How To Overcome the Fear of Being Cheated On

[@KristinCoaching]

I really hope this video helps you overcome this fear. If you have any questions or comments leave them below and I'll get back to you.

[@preciouschannel9196]

Hi Coach Kristin. I wanna ask for your advice. My bf and I are in LDR. We knew each other in an app. For the whole 6 months i did chat many men from the app and exchange pictures but i only chatted them for past time because i have a boyfriend. My boyfriend saw it and confront me. He gave me chance and i deleted all my contacts with men, line, insta, whatsapp. He has my fb,messenger and email password. As time goes by, he is always looking the past that made his love unstable for me. I did changed and im commited to him. He is only my contact man beside my brothers. He is always paranoid. I didnt answer his call because i went to the toilet and i tried to call him back but he didnt respond. I chatted and explain to him but still he has no trust to me. He says that his love for me is unstable. I do love him honeslty. I dont wanna leave him heartbroken. What should i do so that he can overcome his negative thinking? thank u so much

[@kevinthompson5660]

How do you get over the mind games after your cheat on that it takes effect on you

[@StephG.28]

Thank you for this. I'm embarrassed I even felt bad enough to watch this, I'm slightly worried right now and this kind of helps.

[@KristinCoaching]

Time really does heal so many fears and emotions. Are you still struggling with teh mind games at this time?

[@KristinCoaching]

Hi! Thank you so much for reaching out and writing me a message. At the moment, I'm not able to respond back on KZbin. However, email is the best way to get a hold of me at this time if you are still looking for advice. Please feel free to email me at [e-mail] I try to respond back to everyone between 24-48 hours.

[@devinanderson1926]

My main fear is being cheated on and that person never telling me..

[@jeranniaglez.6261]

Same

[@nathanielgray4235]

Yes no joke

[@jjw7596]

Eventually the truth will always come out.

[@r2laggy425]

@@jjw7596 and it may come out years ltr. Which can be very saddening. Imagine loving someone for years only to find out that ur partner had cheated about 2 years ago or smth

[@omninuss6847]

That happened to a friend of mine. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and then found out that she had cheated on him about one and a half years ago, while they were pausing the relationship briefly. It really fucked him up and I was already struggling before so seeing him like that made my own trust issues much worse. The worst part is that his girlfriend is actually super nice, good people do bad things I guess, I can never get over that…

[@Ja8hfn]

Never been cheated on but terrified for it to happen I worry myself sick over it

[@KristinCoaching]

You're not alone...it's one of the biggest fears in a relationship. But it's important to not allow that fear to be in the forefront of your decisions and your happiness in your relationship.

[@Ja8hfn]

@@KristinCoaching yup it hard

[@lelecheesy]

Same I cant even sleep just obsessing over it.

[@dior9184]

@@lelecheesy same here :((

[@fudes587]

@@lelecheesy same

[@尤茵]

Let go, we do not have control over our parter’s action Trust things are going to work out Know your worth

[@KristinCoaching]

Thank you so much for your input.

[@MasayaTina]

this is just so reassuring thank you. I’m so damaged and my new boyfriend who is amazing doesn’t deserve it. So i’m learning how to heal.

[@KristinCoaching]

It's a process Kristina. Just be patient with yourself and keep watching this video for reminders as you move through the process. You will get through this, and if you do it healthy, you will be stronger in your relationship and in yourself than you were before.

[@MasayaTina]

Courtney Michelle it’s comforting to know we are not alone. Good luck with everything dear. I understand you completely and I hope everything turns out in our favor to help us not only in the relationship but within our souls.

[@stephanieburgess6769]

Me too. Are you better now?

[@MasayaTina]

Stephanie Burgess I’m in a way better place but i’m no longer in that relationship. I started going to therapy afterwards but I wish I would’ve went during. I had no business being in that relationship. But, i’m more than sure of myself than I ever have been. Therapy was the best thing i’ve done and I really recommend it

[@markharley237]

I always thought I was alone... I’ve been broken hearted and the woman I’m with now has cheated on me and now I’m scared. I do anything I need to for her I even bought her a brand new car. She told me she changed but in the back of my mind I’m scared. I cook, clean, work, I’m romantic, I’ve worked on my credit, communication, but trust is hard to fix. As soon as I trust her and I feel good about it she does something to bring it back down.....

[@adrianavalenzuela808]

I’ve been cheated on 10 times by the people I’ve dated. Now I’m dating this amazing guy, he is literally my soulmate and my best friend. I’ve been having this anxiety for the longest time it’s so hard😞

[@KristinCoaching]

Hi Adriana, I'm so sorry, I know how hard it is :( I hope this video was helpful, and please watch it a few times over and over for reminders, but at this point it is all about your mindset and staying focused on the positives in your relationship, and of course continuing to be open to your current partner about your worries without blaming him for something he hasn't done. You will get passed this, and it's wonderful you found someone who treats you great.

