How To Make Someone Want You Again

[@averyvillegas8659]

Some notes for y’all watching: No contact: -give them the break up -give them time to miss you -prove that you can stay away Feel Love for Yourself: -healing w time and be open again -don’t let them think you’ve moved on -be social w friends -surround yourself w loved ones -be genuine Control Anxiety: -not an attractive trait -prove how strong you are w out them -less worried about how your taking it -handle what’s in front of you -laughter -reassure yourself Work on your Appearance: -update your hair -update your wardrobe -take care of yourself -look great for yourself -dress like you matter -looking good in pictures -physical attraction is IMPORTANT! Mystery: -leave them wondering if they still want you -don’t chase (or pretend) bruise their ego -maybe go private -don’t say how free you are -don’t try too hard -don’t give them the answer When they reach out: -be civil -be positive -take it slow don’t jump all in -meet face to face -let it happen naturally

[@annerivas1155]

Thanks girl.

[@selflove9841]

Thank you

[@bellezanegra0206]

Oh man I kept doing the opposite of everything on this list except the appearance thing.

[@thelasttrank]

And if after all of this she doesn't reach out is ok guys. We'll be alright.

[@SenyoritaStoic]

Thank you!!

[@sketch7024]

If you're reading this you are blessed.

[@toddgoogle4387]

Bless me!!!!

[@sketch7024]

@Rotten tor Depending what you said it could've made her think you're still there and nothing has change. But idk. Couch Lee does have videos on what to do when they contact you then disappeared. To me I will stay positive don't turn bitter. Do new things and stay busy. I would've done is show her that I've disappeared and let her wonder what you're up to. Make her chase you more. Don't sound desperate or needy. Make changes, get better not bitter and who knows maybe you'll see someone new come along.

[@Vhlentine]

I’m actually gay but that was close!

[@shilohbreigh3591]

Boy… I hope so. Very painfully sad to go through all of this. I hope that everyone who comes here heals their heart.♥️

[@someguyontheinternet-]

Hey, thanks man!

[@d34285]

The most important thing I have learned from all your videos is acceptance. Accept the relationship is over and work on getting yourself back. Get better, healthy and find yourself. Don't hang around and wait for anyone to come back.

[@fariborzpirani9427]

Bro how it takes at last three months for this don to bring you back

[@kire115]

@@fariborzpirani9427Translation please?

[@mandolaa]

Exactly! Accepting that energy must flow naturally in our life and those who are worthy to be with us will stay with us

[@adilawa4]

You deserve a Nobel prize of KZbin’s best breakup coach. Hands down. I nominate you. Anyone else supports this nomination?

no. afyer break up, there is no come back

[@SS-in1ts]

🙌

[@gordon12121212]

Let them feel the same hurt you felt when they left you!!

[@valentina-su8lm]

Not if they already changed their status and are in a new relationship after 4 weeks.

[@gordon12121212]

@@valentina-su8lm that will only mask it temporarily. Trust me, stay in NC and let them relalize they have made TWO mistakes now. Until then, work on yourself and the rest will fall into place. It's usually when you least expect it because you will be high on self improvement

[@gordon12121212]

@@valentina-su8lm from the outside looking in as another male, I could conclude that he was possibly afraid of a long term commitment right now and wants to experience being with other woman. I know this is not what you want to hear but it is something us men go through. It's not saying he never loved you or didn't care about you because he is with someone else now. It's more of a reflection of himself not being ready to commit to you because of the fear of not experiencing "what else is out there" 6 years is a long time and if you two are still young this is especially more likely. I think the fact that he is with a woman that is not normally his type is showing that he is wanting to experience different things (right now, doesn't mean permanent). Let him get this out of his system and he will come to see that these other woman will only make him miss you more, especially if you stay away and give him the space to do this. Having a 6 year relationship will be on your side, he won't forget about you anytime soon, believe me. Please stay disciplined and don't reach out to him, it will only push him away more! He needs to work on himself right now, without you. Just like you need to work on you without him. He will reach out eventually and you need to be ready and come from a place of security and not fear so he can see the mistake he made breaking up with you. I really hope this helps you! This is just my advice from what I have learned through my own experiences and watching these videos

[@gordon12121212]

@@valentina-su8lm you're very welcome 😊 I agree that you can't go completely radio silence because you have your business. Don't post anything about the relationship and you will be okay. Just keep doing what you are doing and keep being an attentive mother. Show them how strong you can be when a breakup happens so they can see how to handle it when it happens to them. By focusing on you and your family, you will become more desirable to him again, and showing how unaffected you are by the breakup may make him feel like he made a mistake. He is expecting you to be jealous of his new relationship. Don't give him that satisfaction!

[@valentina-su8lm]

@@gordon12121212 this is so funny everyone tried to tell me similar things but it didn't resonate to me the same way you formulated it to me, it was so kind of you to answer,I thank you very much for your help. Before he came to my life my boys were 5and 9, I was single for about 3years but dating nothing serious. So my 11yo only knows him, never brought any other man around them.. it's harder on him. I tell him everyday he is loved and wanted. Thank you,I appreciate all you've done for me today. I feel hopeful 😌 I'm very hurt and humiliated but as coach Lee said I'm gonna fake it til I make it 😊😊

[@CalibreNueve95]

The number one thing I've learned from you is to control my anxiety. Now I'm calmer and have a positive mindset on what's going on.

