How to love and prioritize yourself

[@aruuu06]

Notes from this video for myself- 1. Know who you are 2. Learn how to accept help 3. Fall in love with your imperfections- progress over perfection!!! Always do 1% better than yesterday. Its okay to share your imperfections with the world 4. Never ever respond to something that is sent to destroy your inner peace. Take your energy away from them. Your energy is priority 5. Create routines. Strict morning and night routines. Create good habits. Calm mornings 6. Prioritize your time with yourself first thing in the morning 7. Routines should contain things i like and make myself better 8. Focus on yourself. My time is precious and yep my time is my first priority 9. Dont care how someone sees you from there pov. Become okay with being abad person to some people. Become okay with not making people happy with the choices that you make for yourself. You are not responsible for making them happy for living a life that they like. You are responsible for yourself. If someone is not okay with , its upto them dont waste your time. Idc if you like what i'm doing, i will do it either way trust me 10. If someone cross your boundaries, no need to tolerate them. Dont give them the space to be in your life. Live your life as you want and dc about what they think as long as youre not intentionally hurting them 11. Be YOUR OWN competition. 12. Be confident with grace and kindness 🩷 have manners. Respect other people and their boundaries 13. If youre working on something there will always be so much distractions. But you respecting your goals and you being able to say no to whoever tries to distract you from your goal. This is confidence cuz you value your goals more than these short time satisfaction/ distraction. Your goals are a priority 14. Dont be addicted to external validation. Internal validation> external validation. 15. See and be careful of what you consume. Listen to music that inspires you to take action ti feel good within yourself and be happy. Choose wisely what to fill your mind with 16. Unfollow and delete people who make you feel bad in any way online and offline. Control what you watch, read and listen to daily 17. You are a work of art. Embody and feel and be that art. Be confident of your own individuality. I am art myself 🩷🤍🩷🤍🩷🤍🩷🤍🩷🤍🤍🩷🩷🤍🩷🤍🩷🤍🤍🩷🤍🩷

[@aruuu06]

Omg there are a lot of typos. Dw guys ill learn how to type properly soon haha 🐇👍 i was taking fast notes

[@Laetitia1111]

@@aruuu06 dw sweetheart fall in love with ur typos

[@heyyy1325]

Thannkyou!!!!

[@miguelfranciscosoares6745]

@@Laetitia1111💀💀

[@pollyxnett]

thank u sm!! u're so sweet

[@nina-qz6lc]

"You are what is left when everything is taken away from you"

[@love25147]

Many people say "love yourself and prioritize yourself", but no one clearly said how to do this, because we grew up conditioned to beg or wait for someone else's love, but we were never taught to love ourselves. Thank you very much for this video, if anyone knows more ways or practices of self love, please comment here

[@adamsfamily286]

Petition that Alessia should make a podcast with this ❤❤

[@icycandiee6343]

Bring TheWizardLiz over! They'll slay!!!

[@AliceDeAngeliiis]

​@@icycandiee6343world domination duo litteraly That would be such a cool thing

[@headlessl4v]

"i don't mean fake it ‘till you make it" FINALLY SOMEONE SAID THAT!! i used to think that it was a great advice, but after some time i learned that there was a deeper problem that needed to be solved, thank you soo much for this video ❤

[@M4GG1323]

Agreed!!

[@Iwakura_lain2]

Yeah I never really felt right with that advice either 😕

[@alekhya5247]

Taking down the notes from MOMMY ❤‍🔥 1. Find out who you are. Who are you? What are your goals? What are your values? What are your expectations? 2. Ask for help if needed. 3. Progress over perfection. 4. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. 5. Never respond to something that is send to destroy your inner peace. 6. Create routines filled with things that make you feel good. 7. Stop caring about what others think . Become okay with being misunderstood. Because okay with being disliked. 8. Learn how to set priorities and stick to them. It's okay to say no. 9. Internal validation>>>>>external validation 10. Be careful about what you consume. Choose wisely what to fill your mind with. *lemme know if I've missed out anything*

[@nikidamage4179]

maybe add 'fall in love with your imperfections' other than that u did wonderful - thx so much for this. i just copy and pasted it into my notes app.

[@hopefulforbetterdays]

thank you for this! genuinely appreciate it

[@alekhya5247]

Hope you're not only writing down the notes but also following it consistently irl ＼⁠(⁠^⁠o⁠^⁠)⁠／

[@alekhya5247]

Yeah your song doozy is actually doozy ♫♬♪⁠♪

[@bartholetbayana9198]

Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@bartholetbayana9198]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?

[@bartholetbayana9198]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@naomievoice9926]

Its fine dear ,its okay to feel that way,I Always hold on so tight to people even After WE breakup just because im so emotional dependent I really needed this video

[@doublebee_]

Accept your loss. Feel it deeply. You have to feel your feelings, even if you don't want to. That's the best advice I can give you.

