HOW TO OVERCOME OVERWHELM AND PERFECTIONISM SO YOU CAN GET THINGS DONE!

[@CozyWriter1307]

Thumbs up for an in-depth video! Where are all my perfectionists?

[@WendiBlum]

Brittney Nicole - recovering perfectionist!! It’s not easy to do but the only way I’d ever get anything done!!

[@fletcherpeyton1963]

i guess Im asking the wrong place but does anybody know of a way to get back into an instagram account?? I somehow forgot my account password. I appreciate any tips you can offer me!

[@akrenn8870]

"By trying to achieve perfect you are already setting yourself up for failure" That really stood out for me! Thank you!

[@christinaruiz4183]

Home schooling my son is my most important task. So house work gets done, but not perfectly. The bed is made, but minus fancy decorative pillows. The towels are washed and dried but not 3 quarter folded, just halved. Etc. I struggled for perfection until I was physically sick and exhausted. Now, as long as it's done, I'm a winner!

[@patrickfamilylife9027]

I’m a mom of soon to be 4 and I needed to hear this today! I spend way too much time making my kids lives “perfect” that I let myself and what I want take the back seat. We as Mothers tend to think we need to be our children’s super hero all the time and that simply is not possible or true by any means!

[@eightball91341]

Nail on Head! I am a mom and this concept clicked in my mind when it came to presents. I'm wrapping for my son, just because I like the perfection of wrapping the paper just right, using the matching bows and labels, etc.... just to have him rip and tear day of. Life changing to let go of the perfection I strive for and focus on the outcome of the receiver. Thank you for sharing this and all your wonderfulness.

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

This has had such an impact on me. As a complete perfectionist, I am always procrastinating until the time is perfect for me to complete the task perfectly. I'm really going to apply this.

[@christinaruiz4183]

On a side note. Unless my son truly had only one days notice, (I hope schools don't do that) I would use it as a lesson on responsibility and consequences. I would tell him he needs to let me know as soon as he finds out so I have sufficient time to honor his request. I did this with my older girls and it only takes once or twice of going without, for them to remember to be responsible for their own tasks. They are now studying Law and Medicine so I believe it worked to their benefit.

[@chinadoll7]

Christina Ruiz I don’t have kids yet, but I’m definitely going to remember this lesson when I do. 😀

[@kaylikorner]

My new screen saver.... Done is better than perfect. I had always seen this as the mantra of a slacker and a short-changer. Thank you for explaining it in a way that I can utilize it effectively to overcome my perfectionism paralysis. Cheers!

[@dawnsamantha6728]

This video was perfect for me to watch today. TODAY June 26th/27th (its 2AM) I just finished a school year, and have the whole summer off. I have this massive project I want to accomplish and yes, DONE is better than perfect. This will help me stick to my deadlines. Thank you Alexis!

[@cheering4avalon]

I don't usually comment but I must say, I needed to hear this. Its like this video was made for me in particular. Thanks girl. I needed this

[@Kmai84]

I am mum no.3 as soon as you presented the example scenario I was like, 'i'd go buy some!' made me realise I need to extend the same idea into more of my tasks.

[@GirlForty]

LOVE the cupcake analogy!! As a recovering perfectionist this is a brilliant perspective. ✨

[@PartlySunnyToday]

When I worked for two of the Big Eight (now the Final Four) International accounting firms, our truth was: 10% of the clients cause 90% of the hassles. And THIS is still my problem today. Whether it’s a medical treatment decision for our son with multiple severe chronic health issues or writing a stageplay or a home construction project, I’m always worrying that THIS will become 90% hassle and consume huge amounts of frustration and time. It’s hyper vigilant and exhausting. Plus: sexism sucks. Love your show. 💚

[@towannaharris2458]

This is so great!!!!!!! I have issues with procrastination as well as finishing takes. So helpful!!!

[@TheKittyGrim]

I think I’m that Mom you’re talking about with the homemade cupcakes!😃 The struggle is real. I’ve never completely understood the 80/20 rule. Now I do thanks to you! I needed this video.

