How to Practice Letting Go of Your Pain | Stephanie Lyn Coaching 2021

[@sofly5286]

Going through my first genuine heart break, without any type of closure. So I’m giving myself closure. It’s not easy. But I’m doing it.

[@Sariimura]

How are you doing?

[@suzanne296]

It hurts! I remember mine I didn't want to get out of bed. I became depressed. Seek treatment if that happens. But 35 years from now you'll look back with a 😃

[@drscience_xo]

@@suzanne296 any tips because i am 24. Didn't do anything wrong blindsided blocked and ghosted heartbroken i still don't know how to deal with it

[@jacquelinem.2948]

I’m sorry you are going thru this. When I went thru my first heart beak it was years of hell. I didn’t have the tools like KZbin, internet articles, motivational speakers online, etc. But guess what? You’d be glad it happened. What happened to me years later was that he came back, but not doing so well in all areas. He was a different person, of course than long ago. Once you’re completely healed, you’ll know. You’ll also smile and feel better again. Don’t go through heart break alone. Reach out to trusting friends and family. I’m sure you have a hobby or something you may want to try. I did… and I had loads of fun. I met new people and made beautiful memories along the way. I know you will too. So,don’t feel hopeless. It’s a beautiful and new chapter for you. Remember to breathe and you have permission to feel the sadness. Use this time for YOU! ❤️

[@sofly5286]

@@Sariimura The reality of things is that I delved into self-love because of my break up but I’m also thankful that it happened to me because I was able to love myself so much more after the fact. I’m doing great now, I learned that I love too hard, I can’t be my best self if I’m giving my entire self to someone. Thank you for asking

[@BCHODOSH01]

Being angry only kept me attached to the relationship that was not healthy for me. Letting go disengaged me from the source of my disappointment and allowed me to move forward towards a more stable relationship.

[@ashjms]

Okay, this shit is gold. I have been struggling to move on and have been stuck in a false narrative for years. Thankyou thankyou thankyou. I will be coming back to this video

[@LianaLastique]

Having to co parent with someone who hurt you is the hardest thing ever for me. You have to constantly see the person and speak to them and be reminded of their existence and be aware that they are moving on with someone else. It’s so hard to heal like this.

[@judykelly3341]

This was so helpful. I have been Ruminating for three years. I haven’t been able to let the relationship go at all. I wanted the dream. Thank you Stephanie!

[@calypsoathenairos8622]

You are the dream, and you are going to make it.

[@itzajdmting]

You will recover from this. It was not your fault. You will heal.

[@deborahgold]

Forgiveness isn’t about the other person, it’s about you! Choosing to let go is choosing to make YOU happy, at peace, and ultimately fulfilled! 💕

[@garycordle5295]

Well said 👍

[@mikefaumuina3275]

Forgiveness means to suffer.

[@RippleDrop.]

Indeed!

[@15sophomore15]

Love the advice

[@Chris-tc8sm]

I agree but what about the need for justice. Should we close down the prisons and let criminals do as they please and just keep forgiving? I understand forgiveness is for ourselves but why are they saying in order to forgive we must let go the need for justice?

[@garycordle5295]

Learning to let go of these toxic people that don't serve you and realize that you are responsible for your own happiness.👍 up Stephanie.

[@denisguay4315]

Exactly, i am learning and as the day goes by i feel better and i am more happy.

[@ChantalEnJordi4Ever]

@@denisguay4315 Lucky You

[@F0reverblessed]

Don’t undermine your emotions, work through them. Deciding to let go it’s another way to choose yourself. Choose yourself and begin to heal. Live your life the way you deserve to not as a prison of your past/pain. From a self love content creator to another creator, beautifully said Stephanie! ❤️

[@porcelli5566]

Trying

[@heavenlove4783]

Thanks

[@heavenlove4783]

@@porcelli5566 U Ok?

[@F0reverblessed]

@@porcelli5566 That’s all we can do. It’s a process.

[@F0reverblessed]

@@heavenlove4783 You’re welcome!

[@skylar6818]

I am crying so muuch right now, I started to hate feeling like I am being used by my boyfriend and he just simply didn't care what I had to say. I helped him finanancially and it became a lifestyle for me. Now I can't stop the bleed of what I have done. I felt that he was the only one that wanted me and I didn't want to be alone but I feel more alone than ever.

