WHAT MEN WISH WOMEN KNEW | South African YouTube Couple

[@TheMakhs]

The installment has been re-uploaded!!! Sound issues have been resolved. Thank you so much for your patience! Love #TheMakhs

[@theresahmensah287]

I looooove u guys so much So much love ❤ from Ghana Pls can u guys speak English throughout plsssssssss We dont understand when u chip in ur language lol Sorry But i looooove listening to u both Love love love u both ❤❤❤❤❤

[@keyzfimi271]

😊

[@keyzfimi271]

😅😊😊

[@keyzfimi271]

😊😢😮😊 51:18 😅

[@carolinemasarakufa6404]

Me rewatching in 2025 because no new episodes

[@prudencemathe8219]

The maturity is out of this world. I'm learning a lot. 😭😭😭

[@noluthandomakhoba9853]

I'm not even married yet but I was triggered for the most part. Like Peto said, I'll take it like a CHAMP and work on myself :). You guys are just amazing!

[@jennybrown1570]

I love how you guys are unraveling right infront of us. It's appreciated.

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaah thank you Jen❤️❤️❤️

[@madupe21]

Huge mistake

[@alricamoatshe4638]

Hi Guys. I've just recently discovered your channel, and I love, love, love you guys! My husband and I have been married for 21years, and we are very passionate about Marriage done God's way, and you guys aredoing exactly that! There is so much to learn from your videos, and I think this one specifically, I will listen to it again, take notes and then discuss with hubby! Keep up the amazing work that you are doing! You are changing lives!!!

[@bernicemaina3004]

Learnt alot, love it here! 😍💯 1) Respect 2) Emotional Intimacy 3) Security 4) To have fun 5) They want/need space

[@Nadiamatlala]

I love the honesty and authenticity you guys display. And the vulnerability you guys are showing and how you are both able to receive each other’s feedback without getting angry but willing to process and acknowledge. Thank you for the wonderful content and sharing your love with us, all facets of it ❤️❤️❤️

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much dear friend❤️❤️. It took us a lot of learning to arrive at this point. We’ve had to have some really tough conversations along the way and get to a point where we truly see each other’s hearts. We appreciate your kind words of affirmation and encouragement❤️❤️🤗🤗

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much Sanele! We appreciate you so much❤️❤️

[@moitshepisparkles]

💯💯💯

[@joynkuna6604]

If only you guys knew how much we(me and my boyfriend) learn from you.. like we literally have conversations about everything you talk about and this is a awosome way to preparation for us as we planning to get married next year.. Thank you so much

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for your feedback. We are so humbled by it.🤗🤗We are so encouraged to hear that the conversations are being carried forward❤️❤️

[@alemalem2395]

@@TheMakhs I am watching u guys and i think as a wife u need to understand your husband listen to him put his needs to have fun with you before your fears. I love that he want to have fun with you.

[@alemalem2395]

I am a widow and there were fun things my husband wanted us to do and i would say no .I regret it now we cannot go back so try to meet him half way u might be surprised.

[@alemalem2395]

I say this in love for you both .

[@kiaashlii6268]

One thing I’ve learnt is that sometimes in relationships we have to try and be apart of things our partners enjoy doing (find fun) even if it isn’t something we enjoy most. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Pheto is so beautiful.Yoh I am forever in awe of her.

[@MannaMeals]

Loved how you both didn’t sugarcoat marriage or your relationship struggles. Can you do a specific video on how God confirmed each other as your Godly spouse. And how He continued to confirm it while you were dating. Thank you.

[@TheMakhs]

Hi Erica! Thank you so much🤗🤗❤️❤️. We talk about the “confirmation” in the “How We Met” installment😀

[@adelheidkatjiru9402]

The honesty and Transparency from your husband, thank you for bringing us in

[@LM-he7eb]

I'm definitely afraid of opening up to men. Especially about family dynamics. Men diminish a lot of things we complain about & use it against you in future

[@madupe21]

Don't good idea... Advise: ask yourself when is he going to do that.. Which I also think of often doing?

[@hunadimakgatho3403]

Nothing but fax

[@siphodlamini4834]

Heal.

[@christinehamujompa1614]

True

[@zanelem.]

Yho. Emotional boundaries are a big thing. We were advised to limit what we share during the boyfriend-and-girlfriend stage at a ladies fellowship; but it's hard cause this person is the one person you talk to frequently 😫😭. And where do you draw the line when it comes to knowing each other without over sharing

[@phiwo8998]

So Authentic and raw ! No content like this elsewhere! Love watching these with my partner !

