HOW TO MOVE ON FROM HIM (whether you dated or not)

Whether you knew him for 3 weeks or dated for 3 years, it is KEY to choose to move on with your life so you don't spend your life pining away over something that is not meant to be. Here are some practical ways you can do it!

[@jewelbowers2607]

I went through this 3 1/2 years ago. We never even dated, we just knowingly had a crush on each other for a few years. It took me TWO years to get over him. Big waste of time. Great advice!!

[@emmaociee]

Yes! Been there, done that. I’m glad I’m not the only one. Because after it all, I felt just plain stupid.

[@emwilss]

That is definitely tough - glad you appreciate this video! Thank you Jewel!

[@hannahevans327]

I relate sister!!

[@ocinidolegna]

😳 this makes me,,, idk how to describe how im feeling but im in a similarity situation of not dating but we knowingly have a crush on each other. Idk what your situation with him was but for us, neither of us are really ready for a relationship, although hes more adamant about it i suppose and i wouldnt oppose if God gave the green light. Its only been a year, but idk if i should work towards letting go of these feelings and seeing whatever may happen down the line, since we're still young & not at the best age to date (freshly in college and working our first real jobs).

[@karenperez4010]

Girll sameeee!!

[@milenie.archilas]

"marinate like a chicken in the TRUTH" HAHAHA THANK YOU

[@emwilss]

YOU GOT IT!!!!

[@emmaociee]

That "Oh, what if he gets offended?" at 4:54 😂 I felt that

[@angelicaduarte2599]

Emma Nelson i definitely laughed out loud 🤣

[@jolievictoria2612]

If you are reading this I just want to let you know that Jesus loves you!!😊💕✝️

[@herooftwilight5534]

This works from a non romantic perspective too. My former boss left me feeling like a garbage person and the mean things he said about me and the lies he told about me still really hurt. I’m finally starting to move on, bless you for this beautiful message. I’m about to go in the mirror and tell myself what I need to hear. ❤️ Thank you!

[@emwilss]

That is a very good point! Definitely can take these points and apply them to non-dating situations as well. Most definitely.

[@therealinternetdad]

That's a great point!

[@Beverleykhoayaa]

This came at the right timing :O

[@emwilss]

I am so glad!

[@astridliden2519]

I always tell my friends..."i'm convinced that one way God speaks to me is through Emily Wilson videos..." Thank you, Emily!! literally came at exactly the perfect time :)

[@emwilss]

I love that! Thanks for sharing!!

[@marylouu2044]

Oooo Emily, you're so refreshing 🤗 It's crazy how things like "a woman has infinite worth in jesus, which means a guy won't ever add anything to it or take anything from it" are still not accepted as truth in the christian community and sometimes I feel like especially Christians still carry so much sexism against women by "dragging their worth" (which obviously isn't possible) and it breaks my heart again and again. I hope you understand what I mean (english isn't my first language)😅 I got very frustrated how women are being seen and treated in the Christian community still. How they only become a real woman of God by marrying and having children ect. How ever. Thank you for talking about the real worth of a woman and how it's actually defined 💚

[@aliyahfriesen9725]

Blocking him was the best decision I made in my moving on process. I blocked the girl he cheated on me with too so I wouldnt continually go on to their accounts and see what they were doing together and how their relationship was going. Blocking their accounts helped me find that peace I needed and I wish I had blocked them right away instead of waiting three months and dragging out my healing process.

[@missweenieboys2630]

This is truth! I have been dealing with an obsession for years. I have to realize it's not reality. This lockdown has helped me by not seeing him at church every week. I miss church dearly! I have prayed about leaving my church temporarily for a while. This might be my answer. He is on the worship team and I saw him a lot. Church is online now and I am afraid to watch as I don't want to live in my obsession anymore. Pray for me! I need therapy!