[@Love-gc4cs]

I went through hell before everything back to normal but I’ve change so much . If not that demon from hell in my life for 5 years I wouldn’t be as strong and compassionate the way i am now . Something great came out of that mess but it took a few years . Thank you Stephanie for all your awesome videos that helped me so much through my lowest times . May God bless you and everyone who is watching . ❤️

[@hankhill3417]

The person you fell in love with never existed! You fell in love with a character, a mask. This is a hard pill to swallow, but it is very true and helps healing. Keep in mind that a trauma bond is harder to break than a heroin addiction.

[@Jenlop777]

I feel like it will kill me

[@jillcorsiglia5796]

True, I've never had such a hard time in my life than this breakup with a toxic ex 😢💔

[@curtistinemiller4646]

Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.....

[@peterknyk1942]

Meditation, mindfulness, breathing and prayer along with trying to create for myself a healthy lifestyle that includes eating well and healthy and taking care of my body and my heart and my mind all helped me to heal and let go, especially during difficult times, of the narcissistically induced pain and anxiety I've been through with a very malignant/toxic narcissist.... thank you, Stephanie, so much for your video today! It gave me inspiration to go on and not give in....🙏🙏🙏

[@zz-ic6vy]

yess

[@iamyou111]

What kind of prayer do you recommend ?

[@peterknyk1942]

@@iamyou111 Prayer, for me, is very personal! I don't think there's a right way of praying or a wrong way of praying. It is the earnestness and seriousness of your prayer that resonates. I was told sometime ago that before you pray for your own self you pray for the well-being of someone else first and then and only then will your prayers be answered. During meditation I assume the posture of prayer and I think that helps! I pray to angels for help and those in spirit that I know can hear me. I'm not an expert on prayer but I do it all the time. You can't go wrong! 🙏🙏🙏

[@daniellemorse6929]

I so needed this video, Stephanie. Trying to let go of a narcissistic relationship is so hard. It is so hard to meet genuine people these days so I hung on even though I knew it was toxic because the fear of being alone later in life is scary. Just need to work through it in my time. Stay strong everyone!

[@scottsullivan234]

Narcissists fully endorse the mindset of "forgive and forget and continue forgiving and forgetting".

[@gilbertperez1589]

You are doing a very good job on explaining what to do in my situation. My wife of 22 years just left me last week. I never new want a narcissist was until I started watching your videos. Thank you very much. You are very helpful to people who are going through a difficult time in our lives. God bless you!

[@MichaelAlbrecht-d7z]

I just want to forget it all.

[@Goodnight4kismet]

The belief that is was supposed to last forever. I had let that old belief go. Thank you.

[@heavenlove4783]

I’m goin though this rite now started last nite !

[@DGsa1661]

“You gotta feel it, to heal it” That’s AWESOME 🤩

[@bowen5995]

I filed for divorce from my Wife two weeks ago. She was emotionally and verbally abusive. A narcissist from everything I’ve watched and read. I’m hurt even after everything I did to try and make HER happy. I feel used. I left her and it was not a surprise for her other than she thought I never would actually do it. This video has helped me and I am working through trying BOT to think of her. I definitely feel that I deserve better and I did lower my standards. I knew it in my Gut the entire time but thought she would eventually relax or show she cared. It never happened and I realized that she never would. Just not in her dna 🧬

[@skysalanderdouchebague531]

Amazing video... really ! And, i've not finished it. Maybe, need to see it several times... Thank you !

[@Mixablemike]

This really helped me tonight whilst crying over a situation i have pulled myself away from. I dated a guy and after the second meeting i found out he had a gf. He fed me so many lies and made out he wasnt happy with her. I did wait for him but come to realise he wasnt ever going to leave and was having his cake and eating it. Today i put a stop to it which was difficult as i really felt we had a strong connection. I want more for myself, i do not ever want to be someones bit on the side and i refuse to be. Its painful but your video really clarified alot to me and although im hurting im deciding to focus on myself, get fit, spend precious time with my kids, finish decorating our home and as you said being responsible for my own happiness. Its always been my downfall trying to see the good in bad situations. I certainly havent been at all lucky in love but i still hold onto hope and in the meantime live life and be as happy as i can be x

[@Sariimura]

“You have to feel it in order to heal it” - Now I feel like I’m making a song. 🤣 love your videos, thank you, my soul needed them.

[@true3305]

That last line about putting my energy towards the situation, and not about my future. Yeah. I have totally done that. I have alot to work through, and I appreciate all the helpful insite your are providing. ♡

[@mpramd]

from what i've been through, what's the hard part of forgiving is even setting the goal for your own. because you already not trusting yourself. really need times to actually realize that the pain is actually grab our own authority as a human.

