How to Own Your Stories | A deep guide to sharing your truth..

[@starseeddreamer1]

Soul sister, you are an excellent teacher and guide; thank you.🙏 You are not at all ‘weird or spacy.’ You're a lovely and divine earth angel, and I love you very much. Happy Yule! ❤

[@MrSamisue27]

My lady, this is f- ing gold!! Thank you!

[@whitemountainwitchery7240]

Rewatching this video because its impact on my 3 months ago was so significant. I need to watch it again because a big huge part of my story that I do not share often just cracked into my happiness. I need this video so badly right now and I just have to thank you again Kelly-Ann.

[@peggyowen3287]

I'm learning so much about emotional intelligence from your videos! Thank you!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@peggyowen3287 🥰💋🫂

[@simoneoconnor9392]

One of the stories I tell is about how a medical diagnosis was sent directly to me by the hospital instead of being presented in a consultation. A letter had mistakenly been sent to me and I reacted badly to the news. Over the years I have told the story from a victim point of view and have had the support of many. I feel now that I don’t have to tell the story with so much emotion as it was a genuine mistake and I did finally get an apology from the hospital. It’s funny how we can change so much over time 😊 Simone

[@Grey_Chaote]

This is so relatable. Especially the part of "scarred arms ". I severely self harmed from early childhood all the way throughout my early to mid 30s. I am now three years self harm free. The scars on my arms are extremely noticeable and I very often get that person that not only stares at them, but then has to openly point them out in front of whomever may be around at the time. I am grateful that, as you mentioned, perhaps in my early 20s I may have felt the need to divulge all that happened and why. However, I can now look at them with a sense of ease and tell them it was a dark time and that's all that needs to be said. Thank you for sharing this video. I find it very relatable in many many ways 🖤🫶🏻

[@kelly-annmaddox]

'It was a dark time' is THE most rad response ever. ❤

[@libbylong9059]

I healed a hurt that was so deep that happened 45 years ago by realizing the young girl I was then, who had a broken heart and nobody around trying to comfort me in a "real way", not superficial, needed a hug that wouldn't let go, a hug that holds and rocks for as long as it takes, a hug that absorbs the pain. I gave myself that hug just a couple of years ago and since then, the hurt is still a memory but I now feel comforted and no longer feel guilt for something that happened to me and my stillborn daughter. I know that sentence was rambling, lol, but I just want people to know that you do need to love yourself and hold yourself close. Tell your stories and tell them with the same heart that you had when it happened. 💌

[@libbylong9059]

And like you said, I left out the real point of the story! I had deep depression around my stillborn's birthday especially until a few years ago when I realized that what I needed back then (other than my daughter to be alive) was to be held and that I needed to go back in time and remember everything that happened and my perspective, with all my feelings rushing back, and give that girl what she needed. I felt like I had been right there again, with such a broken heart, such sorrow and hurt, so many unanswered questions, and people were dodging me, not knowing what to say and how to say it, how I was told that Amanda died, and how long it took them to tell me after they knew, all the hushed voices. And nobody stayed with me that night, not my husband, nor my mother. I cried so bad and felt all those feelings like it just happened all over again, but I held myself and rocked myself for hours until I felt comforted and loved and I felt my daughter's presence telling me she's been with me all this time.

[@selenitemoon8589]

I have never thought of my past stories in this way before. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this because it is so eye-opening and important.

[@dreamboarding]

Thanks!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@dreamboarding 😘😘😘

[@blackbirdsong6132]

Love this thinking. I had a really interesting experience recently when I told a story to someone about me in my teens. The person I told asked if my friends had done the same and I said no, just me. She pointed out that was actually quite brave of younger me - and I’d never even vaguely considered that before. It gave me a totally different perspective.

[@thegrantgirl7543]

I love this take SO MUCH! thank you thank you for reminding us that we must honour ourselves, especially because we in a sense further create ourselves as we tell our stories: when we tell them to ourselves and/or if we CHOOSE to tell them to others LOVE LOVE LOVE

[@dreamboarding]

Powerful concept that is very timely for me. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Kelly-Ann ✨

[@dee-deetaylor219]

Absolutely brilliant video Kelly-Ann. Thank you!

