How to make your EX WANT to Chase YOU AGGRESSIVELY

[@blacademic]

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[@saloha808]

The real reason why you keep chasing your ex is because your ANXIETY LEVELS ARE HIGH! Anxiety causes you to become selfish and lose empathy. Control your anxiety and you will feel so much better. ❤ Stay strong everyone!

[@ninath13]

I had anxiety with him now he has it lol

[@ClairClarke-vk7bq]

And the opposite is true with an avoidant ex… When they get anxious, they avoid and lose empathy and and become very selfish!

[@nicolerh]

So how do you control anxiety?

[@nicolerh]

Maybe with CBD pills?

[@Originalman360]

Facts…there are plenty of books on Amazon to help folks understand how anxiety works…I first found out what attachment style (anxious attachment) I had, then I got books on it and began to recover myself!

[@MarshaRobinson-k5o]

Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. zI’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.

[@MarshaRobinson-k5o]

That sounds intriguing, I’m curious what exactly does the spiritual counselor do?

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

His name is Father Tosin Ayodele and he's an amazing spiritual counselor who specialize in helping people reconnect with their ex

[@MarshaRobinson-k5o]

I’m grateful for your suggestion, you have no idea how much this means to me.

[@jonaveul]

In other words what I did, after trying to work things out, giving them space, and no contact. Just walk away and never look back, chances are they already have someone else. If they come back then it’s destiny, if not it was never meant to be.

[@alexlogan1904]

Let’s just hope my ex isn’t another person watching your videos, if we both follow your advice, we’ll never be in contact!

[@simonespencer2244]

😂😂😂my thoughts exactly!!!😂😅😂

[@Gist24]

Majority on this channel and watching his videos are people who have been dumped.😂the dumper is too happy to be here .. probably out there trying to get ur replacement 😂😂

[@simonespencer2244]

@@Gist24 😂😂😂you know dats right!😂😂

[@adaofcharles1217]

@@Gist24 😂😂😂 he already got a replacement for me, right now I would give him up a billion times to any woman.

[@dearbhumi5]

😂😂😂

[@Altamentefavoreida]

The irony is that when you finally get over that ex, you don’t even care if they chase you 😂😂

[@jaydub7386]

Truth!

[@onetoners]

And most of the time they do

[@musclebender]

This coach and no contact are RIGHT ON THE MONEY! I have been married for 5 years, separated for 6 months. Guilty of it all… pleading, anger, emotional instability. All I got was “I’m not in love with you, I’ve moved on.” After 3 days of NC, and telling I’m going to focus on my “manhood”… she text saying “You know, I’ve thought about us working things out, but you always try to control things.” BLOWN. AWAY. Knock off the neediness, BE ATTRACTIVE. Let them come to you. Real truth. Thank you for the video!

[@musclebender]

@@Photo-ms1mo Things are going pretty well. Her and I are meeting this afternoon to discuss some options for the future. What she doesn't know is our son and I are going to show her the house we made an offer on and are in the process of buying! Showing our new sexy best self!

[@Music-kf6jt]

@@musclebenderhope she never takes you for granted

[@tioswift3676]

Insurance guy here...I’ll call/Text 3 times, after that I move on. I’d rather talk to people who want to talk to me and who have the time to talk. Anyways, great video bro thanks

[@lisakennedy8605]

The analogy with the agent blowing up your phone and becoming annoying was spot on! Thank you for sharing this

[@grandremovals7606]

Sometimes a person leaves a relationship because. Their needs were not being met they leave because they care and if the person they leave Ignores. them even after leaving sometimes this. Confirms to the leaver they do. The. Right thing

[@laineyturner3785]

Great video! I agree 100%! People naturally get turned off when someone acts thirsty.

[@TheTropics4]

Thanks for the great advice! If he does start "sniffing" around, I'll be respectful, but aloof. I refuse to put him back on that Pedestal I had him on! He will be "option", not me.

