How to Raise Your Self Esteem & Confidence 😍 (HOT GIRL ERA)

Go to our sponsor betterhelp.com/aileen for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help. Let's talk about how to boost your self confidence, self esteem, and enter your hot girl era 😍
Sharing confidence tips & self reflection journal prompts that you can use to understand yourself, and redesign your identity if you'd like.
On a scale from 1-10, how much do you feel like you're in your "hot girl era"?
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[@CAJanviShah]

1) 1:38 Take care of your physical body 2) 3:17 What's the story you've been telling yourself about yourself? 3) 6:56 You get to decide your identity 4) 11:07 Self love 5) 13:30 Live for yourself and your approval Thank me later!

[@EmmaMarch]

Thanks for the summary to come back to. Make sure to watch the video in total though, because every detail is precious ♥

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[@onemillionpercent]

thank you!!!

[@maliahstark]

Glad to say that from 4/10, I'm feeling 8.5/10! I realized that self-love journey (building self-confidence, healing inner child, shadow work, etc.) really takes time and once I accepted this slow yet fulfilling phase, everything slowly falls into its place. I started with small habits every month with regards to self betterment. I am not forcing myself to do these habits so I don't feel like it's a chore. Here's a glimpse of my list: ✅ morning is for self, family, dogs, household chores ✅ 10-minute meditation ✅ Drink 1L of water ✅ 20-minute abs and booty exercise ✅ Eat slowly (chew food) ✅ Think before acting ✅ Go with life's flow ✅Afternoon is for work and running errands ✅ Finish 1 book per month ✅ Practice impromptu speech

[@KeturaSaint-Fleurose]

There’s less comparison when you feel self assured and love your true essence ✨

[@staysunny1136]

8.5-9/10. I have really learned to let a lot of things go and love myself unconditionally. You and your content have been a huge part of my self love journey. We are so thankful for you!

[@girly.mimi00]

For myself, I would say 5. I really have to work on myself. I'm glad you were able learn from Aileen as well. 😁😀

[@teresanewman4888]

People should be kind to other's stop blaming people because they don't love them self. I'm always trying to help people and love every One. The better I am the worst I got treated so I took a good look at myself it's about me and I found out it was them not me so . Live an love your self. No one will be as Good as you treat people. Love is the key.

[@teresanewman4888]

My boyfriend Fred live-in with me and sending Love to someone or 2 or maybe more love msgs I had to let it go because he would not care anything ifor me so I just let me it go o he's still with me but I don't want to push anyone to do anything . You asre so right. Love your self

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[@anaromero5583]

Listening to you this morning getting ready for work definitely improved my mood and got me back into being me for the day! Thank you!!

[@afridajahan2004]

The one and only video i needed rn , thanks Aileen. Lots of love ...

[@leamonica8393]

I needed this ❤❤❤ thank you

[@emilylucas7826]

I just found you and your channel today and I feel so blessed to have found you. I'm so excited to explore all of your content as I work on loving myself more and more every day.

[@TilikaVispute]

Loved the video, Aileen!!!! I totally agree once we love ourselves we becoming loving to others as well. 🥰🌸💗🧚🏻‍♀️💛💗✨

[@lunalovegood2799]

Hi Aileen!! Hope you are doing good! You literally lift up my day with amazing content! Would love to watch much of your positivity spread!! And yeah Congrats for 1.8M!! You deserve more!!!

[@EmorettaRobinson]

The video was so helpful that I took notes. It's very well put together and you gave great advice.

[@love_reka_777]

Same here! I’m 31 & felt sooo insecure & was people pleasing in my 20s. Thanks girl

[@CAJanviShah]

Been watching you since 2 years now. And honestly this channel has helped me a lot ❤️

[@lavendaire]

✨✨ love to hear that!

[@joannahernandezm177]

Same

[@shandiary]

hi, aileen. thank you so much for always empowering every each one of us. to be honest, you really helped me a lot through learning how to love myself more. your channel is the one i always ran through whenever i am feeling down, and watching one of your videos empower and motivates me. thank you so much for creating this channel.

[@tristinanguyen2145]

I needed this I think I deserve it ❤thank you for sharing some tips

[@Nan7ae]

Yess! I feel really happy to get this content from you! It's universe's sign for me to be myself! I have been watching your videos for years and honestly you are one of the best guide! Thank you Aileen!

[@DheeProductions]

wow every word 100% hit on point. thank you for this amazing video!