[@ferralrevenant1352]

This is exactly how it is for me, I've had 10+ girls cheat on me and I'm with a wonderful girl I've been with for 2 years almost now. I love her so much but I'm so worried I will push her away or she will just want someone else that isn't me cuz I'm not enough. Thanks for making the video

[@hieverything123]

I promise you will get fadup If he loves u alot .... Because I loved my gf more than anything we were so happy in the beginning but after 2 years she has changed she don't fear to lose me anymore because o loved her more than she deserves 😭 help me out

[@Haileyrodriguez288]

U date a lot of people that’s why you keep getting cheated on You can’t rush into a relationship because most likely that’s not real or not love love takes time

[@girlmiller7619]

Im in this exact situation. I have the trust in him that he wont cheat but overthinking about my past and not being used to faithfulness takes over.

[@paulaan881]

My biggest fear is not knowing I was cheated on and live my life without knowing my partner was with someone else while I am giving him my whole life ..

[@leroydrummond1905]

Amen

[@lisaplumley8851]

This is also my biggest fear

[@siennarae08]

Omg girl my fear exactly. They always say "the truth will reveal itself" but I always go looking for the truth because I'll be damned if I give a man my all and they end up fucking me over

[@trinityp8575]

Same. And my biggest fear also is him being in another woman’s body and then coming to me and being in my body. It grosses me out and makes me very angry already just thinking about it. For me it’s the biggest betrayal I don’t think I could recover from.

[@anaflores2415]

Same

[@Shwayzie]

Been in a relationship for 4 years and I’ve suddenly have this feeling, I think the hardest part for me is realizing I have no control if it happens or if it doesn’t. I feel like I am worrying myself to death and pushing her away by the constant “policing” to prevent it from happening.

[@tigerexo6577]

So I accept that I don't have any power to control my boyfriend. But I can control my reaction and my emotions. Spend time on improving myself instead of wasting time to worry about if he's gonna cheat on me or whatever. I have to make myself to be stronger so in case anything sad or infidelity happens, I can get back up quickly and easily.

[@KristinCoaching]

100% It's all about you and taking care of yourself at the end of the day. There is a power that we get when we surrender our control and focus on the things that we actually do have control over...ourselves.

[@nenereese6175]

I needed to read this at this moment

[@jarenlio8772]

This video gives me the clearity that staying single is better than the emotional suffering that one can experince in a relationships.

[@cryandil6877]

I’m in a relationship right now and I miss the peace of mind I had when I was single not having to worry about this kind of stuff

[@maisboks1357]

One thing i think is important to think about is, if they cheat they are not Worth it. If they cheat its their loss. You will know that u did not cheat but they did. So in their future relationships, its not gonna be healthy

[@devinanderson1926]

The biggest fear for me is being cheated on and that person never telling me about it

[@thevegantitian]

Wow truth!

[@bobbobbo5278]

@@devinanderson1926 same here. It's terrifying to think that it can happen and you never realize

[@userAmina483]

Söo truth

[@massagebroad]

My father cheated on my Mother and left her for the other woman. It broke our family. Because of this, I have ruined so many relationships with boyfriends. I'm struggling with "letting go" of this but it is very hard.

[@KristinCoaching]

I absolutely understand. You know first hand the devastation that infidelity causes and it's your worst fear when it comes to having your own intimate relationship. It's hard to let go. And at the same time, we don't really have any other choice because we don't have control over our partners no matter what we do. There is a leap of faith we all must take in relationships, and we need to believe in ourselves that if something were to happen (such as infidelity), we will be strong enough and able to move forward as healthy as possible and pick up the pieces, and not allow it to destroy our hearts and our beings. It takes a lot of self-reflection, self-love, and patience. Thank you for sharing.

[@Y0L0vidz]

Literally me

[@green4760]

On the same boat

[@LOADING...o.o.o]

Don’t date shady people. Period. At the beginning of stage, if he disappears on you without any reasons (after u ask him), then just break it off. My mistake was just keep denying red flags. I should have listened my gut instincts more.

[@carolynx9406]

ive watched a lot of videos on this exact topic and every one has left me feeling even worse and more insecure. all of those videos except this one should be taken down, honestly. this video is the one i will come back to over and over when i feel this type of anxiety. i don’t want to destroy myself and my relationship with my fears that run extremely deep. thank you so much. ❤️

[@spicynicole5211]

You’re not alone

[@shadowman7408]

This only confirms to me that I don't think I want another relationship. I was thinking maybe after so many years trying again, but I realize hearing this video how foolish it all is. Thanks for the clarity.

[@col2959]

Your words are sad but they show wisdom. If you literally ‘stumble’ upon the right person for you, you’ll know it. You won’t feel fear or worry or doubt. The right person makes those concerns irrelevant. Goodluck

[@shadowman7408]

@@col2959 I have... and now its being destroyed by a third party and we are trapped living apart. So yeah... I guess i did not heed my own warning...