[@NathanBarnes-fh3yd]

Broke up a year ago tomorrow, been 2 months no contact after we met up a few times in January and she said she needed to be alone and be on her own. Her birthday was a week ago, obviously I stuck NC, 4 days later she’s blocked me off every social media app (we haven’t followed each other on anything since we broke up) and also locked her Facebook profile so anyone on the outside can only see her profile picture. Lol

[@Da-hellFreesHorseSlaves]

I am remaining silent and minding my business because when you go, I disappear too. I'm an a-hole like that. Lol! My phone is now being blown up about what I will tell other people if they ask about us. Chile, I have no time for these type of childish communications. This video has confirmed my mindset. Thanks!

[@13sprintuser]

This video was key for me at this moment as I'm reconnecting with my ex and we are about to meet up for a first, real date after 2 months being broken up (3-4 weeks no contact). I resonated with the part about FREEDOM and not focusing on labels/titles and that I must wait for HER to ask me for commitment.

[@Gary_Winthorpe]

PERFECT timing for this video. This is exactly the stage I’m at right now! Last night she msgd me saying “let’s do something fun soon”

[@leoportsmouth5138]

Don't reply to quick, don't agree, sent her a plain message and not to exited or desperate , just plain talk within your terms ..don't chase

[@Mary-pt8jm]

I wish mine will send me a message too

[@adaofcharles1217]

She is playing with your emotions, don't give in too soon.

[@Handleisnotavailable1]

I hope you guys met and things are working out

[@Mary-pt8jm]

@@Handleisnotavailable1 for me, I’ve moved on or rather I’m completely busy with other things that will be beneficial to my future. I don’t even think about texting him and that’s crazy considering how much I always want to hear from him to the extent he said I was delusional.

[@brandonmoskos9149]

This guy is spot on, need to schedule a private call. I've followed everything he has said.

[@CecilyJamelia]

What if the ex is trying to see you then tries to make things sexual…I’m not giving away anything for free, but saying that you don’t feel like intimacy is appropriate that’s a fast way to kiss someone off or to make it seem like you are trying to implement a power play

[@faustinocontreras6284]

Excellent examples. Your examples help us see and understand THEIR feeling, THEIR thought, on the situation. Thank you.

[@blacademic]

Glad you find the videos helpful

[@timcorley5558]

Coach what an awesome delivery. You should be a public speaking teacher. Another great video.

[@dustin5498]

I finally moved on so I guess this is irrelevant to me, but your so right I appreciate all of your help

[@swapnasapien.7347]

From India. I'm moving on ..trusting your words.

[@kadamprashant3422]

Believe on process swapna he wl come back

[@chrissy_rose8052]

I’m learning about attachment styles. Please do yourself a favor and learn yours ❤ I just finished the book “attached”. Extremely helpful

[@amyrowe8014]

I’m giving space. I have no expectations. And loose weight look good seems like I would be trying to hard. Plus it’s been 7months no contact only HIM thru fake accounts

[@maemaez9749]

I needed this story of investment months ago

[@maemaez9749]

I sent reminders including pics and then no contact ....it seems to help but it's bread crumbs ....maybe it will turn into a whole piece with enough bread crumbs 😊

[@victorianorris1916]

Thank you for the good advice, I love it when I see your video’s come up I get so excited I know it’s going be good!! 🤣🤣

[@blacademic]

Thanks Victoria! Good to have you here

[@talksick508]

I hit my ex up after 3 years We were very toxic and I took my time to really try and change as much as I can We talk here and there on the phone But she says she found someone else I do notice we talk weekdays and she’s gone weekend We spent 7 years off an on Sadly she broke the trust and did majority of things I def think about what we had and feel sick and paranoid more Then times I feel really lonely and want what we had Hopefully we just stay friends and get along

[@timahawk3220]

Coach Blac you have Great Energy. Thanks for all you do

[@rrberta]

My fiance broke up with me after 7 years, she said it's over and she is not coming back, has been 6 weeks already and Im starting to believe that she is not coming back at all 🥺😪

[@wandamiller8756]

I looked that name up and can’t find Dr Morkidi

[@wandamiller8756]

@Raymond Camp is that right name

[@emguy449]

@@wandamiller8756 be careful, scammers alert.

