How to Overcome Passivity and Anxiety in Christian Dating and Relationships

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Do you feel passive and paralyzed as you consider the possibility of pursuing a Christian woman or entering into a Christian relationship with a godly man? Are you tired of being so passive and fearful in Christian dating and relationships?
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[@FfAaYy]

God is sovereign and His plans for You will come to. Therefore, trust in Him, step out courageously and take action to move forward as you seek His guidance and patiently wait for His direction. We don't know the future but God does. We don't have to know exactly what is going to happen. Everything doesn't have to be perfectly in place before you take a step forward. (Note: doesn't mean get into something recklessly). Key is to act in faith as you wait on the Lord; instead of passively waiting and doing nothing. Focus on glory of God. Seek to honour Him in all you do. Thanks, Mark. I've watched a great deal of your videos and they have been wonderfully insightful and encouraging. God bless.

[@allgoprovids6846]

Will anxiousness in a relationship cause you to sometimes think you’re hearing a no from God

[@chiniromero3870]

That’s what I’m asking!!!!! I feel that way all the time… sometimes it is just God reaching out to you to tell you where you need to improve!

[@aav_n]

Yes, He holds me. - Faith is dead without actions. - Know and trust who our God is. Honor Him. 👐🏻✨

[@tiyang44]

Thank you. I am afraid of dating. My first relationship I felt it was wrong but stayed for 6 years on and off until the lord told me to leave. He literally told me as i was ignoring the cues. Now i doubt myself with any guy and shy away from dating. i'm always questioning why i'm attracted to this person, what's the reason for you being in my life and eventually just walk away telling myself that it's wrong to want to be with the person. Smh. I need to pray more and have more faith.

[@tiyang44]

@Helen Hanbury Thank you for the advice.

[@kimriseul_02]

My fear is what really keeping me from everything. I’m afraid he’s not the one and because of my fear I thought everything as an end and he’s not for me (I’m not saying he’s for me) but that’s what keeps me. I analyse everything and I think of him, this guy has a plan for future, this guy loves God more than anything and he puts God first over everything. He’s the guy of my standards but my fear keep me and I think everything as ‘no it’s not him... it’s not him’ and I don’t look at who he is and to glorify God. Thank you for this because now I should stop putting walls in my heart and fear, nothing will happen. Let God write it :)

[@JoyousinChrist]

Girl what you think like me!

[@kimriseul_02]

@@username-vp5yn i understand your struggle and I’ve been through that that’s why I’m refraining in relationship but I know God wants us to enjoy the beauty of it. I suggest to you to surround yourself with people filled with God’s Spirit and pray about it. Don’t let fear drive you. :)

[@kimriseul_02]

@@username-vp5yn first, know that God won’t withold you the good things. It’s the enemy that’s making you fear and paralyzing you and putting you the thought that “God’s going to separate the two of you.” It’s a lie from the devil. He loves to scare us. If you get scared you’ll get paralyzed and start gettig confused of what God really wants. If you’re so confused about if it’s your fear or God I highly suggest to you to ask your Christian friends and trusted mentors. Tell them what you feel and your doubts and they will enlighten you. Then pray to God for clarity and wait. I know this is kinda hard and you’ll have second thoughts, I’ve been there a lot of times, getting confused whether it’s God or my fear, that’s why I ask people with Spirit of God to help me and it works a lot. :) hope that helps you.

[@uniquelyhidden8215]

Thank you for sharing! I’m in the exact same spot right now.

[@crystaljaglal904]

I really needed to hear this, thank you! You have a gift to preach the word to people! God bless you!

[@sherahbrown1411]

Exactly, works based faith puts all the emphasis and pride on our own abilities, or appeal for a divine spouse vs Partnering with the Holy spirit. thx and Congrats on the new book THE ONE Pastor Mark, sounds like a top selling Game Changer🤗

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks and God bless!

[@monjamondschein6486]

1. Know who your God really is. You don't have to fear things on earth. 2. Trust in the souvereignity of God. Act in faith. 3. Start moving before everything is perfect, before you know how it will end. If you wait for the perfect time, you will always keep waiting. 4. Focus on the glory of God. That's the purpose of your life.

[@way2girly]

Thank you 🥺 I needed this so bad. Thank you Jesus for this ministry

[@nancygray1394]

This video was immensly helpful!! Thank you so much! I cannot wait to read the book!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen Nancy, I'm exciting for it bc I talk about things in the book that I don't hear many people talk about. God bless :)

[@chrispenfold-ivany499]

Hi Mark it was a massive help.

[@loraineaz]

This was awesome! I’m excited to read the book, I really enjoy your videos! 😊

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen! I hope you enjoy it :)

[@sabinastadler]

Whoopwhoop excited for 'the one'. Waiting

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Me too sabina Anyango!

[@behindcloseddoorsministries]

Awesome! 🌼 Thanks for this! Have a great day.🙂

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

You too, God bless :)

[@behindcloseddoorsministries]

Thank you!🤗may God continue to bless you always!

