How to Raise Your Self Esteem & Confidence 😍 (HOT GIRL ERA)

[@lavendaire]

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[@CAJanviShah]

1) 1:38 Take care of your physical body 2) 3:17 What's the story you've been telling yourself about yourself? 3) 6:56 You get to decide your identity 4) 11:07 Self love 5) 13:30 Live for yourself and your approval Thank me later!

[@EmmaMarch]

Thanks for the summary to come back to. Make sure to watch the video in total though, because every detail is precious ♥

[@karensampouw]

thank you

[@Rishita_Naik]

Thank you so much 💕

[@Rorohaz12]

احب الناس اللي زيك ❤️❤️❤️ شكرا

[@onemillionpercent]

thank you!!!

[@maliahstark]

Glad to say that from 4/10, I'm feeling 8.5/10! I realized that self-love journey (building self-confidence, healing inner child, shadow work, etc.) really takes time and once I accepted this slow yet fulfilling phase, everything slowly falls into its place. I started with small habits every month with regards to self betterment. I am not forcing myself to do these habits so I don't feel like it's a chore. Here's a glimpse of my list: ✅ morning is for self, family, dogs, household chores ✅ 10-minute meditation ✅ Drink 1L of water ✅ 20-minute abs and booty exercise ✅ Eat slowly (chew food) ✅ Think before acting ✅ Go with life's flow ✅Afternoon is for work and running errands ✅ Finish 1 book per month ✅ Practice impromptu speech

[@KeturaSaint-Fleurose]

There’s less comparison when you feel self assured and love your true essence ✨

[@staysunny1136]

8.5-9/10. I have really learned to let a lot of things go and love myself unconditionally. You and your content have been a huge part of my self love journey. We are so thankful for you!

[@girly.mimi00]

For myself, I would say 5. I really have to work on myself. I'm glad you were able learn from Aileen as well. 😁😀

[@teresanewman4888]

People should be kind to other's stop blaming people because they don't love them self. I'm always trying to help people and love every One. The better I am the worst I got treated so I took a good look at myself it's about me and I found out it was them not me so . Live an love your self. No one will be as Good as you treat people. Love is the key.

[@teresanewman4888]

My boyfriend Fred live-in with me and sending Love to someone or 2 or maybe more love msgs I had to let it go because he would not care anything ifor me so I just let me it go o he's still with me but I don't want to push anyone to do anything . You asre so right. Love your self

[@runamiura953]

You look very different in a positive way!! I’m so surprised. The way you talk is also different than the previous videos… Self care and self confidence is everything. I have so much respect for you 🥺💖💖

[@GalinaMalakhova]

Love this message. I’m at like 7 right now, and quickly growing. I’m putting a lot more care and love into myself, and I’m starting to believe I’m equipped to fix any misalignments.

[@meganb4898]

I’m a 7 atm… turning 30 in a few months and a little freaked out. This video helped me realise that I should embrace this new era and make it my “hot girl” years! Thank you! Also I find that embracing spirituality and mindfulness has helped me with my self acceptance and thus confidence. Work in progress ❤️

[@EmmaMarch]

What's interesting to me is, judging from what I can see by your pic, you're very beautiful ^^ I hope you can conquer whatever it is internally that isn't allowing you to see how much of a 10 you are : ) sending you positivity and love

[@meganb4898]

@@EmmaMarch you are very kind 💓sending lots of love, luck and health your way 💋

[@EmmaMarch]

@@meganb4898 thank youuu ♥

[@beingrinz3914]

I started my selflove journey in 2020. I started watching your videos and you taught me an insecure heart broken 16 year old girl to love and embrace every part of herself then I healed from everything that broke me and I'm now 19 years old throughout these 3 years I can now confidently look into ppls eyes and talk to them I am literally the happiest girl I've ever been and I'm in my hot girl era right now I don't if you see this comment but I just wanted to tell you that I am deeply grateful that I get to see your channel when I was at my lowest and I am thanking your from the bottom of my heart 🥰🥰💝

[@marisv2]

Now in my 50’s and couldn’t feel better! Better than years before more accepting of myself! I don’t care what others say or do! I now do things my way!