[@VhugalaHaweM]

Topics suggestions as requested 1. Contentment 2. marriage contracts 3. Independence within a message 4. Parenthood 5. Story Times love you guys tons!!!

[@TheMakhs]

THANK YOU!! We appreciate these suggestions so much! All so important!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾. We love and appreciate you so much❤️❤️

[@deepdiver849]

I barely watch anything as long as an hour...but this was very genuine and refreshing. For me its important that a man just informs me he needs space...

[@denzeleiseb6364]

I have never seen such a genuine conversation between couples. Thanks for the Channel.

[@ritobaloyi3735]

The way he emphasized on having fun 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@TheMakhs]

Did you see that??🤣🤣🤣

[@thandomazwi337]

I love the conversations you have. It gives me a whole lot of perspective

[@TheMakhs]

YES!!! Perspective is the goal. Love this comment. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾

[@charlesiaheard2639]

I love this expression of truth to his wife and done with love.

[@nontsikelelokhasu5257]

I love how you guys were so honest in this installment. We need these real conversations in relationships!

[@ntefengmoloisane5418]

I can relate to Phetola, If you ask me ,“what do you do for fun?” I won’t know what to say, but I am completely happy and having fun 🤣

[@TheMakhs]

Happy and content right? 🤣🤣Fun is very relative❤️

[@mahlengimadonsela493]

😂😂🤣

[@edgylee977]

😂😂😂

[@matshiamolebese3692]

Lerato gave a great example of when someone is being "unnecessary". That sort of thing gets to anyone, irrespective of gender. Those people tend to come across as bo tsibinki and ba bora blind bao. LOL. I stumbled upon your channel like literally 2 hours ago and I have been binge watching your videos. 🙈🙈🙈😂😂😂😂Thanks for sharing your story. The interview with the rents was such nourishing soulfood. May the good Lord continue to strengthen you in your individual capacities as well as a couple. 🌺🌺🌺

[@LM-he7eb]

I'm a bit like that🤭

[@gracegwangwa38]

True

[@becomingkea7759]

Me2🙈

[@wandilekwanda541]

What a heated conversation today😅. @Lerato we feel well represented. Loved it once again. ❤

[@TheMakhs]

Yoooo! The heat was too much🤣🤣. Lerato did well! We will give him that👏🏾👏🏾. And all the women are taking notes❤️

[@answersfrommylips197]

I like the honesty and vulnerability you guys shared with us. I think women naturally act like mothers when they truly care about someone. Enjoyed and learnt from the video.

[@nazikiwe8259]

I'm obsessed with your accents 🤗 and love the occasional phrases in your local languages.

[@maseramemolumo1440]

I love how even in disagreement, respect and love still shines in your conversations. You are so authentic, and the second thing I love is how you are comfortable with your differences too. I don't know why it took so long to watch your vids, but 5 vids later and no regrets 🙂

[@youhater-k7m]

Lerato is my dude...my girlfriend made the mistake of introducing me to your channel now your advice has become my reference point, I've always said some of these things but you say them so brilliantly and succinctly as you put it, keep up the good work!

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

Oh no lol

[@mssangvanza879]

Bathong your content is so honest and relatable. Love & respect has been a leading topic in our marriage of late. Funny part is everything Lerato is saying I’ve heard from my hubby before and I defs identify with most of Phetola’s views. To know that these are shared experiences is a relief. Thanks so much for sharing your experience and wisdom.❤️

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for letting us in. 😁 The truth is our stories are more common than we think, but perspective (hearing it differently) is important sometimes. Love to you and yours ❤️

[@pascollcampbell7580]

I think she’s over protective, she just want you to be okay 👍..No worry.......

[@pascollcampbell7580]

We really need to reevaluate our self

[@pascollcampbell7580]

What’s the true meaning of romance? Every one needs that...Dont you think so???????

[@herstory1012]

This video is gold dust....it needs a billion likes!

[@lydiagomah9048]

I love this Family so much, I love when he talking she looking in his Face

[@j.aolani]

Right soo cute♥️

[@euphodianetshakhuma2594]

It just show that she is still in love with her busband

[@nazikiwe8259]

You're such good listeners! You're each so attentive when the other speaks

[@gracehlatshwayo2789]

I need that skill towards my partner😭

[@keh-dalia809]

Wow, the candid speaking has actually helped me a lot to understand more!!! I think my problem is, is that I have gained a lot of wisdom early on in life and I end up giving great advice to guys who don't want to feel like they're being told what to do. Then I just think they are immature and too egotistical to see the value of growing and learning to better their own life. But this giving advice triggers guys and makes them feel insecure and not the strong superhero they want a woman to see them as. But honestly the insecurity and immaturity is already there underneath if they are triggered by something that can help them grow and learn. A lot of people don't like to grow and learn from others, but I love it, and you can only love growing and learning if you put your ego aside and open your mind to the possibility of what you can grow into. This will never change, and all the wisdom I gained through an intense life will not be denied either, and I cannot go back. But I see the issue, and this helped me understand again that I need a mature man who also has some fruits of wisdom too! Being that I'm still pretty young in a dumbed down American fast food culture, meeting the right guy is going to take some serious miracles of God!

