

[@neilstclair570]

Wow, safety in communication for me is critical. It was all about me, I didn’t listen to my partner and I didn’t know I was triggering her also. I plan on using this next time, I can already see improvement in my relationship and I really look forward on utilizing this!

[@sandrajovic9304]

I love that your videos are easy to follow and understand. As an Empath traumatized emotionally for most of my life. My childhood madness almost lost my soul. I intake a lot of psychological and spiritual information as a way to survive it all. Having to be my own psychologist for years by reading and writing what my experiences felt like. I'm in my early 40's now and wonder why I still feel stuck in lostness . I know I did the right things and I'm still doing more right things. I guess that's why I just inspired myself, thanks to you Nicole. It can take many years to heal, and the sooner I understand and except that, the less of my life I'll waste. Egotistical people and the emotional vampires around me ... I except that it hurts my heart like hell and I except that I will still not stoop to their level. I except that there are cruel people in the world and then there are good people. Trying ones best and being their true selves and doing the right thing.

[@carolweiss1123]

Thank u so much all ur videos are wonderful. Why do I have paranoid times???? Lots of sbuse 67 years old n approving every dayy

[@dermottjohn6809]

Just found your channel....it is explaining a lot of what is going on in my life. Thank you.

[@grbgrb9082]

💖💖💖Love,love love all of this! So very helpful💖

[@sivap4243]

Thank you so very much for your time, focused effort, help, all the hard work, Messages and Videos that you share with the world.... You help me so much to stay on my healing Journey. I am Grateful that you are a part of my healing process. Blessings Love Peace and Prosperity to you....

[@aleidaortiz4599]

You are so wise and now Im hooked on this channel 🤷😂 I started doing inner child meditations because I was inspired by your posts and videos. #healing

[@sivap4243]

Thanks so very much for sharing your work and so many videos Dr.Nicole.... They help me a lot and have been sharing your work with friends. Lots of Love to you from me...

[@tihanaharrison6728]

Perfect timing, thank you very much, Dr Nicole! Not sure what you mean by other person, though. I am the one who deals with my inner child, and sometimes it takes a while to realise it's her I'm dealing with ....

[@mariateresaemotionalmusings]

I'm now living with my parents because of my personal financial situation and the pandemic. This video is do timely because I have been pulled into shadowwork this past week, the eclipse and astral energy shifts. It ALL makes sense. I have dove head 1st back into my inner child issues. I'm without my partner too, I bought a bug teddy bear to sleep with and have reintroduced my weighted blanket. Oh boy, it's been a revisiting of some deep seeded wounds that are now needing to be healed. I'm a firm believer in if we feel it, we can heal it💜💜💜

[@ashl3yros3]

I really resonated with this. I always say in order to heal we must feel. I sleep with a teddy bear as well. I ask little me sometimes what she would like to do and soothe her as much as possible. It's hard with triggers especially dealing with family.

[@mariateresaemotionalmusings]

@@ashl3yros3 yes my friend it sure is. I've been in a healing process for 10 yrs since my divorce and suicide attempt. Last yr I went through a powerful spiritual awakening after I unearthed what I consider the pit, the core of my issues which was being sexually molested at age 5 and 6. Once I spoke that out loud, I have been completely transformed. Trusting my family in a way I never have. Healing old wounds and self forgiveness. That part is huge. It's a cyclical process which I know will continue forever. I see life so differently now and yes, we must stay in touch with those little girls inside of us. Another way I connect with her is by riding my bike, dancing, painting and writing poetry. I have self published 3 books which are available on Amazon. It's nice to know I'm not alone😊

[@yourroyalwedding]

You are absolutely precious, Dr. Nicole! Thank you so much for what you do to help the rest of us.

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

thank YOU so much for being here.

[@kerstinschinnerl524]

Thank you so much Dr. Nicole! I feel you are getting more and more comfortable with the videos. It's so soothing to you. Thank you thank you thank you for showing up for us! :)

[@MWelanie]

Perfect timing for me. This video gave me very useful information at a critical time. Thank you for your work. Your posts on IG have healed me in many ways. I look forward now to your videos. I've subscribed.