[@Ninjxxitty]

I kinda already knew all of this just in general but it helps to have it put into this context to be able to think coherently about the issue.

[@KristinCoaching]

Wonderful, I'm so happy you found it helpful! Thank you for your comment! :)

[@lylarosewood9549]

Thank you so much Kristin. I was cheated on by my ex multiple times and I also struggle from low self esteem everyday. Now I have a new partner and we are about to celebrate 1 year together and these past few days I have been feeling that the fear of being cheat on is getting bigger and bigger. I literally cried with your video. Thank you again for such wonderful material and I finally be able to sleep good tonight

[@elopaq885]

I was never get cheat on , and I never did but im scared of it anyways , thanks girl .

[@redpillrabbithole]

I cried through the entire video… thank you so much for these tips and making this… it means a lot. To feel so hopeless and like nobody understands and then hearing this makes it feel a little more hopeful. Thank you 🙏

[@dorjedriftwood2731]

Being ok no matter what happens, yeah I need to work on that.

[@jusdoit7802]

always always go with your gut feelings. Its usually right. Stop the endless worry until its an actual feeling you have. Worked for me for years

[@hanelum8865]

I'm here 2 years later and I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for existing. I really appreciate you. 💕

[@brandonboss6868]

I found out Carrie Fisher and Harrison ford had an affair and kept it secret for 40 years. It made me think how good people can be at hiding it which made me sick because I was cheated on, I learned to trust again...but now that just broke my heart lol.

[@cosmicangel832]

I think the reason why I have a fear of being cheated on is because I have a lot of insecurities, I’m not afraid to admit it, I’m not sure how to over come that, I think I need to work on loving myself and knowing my worth.

[@thevegantitian]

I have these same issues. I have very low self esteem. I go through long periods of being single not by choice....but because guys never hit on me and they think I am ugly and that Im under age because I am short and look 12.

[@hju392]

i know my worth, and i've let go, but for some reason i can't act happy and put actual effort into the relationship knowing she could go behind my back. my thought process is like "why should i support and keep her happy when she could be cheating behind my back" and its caused a lot of problems for us

[@KristinCoaching]

It's because the trust is absolutely broken in your relationship, and that's what needs to build back up. This takes time. there needs to be A LOT of communication on both your side and her side. So much communication that you what she's thinking, why she's thinking it, and there are no guesses or assumptions. And you need to communicate just as much too. This will help rebuild the trust and rebuild the connection, and slowly you will see that your desire to put in effort will increase more and more.

[@Alyssababe]

Im happy i found this video from you. I feel like i lost my power of worth after my ex did me wrong. My new partner LOVES me. And i have a hard time trusting the process. I always feel like im going to get cheated on. Everyone knows how much he loves me but I just can’t get over the fear.

[@sss__4507]

Its very Diificult to trust people coz when we get emotionally attached people dont care anymore .i dont want to get hurt it sucks 😣i have major trust issues now

[@goddessshella664]

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[@goddessshella664]

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[@col2959]

Just don’t ignore the red flags or strong gut feeling. If you ignore either don’t be surprised if cheating happens. NEVER be scared to WALK

[@YafSantiago]

I suffer from anxiety and depression and I know how hard it is to have all this negative thoughts about your current girlfriend. However, even though It still hasn’t gotten any better for me. I know I’m gonna try my hardest to just trust my current girlfriend. I was cheated on 2 years ago, my ex would actually call me “crying” to let me know that she had slept with her ex. At the time I was fucking stupid and I’d take her back. Eventually, I left that. I had no anxiety or depression after I left that relationship. I was sad of course... but everything started developing with my current girlfriend, she knows how bad I’ve been hurt so when I’m going through a mental breakdown because I can’t handle my own thoughts. She reassured me that she loves me (only has happened twice when I’m with her) but communication could be very helpful and I’m starting to realize that. Just know you’re worth everything. And that you’re alive and you’re watching this video. You’re not alone and I’m not either. We’ll all go through it together. ❤️

[@linette7078]

I feel so bad because I know I overthink a lot and always am anxious. I feel bad always coming to him talking about how I’m scared he will cheat. He has never done anything bad, he always tries his best to reassure me, tells me when he has made a new female friend, and what him and other girls talk about, and etc.. But I still can’t push away all my thoughts and I know he isn’t saying anything but it really is starting to affect our relationship and I have no clue what to do.

[@col2959]

I told my girlfriend, and we are both in our 40’s , from day 1 that if she want to have guy friends or hang out with guys without me or continue a friendship with exes I’m no way getting involved in a serious relationship. She said she agreed. Even adding that in her opinion men and women can perhaps be ‘just’ friends, but it’s rare. That’s how I see it. Keep it real hey : goodluck 👍🏼

[@sandyoregon]

Thank you so much. My ex husband was VERY abusive and even though it’s been pretty much 2 years of being alone and working on myself. I found someone who I love and I am scared to death. This is a great reminder. I have been struggling cause he is going on a fishing trip this weekend and I have so much anxiety. So this helps..