[@jennic.548]

100% truth for me... What was supposed to be vs. Reality keeps me stuck Sometimes. Thank you!

[@nan5230]

Thank you 🙏🏼 I’m going through healing now. I’ll feel great for a few weeks or month and then I’m back to having anxiety attacks for a week then back up. It’s not easy but I’m trying!

[@richardsmalldon4335]

Thank you for your videos .. I have been so stuck in the cycle, after 2 years I am starting to be sick and tired of being sick and tired.

[@jennifergonzalez3895]

ON REPEAT 🙏 my biggest thing is filling in the void that he filled

[@tiffanyhoffman4250]

You are so brilliant and knowledgeable! I learn so much from every single one of your videos! Thank you for taking your time to share your experiences and wisdom with all of us! You have been a critical part of me choosing my freedom from my narcissistic, abusive husband and changing my life! I am forever grateful for you! ❤

[@thomascoulston1431]

I let go, at least today. It’s nice to have tools to use when the waves come. I liked hearing the kids in the background today on your video. They know how to have fun. I’m saving up for a lesson, thank you!

[@raiderlove5923]

Yes. I am going through this right now. My mom passed away 2 years ago from cancer. I am still holding onto her memory and love she had for me as one of her children. I'm beginning to learn that holding onto the pain is affecting any future relationships with other women.

[@flyaroundyourfire]

I’m sorry to hear of your loss brother. I pray you feel better

[@dannguyen542]

My life story is just to heartbreaking to share..the pain is too real .thank you Stephanie your amazing couching really helps Mee...

[@deannadear8148]

My new fav quote though is, "You gotta feel it, to heal it." This is an ingenious quote!!

[@sds6303]

Thank you for the video, great advice. Believe it or not, you actually don't have to forgive anyone, you can just feel indifferent towards them. "Forgiveness" is moreso for you, not the other person.

[@timothycharleshickman5342]

Great lyrics. Deal with how you feel. You have to feel it to heal it. This rocks. Thank you.

[@barrygalbraith1836]

Stephanie, I have been watching your videos for about four or five weeks now and they have made a very big impact and how I view the world and people. I came from a very loving and non-toxic household so I thought. not such a wife ranting and raving about my problems but I have given a lot of thought as to why the recent generation are having so many problems with anxiety Panic Etc. I truly believe all this stems back to World War 1 & 2. where are all these emotions the Panic anxiety blah blah blah has been passed on from one generation to the next to the next to the next to where we are now. a very very large percentage of our grandparents aunts uncles great-grandparents great-uncle's great-uncle's went to war. so all these emotions Panic anxiety etc. have been passed on. this is what they were all feeling at the time. so when they came back from the war they're training emotions and feelings we're put into relationships and raising their children. so their children took on all their traits Panic anxiety etc. and then the next Generation went through the same thing and the next one and the next one to where we are today. we are now becoming very somewhere in educated as to how unhealthy this is. years ago there was no worry about the healthiness of the Mind because your main priority was staying alive today not tomorrow, you most likely were thinking you're not going to make it to tomorrow or make it home. I just felt that I needed to send this out to you and maybe get some input as far as maybe this is why all this is happening. we never knew Panic anxiety gaslighting stonewalling projecting Etc. you were never given time to think about this stuff you were just going through the motions of Life day by day. I would also like to say then I am benefitting greatly by each and every video. this is a whole nother way of living before I felt like I was fighting life. now after 58 years I can look at life as a journey not a battle. yes I do have many many flashbacks but I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and it is such a good feeling where I can look ahead and see where I'm heading to. rather than waking up each and every day jumping on a bed like a gunshot and powering through until I just cannot stay awake any longer. I am sleeping better and loving life like never before. thank you again from the bottom of my heart you have greatly changed my life for the better. Barry G

[@sheilamurry9875]

Accepting definitely does help tremendously

[@romaaeropetov5434]

Very intellegent lady. Very clear and straightforward ideas. Appreciate your time.

