How to Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Doesn't Want To (2024) (ep. 7)

[@jonidavis66]

My husband walked away from me and our 10 month old son at the time all our other kids are older. We have been together 17 years and he left us for a woman he had been having an affair with, that was a year and a half ago, he went to jail and is still there 10 months ago and I have no idea where we even stand. Ive remained faithful and determined although it gets so hard sometimes I just keep pushing forward and I keep praying and fasting and believing that God will restore our marriage. Praying for all who are going thru this and hope we can all get our spouse back using this amazing message.

[@elitungoe6116]

Its been more than month that we got separated,and i wish i could save it, now my only trust in God to bring back my husband

[@LiamNaden]

If you feel I can help you further feel free to visit my website. All the best Liam

[@junaidayaz5177]

@@LiamNaden your website please need your help badly

[@southwest3671]

eli tungoe I have the exact same problem but in opposite. My wife couldn’t continue anymore mentally, and is prone to depression and overload. She left me regardless counselling and me trying to please her. I love her dearly and I always will but I had to let her go in peace. I hope she will one day have a change of heart and return to me, even though she made it very clear otherwise to me. 😓

[@vernitapeffer9659]

In sme situation we need trust in God

[@vernitapeffer9659]

@@LiamNaden I'm in a bad space an situation wud love to save my marriage husband an daughter rejecting

[@jeremyi3443]

My marriage is in shambles. Me and my wife are separating at the end of this week. My oldest daughter is going to come with me. I want to save my marriage. I commit to saving my marriage. I love my wife!!!!!

[@aronjohn84]

Bro!! Your not alone!!!!

[@angelgil672]

Try your best man save you marriage please save it!!!

[@lotsaluck721]

I’m in the same boat....just sad isn’t it.

[@byroncuyun4237]

Yes your not alone just pray to God get on your knees

[@sus140]

My husband filed for divorce and I am trying so hard to save our marriage.

[@JohnCarmack-ge3gb]

Liam’s program on marriage and surviving divorce were instrumental in helping me navigate the most catastrophic event of my life. “Improve yourself” and overcoming your fears are indeed key!!! Liam I am now in the “perfect” present and looking forward to the “perfect” future. Although the experience of divorce was rapid and emotionally violent….the experience produced positive results in my life. As you say “GIVE IT TIME”. Thank you again and I have recommended your programs to several friends traveling the same emotionally violent path!!!

[@LiamNaden]

Thank you John and well done for the work you put into yourself.

[@freddavidson286]

Please pray for my marriage and family so much pain and hurts I want so much to save my marriage of 43 years

[@BINAHairMakeupArtist]

Prayer

[@archie12345]

Just found this video... amazing advice. A little back story about myself and the shit that led up to us splitting up. I served 16 years in the Royal Marines. After a tour in Afghanistan in 2009, I met Elizabeth and we started a relationship. At first my head wasn’t in it, but we persevered and things were good. I knew I wanted to be with Elizabeth, after a period of time. We got married in Las Vegas (by Elvis) in 2011, life was amazing. I subsequently left the Marines, but I never had any closure with my experiences from operational tours. Elizabeth was finishing her doctorate in educational psychology, and decided she didn’t want to live in our current city, as my mum and sister didn’t get along with her. So we up sticks and moved to Kent. At the time Elizabeth was pregnant with our daughter, working in a really stressful job and no family support around us. I was working in anti-piracy industry and was away from home quite a bit. When Sofia was born I decided to quit my security work. However, with this, we took a massive pay cut to our finances. So Elizabeth was essentially the bread winner. It was ok at first, we had the usual arguments, children, money, me making bad decisions etc. Life was tough we were in debt and drowning. On top of this, we had a son, Jude. We decided to move back to the south west of England to alleviate the stress, as she had family in the immediate area. Initially, things were ok but nothing was solved by this move. Life for me became increasingly difficult. The following events occurred: September 2017 I walked out on my family. November 2017 I was diagnosed with severe depression. May 2018 I was diagnosed with PTSD and almost ended my life. I met up with Elizabeth over coffee and connected with her. We initially got back together late May and spent almost two months together. Life was good, we were happy, but I hadn’t fixed anything and had no plan of action. I had no treatment plan because of the waiting list and decided to manage it alone. Subsequently, it didn’t workout for me and I ended up leaving again. Life has been really difficult for me. I made all the mistakes alluded to in this video. Crying, explaining and I guess emotionally beating her down. Fast forward to today, I started my treatment for PTSD and it wrote me off this past weekend. On top of this I found out Elizabeth had met someone and it completely span me out. I had the crisis team with me all weekend and I was just in bits about the whole situation. I was messaging Elizabeth saying, I’m going to change, fight for my family etc, but her defences are fully up. It’s hard not to message her about how I’m feeling, but I know I have to get myself right and prove to her that I am the person she initially met. Thanks for reading, and if any brothers out there have any advice... I’m all ears. Thanks.