[@MelanieZumbado]

weenieboys 2 I decided to look for another church a couple months ago. Seeing him every week just took away the peace that comes from going to church. I just felt anxious the whole time, crying when I came home. Sounds dramatic but the relationship drained me emotionally and ended up badly. Going somewhere else has helped me A LOT. Yes I miss my church, I went there for more than 14 years, but I prayed to God and I knew that my mental and emotional health was first. Sometimes it’s extremely necessary to make some distance, whether is temporary or not. Of course I’ve been praying a lot since I left. I want to truly heal and move on, so when I see him again (if I ever do) I don’t feel anxious or sad. “You, Lord, are all I have, and you give me all I need; my future is in your hands.” Psalm 16:5 Praying for you today 🙏🏼

[@missweenieboys2630]

@@MelanieZumbado Thank you!

[@mariannamycroft2611]

WOAH. The brutal honesty of Crazy Chiquita is what. we. need. LOVE THIS!

[@GratiaPrima_]

I’m married now and honestly never stayed obsessed over someone, so I am only watching to support our Emily 😊. But I also want to share my experience of when I ALMOST went down that road. I’d just been left for someone else. It hurt. I told God I needed to hear from Him and picked up my Bible...to Job. Where God was telling Job (I’ll paraphrase) that he needs to STOP questioning him. God reminded Job He has a plan. That is why it’s the Gospel truth what Emily is saying. God loves you and has plans for you and that is inherent. It doesn’t matter when things like this happen, let it go. And trust His plan. I took that to heart that very day. Wouldn’t you know it, when I started classes back a couple of months later I met my husband hung up on no one and nothing except the same Lord we shared in common. ❤️ Not That Emily’s message needed ANY help, but I wanted to share 😊. Great words of truth you Crazy Chiquita!

[@annagrace927]

Instead of "hitting the town with my girls," my friend and I who both just recently got out serious relationships watched your video over FaceTime and cried together. She told me, "I am NOT about to spend my 20s pining over a boy." Thank you for your words of encouragement- especially during quarantine. It's definitely given me a lot of time to reflect!

[@emwilss]

LOVE!!!!! Both you girls are starting a brand new day and a brand new foot!

[@julianacalvo5059]

I talked to a guy for a month then dated him for a month after that. Basically, I broke up with him cause his heart was not focused on the Lord. That fact played into everything else I didn't like about him. He was super needy too. Like he needed me more than God. He led me down a path I didn't wanna go. And when I told him about the boundaries I wanted to set he low key mocked me and tried to compromise them. He was the nicest guy I have ever met! Literally! I still don't understand how I had the guts to break up with him. The Holy Spirit was convicting me like crazy and my best friend encouraged me. Well, it's been over four months and I've been fighting the battle of getting over him. I'm a lot better but still working on it. It really depends on the choices I make every second of the day on whether I think about him wrongly or instead pray for him. Or pray about something else. A few days ago he purposely lost streaks with me. I feel like that was the last thing I held onto with him. If ur still reading lol I hope this helps you. I remind myself a lot that it IS possible to get over him. But only WITH the Lord.

[@mkay05]

If you're worried about a guy you dated being offended if you block/unfollow him, just remember he left you knowing how much it would hurt so he can learn to deal with it.

[@Dr_Analise]

the self worth I attached to the guys I dated left me feeling really ashamed of myself and some of them brought me down till one day I realised I didnt need them and called it quits but the worst part is when you have made hem such dependency it keeps affecting my decions and at tmes I would think of myself .. so i stopped and I realised i am my Gods daughter and I need no one to validate that!

[@immaSwift]

sooooo needed this today, a day where I’m thinking “I’m over him”, but totally am not. I take what you say to HEART, thank you for the encouragement!

[@emwilss]

You got this sistah! thanks for watching.

[@Lauren-vw3cn]

It was really really hard losing him the way I did, took me awhile to get over it. But I did! if it worked out I wouldn't be living the awesome life that I'm living right now. So i'm really glad nothing became of it. I'm my own tree, not the shadow.

[@karadanaher9741]

Amen sister, stay strong!

[@AlmaLatina777]

Crazy Chiquita is the big sister/best friend we all need ❤️

[@rebortiz28]

I have been talking to this guy and doing a long distance “thing” for the last 4 months and within the last week, things have totally changed and he has almost totally cut off communication with no explanation. I am really hurting and I was praying for something that can help this feeling, logged on today and this video was here. Thank you Emily💛

[@nicky1162]

INHERENT WORTH!!! ✊🏾 That's a word!