[@shawnawallace4582]

22:15 fun! I was that way in past relationships. Thank you for this now I know. I love the open, honest authentic conversation. Please keep them coming. As a divorced woman interesting in marriage again I need this information. So, please keep the honesty with love of course

[@georgiagoldson7156]

OMG. I love this couple. Met them last week and I'm hooked. When Mrs. Makh said it's getting tense and Mr. Makh started scratching his head 🤣😂🤣

[@GugulehuShange]

Just discovered this channel, and I love openness, transparencyand mat displayEd in your videos guys. How you represent God's kind of marriage is amazing. May God 😢 to bless you and keep you❤

[@madampraises4450]

I'd like for aus Phetola to unpack how did she manage to be the breadwinner when abti Lerato was still trying to find his feet. Thank you for yet another educational episode. We really are learning a lot!! ❤️

[@madampraises4450]

Basically how did she handle finances and the emotional stability that comes with doing so. Didn't she feel like she was settling for less?

[@TheMakhs]

I must admit it was very difficult for me to be the breadwinner especially because the gender roles in the house were still as they were. So I went through a period of feeling quite resentful about the situation. What really worked for us was when I started my own business. At the time it didn’t look like the best idea because it meant that we would both be self employed, but pursuing my own dreams released me from the resentment. I think it was difficult for me, being in a job that I hated, whilst he was living his best life, and me still being the breadwinner. It just felt very unfair. A lot of prayer, spending time with couples that we respected who at some point went through what we went through and speaking to a counselor also helped us a lot.

[@OnlyQueenE]

I love yall transparency. So much growth is seen by your speech with each other, I love this. Thank you both for sharing!

[@simakahlemahlatini]

I love how informative this was! However please please tell us how we can make it a safe space? It’s so hard to figure out where exactly we go wrong to make it not feel like a safe place.

[@pontsotsoeunyane9395]

I can't believe I'm watching this for the third time. Thanks for sharing and always being so authentic and vulnerable around us

[@mrspboledi]

I love the honesty. I do think I’m like Phetola with the fun question, I’m risk averse and I get how that can “ruin the fun” for others

[@sisref]

Ijoo hubby is giving it to us ladies. "We are not fun".

[@gbngcobo]

Hi again, guys! I'm SUCH a big fan of this channel and I can't wait for it to blow up!

[@TheMakhs]

Aaah thank you so much!!Blow up!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@monicacking5126]

Yes what do you use to shoot

[@lethabomaupa]

On the "fun" part the difference between men and women is that men love living on the edge, whereas most women are reserved

[@thandiwengidi5226]

The mothering part convicted me 🙂I feel like I am like that too. We are caring, we are nurturing, please get it 🙂

[@LindiMhlophe]

I loved this conversation, even the nearly tense moments. You guys are a blessing

[@kwanelenomondemncube3478]

I'm all for the raw unraveling in your conversations! It's a whole lot of love from me. God bless your union.

[@gracehlatshwayo2789]

Mrs. Makhs on the FUN part please don't feel bad😅 I totally understood him. I saw myself in his demonstrations... Wow I'm that wife.

[@ShereenRamahuma]

“KZbin will show you wonders”😭😂😂😂😂

[@jasonfrancis1612]

I'm a new fan, and I've watched several of your videos now and will continue!.. You guys are fantastic! Your discussions are extremely refreshing, relatable and authentic. It all feels real and genuine and true. As a combination you're also really fabulous and present well. It is fun and enlightening. You are both wise and charismatic! But man to man, special props to Lerato, he is absolutely solid, wise and articulate. #Respect.

[@MsAmarie90]

Is your wife's love language touch? I love that she is always holding on to you.

[@cynthiahillian]

Because the subject matter can be rather hectic..I appreciated how you both affirm one another as well as take responsibility when the other is correct. Mostly, I appreciated the resurrect and well as you guys are always in physical contact. Touching one another, holding hands etc. And I'm learning lots.