[@jennyeverbless3211]

dont give up. Marriage is our heaven on earth. The devil attack marriage because he want to hurt us and destroy our peace. Continue to message your wife loving text like when you just met and pray. God can turn it around.

[@Pagan_999]

We've been together almost 9 years, married the last 2. We got together in middle School. I had a rough childhood and I'm still dealing with it. I've cheated on her a lot, and I run away when things get bad. She wants to just be friends for right now. I just want her back, I haven't cheated on her in 3 years. I don't want anyone else. She said that I need to work on letting people in and not pushing her away. She said she didn't want to be with me right now. I feel so stupid, because she said I could stay with her and stay friends....but I left and now I'm in a tent in my dad's yard crying like a baby. But I will save this marriage. I know she wants to be with me, she is just tired of me hurting her. I will save my marriage no matter what.

[@BrianDesididerio-hw7qe]

I'm claiming from my marriage to restore in the name of Jesus I received it. I claimed it❤

[@latonyamcnair2080]

Glad I came across this video. Been married over 35 years and now spouse wants a divorce. Says he is not happy in the marriage and doesn't feel it's going to ever work out. I admit that I did all the things that the video said not to before I was aware. I want to save our marriage because I love my husband; but more important I want him to be happy. He deserves that. I have learned the hard way to appreciate what you have and not take it for granted. How do you start over again after 35 years?.

[@Pagan_999]

I know the feeling

[@_4Val3ry]

I hope you managed to get your husband back.😊

[@lorenaperez9807]

After watching over 100 videos of how to save my marriage I found this one🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 the best of the best.. thank you

[@newmom43009]

husband left me a week ago... I've begged plead threatened haven't talked to him for a couple of days... this video had lots of very helpful information... I'm going to try all this now and I WILL SAVE my marriage... I love my husband so much and want to save this more than anything!

[@LiamNaden]

I'm glad it has given you some ideas Kim. Best wishes Liam

[@donnagray1287]

never thought I'd be on KZbin looking up stuff like this. lol

[@LiamNaden]

I hope it helps you Donna.

[@zanelegroceries5042]

Lol😂😂

[@alyxibiteu51]

Same here

[@Pagan_999]

Me too

[@mikhailcurley9397]

Me too

[@erupas]

I found this incredibly enlightening. I truly was doing all that I shouldn't have done. I'm praying that it's not too late to save my marriage.

[@umbrownie]

Praying with you

[@byanza10]

I will always be grateful for coming across this video. Thank you. I applied the advice given and it saved me marriage. My wife and I could not be happier. I was at the point of divorce because my wife did not want me and this video saved my marriage immediately. Thank you so much. I couldn’t be more thankful. Your one video has changed my life.

[@LiamNaden]

I am very glad to hear of your success Brian. All the best, Liam

[@gloriavis]

My marriage went sour too and I wanted divorce but my husband was great at threatening me so I stayed.

[@juantaylorsr6500]

My wife left last Sunday. We have two son's who love us both and wants us together. I did all the things you said not to do, and your right. It made her think I'm weak. Now I will focus on me and what I like to do. I will be honest. I love my wife very much. It's hard without her. Can't stop thinking about her, but I will get her back. I'm commited to working on me and giving her space.