[@armano4125]

Same here mate. How are you now?

[@alexanderhanooman]

Das ist korrect. Igual! Very calming.

[@joannedomingo2398]

I’m having difficulty with anxiety

[@jasminemondragon7771]

😢😢 is not easy

[@mrsonix20th]

Chasing after someone who doesn't want you is one of the worst things you can do for your mental health.

[@dazza8551]

True that!

[@KellySilverioli]

Agreed....I'm glad I did not beg I just walked out

[@dand822]

What a nice man to put this free information out there to people who are in emotional pain.

[@crystalbrown6300]

❤❤

[@thomesc6214]

He’s a legend. Doesn’t matter if you get your ex just be the best version of you:

[@morgy1916]

He has a tip jar, if you want to treat him to a beer or 2 :)

[@rajdeepkundu4552]

No contact No stalking No overthink No dreamy sequence creation No too much need to back them No self blaming No only see videos Only work on yourself - Gain confidence you will have your own words , thus self respect will also increase and Now you are emotionally independent.

[@tasost2161]

The question is why to want her/he back if the being stupid?

[@patrickwalsh2108]

Stay strong fam! Ex reached out after 6 months of no contact. In talks at the moment. Be strong ❤️

[@pillarwisdom]

Yeah because women dumpers always usually come back. How about male dumpers?

[@akwasiadjei9606]

I’m in 3 and a half NC; not a word from her, it feels she’s gone but interestingly she keeps writing regretting messages on her WhatsApp page. I wonder if she really into the relationship as I pored my all into her.

[@akwasiadjei9606]

@@pillarwisdom thanks for the encouragement. Bless you.

[@melaninandaura9713]

I was going to say it’s been months of no contact and he STILL hasn’t reached out.

[@shaut9120]

@@pillarwisdom same situation i need to take your advice. How do u stay strong?Why diid he break up with you may I ask, and how long were you guys together for do you not miss him?

[@allaboardthegravytrain5987]

Whenever I feel depressed I just watch Coach Lee ❣️

[@mikehindrix7968]

I’m doing so much better it’s been 3 months I haven’t said a word to her 😀 I can finally eat and I’m not that depressed no more

[@snehasutradhar4598]

So proud of you ❤️

[@tzurim483]

I am sharing my story because I feel it might be a comfort to those who are suffering from a broken heart and are struggling with no contact. 28 days ago my ex told me he wants time to work on himself and he no longer see a future together.. Today I got a very long email from him saying he did a mistake and he missed me and hoping l can forgive him and we can get back together, I answered with a polite but short message saying I am happy to hear from him but I need some time to think about it. Please listen to coach Lee, I followed his smart advice to the letter, I didn't call or texted or posted sad thing, I didn't break no contact even when I felt I can't take it anymore.. Please stay strong and have faith, don't give up Thank you coach Lee

[@tzurim483]

@@brittany8868 it's been 33 days since the breakup , he reached out after 28 days of NC

[@shripadsawant1756]

@@brittany8868 its different time for every human some reach out in a month while some can reach out even after 10 12 months it depends on person and situation

[@shripadsawant1756]

@@brittany8868 You will feel better just try to be busy and dont think about your ex , spend time w your closed ones

[@egogojohnson1607]

[phone]⏯⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up......

[@egogojohnson1607]

message him on WhatsApp

[@dearisqueline4280]

No contact squad! Lets check the attendance. Say present. Lets keep motivating and be stronger

[@mindymoresrosero]

Present

[@snehasutradhar4598]

Present!

[@ashraf5136]

Yes sir

[@osvaldoruiz3826]

Present

[@alphaohura762]

Present

[@estefania1858]

this man is the only thing keeping me sane

[@LindaBell-ube]

Coach Lee is literally THEEE BEST dating coach on KZbin. Hands down.

[@acemany1126]

Hi Linda, would you let coach Lee break your back?

[@mariamcardle5394]

I totally agree ... simply the best !!

[@starkjunior1811]

My ex wanted me back after 4 months! Peeps keep having faith!!!

[@blvckmonguru]

🙏🏿🙌🏿

[@renatofigueiredo7761]

What did she say to you when she broke up? And what was the worse thing she said?

[@13sprintuser]

What’s the update? Are you still together?

[@saritaoftheopera]

Thank you🥺

[@alexissmith6005]

33 days of NC down! I wish I knew about NC all those times I’ve chased after men, pleaded with men, begged men to see my worth - well, now I’m finally looking inward. I want to be the best version of myself I can be, whether or not my ex returns. I know he’s wondering why I haven’t contacted him. I was very insecure in our relationship, which caused his attraction for me to fall. Not anymore tho, I’m learning to love myself 💕 thanks Coach Lee, you keep me going. Everyone else, stay strong!

[@MinYawnMin]

Not every man Is like your ex. Vices versa, you’re not like every men’s ex. You’ll find someone that you deserve but self improvement and forgiveness is a must. Both parties are are at fault in some degree in a failed relationship. Wish you well!

[@snehasutradhar4598]

Queen 👑❤️

[@HibiTeamQueso]

I feel you lol. Insecurities and being way too avaliable

[@fosterfoster9913]

I told my sister about this trick with her cheating boyfriend. She’s has been married 30 years with this same jerk (kidding). He’s actually pretty cool.