[@taratravels6235]

Getting a very loud and clear message-I was really upset this week, crying over a guy I dated a couple years ago. He was my childhood crush and I was his so we had this weird mutual crush relationship but not a real committed one so he moved on and I was distraught. But every time I start thinking about him, either you or ascension presents post a video about letting go, moving on, breaking up and so I have no choice but to believe that he really really wasn’t the one I’m meant to find. Thank you Emily 💕

[@rosieratcliff8317]

I was with my ex for just under a year and it was my best ever relationship. He was completely everything I wanted and towards the end of the relationship he asked me to marry him and I remember feeling like I couldn't get any happier in that season of my life. So when he suddenly broke up with me I was completely devastated. I have been through 3 serious relationships prior to this one and they have all ended painfully, but for some reason none of them even compare with this. It has been 5 MONTHS and I still can't move on. Yesterday I found out that he is dating someone new and it's literally knocked me all over again. I can't sleep because I can't stop crying. I feel like my whole life is just me trying to distract myself from the fact that I feel that I'll never be happy again and I'll never meet anyone as good as him. I want to believe that God is enough for me and focusing on Him will get me through but I'm really really struggling. Sorry this is deep but I'd really appreciate any help or advice. xx

[@mvhzj]

I had just gone through a break up with my first boyfriend of 5 months about a week ago, and I'm glad he allowed me to ask him questions about why he was ending things because it did help to provide some closure. Still being in quarantine, there have been times of feeling lonely and whatnot, but this video definitely came at the right time. Thanks Emily!

[@graciesabin]

Getting caught in a cycle of guys who just are not the best and didn’t realize how much I’m damaging myself by putting them on this pedestal and making it harder to get over 💛

[@Blah11Chickk]

YES!!! Spitting fire, girl! I loved this! All of this was spot on! You bet I will be sharing this with "Sally"!

[@emwilss]

THANK YOU! I hope it helps ya girl Sally!

[@arielelisheba911]

Amen Girl! I just deleted all of the stuff from a guy who had an unhealthy influence on me, and dang...do I feel better. Everytime I would go back in my texts or something and see it, I would feel sick. Now I know he can't do a thing to me anymore. God is obviously the man for us all to focus on first, and the walk with him should never be taken away or discouraged by any man! Thank you Emily!

[@emwilss]

Yes and amen! Go Ariel!

[@elsio8847]

Wow!! This couldn’t have come at a better time! Thank you!

[@emwilss]

You're so welcome!

[@veronika98amb]

Agree. I just needed to hear this today!

[@agathaharrold4652]

I love your passion in this video!

[@emwilss]

I am so glad!!! :) Thank you!

[@sydnigrace7203]

You have no idea how much I needed this right now. Thank you Emily. 🙏❤

[@emwilss]

I am so glad!

[@JamimmyRibeiro]

You have NO IDEA how important this video was for me. God spoke directly to my heart. Thank you so much.

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad to hear this!

[@lissehowe5447]

My goodness I needed this. I broke up with my boyfriend of a year+ just two weeks ago and it has been the worst to deal with while being in quarantine. I kept getting stuck in this rut of self-pity, heart ache, and sadness. I still struggle with those "what if" thoughts about both the past and the future, but this video both showed and provided another step for me to move forward. I'm working on finding myself again, finding what makes me, me. The beauty of going through this pain in this time of isolation is that I have less distractions. Without all the noise of daily life, I can feel Jesus's gentle hand on my shoulder, pulling me to Him, asking me to lay my broken but beating heart next to His and to begin again, to find joy again, to find me again. Thank you Emily for this video and thank you for being the messenger God put in my day today to speak His truth.

[@emwilss]

What a beautiful comment. Proud of you Lisse.

[@nayeliayala245]

Low key scary how PERFECT timing this is lol 😂LOVE THESE!! Thank So much Emily! Also I’d love a video on friendships and comparisons and “fake” friends ☺️🌼

[@emwilss]

You got it!