[@pbg98pbgpbg98pbg]

I just want to say thank you so much. I really will save my marriage. I have to. God is gonna help.

[@GeertKok]

Truly listen to them. Work on your failing character and be honest about your unresolved weaknesses.

[@tricepugh5739]

It's crazy that while going through what we are, we think we are the only ones going through it. I feel better knowing there are others trying to fix their marriage out there and in not alone.

[@LiamNaden]

Yes you are certainly not alone....

[@samueledmonson1618]

God will see us through

[@garygreen5243]

Any beginning of us being married i was looking for answers if i knew this is what marriage was about i never would've got married she was enlove with me to no end never would've thought i could be something that she couldnt stand to no end i made my mistakes but this is very painful if i knew what i know now i wouldve cherished her so much more.

[@rialawrence823]

Wow. My husband was living with me and another woman the same time. When I do find out about his affair he walk out of our marriage leaving me with his son and and his unborn child 10 months now. I really want to safe my marriage. Keep me in your prayers.

[@floridabrit9572]

I hope it worked out

[@silvyasmith4748]

I will pray for you. Just keep your faith strong 😇

[@nancymunoz6367]

😮 I am going through the same thing…my husband left with his mistress and left me and out 2 year old. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant ❤ I hope you find peace I know it’s hard. I been leaning on my faith to help me through

[@yowhatsup4377]

I did all the "do not or negative things" lol. I'm hoping for the best,but preparing for the worse. It's in God hands now

[@adamslagle858]

I wish I had seen this video a year ago. My wife refuses to give me a chance to show her how much I've grown. I'm in counseling. I'm focusing on myself. She doesn't care. She's done. Thanks for helping others. I hope this works for you guys!

[@sophiedan5329]

Probably the best advice I've ever heard about saving marriages! Thank you for sharing!!

[@thyronevanderwall6007]

my Marriage is in shambles and he does not want to come back i have done all the wrong things, Thank god i found this video i am TOTALLY COMMITTED IN WORKING OUT MY MARRIAGE he is out for the past 2 months.

[@michaeladodsworth2749]

how do you do this, if your spouse is living with someone eles and you dont get much phone time??

[@ByabinzeAmutuheire]

Thank yu sir. This is definitely for me. The most that I have to work on is finding back what makes meme. I had long lost that and my sense of direction. I actually Hayes me before this episode. Let me look for all ye episodes

[@LiamNaden]

All the best to you!

[@ania.m.gibson]

Your wise and much needed advice has given me so much hope. Thank you!

[@Serenity7613]

Thank you so much. I Will save my marriage.

[@jamieway47]

Serenity7613 Positive thinking :)

[@johnlabandera190]

Thank you! My wife is moving out in 4 days BUT I now know I can do several things to help save my marriage. I am committed to this and I believe she will come back.

[@LiamNaden]

Glad you found it helpful John. All the best, Liam

[@deddrickscott5107]

I'm going through the same now cause of work got in the way, less communication and intimacy

[@nerine4513]

I'm doing nearly all the wrong things-( I suggested counselling, I begged, got emotional, argued, tried to be logical, done the guilt thing, just haven't threatened anything. And all that was just this morning. He moved out 4 days ago.

[@seektruth8159]

I’m starting today thank you for this realky

[@dassinefaye]

Thank You so much Liam , you've given me some very positive and informative tools to get my marriage of almost 15 years back on the right track.

[@13misbaksel]

i listened to this when we were in a marriage crisis 10 years ago, he was almost gone, but it actually worked!, i'm listening again to remember because paterns easily return. i need this to break once again with my own paterns that sabotage my relationship.

[@LiamNaden]

I'm glad it worked for you. Destructive patterns can be difficult to break. If you would like help to do this more quickly get in touch.

[@JacoNotorious]

Starting these things today, I am going to bring the worksheet with me to see a therapist tomorrow. NOT A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR, a counselor for me, so I can focus on myself and improve. Thank you for your video Liam, I am excited to get to work, I am done wallowing in self-pity and despair, that's unattractive! I think my first step is coming to believe I can and WILL be happy even if the marriage fails.

