Wife Wants a Divorce & Does Not Want to Try to Work On Marriage

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@rtjuan9383]

My husband keeps saying he is leaning divorce, will threatened me will go to the court house when he is mad.

[@MikePaterson]

Excellent as usual!

[@cg1232]

So do i believe her when she says i could be different like ive been working on and atill nothing will change her mind since shes been done for awhile, and than had whats seemingly an exit affair. And now infatuated with this guy, or is that part of of the challaneg the discouragement im getting from her phsycologically.

[@cruelladevil8536]

Many times us women really feel like men just don’t care about their relationship with us. It‘s nice to see men actually do care about their partners & relationships and try to be better. This gives me hope.

[@USmomma4]

Well said Cruella!

[@josephercastor8026]

Of course we care. We want loyalty, thats all!

[@cedward85]

Cruella, it's not that we don't care, it's that we don't know how to express it without being judged for it. Kinda like how women enjoy sex, but have to be careful of being judged as too sexually promiscuous.

[@jasonhand2439]

Thank u bro

[@danieldoca7158]

You feel that but your feelings aren't an accurate reflection of reality. You women fail to understand that and you just wreck God marriages or relationship because you felt something that is not even true. Good luck in ever being happy

[@MuayThaiTherapy]

My wife is completely not interested in having a intimate and committed relationship. She is just going with the flow just doing what’s best for her. Here trying to learn.

[@Nick-fo1jg]

My wife left me two months ago and says the same thing. She doesn’t want to try and is just going with the flow, she says she’s following god and things will work out how they should. To me things don’t just work out, you always have i out into what happens, things don’t just happen for no reason. What ended up happening between you both? Did you get back together?

[@calgal5752]

She sounds like my ex husband….sorry

[@ketobodybuilder2482]

Yet they will be intimate with a new guy. They are fos. Dig deep you will find out

[@Fahadikramrana]

@@Nick-fo1jgupdate?

[@johnsonjj117]

@@Nick-fo1jgShe is lying and trying to justify her selfishness. Following God does not lead to divorce. That goes against everything the Bible teaches.

[@Stralia_Silvuh]

I’ve literally made ALL of these mistakes. I don’t think there’s a chance in my marriage at this point. 😞 I don’t want to give up. I’m gonna keep making the changes necessary in hopes that I can help myself and she’ll see that.

[@SpankyyNinja]

I'm in the same boat right now...any update on how it went? She won't even give an answer on what she wants. Just that it isn't to do with me.

[@Stralia_Silvuh]

@@SpankyyNinja update: she divorced me, but somehow, I met someone… idk how, but I realized, my ex wife was abusive and didn’t know what she wanted

[@Happycat8385]

​@SpankyyNinja how'd things go with you bud? My wife left me on April 8th, feel like I'm going crazy

[@Stralia_Silvuh]

@@Happycat8385 I understand the feeling. Just know that time will with everything out.

[@tbagjonez153]

@@Happycat8385my wife left out of the blue last week and I’m still trying to figure things out. You are not alone! I haven’t heard from her since, I’m here having to pay all the bills and a mortgage. No idea where I go from here to be honest. I would have ever thought I would be in this kind of situation. Sooo depressing, we don’t have children but she took my dog.

[@USmomma4]

Exactly spot on! Estranged husband did all of the mistakes and now we are getting divorced because he gave up on us…. Have come to accept he lacks character and maturity to do the work to save our marriage. I feel jealous and happy at the same time for couples who do work out, because at least they have a husband who didn’t give up… MEN do NOT give up on your wife/marriage!

[@Ervsr93]

I’m really trying not to! But it’s so hard especially when she’s so hopeless and it truly seems like all she wants is to move on and I’m suffering so much but I know I did a lot of mistakes so I know I have to put in a lot of work! Ur comment has encouraged me so much no matter how tough it gets I’m going to restore myself, my marriage and my family!

[@fernandocabanillas8133]

@@Ervsr93 How’s it going brother?

[@Ervsr93]

@@fernandocabanillas8133 right now I want to focused more on myself and my kids and I’m really trying to not worry about the out come, it’s really hard but I’m trying to focus and fix the things I am in control of. I’m trying to let go of my marriage, not give up but just focus on what I can control, for now that’s all I can do. Thanks for asking! Hope your doing good!

[@fernandocabanillas8133]

@@Ervsr93 hey brother I’m in the same boat. Been 8 months since she left. I hope for your success

[@Ervsr93]

@@fernandocabanillas8133 keep pushing man I hope everything works out for you as well!