[@frugalhousewife9878]

Thank you for this video! I've heard many of the concepts you explored presented by other people but something about the way you said it stuck. Lots to ponder. I would really appreciate another video more about "changing the script/story" because I struggle with a very stuck, negative self image. I understand it would be better to think differently but I have a hard time implementing that. 💙

[@josedosanjos2200]

That's so nice to watch your channel ! Thanks for sharing this.

[@annaugcitaly]

I have loved this video so much 💚 you are right when saying that others don't live your life for you..You have to do what you makes you feel happy and satisfied 😍

[@kodigreen]

Immediately drawn into your video. You have such a calm soothing demeanor and it’s so beautiful.

[@Nadaa242]

I love how confident you are 💗

[@sylviarbilqis374]

Aileen i really loves this video, thank you so much❤

[@jessicabeca1234]

You are the reason I have gained self love and confidence. I did your self love affirmations and in just a couple of days my self confidence was brought up.

[@aaliyahs9594]

This was so well needed and a great video thank you for making this I have been on a self care and self love journey as well as mediation. ❤️I truly have learned a lot about myself and learned to love myself unconditionally even more .

[@katesartspace2220]

Super inspiring! I had my worst relapse after working on myself but I am optimistic that I’ll rise up again after my previous fall. PLUSSS You are so beautiful 😍

[@HeatherThrills]

This video was amazing. I have been taking care of myself and loving myself, and I have also been meditating. This video was just what I needed to keep me going. Because of this, I now love myself more completely and deeply than I ever have. From my own experience, this is true. When we start to love ourselves, we naturally start to love others. 🥰

[@georginaleguizamon7585]

Love it! Go girl! You're stunning ❤️

[@josedosanjos2200]

That's a nice video ! Thanks for your time.

[@Melow55]

I decided from today I will work on my insecurities.I am listening to every point and taking notes.Your videos are really helpful.

[@tessvictoria5142]

I think im at a 7. I have my ups and downs, but genuinely your videos instantly remind me of how I can feel about myself! Thank you for making these wonderful videos.

[@dysaa11]

Love your videos. I came here to train my english. And the way you speak sounds clear and easy to listen. Thanks for making the videos! And the contents, of course, are good!

[@falgunipatel2284]

I am soo grateful that You started the channel and I've found you cause you have made me soo much better person as compared who I was few years ago!! Thank you Aileen ❤️ #LoveFromIndia

[@Iyonable12]

6.5 - coming out of a negative rut but I'm actually really proud of myself for how I've been handling a really tough few years and never giving up!

[@SonamNNM]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts

[@Koko13129]

Thank you Aileen for this 🌼.. I think am at 4.5 era like I don’t know still stuck but yeah I keep telling myself that I got this and I see the changes in me that am becoming the more better person day by day 🌼...

[@NYKIRA]

Yes, we welcome you to the Hot Girl Era, love this for you!❤‍🔥 I definitely think its so powerful how you said "It all starts in the mind" as it's true, what we tell ourselves shapes our reality and we should prioritize positive and effective self programming so we can truly enjoy our greatest being ✨

[@JenKMusic01]

I'll be honest, I'm at a 2.5 for my hot girl era. This video really hit home for me because I just started my own 'self-love journey', if you will, and everything you were saying is what I'm trying to teach myself and need to start applying to myself because I don't like who I have become and need to change and your videos have been helping a lot actually so thank you! 😊

[@catarinafuncannon680]

Thank you so much for doing this!!! you have no idea how much you have helped me with your videos. 💜🖤

[@kameliakancheva]

I feel like I'm 9.5-10/10 loving myself and being grateful are the best things that I've done in my life, thank you so much for everything, you showed me that I'm worthy, enough and absolutely capable of being successful, Lavendair will always be my favorite KZbin channel

[@ranimvegas9085]

Im hugely appreciative to know u and come across ur channel for about 3 years .im making more progress relating to my self live / healing journey❤❤. Im in 6,5/ 7 out of 10 in peace with myself

[@SimonaRentea]

Your identity is fluid. ❤️ So powerful. ✨️

[@meganb4898]

I’m a 7 atm… turning 30 in a few months and a little freaked out. This video helped me realise that I should embrace this new era and make it my “hot girl” years! Thank you! Also I find that embracing spirituality and mindfulness has helped me with my self acceptance and thus confidence. Work in progress ❤️

[@EmmaMarch]

What's interesting to me is, judging from what I can see by your pic, you're very beautiful ^^ I hope you can conquer whatever it is internally that isn't allowing you to see how much of a 10 you are : ) sending you positivity and love

[@meganb4898]

@@EmmaMarch you are very kind 💓sending lots of love, luck and health your way 💋

[@EmmaMarch]

@@meganb4898 thank youuu ♥

[@Kayla-yv7wc]

This was one of your most incredible videos. I’ll save this forever.

