How To Respond To Narcissists In Text

Narcissists, love avoidant's and toxic people are notorious for employing passive-aggressive, confusing, manipulative text message strategies to hook us in, so it's important you know how to respond.
I will show you how to ice them, protect yourself, keep your boundaries and more.
This video is a handy resource if you find yourself dealing with a narcissist, love avoidant or toxic person on a regular basis!
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[@pam8962]

That is key narcissist can only disrespect you if you let them 💯 fact

[@Henrietta1515]

I avoided a disaster..was talking with someone and the redflags were insane

[@pennylocal5289]

I let this behaviour go way to long with an ex friend. I brought it to their attention usually with each lack of action or disrespect I felt, no acknowledgment or an I’m sorry you feel that way BUT…. (Inserts all about them) . I tried returning the favour with ignoring, got blew up on. They didn’t like that. Hmm. I let the friendship continue foolishly. But finally my self respect kicked in and I’m out. Nerves were shot, still triggered from their lack of… well anything. I’m thankful for these videos that clarify I have values, and I’m not just crazy.

[@lyndabennett1ify]

Narcissists send tester texts. For example, I just received one that said,'Thanks for hanging up on me.' I don't remember when that was, but if i did, he was abusing me at the time. Also, I know he is high when he sent this. I'm not responding 😢

[@rachc5496]

I’ve been doing this with my father for a while now. He’s always been superficial, emotionally unavailable. I’m thinking of just telling him there’s no need to communicate at all anymore. No need, just get on with our separate lives. Even the “matching” is feeling like a waste of time. His actions will never change

[@LasshaLiou]

My journey has totally changed since I found your videos on your channel a month ago. This one is a life enlightenment! I cannot thank you enough, Mr. Weiss.

[@kennyweiss]

You are so welcome

[@rosaliaaaaaa]

I text back so detailed my minimum is 50 words each text. I can imagine where all those disrespect come from🤐

[@Marthaad]

Ughh crap.. I basically spilled the beans of my personal life with my narcissistic co worker 🤦‍♀️.. hellllpppp!!!😭😭😭 I’m also fairly comfortable being vulnerable , but concerned this person will use my vulnerability ( sharing personal things ) against me .

[@nicktucker3437]

10:23 I've done something like that and got called to be the manipulator for giving them the same treatment.

[@emmr2739]

Incredibly helpful

[@jenniferalbertson6625]

This is the best video ever I’ve been thinking there’s something wrong with me this whole time

[@fightswithspirits915]

I got in so much trouble recently pointing out the trauma me and 6 siblings had. They cult family rallied around mom instantly. They even refuse to see 4 different fathers among 7 total kids. The only reason ex covert gf ripped my soul apart is b/c it was already ripped apart. mom was gf, gf was mom. How damaging. NB: this video dovetails perfectly with what you want, what you won't accept, and what you can control.

[@sonnycortez7013]

Great info to a degree..i feel we shouldnt give our time and energy in explaining why we responded in a matching way as if we're trying to teach them something. They've already shown you who they are. Let them figure it out. Give your time and energy to someone who reciprocates. "You Get What You Give"

[@getstakerized]

I have the problem where a narcissist uses texting to press me for a response, demanding answers and actions from me, and I have to keep my boundaries strong by not responding for a certain period of time… they are peppering me with messages, and I feel the need for more space between communications… That’s my communication style…

[@olbe147]

Simple, and yet a revelation

[@simev500]

7:37 Thanks for this good insight . I had family members become impatient at the most inopportune time which almost always triggers MY defensiveness. Soooo, of course, I thought it was me. Your explanation of individual childhood traumas scarring each person differently hit a note. Being aware of others having less tolerance for bad circumstances is another social skill I am willing to enlist.😅

[@kennyweiss]

Glad it was helpful!

[@sukainme6251]

Thank you for this!!

[@terrycraven6581]

I like the examples you give and how you explain things! I'm sorry you went through the things you did! I appreciate you! Thank you for sharing with us what you've learned and giving us the tools to take our lives back! Have a great day!

[@kennyweiss]

You are so welcome!

