How To Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Doesn't Want To (DO'S & DON'TS)

[@scott6760]

Somebody pray for me I have been crying for 2 days my wife of 13 years out of the blue said she isn't happy and doesn't know if she wants to be with me anymore

[@karahvasquez9735]

Ask her what her needs are and meet them

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

I’m sure it’s not out of the blue, probably been years of telling you the word divorce is the one word you probably heard

[@georgeblackwell4670]

Prayers for you! Don’t be so hard on yourself! Center yourself around Gods word and he’ll direct your path!! 🙏🏾

[@Twinkie989]

If a person doesn't want to continue a marriage, you respect them and their position. You heal yourself and you move on.

[@Barbra4J]

Please pray for me and my husband. He said he's leaving me 😭

[@micheledomin-jones4062]

How do I not take it personally when he blames me, ? For his unhappiness.

[@BloodyHeck]

My first wife started having an affair only 9 months into our marriage. I stupidly spent 3 years trying to keep our marriage together. If the other person doesn't want to save the marriage, END IT NOW!!!

[@boyuka6966]

1 do not take it personally 2 do not pick fights 3 do not blame your spouse 4 Be patient 5 listen to criticism 6 Give space to them

[@theriebank]

Space is the hardest 😫

[@TWyz-dq7yf]

My marriage has been collapsing for years due to my ignorance and negligent behavior to my wife and our mishandling of disagreements. This video has brought me hope that things can be better and even though my wife has a hard time trusting me and believing me when I say things will be better.

[@alysegarcia1103]

It’s hard to avoid a fight. My husband seems to get mad when I speak 😞 He doesn’t like to talk to me.

[@vanezafigueroa3471]

I'm going through this with my fiance. He told me that he no longer feels the same way for me, and that he wants to work on himself, and wants me to be happy. He told me that he can't give me the love and attention that I need and that I deserve someone that is willing to give that to me. I feel hopeless 😞

[@yasmine2008dec]

How are you now?

[@posh5763]

Going thru same

[@keishafaw4575]

I am going through this right now. I did all the don'ts. I'm now learning to trust the process and do all the do's. These past 3 months have been hell. But again I'm willing to trust the process.

[@kimberlyjones1663]

Do you need help? I can recommend you to a "solutions giver man" who has helped a lot of marriages

[@kimberlyjones1663]

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[@theriebank]

3 months is very long 😪

[@jimdemichele5479]

I’m there now too

[@KGg0esRawr]

How's it going a year later?

[@jimmyhayes9896]

6 months of separation and I've failed at all this. I'm probably doomed at this point.

[@fanonabudget288]

We both brought up divorce because our marriage was so rocky. We've had and in and out relationship for 12 years and have 2 kids. We have never done counseling but he started therapy sessions for himself which he is loving and I'm so happy he took that step. He sent divorce papers recently and now I'm rethinking everything. It is harder to make the divorce decision because I think of my children and we should at least try marriage counseling. He said he's not ready for that step so I feel at sort of a loss.

[@celiaescalante]

Loss is mostly I've been in. I was this close to having children. My biological clock is ticking. 😞

[@tylerporter8923]

My wife wants space, I’m afraid she no longer loves me and I know what I did, I basically quit trying, wasn’t there for her when she needed me most and it’s hitting me hard I want to love on her badly but now I can’t, I’ve been awakened I just hope it isn’t too late. I’m doing therapy and she’s isn’t ready for marriage counseling and she just took down a picture of us together that was hanging in our house, that hit hard especially when I was doing better mentally and started to see things clearer

[@TheLordbuu]

This is me now. My wife tried so hard two years ago. Then she left and wants nothing to do with trying and now I’m trying like hell to get some spark from her

[@HappilyCommitted]

I completely empathize with your situation. It can be incredibly difficult to work towards rebuilding a connection, especially if it feels like you are too late. Keep your head up and believe that it is possible! If you need extra support, I'd be happy to help! You can book a session at www.happilycommitted.com -Coach Danny

[@janjoy9759]

@@HappilyCommitted how much are your sessions

[@janjoy9759]

Hiw are things with your wife now??