[@cheneejoysocuano4773]

Hi Aileen!! It’s my birthday today!! And I can say that I am now at the scale of 7-8. I am far where I was used tobe. And thank you for your videos, you are really an inspiration to me. Sharing your experiences, wisdom and lessons through your videos helps me a lot to become the best version of myself ❤…

[@heysabo]

Wow, I really needed to hear this today ❤️🥰 Thank you Aileen for your wise and grounding words 🥰

[@buganeswarisomopillay4423]

Love your style and love your confidence! Keep going!!! 😊

[@quynhanhv]

I have spent long hours only listening to your video while waiting my child in his class. I felt like I find my authentic self. I know how to be present, love my self more.

[@noelkempster]

6/10! I definitely have a lot of tendencies to be a people pleaser or be self conscious about how choices that I make might be perceived but lately I’ve made myself proud by sticking to my skincare rituals and I’m a graduate student and I really think I am on the way there

[@beingrinz3914]

I started my selflove journey in 2020. I started watching your videos and you taught me an insecure heart broken 16 year old girl to love and embrace every part of herself then I healed from everything that broke me and I'm now 19 years old throughout these 3 years I can now confidently look into ppls eyes and talk to them I am literally the happiest girl I've ever been and I'm in my hot girl era right now I don't if you see this comment but I just wanted to tell you that I am deeply grateful that I get to see your channel when I was at my lowest and I am thanking your from the bottom of my heart 🥰🥰💝

[@marisv2]

Now in my 50’s and couldn’t feel better! Better than years before more accepting of myself! I don’t care what others say or do! I now do things my way!

[@dhivyadharshini8]

It's 2/10. It's ok I'm not sad & I'm ready, excited & motivated to reach higher.. Love you and your pretty soul❤

[@faraaaa7095]

i love you, thank you for this ate

[@chilbong7642]

You are an Angel! Thank you so much for sharing everything♥️

[@rach9918]

You're one of my fave youtubers although I'm just new in your channel. I love your contents. Your channel is like one of my safe haven 💕

[@LuvMaribel]

Always love your content and your personality❤❤❤

[@janicecarter-marko2239]

At 60 I’m still trying I’ll get there. I suppose I’m feeling a 6. I’m bettering my life with the main focus on me now. Thanks for your videos and thanks for being you. PS… my order from you arrives today. I’m so excited to receive and begin journaling with the Deck. Lots of love and light 🙏🏻

[@meral_hd1]

👏👏

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Queen I enjoy watching your videos. it is so helpful and I just think that you deserve to have more subs!

[@mrsblue3251]

Thank you so much! I needed this because lately I've been feeling depressed, but this video was needed at the right time...

[@JennLinsi]

Hi Merie. I’m sorry to hear that… although you should be super proud of yourself for continuing to seek out different resources to support yourself.💕 In case it might interest you, I have a variety of videos on my YT channel related to how we can develop our self-love even when we’re experiencing challenging things in life. All the best!🌟

[@TheChloeMcGurk]

I loved this! Glad I found ur channel :)

[@vallarisatpute871]

This video is so positive it even made my negative mind turn positive and thank you for that ❤️

[@runamiura953]

You look very different in a positive way!! I’m so surprised. The way you talk is also different than the previous videos… Self care and self confidence is everything. I have so much respect for you 🥺💖💖

[@Gulden_Galaxy]

I really needed this tbh-

[@pedenla._]

Thank you so much for this video lavendaire

[@Trikyoi]

i love your voice so much ! thank you about your knowlegde

[@miora1081]

1/10 and ready to finally apply small habits to grow and will start with identifying my limiting beliefs. Thank you so much for you help. It's going to be a great journey to a better self.

[@thebookishkhmerican4303]

I love that you said you would say that you’re a KZbinr even though you didn’t feel fully confident about it. I did the same thing before when I wanted to be a writer. Now, I am a public health researcher and writer and it’s amazing!

[@tinaynicolas2688]

Your videos always help me be better. Thank you just for being you. You are a blessing to this world 💕

[@happyhealthyhadlee]

Yassss this was so inspiring! I feel like I'm in my hot girl era most of the time, but this just upped my confidence and reminded me that I get to be who I want to be, and I'm worthy of it! 🤩

[@kemigisavictoria7285]

Feel am on 5.1 still working on myself .Thank you for guidance big Sis❤

[@blessedlife6771]

This year and going forward, I chose to reject the false negative self talks and tap into the hardworking, self believing and confident version of myself ❤

[@reena0123]

Hey Aileen, I have been watching your video since your early days... Infact my first subscription. There is so much I learnt from you... Thank you❤🙏

[@bristi6913]

I'm so great full that I'm watching your videos in my 20s it's really helping for self healing and self love..❤

[@1982sabby]

My favourite video in a long time!!!....i love you Aileen ❤️ and I'm so happy for you...n I'm getting there too 😀

[@khalilahd.]