[@miulanhildebrant3843]

I completely understand when you state "Perfection". I do the same thing, until last night my college professor posted a video called Grit: The passion and perseverance, this video hit home with me. It's OK to fail and not Complete something so we can grow. I agree with Alexis about understanding the goal/end result. This was very informative. Thank you

[@thechickincharge1073]

It really is a matter of our own list of priorities and the individual scenario in each case. Having the wisdom and common sense is a learned process though and mistakes are often the best teacher, for those of us who are strong willed (hard headed, lol!). If we would only TRULY LISTEN to sound advice like this, we perfectionists would find greater balance. I am listening, dear, and taking your words to heart! Thank you!

[@patriciawolfe8983]

strange, I started watching ur vids cause I was gifted with ur year journal. now u have become a sorta life coach and I am 65yo. you make sense. you allow differences of personality, ways to accomplish, respectful, accepting and all around best neighbor ever. ty

[@margarets2924]

I spent a lot of my time doing time consuming prep work by hand that is easily done in Excel. My friend showed me some excel functions that have helped save me time on my reports.

[@nasramohamuud3710]

I like the quote! Truth in there. I have just come across your channel and I really like it. Thumbs up. I suffer from perfectionist and I find great what you said especially with the problem of never finishing a project and and the cupcake story is good with being overwhelmed with projects. Thanks

[@happilyeverafterenterprise2239]

Using the 80/20 Rule for self and home org is great! Thanks so much for this very helpful application of this principle !🤓👍🏻🤓👍🏻💫💫💫

[@sydb4059]

WOW that quote and this video really hit home for me. I work full time, come home to my sons, and I have homework because I’m in grad school. I am in my 2nd year in school and it really feels as if I’ve been just getting by putting out the little fires that get thrown my way around the house but never really getting things done because just like I wanted that A in my class I still wanted for my house to be that way but if I didn’t have time to ex: fold the clothes the way I liked or wash ALL the dishes then I would put it off. With this new year I have been using my planner and I have been assigning myself smaller tasks to just make some progress in my house. Sorry so long but needless to say I enjoyed your video and did some housework in the process.

[@GabrielTheMagolorMain]

Sydney Baugh I feel you completely. I just finished grad school. There were so many things around my house I wanted to do while I was in school, but either I wanted to do all of it in one area, or there is one task holding up all the other tasks that I just didn't have time to do, so all those tasks behind it wouldn't get done. I'm taking this whole month off and I've been cleaning like crazy, after about 5 years straight of letting things add up! I always got the main things done, and then a few times a year I spent a full day cleaning all my sons stuff out, mine usually got neglected. Little projects here and there sounds like a good plan 😊. School just takes priority, and you'll be done someday and have the time to tackle the big things!

[@sassyinscrubs5206]

I agree.... I have been struggling with not having plantar piece for a while and decided that all the washi tape and stickers and all the pretty pretty is just too overwhelming. I decided to go back to strictly functional and it is done. I think I have found planner peace. Thank goodness!! Btw congrats on weight loss. U look amazing!

[@SimplyMzG]

This is something I have struggled with for years. Especially because I don't think I'm a perfectionist. The anxiety sneaks up on me and I find myself quitting before I begin. Your videos are always a great help.

[@MA-mv8pw]

I always thought I struggled with perfectionism - I now see that I struggle with just “getting it done”! As a teacher, this aspect of the job (planning, grading, answering parent emails, etc…) makes me physically ill. I don’t know why…. BTW, for those parents out there tempted to send the perfect, homemade snack to school, more often than not schools prefer store bought for health/safety reasons. Remember that next time you feel the need to make it yourself - sending store bought IS the perfect thing to do! 😉

[@patriciawolfe8983]

I have OCD. I had to learn to deal instead of becoming paralyzed and unable to do anything. it took most of my childhood to learn to cope. then to adjust to life changes. then to mobility issues, then we skipped past aging to 'no one gets out of this world alive' and still adjusting. it is clean, pretty not so much. it is put in a collective spot, not completely organized. This can actually wait til I feel stronger or someone helps me. the 'I cant's' are left to my missionary sisters who come once a week to vacuum, organize big stuff, down size and take out garbage. I have never taken medication as I was able to learn, adapt, cope and accept that my good enough and anyone else who helped good enough is really a lovely way to live cause done is better than perfect anytime if u want a life, not a compulsion. thx 4 all u do to support healthy productivity actions in any area of our lives.