[@nehakkk430]

0:40 same situation I love him so bad but I left him his behavior made me do this still I feel bad for ending it I can't help myself I wish to end myself rather than end this

[@mybrokenfingerz]

as someone w depression i stand by the tip of not listening to sad music all the time. i changed the artists i listened to and it really did make a difference. i still listen to some of those artists on some of those occasions if i think that their music is good, but i cant let it influence my emotions when im already vulnerable.

[@ShamsofTabrizzz]

You did very very well❤

[@Angel-ko5vp]

You got this💕💕

[@stacyevans4438]

You know earlier people felt kinda guilty to be selfish & to love themselves & people just normalized talking badly about themselves but nowadays it really feels illegal to talk badly about urself,it's like now that I am watching & only following people that teach me to love myself,my mind is always like encouraging my inner child, loving myself & shining my light brightly. So thank u Alessia for being that person in my life who changed my mindset(in a positive way) & life forever ❤

[@serenawayne]

What other channels do you watch that encourage you to think and behave this way? If you can share that would be wonderful❤

[@PreethiShakti]

“No one avoids you as much as someone that owes you an apology” 💯

[@lisiskrr]

i love alessias face so much, she doesn’t even have to speak, her being itself is just so calming

[@sarahusovicc3006]

I have just got rejected by the boy I loved I started watching your videos and I already feel better. I've learned how to accept who I am. thank you so much for posting about this because it really made my day a lot better.

[@_.Alice._]

„Perfect things makes them seen robotic and you don’t want to be robotic, you want to be human.“ thank you alessia. I am suffering from social anxiety and although I‘ve analyzed my behavior I am still struggling but this sentence of you really changed my view of my „imperfect“ behavior

[@elbow936]

OMG EVERYONE WAKE UPP. THE QUEEN HAS POSTED😭😭😭😭😭🤍🤍

[@princesszili]

WOKE UP 🫡

[@mario33378]

I'm the youngest child in my family and my brother and sister had already moved on with their life when i was barely a teenager, my mother and father is old and i basically grew up alone i was not very aware of the outside world and relationships i had always felt like an outcasts in every family gathering because my cousins were always very active and smart they always askes me why am i so quiet i didn't even know my self back then but thanks to some amazing peaple i met in this platform i now feel less lonely and better about myself I'm still in a long journey of loving myself I'm always thankful to everyone who was with in my darkest days ❤

[@Maxa101]

My class mates started to look at me differently after I started watching your content! after sinking in everything you have said I just feel so much better about myself and creating the future that I want because it's my life and I'm responsible for my happiness and satisfaction! TYSMMM!!!

[@Rin-ep3ki]

26:09 that was the hardest part 😭😭 , I realized a lot of what I watch and listen to everyday has impacted a lot on my mental health .. for example, I used to listen to criminal stories a lot and I thought it was just a stupid little hobby .. but it made my anxiety higher without realizing, now that I cut them off I started see that my anxiety became more under control.. the same with music .. I’d listen to dark and sad music all the time and my teenage me thought it was just part of my personality until I stopped and realized that it really can make my point of view on reality really bad .. so instead I try to listen to music that makes me energetic and confident.. also with movies and shows ! .. I used to read a lot of toxic romantic things which kinda made my point of view on love .. after I realized that it’s not really how it is , and took a lot of time to understand what real love is .. I stopped reading a lot of that , they can be such small habits that can control a lot about you ! After I cut all of that for a while I got much much better

[@natashadona7152]

This woman is pure gold. Thank you for your advices and the good aura you transmit. Pure inspiration❤

[@leacollart8232]

To illustrate the nb 4, few years ago, I had someone that were supposed to be my friend. This person knew that I was extremely sensitive and triggered easely. So, they told me things that made me crazy. So that, I would react mad and be hurt. I used to respond long texts, explining why what they are saying is hurting me or making me so angry and upset. He litteraly laughted at me and told me that I was crazy or the problem. Once I realised it, and wanted to block him, he was so desesperate. So, he tried to make me believe that I was crazy or that he couldn't live without me. Now, he's out of my life for good and it is for the best! Thank you for reading, but mostly thank to Alessia to bring the subject to the table. Love you

[@Maria_mmss]

You're an angel

[@Zyslme]

the prettiest bed I've ever seen 🫠🎀

[@cherilvr]

"progress over perfection" I'm getting that tattooed in my mind, thank you for this video, it was amazing 🖤

[@_Byeol27]

Thank you so much for posting! I’ve been feeling down lately and lost motivation, but I’m determined! Love you 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@Persephonesmind]

I Hope you feel better soon I love you too 🤍🤍🤍

[@wafflwschannel1732]

8:11 this part hits so hard, It helped me realize a lot of things

[@dearxdiary]

Alessia I love your aura. Watching your video feels like having a conversation with you and I feel so safe in your presence 🤍

[@MariaStocker]

Do u know how I can be like that ?

