How to Make a Relationship Last In 2024 (Experienced vs Young Couple) Andy & Michelle pt 2 (EP 158)

Today we have Andy & Michelle! We're going over everything that makes a relationship successful and last! Getting through moving in together, the honeymoon phase, and fighting!
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Timecodes (Episode #158):
00:00 - Intro
00:22 - Skip Intro
10:41 - Non Negotiables Before Dating
17:14 - Stubborn And Angry
26:25 - Moments of Almost Breaking Up
38:11 - Before You Move In With Someone
51:30 - Getting A Joint Bank Account
1:21:35 - Bringing Value To A Relationship
1:47:04 - Most Embarrassing Thing They've Caught Each Other Doing
1:51:43 - Outro
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[@chrysanthi_]

Esther and Jeromy don't need to have kids, they already have Viet ♡

[@Kanyewesther]

Noooooooooo

[@Justsomeavergedits]

@@Kanyewesther not sure if you’re lucky with Viet as your kid or not😭

[@JustBoogieProduction]

Idk why I found this comment hilarious lol

[@DTyler311]

😂😂😂

[@chrysanthi_]

@Kanyewesther thank so much, I didn't expect you'd reply 😭

[@cxxipm]

viet fifth wheeling representing us single community 🙂‍↕️😂

[@SuicideStarboyy]

Viet a real one for sitting through this 5th wheel therapy session between two couples. LOL!

[@PloopPlab]

Ong😭

[@bunnykandi69]

Facts I love

[@gnahzmas]

viet sitting there like a kid that had to go to a dinner with their parents that's seeing old friends but had their phone taken away

[@vivicamontoya313]

Me looking at viet messing with the mic while Andy talks about communication 😂

[@erikbotello7001]

I would Viet to do a podcast episode as to why he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I loved when he said “I don’t feel like I’m a provider, just yet” along those lines. I loved that, I would love to hear more of that mind set. A “singles” episode lol

[@khaaysclipz6955]

1:21:00 andy "i can get you a better ring" michelle "this means everything weve been been through" im literally tearin up

[@Unhinged_resonance]

My favourite episode was with Andy and Michelle and they released another episode with Andy and Michelle I'm so gladddd let's gooooooooooo

[@DeezyOnLife]

looking forward to the 3rd one 🙏

[@Justsomeavergedits]

Dropped everything for this, best guests in my opinion!❤ 4:14 GIVE VIET HIS CREDIT!! this guy seems like the nicest most genuine person so who ever ends up with him give him the whole world xo!

[@Emmahleeee]

I love these two, honestly s/o to Andy for not only acknowledging his “toxic” traits & fixing them for himself along side for someone else! ❤ Love this podcast!!

[@oe5801]

I relate to Michelle soooo much. Love her and Andy. So nice to see young wholesome couple like them. Wishing them and their marriage well. 😊😊

[@dlcrz17]

loved this podcast !! with relationships i realized not only comes knowing what you want/ deserve but also knowing the costs that at the end of the day are worth going through, if you truly value pursuing someone. relationships don’t only work bcuz it’s perfect, it works bcuz of all the struggles both are willing to overcome-together. Time apart too is bitter but sweet; it gives time to miss and appreciate each other, and to also reflect and work on oneself personally. I always stood by how if two people really want it to work, it’ll work (disregarding factor of school/ work/ career and such). i love love.

[@SkillKid]

I learned that they’re always gonna be a hard time, and those times shouldn’t be feared, but cherished because they just act as a testament to see what more we can go through together

[@TanjotPanesarsVideos]

shout out to viet - I hope he speaks uop more often fr. He lowkey has interesting thoughts and meaningful things to add to the convos!

[@Keny-xc8wr]

I learned that even when you go thru a lot of trauma in childhood becoming an adult and learning from what happened really makes a difference and it doesn’t stay the same way

[@carbee123]

Oh we got Andy and Michelle back!! This about to be one of my favorites 😍

[@peachsmith]

Man, I love Andy and Michelle ❤❤❤❤ This episode made me cry. Too many emotions.

[@ashleydaisyyy]

Andy and Michelle are so authentic every time they come they melt my heart ❤️

[@S3verance]

Found you guys after DrK's episode, thought that your style wasn't really for me but this episode had me hooked, I like how meaningful each question and topic is. It just goes to show how much effort goes into this podcast before it even starts. Good job fellas! and My single folks, stay strong its our turn next!

[@TheGr8erPurpose]

Love hearing everyone getting closer to Christ and truly experiencing and having that peace we have from God our Creator - just that peace that surpasses all understandings all throughout the talk

[@sawpbeej8621]

Love the conversation at 12:57. When it comes to someone unlearning negative behavior, it definitely takes a long ass time, especially if they've been that way their whole lives. Love that Michelle acknowledges the improvement and effort from andy rather than punishing him for whenever the negative behavior comes up again. Really good shit here guys I love it

[@rachelwoodie1795]

I’ve been in my relationship now 6 years. We’re still growing and still learning about each other everyday. And I am taking those questions to her, the ones you would ask before moving in. I mean we live together… but I still feel like I don’t know this part about her yet, it’s exciting. Best, juiciest podcast just got even better with this one yall. 🎉

[@jenniferstone9781]

Beautiful video... Thank everyone of y'all... And thank you for making me realize nothing is wrong with what I'm looking for❤

[@AnbuXC.]