[@terrycraven6581]

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[@ColouredSoul19]

Thanks for your view on this. I've been trying to figure this out myself. I use to match but now I realize I'm becoming them and its still frustrating. So now I rather discontinue texting and tell them to call me if they want to talk about it. For me texting is for pleasantries and not intense conversations.

[@JennyCeleste]

Excellent point. I hadn't thought of it like that until you put it that way. You can't really bond with someone over text. I recently left a long distance relationship with a narcissist. He had no time to invest with me outside of the superficial. I allowed him to abuse the relationship. It wasn't until I was utterly crushed that I began searching the internet to learn about narcissism. I was surprised to see that he had checked every box. I just didn't realize what I was dealing with, that is until now. I've since been gathering allot of information to assure that I'm never duped again by anyone. Through intense therapy I've come to realize that I was raised by very narcissistic parents. Living and learning through this experience. These videos have helped tremendously. Never again. I think going forward, I'm going to put my foot down about carrying on a relationship via text. If they aren't willing to invest and approach me correctly, then I'm out.

[@allysiren]

ohh thank you everything makes sense

[@123cillitbang]

Thank you for this, Kenny😊

[@pam8962]

💯 on point

[@bethjco9826]

Watched twice! Great info thank you!!

[@pam8962]

Proud to say no contact 18months he literally would throw a fit because I didn't text or call him right back.

[@vy5922]

I have been dealing with a narcissist who texts me around midnight, knowing I am sleeping at that time and doesn't text me during the day. Is someone with whom I cut contact and guess the devil is back. I am not answering late texts, it is like you said, watch their actions. Thanks for sharing all your wisdom experiences.

[@ladyllf48]

Same here

[@emilyvay6369]

What to do if someone is trying to like pry personal information out of you ?

[@suesipp2575]

so awesome~~ love all that you share~~~

[@markjayw666]

So awesome! I just incorporated that into my life! 👍👍

[@danielle2678]

This is a brilliant video thank you ❤️

[@kennyweiss]

Glad it was helpful!

[@barriwilloughby462]

Thank U.... This is what I was in needing to hear... 🎉🎉🎉

[@kennyweiss]

You are so welcome

[@Edinah55]

Many many thanks for these great videos, truly appreciated! ❤

[@pam8962]

Love you Kenny ❤😊

[@pam8962]

When I was a kid and my parents would travel l went on full ocd mode and detailed cleaned the whole house so they had nothing to bitch about when they got home 🏡

[@bravewoman23]

Avoid emotional topic, reply shortly and dont give any personal information about ur life to the narcissist people. Thats what i did and so far it works. It can protect our emotional well being to the manipulator like them.

[@zeonegabrielle8716]

And what does one do when you tell them they hurt you and they say nothing. Like "I'm sorry ".. what is that about?

[@micheleleegoddard]

Another good one. Timely. Ken, do you have healthy people in your life you can connect with? How do you balance the time you spend in this work in balance with connecting with friends and others who are healthy for you?

[@f.t.9889]

Really good stuff! 👍

[@youtubealiasoriginal]

Great video

[@kennyweiss]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@KieraKavi97]

Hi Kenny, so its better to match their energy.. so when they dont give the same effort its better to not say anything about that before we do that? As in not be authentic by communicating to them about this boundary or what we want, before we match their energy back?

[@liroiter6002]

well i had it worse than you and i think like you and yet i came domw to dealing with the latest individual. who also was a gansgter style naricststs. guess what i had to leitralky almost die. i was evened diwn with the ground and he said he was going to. i didnt think he was narcissts. ge was one of the "best "..i still in the mess. just started phaycologically revuvering and phyacially. there he comes . to go with him and live with him. that strcuk me excatlt where he aimed. i have nowhre to be now. he of cpurse didnt mean that i shud go .it eas jjst a bait to gaudge of my response.use it and ignore after he can alwasy now sat he "offered ", but i flipped which i did as i replied at 1st inbhopes he may be going to recovery process..due to drugs etc.. and i domt want o ruin.it..but hhtis perisn was final straw.. and i realky m messed ip.. he snuck in dur8ng fuebral pf adather i wantwd tp spefn some time with but was dperved and yet when i ha da chance z i was set uo by "mom c and no excuse for mysf .gosh..this has beem a long life...