[@TriggeredAndy]

I’m going through a divorce & in the very early stages. This video is amazing and I feel like I’ve tried so hard to change my marriage. He’s just giving up which might be the best thing for me. Not sure yet, I’m torn but the evidence speaks for itself. I can’t honestly remember the last time my husband said I was pretty or even the last time we had sex is so sad. I’m so broken and I’ve tried for 12 years 😢

[@Elegance191]

How are you? I am about to file him divorce letters. He is enraged that he got found out cheating with happy ending erotic massages. As with you, he did it again and again to me , the cheating and lying. I have tried and tried but I am very sad, he is not interested. I wish you the very best. You deserve it.

[@johnsonjj117]

It’s sad the wives that prioritize marriage and doing what is right marry men who dont and vise versa. My wife had multiple affairs and doesn’t want to try to save our marriage.

[@sizzlingcookingstones8208]

I changed my approach and very closely listened to what my wife was actually saying what she wanted me to do and focused on what I needed to do. Was it easy? Not. But well worth it.

[@robc3887]

I haven’t blamed her, she is right. I have been trying to prevent divorce, I signed myself up for therapy and have asked her to do marriage counseling but she says we are done…

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@ronaldgivens3967]

Same here

[@jaspersmith5748]

You’re the best Geoff, keep it up! About two weeks into taking your program and I’m already making big changes and she is seeing it. My marriage is super rocky, there is another man, and it’s not the first time it’s been like this. You helped me see where my issues were and the ways to get rid of those character defects. I’ve already seen progress, and still have much to learn. Thank you!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it Jasper!!

[@mhauserman]

I’m going through the same thing, and the other guy thing hurts so bad. I’m struggling getting through this.

[@MikePaterson]

@@mhauserman I feel your pain

[@leleonet]

Do you always mention about the other man..?..or you focus on you and your spouse problem only.? Appreciate if you can share

[@geelovesyou8227]

That is exactly word for word is what has happened in my 30 year marriage. I’ve been a total idiot. She had tried to tell me so many times and I’ve just ignored her or blamed her and now She is done and filing for a divorce. She has desperately pleaded with me cried to me begged me to stop this thing I was doing. I kept blaming her the entire time, I told her she was wrong the problem was her and I was gonna change and I never did. I have loved her since I was 15! I love her now more than I ever have and I sincerely do. I cannot imagine my life without her and when I try to I get extremely sad depressed heartbroken Angry and i have serious panic attacks. I had no damn clue that I was doing this to her and I want to call her right now and tell her how sorry I am. I love everything about this woman. It’s four fifteen now in about 2 hours im calling her and telling I’m a idiot and I get it now! I pray to god she is receptive of what I’m going to be saying to her. Which is please baby I get it now! And I’m so so sorry.. just be a little more patient. I’m begging you please, I’m so so so sorry. Let me try one more time . God willing I mean please god I’m begging you give her the courage to open her heart to me one more time. With gods will I will not fail her this time . Thank you so much for putting this in terms we can understand! Have i mentioned that I love her! 😍

[@geelovesyou8227]

Update! She is done! I think she is seeing someone to be honost

[@geelovesyou8227]

@Khadija Hashimu I’m tryin to win back my soon to be ex wife. We have been together for 30 years. Since we were both 15 years old. We’re 45 now and we’ve raised 3 daughters and just became grandparents. I have personally sensed something was slightly of about 2 to 3 years ago. It’s slowly gotten worse with her leaving several times and each time it wouldn’t take much to set her of. We both filed for divorce about 1 year and a half ago and decided to give it another go. Now I know I can be a asshole sometimes and don’t claim innocence in this. That being said we’ve been through some serious trials and tribulations and have survived so much worse than whatever she’s choosing to divorce us for now. I ask her what wrong why didn’t you talk to me come to me is it something I need to work on. Sometimes she says no I don’t need to work on anything and literally the next argument which could be several a day she’ll say yes I need to work on this . On 7/1/22 She moved out and into her sisters This time. She took every stitch of clothing and a few other sentimental things. She has filed for divided and I got served in 7/15/22. Something is bad wrong, I cannot put my finger on it and I don’t know if she can either. She had told me that she needs time to find herself and she is mean as hell, I mean she will day the most hurtful stuff at the drop of a hat which I’ll internalize and start to 1) harbor I’ll will and 2)start to get more depressed about it. Im already a diagnosed manic depressant. Shes bipolar like hell so I was hoping some how that would cancel out one for the other. My depression for the most part is very low key and for the most part people wouldn’t even know I was having a episode. I will say the Older I’ve gotten I’m Okay I the worse it seems to get. She refuses to find any middle ground. She one sec is fine an literally the next second is a totally different woman! I’ve never seen her do anything like this. This is my best friend the mother of my children and my soulmate, my lover. She still wants to come and make love but not to long after it we’re fighting over the dumbest stuff i have ever seen and been through. I’ve asked her if their was anyone else and she swears up and down there isn’t. She swears up and down there isn’t. There is so much more more to go over so you can have the most accurate pic. That’s it In a nutshell. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Gabe W.