[@seigiaiko9340]

i dont know how you do but you put out a video about a topic i am struggling the most at the moment. I've been following you for more than 5 years and your content has been helping my own healing path and i'm very thankful for that.

[@seigiaiko9340]

i feel 6.5 as i have to keep taking care of myself and a lot of limiting beliefs are blocking my way

[@tanishahanamsagar5008]

Right now I don't have anything to tell about myself confidence and Esteem but I want to say that I will start working on it daily and from the very moment and it really takes time to understand yourself and love yourself Unconditionally because morning something happened to which actually disturb me and I have not done anything since morning and also specialising myself thinking this that and also watch so many videos of yours and finally this one which is making me feel so good now that I am feeling good about myself and I think I got something which can make me to do something in my life which is helping me to get motivated and I really want to do something to change my identity😊

[@khalilahd.]

I love this. It’s so easy comparing yourself to others but choosing happiness and self love is empowering. I love this 💜

[@CAJanviShah]

Been watching you since 2 years now. And honestly this channel has helped me a lot ❤️

[@lavendaire]

✨✨ love to hear that!

[@joannahernandezm177]

Same

[@Iyonable12]

6.5 - coming out of a negative rut but I'm actually really proud of myself for how I've been handling a really tough few years and never giving up!

[@janicecarter-marko2239]

At 60 I’m still trying I’ll get there. I suppose I’m feeling a 6. I’m bettering my life with the main focus on me now. Thanks for your videos and thanks for being you. PS… my order from you arrives today. I’m so excited to receive and begin journaling with the Deck. Lots of love and light 🙏🏻

[@meral_hd1]

👏👏

[@JenKMusic01]

I'll be honest, I'm at a 2.5 for my hot girl era. This video really hit home for me because I just started my own 'self-love journey', if you will, and everything you were saying is what I'm trying to teach myself and need to start applying to myself because I don't like who I have become and need to change and your videos have been helping a lot actually so thank you! 😊

[@vismayagowda8780]

i'm 4 right now. i've been in this self-discovery, productivity era for over 2 years now, and a lot has changed. i've been through ups and downs, there have been days where i felt incredible and made great progress and then there were days where i just wanted to sleep and do nothing. all of these experiences shape me and i am proud of being on this journey (1'm 17 years old btw). i love this channel and thank you Aileen!! you're incredible

[@tainarywashington777]

Same. There are a lot of ups and downs but we will get there.

[@kai-tastic9618]

I feel like right now I am at a 2/10. I don't have very much confidence in myself and I am very dependent on others opinions. I think if I put to use the tips you put here I will be able to move from a 2 up to at least a 9. Sounds ambitious I know, but I want to be independent and love myself. I am a 26 year old person and I have a long way to go. But I am thankful for your advice Aileen! You have helped me so much since I found your channel and you keep doing what your doing. You truly are helping everybody and we all appreciate you for it.

[@kameliakancheva]

I feel like I'm 9.5-10/10 loving myself and being grateful are the best things that I've done in my life, thank you so much for everything, you showed me that I'm worthy, enough and absolutely capable of being successful, Lavendair will always be my favorite KZbin channel

[@brigitakrista2127]

1/10 I feel that I have such low self-confidence for how I look. I grew up fat and I still see myself as fat even though I’ve lost a few kilograms. It’s been hard doing the physical and mental work of releasing this shame and identity. But, this video truly came at a right time and acts as a catalyst for me to slowly, truly begin the necessary work of raising my self-confidence. I truly deeply resonated with all that you said in this video. Some ideas even felt like a good slap to my face, a good moment of enlightenment. I am on my way to changing my identity and reality, and I have you, Aileen, to thank for. Thank you so much for making this video, for sharing your truths and insights to the world, and for being such a helpful and compassionate soul. It’s almost 6.30am here, but I hope you’re having a good time whenever it is where you are. Sending you the ultimate love and light. 💛✨💫

[@love_reka_8877]

Same here! I’m 31 & felt sooo insecure & was people pleasing in my 20s. Thanks girl

[@TilikaVispute]

Loved the video, Aileen!!!! I totally agree once we love ourselves we becoming loving to others as well. 🥰🌸💗🧚🏻‍♀️💛💗✨

[@tessvictoria5142]

I think im at a 7. I have my ups and downs, but genuinely your videos instantly remind me of how I can feel about myself! Thank you for making these wonderful videos.