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

Cheers!

[@pepe2193]

If you are in the breakup situation, definitely listen to Coach Lee ✌🏼

[@annasrobloxchannel3816]

They always come back....once you move on and don't want it 💯😆

[@nhatanngo1697]

I was crying and pleading her to stay the day she broke up with me. i applied no contact and philosophy Lee taught right after that day, and not long after that she reached out and asked to be back, so the thing is that to respect the breakup, let her experience the consequences of what she made are important.

[@coldbloodedreptile8199]

Thank you so much coach Lee. Your advice of making my ex feel the loss and not initiating contact during no contact but responding to her texts, worked. We are back together now but this time around, things are different. She is more loving and respectful to me because she saw I has the strength 💪 to Stay away and didn't give in to breadcrumbs. She showed up to my place crying and saying she was she scared she lost me. You are the man coach Lee, already referred to 5 buddies going through relationship issues to your channel.

[@runout1013]

Did you post photos with your friends on social media or stories?

[@cf6096]

How long were you in NC?

[@rosemaryodiakosa]

This is Aug 14 2023, I pray all you have waited for 2years ago will come to you this year, love peace and great health

[@jambogb]

It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖 ❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤

[@kevinalleyne5107]

We both

[@jambogb]

@@kevinalleyne5107 🤗

[@jambogb]

@@kevinalleyne5107 something happened. We met - my ex kissed me and tried to take me to the bedroom. I've refused because when I asked what was happening the ranswer was: "Let's do a revival". This was exactly 2 weeks ago. I refused and said that I am non the "revival" type of person and left. Got a text while driving home: " I am sorry - I shouldn't had..." The week after (a week ago) I was offered to have breakfast together and I was so happy about that. We never had breakfast together. Since last week no more messages. I am incredibly strong - I truly was dying to make love with my other half but resisted. I need an apology, I want to know If I'm loved or not. I stopped giving myself away for free ages ago... but the last 2 days has been incredibly hard.

[@tyetr9853]

@@jambogb anything since then?

[@jambogb]

@@tyetr9853 we had dinner together last Friday (3 days ago) and everything ended last night. I am destroyed again...

[@lesliebean4594]

I think if I need to know how to make someone “want” me again, I shouldn’t want them in the first place.

[@at7824]

Yessssss

[@KingoftheJuice18]

That's your choice, of course, but many people do want to get their ex back.

[@bluesmoke8826]

I think you are right

[@michaelbing8991]

@@KingoftheJuice18 Very true. But I also think that most people who want their ex back are not in a position mentally or emotionally to truly know if they want the x back because it's the right thing to do, or because of the idea of loss.

[@KingoftheJuice18]

@@michaelbing8991 Two things are relevant here: (1) No one else can decide for the person what they "should want"; (2) There usually isn't a clear "right thing to do" in the objective sense (unless, for instance, they were being abused). Time will tell for each person whether continuing to strive to get their ex back feels necessary and right.

[@senatorarmstrong9459]

Turn around walk away, walk up the stairs, not down the stairs. Self improve in every aspect. If they have a rebound, go full no contact, don't talk to them, let then talk to you, don't be cold, don't look on their social media, all it will do is cause more pain, more suffering. We who were hurt must be better, we arent the trash they feel we are when they left us if you had a good and or beautiful relationship. Thank you coach for your wisdom, had helped me alot, your kit has helped me alot. If she comes back, there will be change, but that bridge will be crossed then and there, for now, slow, steady, calm, collected.

[@benithacalloway8286]

What’s your email I want to contact you please

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@benithacalloway8286 myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/

[@Toad_Moto]

We were together almost 5 years. It's been 4 weeks since I've seen her. Today, by far, has been the hardest. I so wanted to text her today but didn't.

[@nahseemx7527]

Stay 💪

[@olivermillan1802]

Stay positive! Watch some of the Coach's videos when you feel weak, they really do help.

[@Toad_Moto]

@@olivermillan1802 I've watched many of them and watch them when I'm having a moment. I trust him and his advice.

[@Toad_Moto]

@@nahseemx7527 yeah, buddy. 👊💪

[@Trozero69]

Stay with it for your own good

[@xPrincecharm]

It's been 2 years since me and my ex broke up... and I haven't gone a day without thinking of her.

[@xPrincecharm]

​@James Bond easier said than done... ive been in situationships and been dating alot. Still don't help me stop thinking about her

[@chilloften]

I’m the same. We’re built for solid relationship.

[@anissyaneena8145]

Youre the one who broke it off or?

[@xPrincecharm]

@Tyler Durden thanks for the advice bro

[@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335]

Sorry bro i know how you feel it's horrible.

[@bellajadore9]

I love that you don’t sugarcoat anything ❤️

[@barbaramadrid7755]

Coach Lee there is absolutely no need telling us other videos are not giving us correct advice. You are solid the proof is following the advice YOU give us. Your awesome.

[@hauwasulaiman8249]

What's sap"" him I was like... this be'fore I no who can he:lp you out tex ...him now... he can..... solve your problem:: don't weste your time here ""....^^.