[@sthembinkosimaswanganyi2148]

"Then let's go for counselling." 😂😂😂😂 that took me out. You guys are doing well👏. Love your content!

[@TheMakhs]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thank you so much❤️❤️

[@karloskaumunika2750]

Your realness just won yourselves a brand new fan!!! DOPE STUFF👌👌👌🔥🔥🔥

[@kiaashlii6268]

You realize even though Loreta stated initially that he was okay with partners having friends of the same sex now he is saying her not actually having male friends like that gives him that sense of security lol 😂 so once again it proves that many times we say we are ok with things until it is happening to us. 🤥🤷🏾‍♀️ y’all are the best!

[@octovianKamau]

Really enjoy this installment, i shall revisit after marriage. Love from 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@heavenlyshope723]

Thank you being honest and transparent. This was beautiful to watch.

[@matomerapholo9516]

Thank you so much guys. Your shows are so inspiring. Playing catch on most of your episodes. This particular one made me to exchange a light bulb that has been dead for almost two years.

[@bathabiledlamini2785]

Lerato is so confused shem... I like how he wants to get clarity to avoid doing the wrong thing

[@TheMakhs]

Communication and clarity are very important 🤣❤️

[@anthonymalgas260]

Big up to the fun commentary by the hubby and the woman acting as our mother robbing us guys of having fun. Spontenaity is fun in a relationship.

[@nyeletimanganyi4197]

I'm here for the intro 😂💞🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🙌 aowa "life is but a dream" I always feel that differently

[@imeldaoffiong677]

You guys are so honest, it's beautiful. I learn so much from every video you upload. Love you both❤️❤️❤️ God bless you🙏🏽

[@angelakamodi8527]

Oh man soo thankful for finding ur channel! this particular instalment was as real as they come,love love and appreciate your honesty,not easy to share but please know you are helping soo many out there! God bless!

[@CpheM]

Ultimately, compromise!!! Wow, this just shifted my perspective...particularly point 4 &5. You guys are beautifuuuul!!!

[@TheMakhs]

🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️. Thank you so much🤗🤗

[@ItumelengParage]

This is so refreshing. Love how articulate you both are. Learned a lot! ❤️

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much Tumi! We appreciate you so much❤️❤️

[@palesapalesa938]

This was such a scary conversation 🤣Yo guyzini, my heart is beating so fast

[@ojheroicza5165]

Lerato just spoke to me. We need space. Please respect that.

[@nalsmaebela5853]

i loved the authenticity shared with us. we need more openness and honesty such as this content right here!! it is rare to find. Thank you guys

[@VangileM]

I recently come across this account n yesterday I cried myself to sleep due to the lord I see in you guys may God bless you . No 5 I thought it’s my husband thing only , I am the type that want things done now talked about now this processing issue I struggle with because I end up feeling ignored

[@vuyiswanhleko3405]

O.M.G....emotional intimacy...can't blv I've just discovered your channel guys...best lessons ever..thank you beautiful people. All love from Swaziland

[@justanobody8470]

i love to see black people discussing conversations that we ( black people specifically but even other races ) have spent so much of our existence shying away from. and i love how you guys do it in a manner that is open to other opinions and just overall embrassing peoples differences as a whole.

[@luvogiba1526]

You Guys!! A Whole Shout out!! 🤭 So this Channel is definitely my kind of fun!! Always a treat listening and learning from you guys...the topics are so real and hard ones, but watching you handle them with vulnerability, honesty, humility and laaawd the humour! 😆We love to see it! Bless you guys 🥰

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for this heartwarming message. We are so humbled by the love, encouragement and affirmation❤️❤️

[@carrolmatlhako8088]

No 4 bafwethu 🤣😂🤣. Having to strike a balance by not sounding too happy or depressed Modimo! Definitely taking notes, another phenomenal installment as always ❤.

[@TheMakhs]

True story 🤣🤣🤣

[@onemolah7580]

We compromise for the ones we love....doing it together because the other loves it. It means a lot together.💕💕 Together we can💞

[@pascollcampbell7580]

Don’t fight now!!!!! You guys are speaking to us.........

[@TheMakhs]

Fight? We discuss intensely 🤣

[@pascollcampbell7580]

I think this guy is speaking to us men generally,I really like your contents....You speak to us male,very clearly...Thank you for high-lighting these topics....Male thinks different from female...Chances are,we do things differently as men........

[@neodlamini6115]

I really enjoyed this. I like the organic-ness/authenticity of the conversation.