[@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210]

Looking so well & healthy, thank you for being a star!

[@VikkiAndMarie]

Thank you so much for this video!! This came just in time , i am so grateful for you sharing so helpful advice and making it so clear and easy to understand, im going to use this from now on, thnak you , you are a blessing , a true angel supporting selfhealing all over the world. Thank You

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Your hair looks great w highlights

[@cosmichouseofrose9788]

Thank you for this information. Very helpful. So glad I found your channel!

[@kavishinde2970]

Very helpful! thank you 🙏

[@FafaAmora]

You are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️

[@BekaLei]

Thanks so so much for this! Wanted to mention that I tried subscribing to the texts through the number listed in the description, but got an automated reply saying it is a landline.

[@Soldiernate]

Your description of the ''inner child" being the house of unmet needs that lives in our subconscious was WONDERFUL!!! I been going to CBT for 3 years and you finally explained it to me......FOR FREE!!! Do you accept Venmo!? Thanks Doc!

[@Ilmaaa_hasan]

Thankyou so much for help.

[@brackinmichelle8190]

Congrats on your book that is coming out in next week!!! 🎉❤️ love your channel I’m learning so much about my inner child. Practical and easy break down of complicated concepts. You’re awesome

[@nourishbynourish]

Thanks - it would be great to have a tip video on healing the child abandonment wound x

[@zoecasper4373]

I think I have watched every single one of your videos, your content is amazing, I just subscribed ❤️ could you please make a video about envy/jealousy/competitiveness, particularly towards the ones we love?

[@josephwilliams4650]

Very helpful. Thank you Dr Nicole

[@suset813]

I was wondering what are the ways we can identify what is healthy space (enjoying and loving solitude?) and unhealthy space(pushing people away, being dismissive?) Thanks

[@sakshamkathuria9949]

Tysm , amazing . I 'm in love with ur lessons

[@TheBandoury]

When I"m feeling abandoned who is hurting: my ego, or my inner child?

[@EarthToCarlen]

Thank you for this incredible video and all your amazing work !

[@Рибабета]

Lool, that is super crazy in real life. Imagine going to a coworker, new bf or gf or just someone who is not into psychology and saying " My inner child is feeling so and so..." be adequate ppl! Most of the general population will think that you are crazy/ spoiled and lose respect for you!

[@tjjohnson1151]

Very helpful

[@anastasiaantonova5229]

Ok it makes me really happy to see you so tan from sun!!!

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

thank you!

[@user-jc9yz5xl9b]

Thank you.

[@swatitanaya4475]

Thank you, Doctor. :)

[@lilianrocha737]

Thank You!!!!

[@Mr-bu1ix]

i love you and thank you

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

I love you, and you're so welcome. Thank YOU for watching

[@xxpat11]

thank you!!!!

[@maryammekanik3168]

I'm always concern when you give them time to respond they forget or play the role of forgetting about what you shared. Then my inner child feels more hurt. Also when I'm also concern of when saying my inner child feels people don't see their part in bringing up this feeling but respond that it's your inner child problem go solve it. And then my inner child will cry even more😋

[@Nothingstutube]

Perfect timing. I just realised i have mummy issues. & i wanna heal inside me not her. Thank you for sharing your life experience & your time & your energy.

[@NKHTAROT]

Wow 🦋🦋🦋

[@ShreerakshaNaik]

During this lockdown especially, most of us are home with our parents. How do we react to them? Sometimes we don’t like what they do, do we still do things for them? Or distance us from them? What is the best relationship to have with the parents?

[@lolliman21]

That can be hard sometimes especially when some parents treat there kids differently to others.

[@violetfrankson5924]

Super, thank You☆

[@kitkat_oh]

Would love your thoughts on healing from grief and loss.