[@shawna1111]

Beautiful explanation. Thank you Kelly-Ann 💞

[@calsannepotgieter4200]

I always enjoy your Self Love September videos. You have such an interesting and insightful perspective. I struggle with telling my stories to anyone who asks. I'm also bipolar and when I'm having a blip I force my stories on anyone who's near by. I always feel so embarrassed about this. I'm working on giving shorter versions. I feel its important to talk about my experience but its not necessary to drown the questioner in details. Also I find often rehashing old stories make me very upset and drain me. I very rarely feel good about sharing my more difficult stories. So now I'm trying to shorten it. For example: I had a breakdown that put me in hospital for 2 weeks. Vs. I thought it would be a great idea to slice off my nose to clean my soul lol. ( I didn't do it.)

[@DebbysWitchyVlog]

Kelly-Ann, I literally started my memories as a witch to my kids 3 days ago. You and your videos are such a gift, thankyou❤

[@Lindsay.Hassan]

She has genuinely helped me so much as well❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

❤🥲 Thank you darling.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

​@@Lindsay.Hassan❤ This means the world.

[@queerlycrafty2628]

Thank you!!! I needed this and need this so intensely right now ❤

[@tanyaabel1543]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I can’t tell you how helpful and impactful your videos are 🙏

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@tanyaabel1543 🥹❤️ That's so lovely, thank you x

[@reikiandwellnesswithlori]

I'm loving this! Thank you for sharing your insight on this topic, very powerful! 💥💥💥

[@kelly-annmaddox]

You are so welcome. Glad you enjoyed it ❤

[@amakin8806]

Hey Kellie I really appreciate this! My little sister just passed away due to our family and our story. So this can help me quite alot. Thank you! ❤❤ Also could you pls if you haven't done one always a video about low magic to help get through hard times for loss. Thank you!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@amakin8806 I'm so sorry for the immeasurable loss of your sister. 💔🫂 I will definitely make more videos about magick to get through hard times, as I just wrote a book about it. 🥰

[@amakin8806]

@@kelly-annmaddox Dear Kelly, I just wanted to let you know I have baught your book on autible so you could read to me. And I honestly can say this has been a big blessing so far I don't want to stop listening! Thank you so much! 💓

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@amakin8806 Thank you so much angel x

[@AstralLadyTarot]

So much to think about. The guy at the party probably didn’t realize he was going over a boundary there… sounds crazy but people are ignorant. He wanted to share his story and saw an opportunity in you (edit: which was either very clumbsy or right out evil for trying to use you). I hope he didn’t have malicious intent 😬 Thanks for explaining your experiences

[@lilykatmoon4508]

Wonderful food for thought! I’ve saved this to rewatch for journaling. I’m so grateful for the wonderful advice you give on your channel.

[@francessmith8268]

I rarely talk about myself, or past to friends. Not comfortable, so just keep it to myself.

[@thewaterspirit.inspiredcraft]

Same.

[@taryntickell4479]

Thank you Miss kelly

[@KnottyHookersHollow]

I can't remember how many times I have started a story with, "I was (age), young, dumb and in love" when I start a certain set of very formative even stories from about 16-18.

[@ultramarinetoo]

This is such valuable insight. Thank! Maybe a more condensed "TED Talk" version of if would give you the chance of reaching a wider audience?

[@aturtleattacks]

Great video and such an interesting thing to consider!

[@lofiegg]

I'm so thankful for you

[@selenitemoon8589]

Kelly-Ann, I love you so much

[@Lindsay.Hassan]

I've been rewatching all your videos on shadow work this last few days as I'm going through a really hard time and I just want to say thank you for taking the time to put these videos out because I've been finding them very helpful❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I'm so glad I could help. That means a lot to me ❤

[@Bjorn_Algiz]

Captain snorlax reporting for duty and sharing all my gummy bears! Hope my favorite Jigglypuff is feeling powerful and beautiful! ❤ I wuv wuv you sister!

[@AlexGreeneHypnotist]

43:30 raises a good point. I don't often tell people about my school days, because those were war stories for me - stories of survival, stories where Little Ol' Me, Past Self, just struggled with getting through each day, and how they shaped me into the locked-in child that I was. I have /a lot/ of stories, especially from a time where I mostly wandered the length and breadth of the UK, waking up in unfamiliar beds and friends' sofas, learning things from Occultists and Witches, Scientists and Hypnotists; found compassion from Satanists and Buddhists, and picked up what I learned of Chaos Magic before it hit the mainstream in the '90s. I'd love to share them with you ... maybe piecemeal in future comments. Far too many for this one comment. Meanwhile, much love and warmth to you as Self-Love September comes to an end.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Exactly - one's war stories should not be too easily given. Your past sounds like a book. Ever thought about writing one? ❤

[@johngross5224]

I've been thinking about my stories and how I tell them. How I can't recall a time in my life when I was the main character. There are times I wonder if telling them is actually helping me work through my past or just retraumatizing me

[@name.of.some.kind....]