[@thatbrunettexy]

she literally posted at the perfect time. i really needed this tbh. love u Alessia❤

[@durden-qo6fw]

i thank god everyday for letting this woman wake up every day and sharing her mindset with us

[@iktmx8567]

" you are what left when everything is taken from you " woahhh 🤯👏

[@justbeyouhistories]

As an black girl I have never shaved my legs because my mother told me that over time they would come off as it happened to her, but I was ashamed to wear shorts because I thought they might laugh at me, in Africa people don't mind in you shaved your legs or not they don't mind but in the country I live right now some people might think otherwise, I don't know why but, hearing this from you really hyped my inner confidence in that and in everything, I love everything about you so so much, admire you so much and really really wish you the best in life... Thank you so much and I will forever be grateful 👸🏻❤️✨

[@nissa20132]

If you keep thinking about what others will say about you, then what will they think?

[@liz_004]

I was in a ditch with all my experiences from the past and people and in a dilemma that I should start building me up not knowing how, thank you for your guidance Allesia it truly means more than I can say here. It's priceless❤

[@areyouokay4306]

Out of context but I love the way your room looks and the way it is designed ❤

[@durden-qo6fw]

6:18 omg i love this

[@claudiastory2245]

Thank you ! I just saw your videos today and I absolutely love it. I needed this 🥰 I am 31 years and still, it's accurate!

[@KiomoiOvO]

I need this video so much since I’m going threw so much since I was 8 and there is always pain in me….now it’s time to love myself 💕

[@Ludicanti]

I admire your rage, and your sincere will to help. You are authentic and generpus. I have much to learn from listening to you.

[@romakanwarkanwar1884]

Omg your energy is so magnetic 🎉❤️❤️❤️

[@KauannyCipriano]

This video was so needed and a real slap in the face, plus I love the clear and open way you speak it helps a lot for us non-Americans to understand English, thank you!

[@user-qb5yy6eo2v]

People fall in love with your own imperfections 😢wow such a blessing to hear today

[@andriebernal1845]

She and Thewizardliz are my superwomans. Thanks for saved me!!

[@shiko2892]

I fr needed this

[@chrischatfield8550]

Persephone Thank You ..........Thank you for delivering your message with honesty ,from the heart and with kindness and softness ...You are a role model about how we should all aspire to be .........Please take care of yourself .........I love your videos ...............They are so uplifting xxx

[@roxy4046]

These videos are what I’m always looking forward to, ily Alessia ❤❤

[@dmvmeu7140]

Omg I tried to sub and didn't realise I was subbed already. You have so much heart and kindness. I love this advice

[@saturne9158]

This is my third time watching this video now. Thank you very much for posting it at the right time, I already feel that it helps me ! Love you

[@zimemathembinkosi6483]

I am so motivated by your noble and informative messeges,May you continue to be blessed .

[@tyongfzen]

Thank you for this. I've been really insecure these days ❤

[@user-qb5yy6eo2v]

Thank you ❤ so healing today babes

[@srijoyeedutta1272]

This actually made me understand a lot about myself

[@gaiazenorini]

I didn't expect to cry watching this video, but it made me realize how much work I've put into myself over this months to become a better version of me, prioritizing myself, sitting with my emotions and healing my traumas, and suddenly I felt it... I didn’t realize how much love I was giving and showing to myself, but now I see it…so thank you Alessia, I really needed this 🤍

[@mindfulnessrelaxationforso7156]

You got me sub when you talked about the diffrence between being mean vs being confident, I would love more content about this,so many missunderstand this and act rude thinking this means confidence.

[@LindyMcConnell-b9f]

Thank you for helping people

[@madisonfox_]

you’re amazing love i hope you’re doing everything to be happy and content yourself 🤍

[@DA-xi8kv]

i saw a little bit of the video days ago, i was feeling lost and this video came into my mind, i am so grateful with you for this video, it's already helping me so much!!!

[@vanessaprincesssa]

I’m coming back to listen and comment a second time - this is my MOST favourite video of Alessia’s ❤😊

[@musique-liliesetlace1642]

I absolutely love this side of the internet 😊 you're making a huge difference in our lives❤

[@mozaalhamadi6478]

YOU ARE AN ANGEL ON EARTH.. thank for for these beautiful messages. I'm grateful to come across your channel on the right time!

[@elifnowhere]

This woman deserves the best of everything. I'm watching your videos from Turkey. İ love you so much

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

I ask for help in college classes and people act annoyed. 🙄 Then I just start asking the prophesor who tend to get annoyed as well. Humans think we should only rely on ourselves or close friends for everything. I don't have any friends right now because I only want genuine friendships and I haven't found any yet.