[@BlessednFavored47]

Stephanie…This video was for ME! I’m truly grateful I found your video😌 I’ve liked and subsided! I love ❤️ all your content. I know it’s going to beneficial for my healing journey after letting a toxic situation-ship/relationship. I’ve ended that “ship” and I’m on a journey to re establish boundaries that I allowed individuals to break! I’m embracing the woman I use to be that valued her peace, happiness and self-respect! I’m watching it a 3rd time because it’s just that good💪🏽🥰

[@Glitter504]

Me too watched few times made notes to read read and practice

[@laurensk9859]

@7:42 It is a practice to forgive someone. It doesn’t happen all at once. Pain and disappointment ebbs and flows.

[@NFSMAN50]

It's hard though, sometimes i do think of the past and it can creep up on you though. I'm learning how to let go of the past, thank you Stephanie!! Much appreciation.

[@thangzamuanguite]

I can feel the pain in ya voice ..i can undersatnd...because i have gone through the pain myself ...the pain never leave

[@sueharrison3382]

Feel as though this video was meant for me today, came at just the right time, thank you so much Stephanie. I've come such a long way from doing your 9-week course but on the odd occasion, I still have a day where my mind will play tricks on me again, usually after coming into contact with the narcissist in my family who caused me so much suffering. Listening to everything you say puts it all back into perspective again, if I could "double like" this video I would. Being mindful now of my thoughts and not getting stuck in a loop like I used to has made a life changing difference to me.

[@thomascoulston1431]

I say thank you, again!

[@debbiebonvillain3857]

Stephanie you did such an excellent job of explaining how to let go of your pain! This is a keeper for me!

[@franciscoguevara9727]

spot on sistaaa we out hereeee doing this thing of feeling the feelings and then letting them go sista from anotha mistaaaa

[@DenverChiropractor]

You're Awesome Stephanie!

[@jjordan46]

I enjoy listen to this coaching about of letting go of the past is for many years did not forgives my self or family members since this pandemic has happen , teaching me to realize how people really are these days had to cut back on people is because of the cycle , focus on my mental and well-being marriage

[@reneesimmons1890]

Loved this! 51 I so struggle with letting go and blaming myself for what went wrong in my relationships. Engaged 3 times goal is to find a loving healthy relationship!

[@myrna4445]

Feeling that way. The what next question is not clear. Thanks Stephanie.

[@daniellestaley9432]

Beautiful insight and so wonderfully and authentically presented. Thank you!

[@sanjanabhatia5156]

It’s: “ I let you go so I can live my beautiful life.” 💫💞💥

[@ashleymariesmith615]

Stephanie has did it again! I felt this video in my spirit. Hopefully my subconscious did too.

[@justmemandalee]

I would really value having a video on the very difficult struggle of a mother and child living the nightmare of the emotional abuse, acceptance, letting go and what is acceptable/unacceptable to say when trying so hard to salvage the relationship.

[@oscarwilliamson1128]

Justme MandaLee,You look cute 🥰,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

[@vinguyen143]

Thank you Ma Stephanie. You are a true blessing ❤️‍🩹❤️

[@amybostic1439]

The timing of seeing this video was meant for me. Thank you ❤

[@tonybell9478]

Great video. Really made a lot of sense, and gave insight into the feelings that come along with a break up, especially a break up from a relationship that has been attempted multiple times, and has been nothing but a repeat of the last time and time again.

[@patrickdaigle5239]

Thanks again Stéphanie 😊

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

Thank you. Totally needed to hear this as I heal from trauma therapy and am figuring how and where to move forward to. 💖

[@chriswalls5831]

Let ppl go have fun

[@vivekcsekharamantri5172]

Such an Awesome video. Just hits all the right notes on all the wrong ones. Thank you so much

[@getrudemwaura946]

Thank You 🌹🌹🌹 I am working on myself and I seeing that it's possible to be incharge of self 💯🙏🙏🙏💞💕💞

[@flyaroundyourfire]

Thank you Stephanie. This is really what I needed to hear. I’m sure I speak for a lot of people here but your videos are really helpful

[@neetu2540]

Gosh I needed this so bad!!

[@BreaLinn]

Stephanie, you are a God send. I always look forward to your uploads. This was right on time. Thank You. ♥️

[@angbegay7439]

Thank you

[@oscarwilliamson1128]

Ang Begay,You look cute 🥰,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

[@jeseniagalindez9120]

God bless you. This is powerful information

[@kathrynmacdonnell6224]

Great video, thank you.

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Always very good topics. You bring them to the table with such flow and ease. That's a talent. Thank You

[@skbains86]

Forgiveness is a self-care practice - people act from their own emotional wounds. Radical acceptance - seeing the facts & life as it is; not what you dreamed it to be. Tired of being sick & tired? Live in the now, and have a vision of your future. Visit the past only to learn your mistakes.