[@vcarmel770]

Love it! Many folks don't realize the importance of getting rid of their emotional baggages for the sake of bringing someone else into their world.

[@sharonclarke5371]

Agree with you 💯

[@magdelineisidore6148]

My husband has left am committed will take this advise.

[@ms.juanitachandler8650]

This is great information. We can only affect our life. We have no control over our partner. Everything about relationships is about the choices we make individually. Be encouraged.

[@Skim_Jim]

Thank you so much for spreading your insight and knowledge. Your very wise and certainly know what your talking about. I’m going to start listening to the podcast and really diving into this full on. I was doing all the things you shouldn’t be doing and it certainly isn’t working. My husband already has one foot out the door as do I but I truly want to save our marriage. I believe this will work and I’m going to give it my all. This was wonderfully insightful and again thank you for sharing.

[@LiamNaden]

Thanks Kim. Best wishes Liam

[@JaseenaChanelle93]

Thank you so much for this video. Me and my husband have been separated for almost a month. This advice really gave me a positive outlook on the situation.

[@LiamNaden]

All the best to you Jaseena in saving your marriage!

[@aronjohn84]

Hi..are you guys still together? What was the outcome

[@816N8]

Thank you so much, I am in a very desperate situation which I know I can save my marriage and this gave me lots of hope and information thank you

[@rosecovarrubias5456]

I will save my marriage Thank you! God is in control!

[@jeseniagillis6093]

What if he's distant with you? You are hurt that he wants to leave. But he's the one that is distant then what do you do???

[@vcarmel770]

He said to focus on the positive. Try to just be friends and show your good qualities. Don't criticize or argue.

[@jojo.s.4383]

LIAM,YOU ARE SAVING MY LIFE !!!! THANK YOU ! MY MARRIAGE IS IN BIG TROUBLE AND YOU ARE HELPING ME A LOT ! I AM DOING ALL YOU SAID AND I HOPE IT WILL WORK ! It takes time to save my marriage and I am trying my best , is not easy to be happy when you see that your husband wants to leave you and he is telling you that he dosen't feel noting for you , this is my case !

[@LRamey]

can you give an update on your marriage?

[@jacquelinegarcia3344]

I am currently on that boat. Please I need advice

[@eltoya9216]

Hey there - same boat here! Wishing everyone all the best 💙💙💙

[@carlos52321]

Thank you. This video is remarkable! My marriage WILL work

[@michaelmadrid8227]

Man this video is great cuz I'm trying to save my marriage and I was doing all the wrong things like begging,giving her the guilt trip,and even threaten to kill my self but this is very useful and I'll put it to work asap. I will do everything in my power to save this marriage thank you.

[@LiamNaden]

All the best for your success Michael and I'm glad you found this helpful.

[@Pagan_999]

I was doing the same.

[@jonspurbeck6753]

I will save my marriage!

[@malugurl04]

Pls heal my marriage!

[@LiamNaden]

The only person who can heal it is yourself.... but if you would like more help to do that feel free to contact me through my website.

[@holyghostfireministryinter5425]

When you in the middle of the situation..You will never think all that...

[@bigdropbeezy]

Im going thru this right now..i want to save my marriage

[@dwconfer]

Should old photos be used for positive energy? Or can that be negative? Thanks

[@jacobmoore851]

Great analysis and informative steps to save my marriage and family

[@socare44]

Tough information to intake, I'm going to try it

[@ShereeseSR]

Thank you so much! I will apply theses tips and Save my marriage!!

[@justinlathrop4256]

Wish I had watched before 3 months of counseling made things worse but I wont let that determine the outcome I will save my marriage simply because its worth saving

[@LiamNaden]

Good on you Justin!

[@ginasv1857]

I have to say that I’m proud of myself . I’ve been doing almost all of this with the lead of Jesus...