[@ericcasper2344]

My wife went from telling me how good life was how happy she is.. went from praising me to bashing my character days later.. I’ve fucked up in our relationship, both of us have. I’m trying to be everything she’s ever wanted but at the blink of an eye she’s just done. I want my wife more than anything. Idk what to do

[@immaculate1cj]

Same :/ my wife said she’s emotionally and physically exhausted and no longer romantically in love with me and it is crushing me I would do anything for her as well I realize I haven’t done enough with her and our 2 daughters I put work and friends and other things before them and I never meant to I’ve already made most of these mistakes he said not to I just feel bombarded all of a sudden even tho she told me the problems a year ago and as a man I thought I could fix them myself I was wrong and I realize it now I just hope it’s not too late because she wants a divorce told me that 2 months ago I pray I can somehow fix this. I hope you all can as well

[@TWyz-dq7yf]

I’m in the same boat. I have been praying reading my word and staying consistent in our marriage counseling sessions so I can clearly hear what my wife has issues with and allow myself to be vocal as well.

[@abbygodfrey3282]

Great video...my boyfriend believes he does nothing "wrong" and needs to change anything ...believes it's all me ...I struggle with jealousy and so I feel space is what I need to do ....and trust the process 🙏

[@HappilyCommitted]

You got this! - Coach Danny

[@dennispalmer6007]

Thank you so much. You are the first person that truly gives us the path. I’m going thru my wife’s emotional afffair Right now. I am printing the don’ts and do’s to remind me everyday.

[@ivy55911]

My husband is moving out after 16 years. He going thru some personal changes and growth and does not see himself with me.

[@illegitimategame]

I did everything on this list wrong.. Needed this video 8 months ago.. 😰😰

[@The_Original_Juggalodis]

Thank you. A lot of that resonates for me. I'm putting these tactics in play right now.

[@mikefr12]

Great video and to the point content. It's key to focus on yourself and accept that only change you can make is for yourself. Whenever I see my ex I can't help but see how she reflects her own issues on me. Once I learned that it makes things easier to listen with intention and not take it personal. Thank you!

[@HappilyCommitted]

Thank you for your feedback! Coach Danny

[@Ladysash123]

My spouse does the same thing by reflecting his issues and insecurities on me. Ugh hate it but going to try to listen and keep it moving lol

[@ezraarel8418]

Thank you really well articulated on point 👍🏽

[@layvuong7916]

Idk how to do your “don’t” list. I do understand your good intent. But how can I be patient if my partner doesn’t take responsibility of his actions that upset me. When I bring it up, it gets dismissed. I stand up for myself and I get stone walled and silent treatment until I finally reach out. Despite me telling him it’s unhealthy and offered that the healthier way to resolve struggles is to listen to each other and talk things out. 5 years later and now I’m pregnant, still didn’t change. I believe I’m patient enough. It is the reason why it feels unfulfilling so how can I express that to him without “blaming” him. I pin pointed that talking things out when things get rough rather than being avoidant is a recipe to a happier marriage. Nope, still getting silent treatment and stone walking when I speak up for myself ….

[@ShadowZZZ]

Don't take it personally. Don't blame them. Don't start fights. Do listen to criticism Do be patient Do give them space

[@Ed-vi8lj]

What's difference in a coach vs marriage therapist counselor?

[@yasmine2008dec]

This is the best video on the subject; I made mistakes to the 6 points he made; I will start from now on. I have four months to turn the tide.

[@adammcrae6788]

My wife lives 45 miles away, we have been married for 7 months. She told me today that she will move into an apartment in the same city as me instead of the house we picked out. That's why I told her I want a divorce, she acted like I told her the weather outside.

[@janjoy9759]

How is your marriage now?

[@breesjourney2Jesus]

Excellent video! Just confirmed what I already am doing

[@queenoftrucking]

He has been cheating for years decade I feel like he wishes I was her or He wishes I would walk out he don't want to say it's over

[@abutterfly7975]

I don’t agree with one point. If I asked my husband to please secure the trim back in place, it needs to go on properly, like straight, secure etc. If he puts it on half ass and it’s not secure and crooked than of course I’m not going to want it left like that. It says I like things done properly , so it looks like a professional job. If you built a house would you be happy if the trim was crooked and half on…..of course not, you would ask them to redo it properly. It doesn’t mean I am insecure or have a problem, it means I want it done to look professional and not half ass that keeps falling off and has fallen off 3 times. It says something about him, he doesn’t care enough about it to figure out how to do it right once and for all! True story here, peice is still waiting to be attached yet again. There is google and professionals that can teach us how to do anything……no need for excuses most of the time. It’s more like we have different standards and some ppl just plain don’t care.

