How to Respond to "Don't Be So Sensitive"

[@CherylStrub]

I hope I can remember this in the moment. It's spot on.

[@camillafutsther274]

This is brilliant ! I hate when someone calls me too sensitive as if I’m weak. It is so destructive and discouraging. As you stated so accurately, sensitive is sensing something or being intuitive.

[@c.h.r.i.s.t.i.n]

I could have used this about 30 years ago. I was always told develop thicker skin. So I shut down. Now that I'm an old lady, I don't care what someone thinks. Everybody has opinions but what matters is mine just as others' should matter to them. We need to stop thinking we owe people a version of us they find palatable. No. We need to be respectable, respectful, civil and to know that not everyone will like our flavor of tea and that's fine. It's a indication that's a far as you need to know someone. More importantly not everyone deserves your flavor of tea. Thank you, Jefferson, for those helpful tips!

[@pvdm709]

Thank you. Because being so sensitive makes it hard in this world

[@freemanleone]

I LOVE “ I’m only sensing we have a different idea of what ok to say outloud “ 👏👏👏

[@gretlit6055]

This is such a sensible suggestion. I love it

[@gabn1559]

yes

[@ChenGaluna]

I'm a very sensitive person and this will help me a lot.❤️❤❤

[@MariaBareiss]

It's ok to be sensitive. Better than callous!❤

[@zxs7170]

“No, I’m only sensing we have a different idea of what’s okay to say out loud.” Love this! 👍🏼👏👏👏 Very empowering to have a meaningful response like this one. It’s smart without being defensive.

[@ligayadelizo7425]

Oh this is a good one!! My ex used to say this a lot to me… that i’m too sensitive, that I could not take a joke. If i’m going to call him out about words he said about me that were very offensive, he would say “ that was just a joke”. And then he would tell my family that I cannot take a joke to get validation from them. Oh always playing the victim. Thanks jeff, excellent tips to response to those manipulative ppl. Btw, how would you respond to that person that most women are too sensitive & they only care about their feelings. My ex used to say this a lot indirectly to me!

[@loops247]

Did you say Ex.....

[@fredericapanon207]

Feelings are very important. Wars have started over feelings.

[@Mushroom321-]

Woah!!, what a sexist thing to say! To you !!, When he couldve devoloped some empathy to people. 😑

[@geraldinebyrnes3298]

I hope you shown him the door 🚪 or through it! They all think they are smart It's like they all sing from the same sheet 😐

[@severinjohn]

Thanks. I've always responded defensively and always wondered why the other person always had a smug look on their face afterwards. I like that "sensing" is very similar to "sensitive"...makes it easy to remember next time this happens.

[@callmeneutrino7136]

Just want to elaborate on this: you can stay emotionally in control when you recognize “you’re too sensitive “ as the mantra of abusers. It’s the easiest and most insidious form of gaslighting and victim blaming. And you can call it out at any time if you need to.

[@ShazWag]

A good answer could also be, "At least I'm not INsensitive."

[@mmommo10]

better

[@debbiehunt9741]

Excellent! A good way to remember it too 🙏

[@JanStclair-z2u]

Thank you for teaching us what to do and say in all of these scenarios. It really makes a difference

[@maryveronica1765]

Golden advice. God bless you for helping others. You are a knight in shining armour. The world needs more honest helpful and good people like you. Please keep going. God bless you and all your loved ones😊❤

[@bethpat9]

Another great tip!

[@StephanieLiddell-kz6dv]

You always give out good advice 😊

[@thungadills]

Thank you so much ❤

[@kbs7340]

Your great. I have to write everything down to remember, but it very valuable ❤

[@sunshinedawn1444]

Thank You! lol I love your videos. Much needed! Empath here and don’t like arguments or uncomfortable situations and have a hard time thinking on the spot to defend myself. Thank You for teaching me! Please keep the videos coming! You are a superstar !

[@lzbrt818]

Savage...very forthright...awesome. 💯

[@Ttingey01]

Where have you been all my life? I could have used this my whole life!! Thanks, great advice like always! I'm really glad I found you and that you do this for us!!

[@shellys.8748]

You have helped so very much Thank you!

[@Kizzy-t9i]

❤ you are brilliant❣️🙏❤️

[@ymh.k1474]

The best coach in the world! 👍

[@FAYEAIRNE-q1h]

My comment in the past was to slowly turn to them and put my pointer finger up and say “ You just can’t help yourself can you!”

[@Garretsonk]

Such a good one! Thank you so much, Jefferson!!

[@shawnafelt]

Please give more examples! Love this! Thanks

[@Aurorageriatric]

👏yes👏it👏is! Bravo sir. That was incredible

[@STheresaK]

You teach so well ! Thankyou !

[@christygiven7552]

Brilliantly explained. Thank you, I’m excited to have this in my toolkit

[@lindacurtis7751]

I love this, Jefferson! Can't wait to get your books! Yes, I said books! I ordered the hard copy and the audible. 😄

[@lgibs9049]

Brilliant! I hope I can remember this.

[@DeniseAldrich-s6n]

This man is good! Hope he has a happy life.

[@kikaduende77]

Excellent, thank you

[@patriciarees3776]

This made me laugh...imagining the look on the other person's face!

[@PreacherMattyT]

Love this ❤ .. thank you!

[@JSSGU]

Thanks for this. I never thought of that.✌🏽

[@Mushroom321-]

Such a different take !!, than what i usually hear !! 😮Jeffwrson!! totally epic response !, for future!!, " im only sensing what we think is okay to say outloud.. "!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉😊

[@MrsMoon-qs2gf]

Thank you!! I needed this!!