[@pamelakgare6991]

Laughed so hard , I’m a woman and I’m Lerato in my marriage. I have bungee jumped, shark cage dived and my husband won’t have it. And I also need space to process .My husband and have had to figure it out but leaving this convo ... I’m a man basically

[@TheMakhs]

🤣🤣🤣WE LOVE IT 🙌🏾 As long as our dynamic will s relatable, we’re happy ❤️❤️❤️

[@MeisieKatz]

I love adrenaline rush fun but my husband does not.....! It depends with the person’s fun preference.

[@LM-he7eb]

I'm an adrenaline junky too

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

🤣🤣🤣

[@keaolebogakgotlaebonywe6754]

when Lerato said KZbin WILL SHOW YOU WONDERS!!!LOL! another wonderful instalment ditsala!

[@TheMakhs]

Bathong Lerato🤣🤣🤣. Why is he this person🤣🤣🤣

[@knoqphenomtv]

I feel like he is addressing enjoying the "moment" without risk of accusing you of not being "fun". It does not have to be YOUR/HIS favorite activity for it to be fun. Just like if he was at home watching a movie, that can be fun. But it's not his favorite thing to do. It's about being in the MOMENT.

[@rabeccamwila1314]

oh my. i so needed this as a young woman trying to understand our men, this was super helpful and liberating

[@samanthab4524]

I just met you guys, I love you already, you just "make sense" and im gonna binge watch all ur vids ♥

[@tshegofatsodolly6168]

The Makhs I love your content,wisdom filled and just rich. A new subscriber from Botswana

[@tokolohomokale354]

We are here to see ourselves and be comforted by knowing that we are not alone in the challenges we go through ❤️ Beautiful content guys

[@TheMakhs]

We couldn’t have said it better. Thank you so much🙏🏾❤️

[@pascollcampbell7580]

My bro, respect goes a long way......So true for males.......

[@TheMakhs]

Absolutely 👊🏾

[@thetherapeuticcoacht.7260]

I appreciate these points and I’m listening and taking heed. This conversation is necessary, for men to open up. Thank you.

[@travelwithposh7129]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 “soooo how did it goooo” 💀💀😂😂 eyyyy this is definitely what I would do.

[@TheMakhs]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@aneleboligello8742]

🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

[@VhugalaHaweM]

my fiance loved this video hahahahah....I enjoyed my one last week 🤣🤣🤣 on a serious note thank you guys so much for opening conversations in our home . we thoroughly enjoy these💛

[@TheMakhs]

We appreciate you watching and journeying with us🙏🏾🙏🏾. Thank you❤️❤️. So glad your hubby to be enjoyed it as well🤣🤣

[@thapelosello3612]

Lerato spoke the truth that most men wont say because we don't want to hurt them. The part of not being too happy or too sad when she calls loooool truth the brother!!!

[@tshepangmokotedi]

First time coming across your channell and oh my God! I'm hooked. I love your honesty and openness. I'm learning so much 🙏🏽

[@trudy_triad]

Not the thumbnail giving Shutterstock 🤣🖤❤

[@mbalib2694]

It’s the quality of your videos for me🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much❤️❤️

[@tebogomosinyi2683]

Introduce her slowly to your extreme sports..she doesn't want to stay in your way...but PLEASE don't exclude her. She wants to support you...Introduce her slowly..

[@madupe21]

So smart Tebo...... Thanks!!!

[@ongeziwemepha4815]

Number 4 had me in stitches hey... It really stretched you guys. I love that. I myself was stretched and had to do a lot of introspection & to be truly honest with myself... Lerato made me see things differently. This blessed me. Yes Phetola; you're right😁Boys will be Boys. Let's let them

[@kholofelomonene4440]

Lerato are “ norh KZbin will show you wonders “ 😹😹😹

[@monixmonix916]

Oh what a couple....you have a new sub from Kenya....love it. God bless you

[@wanda_za]

I have been waiting for this. 😄 You guys look beautiful. Thank you for pouring out your wisdom to us. May God bless you abundantly.

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaaah🤗🤗🤗😊😊😊. Thank you so much for your kind words. Giving us all the feels❤️❤️

[@Gulexy_Gulexy]

You guys are so well spoken. Shuu, we have to give that to you 🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaah thank you so much❤️❤️

[@nkatekoqhibi637]

New subbie 🙋🏿 I am so happy to have discovered you guys, the authenticity is amazing 😍 👏🏿

[@maty4206]

Ooooh my word I loved this! "Thabo come into the house killed me" Fantastic episode!

[@everjoymercysigauke87]

I recently started watching your installments and they have been so educative and refreshing at the same time. Thank you for sharing your great content!