[@dominickcolella5772]

I have to say, no one has so easily explained everything you touch upon. You're the best at this

[@b.k.1925]

A week ago and out of desperation, I went online to search for vids that would teach me how to get my ex back. This is when I came across Dr. Lee’s insightful vids. While I’ve gained knowledge on how and why to remain in NC, I am beginning to doubt whether or not I actually want him back. Truth is that despite him professing his love for me and that I am the most loving woman he’s ever met, he opted to leave. Granted, that nobody is obligated to stay if that’s not what they truly want but I do deserve to find a partner who sticks through thick and thin.

[@Dantallus9000]

Been in no contact for almost a year and a half, at this point if she comes back fine, if she doesn't that's just fine to. Stay strong, keep your self respect and make them regret their decision by leveling up your own life.

[@Saigonchic]

The No Contact Rule is EVERYTHING 🙌 it’s un fortunate most ppl are too weak to follow this

[@breannehamilton6784]

Yes I am one of those people lol can’t do it. This pain is bad it’s a 10 year relationship and trauma bonding

[@jerrycundiffii4818]

When a man and a woman get together, she always wants him to change, and he doesn't. He never wants her to change, and she does.

[@frankdique8799]

Nice comment, and very true!!

[@tsharlye2924]

This comment is gold

[@Administrator_In_Training]

That's a very deep comment, and I to say in my experience accurate. But in some cases some men cause the women to change. I always say when people meet they often send their representative, which is the best version of themselves. As the honeymoon phase ends so does the facade. I feel we should just be who we are it will save a lot of heartache.

[@katieb5052]

I disagree with your generalisation. I'm a woman who's never expected a guy to change.

[@jerrycundiffii4818]

@@katieb5052 oh

[@coachevy2851]

Coach Lee, I'm a hairstylist and I've since became a certified relationship coach since I started binging on your videos. I've always wanted to be a therapist, counselor etc.. anything that had to do with emotional or mental health care. I'm supposed to seek a mentor to jump start my side coaching business. I haven't had time to find one in person but your KZbin videos are doing the job for me! I follow MANY relationship coaches on KZbin but I must say you are the BEST of the BEST. One day I aspire to be as good as you. Coaching is your gift and calling.. please don't retire anytime soon, the world needs you!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 PS, I watched this video 8 times since you loaded it today. 😆 Coach Evy 🖤🙏🏼🖤

[@cefarther3945]

When your ex contacts you, you don't initiate; put them in the friend category and be a bit mothery or fathery with them; they hate it! They will chase you for 20 years trying to get you to fall in love with them. Works everytime. Love Coach Lee, he is on point. I was just sharing my method here.

[@soloarcelcruz2868]

Please let me know more and more your methods in order for my ex chase me for over or on 20 years just to make me I loved again at her...! Oh please help me to be as much even close to your time frame of achievements to get her back at that kind of method...please help mo so...please... seriously '!....

[@mcsnow3142]

All of us are looking for love. One day we shall meet the right people

[@victorianorris1916]

Loving myself and giving myself time to heal and enjoying life surrounding myself with family and friends❤️

[@egogojohnson1607]

[phone]⏯⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up........

[@egogojohnson1607]

message him on WhatsApp

[@egogojohnson1607]

✝️2349155456138⏯❣

[@gutsandgrittv5076]

Without attraction, nothing else will win the heart of anyone.

[@jacquelinekabugo-raderson1878]

Coach Lee, you're so great at what you do. So calming, reassuring, genuine ... God bless you abundantly 🙏🏽🌟🤗

[@danieladana2116]

Noticed that too...from all those " new experts" with 6,10 years back or less of studies, he's the only one who I do believe is speaking up the truth....🤗

[@zavierash7702]

Thank you! I'm a doctor 27 years married 20 years , wife and kids left. I'm in the middle of this now. Wanted to quit 😪. Until I saw this coach. I'm regaining my strength. Samson and Delilah 101 is real. No matter what retain your quintessential essence.

[@Liz-dragon-street.]

How are you? ❤️🙏

[@Steven-L]

Hope you're doing much better & you guys got back together

[@keepgrowing9941]

Attendance check: present 🙋🏻‍♀️ (watching right now, coach) 🥰🇵🇭

[@retard_activated]

Meeeee 💖

[@zarrajeansendico2821]

Present

[@ninetail3dfox]

Ayos

[@renatkrasova2163]

Jsi ceska?

[@LiLgPnoy15]

I like your Philippines flag! I was born there

[@starletmedina4866]

I’m so glad I found Coach Lee! I have been broken up with for 2 months now, I begged and pleaded for about a week and look back and nod my head and laugh about it now of how ridiculous I looked. I’ve been in No Contact for over a month. Me and my ex have a 2 year old so I still have to see my ex but when I see him he does not seem happy and relieved as he did in the beginning.. I believe the tables are slowly turning now. I have gained so much confidence I feel stronger and I’m sure he notices my change and I don’t post or like anything on social media.. Stay strong to whoever is going through this

[@HannahAnna2234]

Coach Lee has really helped me after watching his videos because after a year in a half almost two years I got my ex back now we are back together we are stronger then ever.

[@egogojohnson1607]

message him on WhatsApp

[@tyetr9853]

How'd it happen

[@bds8350]

I want my old life back

[@timpierce1967]

Me too 😢

[@lindapatterson9104]

Things are going according to the plan ‼️ These videos have changed the way I think I always did things wrong But not now I’ve shared them with some of my girlfriends and they agree Thank you Linda

[@RealCoachLee]

Linda, thank you so much. I'm honored you recommended my videos to your friends.