[@sophiamichelle2730]

the timing is impeccable. thank you!!!

[@marianavaldes6787]

I'll watch this as many times as necessary. THANKS Emily!!!

[@juliaelizabeth3523]

I NEEDED this right now. You are a blessing. I am no better based on the opinions of any other human!

[@goldfishmemory7288]

Thank you so much, this video opened my eyes. I broke up with my boyfriend who I was with 5 months and your video woke me up.

[@jetparonable5667]

Bringing what the people want! Thanks Emily 💪💪

[@gracegrett2319]

My boyfriend of almost a year and a half broke up with me about a month and a half ago and I am having a hard time letting go of guilt, questioning, and doubting myself (being in this quarantine doesn't help either!). This was exactly what I needed to see tonight, thank you Emily! I had to watch it twice and take notes because I related to EVERYTHING in this video. Choosing freedom and changing your mindset is so so important. CHOOSE TO BE PRESENT and focus on the good and your happiness!

[@OrangeCatAttack]

Hey Emily! This message came at the perfect time. I dated a guy for 6 years on and off. He was very psychologically abusive. He manipulated me, stole money from me, cheated on me again and again, and I still always found a reason to go back to him. I was addicted to such a toxic relationship and felt like I needed him to be worthy. I haven't seen him in almost 2 years but the memories still hurt and I'm still trying to move on. I prayed to God the other night to help me move on and then this video popped up on my feed. Thank you so much 💕

[@tatummoyo8448]

Read the book "woman who love too much"

[@mariel4822]

Hi Micah Id surely include you in my prayers:)) highly recommend two books Made New by Crystalina Evert Healing the Soul of a Woman by Joyce Meyer when we know God’s word, we know His voice and not the voice of evil. Stay strong! I loove Emily Wilson videos too🤗 Godbless

[@TheNancyDrewReview]

This is a God thing, I have been struggling with being left by my boyfriend. Thank you for your wisdom!

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome!

[@emilyc.7041]

Thank you Emily for your insight on this topic! I think I was meant to hear this right now.

[@patriciavalderrama1586]

Hi Emily! I was praying that God would give me the right answer today bc I’m in this situation right now & then you uploaded your video at the perfect time. Thank you so much for this. ❤️

[@teresapuckrin2211]

The timing of this video is perfect! I have been dealing with this really hard the past couple weeks but it has been extra hard to work through this week... Thank you!

[@jonathanhull8492]

Love that you talked about having to let yourself feel your feelings 🙂👍

[@yunabereza]

Emily......how is it ever possible...I am just going through my first breaking up...and I didn't think it would be so difficult. But your video is so on time... I want to listen to it again and again...And I cannot stop crying... I don't want to cry.... But I know God loves me...He embraces me....Emily...thank you for your support...❤️

[@cutiebear808]

This came at such a perfect time for me personally. I really need to hear these things be reinforced. Thank you Emily.

[@Delkolovr2]

YESS!!I made this choice before the new years and I've noticed a good change in my life.I am LIVING.

[@Lisa-en4xr]

Prayed for a sign. Then you upload this video. God's ways are unpredictable. Thank you sooo much ❤️

[@emwilss]

How perfect! Love that!

[@megandharmalingum8959]

This was more helpful than you could ever imagine, please keep doing more of these videos.

[@monicaschaefermusic8342]

This felt like you were literally speaking to me personally. Sheesh... I freakin' needed this like nothing else. Thank you for this truth, Emily!

[@reagansinclair1155]

PREACH EMILY!! Thank you for your wisdom!!

[@biermannar10]

Thank you soooooooooo much for this. Everything you said was exactly what I needed to hear. I literally just ripped up a picture and replaced with a beautiful scenery in Austria I took. I feel so much better.

[@megasurfer32]

your videos come at the perfect time! Just prayed over the decision to end things with a guy I've been dating since December who stated he isn't ready for a relationship and stopped putting in efforts to communicate. For the first time though I am not blaming myself and I am so confident that there are many other better men out there for me and God will bring the right one at the right time!