[@beanie_bae]

Thanks Mark for more encouraging and uplifiting videos! Yes! You're right how there is no such thing as 'perfect' timing, but when is the right time to pursue my sp if he doesn't approach me first? I want to trust and lean on God more with faith. There is no such thing as having enough, everyone could always use more.

[@christaclament]

I made a huge mistake of not trusting God and instead allowing anxiety to rule my actions, reactions, and words, which cost me what possibly could have been a great relationship, which then led me spiraling down into an abyss of heartache, pain, confusion, and grief, along with condemnation and contemplation of suicide. It took an act of God to reach down for my hand to pull me out of the abyss and put me on a path of deliverance where I've learned to lean into God and to trust Him with my heart and life. And now it's two years later and I see a huge difference in my spiritual growth and ready to find love again and trusting God that it'll be better and greater than what I have ever imagined or experienced before. I have also found out that the last guy I dated two years ago has narcissistic characteristics who can't be trusted, and his love is conditional. I learned this from his ex-wife from a 22 year marriage. I'm also divorced from a 22 year marriage, and finding out that my ex-husband also has narcissistic characteristics. I am still healing from the mental, emotional, and verbal abuse. God has my back and will lead me to a good, loving, Christian man, who I in return will love with my heart and with the love of Jesus Christ.

[@username-vp5yn]

this is happening towards me right now. I am dealing with fear in my relationship with this amazing, godly person. i am scared that he isn’t the one, or he isn’t going to be my future husband. i just want to do all possible to obey God and not disobey so i get worried and i get filled with so much doubt and so much anxiety. confusion. i’m not sure what to exactly do and it has been killing me. i want this guy but the fear and doubts has been causing me so much pain and pain in our relationship.

[@christaclament]

@@username-vp5yn Definitely understandable how you feel, and very normal and common. You will know that you have trust in God when you finally feel peace in your heart and mind. Fear and anxiety not only comes from your own thoughts and feelings and lack of peace within yourself, but also the fear and anxiety is a way of revealing to you that you are wanting to control what's happening and the outcome of the relationship, as if it's a goal to obtain. Relationships are not something we finally win, like a marriage proposal or wedding vows. A relationship is something that takes work and effort and love and respect to maintain. As soon as I start feeling anxiety, I then realize I'm wanting to control what can not be controlled. There are no guarantees in life or in relationships. Continue to keep God in your heart, His peace, His direction, and be your authentic self and live life in the moment. The person you're dating might be feeling the same as you do. If he tries to control things, he will feel fear, too. And he could possibly lose you.

[@haeliceleste3971]

I definitely need that book!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

👍, I think it will be a helpful book :)

[@sharlenetigchelaar1670]

I find these videos are for people who are A in a relationship but not yet married or B Not in a relationship but is dating. What about for people like me who wish they were in a relationship but never goes out on dates. Not because I don't want to but what about for people who always have the issue of never having anybody around to date? What about the people who never have any prospects?

[@reneefries1894]

Hello Pastor Mark, I've recently found your channel and subscribed because it's been super helpful for me. I really enjoy your content. I was just wondering if there is a way that I could talk to you about a specific struggle that I'm having/get your thoughts without making it public on here? I look forward to reading your book when it comes out! Thank you so much and have a great day :)

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

If you give me a quick summary email I will do my best to respond [e-mail]. So glad AGW has been helpful to you :)

[@AmyElizabethBehnke]

Christ is The Way. Knowing The Truth sets you free. When the gospel truth rules our hearts, every thought will be obedient to Christ.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless

[@spark300c]

I said this before but develop general anxiety disorder form pursing a women when I was nineteen. I got rejection though mean I still single. general anxiety disorder at it heart is irrational. they only thing that works is desensitizations by take baby steps to avoid sensational over of the anxiety hormones. it hard most advice is about taking the quantum leap. I think be friends does help whit approach anxiety. If not dealing with approach anxiety then its easier to deal with rejection. how ever I fear as being seen as a beta orbiter as try to move form point a to point b slowly.

[@littlemouse91019]

How many books have you written and published?

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

9 including this new one, 6 of these are in paperback, but most are free in ebook version on my website applygodsword.com

[@---tn1iu]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@DragonLord336]

What if you are not attractive.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Attraction is a big word. Maybe physically not so much but people will be attracted to you for other intangible qualities too if you have high character and are a joy to be around. Plus physical attraction is connected to emotions, so you can become attractive to someone who likes you.

[@willpierce5333]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger it really is in the eye of the beholder. You see people based on how you perceive them not just how they 'look'. Opinions change as people grow together

[@detectivehawk4976]

Also women are generally more attracted to personality than looks.

[@spark300c]

I think well being physical fit and good personality helps. How ever it can be harder for us guys because women judge more harshly than men.

[@monjamondschein6486]

There are potential partners out there, who aren't "attractive" (physical beautiful) as well and would be happy to have someone like you.