[@vagabond3045]

I moved my girlfriend in an Im 42 she had a kid I never lived with a family she moved out after 3 years because I could not open up and let them in but know I know I did love them I just needed to show more

[@bmlyte187]

I appreciate your channel bro, you always calm me with your delivery and the way you break down each point, much appreciated, btw does this work on an avoidant also?

[@DianaKushin]

Coach black you are more helpful and carry a sincere gift. Thank you Diana ❤

[@chadganaway6737]

Currently in no contact. I’m focusing on myself!!

[@rosemaryodiakosa]

Someone owes me some money and don't want to pay up...

[@Leef13]

Really needed to here this ty! You been getting me through a hard time. I may of missed it as I am newer to your videos but what if your ex sends you a video/pic of you all together? What is the best response with out ignoring or breaking down asking her to come back.

[@babyluvjr]

In my opinion, just be cool. Take it in stride

[@aizzatv3565]

My ex came back and gave him chance but I found out he still with the girl ..I hope you notice me thanks for your advice

[@Kelliedavis]

That is such good advice. Thank you. Currently going through it right now

[@timothymurray1236]

Always great content but damn those mouth noises from that mic don't have trigger my misophonia 😂

[@babyluvjr]

Thanks!dope video Coach

[@blacademic]

Thanks my friend 🤞🏿

[@julieann3533]

U so right about this one

[@judymccoy3095]

This was great advice, thank you

[@blacademic]

Thanks for watching!

[@kimberlitaft]

I ended the relationship because he did not treat me the way I deserve took advantage of my full on investment in him and was selfish. I broke up and am no contact. There was so much potential there. I will see if he reaches out but I know he knows he had a great thing

[@moniqueg2012]

I need this advice however I’m currently pregnant with our 2nd child, I thought we were ok until 2-3 months ago

[@jameswilcox8920]

Yes sir coach black this video was on the money bro I'm going through something you just scried it was very helpful and inlightmemt

[@sunnyono1262]

Do you think you can make video for Married couples who are going threw separation and divorce ?Thank you

[@rrberta]

Same here 🥺

[@sunnyono1262]

@Fbn Rodrigues it's hard I feel like I have no soul 😔

[@rrberta]

@@sunnyono1262 me too, has been 6 weeks since she left, we been together for 7 years and I really believe it's over, she has made her mind and dosen't matter what I do or not do she is not coming back. I know your pain because I feel the same, we gonna lose everything, our home, our privacy, everything 🥺🥺🥺😪

[@lilfree2rhyme34]

Best video yet 🙌

[@pocahontas4583]

If they’re your ex why would you want them to chase you???? 🤔🤔 They’re your ex for a reason. I’m trying to get mine to leave me alone!!!

[@artemvsoloviev]

What if she told me that she’s in a relationship? And she doesn’t want me in her life, after 20 years together and 2 kids.

[@andreatorluemke4982]

Circumstances don’t matter. Source the reality you want. See it done. Amen. Feel it done. Imagine and visualize it done. Anchor it with a word and feel that feeling as often as you can. Sounds like you’re in fear. I take everything to mean what I want is coming to me faster amen. (No matter what the evidence that’s presented to me haha)

[@Showtimemariiii]

what if they’re distracting themselves by going out or snapping people all the time ? they’re getting those feelings from others

[@mandywoollard6493]

Ive been 8 weks breakup. Been 45 days no contact. Not heard anything.