I miss Wootak my guy ma favorite😭

[@etagged]

I was the same as viet for this one. Yawning.

[@AnbuXC.]

@@etagged lmao viet be in his own world sometimes, I like this episode ngl

[@izvnvgi]

1:33:00 man i felt this section and i know a lot of other people can find solace knowing that they're not alone in the purge of connections. I often found myself giving a lot of people the benefit of the doubt, making excuses for them, etc because I've always been so understanding, loving and supportive (and loud about it too). But with a mindset change that I had after going completely substance free, I've realized that a lot of my friends weren't doing even remotely the same for me and that I've been blind to a lot because of this numbed state of mind that I was in.. Reciprocation is so important to me regardless if the connection is platonic or romantic because I know my value and what I can bring and I've had people take advantage of that. Now, I'm getting more comfortable standing up for myself and its still fresh so it still makes me sad a bit lol but I'm hopeful that with this newfound space in my heart, I'll be able to cultivate more genuine and fulfilling connections

[@Sallyslays4ever]

The collab we totally needed❤❤ Luv y’all

[@user-df8qu8yt4c]

Bro i started you guys becoz of andy michelle lasf time and still now im here bro alot has changed proud of you guys

[@elenaoshino]

this is so insightful especially as someone who is in a new relationship

[@liyinchong4493]

Yeah.. I still remember Johnny said that a couple need to think as a team. Is a change of one perspective from an individualism perspective to collectivism perspective. They have to work on their relationship every single day to make it happen unlike how it shows in the romantic movies.. Johnny has to maintain his peace everyday too by coated himself with gospels. Thank You for such an encouraging podcast & shout out to Andy and Michelle ❤

[@jaeekimchi]

I can’t stop binge watching! You guys are so entertaining and I love hearing the commentary on all these topics. Missed Wootak extra on this one 😢

[@RoseBud24]

Andy and Michelle!! 😍 glad they are back!!

[@lisajeon7981]

Would have loved to hear Wootak thoughts on this ❤ he will come back when he’s ready! Wishing him mental speedy recovery

[@keenan1617]

Love the podcast! Love Andy & Michelle!!

[@geniuspeng]

Really enjoyed this episode, lots of fun stories and insights :)

[@noneyabizniss962]

I watch their content here and there but I wouldn't say I'm a fan. I'm def a fan now that I got to know their story a lil more. So cute!! May god bless your marriage

[@tseringchodon4210]

Vit has become really healthy I love people getting healthy both physically and mentally I love this podcast

[@ChanSanMingiMinhoBangChoiSongL]

I want to see Esther's brothers on the podcast

[@stitchmusic]

Great conversation. Good episode. Keep it up

[@thao12]

I love the relationship talk. So gooooood!!

[@Uhohkya]

Loved this EP!!

[@LaughCryKLife]

Such a great episode!

[@Rinaluvzyou]

ESTHER SINGING TO JAKE HAS ME DEAD 😂😂

[@yuhojoon]

I love this podcast 🫶🏻

[@Colin-ji9hu]

Yall are doing great 🤠

[@madalitsohipolito]

Great show. Great people.

[@elielite6971]

We NEED MORE ANDY & MICHELLE

[@dakota6052]

You guys are all beautiful people

[@Jadedgemini22]

Wootakkkkk I miss you so much!

[@reiayanami9808]

It would be such a vibe if you made the set into a warm light old fashioned bar set

[@notaaron3437]

THEY BACKKKK

[@queenofthepote]

I feel Jeremy abt how being too independent can be a problem. I love being independent - it's helped me to be disciplined, hold myself more accountable, lower expectations from other people and thus not taking things personal, etc. Being hyper-independent has the potential to make you a well-rounded INDIVIDUAL but also a not-so-good PARTNER. I know how to navigate things when it comes to myself or anything platonically relevant. But I have a hard time sharing and combining things involving my life, my space, or my anything with someone else on that level. It takes a lot of unlearning but it's like how much independent is toooooo independent , you know?

[@KayKrazie]

Give Viet a bonus for sitting through this!!!

[@Jadedgemini22]

Wootak isn’t there but he lowkey carried

[@keishaondongo9593]

This is my fav ep tbh 😭😭 I'm on my way viet😂❤

[@JacquiCuff]

I LOVE ANDY AND MICHELLE. But like... Their reels are absolutely family friendly content, I send those reels TO MY FAMILY all the time 😅

[@JacquiCuff]

Also on the 'bringing relationship trauma' into a relationship - regardless people are bringing their childhood trauma and potentially inter generational trauma into a relationship anyway. At least people from multiple relationships, are much more opened to the crap they bring into a relationship and may have had a chance to work on it, kinda thing

[@princessleai]

the way Esther closed Jeremy's mouth 😅😅 theres nothing wrong with wanting to be single cause youre not ready for a relationship. that checklist for yourself is a real thing🎉 or even just being single and not ever having a relationship...