[@conniethepisces9201]

Your may feel bad but when you dress up, hair makeup and nails, you’ll feel better. Even on a budget 😎.

[@hauwasulaiman8249]

What's sap"" him I was like... this be'fore I no who can he:lp you out tex ...him now... he can..... solve your problem:: don't weste your time here ""....^^.

[@hauwasulaiman8249]

[phone]

[@nicolechemla4627]

I am thankful to have met such an honest, truthfull and brilliant Master like you, Coachlee. Everytime you speak, ellaborate and analyze this complex yet widespread issue of relationships, it feels as if you are speaking thru me and about me. It feels so powerful and inteligent!! Every aspect you tackle.. every problem, question and emotion that you raise and deal with becomes a bridge over stormy waters.. a saving rope, a waking up call. ‏‪Many a times it seems and feels like a dream come true - it is such a relief to hear you talk about these things with utmost confidence - to me, dear Coach, you've become a dear friend and I sincerely believe, at long last, that I am taking the right and proper measures to get my life back... and that what you're advocating and suggesting on your multiple videos are the ways by which we should, ought to and eventually could lead respectful and happy lives. Thank you Everyone ❤ and Bless You Coachlee 💥🤝

[@Troy12-fitnessmodel]

Best coach on the net for relationship breakdowns. His voice alone soothes me. Thanks G

[@nailsbymaz7214]

I nearly turned this off at the start but I listened and I’m going to try it! I’ll be back in a few months to tell anyone if this actually worked for me.

[@RandomUserAct]

Well.. any update..?

[@harshjones1688]

Thanks again for everything you’ve done Coach Lee. You really have helped me through a difficult time with highs and lows. It’s been around 60 days nc and i’m now sure it’s time to let go. You’ve helped me become such a better person though, gym, new friends, new activities, focusing on career, buying my first house. Thanks again!

[@louc3135]

@harshjones How r u doing, today??? As it’s been a month? Feeling even better? I’m just 5 days NC. Got promised the world. Then, ghosted.

[@harshjones1688]

@@louc3135 if i’m honest, i still miss her a lot but at the point where i’m indifferent to getting back together or moving on. We still haven’t spoken and it’s been just over 4 months now - she does look pretty sad in her pics. I’ve been considering messaging her this week, either to close this chapter for good or see if we can work things out

[@jasonho6883]

@@harshjones1688 Updates?

[@DC-bp8sx]

@@harshjones1688 update?

[@harshjones1688]

@@DC-bp8sx hey guys, just seen this! So We never spoken since but life’s great again! Speaking to way more girls than ive ever before and just happy doing me :) stick at it, feel those feels and do the inner work - trust me, you’ll be so much better for it! Good luck

[@hope9672]

Thank you so much. Your videos are reminding me to take care of myself. Your logical explanations help me pair whether I'm doing the right thing by doing "smart contact" with my Christian beliefs. It's been the hardest time of my life. The emotional pain at times has been beyond unbearable at moments, but I'm still here. Still breathing. It'd be easy to move on if we were just boyfriend girlfriend but my Christian beliefs have me holding on to an outcome only He knows & it's empowering at moments & beyond painful at others.

[@egogojohnson1607]

[phone]⏯⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up......

[@egogojohnson1607]

message him on WhatsApp

[@richardthompson2563]

Hope, do you have an update for us?

[@dobbletapp]

Physical attraction is essential cause if you’re not attracted to them in the first place, you won’t even attempt to get back with your ex. At least, for me...

[@lisahunsberger]

You are freaking amazing, Coach Lee!

[@candicesomar3592]

Thank you Coach Lee! Every time I feel like I want to contact my ex, I look at your video.

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

Coach Lee is a heart healer

[@keithschnekenburger8893]

Coach Lee "the G.O.A.T." of Relationship Coachs....

[@terryhutchings7701]

Work on yourself. Up your game. I'm working out, eating right and scheduled a photo shoot for some sexy photos. Knowing you are getting pictures taken is a great motivator. 4 weeks into NC. Feeling better. I know he is thinking about me. The call or message may or may not come, but I know my life is moving forward one way or the other.

[@soloarcelcruz2868]

Would you like to come over here in the Philippines...❤ Maybe you should do this once in a while...at this moment...! some how or somewhere...that can we meet is someways'...! and be thankful for each other to see me at best version of mine...! can be together as a friend....in somehow and looking forward ❤...

[@Hugo-pj1eo]

​@@soloarcelcruz2868what the hell

[@danmaertens7872]

We both agreed to a breakup three months ago. Then I felt relief. She was upset and showed alot of signs she wanted to get back together in the first three weeks, but never said clearly. I was unsure. We kept hanging and seeing each other and just remained friends, the. She started to date guys and I started to feel very upset, then she said she moved on. At the 9 week mark I was heartbroken and it felt real. She told me it’s over, and we should remain friends. I told her no contact because I couldn’t keep talking to her because it hurt to much. After three weeks she reaches out to me, wanting to give me back something of mine she was borrowing. She wanted to know more about my feelings. I told her I loved her but was trying to move on. She said she felt like maybe she should go out with me again but wasn’t sure. Then she suggested the length of time for no contact going forward. I am very confused. Then we parted ways and that night I text her one last thing about how I feel and she sent me a response saying how she acts all cool and like she doesn’t care but behind closed doors her mind is a mess. Then she is asking my friends what I’m up to lately. I have no idea what to do other than no contact that I’m doing again?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

danmaertins78. I am so sorry to hear that. I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.