[@raimaburn-a-bee8980]

My ex can’t deiced what he wants we went on a couple days and he told me how he felt and it did hurt to hear he said he misses me and thinks about me a lot and that I am an amazing partner but needs to figure out what he wants I said my peaceful goodbye and have no contact him sense It hurts and he is someone that I really fell in love with but it is best for me to walk away

[@oluwadamilolaoriade5426]

Thank you coach black

[@synthiat6909]

Hello from Greece

[@ninath13]

I won't chase that he always comes back He needs help hurting comes easy that's a problem he has to realize. Leave me alone and live your f up life

[@dlgacct]

One of the reasons why salesperson is aggressively pushing because they may need to meet their boss weekly, even they know chasing frequently is not the best for sales process, but their boss will ask how many times he called the prospect. If the salesperson said just one time, then the boss will blame its his fault for low frequency of reaching out when the deal cannot be closed at the end😂. Its off topic, but just wanna say I could understand their pressure 😅

[@AP-ng9ow]

The real question is, do you start talking to them again after they broke up with you? and the answer is no!

[@menceo1461]

Soo she said she needed a break from dating, but still wants to be friends with me and talk to me. She said that later when she's ready to date again, we'll be able to get back together and she can see how I improved as a boyfriend. We've been talking but she's been really busy and sending me short texts, after long periods of time. She leaves me on read, doesn't text first, and sometimes doesn't even open my texts. I don't know if I'm pushing her away while being her friend, or if she's really that busy. I believe she lost interest in me and doesn't really even want to give us a second chance. Please help me I need someone who knows what they're doing to help me.

[@reynoldsbilly66]

How about trying to reconnect during a divorce and while my wife has a new boyfriend. He's the same guy she broke up with when we started dating?

[@KingJack86]

After 3 months NC I reached out. But it wasn’t to say hi or to reconcile. I got a spam email that i didn’t know was spam at the time. It was for an invoice for a $700 passport with her name and address on it. I texted her a screen shot and asked, why did I get this email? She said it must be a scam and the conversation was over in three texts. Did I just undo all of the work I built up in the previous 3 months of NC?

[@kevin080592]

I don't think you have undone the three month no contact rule.. 3 months is already long enough for not having any contact... If your ex is still not interested after that long, then i guess its time to move on and pursue much deserving people in your life... All the best and good luck

[@bipbop7231]

Hey Coach! Hope you’re having an awesome Saturday!

[@DTM-Books]

Good advice, much thanks

[@blacademic]

Thanks for watching

[@jamieemery-bp7jg]

Thanks again mate

[@ClairClarke-vk7bq]

I was a little harsh because he’s out playing the field … I told him I didn’t want to be friends and to stop texting me unless he wanted to have a real conversation with me. He didn’t handle the breakup well at all, so he needs to make amends. Did I ruin everything with my harshness?

[@SophYef]

Will he rlly come back? Even if he’s the one that broke up with me and I ruined things?

[@Zi-mg6rv]

Did he?

[@skitzupshaw7009]

I work with my ex from time to time now I work with my ex & her 2nd rebound WTH. I'm still hurt & lil confused on how to feel & what to say

[@truthsoldier159]

I have a question. Are these same rules effective to save a marriage? Situations such as separation, or a divorce in process?

[@romeobillings6645]

She told me that she has no longer investment in this the relationship because she told me that she will never ever come back and she has no desire to come home and she feels like there is nothing to save but I have to go to church and there is where she will see me

[@dparquet26]

Hey you’ve been really helping me with these videos 💯 I can help you with the life insurance let me know💯👍🏽🙌🏽 I will make sure you have the best

[@mominahumayun8276]

He left me as he said his mom is not agreeing for our marriage. It’s his birthday today. Should I wish him?

[@ihaqz6913]

No

[@anmm9236]

Ty!💜🙏

[@diesonata8067]

I feel like I’m being too late since I agreed on a friendship and it’s been like almost 3months and at first he didn’t reach out to me but now it’s just reels

[@casey3476]

But what if I am the one who left bec he kept doing things I didnt like? Like leaving me on read, going on hermit mode

[@gladyswairimu6194]

I broke a two weeks no contact...He said he needed a month more to think about it. What does it mean?