[@tscarfo77]

Oh man....I’ve done all of these things before I left for the weekend. Trying to be logical, trying to cause an emotional reaction and so forth. I hope it’s not too late to save my marriage 😔

[@jolostfox725]

been married 30 years, HE wants a divorce, out of the blue. I feel in my heart, he is cheating or has been. He has been acting funny lately

[@Elegance191]

How are things now? I'm facing the same ..husband of 30 years asks for divorce as he got caught by our eldest son. My husband has been going to prostitutes for happy endings for almost 10 years now.. He said he thought about our marriage but can't see how we are going to be happy. I don't get it ..he did the act and now dictates we should divorce

[@moniquewebster-williams224]

Thank you for this video and I will practice starting today!! You will be hearing from me!!

[@aussiebabette]

My husband left two months ago and said it’s over. Said that’s he’s done. But I want to give it another try. I begged, pleaded, cried, yelled and screamed. He doesn’t think I can change. Do u think not speaking to him for a while would be a good thing or talk to him every so often would be a better thing to do ?

[@hildalilian5964]

I have been married for 4 years.my husband started cheating on me 1and half years ago but he kept denying even when I found out. Now recently I gathered proof of their love affair but he still won't admit it. Instead he is acting up and giving me a cold treatment. He has been telling the girlfriend stuff about me majorly negative and how he hates me. We have three kids together. I am lost,am hurting and I don't know where to start from coz he looks like he doesn't care about this marriage anymore leave alone me.Liam please help.

[@LiamNaden]

Hello Hilda, happy to help. Please visit my website www.liamnaden.com for details o what I can do for you. All the best, Liam

[@anapaolamarysolchavezuribe6188]

Same here. I'm taking therapy now. Write down everything in a journal. My husband is ignoring me, too. So I write everything I wish he could read or listens. To coup with all this, you first need to coup with yourself. It's I can't tell you so far. I've struggling, too. I hope everything works for you.

[@davidgeiger5791]

Thank you for this information I will be putting this into action!

[@gladysflores4886]

Really good advice, thank you so much for your expertice.

[@LiamNaden]

Glad it was helpful!

[@MarshaunO]

Even though I need these. As a Relationship Coach myself this was great to hear again and as a great reminder for my own life and relationship.

[@imanivaldez5303]

Going through it right now my husband is going to stay away n the guest room now ,I’m going to try to save my marriage God take the heal

[@LiamNaden]

All the best to you...

[@prettyinkdkitty]

thank u i needed this i want save my marriage

[@stephanieratliff9128]

Thank you Liam. Now, its time to save my marriage.

[@LiamNaden]

You're welcome Stephanie. All the best.

[@violetharprashad9805]

I did all the negative he talked about, I really wants god to restore my marriage, I will do the positive things he said, my husband leaves 5 months now, I love him so much and will work to save it ty

[@uabti2549]

Counseling has saved my marriage in fact... I agree with the 2nd point

[@flatasacueball6326]

This is all great advice. I've been listening to it over and over, like repeating a mantra. I'm not sure that it's not too late for my relationship, though I am committed to saving it, I have to prepare for the very real possibility that it will come to an end anyway, but even if this doesn't work for me I still think it's all great advice. Thank you so much for this.

[@lukemeetze]

This is the most spot on advice I may have ever heard!

[@preetilepcha1939]

Awesome... I will follow all of it. The do's n don't s thank you

[@ANNISHNEE]

You have a way with words that mean great value to me and what I can do this hard time in our life to save our marriage. Thank you

[@debraneil5311]

I am really gaining a valuable and new perspective from your information, I AM going to heal and save my marriage!

[@chrisjohnson4350]

Thank you so much, I can't express that enough. I am absolutely 100% committed to saving my relationship, I WILL! thank you.

[@LiamNaden]

Good on you Chris. All the best, Liam

[@atulpatel2850]

Awesome unique approach in saving any relationship, including marriage. Also very methodical. I am glad that I bumped into this video, I am now going to look at the website.

[@maricel0602]

I commit to saving my marriage

[@robertmoore67]

My parents are divorcing so hopefully this might help

[@cricketkiser7530]

My husband has said he will go to marriage counseling but its yet to be seen.

[@jennifergarcia5973]

Fantastic. Noteworthy! I will work on these tips and not stop fighting for my marriage.