I love this. It’s so easy comparing yourself to others but choosing happiness and self love is empowering. I love this 💜

[@cristinam.1764]

I love your self love meditation and the affirmations, they have helped me a lot to love myself as I am, you should link them to the video Aileen, love and light to you

[@cristinam.1764]

I just saw you linked a hole list 😂 awesome!

[@channelee]

Thank you for making my day, keep rocking 💕💕

[@kimberleyferreira3477]

Love, love your content.

[@thithanhtamphan3230]

Thank you so much ❤

[@bouchrahoumeur6742]

You are so beautiful and I like all of your videos thanks for being here to help people who wants to change their lives, keep up the good work Aileen👏

[@lydiahebert2972]

Great video, thank you it helps a lot 💕 I feel empowered! I like your point of view and energy ✨

[@blancawood7027]

I just recently found your channel and let me just say I love you already!!! I resonate with allot of your content

[@Harsaschannel]

Hello from Belgium ! I am going through a negative cycle in my life, I have a low self esteem and self confidence but I m trying to fix that! I just found your channel and it makes me feel better, you have great tips ! Thank you for that ❤

[@Overthemoon1111]

Hope things get better for u!💗

[@candistepper6838]

I've been making slight changes by dancing, working out, and eating healthy. From that I am feeling more like a 9, but before I was feeling like a 3 or a 4. Good tips! I like the video :)

[@joelclelland3175]

Well. I'm not going to enter my hot girl era, but I will say I absolutely love your daily affirmations. They have become my daily affirmations. One of my favorites is, "My worth is innate and cannot be taken away!!" I am a force of love and happiness. Thank you Aileen!! Thank you Lavendaire!! :-)

[@muslimahtraveller4735]

This is what I needed now, Thanks Lavendaire ♥️🔥

[@anastasiaraya139]

I love so much to watch your content, it's really easy to understand and teach me how to going through my life in my twenties,,, thanks you so much always inspired me 🙏💛💜

[@seigiaiko9340]

i dont know how you do but you put out a video about a topic i am struggling the most at the moment. I've been following you for more than 5 years and your content has been helping my own healing path and i'm very thankful for that.

[@seigiaiko9340]

i feel 6.5 as i have to keep taking care of myself and a lot of limiting beliefs are blocking my way

[@afziashamsi]

thankyou 💗💫

[@pristys6040]

Thank you so much, that will help me a lot. And I have given my firt step with this video, 1

[@patriciasanjose3967]

I love the energy❤️

[@kai-tastic9618]

I feel like right now I am at a 2/10. I don't have very much confidence in myself and I am very dependent on others opinions. I think if I put to use the tips you put here I will be able to move from a 2 up to at least a 9. Sounds ambitious I know, but I want to be independent and love myself. I am a 26 year old person and I have a long way to go. But I am thankful for your advice Aileen! You have helped me so much since I found your channel and you keep doing what your doing. You truly are helping everybody and we all appreciate you for it.

[@felicitasdieterle4563]

Hi, Lavendaire, I begun watching your vid in 2020. you have changed massiv since that time. You are glowing like a star.

[@lavendaire]

Thank you 🥺🥺 it’s true

[@caratdeulgumoning]

Rn I’m feeling 4.5 but I’m trying and I’m bettering myself. Thank you, Aileen for this beautiful video 💖

[@yinpassion7817]

I feel like I’m at an 8.5 too! I really feel pretty good. I’ve done a lot of work already and I feel so much better than I used to but I know I am still gonna become more confident and self assured and I can’t wait for that!

[@jinalparmar1127]

Missed you Aileen ❤️✨

[@vismayagowda8780]

i'm 4 right now. i've been in this self-discovery, productivity era for over 2 years now, and a lot has changed. i've been through ups and downs, there have been days where i felt incredible and made great progress and then there were days where i just wanted to sleep and do nothing. all of these experiences shape me and i am proud of being on this journey (1'm 17 years old btw). i love this channel and thank you Aileen!! you're incredible

[@tainary5746]

Same. There are a lot of ups and downs but we will get there.

[@ivalfm]

Hi Eileen...I will give myself 5..long way to go...your expressions for each sentence is good...that adds more power to each of your word..thank you ..