[@abbybritish]

That means give him a month to think on whether he wants to get back together or stay broken up. In the mean time, try to work on yourself regardless of what he decides.

[@bipbop7231]

Move on

[@kikilee7162]

I think it means he's trying to see what else is out there. Keep stepping beautiful. ❤ you deserve better.

[@CL-DevineHonor]

It means that he knows you are chasing, which is very unattractive. NC is not a game. You are supposed to not contact him ever again for your own sake, so you can heal and move on. You are behaving like a desperate car salesman and showing weakness! He is the one who has to reach out to you, never the other way around!

[@marquettamiller608]

It means he stringing you along, get away from her

[@gizz_music]

I don’t get it - I thought were not meant to be in touch if they’re not committing (let ‘em miss us) - we’re in long distance: do I answer his calls or do I tell him I’m not interested in being his friend?

[@sam_so_nice]

man, I’m not needy, I’m not pursuing, we write maybe once every week or two, she says she wants to meet up, we meet up and all I get is „I’m open for a second try but I’m free atm to do what I want“ and then back to writing. This is going for about 2 months now. What shall I do?

[@Rcteusyeiey]

What about when your married and have kids together

[@abbybritish]

Try and be cordial and speak only about the kids.

[@GymGoer-hj2ie]

im in the same situation, we have a 7 week old daughter together, we broke up 2 weeks ago, these past 3 days its just being cordial and keeping everything about our daughter and only if necessary, just let her ask the questions unless you really need too. she has tried to breadcrumb me just once which i didnt fall for, it was a tik tok video that reminded her of me. its a lot different when kids are involved and you cannot just move on and get over them when youve kids its 10x harder. stay strong

[@brandonreser5809]

It’s been 4 months NC. Will she ever come back?

[@123abc-uo5tg]

Okay but the thing is i’m ‘the ex’, i was the one who broke up cause i was in a bad place & was immature to handle stuff & it’s been more than 1.5 year since we broke up but i miss my ex a lot now & i want to go back but i don’t know if i should cause they’re with someone new now

[@terezavalencia2908]

Too late bud

[@Kumalala_Homophobic]

Let them know indirectly

[@katiesmile11]

Coach do u open up late afternoon spots?

[@elizabethomoregie279]

Thanks

[@JoseOrtiz-hv6ix]

That's great advice thank you I have one question though my accident trying to text me but she's only regret doesn't talk anything about getting together just saying she regrets everything she did I feel like she's just looking for my validation I responded but I feel like nothing changed it's the same thing should I even be responding to her messages like that at all

[@danielcorrea407]

i had a question.....with the women hypergamy society....she just took another man from the line, than chase you and "fight gor her love".....what you think about it ?

[@tmgtrz]

Hey coach my ex came back after some time of no contact. We were together 5+ years and she left me. Since then I met others, improved myself, lost 70lbs. I’m sure she has met others too but she reached out and said she missed me but as a friend. How should I approach this. I’ve done my healing but when she reached out those old memories came back for that moment.

[@milesmatulionis]

If you are ok being friends with her that’s fine, but if you want more then you have to tell her you are not interested in being friends. And if you don’t want to see her and have already moved on then just tell her you are not comfortable with being friends with her at this time.

[@jaydub7386]

Six months so far. I've only got the rest of my life to go.

[@jadenbeauchamp8836]

Coach does this apply to the dumper ?