[@falgunipatel2284]

I am soo grateful that You started the channel and I've found you cause you have made me soo much better person as compared who I was few years ago!! Thank you Aileen ❤️ #LoveFromIndia

[@blessedlife6771]

This year and going forward, I chose to reject the false negative self talks and tap into the hardworking, self believing and confident version of myself ❤

[@NYKIRA]

Yes, we welcome you to the Hot Girl Era, love this for you!❤‍🔥 I definitely think its so powerful how you said "It all starts in the mind" as it's true, what we tell ourselves shapes our reality and we should prioritize positive and effective self programming so we can truly enjoy our greatest being ✨

[@Sunflower_that_loves_you]

Um....I was around 3 back in 2020...and then depression , anxiety, dark night of the soul , spiritual awakening, self development, spirituality happened. Now I'm on my healing journey...and I'm rating myself a 10/10 . 🙋‍♀️🦋💜

[@jessicabeca1234]

You are the reason I have gained self love and confidence. I did your self love affirmations and in just a couple of days my self confidence was brought up.

[@Nan7ae]

Yess! I feel really happy to get this content from you! It's universe's sign for me to be myself! I have been watching your videos for years and honestly you are one of the best guide! Thank you Aileen!

[@Marollan1]

I still have a long journey. I think I am 4/10. I still feel a lot of anxiety and depression. 😟 I can't go a whole week without feeling very down, atleast 1-3 days a week. I am trying to seek help, which is progress. I am glad you are feeling well and many others in the comment section too ❤This gives me hope for me, thank you! ☺

[@Harsaschannel]

Hello from Belgium ! I am going through a negative cycle in my life, I have a low self esteem and self confidence but I m trying to fix that! I just found your channel and it makes me feel better, you have great tips ! Thank you for that ❤

[@Overthemoon1111]

Hope things get better for u!💗

[@ivanas442]

I'd say I'm at 4.5. (I turn 30 in 3 days!) I've grown a lot over this past year. Thank you for this as I continue to work on myself & move higher into my Hot Girl Era!

[@vegankatemate4809]

I’m at an 8 aged 46. Definitely happier in my skin as I get older

[@katesartspace2220]

Super inspiring! I had my worst relapse after working on myself but I am optimistic that I’ll rise up again after my previous fall. PLUSSS You are so beautiful 😍

[@thebookishkhmerican4303]

I love that you said you would say that you’re a KZbinr even though you didn’t feel fully confident about it. I did the same thing before when I wanted to be a writer. Now, I am a public health researcher and writer and it’s amazing!

[@suchisubhrabagchi5925]

For a long time now I've not liked the fact that I'm not social enough as i am an introvert, and so i tried changing myself. I tried to be more social by 'acting' like I'm social. But honestly i just ended up in awkward situations and i feel like the more i force myself to be something I'm naturally not, the more i can't be that person. So I've given up on trying to be social and I'm just gonna stay in my little bubble 😌

[@noelkempster]

6/10! I definitely have a lot of tendencies to be a people pleaser or be self conscious about how choices that I make might be perceived but lately I’ve made myself proud by sticking to my skincare rituals and I’m a graduate student and I really think I am on the way there

[@candistepper6838]

I've been making slight changes by dancing, working out, and eating healthy. From that I am feeling more like a 9, but before I was feeling like a 3 or a 4. Good tips! I like the video :)

[@shannonphillipsMotivation1996]

Lavender is a Straight 10 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@yinpassion7817]

I feel like I’m at an 8.5 too! I really feel pretty good. I’ve done a lot of work already and I feel so much better than I used to but I know I am still gonna become more confident and self assured and I can’t wait for that!