[@emilygowor]

Progression, not always perfection! yes!

[@JennyMaine]

Great video, Alexis! I love that quote, because it helps me remember that planning and time management are about much more than just time. It also includes balancing our energy and focus.

[@moonassweettreats4133]

I feel like you were speaking me to me directly. I always want to start all these new projects, but I have to have everything perfect, and since I don't I won't start on that project. I'll try this 80 20 rule and to see how it helps me, but you are right, done IS better than perfect! Thank you so much you always have amazing content, and so relatable and applicable!!! keep up the amazing work!

[@emilytoth3357]

My life coach recently told me the following quote that I really liked: Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. I struggle with giving up on things if it's not turning out perfectly, like when I start to get lower than a B in one of my classes.

[@MrsFrappucchino]

for the first 10 minutes of the video, I understood "two thousand muffins" instead of two dozen and I was like whooa how are you able to make 2.000 cupcakes in three hours?😅

[@delphinelb8774]

MrsFrappucchino same here 😂😂

[@Shadivt74]

Thnx Alexis, this really helped me. I’m really a perfectionist and this video made me reconsider everything. Looking forward for more updates ☺️

[@catfathing1672]

Thank you Thank you Wow suddenly my eyes are open This will help me enormously in my work role as a Coordinator

[@karenshaffer1511]

Very good point (done>perfect) and excellent example with the cupcakes. I do sometimes stagnate over this. Thanks for the encouragement!

[@Slendergirl89]

Alexis this video found me at just the right time, thank you so much!

[@Insightology]

This video helped me so much! Thank you!

[@sarahthompson529]

I am a long time subscriber and always enjoy your videos. You focus on issues that I can really relate to. But, what I really want to ask you is, what brand is your office chair? I’ve been searching high and low for a comfortable office chair in ivory/white, and have not seen the one you are sitting in! None of them that I’ve found that are actually comfortable or good for the spine look like anything I would want in my home office. Yours looks like it may be both; good looking and functional. Thank you for the motivation I get on a regular basis from you!

[@MsCristina38]

Sarah Thompson She bought it on Amazon. It’s linked in her Home Office Decor video (not sure if that’s the correct name).

[@happycamper4045]

This is great! Very helpful!

[@tierranicole3283]

I’m definitely mom #1🤦🏾‍♀️ Appreciate the info. Looking forward to you going more in-depth.

[@joannequickenden2789]

This is me always starting but never finishing

[@juliezimmi9850]

Yeah I feel like I can't finish covers in time cause perfectionism or self doubt or an inner voice keeps me from finishing

[@MarietaQueta]

Mmmm... I think in the cupcake spectrum I'm the one eating them!

[@Puglifemama101]

The only thing I would have done differently is pick the cupcakes up from the store the day/night before , In case they didn’t have them done/ or enough in the morning 😉

[@Dreblueskies]

Excellent video!

[@angrylittledumpling]

YASSSS with the cupcake story!

[@gmt5664]

I started practicing done is better than perfect a couple years ago. Changed everything. I wanted to do videos for my youth group, but I waited years, trying to plan every detail. I also have no idea how to edit video or make pretty graphics. Still. But I’ve now done a few which they will have for reference in the future. Terrible, but done.

[@theretiredlife7185]

Thank you for such a well presented video. Explains this soooo well. As a perfectionist I struggle with this all the time. And yep, I'd be hitting the supermarket for those cakes too. :)

[@mtimmiller]

For me Done is better than perfect helps me delegate tasks to others. Even though it might not be "done my way" its done. Like chores at home lol.

[@mrschristydavis]

Love the video!! I have accomplished this in the past however in my current position of admin assistant in a hospital I am finding so many tasks overwhelming with all the multi little steps. So many tasks intertwined with each other. The previous admin (who is still here) is extremely meticulous with everything. I'm looking for suggestions of how to handle so many tasks. Thanks in advance.

[@MsBelaP]

I know when that green light blinks it only means one thing -> printer! Hahahahhahaha

[@webventures]

Perfection is the fear of not being perfect.