[@eustacesmith9635]

She moved away 2 months now on now She are texting me good morning and asking me for phone credit

[@melpumpedyabih]

How do I stop being mad that she is toxicly happy she is partying out clubbing and her toxic best friend is the one bringing her it pisses me off it’s not fair, she is sleeping around and it hurts what do I do someone please help me feel better

[@wiso71]

Focus on yourself, stop checking her stories etc(!), find yourself a good hobby and get some good friends to spent more time with at the moment. Time will heal your wounds. As random as it may sound, it's the truth. It will get better and one day you don't care that much anymore, trust me. Keep the focus on you, not on her, bro 🙏

[@melpumpedyabih]

@@wiso71 thanks bro cause I been going through it

[@melpumpedyabih]

@@wiso71 should I block her socials ? Or just don’t look . I noticed she saw my account on insta and viewed my story too but didn’t say anything like this is annoying and her friend is saying she gets fucked every night and all that

[@wiso71]

@@melpumpedyabih I feel you bro. Had the same stuff going on with an ex a few years ago after a pretty rough breakup. Still thinking about it after 4 years sometimes, but as I told you, the more you focus on improving yourself and checking less on her, the more the pain will be gone. Use it as a fuel to create something meaningful to you

[@melpumpedyabih]

@@wiso71 thanks brother

[@KrystaCarter-j2n]

It’s been 2 month of back and fourth and I’ve done way too much txting… begging pleading but it’s been a cycle because we see each other hang out for few days then goes back to acting like I don’t exist… which triggers this cycle of me going crazy I’ve done everything you said not to do :( what do I do now ?

[@malsroomm]

what ended up happening?

[@jimdelvecchio2090]

I'm blocked on social media and her phones

[@abbybritish]

But not on email. Lol

[@jimdelvecchio2090]

@@abbybritish I can't email her or send her a letter

[@abbybritish]

@@jimdelvecchio2090 oh wow. Does she not have email? Anyhow I guess you should just give her space and when she’s ready she’ll will reach out.

[@jimdelvecchio2090]

@@abbybritish she's on the Lords hands.

[@CL-DevineHonor]

There is nothing for you to do! She is the one who has to unblock and contact you. She has to miss you. Now, DO NOT block her back! This, if you want to keep the communication channels open. This will show her that you are not bitter or angry! Again, there is nothing for you to do!!

[@wakemeupchallie7129]

Hey coach wish I can talk too you

[@Judybell1959]

I need your help

[@rizeuse]

Does he answer his comments

[@blacademic]

As much as I can but longer questions can be asked either on a coaching call or you can join my livestreams, Mondays and Wednesdays at 930pm CST

[@jennifernixon563]

T.y.

[@sjtanman]

She won't chase if she is back with her X..I'm F÷÷+ed 😊

[@GymGoer-hj2ie]

does this really work when you have a kid together? we have a 7 week old daughter, break up was 2 weeks ago, she said there was no hope of us getting back together, we have just been in this low contact for 3 days but she texts me everyday asking how our daughter is doing i give her a short reply and sometimes shell follow up asking for photos which ill send but nothing more than that. she tried breadcrumbing me once with a tiktok video saying "i had to send this to you" as it reminded her of me. i didnt reply to it. any advice?

[@ezraarel8418]

👍🏽

[@thepurestbashir-xr5ex]

He left me but I was stupid saying to him to leave her .. I was hurting in shock that he cheated but … after I stoped msging him …I realised I deserved better I will never take him back but he don’t know that how do I let him know that I don’t want him ?

[@thepurestbashir-xr5ex]

@@MR-fz4gw thanks 🙏 but I feel like now he don’t know my value … I wanted him to realise and for him too chase so I could tell him I’m done

[@CL-DevineHonor]

You are letting him know by NO contacting him ever again and focusing on yourself! In other words, you are letting him go! Trust me, he will notice. Your actions speak louder than words.

[@thepurestbashir-xr5ex]

@@CL-DevineHonor thanks for this

[@laineyturner3785]

I hope you can move on with your life without the need to inform your ex. If you believe that you deserve better and will never take him back, why do you need to make an announcement ?

[@kiddytube3915]

How to make the chase aggressively? Start dating other women.

[@laineyturner3785]

Please don’t use anyone to make your ex jealous.

[@sushisam3010]

Rebound is the most grotesque thing ever. Pure immaturity.

[@nonameyt4585]

She wanted to met me she is in a rebound but 1 day before we should met she blocked me and she suggest that meeting what does that mean😂