[@Mlc00004]

This really helped me xx

[@KristinCoaching]

Awesome Melissa! So happy to hear that :)

[@Rebecca-vt7rp]

If you aren't afraid of it, it has no control over you. Therefore, the problem lies in the fear.

[@MiLadyShayttv]

I searched everywhere online and couldn’t find anything worthwhile until I found this. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for a year now, and we’ve been absolutely amazing. I know that he isn’t doing anything wrong, but I’m so scared and constantly trying to find a reason that he is talking to other women (because of what happened with my boyfriend before him.) I pushed my current boyfriend away and told him that he didn’t deserve this kind of behavior. Now we are stuck in this foggy situation where we know we love each other, but he can’t say those words to me. What seems like the most beautiful thing between us is now like we are strangers. I shake when I talk to him and I can hear it in his voice too. It hurts so badly, then I cry once we hang up on the phone. I started to go to therapy to get myself better and prove to him that I want to change. He’s so supportive, but that tension and distance is there. I just hope that this can be salvageable. I can’t see myself with anyone else...

[@KristinCoaching]

Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story. I think it's wonderful that you are going to therapy. You will make improvements with active effort and awareness...I'm confident in that. I also hope the tips I said will be helpful to you as well. If so, please watch this video a few times to help sink in the main points.

[@jaymeeleighjx1x]

Thank you for this. 2 years ive been with my partner and been paranoid since started going out that he would cheat as my first boyfriend who became my first fiance cheated after being together 4 years and then my sons dad who id known 7 years got me pregnant and cheated so both ruined my trust but i cant tarnish him with the same brush... hes an amazing man. Date nights twice a month. Go out drives alot to beautiful places as well just to relax after work. Always spoils me. He cant keep his hands off my body but when work gets stressful for him he becomes withdrawn and i worry he is going to cheat as thats when i noticed my exes started cheating

[@KristinCoaching]

Yes, it's such a common fear for all women and men in relationships. I'm so happy you found this video helpful. Watch it as much as you can for reminders, because it takes time to shift the mindset of the fear to a more confident and relaxed approach. I wish you the best in your current relationship.

[@jaymeeleighjx1x]

@@KristinCoaching we have split up. My gut instinct was sadly right as i found him in our bed with another woman. Totally torn apart😢😢

[@KristinCoaching]

@@jaymeeleighjx1x I am so sorry that happened! Anyone who would do that does not deserve your love, period.

[@sprl211]

I was never in a relationship but since i read stupid novel fanfictions watching k dramas and films where they get betrayed Like having your fiancé with your best Friend so am scared to even star

[@Lily-vt2fv]

I have never being cheated on , but people in my family have and it was traumatic to me because we did not expected it , since then I avoided relationships however now I found someone that I really love and it’s my soulmate , I am incredibly afraid to lose him , I know he will never do that to me , but still I have an irrational fear of it , it doesn’t helps he lives in Asia and I in America so the distance makes it worst. We do have marriage plans so I know this is serious , I just want this fear to stop

[@cryandil6877]

I’m going through the exact same thing right now. It sucks

[@MKSpeakz]

just found out i was cheated on earlier this week and it's taking everything to not become cold again

[@shanyiataylor3223]

I know the feeling

[@SolidusRockefeller]

Im dating a new guy right now, I really opened myself to him and I know he's also opening himself to me. He started off a little more interested in me as I am in him now, I can get pretty emotional as my relationships move forward. He's out of a relationship that lasted for 3 years, and they've been through a lot and I acknowledge that, but he's moved on and is now giving himself a chance at something new, because even though they went through a lot his ex caused him much pain. I've been cheated on in all my previous relationships, and I'm very afraid he might just ditch me for his ex, as they live much closer (we live in different towns) and have much more history together, even though he constantly tells me he's moved on and loves me. I want him to feel comfortable sharing what he feels and what he goes through his everyday, as he's very good looking, but I can't help but feel any moment he might walk up to me and say he's found someone much more interesting or that he saw his ex and they've talked about their past and yadda yadda. I know it's very hard to fully move on from last relationships, especially this fast, but this constant fear of getting cheated on and jealousy is killing me inside out

[@KristinCoaching]

I know it's sooooo hard to be vulnerable and fall in love without fear of being hurt. Unfortunately you don't have control over what he does, only you have control over yourself. Hopefully as your relationship with him progresses, you will get more confident in knowing that you two are really connected and close, and will not worry so much about him going back to his past. But since it's new, I think there's a lot of vulnerability and worry, which is natural. but be patient with yourself and with your feelings. Continue to open up, and it's okay to be cautious as well. But as time goes on, I think letting go of the unknown will be the goal. The closer you two are (using healthy communication skills which will build trust) the more confident you will feel.