[@aquaearthnfirequ_pinsnsavi1721]

I really struggle with active listening when me and my ex have our argument! He gets soo so so mad at me when I interrupt him while he is talking! It's triggers the hell out of him! And I don't blame him 😢 So as long as I can remember I've always been the person in the conversation that has to interrupt the other person bc I'm afraid if I don't I won't remember what I was going to say! And when I do practice active listening I get so consumed with remembering my thoughts for later that I'm still not being a very good active listener! It's horrible and I need help because I don't know what to do about it. I'm try writing things down as I'm listening but I still texting my focus off of the person talking and I don't want to seem rude and sometimes I don't get it. All of what I want to say that on paper before I forget cuz I'm trying to listen to the person talking at the same time! I really love my ex And I really want to do this for him and for myself definitely for myself so that I can have better communication and be a better active voicemail and give people my other body attention. I don't know why I do this. I don't know where it's coming from but it's a problem! The big problem n and I just want to try to fix this after 8 years of dealing with each other! Do you have any suggestions?? Please?

[@estherchauhan5491]

Its incredibly challenging to share our feelings with other people

[@kaylala1217]

thank you so much for this!!!

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

welcome!

[@moshekin565]

Hi I hope this gets to you and that you're recovering well from the difficult time you mentioned. Is it safe to be open about what we're feeling and follow the technique you show with people who are manipulative or condescending? I'm afraid to share with many people in my life. Thank you dearly

[@TheStorytellersBookClub]

Thank you for sharing this video and your connection with your Inner Child. I just started watching your video and I found that your work resonates with mine. I'm looking forward to watching more.

[@ylpinko98]

What if the listener does not want to listen? Does not want to connect or speak? What if they are so much in their ego that they just get triggered by everything. No matter what is said? What if they are so negative that they just end up cursing and whatever even simply from asking them a qn like - what are you watching? I've been crying for such a long time and doing my best to ask the people around me to respect and honour my inner child while honoring theirs. But my family still reject it all and still continue to hurt me non stop. It's like I can never ever progress with them. Like I can never ever be safe or held by them, ever. I can do that for them but they can never ever do that for me. And I've been doing it since I was 15. I'm already 22 and they are still abusive and hurtful automatically reacting all the time!

[@ashleyosorio7307]

is the emotional rollercoaster we experience due to our periods linked to emotions of our inner child?

[@sammathews6634]

What other things can one say? Statements? and how does one communicate further with the inner child? Thanks @TheHolisticPsychologist

[@R.F.9847]

I thought this would be about how to communicate with one's own inner child.

[@kaylafarnum4381]

How do I help prevent my child from having deep inner child wounds when they're older?

[@12cbutler]

Are you going to resume seeing clients in Philadelphia over the summer? I just moved to Fishtown and would love to continue working with a psychoanalyst like yourself.

[@lolliman21]

I have a ex who I love her much. She's blocked me and won't talk to me. I know she has a lot of problems with her inner child but don't know it. I so wish I could help her.

[@smileyface702]

It's not your job to help her. Focus on your own issues. For example, why are you attracted to people like her?

[@lolliman21]

@@smileyface702 she's a good person.If I knew things like this before hand I may of helped us. I was with her 11years. Things were not always like this.

[@winter_s_44]

Hi, Can someone help me? I am trying to focus on my inner self. Is my inner self the same as my higher self? Is it the same as my inner child?

[@VjKam]

wouldn't this method end up being like a ping-pong game where both players are throwing the ping-pong feeling ball at each other in a never ending loop ? Does it have to be painful for the listner when we get to share about our feelings? I don't want to cause pain to someone I love or to anyone, I just want to let go of my inner trapped emotions. How can we do so and not harm anyone else emotionally?

[@rigo.garcia]

Do you recommend any books?

[@kimbaka4364]

I struggle with my internal dialogue and separating my inner child feelings to the person who triggers them. It’s generally not a person that I am not close to, for example someone from a casual hook-up, so I won’t share my feelings with them. How can we cope with this internally?

[@justesblog]

The inner dialogue with our children (and all other parts that want attention) can be totally internal and silent while engaging with others. I have been practicing telling to myself smth like 'I hear you my sweaty, I know you feel xxx, I am taking care of you'. Maybe you wanna try that too💗 I take it from the focusing method which principal is very similar to what Dr. Nicole proposes.

[@trainrecksontv9825]

Does an anxiety attack come under the heading of energenic release?