[@LisaT_]

Brilliant.

[@doodiehutchison4463]

Great advice.

[@peacefulheart433]

You are so amazing! Thank you.

[@ChefJB-u7g]

Love that. Thank you.

[@dolittle6781]

Beautiful!

[@kimphan830]

Love it ! Thank you.

[@cathylehman7538]

Dang, Jefferson! Where have you been all of my life?❤❤❤

[@BevGR]

Brilliant. Trust I can remember it at the time 😊

[@PatPat-by5uj]

Am gonna be a badAss(in a good way) after compling all this info and actually practice it. I can just sense it, smell the my victory. Am gonna practice so many times until it become 2nd nature to me. Thank you Fisher for empowering million dudes like me. 😊😊😊😊

[@cavansherland1872]

You got it straight bro.

[@undertakeraviator]

Really good to know thank you❤

[@mariapage9135]

Thank you.

[@johnjohng668]

Genius boy ! 😊

[@sheilahmiller1065]

Oh man have I heard that for a lifetime. Where have you been!

[@judithharris81]

I have learned … I just don’t get mad like I used to do. I may shrug it off and leave, never to return….

[@jeanette7403]

I love this!!! ❤

[@esthersanmiguel1147]

Brilliant!

[@FunnySchoolXD-s7r]

Goodmorning . I like that. Never thought about saying that. I will use next time. Thanks.

[@cynthiahoward2285]

Thank you!!!

[@Teresa-0703]

Love this!

[@JanStclair-z2u]

This is such a great idea!

[@andrejka_talking_out_loud]

I seriously need to here this and variations on this thing every day for a week or a month!

[@lilyhope5925]

This is awesome. By BF always tells me I'm too sensitive 😒 thank you!

[@TheILV17]

Thank you

[@johnnakellums4928]

That's amazing! 😁❤

[@annekathleen4498]

I used to get told 'don't take it so personally '....

[@jeannettemoreno8430]

I really appreciate your content. You have greatly assisted me in becoming a better communicator. Thank you. Oh, by the way, has your book been published yet? If not, when will it be released?

[@callykrukowski6871]

Jefferson, this ties closely to someone who has said something to be mean and hurtful, then tells you to "relax".

[@cherylanderson1308]

Definitely trying this

[@annaholden2406]

Perfection 👌

[@suevasquez3106]

Love that😊 hope I can remember to do that. 😅

[@Faithful1]

That’s what the narcissist said to! first day I met her and her husband “Your a bit sensitive” after she was coughing on purpose in the corner of the room to irritate me.

[@EmmaWondergem18]

I don't get it. Think I have only half of the story? Why would her coughing have anything to do with you?

[@Faithful1]

@ I was anxious to meet her as her and her husband were new to us and our group I shook her hand and showed I was anxious and maybe i showed something else but she did not like it the way I greeted her her body language changed I could see she took offence by it. so just because of how I greeted her I could sense her coughing was put on and just fake (intimidation) And afterwards I went and said hi and was as pleasant as could be this was last year lol so i don’t remember the whole conversation but she said that I am sensitive. it’s a narcissists way of trapping you apparently it’s their idea of saying not my fault you react the way you do your just sensitive even though they are the ones that provoke reactions out of you.

[@EternalLove.1111]

Thanks I get it all the time

[@shellh.5193]

God this guy always tells me exactly what I need to hear at exactly the right time. He's lucky he's married 😂

[@PoulcheriaGemitzoglou]

so helpfull!!!!!

[@bethmccormack5172]

Now if I can just remember to do this!!

[@PerPhilosophy]

Thanks young man Question: How can we control our stress and anger especially against nosy people? Any suggestions?

[@graggs7]

Love his face, he has kind eyes, I wonder if he has Jesus in him, there’s a light in him!

[@Lilyofthevalleybloom]

Write a book... I'll buy it

[@JulianS-xu6ff]

Good advice,if possible, keep a distance from people who make the comment "Don't be so sensitive " Associate with people on the same wavelength.

[@BonnieBland]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@SidneyPatrickson]

"nah your mom is too sensitive" Works every time.

[@liviavolosen2979]

Definitely flip it back! Don’t accept it. They are being judgmental.

[@presciousdiamond8397]

❤

[@CJandEllie]

My mom does this "You're too sensitive!" I have always thought the problem was me.

[@divinape9812]

I need this..

[@maggiallaire6008]

That’s great

[@philominaumukoro340]

EPIC!!

[@TranscendingTrauma]

That is goood!!!

[@judithharris81]

Love that response - I am sensing you aren’t that funny. One to remember.

[@waage69]

🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@nicolewilliams7508]

Damnnnnn

[@annaholden2406]

🌟

[@SushiSmith-s3s]

Write that down! Write that down! 😂 How the timing so right, someone just called me just being too sensitive. When they literally made such rude statements and comments.

[@evah5997]

👍

[@christineguidry1047]

Another “you’re too sensitive” type of comment is “you take things too seriously”. A “joke” at someone else’s expense is no joke. Silence and a stare was my go to. But “I’m sensing ….” is a much more effective response.

[@BigHeartNoBS]

Them: "You're so sensitive." Me: " I know. I can sense your BS and you're obviously threatened by it. Is that why you're gaslighting?"

[@LadydogC]

The joke one, I said no, I think it is rude and hurtful when you say that. Your kind of joke is only a joke to you

[@EmmaWondergem18]

It may be me. But the thought of engaging with people who treat others like that.. I think I'm too tired to care how others label me. Just let them. Fire away. I don't care anymore

[@HeloGirl-w2n]

What's your name again