[@SolidusRockefeller]

@@KristinCoaching Thank you! I'll try and face it that way. It's hard, but it's for the best.

[@doseofdesi926]

I keep having blow ups with my significant other. I care and love him but have realized that I have trust issues and think most people are liars. That neing said I have stressed him out. And this is a long distance relationship. The borders are closed and it just makes everything harder. I dont know where to start to rectify my behavior

[@correct5619]

I just wanted to say thank you I really needed to hear this and it's helping me overcome the anxiety of being cheated on. Thank you

[@Ghost_FXR]

My high school girlfriend of 6 years cheated on me while she was in the military and I haven’t dated anyone since out of the fear of it happening again

[@InterpolBulliedMe]

Im 10 years younger then my girlfriend and sometimes I have a fear that she wants a older mature man, I know its all bs but sometimes it makes you paranoid

[@Shenanigans3]

👏🏼Every👏🏼Single👏🏼Word.... well said!!

[@AGM456]

my gf is the best gf ever and ive been through so many relationships feeling this way having t his fear of them cheating and telling them and stressing bc of the fear of being cheated on has ruined alot of my relationships and my current relationship is the best and i dont wanna lose her or have her cheating but hearing this he;ped me abit so thank you

[@ethans5220]

What a great message! Thank you, your video helped bring me back to a rational mindset

[@alyssajones4368]

Never been in a relationship before. Two of the main reasons why is because 1). I fear of being cheated on. 2). I have a fear that my partner may 'snap' and transform my face into a bloody pulp. That's why I choose to stay single because I'm afraid of having my heart romantically broken. 😢 💔

[@scubastevee4741]

omg same sis. I had just tried to let go of that thought and just got my first boyfriend a few days ago, but I’m so scared he’ll cheat bc he is a super hot guy. And I’ve been told that girls hit on him like crazy everyday. Like what does he see in me and not those hundreds of other hot older girls.

[@alyssajones4368]

@@scubastevee4741 Be careful girl. Congrats on your newfound love.

[@scubastevee4741]

Alyssa Jones thank you !! You’ll find the prefect someone soon

[@alyssajones4368]

@@scubastevee4741 Aww thank you love.

[@-_-HP-_-]

It's really bad... It's not that i can't don't trust her, i trust her with my life but.... I can't stop looking on social media, the likes, the comments, seeing people that i think could easily steal her away of me (which is stupid) it's breaking me bit by bit but i guess we'll see

[@chung-linchen5281]

Thank you so much this is so helpful😭 I know all the points but I just need someone look straight into my eyes and tell me again. By the way you lipstick looks amazing on you xx

[@rockyroadroll]

I remember, a year ago I had a break up with my current boyfriend and I was “manifesting” him to come back and I did but when I remember he said he had fun hanging out with the new girl at his school and that made me like “oh shit, I’m a little scared now” and I just started to worry a little like, what if he catches feelings for her and shit- but I’m so glad this video helps

[@userAmina483]

Thank u 🙏its all on my mind and my past ! Maybe i have now the right one but because of my past i can not trust it 😢 so i have to work on my self

[@pamwatkins4855]

How wonderful is this thank you so much he's an all my cares good to see you again

[@CyberWarezz05]

My husband cheated on me after 4 years of relationship.We had some problems in our relationship and instead of talking about them,we"put them under the rug",because we lacked communication.The sad and worst part is that I had every sign that he was cheating on me,but I chose to ignore them because"my husband could never do that!".Needless to say,I forgave him because he showed genuine remorse and nobody is a saint.But after some time I started having insecurities about him cheating again.I know it may be not true,but I find it very hard to stop myself from reading his messages and even though he talks with an ex University classmate,I never found anything suspicious,but I always kinda expect to find.In my opinion,it's best to try and take deep breaths and think that you can't control someone else's actions.I mean,I started to think that if he wants to cheat,he will cheat on me again no matter what I do. What are your experiences with this subject?I'm really curious

[@KristinCoaching]

Your worries are very valid, and it happens to all of us who have been cheated on. It's super scary to let go and learn to trust again. But over time if communication between you and your husband is really strong, the trust will build and you will feel less anxious. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@CyberWarezz05]

@@KristinCoaching Thank you so much for the answer.You are right,I found out that I had no real reason to not trust my husband again,since he proved that what he did was a mistake and proved to me he wanted a second chance.Yes,it's very hard to start trusting again...