[@christyworkman1191]

I love you!

[@MarkieMcG.]

@@geelovesyou8227 Update?

[@stefansstuff2290]

This is without a doubt one of the BEST relationship video I have seen. Unbelievable truth right there. We are so quick to blame and argue… this makes so much sense.

[@cedward85]

This is such an amazing ("amazing" is such an understatement) video, had me in tears thinking about how patient my wife has been as i screwed up time and time again. I am getting this program and Geoff, I really have no words to thank you for teaching this. It's time for me to become the man my wife deserves

[@frankie400]

I feel the same. I can't believe how blind I've been.

[@cedward85]

@@frankie400 When I wrote this, I was going through HELL. My wife wasn't even talking to me. Now we are finally on the upswing. Not out of the woods yet, but doing a lot better so things can absolutely heal. Just be patient and keep working on yourself. Never give up hope. Wish you all the luck bro.

[@frankie400]

@@cedward85 thanks man, yeah, it's a gut check to have someone outside my relationship say exactly what I was doing. and how I couldn't see that she was the one trying to keep our relationship going. time for me to put in the work on myself and hopefully at some point she will see value in a future with me. I wish nothing but the best for you too Clay. have a good day.

[@daddylacus]

Hope you both are doing well, I’m in the thick of it right now and am pretty terrified. She’s said she’s done and wants me to leave for now. Trying to stay positive and make the right changes, even though she won’t really get to see them that much right now.

[@cedward85]

@@daddylacus I know exactly how you feel. First, just keep working on yourself as you said you were doing, thats good. Don't fool yourself into thinking she won't notice, women are way more perceptive than we are. Do things for you though, not just to show her. My wife and I have reconciled and doing much better, so it happens a lot more than you think. She doesnt WANT to leave, that really helped me. Its the best out of 2 bad choices, so give her a 3rd choice (where staying is better than leaving and she can confirm it will STAY better). This will take her as long as it takes, just be patient and supportive.

[@aj_atari]

This video just popped up in my feed and I’ve never heard a man understand and explain so eloquently exactly what women go through ….so spot on!!!!

[@s.ibrahimoglu2097]

By far you are the most under rated relationship coach, your advice is gold! Your methods are incredible.

[@StormyMonday0896]

I tried and tried, tried to do better, be what you wanted. He was defensive, said he was being attacked instead of listening. I went off and built my own life, my own world. He didnt want to try: lost his job, gained a huge amount of weight, not taking care of himself. If I tried to say I was concerned, that was a problem. If I didnt say anything, I didnt care. I gave up trying. I finally no longer felt any feelings and left.

[@Elegance191]

This is exactly how I am feeling right now. He blames me for his cheating. He tells his family and friends that I have poisoned the minds of our adult sons. They are grown ups and know right from wrong , for goodness sake. They are totally disgusted by their dad and his family, in particular his mother. He supports his visits to erotic massages with happy ending, telling my sons that their dad has needs. While I raise the family and look after the home, the insurances, the groceries, be the driver, the doctor, the nurse, the comforting parent, the tutor, the cook, the finder of lost things in the mornings when the sons were kids . I have had enough. I respect myself and will not try anymore. I am kind, loving and warm and I deserve good things in my life. They will happen once I get through this game he is playing.

[@sydewayzmo3905]

My wife filed for divorce in Jan. I was finally served end of April. After talks and talks and talks of the reasons why this video is 100% the reason my wife no longer wants to try. Ive applied to this program and I hope I get accepted. I have a feeling if I dont it is because my situation is indeed UNIQUE and just cannot be cured.

[@mrs.daniellequintanilla4635]

hi, how did things go?

[@sydewayzmo3905]

@@mrs.daniellequintanilla4635 I decided not to move forward with these guys. Went with a life coach instead that I felt was more taylor’d to my situation

[@tyroncline5978]

I hope you dont have kids and have assets to share

[@fordshojoe8080]

​@sydewayzmo3905 did it work? If so who dud you use

[@fordshojoe8080]

​@@sydewayzmo3905did

[@colleenrogers3536]

He is right on the money!! On all of this! Men, listen up! This is so true.

[@vidalmercado1593]

Thanks!!!! I know my communication has been awful and she said we never felt like partners in our marriage.