[@waliarawa]

YOU ARE A GENIUS MAN ❤

[@beautifullybliss]

great topic and message.❤

[@HappilyCommitted]

Thank you so much!

[@annas3116]

My husband moved out and wants a divorce since October. He hasn’t changed his mind. I am very heartbroken 💔 He asked me to find a roommate to help with rent. We have planned to have kids this year he said there’s no “we”anymore 😢 He said we are not a family anymore. Despite all these hurtful things he has said to me I still trust the Universe to have a miracle for me and he is coming back and our love is stronger than ever before! He left me mostly because of jealousy issues I had and sometimes I would say hurtful things to him too. I wish I never acted like that. Now he’s burnt out. He never calls or texts anymore unless I do first. Now I have to find a roommate because of the cost but other than that Idk what to do anymore can someone help me with any ideas?

[@DaYEveGAMING]

I wished I was able to watch this before everything happened. It's too late. I've done all the don'ts. 💔

[@lucasaveyard6282]

Its never 2 late i did all the donts ×2 but am still here fighting i aint giving up

[@congohotep2249]

My wife doesn't want to fix our marriage and she don't want to divorce me, but then she don't stay with me anymore for 3 years now, i am stuck and i miss my 2 boys... This is a punishment to my soul... Now i am taking high blood pressure medications

[@beautyfulliz86]

Been married for 13 yrs and have 2 beautiful girls. We broke up before and I moved out with my kids. And now I’m in the same situation and I don’t know what to do. I truly love him but idk if I should keep fighting or just give up and except reality. Please help. I don’t want to make a mistake and hurt my kids

[@dilimbayan8079]

Love your contents. I been seperated two years ago for the never ending fights my wife always started due to lack of financial neseccity . I can not provide enough for her and our one Son.

[@jenniferignacio9595]

Hi..wife never startted a fight when no issues

[@BrandonGuerrero-pm5sh]

When you say give them space, how much space do you mean? What amount of space should be given?

[@timtovar61]

For me my life was a huge mess during the times my husband and I divorced. Although we’re back together now even stronger ❤️. I had to use a prayer that I found in one comment here on KZbin & It worked like magic !!.

[@janjoy9759]

That's great! What was the prayer? My husband and I are having troubles. He is cold towards me. Please any help would be great!

[@neygarcia8472]

can you share it?

[@amandalewis5781]

What's the prayer????

[@annas3116]

What’s the prayer?

[@marlonbyrd4902]

Great insight and very helpfully !!! THANK YOU

[@HappilyCommitted]

Glad it was helpful! - Coach Danny

[@summersalix]

If one spouse desires marital therapy (or a similar kind of help/intervention), but the other refuses, is that often a sign the marriage won’t work? Seems like a stupid question, but was wondering abt this particular situation

[@donmeyers2631]

Id say not necessarily. They could of just had a bad experience with a therapist in the past and be spooked.

[@Itspapiana]

I need this so much thank you bro

[@HappilyCommitted]

You are very welcome! - Coach Danny

[@charliefairly4055]

*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*

[@charliefairly4055]

➕15038541486⏯⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ I can't believe am with my love again

[@stever2118]

Thanks friend

[@HappilyCommitted]

You are very welcome! - Coach Danny

[@woodchipwedgie]

Has the same exact expressions and mannerisms as Coach Natalie and Coach Adrian.

[@HappilyCommitted]

We are like family and work closely together, so that might be why! - Coach Danny

[@christophwoodchucknorris4040]

What if their trigger is when they cross a boundary of yours you simply ask questions or say you didn’t like it?

[@monaj33]

You can't....step back...give space, they will come back if they want, and by then you'll probably get some self esteem and not care especially if you are female

[@teresawhite4769]

If your spouse wants out, please be respectful and let them leave. I am presently trying to get a divorce, but my husband keeps fighting it. It’s costing me an arm and a leg in legal fees.