[@khayalakhemadlala335]

Two years late. Thank you for this insight. 😄😄

[@joanam456]

I’ve been cheated on in the past. Now I’m in an amazing relationship and should not be scared and hoping I won’t get cheated on. It’s not fair to my partner because these are issues I have and have nothing to do with my significant other. I hate myself for thinking like this

[@kristenbennett8495]

Your video helps me more than any other video has ever helped me with this, thank you

[@CrazyRandomPerson-q5u]

If you can´t trust that person, just leave!!! Usually mistrust is not even the only reason to better be single!!! Imagine all thes precious moments wasted on rumination. Fact is: the person who is yours will be honest with you. If you can´t trust them: you subconsciously know, that they are not for you, but you are still scared to be alone. I thought it is all about my insecurities and how scared I am !No! The person was a manipulator and I did not really feel happy with that person! He was always flirting, but my low self-esteem did not flag it immediately

[@Ehl_]

I'm dating the same girl that cheated on me saying she wants me back but the anxiety is just too much

[@barnaligardia1442]

Same

[@Ehl_]

@@barnaligardia1442 good luck with that, mine ended horribly but now I'm with another girl

[@barnaligardia1442]

Did ur anxiety end when u dated another girl??

[@Ehl_]

@@barnaligardia1442 I still look for signs but I'm less worried now

[@Lunalanaloa]

How do I vulnerably let my partner in and tell him about this fear in a way that won’t cause him to worry or feel the need to reassure me? I’m thinking something like, “I’ve never been in a relationship before and every sample of a relationship I’ve seen had infidelity. It’s somewhat of a fear I’m overcoming especially since You’ve cheated before on past partners. I know my worth, I’m working on letting go, I just wanted to let you in on a part of my self growth.”

[@Lunalanaloa]

Blehhh it’s sounds n e e d y y y

[@coachcheyenne5911]

You really gave me a peace of mind. Thank you. I will be practicing this and watching it in times of anxious thought. 💕🙏

[@Lina-zd6wj]

I've decided to finally look for help in videos and such. Hearing other people give me some really wise things to just resonate on and stay positive about had really helped, but I feel like a part of me is still holding on to my past. Growing up my mother was always cheated on. My dad cheated on her and my step dad cheated on her with women I even met who were supposed to be just friends. I've been with my husband for 6 years now. Married for 2 and I still have this insecurity that he will be attracted to someone else because they might be new, beautiful, great personality and everything that I feel like I don't have even though he tells me every day that I'm beautiful and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and experience life with me. I guess I really need to find that assurance within myself. It's hard.

[@mihaelurasek6262]

Trust me its hard. I have this fear about 5 years, because i experienced cheating. Its a worst feeling in the world. And it can you scar for life. Im in relationship now, she is the most beautiful woman ever. Every day im working on myself to let go past, and that all people arent like my ex. She doesnt deserve my burden. Everything is gonna be alright.

[@Keahualanix3]

I do my part but I feel that I can’t work as a team in the relationship so that I’m not feeling this way because his actions are what made me feel this way. He liked his “friends” naked pictures on IG and texts some girls how beautiful he thinks they are, and doesn’t have sex with me and we sleep in the same bed. Lol. These are the reasons I’m extremely insecure and have this fear because these things keep me up at night. In the span of our relationship these things have happened. And I don’t know how we can work as a team if he’s the one who has to change his actions. I don’t know if I should just give up because these insecurities are eating me up alive. Even though those events happened months ago, I still clear as day remember them like every week and obsess over it.

[@KhalilSonic]

I'm really sorry to hear it, if I ever had a wife like you I would please her when ever she wants, I think the reason this is happening is because of the influence of what pornography has done to us to him personally, & it's destroying families

[@ashleyelcock388]

How do you deal with anxiety of partner going away on a guys weekend away I struggle to believe no one will ever hurt me he’s reassured me nothing will happen but I just can’t seem to shift that worry Thank you

[@KristinCoaching]

I definitely think trust needs to be built up as much as possible. It's hard to accept the idea of letting go of control. But that is what needs to happen. You don't have control over your partner or his choices, or your partners friends and their choices. You just have to trust that your partner has your best interest at heart, and that he will uphold the relationship boundaries and hold respect for you while he is away with his friends. It's focusing on the best case scenarios and trying not to allow the fear to take you over or overwhelm you.

[@ashleyelcock388]

Kristin Coaching thank you so much really helps 💕💕

[@KristinCoaching]

@@ashleyelcock388 You're very welcome. My pleasure :)

[@brieannaspears3408]

Ive been watching videos like this and everytime i tell myself " this is you so change " my inner thoughts Come back . some days I'm good and some days I'm real bad . i know i cant control her every move and she is grown . i know she will do what she wants and i just have to trust that she will make the best decisions and think about us in the process . its just .. These damn thoughts thats ANNOYING .

[@KristinCoaching]

@@brieannaspears3408 I hear you. Our thoughts can really be debilitating at times, but you have to remember that your thoughts are JUST thoughts. It is not your reality and does not mean they will come to fruition. So it's about remembering that and trusting your partner has your best interest at heart. Relationships require vulnerability and taking a leap of faith when it comes to trust.