[@xaxaxa12]

Kindly make video on getting out of any ADDICTION?

[@brenaechapman-buckhanon4373]

Finally a video with real steps

[@karissastoneburner5602]

This helped me so much. Thank you. Your videos are dynamite

[@anarosagarcia555]

Thank you Stephanie Lynn for being who you are! You are helping me through this process of healing ❤️‍🩹 and I know you were blessed for this purpose!

[@daktari3055]

Oh! I can let them go! Elvis has left the building!

[@anyajohnson4132]

That was very helpful ! Thank you Stephanie.

[@georgealvenmahler5723]

Dear Stephanie, Thank you for this very helpful message. Thank you for all that you share to helps us to grow and to over come the bad stuff of life. To me, you and what you say is a "God sent" in my life. I have had to overcome so much in my life, and you are so helpful in helping me to do that. God bless and thank you so very much, Alven Mahler

[@derrickemerson8753]

I can recommend you to the same person who helped me get my ex back

[@derrickemerson8753]

Get in touch with him on what sap

[@derrickemerson8753]

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[@pattihuke2992]

Great video. Really helps! Thx

[@coldcoffeesandcheesecakes]

this video is what I needed ...thank you so much 🥰

[@bottomlessinkwell]

I love you Stephanie Lyn! Thanks for the wise and genuine perspective as per usual.

[@jessicarose2047]

This is the best break up advise I have ever got. Thank you!

[@gordonasturias6604]

Thank you Stephanie. I feel I knew all this but need to hear it from you to re-enforce it.😁

[@Anthony-yy3kc]

The four times I (thought) fell in love were all all mistakes I made about the depth of the relationship. Every time I declared my affection I was summarily rejected. After the fourth time I gave up, recognizing that I had no idea how to relate to a woman in a romantic way. I have been single all my life because of this. The pain has subsided some but I have lived with it for decades now. My only comfort has been crying out to God in surrender!

[@gregcrowe8885]

I referred you to my daughter. I haven't looked for long time. You are more wise and more beautiful.

[@lindahawkins5205]

😳 I learnt something very valuable listening to this. Thank you.

[@trillywinkledinkle4323]

Thank you what you've said has helped me

[@adriandewar2336]

Reading through messages on so many videos is heartbreaking itself, such devastation in so many peoples lives ,due basically to having someone you love wanting to destroy you .don't figure.......no wonder the 🌎is how messed-up it is .I'm glad I'm an empath ,it gives meaning to my life ,I think we will always ruminant ,it's who we are ,but time does heal ...you either sit in the corner and give up ....or take your empathy your loyalty your strength your dignity & your Love - and bring a light shining in to the world like a lion . in God i trust ...

[@aliciagarcia5947]

"What was supposed to be." Ohmygosh Me rn 🤯

[@dumpgas]

Best video EVER !!!!!! Thank you...

[@amygingell2768]

Love your channel Stephanie so helpful to me in my life!!!💜💜💜

[@enriquesalas6314]

Hi Stephanie! This is your best video! Kind regards! ❤

[@natsdaley9615]

I may have to watch this daily finding it hard to forgive even though its been almost 3 years but I know I'm giving my past experience way to much

[@JAFOOSA]

Thank you Stephanie. I'm still struggling with letting go while my ex moved on so easily. She let go and I just need to figure out how too. It's tiring carrying around all of these feelings! Thanks for helping us help ourselves!

[@tiffanydodson7328]

Have things improved for you since then?

[@JAFOOSA]

@@tiffanydodson7328 I don't have the same intense heartache anymore, which is good. Learning to love yourself is a challenge for sure. At this point I've let go of that relationship, and will hopefully have an opportunity for a new one in the future. I'm grateful to not be carrying around that pain anymore. It was a burden for sure.

[@Radha_G_28]

SO needed this video today! Thank you!

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you so much.

[@Siigonsax]

We had a really great relationship. I wasn’t settling. We were so happy. Something changed about a year ago, after 16 years. I just don’t understand the concept of forgiving, when he did this and it turned my life upside down at 57. I’ll keep trying.

[@isabelsmith109]

Nailed it again

[@Baldiieee]

9 minutes with you, babe and all pain is away. My grandma's name was Stephanie btw

[@yourstruly1018]

Thank you so much Stephanie. Love lots.