[@klshull316]

💟

[@Thefitty]

*I'm actually having an anxiety attack right at this very moment. I want out of this body, this mind, this life--i want to egress time or completely just cease to exist in this skin. I can't stop wanting to shake this stagnant and guilt-ridden energy but I feel trapped.*

[@hrdemaio]

Wherever you are, get up and shake your body like crazy. Really feel it!

[@lsuzicosbw644]

Me too I’ve been trying to end it all night

[@JenniferPielak]

theFitty Sending you love. I hope you are ok. Panic attacks are really intense and scary. Know it won’t last forever. Counselling/therapy is important, but I recommend trying breathwork this week to see if that can help release the emotions that might be stuck under the anxiety/panic. Not a therapist, just have found it to really help me with my anxiety and trauma. I recommend this course (not affiliated, just love it) www.onecommune.com/ecstatic-breathwork-with-scott-schwenk

[@yvonnew416]

Calm your mind, unblock your energy, get connected with your true potential and selflove, start to heal ..by doing Qigong....that's some amazing energy work. Praying for you, sending love and light

[@rebeccaskalare9445]

theFitty reach out to someone who can listen to your anxiety without judgement and without trying to fix anything. Just be there with you and listen. That is the only thing (a part from medication) that helps me when I have anxiety attacks.

[@KellyKristin]

Im curious. Why not just say I am feeling? Using the term "my inner child is feeling" kind of makes me feel like I am trying to disassociate, whereas saying I AM is taking responsibility for myself entirely.

[@amandarichmond3386]

your inner child needs to feel heard, loved, safe in order to start healing from the trauma. You need to connect with that little girl/boy inside of you in order to move forward. Disassociation comes from that little child creating a reality where they are free from the suffering or pain. because he/she didnt learn how to process those emotions before the disassociation came the brain does the only thing it knows how to at that point, fight or flight. So what you’re essentially doing is Soothing and Reparenting that inner child.

[@KellyKristin]

Amanda Richmond i am coming from the point of view that my inner child is me, a part of me. If I say “my inner child feels” i am not acknowledging my whole self that feels it. Yes it may be an inner child wound, but it is I who is experiencing it. Why would I say my inner child is feeling and (separate) that out like it isn’t me. Its all me, when I am seen and heard my inner child is seen and heard

[@kimbaka4364]

My view is yes, it’s you as a whole, but these feelings of pain are not you and they can be healed. For that reason your inner child is separate and needs to be healed so you don’t continue to be feel pain from triggers.

[@ashl3yros3]

Because when you were young, if you weren't seen or heard, your inner child wont feel seen or heard now unless they're acknowledged. At least that's how I see it. Heal your inner child and make them a part of the whole you.

[@csselement]

I think this is more a statement to self; a way of thinking and considering how we communicate with others. Could be wrong here but I don't think she means literally speaking to others with that line.

[@angelacasein7059]

Does anyone else get inner child issues coming up when operating a car? Seems like I developed problems with navigation earlier in my childhood

[@denisanica]

I have a question :-) What if I do use this format precisely, and STILL my dialogue partner feels attacked and perceives every such discussion as an accusation? Even if the words "you did..." don't even come out of my mouth?

[@iane5430]

Hello! You may want to check her videos about boundaries. It may be the case.

[@lolliman21]

I kind of wish I knew this year's ago it could be so helpful in relationships. When you is involved sometimes the person thinks they're being blamed.

[@lsuzicosbw644]

My inner child is dead. And I feel like I’m dying

[@yvonnew416]

That is serious to hear...can you go deeper and find out why your inner child died...( as an escape, protection, out of despair , neglect, fear?). Can you go to that point of time where your inner child needed help and give it skillfully? Say and do exactly what you would do in a very loving, compassionate way to a child you deeply care about...what would have turned things around and make it better...hear these words, feel the needed hug and comfort ..and begin to heal...

[@nickjohnson1430]

If that's how you feel, you really should seek professional help.

[@cattv5063]

I died when he jumped, and the music said SWEA.

[@aichahamdi2829]

Just give him a cookie and tell him to shut up

[@NinaBorum]

Thank you!!!