[@ohdearcarnation]

New mom here.... I totally feel like a 4/10... Learning to love my new body, learning to take time for myself, learning how to raise a person. I'm very much ready to re-enter my hot girl era

[@areesthya]

Good luck for your motherhood journey❤ and good luck for your new hot girl era as well. Wishing you all the best for you and your family!

[@dhivyadharshini8]

It's 2/10. It's ok I'm not sad & I'm ready, excited & motivated to reach higher.. Love you and your pretty soul❤

[@cheneejoysocuano4773]

Hi Aileen!! It’s my birthday today!! And I can say that I am now at the scale of 7-8. I am far where I was used tobe. And thank you for your videos, you are really an inspiration to me. Sharing your experiences, wisdom and lessons through your videos helps me a lot to become the best version of myself ❤…

[@inmindy8983]

I’m feeling 1 at the moment , very low and I truly feel I’m worthless and not loved. This is why I’m here to gain myself back

[@joseegaudet6109]

Same girl

[@mxrtina3846]

Girlieee let’s go!!!! It’s never late for us 🤍 We aint ever looking back. I truly wish the best for you 🥰🥰🥰

[@LuvMaribel]

Always love your content and your personality❤❤❤

[@hannuh4860]

4/10 I feel like I am still in an era that I am still “figuring out” things. Learning and unlearning things, and still healing.

[@Trikyoi]

i love your voice so much ! thank you about your knowlegde

[@girly.mimi00]

You still look like you're in your mid 20s. You're so beautiful, keep up the good content.

[@bytomford]

listen, i am confident in all forms and i have always been, that doesn’t mean i don’t have to watch those kind of videos, because sometimes it becomes negative and might turn into something like arrogance and narcissism, so i always have to see what’s actually right in some fields, i thought i was 10/10 but it’s 9/10 because that 1 is the space to accept that i might be wrong and make mistakes

[@shandiary]

hi, aileen. thank you so much for always empowering every each one of us. to be honest, you really helped me a lot through learning how to love myself more. your channel is the one i always ran through whenever i am feeling down, and watching one of your videos empower and motivates me. thank you so much for creating this channel.

[@lavendaire]

On a scale from 1-10, how much do you feel like you're in your "hot girl era"? This was such a fun one to film!

[@marinasaburova]

4-5... im not too comfortable with my body (physically, and mentallt too) but i know once i get my breast reduction surgery im gonna be at like an 8 and then i can start working towards that 10 :)

[@marciafab7]

I'm at 8ish..

[@shameless_days]

I mostly feel like a solid 9 these days... I feel very comfortable in my body, my mind, my life as a strong independent 25 y/o woman... but sometimes I feel less confident when I let myself be vulnerable with people... it's like I can only fully function if I keep a certain wall up towards other people 😅 any advice??

[@marciafab7]

@@shameless_days Hi Chloe, I say be mindful of your moments of vulnerability and ask yourself why you're feeling this way. It's a great time to get to know yourself. Sending you hugs and good vibes. 💌

[@ccesca8540]

10 fr

[@mrinalinidevi6603]

Maybe 4.5-5.. I don't know.. maybe cause I not feeling so good today, both physically and emotionally.. but thanks for this one.. lots of love 💕

[@Tamannaaa3608]

16:25 I’m probably not very confident but I’m getting there slowly and I know I’m going to be my idol confident self !!! Affirming:- I am confident I radiate confidence My Solar plexus chakra is activated I feel confident I live my life the way I want

[@nadineh4767]

This came at a perfect time for me. My inner voice has been really bad, telling me I’m not good enough or am an embarrassment or don’t deserve love, just really negative stuff about myself and I believed it. But now I’m realizing that none of it is true, it’s all fake. I am amazing and worthy of love because why not. I need to start affirming this 💗

[@Koko13129]

Thank you Aileen for this 🌼.. I think am at 4.5 era like I don’t know still stuck but yeah I keep telling myself that I got this and I see the changes in me that am becoming the more better person day by day 🌼...