[@jessphillips4483]

For me my bf has kind of created these trust issues. We’ve had arguments and behind my back he messages other girls. This happened three times. The third time we hadn’t even argued, he just felt he wasn’t attracted to me anymore and so he didn’t love me so he was messaging this girl for a little while. He even joked with her about how I was gonna be his ex soon. I found out all those times and the thing that really has messed me up is him telling me he hadn’t loved me for 2 months prior to me finally asking him why he’s acting funny. We broke up but later he said he still loved me but we needed to workout and get fitter. So that for me created this mistrust that makes me feel like he doesn’t love me and he’s just pretending until he finds something better. I so badly want to go back to the time where I thought to myself this man is never gonna cheat on me, he loves me too much. Then all the lies and here I am watching this video. I wish people knew just how much damage they can do. This video helped though, just keep reminding myself I can’t control it so just be me and do my best x

[@col2959]

The ‘right’ guy for you Jess wouldn’t risk losing you! You’ll find a more genuine man much more suited to you

[@ashleyfuentes0512]

my boyfriend has never cheated on me but it is becoming so frequent that it gets me scared and overthinking about it a lot

[@tammiebaby2608]

whenever i try to tell him he automatically thinks i don’t trust him and it causes an argument so :)

[@humbledtruth9022]

Same here, it’s so painful. I just want him to understand

[@kirkcushman724]

Thank you so much I really needed to hear all of this

[@andrewcruz7595]

*They're no longer couples when infidelity happens.. the bond has been broken and the relationship had crumbled*

[@joshsutherly3497]

Thank you I needed to hear this ❤️

[@Johannes3006]

Having a frank and honest discussion I think would be best. Let your partner know about this concern of yours.

[@KristinCoaching]

Absolutely Jonathan! I couldn't agree more!

[@polkadotmanfifteen7371]

So im here in 2022 and I think this made me kind of understand the whole concept of it and I thank you for this I really hope this will help with my current relationship with my partner because I am constantly worrying when they do things without me that something is going on but like you said I think thats just something to do with wanting the power of control and I know its a problem so I'm gonna do my best to not think that anymore. Thank you again and it does help me see it as more than just some words with the way you explained it

[@kittikecskes8687]

Your words really helped me ! I would love to have a conversation with you about a few things !

[@KristinCoaching]

Hi Kitti! Absolutely! Feel free to email me at: [e-mail]

[@katerina32444]

You and your videos are so comforting thank you!

[@KristinCoaching]

I'm so happy to hear that :) Thank you!

[@kingsforerunner]

Great advice. Thank you.

[@maceystorm]

My boyfriend cheated on me around a month ago, I decided I wanted to work through it and not to break up with him. Most of the time I feel as though our relationship is good right now and I’m happy, but I still have this looming feeling of sadness and distrust. I’m not sure wether to bring this up to him because I don’t want to dwell on it or upset him, but maybe talking through it will help? Do you have any advise on how to move past this? Thankyou!

[@KristinCoaching]

Yes, yes yes. talking about it is soooo important, and time will heal as long as both of you are committed to each other and communicating healthy.

[@mariaarenas6545]

we cannot control it, but wouldn't we still stress because we wanna know?To take the right actions. Or will it come out eventually?

[@angparks]

Thank you for this.🥺💗

[@amiralamosadeghi5818]

Thank you very much for this. It was great help. ❤️❤️❤️

[@crazyontwowheels]

Thank you so much.

[@tomikacox360]

Thank you. I really need this.

[@KristinCoaching]

You're very welcome Helena! :)

[@MovieReviewJustin]

Very good video.

[@grinder1444]

I seriously saw a movie in which girl cheats on boy and now I can't stop thinking about it WTH

[@danielfloyd.]

Kristin my problem is that I don't I just do not know. How do I trust my gutt when I'm not 100% sure what is happening. I've been struggling with this a while now. I am aware I overthink alot. But I think it's hard to distinguish my gutt feeling from me just overreacting.

[@KristinCoaching]

I totally get it, and it can be hard to tell the difference, but if you really look deep inside, you'll have a stronger feeling that it's one way more so than the other. Also, there are signs to look out for if you think your other half is cheating, and if those signs aren't happening (or if they are), then that will persuade your gut feeling to move towards a certain direction. There usually needs to be other things happening in the relationship that either don't add up or violate some relationship boundaries for you. And you're the only one who will be able to know that and experience that for yourself. check this video out if you haven't already... kzbin.info/www/bejne/gomtlH6iftWKkJY

[@danielfloyd.]

@@KristinCoaching thanks for your feedback. I intend to send you an email really explaining everything in dept. But I also think I need to take my emotions off it for a bit and be logical and then really analyse everything.

[@KristinCoaching]

@@danielfloyd. Sounds good!. Feel free to hit me up!

[@3onthetree357]

Daniel that’s exactly how I feel. Like spot on..