[@HipHopJaysen]

Buddy! You are amazing for mentioning love from friends and family. It's so important to resume life and not be disconnected from the rest. Mad respect for you sir.

[@joanmu1053]

Thank you Coach Lee, very helpfull Today I see my ex back Casual, polite, open and stay calm.. He has got work to do! ❤

[@CREDMANSR]

Can you give an update? Are you both back together? If so how is it?

[@AndWeHaveRisen]

I hope you know how much of us who need your videos and are impacted by what you share, how truly grateful we all are. Especially because I can tell- you are a good person. You are honest and say it like it is; with no fluff, false hope, or b.s. added. You also share a lot of information for free. That speaks volumes to your character. People NEED this sort of information. To be happy. To want to live. It's..actually very serious. I know you must have to charge for some of your information- well, we all do need to make a living. But i am actually willing to pay for *your* information, because of all that you share for free, just to support you out of good will and genuine appreciation. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for doing this for all of us.🙏💛✨

[@holybiblebeliever]

Video Idea: Fading Affect Bias and your thoughts on it

[@kimberlybarnett835]

Great info…… he broke up with me 2 1/2 years ago. He dated someone but it did not work out because he couldn’t stop contacting me. I spent the entire time healing and getting to know who I am and what I want. I am a new person now. He reached out to me by showing up at my home unannounced. Then this past Friday I was invited over to his house. I’m taking baby steps because I’m not sure if he has grown or if he’s willing to grow with me. If not, we won’t do well in a relationship.

[@TDBS-1984]

Currently at 105 days NC myself... Literally almost crashed into my ex yesterday though. Went to meet a friend for lunch yesterday and as I was driving back towards the city I turned into a side street and another car was coming out too wide so I had to slam the breaks on. Made hard eye contact with the driver and it was my ex girlfriend. Don't think it counts as breaking no contact though.

[@sarah.marco888]

Manifesting me getting back with my ex and officially using no contact today. We ended on good terms , he stated that he's not ready to pursue our relationship further at the moment as we are in LDR but we loved each other a lot and it was a great 9 month partnership with us being together for 2 trips. I pray for the universe to have my back in this. I pray for everyone who is in NC. ❤🙏

[@thehavoc6331]

I hope the same for me and for us❤️

[@brandonohara4122]

What's LDR?

[@brandonohara4122]

Pray to God, not the universe. Hope all is well

[@tyetr9853]

Update us

[@jannlewandowski5540]

@@brandonohara4122 LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.

[@yahabibi6891]

I now even hate sleeping because all I dream of is her ;(

[@retard_activated]

I know this feeling... I woke up after dreaming of my ex again today... It's so bittersweet. I cried a little bit... It's showing me I'm not yet ready, but I'm improving day by day... Let yourself grieve when you need to. But don't let it take over you, all of the time. 💖

[@natester2617]

Me too... I took a long nap today and I dreamt that she reached out and we reconciled. It was so painful when I woke up and for the reality to set back in. It's weird though because, at the beginning of the breakup, I would have dreams of her not wanting me but now when I dream about her, it's like she is trying to get back into my life. Talk about weird coincidences lol

[@borntobesavage697]

It’s true that time heals , but sometimes it’s just time even time can’t heal. I understand you , it must be hard because sometimes me too , I think of him , I don’t cry but I feel the pain in my heart. But at the end stay strong, time Eventually will heal.

[@dearisqueline4280]

Same haha

[@cnrailproductions8957]

It hurt it hurts I know I’ve been in your shoes but it gets better it will get better

[@brandoray6471]

Hi Coach Lee. I wish I would have used no contact when my wife told me she wanted a divorce. By not doing no contact I gave her reasons to follow through with the divorce. I could do no good in her eyes so I should have just stayed away like you said. Instead I appeared desperate and emotional. That's why no contact is so important; you can't give the dumper more reasons to dump you. Thanks for sharing your experiences coach.

[@jebirobin1]

After 8 years of no contact. She came back.

[@karenrquinn6200]

You wasted 8 years waiting for her to come back???? WOW!

[@TanzaniteHayley]

No sure why I’m here. I have a new one on the go now and I don’t even care if it does or doesn’t go anywhere, I just love Coach Lee lol xx

[@egogojohnson1607]

message him on WhatsApp

[@egogojohnson1607]

✝️2349155456138⏯❣

[@ash2355]

You’re the best coach Lee. My boyfriend and I broke up twice this past year. He came back the first time, I messed up again and we broke up. However this time around things were starting to get back OK again but I did opposite, completely opposite of this video and the main reason is due to my uncontrolled anxiety. Now he has decided that Heath wants nothing to do with me and I don’t know what else to do. I think I need to do what I should’ve done from the beginning, is going to no contact and work on myself, especially my anxiety. I desperately rush the process of getting back together, because he had moved away. I love him dearly. I see no hope now

[@merlebrown7664]

What I'm going to recommend in situations like this is for you to talk to a psychic because these people absolutely know what to do about issues such as breakup and anxiety problem.