[@preetshah8730]

How a women thinks about divorce?

[@nshimiyimanaeliepatient4969]

Hey I’m a young single man, i worked as a call center agent in a telecommunication company, i was selling telecommunication services to client , one day I tried to sell a service to one person he said his in tough period due to family issues, I listened to him carefully he gave me advice, but he was in pain, one thing he told me do anything to avoid divorce at start it may look normal and easy to get over, but it’s not. You will end up in pain especially when you will become old alone. My friend don’t divorce, do anything to save your marriage. Be humble and fix your marriage. Marriage is a blessing. Don’t allow your children to live without both parent in a home.

[@amanishajay914]

I am very much unimpressed with my husbands action or no actions. This all makes sense

[@kimberlyjones1663]

Do you need help? I can recommend you to a "solutions giver man" who has helped a lot of marriages

[@kimberlyjones1663]

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[@kimberlyjones1663]

Wasap him....okay

[@monaj78]

I am in a situation, where my spouse is the one who made “mistake” and is guilty and wants to fix everything forever. Other then cutting off the ties with the “other person” there is no input from his side. Its me who is dealing with all the pain and trying to bring this relationship back on track. Can you please guide me on this. He is not even ready to go for any counseling, but watch videos and read about it. I am confused how to deal and what to do and how to do without his input. We don’t fight, no argument nothing happens between us. Please guide.

[@phabeondominguez5971]

well you are here right, so that means you want to save the union and are wiling to fight for it.. so thats #1. However you also need your spouse to participate in some kind of manner, but you can't force him right.. so are you doing this now? Don't 1) take it personally 2) start arguments 3) blame my spouse Do's 1) be patient w/ myself & my husband 2) take their criticism - it's a window to their insecurities 3) give them space - creates an environment of neutrality, to reflect & gain insight on relationship Also..... keep this in mind Stop "push" behaviors--begging, whining, unnecessary crying (lowers your apparent value) Don't start fights Don't "hover" (spoken like a helicopter pilot's wife!)--don't track, monitor, stalk; destroys trust Manage "business" items together: areas for which you'll have to talk--taxes, children, mortgages; DO keep spouse updated here. Avoid negative interactions, even if they want to fight! Be strong, calm, and gentle. Calling is preferred to text messages due to possibility for misinterpretation/escalation. Then, once trust is built, you can start asking simple, non-emotional questions: "How was your day at work?" Then, allow your spouse to start conversations with you. VERY important that you remain safe, calm, strong, and gentle (even playful/friendly as appropriate?) if your spouse engages you, no matter how he/she has been toward you--but of course, don't tolerate abuse. Be gentle with yourself, too, because you won't be perfect every time. Take it one day at a time. Some days will be better than others. May seem like your relationship is regressing. BEST OF LUCK.. oNe

[@jenniferignacio9595]

Prayers my husband already livong with other woman , she many money and even ng sons are with tem already😢😢😢

[@ShawnTheQb1]

I’m 22 going through literally 80% of this but I’m a QB and have a beautiful 6 year old where her birthday is in a week or 2 I’m watching about 3-4 of these Today lol

[@HappilyCommitted]

Thank you for reaching out. ⭐ Want To Tell Us More About What You Are Going Through? Call Our Hotline Now 👇:786.635.8373 Coach Natalie

[@charliefairly4055]

*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*

[@charliefairly4055]

➕15038541486⏯⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ I can't believe am with my love again

[@celiaescalante]

It wasn't my fault. He has a lover. And the lover says he has another wife. It's not my fault. I paid for his flight. I paid for a visa petition. We never even fought.

[@wildnest_12]

Please help me,the thing is that I hide my past from my gf and she know through the 3rd person, and my hiding perouse was not intentionally. What I can do now. Help me. I want my gf back in my life.

[@charliefairly4055]

*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*

[@charliefairly4055]

➕15038541486⏯⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ I can't believe am with my love again

[@armihansen979]

I like ur advise

[@HappilyCommitted]

Appreciate your feedback, thank you for watching! Coach Alex

[@charliefairly4055]

*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*

[@charliefairly4055]

➕15038541486⏯⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ I can't believe am with my love again

[@tonychapman2659]

Thank You for the info I am trying so hard to keep the woman that I Love.