[@melissagunkle55]

SO SO GOOD!! Shout it from the rooftops SISTER. Sending this to everyone I know. You are such a gift. This was SO good for my soul. Thank you thank you thank you!!! Praying for you always Emily❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@marialepak6922]

you posted this just when I needed it!!!

[@jackiej5384]

I needed this video so much. I moved on from a guy I really liked last year and had to do the things you talked about in this video. It was really nice reminder to keep it up. Thank you SO much for your ministry!

[@mug5455]

PREACH!!! Oh my gosh, Emily your spunk in this video gives me such joy!! I really needed to hear this and a friend of mine does too, so I'm going to send this video to her. You are such a blessing, Emily Wilson, thank you for all you do!

[@jessicacarpenetti6479]

Crazy chiquita spittin some TRUTH bombs hahaha wow I needed this

[@obeyatta7674]

Helping women cultivate peace, freedom and joy👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯🌟WOW. Thank you

[@johnagabrielle44]

This video literally couldn’t have come at a better time for me! I’ve been praying about the situation I’m in and you answered it to a T! Thank you SO much for the video Emily!♥️

[@abbyzaporteza]

Man. The truth bombs in this.

[@shelbyh.29]

So good! I needed this right now.

[@Bonanzababe]

This is something I wish I could send to high school me when this was happening to me. Thank you, Emily!

[@alizavermaas4464]

I just came out of a 3 year relationship, and this video could not have come at a better time. Thank you so much. its been so hard but i know exactly what to do now and how to go on with my life. xx

[@luciaferrari2525]

Emily, thank you so so much for this powerful and effective video! My friend and I were just discussing this difficult topic today, and you shared many lights to both of us. God’s timing is perfect. God Bless you and your ministry!

[@Jessica-bi9yu]

Needed this SO much.

[@emwilss]

I am soooo glad!

[@dariapseriuc2599]

I am going through this right now. This video made me realize what's really important. If he's not the guy God has prepared for me than it's going to be another one. Thank you for this video. It came at the right time. God bless you! ❤️

[@mollymcgreevy6062]

WOW! Just what I needed to hear. Being in quarantine the past month, it has been so easy to spend hours each day just thinking through old relationships, friendships or romantic, thinking of what I could have done differently. This time would be much better spent understanding my worth as a daughter of Christ and growing in my faith, preparing for the man who will be my future husband, not worrying about those who do not want to be.

[@miri29]

Needed this some years ago, but also now, listening to your words, showed me who I was vs who I am now and all the progress made. For everyone who is living this situation...Emily is 100% right. Listen carefully. God loves you and I didn’t know, so I looked for love in men.

[@michellevenegas28]

Amén! Yaasss! Let the Holy Spirit guides you Emily! This video, like so many of your videos spoke to me deeply. I was in a relationship with the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Dated for 6 year. Yup. Know I know, that's way too long. I was 18, ended it at the age of 24. It was rough. And now I've realized that it was rough because my worth wasn't root in Christ. And ironically, I've given the Truth to others, that we should be root in Christ. Yet I never took that and applied it to my own life. Thank you for doing what you do Emily! May God continue to give you His grace to continue your ministry for His glory! ❤️🙏🏽❤️

[@sp8953]

Wow this was so good I really needed this 😭❤️

[@Brianna-zh8ji]

As a woman who is dealing with something of this category, THANK YOU. This helped so much!!!

[@giselleevans4476]

Love these Crazy Chiquita videos! So full of honest wisdom!!

[@emwilss]

Glad you like them!!!!

[@PrincessAlysiaMaria]

Such perfect timing❤❤❤ May the Lord bless you so much!!💖💖💖

[@dianacostea3398]

I just love the way you put into words subjects that nobody really does talk about, so direct and true, while real caring. THANK YOU!

[@emwilss]

I appreciate that! Thank you Diana!