[@ash2355]

Do you mean psychiatrist?

[@stephaniecatherine803]

@@ash2355 .I understand how you feel my dear friend 😥😥😥🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷

[@merlebrown7664]

@@ash2355 No, not at all. Psychics are quite different from psychiatrist whose . Maybe I could send you a link to their website so you can see what I mean .

[@hauwasulaiman8249]

What's sap"" him I was like... this be'fore I no who can he:lp you out tex ...him now... he can..... solve your problem:: don't weste your time here ""....^^.

[@maralene1411]

Well, over a year later, he reached out. Not sure how I feel about that. I have stage 3 cancer. I just healed up from major surgery and have to deal with treatments. I think I am strong enough to face this without him. Still love him, but need my time now.

[@larisabogdan7408]

Bless u, be healthy soon, prayers for you ❤️

[@ITF11]

“Like coach Lee said so… don’t say that part” lol

[@barbaramadrid7755]

Please don't.. lol

[@mrschipa2411]

Hahaahahha ❤

[@LokiSeidrGod]

I sent her a message today after 4 days of no contact. I told her I was working on myself and that I understand and respect her decision. Told her that I wanted her to be happy and wished her good luck on her life even thought I wished to work on things, but it doesn’t depend on me. Also told her to reach out if she needed to talk

[@PinkCameraMagic]

He broke up with me in the heat of the moment during an argument. Im on day 6 of no contact and he has reached out daily, very casually with small talk. I was pretty cold and to the point with my delayed responses. Yesterday he sent me a selfie of himself wearing a shirt that I bought him. 😞😞😣. Pray for me ya'll!!!

[@evelynmontalvo1759]

I unfortunately broke NC after almost two weeks. Definitely the anxiety got to me. The fact that my ex was nice and understanding made me feel so dumb and selfish for breaking it and not just leaving him alone. I’m on my 3rd day of starting NC again and this time I will be stronger. I love him and I don’t want him to think I don’t respect him or his decision. I’m still remaining hopeful and still have my moments but have to remain strong and take care of myself. Hopefully in the future I can come back and say we made things work and taking our time. Thank you Coach Lee.

[@fj4731]

Hi Evelyn...u regret breaking no contact too soon after 2 weeks? Would u advice to stay No contact even after 2.5 month?

[@wilsonaparra]

Loved it. I've been NC for 7 months, feels so unreal lol. Feeling great, still miss her from time to time, but I'm valuing myself in a greater way, dating new ppl, trying to be the best version of myself. Thank you so much Coach Lee, you've helped me A LOT since I found you.

[@laurafilopuopolo1574]

Goodbfor you.. My ex is akready ans has been seeing the being he us now with while we were...TOGETHER.... IM SO TORN.😞🥺.... HE always made it look like im crazy, insecure etc.... I eve. Had nightmare about them AND IT WAS TRUE.... HE DIDNT RESPECT ME AT ALL.. and he would always try to turn it on me I know that my intuition and when I dream about certain things and never steer me wrong my grandmother had certain gift or she was able to see certain things and know certain things and I truly believe that it's been passed down to me and I am an empath so I feel everything and I was right the whole time I just wish he had the balls or the audacity or a little bit of respect to tell me to my face...BUT IM THE ONE THAT DISRESPECTED HIM RIGHT.. BULL SHIT

[@libraempress2069]

I said to myself the other day he needs to see me as the woman he really wanted in the first place, the only way is to leave him alone get on with life, post pictures of yourself once in awhile looking Beautiful where he will see them remind him who you are.

[@amandabastos2866]

I am impressed how good your work is and how you differentiate from the other coaches.

[@fluxcobra3541]

Day 19 since the breakup... 17 days of NC. Its hard but still hanging in there , doing better now. We where together for almost 5 years and where really good together. We where best friends since the age of 13. Always had great talks and helped each other at school, friends,... I miss her, the small things in life. Never tought it would be this hard. I wont give up, Its time to work on myself now. We can do this people!

[@RHammer1983]

Update?

[@julifunnygirl71]

Stay strong. It's so hard 😔

[@fluxcobra3541]

@@RHammer1983 Still in NC. Its day 25. We both have to study for our exams now until the end of august, so i don't expect a message before that. Working on me right now. I go outside, try to study,... Will keep you guys updated.

[@ovigavril7191]

@@fluxcobra3541 update?

[@fluxcobra3541]

@@ovigavril7191 She reached out today ,after 2.5months of nothing. It was a casual text. had a small conversation of 10 messages or something. I don't know what I want at the moment I will keep my distance and see what happens. reach out is the start but there is a long way to go now. Don't really know what to do next. Hope you guys are doing great you got this!

[@ponglenis9273]

Just saw a very cute and beautiful woman after being done with training. I don’t need my ex lmao. If she didn’t want me when I had bad times, she doesn’t deserve me now.

[@injahessue8774]

No contact is not easy to do when you're alone

[@RealCoachLee]

Injah, please email me at [e-mail]. I want to make sure we can email you when our support community is ready.