[@HappilyCommitted]

Sending you lot of positivity, thank you for watching! Coach Danny

[@tonychapman2659]

We have been separated for almost 7 months. I have mentioned divorce and she said that she doesn't want that. But she says that we are not together. I told her to tell me yes or no so that I can move forward. She just said I don't know.. I Love her so much and don't know what to do.

[@user-od1fm3hs9c]

@@tonychapman2659 - How are things now? She is giving you quite mixed messages . She doesn't want to be with you but she doesn't want to get divorced . The only way the marriage will work is if you are both in it.

[@charliefairly4055]

*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*

[@charliefairly4055]

➕15038541486⏯⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ I can't believe am with my love again

[@leoprabha.a297]

My boyfriend messages me everyday good morning and nothing else, and he never replies to anything. Im worried that does he loves or no. Bz he doesn't take my calls or messages. Plz do give me some advice

[@hope9672]

Their criticisms are a reflection of their own insecurities they're projecting on me? Interesting. I had to write it out to let it sink into my head.

[@hope9672]

Don't 1) take it personally 2) start arguments 3) blame my spouse Do's 1) be patient w/ myself & my husband 2) take their criticism - it's a window to their insecurities 3) give them space - creates an environment of neutrality, to reflect & gain insight on relationship

[@charliefairly4055]

*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*

[@charliefairly4055]

➕15038541486⏯⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ I can't believe am with my love again

[@freddavidson286]

I see why god hates devorice so much pain and hurt it is so hard but I'm trusting god for change in our lifes and heal our marriage and relationship

[@Girlontherun2]

Hi I’m going through this he says he doesn’t wants me his birthday is coming should I email him happy birthday or no

[@palmerolakristajoy4842]

Iam experiencing it right now..my husband told me he lives his mistress over me..💔💔💔

[@HappilyCommitted]

We are so sorry to hear that! We know how difficult this can be to deal with. but you can get through this!

[@donalcasey3612]

So sorry i know youre pain but we will get there peace

[@Mk_7777]

My wife accused me of domestic violence and put a restraining order on me. How can you solve this when she lying and trying to ruin my life lol

[@ecstanley]

If she's trying to ruin your life... do you truely want to give her that option... this coming from someone that has to answer that exact same self question daily... my wife is a narcissistic abuser... but I'm still fighting for her even though I shouldn't...make sure you are prepared for the consequences even if you do get her to stay with you...make sure it's worth it to you...

[@kellyvennell934]

Hi and my husband has fall out of love with me

[@HappilyCommitted]

Sorry to hear that! What happened?

[@exile4029]

I became bored with the way my wife was acting being noncommunicative so I started talking to other woman thru text but I love my wife she just isn't well at communicating she ended up finding out and started talking to this dude at work I found out and I never realized at the time how bad I had hurt her, so she started a relationship with man at her job. found a photo of them kissing and she finally met up with me yesterday briefly to talk and now I'm fighting for the marriage and it hurts, she just said give her some time to think about therapy and everything, can this be mended?

[@exile4029]

she also said she printed the photo because it makes her happy looking at it god it hurts man,

[@steph6337]

How did things work out for you? I guess I'm just looking for hope that everything turned out ok even after something like this.

[@janetharrison6994]

Wat do i do wen his a serial lair cheater ? Promised police wud get help counsling but na im ok .

[@icebergcustoms7593]

My wife wants a divorce and I take full responsibility for why she does, We've been together 4yrs now and I want to believe I can win her back, I'm reading the comments and seeing that's its possible and I'll take whatever hope/advice anyone can give me. Thanks in advance

[@zaraa1988]

Hi. How's your marriage going? Did you work it out? I'd like to get some hope 🥺

[@TWilliamsHDTv]

I don’t think it’s fair you take full responsibility of the situation it’s a partnership

[@Vagabond-lp9gp]

Bro everything you said is completely unreliable and worthless. What if your partner is doing everything opposite of what you just said to do or not to do and yet. Engage for two-and-a-half years like when she heard a woman I'll actually be that loving person she was instead of being emotionally a Hellion? Give real advice please.