[@lavendaire]

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[@mrsblue3251]

Thank you so much! I needed this because lately I've been feeling depressed, but this video was needed at the right time...

[@JennLinsi]

Hi Merie. I’m sorry to hear that… although you should be super proud of yourself for continuing to seek out different resources to support yourself.💕 In case it might interest you, I have a variety of videos on my YT channel related to how we can develop our self-love even when we’re experiencing challenging things in life. All the best!🌟

[@tristinanguyen2145]

I needed this I think I deserve it ❤thank you for sharing some tips

[@lunalovegood2799]

Hi Aileen!! Hope you are doing good! You literally lift up my day with amazing content! Would love to watch much of your positivity spread!! And yeah Congrats for 1.8M!! You deserve more!!!

[@afridajahan2004]

The one and only video i needed rn , thanks Aileen. Lots of love ...

[@quynhanhv]

I have spent long hours only listening to your video while waiting my child in his class. I felt like I find my authentic self. I know how to be present, love my self more.

[@ErikWolf-tq5yw]

Everyone in the lofi community they are so kind and they send warm messages

[@miora1081]

1/10 and ready to finally apply small habits to grow and will start with identifying my limiting beliefs. Thank you so much for you help. It's going to be a great journey to a better self.

[@shaunrussell4558]

Incredible video!!🙌🏼💗✨🫶🏼 I love the topics you presented here! The last part about truly accepting yourself on your own terms was my favorite part! I think I’m a 6 on the hot girl era scale… still have a ways to go but I’m climbing on up!🥰 thanks to your great content here! And way to go on your #8 status! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 it very much shows in this confident video here! Keep it up 👍 💕

[@JennLinsi]

Hi Shaun! Thanks for being so vulnerable to share your own “hot girl era” ranking. 😄 I have several videos on my YT channel on topics like SELF-LOVE & ACCEPTANCE that I hope might be interesting for you. All the best! - Jenn

[@millysmanifestations]

i just turned 22 i’d say i’m at a 4, i’m hoping by the end of my 20’s i’ll be at an 11☺️ even just by 23!

[@Daveeff]

Listening to u feels so calming I love this channel sm

[@areesthya]

I could say that currently i'm between 6~7 out of 10. It does change depends on my mood or how i'm feeling for the day. But for the past 4 years, especially since pandemic, i've grown so much. Walking through the self-love journey and now i'm more than ready for my self-confidence and self-acceptance journey. I've learnt a lot for the past years and thanks to you, Aileen. I finally found the reason and ways to love, forgive, and accept myself. I know the journey is still a long way to go but i'm ready to walk through this path and meet my ideal self in the future❤

[@rach9918]

You're one of my fave youtubers although I'm just new in your channel. I love your contents. Your channel is like one of my safe haven 💕

[@kodigreen]

Immediately drawn into your video. You have such a calm soothing demeanor and it’s so beautiful.

[@HeatherThrills]

This video was amazing. I have been taking care of myself and loving myself, and I have also been meditating. This video was just what I needed to keep me going. Because of this, I now love myself more completely and deeply than I ever have. From my own experience, this is true. When we start to love ourselves, we naturally start to love others. 🥰

[@annaugcit]

I have loved this video so much 💚 you are right when saying that others don't live your life for you..You have to do what you makes you feel happy and satisfied 😍

[@SimonaRentea]

Your identity is fluid. ❤️ So powerful. ✨️

[@sandramazings]

6 im just starting to feel good about myself and it makes me realized that myself is all i need. I will do it for myself and not for someone else. For the past 5yrs im praising everyone to fit in their lifestyle but not now that im living all for myself! 🥰

[@joelclelland3175]

Well. I'm not going to enter my hot girl era, but I will say I absolutely love your daily affirmations. They have become my daily affirmations. One of my favorites is, "My worth is innate and cannot be taken away!!" I am a force of love and happiness. Thank you Aileen!! Thank you Lavendaire!! :-)

[@marinam9925]

I forgive myself and empathize with all of my feelings and acknowledge I have the power to change and become who I want to be ❤

[@leamonica8393]

I needed this ❤❤❤ thank you

[@felicitasdieterle4563]

Hi, Lavendaire, I begun watching your vid in 2020. you have changed massiv since that time. You are glowing like a star.