[@msyesno09]

You look amazing!!!!

[@TJames1081]

Thanks for another substantive, useful tool. Side Note: You look great! :)

[@cheering4avalon]

Also you look beautiful

[@prettyplannerstudio]

So if the situation wasn't about baking cupcakes, I would want to put in all the effort ... but because I can't bake and want the cupcakes to be perfect, I would find an awesome cake maker to make them for me 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@subrinaanderson4773]

Great video? Costco would've been my first thought ...a cupcake is a cupcake to kids #easypeasy #missionaccompolished

[@MsEricao]

Hey, maybe I'm missing something but where is the link that she mentioned (Sunday tips for a productive week)

[@MissTrenchcoat]

MsEricao You are actually in the wrong video hun, go back to my channel and select the latest video to find that link

[@MsEricao]

Alexis aka MissTrenchcoat oops thanks 🙃

[@xSweetiieex]

I tried a lot of times...almost at every work I had...to...ask question..into why i need to do this..so that i can find a faster way or easier way(for me) to do the task! But they always seems to not like my interest in the job and the fact i ask question instead of shutting my mouth and do the freaking task! I think I am someone that is very curious in general, i always have been ! So how can i deal with been curious, been a person that likes to do the things its own way, but still keep a job ! Cause they don't like me, i either quit or they fired me! Often i do my way, i do it faster and even more tidy! Or i do a better job than my college whos been there for 3 to 7 years ! I have so many exemple ....i just dont know whats wrong im doing...

[@stephan1emar1e]

Can you please talk about your large amount of weight lost?

[@stephan1emar1e]

Did you get weight loss surgery? How did you lose weight? How much did you lose? What made you start? What are you eating or working out like?

[@MGrace-oi6mm]

@@stephan1emar1e I think she does Keto. watch her meal prep videos.

[@elianahebrew8912]

Being perfect does exist. Our Messiah told us be ye perfect as my father is perfect. so not only does it exist it is also defined.

[@thechickincharge1073]

Eliana Hebrew, YES! Perfection is found in the effort! In the striving to do what is right! If others could realize that we would be FREE INDEED!

[@Thepaperandpengirl]

Human definition of perfection is not the same as Gods. HIS perfection is attainable through Christ. Humans definition varies and change per person and is not attainable. Be blessed.

[@olinrace8283]

Perfection is also being mature. There is a lot of emotional drama which I would consider immature because of the lack of self-control. Any type of character weakness or an attitude in the extreme is immature. We all need to work on fruit of the spirit.

[@xaxamlac4363]

as much as I liked some points in this, the cup cake story kind of never ended. It could have been shorter. people who are looking for this advice get the idea.

[@MissTrenchcoat]

xaxam lac thanks so much for your feedback, I’ll take that into consideration for future videos! One thing I’ve learned over the years doing KZbin is that you should never assume a level of understanding- although someone like you might need less examples, I have many people who email me on a daily basis asking me for more examples. What’s common knowledge of logical for one person isn’t that way for all and I try my best when I’m teaching to recognize my audience consists of a wonderful variety of people!

[@sofiarosas6193]

My kid would have no cupcakes because u dont ask for something like that on the day before...

[@dawnsamantha6728]

How about mom #4, the mom that tells her child "your failure to plan is not my emergency" and she spends zero minutes shopping but instills a lifetime of personal responsibility in her child. :-)

[@makeupunlimited]

Or, if the kid didn't tell me until last minute, and he/she knew earlier; I may have let them go without any at all. I would make them sweat and buy some at the last second. 🙂

[@ingvillsusann]

I have met a few parent #1 in my lifetime who almost faint when I tell them that I am parent #3. Like I say: Life is too short for counting edges on my towels :)

[@mtimmiller]

Ingvill Susann I am somewhere between 2 and 3. I will by the store bought ones and repackaged them and pretend I did it lol.

[@LilDivette]

Great video and advice--love the analogy! (I'm a 'pick up and go' mom. 😂) I also adopted this quote a few years ago because I was paralyzed by my perfectionist tendencies. 🙊 I'm still a 'work in progress' but much better than I was.