Yes it’s interesting, I’m not a professional, but when it comes to trauma it’s good to share it with people who are likely to be supportive and comforting to you, because if someone like puts you down hurts your feelings or mocks you etc instead it could continue to damage the parts of the brain the trauma affects and it definitely doesn’t help or make it easier to heal. A trauma informed professional is supposed to be trained to help heal and mend the ptsd brain instead of to continue the damage.

[@AlexGreeneHypnotist]

I'm planning on taking all this warm energy from this Self-Love September with me into the last three months of this year. Between the damage to my mouth in July, Dad's medical crisis where we almost lost him, and losing my job soon, 2024 has turned out to be a bit of a personal 2016 for me, so I've really needed this Self-Love September. It's kept me going. Giving me a reason to get up each morning. Thank you, honey.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I LOVE that you're taking the SLS vibes with you into the rest of the year. The second half of this one has been a bit of an ordeal for you, I know. But dammit, you are facing it down so impressively. 👏 ❤

[@Snails13]

Thank you so much Kelly-Ann, there is so much golddust in this that I didn't know I needed!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

You are so welcome! ❤

[@CraftyMountainGal]

Weaponizing stories! Wow! What a perfect description! My high school best friend did this to me recently in mixed company. We only see eachother once a year or so, as I moved away from my hometown area long ago. We were at her parents' and she blurted out, weaponizing a story of mine. . . to her folks. . . in front of me! I was stunned, floored, and gutted. You are absolutely correct. In the aftermath, I feel that I will need to be more guarded around her during my next trip home. I've accepted her apology, but yes, much trust has been lost. Thank you for another fantastic video and insight into the stories we tell ourselves.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@CraftyMountainGal Ugh, yeah, this is a perfect example of weaponising a story. I'm sorry that happened and so glad she apologised. I hope trust can be rebuilt. ❤️

[@jaynedavies2757]

i'm very open has a person, to avoid depression. and because people expect my story has their right since i'm trans, like you arms story. sadly it's very common with the LGBT + etc common it.

[@spookidelics]

🖤✨

[@activistwitch]

I saw the title of this and I couldn't click quick enough cause once again this is such serendipitous timing. Thank you so so much Kelly-Ann, you have such ability to extrapolate your experience into wide patterns to teach people about themselves (certainly me about myself) that I so look up to. I am just going through my first artistic commission and my artis practice is... My diaries. There's almost 3 decades of them and learning how to make something of use to bring people from just my... Stories literally, is definitely been the challenge of this year.

[@taylorexploresmore]

I NEEDED THIS ❤ thank you, you majestic, soulful being you!

[@Ejcfarley]

Oh my gosh, if I had a penny for the amount of times that someone who I trusted used one of my stories against me, to hurt me, or harm me or put me down or gaslight me in someway 😮‍💨

[@thewaterspirit.inspiredcraft]

Truth.

[@whitemountainwitchery7240]

Fuck!!! KellyAnn youve done it again! I've been on a reclaiming of me journey since the start of 2024. 👏 It never ceases to amaze me that your videos very often align with things I've been involved with, thinking about, pondering and what not ❤ Thank you for all of it 💋

[@kelly-annmaddox]

This makes me sooo happy. Reclamation of the self and the life story - SUCH IMPORTANT WORK. x

[@11kindpunk11]

💙 💙 💙 💙

[@thatdreamydirtwitch]

It was a shit show. I'm shocked I made it out alive. I made a lot of mistakes. I still do. But I really do see the beauty in me all the way through it all. I am proud of me and what ive created from mostly shit, even when I'm broken and sobbing.

[@Lindsay.Hassan]

@@thatdreamydirtwitch I relate to you, and try not to beat yourself up. The older I get the more I realize that when one door closes another door opens and I know it sounds stupid but it's true

[@kelly-annmaddox]

​@@Lindsay.HassanIt doesn't sound stupid at all. That's where the alchemy is - between one door closing and another getting ready to open. ❤ 🚪 ❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

🫂❤ Yesss, be proud of yourself x

[@Lindsay.Hassan]

@@kelly-annmaddox it's just so hard to believe when you're stabbed in the back😔 but I believe in the bigger picture now

[@АдилханСпабеков]

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