[@michaelcarreon1325]

I just had my 4 year anniversary with my girl in December!

[@insightt_t]

I've never had anything more than a year and i feel so broken. Like i just keep ruining and loosing people i love. i don't want to keep doing this. but i realize so much on how to be a team and wow its so difficult to have a long relationship. its really scary and just makes me so scared of love.... because i still cant stop crying everyday from my mistakes.

[@ivy3986]

Legit my favorite episode though definitely need to keep brining them on, but maybe add another single guy to support Viet and bring in another perspective in terms of dating and what they think about all the advice.

[@rigo5603]

ready😄

[@khaaysclipz6955]

46:29 michelle "i be doin laundry and all i hear is AND 1" LMAOOOO

[@kaydinkaterynuik9771]

Love the episode but y’all really. Need to stop eating an chewing in the the mica lol 😂❤

[@clos2965]

They say after being with someone for 6 years you truly know if you want them forever or not. My money is on andy and michelle

[@sirius2001]

honestly this is very guiding to hear, nice one But viet was coughing is he okay

[@amirrezaarg1288]

Playing with my chicken it was sooo good 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@jennyannwg]

Jeremy, you need to bring Nectar in HEB (Texas’ best grocery store).

[@stephy917]

I think camera should be zoomed in a little more

[@khaaysclipz6955]

54:00 you can see andys maturity

[@lazzi2462]

I've been wanting to try Nectar for so long now, is it possible at all to lower your online prices to store level prices? Like I don't mind paying the shipping, but I don't understand why a case is $10-$20 more than it would be in stores. I was going to order some a few weeks ago, a 24pck of each, original & paradise pack. But when I got to the checkout, my total was going to be almost $140. I just don't know if I could justify paying $140 for 48 cans. If not, then please bring it to Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Or at the very least, bring it to Chicago, which is only 1hr & 30 minutes away. Chicago has a huge Asian community, I'm sure you guys have fans there.

[@rachelwoodie1795]

Benefit to cost. Hit the nail on the head.. 😅

[@marianadiaz1806]

25:53 omg estherrr 😭😭😭

[@ivy3986]

Viet needs to move to Garden Grove, we can be neighbors lol my whole complex only Vietnamese and Mexican. Five minutes from Little Saigon which is all Vietnamese and Korean spots. So good! 😆

[@kristingamez]

Viet: “For the single people like me, be strong we don’t need this shit.” 🤣🤣

[@user-ht5it1ud4f]

31:04 Damnn, calling them all out!

[@woahhtim]

1:06:01 reminded me of j.cole’s love yourz

[@carolinem3210]

53:53 awe Viet wasn't able to say what he was about to say :(

[@Sanah93]

Why isn’t this episode on Spotify yet?

[@user-re6fj7pp4i]

Best part of the podcast "She was in the middle of her set." --STEALING THAT!!

[@yasmeennassar704]

Hi 👋🏻

[@BTSLiveUploader]

No Woo in this ep too? 😔

[@sweatynachos1422]

On a scale of 1 to Viet. How fifth wheel do we feel?

[@candypaint5035]

esther and jeremy should do 24 hours challenge with viet as their son

[@googlemail80]

Vits still young and exploring, boy dont rush to settle down, lady perfect will arrive in the most unassuming way ❤

[@ThePhillipJoe]

i think the audio is a little echo-y it sounds like an empty room, but love the content

[@m_yshunna1]

Do you plan to change the paint color?

[@XxforevercandygirlXx]

I live on the east coast

[@gpslaurel]

Would have helped the DJ finish her set B2B would be fire

[@Mieayam95]

The year i lived there the mug didnt move😂😂😂😂😂

[@etn1892]

episode made me realise my ex wasn't shit 🙏🙏

[@VanessaPhang]

nectar in australia pls

[@sabb5829]

I also think there is no age when my husband and I got married I was 18 and he was 19 we’ve been married 26 years

[@zarody2024]

Yo, have me on one of the podcasts, man

[@clos2965]

Thats crazy that Andy is still whipped for his girl after 7 years, she found a keeper. No dude really believes his long term gf is perfect and flawless. 😂

[@poochieshomeplanet1649]

1:15:04

[@siamese..]

When are Esters brothers gonna come on, need to see if they are goofy or not

[@rachelwoodie1795]

People want to look good,

[@itznotz]

I learnt give a fboy chance

[@derrick5571]

i miss Wootak…

[@PlayerOnesie]

LMAOOO DJ performance is crazy i usually say guitar 💀 1:50:47