How To Prove You Deserve A Second Chance

[@Celestialbabee]

I wish you guys had more videos on what to do when it comes to an ex you have kids with and the split wasn’t as recent.

[@chrisseitercoaching]

Noted!

[@erlendrd3480]

Okei, so she gave me a birthday presant of breaking up with me, 29 dec.. been dating for 2,5 years LDR.. was meeting frequently, and i was ofc begging and pleading atfirst the first week or so, and being the lowest of the low in my life.. since i started no contact, i used the time well, finding myself, and figured out what i had been doing wrong, and bettering myself really.. and she has reached out a couple of times, saying that she has been dreaming about me.. and she called me like 2weeks ago, we chatted for 3hours, she says that she misses all the things we did, like she went on a rant.. but then she goes cold, and sends like sad messages, not many but afew, but she does not answer me back afterwards.. and i feel like shes using me for emotional support when shes down... But how do i get her to meet up with me, i asked her the other day if she wanted to get coffe sometime, she Said yes i would like that, but when i asked is saturday fine, she just left me on read.. so how do i get her to connect with me again...

[@inspiredx3866]

Back up again

[@erlendrd3480]

@@inspiredx3866 so i should go no contact again?

[@erlendrd3480]

@@inspiredx3866 found out shes in a new relationship already, might be a rebound, i accept it, but i will never take her back, so, im actually happily moving on 🍻

[@tecumsehbarber5051]

But for God sake, me and my ex have 4 year old together.. that's so such a very long time, up to 45 days??. I have to talk to her to be able to talk to my son...

[@indridcold8433]

@@tecumsehbarber5051 That one of the hundreds of negatives of bonding with someone. I found many more negatives, than positives, involving the bonding of humans. Having experienced many of the negatives myself, there will never be another attempt at an amicable nor amorous relationship again. I am just lucky enough to never have had a child. It would have ended in a split custody if I didm. Then I would have been connected to someone that abuses me for decades to come. You have my sympathies. Nobody should have to stay connected to someone that hates them, nor to someone they hate. I was fortunate enough to have been able to delete everyone from my life with no residual contacts ever needed.

[@cipryan96]

You can't.

[@MacFewelfy]

She's in a honeymoon phase with someone else...

[@CREDMANSR]

Be patient, it will pass

[@indridcold8433]

With as many people there are on the planet, absolutely nobody deserves a second chance, including we, ourselves. Whether friend or romantic interest, no matter who breaks the relationship, do not ask for, nor give, a second chance. There are plenty more people in which to form a friendship or romantic interest.

[@norswil8763]

I can’t agree, you deal in absolutes based only on a criteria of numbers and potential. Will you be able to connect with all these billions of potential partners? You’re like a fish in a fish tank of 10, your life and gravity for connecting to people meaningfully in your life won’t even break 0000.1% of the planets population. Also, life is short - if you meet someone who you create a special and fully compatible, high chemistry love bond with, they’ll be worth fighting for. Meaningful relationships come with ups and downs, growing through and bearing issues in the hard times only improve connection and bond. “No body deserves a second chance” by your theory you’d close the door on pure love and spend your years searching through billions of people, never willing to put the work into securing earnt love.

[@CREDMANSR]

Untrue, your ex can understand your value in their life and put you at a higher value with time.

[@indridcold8433]

@@norswil8763 Not all are able to be part of a social herd, nor be able to bond with humans. I concluded, long ago, that I am not desirable to the social herds nor with a social. There is also an extremely high level of discomfort around humans that is unable to be circumvented. Having had prior experiences with the socials, and social herds, a realisation of the fact that my exclusion is inevitable because of my passive and quiet mannerism. The socials and social herds have a heavy dislike of those unlike them. Realising this, I have a heavy distrust and avoidant nature to them. Ceasing all interpersonal, social, interactions, and attempted connections with socials has greatly simplified my existence. It also stabilised my existence greatly. There is also very little stress in my existence with no further attempts to assimilate the social customs and protocols associated with social success. It would be foolish to repeat previous errors knowing the outcome will ll be the same every time. I am undesirable. I accept this position in life and have learned to exist with this trait.