[@megansmith9774]

Thank you Emily! These things are so true! I've been dealing with a heartbreak the past couple months so this really hit home. One thing you mentioned helped me a lot--especially in those first couple of weeks; it was: "what can I learn from this?" I discovered that when I turned my heart to God in prayer, He would teach me--lessons that I'm not sure I could have learned without experiencing this heartbreak. That gave me strength in a time that I felt so rejected. God won't ever reject us though, He's always there for us, no matter what season of life we find ourselves in.

[@valeriawild7131]

This video came at just the right time, you are a godsend! ❤️

[@jane4822]

This was so fun to watch and important message too. thanks Emily

[@karenchan8586]

Thank you for this Emily!!!! You're such a great gift to the world, I'll remember this for the longest I can ❤️❤️❤️

[@LettingFaithShine]

Thank you for speaking truth into my life! I think another important thing is, when moving on and looking forward.... to NOT hold on to the "hope" that a relationship could or may happen in the future. Because that will make it VERY hard to let go of that person. At the end of the day you are a beautiful daughter of God, and ask God to help you come to know this truth. :)

[@mariadejesusrospide3857]

Thankyou Emily I really needed a chat like this!! A few months ago I dated a guy I thought was the one. When we split up I would cry thousand of times and woke up every single day thinking about him and wondering why it didn't worked. Recently he posted a picture with his new girlfriend and my heart had broken. I started praying for God to give me the strength to get over this guy and decided not fo follow him on social media anymore. It was difficult but God wants us to be HAPPY!

[@teresamiller4258]

This could not have come at a better time. It's incredible to see how the Lord has used his daughter to reach the lives of so many women! Love you Emily!

[@yanitsarodriguez3563]

God KNEW how much I needed this!! Timing!!!!

[@edoolotukaren4950]

Thank you so much Emily. This video came at the perfect time for me. I am currently trying to get over someone i've known for 8 years and dated for 5 months out of the 8 years. I came to depend on him emotionally so even after recognising the toxicity in the relationship cutting him off was soooooo hard. But i did and i am making progress in the moving on process. Love you girl❤

[@sallyzweber7949]

I am Sally and I really needed to hear this!! Thanks Emily!!

[@emwilss]

How perfect! I am so glad!

[@mollyhinkel2563]

I just appreciate you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear today!!!

[@kyrieelizabeth1551]

I love Crazy Chiquita videos! Thank you for speaking truth and life into our hearts, Emily! ❤️

[@gracenagy2817]

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this!

[@kaylasheeran136]

This is so good. Thank you so much for sharing this, Emily. I really needed to hear this today. This speaks exactly to my situation right now. God bless you!

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome!

[@crystalwaters5038]

Amen! Hallelujah! I love this. I’ve never dated before but I think this totally applies to past friendships as well.

[@emwilss]

Yes it does!! Amen Hallelujah!

[@aly.steiner_tx]

I LOVE you. Thank you so much. It felt like you were there with me and talking to me as a friend. And I really needed that. I've been with a boy for almost three years, and it's been on and off, and I finally just got the courage to block him, and it feels amazing. I deserve better and you helped me realize this, thank you once again 💗

[@annav608]

Thank you! This has been so helpful for me and many others! It's hard being quarantined when thoughts come into mind so trying to keep busy and glad this video was shared 👏👏👏

[@emwilss]

You're so welcome!

[@noeliasolano6393]

i really REALLY REALLY NEEDED THIS, THANK YOU !

[@sailav1014]

Emilyyy you have NO idea. This was an answer to my prayers ❤️ God is great and so are you.

[@emwilss]

Well thank you! I am glad!

[@elisejcb5216]

The mirror speech is so important. I am realizing this only 2 years after a break up, and I didnt realize I was wasting my time so much.. thank you girl

[@monicamena7150]

So true! Great advice! I love your videos :)

[@emwilss]

Glad you like them! Thank you!!!

[@adrienneguzman1394]

Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this truth!

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome!

[@maggieyoungs427]

Wow this is so good and I really really appreciate this. God definitely lead me to watch this

[@funkeybabe1]

Emily! It is so amazing that you are out here speaking truth to women! We are bombarded by false message in our culture, so thank you!

[@emwilss]

Thank you Sally :)