[@setayeshahmadi4162]

I can’t describe how much I love her

[@Persephonesmind]

I love you too 🤍🤍

[@hoaipham8695]

😭😭😭 Thank you so much. This is literally what I need to hear right now. Thank the universe for sending me this video💜💜💜

[@grubywkrecasruby]

girl you opened my mind

[@miraclegirl687]

How has this vidoe not blow up yet 😮it’s perfection

[@NehaSharma-se8vr]

This is absolutely amazing and i am so grateful for you ✨

[@Love333here]

thank you so much, im trying to heal from a breakup and this helped me a lot, with changing my mind-set💗💗

[@jiyaaelavia555]

this video hit on so many different levels, i am so grateful for you and your videos. i love your content. Thank you so much for these videos. i also love how you get your point across while being kind and respectful all through out. Once again, i love you and thank you so much xx

[@yakuehe9899]

the pillow cases are so cute

[@euonymph]

My mentor really stressed the importance of values, thank you so much for reminding me 🤍

[@DeboFie-vr2gt]

Not you posting the video few hours after i realized that i wasn't as confident and loving myself as i thought i was. Thank you darling

[@moonbae3276]

This video was way better than your last vidoes. You are getting better at ur work, keep going i personaly need ur videos

[@duongnguyetlam269]

you have such a soothing voice and some real advice that are clear to follow. thank you so much!

[@LunaLightwood]

I love you, so grateful to share the same planet with you at the same time. ❤😊

[@koshka5242]

the way i dropped everything, got my notebook and started taking notes whilst listening :>

[@m3012y]

there a few things i have to say. so, therapy has helped me so much and i’m glad it exists. i would be in such a different place if i wouldn’t go there every week. secondly, i started writing a book but after a few chapters i feared that it would be imperfect, but this motivated me to keep going! oh and the apology part, it explained to me something that i questioned for weeks. i was hurt by a person and now they avoid me, this makes so much sense. routines! i have it since years and it does so well to me. thank you for this video once again 🤍

[@nangmonkham3622]

Thank you for making this video..I'm grateful.

[@TheRealOnepr]

Saw the noti from the ig group that you posted and came right away!

[@nournemer2289]

can you make a video on how you can become a better version of yourself kinder and better

[@jesaispaaas]

this woman is amazing!!!

[@urcoffeeishot]

Thanks Alessia 💗 I appreciate ur words

[@Cassandra_hello]

Crocheting a headband while watching a video of our queen >>>>>

[@ITSMONA7777]

QUEEN I REALLY LOVR YOUR VOICE ♥️

[@jiaattri]

Just looking at your face made me felt so much peaceful 🤍

[@Persephonesmind]

This is such a beautiful compliment thank you so much 🥹🤍

[@kimseoah00]

Really need this thanks ❤

[@Lanaa_2004]

I feel like you and liv should collab, you would be such good friends😭😭

[@Kingridnextdoor]

First time here. Just subscribed cause i love confident people talking

[@alrasekhoon1]

You are beautifull from the outside but more beautifull from the inside, you got a unique way telling that is really refreshing the soul. Much love ❤❤ i learned alot from you 🌹

[@akshitha930]

6:00 needed this so badly thanks alessia💗

[@eyxx8]

thank you angel

[@giuliaconte9936]

This video opened my brain

[@_Sara_555]

I love all of your videos, but this one really touched my heart. Thank you❤️

[@_Sindhu]

I SERIOUSLY LOVE LISTENING TO YOU!!!! KEEP GOING BESTIEEEE

[@trina7531]

can you make a video on how to get to know your true self?

[@akshitha930]

There is no one who avoids you so much as someone who owes you an apology

[@Nijhum2005-ki1pl]

Ur good without makeup u have natural beauty ❤

[@natalie.scudder]

The queen is speaking FACTS! I love you and your videos thank you so much❤️❤️ watching your videos always makes me feel so much better

[@nihelbendimerad8070]

1st OMG I HOPE THIS WILL REACH YOU ILYSM

[@Persephonesmind]

I love you too 🤍🤍🤍

[@ameliechinaski395]

you are so graceful that the mere presence of you soothes my soul, thank you for spreading your message🤍

[@nutcha789]

This is literally change my perspective thank you sm💖

[@xastaranaslanii4918]

Thank you sm for this video, i really loved the topic and everything you said. Thanks, Alessia ❤

[@chinmayeepriyadarshini9483]

I finally got to know how to actually love ourselves. THANK YOU 💗

[@MeriemChamekh]

I really appreciate all things you said , you are such a piece of Art , love you

[@alisapas2673]

You’re the person I want to be around ❤️