[@LiamNaden]

Good on you Jennifer

[@maleshoanehlakoane4998]

Thank you so mch for all da advises i really luv my husband n its been 4 months since we separated. God please help me n bring him back.

[@rachelcolley888]

Thankyou so much Liam, for this simple, practical, doable advice. Everything you say makes sense. My husband and I have been together 2 years and married less than a year. Three months ago my husband went from being head-over-heels in love and the most loving man I could ever imagine, to being withdrawn, unloving and unable to communicate. He says he has finally realized that it is his pattern to fall madly in love, so much so that he makes drastic decisions like getting married, only to fall out of love and feel like running away after 18 months. A small tragedy for me. He ( agrees with you) that marriage counselling doesn't work. He is in therapy to " sort himself out", but says he is doing that for him and not for us. Working on a marriage sends shudders down his spine. I have told him I am committed to the concept of us and that I wish to remain married to him, but have had trouble finding advice on how to do that without his active participation, which is what makes your channel truly wonderful! Thankyou.

[@LiamNaden]

Thank you Rachel and good on you for being committed to your marriage. If you would like more help, the coaching programs on my website are all designed to be done alone. All the best, Liam

[@tbboardhed2]

in my last chance for my marriage and I ha no idea were to start thank you for giving me hope that the world is not coming to an end and looking forward to lissening to more of your pod casts

[@rashmidolia5575]

I am fully committed to Save my marriage ..

[@genasoriano559]

I really love your approached. You give me the tools that I need to do and not to do on my marriage. Thank you for sharing it. I could listen to it over and over to make me feel stronger on my marriage. 👍

[@dailydose6922]

I am in desperate need of my husband to come back home please pray for him Claudy

[@LiamNaden]

Contact me if you would like my help.

[@shannonalleman2801]

Very good information. I'm going to start applying this now! I commit to saving my marriage!

[@karlashmeedavlasta6365]

This is very good advice. I am behaving pretty much like your advice and most of the time its even feeling good....other times i am just exploding inside....grrrr...

[@garvingriffith3552]

Great ....Seems I was on the right track before this but the only difference is we have zero communication since my husband left.

[@eumesma4725]

I need prayers 😢

[@LiamNaden]

Perhaps you arriving here is part of the answer to your prayers..... Ask God what he wants you to do next.....

[@arlenecalderon8392]

Amen ❤ I receive this, God Speed

[@anibalcanales9384]

Im going to apply this info hopefully it helps

[@maricorin8318]

thank you. i may not be the one who wants to save our marriage but i think your tips are helpful so i could easily move on.

[@lifestylewithedna]

Sounds helpful, I’m applying this to my situation and come back with a testimony ✌🏽

[@Alkhemist14]

Me and my wife have been married for a year now. It's a distance relationship(working on our paperwork to be with her). For some weeks now she's been acting weird about quitting cuz she doesn't deserve me and am good and kind person so doesn't want to hurt me(said all this weeping profusely on the phone). I've been trying to make it work, and now she's saying we even rushed into our marriage. She says she quitting is not my fault but hers(which I think it's doubtful). Now she also blames it on PTSD(she had it from the military). Please what should I do, I love her with all my soul, mind and body. Thanks

[@sandysmith3054]

Great words, 2nd time I'm going through this, same woman. Nice to be reaffirmed, saving your marriage is ultimately saving yourself

[@AllStarFilms]

New too Second time around the block. Hopefully I can get it right this time

[@rachelescontrias4270]

Thank you so much I really needed to hear your message today! Blessings multiplied to you!

[@LiamNaden]

You're welcome Rachel. Liam

[@terrymurphy7220]

I need help my wife left 1 month ago said she going to be gone a wile if she come back at all that she need time HELP

[@SothasilX1]

Thank you for this video!! It helped so much

[@bosesoremekun8176]

Thanks very much for your support!

[@marshabrown3397]

I pray to save my marriage my husband blocked me won't talk to me

[@hildamoreomongwe4606]

Same here.. I'm so willing to do anything just to save my marriage. I cannot face the world without my husband

[@rondasigel46]

Me too. All of the sudden.