[@3onthetree357]

Daniel hey you got an insta or something. I need someone that has similar experience to talk too.

[@dakotalarkin2299]

I’m in high school and I’m with a girl I love so much and she’s never hurt me In our 15 month relationship I wanna be with her the rest of my life but I’m just so scared of getting cheated on because of my insecurities and I take it out on her by not being myself and being easily angered but I can’t seem to get jealousy and cheating out of my head I think I need help😔

[@Austinn54]

You still with her ?

[@michellemares7667]

Thank you for this video helped me alot. I might have to listen to it alot but it's very helpful

[@KristinCoaching]

Yes! It's intended to be listened to over and over. Because changing our mindsets takes time and lots of effort. So watch this video as much as you want and I'm confident you will make progress in getting over the fear of being cheated on. I'm so happy you found it helpful! :)

[@tekua19]

Thats the thing, i don't think I'd be able to handle it. I already have a hard time trusting people, if a future partner did cheat on me and i somehow found out, I prolly would just stay single from then on. Guess i dont have a good list of positive reasons to bother with a romantic relationship in the first place though.

[@TheSiner]

I was never in a relationship but since i reade stupide novels where they get betrayed Like having your fiencé with your best Friend so am scared to even start 😂

[@sprl211]

me too

[@MarieBernadeth]

I'd been cheated on by my 1st boyfriend, now my ex boyfriend. the trust issues/ trauma that I had with him I brought it on my new relationship and I know my partner is struggling with this because I keep on overthinking and hurting him even if he's not doing anything that's breaking my trust. I don't know what to do.

[@mikereiss4216]

If you suspect they are cheating either call them out on it or just jump ship. Bye bye.

[@chloehinde24]

Your words really helped him from the situation now, is there any way I can message you so I can talk to you about it more further like on Instagram?

[@KristinCoaching]

Thats great! Yes, you can always email me at [e-mail]

[@viktordemkoenglish]

Thank you! I was touched by your words!!!! it helped !!!!!!!!!

[@KristinCoaching]

I'm so happy to hear that. Thank you.

[@saraforney3940]

Usually I listen to videos about cheating boyfriends. I thought maybe I’m in an echo chamber, as I never listen to videos like these. My ex husband never cheated I cheated on him. He was so great to me. I found another man who is great to me, & I keep accusing him without him ever doing anything wrong. I’ve been sneaky. Worst he’s done is watched porn 4 times in one month. He doesn’t have a lock on his phone, doesn’t even sleep with his phone in the bedroom. He leaves it in the living room; he’s not attached to his phone like me or most people. I’ve never been vulnerable before...never been sober until last few years too. I’ve been working for 15 months it’s my first job ever, I bought a car I literally take my driving test in 6 hours. I can’t sleep because I randomly had a panic attack over the idea of my partner cheating. How dumb is that. I’m on the path of being independent. I do have worth I am a mother I have purpose & I love my son so much. I make progress then I’ll feel manic & accuse him of cheating or relapsing & every single time I’ve checked his phone or drug tested him, it’s never been anything. I’m glad I watched This positive video. I should chill. Edit my comment is probably crazy but it’s 2:00am I worked long shift so I’m sleepy needed to add that you are very pretty though wish I had your hair

[@rats7975]

the past couple of days i’ve kept having dreams of my boyfriend cheated on me ):

[@toribot1768]

Thank you

[@Jjukuuffdccvhyuyhhcc]

Thank you for this❤️❤️

[@KristinCoaching]

You're very welcome :) Hope it's helpful!

[@GAMINGWITHLuc]

Thank you so much

[@GizelleSchaffnerr]

Owww you just helped me alot thnk youu so much

[@arianbyw3819]

What if you've been cheated on and your spouse lies and says that person is a friend? And then refused to get rid of said friend.

[@col2959]

Won’t get rid of a ‘girl’ friend even though your his girl friend. Dump him. If you are not his priority then he’s not the right ine

[@constance.m]

Is there a possibility to start having this in a second relationship when the first one had no cheating issues? My ex would constantly put me down and say things about me that hurt but i know he didnt cheat so I dont know why I feel like this in my new relationship.

[@ronaldbrown4729]

Ah this I hope helps me I just got a really nice girl we talk about everything an my fears mess with me so much i feel I'm always on the look out trying to catch her up in stuff an its honestly just ridicules bc ik shes not but my past an her being new shes gotta build trust with me u guess

[@KristinCoaching]

Absolutely, trust takes time to build, but you will get there. You just have to make sure you're not punishing her for your past, because that's not fair to her, and it's not fair to you, and it's not fair to your relationship. I wish you the best.

[@ronaldbrown4729]

@@KristinCoaching ty yea it caused an issue bc I got freaked out but we went home an had a talk an tr alked about how we felt about stuff an she said what you said an so I'm just gonna let it happen ur right trust is a must an it's not fair to her ty so much