[@lavendaire]

Thank you 🥺🥺 it’s true

[@עינת-כ5ט]

Queen I enjoy watching your videos. it is so helpful and I just think that you deserve to have more subs!

[@Arigatoo-q3j]

I'm at a 6 because sometimes I can't say my own opinion to others and sometimes I don't know about myself and my opinion. I'm not an English speaker but your English is really understandable and beautiful. I like studying English using your videos and learning from your thought!

[@anaromero5583]

Listening to you this morning getting ready for work definitely improved my mood and got me back into being me for the day! Thank you!!

[@dysaa11]

Love your videos. I came here to train my english. And the way you speak sounds clear and easy to listen. Thanks for making the videos! And the contents, of course, are good!

[@CM-qo2ns]

14:01 Do what makes you feel good. You set yourself your own value

[@Melow55]

I decided from today I will work on my insecurities.I am listening to every point and taking notes.Your videos are really helpful.

[@frugalhousewife9878]

Thank you for this video! I've heard many of the concepts you explored presented by other people but something about the way you said it stuck. Lots to ponder. I would really appreciate another video more about "changing the script/story" because I struggle with a very stuck, negative self image. I understand it would be better to think differently but I have a hard time implementing that. 💙

[@EmorettaRobinson]

The video was so helpful that I took notes. It's very well put together and you gave great advice.

[@vallarisatpute871]

This video is so positive it even made my negative mind turn positive and thank you for that ❤️

[@ranimvegas9085]

Im hugely appreciative to know u and come across ur channel for about 3 years .im making more progress relating to my self live / healing journey❤❤. Im in 6,5/ 7 out of 10 in peace with myself

[@emilylucas7826]

I just found you and your channel today and I feel so blessed to have found you. I'm so excited to explore all of your content as I work on loving myself more and more every day.

[@Kayla-yv7wc]

This was one of your most incredible videos. I’ll save this forever.

[@Nadaa242]

I love how confident you are 💗

[@tonyapoynter8111]

Hi. I am at a 7.5 and the number will get higher! I am a 49 year old woman and am doing some spiritual growth working on my confidence. Thank you so much for your videos! They have really been helpful!

[@graciousyear]

Having aileen is like having an older sister (a kind) one ❤ thank you

[@aaliyahs9594]

This was so well needed and a great video thank you for making this I have been on a self care and self love journey as well as mediation. ❤️I truly have learned a lot about myself and learned to love myself unconditionally even more .

[@Hicks-g1m]

I play music helps me raise my confidence shred on my guitar metal is the way 😈🤘 exercise is very important I exercise everyday twice a day

[@1982sabby]

My favourite video in a long time!!!....i love you Aileen ❤️ and I'm so happy for you...n I'm getting there too 😀

[@mycosyoakcottage]

I feel like I'm a 5 or 6 cause I feel like i'm getting a hang of it but there is still just so much I need to learn and I think I need accept myself for who I am without the fear of judgement from others. thank you so much for your videos I love them so so much.

[@thestefaniekeller]

I‘d say right now I am between 6.5 and a 7. mostly a 7 but I am constantly growing and it is so cool to realize that growth step by step ❤

[@cupokat5998]

4 - I'm doing the work but everything went downhill again when I got let go from my job, savings emptied up and now I don't feel enough cos I don't have the means to help my family again, treat myself etc. I felt like I'm a faliure, but now trying to get back up, searching for a new job, rekindling my passion for art, taking care of myself again and becoming a professional illustrator✨🙆🏻‍♀️💖

[@jinalparmar1127]

Missed you Aileen ❤️✨