[@johnnycalderon9951]

So true I live alone and most of the time alone and this is killing me at work and gym I'm ok but once I get home the feeling that comes over me is horrible

[@badly_dubbed2401]

I'm beginning to believe that my ex girl is a narcissist and our relationship was a lie. I've mistaken her confusing behaviour as her not knowing what she wants. She ended things in May and I've not been able to go no contact. Lots of push and pulls, triangulation with other men. Gaslighting, saying nice things followed be extreme devaluing. Using her kids to contact me. She's no longer the woman I loved. I can't believe I've missed it for so long.

[@RHammer1983]

That sounds like 98% of women.

[@badly_dubbed2401]

@@RHammer1983 I sure hope not. It's basic emotional immaturity. This woman is in her mid 30's and a mother of 3.

[@RHammer1983]

@@badly_dubbed2401 , women who’ve been abused usually act narcissist due to their attachment styles. The fact is you’re either under her spell or you love her and miss her. It’s been a few weeks of hell for me but I’ve accepted, I was obsessed with her and her love bombing right towards break up was her way of trying to make us work and failing. If she cheated; duck her. I pray your spell is lifted.

[@badly_dubbed2401]

@@RHammer1983 yeah well that's it. She never talked much about her childhood but their was certainly a number of red flags. She was also in and out if a long term dysfunction relationship prior to us being together so the issues were already there. We split early in May and it's dragged on and on its just an embarrassment. I don't love her anymore, I loved someone, just not who she projects herself as now. There is a trauma bond there sadly still, she created that in me and its only now I see it. I don't want her back, but it isn't getting easier. I wish you all the best in the future too my friend.

[@RHammer1983]

@@badly_dubbed2401 , we both need to accept that we’re lonely without a partner and because we’re so loyal that when someone leaves us to dry; we crack. I’m so sad all day I miss my Sarah, but when we broke up I didn’t beg or plead, I didn’t say sorry or promise anything. I said you’ll be back and I’ll miss you till then. Love is tough, I’ll pray for you.

[@eveyantha3142]

I broke up with him as I told I didn't believe him. I told him that we are both free, so I wouldn't meet him. I told him, have a safe trip home. I need someone I can trust. No contact since.

[@ArfooHuroo]

This only works for some people and the cop out is always “then it wasn’t meant to be”

[@synaesthesia4183]

I never thought I'd hear from him again...so arrogant and prideful and he cheated and bailed....it took him a year, but he admitted to spying on me the entire time via social media and asking my mom about me (mom never told me). Anything is possible, guys. My result: I don't want him anymore and had the sexiest rebound of my life! I did the work and healed the agony in about 3 and a half months (2.5 year relationship). DISCIPLINE YOURSELF EMOTIONALLY. Don't let yourself picture who you thought they were....acceptance is freedom.

[@rachael074]

And once again Coach Lee has delivered another amazing video. Keep up the good work bro 👏🏽👍🏽

[@sam-mh2pg]

Working on ur profesional advice, watching series of ur video and everytime I have an urge to call or text him I come back to watch ur video to hold myself back....... Thank u so much coach lee.... U have been given almost the best info for everyone here, the rest really depend on d destiny... Hope he come back soon ❤️

[@1324Hairdoist]

Me too this is EXACTLY what I’m doing

[@-KorruptionOfLight-]

I think I've gotten to the point where I don't want my ex back. It's not worth it. Plus I know she feels the same. Next stop ... Me

[@artbylady800]

oh my thank you for talking like a helpful loving friend who actually cares , the friend that I need and never had , thank you 💕

[@RHammer1983]

Listening to these videos is hurting my mental health budtI thank you for your advice and I will heal and never reach out again. I thought I wanted her back but after a few weeks, I’m angry someone hurt me.

[@fishstickbio594]

You have to understand that person who left you ….they don’t really love you ! Stop waiting and wanting a person who shows you they don’t ! Go find another person who really want to be with you instead .

[@runer007]

After she broke up I was miserable for 2 months. But when I started sleeping with new girls I immediately felt much better. The more I sleep with new girls the less I care about my ex. I am starting to accept the idea that I will never ever see my ex again. I am starting to not care about my ex anymore.

[@imissme8313]

I think if you give hope that they will come back your just doing yourself more harm .. and not allowing you to fully detach from some one , I think it’s best if you accept it and actually fight and go with the pain

[@urijahfaith2961]

Coach Lee is the G.O.A.T.

[@Robert-vd2rt]

Wait for God to bring that special someone in to your life remember you always need to wait for that special person who adds to you not someone who subtracts from you

[@bigal9571]

Coach lee, you should do a video talking about how your ex can see you’ve changed if they’ve blocked you everywhere

[@egogojohnson1607]

[phone]⏯⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up... .....

[@egogojohnson1607]

message him on WhatsApp

[@Alleecats]

I'm in NC. Made it through Valentine's Day, and now, his birthday, 2/18. It's tough, but I'm still in NC. Thank you, Coach Lee.

[@esdrasmanrique6457]

How's north Carolina?

[@EssyDee-t4z]

I’m finally doing NC with my husband now after 5 months of communicating and pleading at times. We have been separated 13 months. He doesn’t want to fix things and has a ‘friend’. I know it seems I should let go but this was 17 years of my life and we have two children. This is my final option.

[@amymitchell1054]

So profound…. “ You are the question and the Answer”