[@Elegance191]

​​@@vidalmercado1593ah...you are like my husband in the sense that he has communications issues. He now blames me for his cheating. I cry as I love him so much still but it is the end for us. He doesn't want anything to do with me and has been telling awful things about me to his family and friends. I'm sad to file the papers but he deserves them. He will be liberated, that's what he told our adult sons. I am just concerned he won't be feeling like this in 2-3 years to come. He is not savvy with his money and will be tricked by his family in parting with his money. Terribly sad it has come to this but he has chosen to cheat, he is an adult, and he knows action has consequences. He is very happy to have moved out. I wish him the very best. Our sons do not talk to him nor his toxic mom and brother.They are never going back to France to visit. The grandma is evil .

[@MikePaterson]

This was fantastic as have been the other videos I have watched. My problem is that my wife has started a legal separation process and has whilst living with me, has started a relationship with another man, so I am having to put that aside and try to fight the heartbreaking depression I am feeling, in order to focus on improving myself to become a safe place for her. It is so hard.

[@RonicBeatsz]

How has this journey been for you, I would love to get an update brother

[@davidcouture5970]

I'm literally living the same life right now and it just started a little over a week ago. I'm so lost and don't know what to do and hopeful that you were able to turn around, I hope I can too one day but I'm not very confident.

[@MikePaterson]

@@RonicBeatsz hi, I am now a much better person than I had become. My wife left a year ago and I have now moved on. I am happy that I am no longer with her as that is best for both of us.

[@MikePaterson]

@@davidcouture5970 I wish you the best of luck.

[@GenOfGooNSquad]

I’ve made mistakes during my 8 year known 4 year marriage How can I get my wife to reconsider, she said she doesn’t want to work on it. I’ve been more of a doer as of late but she said her mind is made up. And she’s given me too many chances

[@kalimbaayinde25]

Once a woman is done. She’s done.

[@joshuamac6302]

Let her go. 😢 It sucks, but start over with someone else. I was at where you were.... and I learned there's nothing you can do....

[@mariohorton4758]

Very spot on analysis. You are the first person to explain my situation to me. It's been one year and the divorce papers are ready now. Wish I had come across you a year ago

[@tb87670]

I feel lucky I found these videos 2 weeks after my wife blindsided me. Though I wish I saw them 2 months ago to stop it from happening at all...

[@KennyJStylinz]

Yes this happened to me and I'm currently trying to fix this

[@verstwo2]

These videos have been extremely helpful to me in my quest to save my relationship. Thank you.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it! Thank you for sharing this with me.

[@stephenle2879]

This is very powerful you are right on the dot with everything. This video has shown me that I can and will change to better my marriage and to restart that spark we once had. Thank you for this inspiring video. 🙏🇨🇦

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

I love it! So glad you are finding my videos helpful.

[@acesbularon9372]

ACCURATE!! hey Geoff, are you referring to me? All you points are on the spot! been watching videos for almost a month now. Still on the process of bettering myself, not just for my wife and my son but for me. Thank you brooo

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Haha, this is why I repeat so many times in my videos that your story is not unique. We all really start out in the same way.

[@GreenDirtX]

I have been watching videos for 2 years after she left me she keeps coming back and leaving for times I watch many videos this is the first video that completely makes sense and I understand her so thanks for sharing…

[@reereechanel]

I am the wife, and i am leaving my husband after 5 yrs. I gave all shots i can. Now, he wish to make thing up, but i no longer have interest to try.

[@AustinKloud]

My wife has decided to leave me after 20 years and 5 children…. I’m crushed and destroyed. I have spent my entire married life with her working and trying to better our family. But in my drive to make of life better, I have ignored her by trying to climb the corporate ladder. Now I have nothing….

[@NexgenFinancials]

My heart is with you brother, our brains dont work the same as theirs and i dont think they can accept this, we focus on securing our families safety and well being while they focus on how they feel

[@jessea.1216]

@@ted2136 same here bro after 20 years, we separated and she claimed she wasn’t seeing someone when I caught her.. I was such a hard worker, coach, great father… and horrible husband

[@FreeTruly]

The best thing to do is let her go. Love should never be fought for.

[@kalimbaayinde25]

@@NexgenFinancialsbecause it’s called balance.

[@kalimbaayinde25]

@@FreeTrulythat’s selfish and why they are getting divorced. It’s called compromise.

[@daddylacus]

thank you for this video. she’s said she’s done. I’m scared because I have the best intentions moving forward but she doesn’t want to even live together right now. just trying to keep a positive mindset to make this changes, even if she won’t really get to see them right away. again, thanks for the video.

[@Hellokat564]

Gosh I’ve been married for only a month and a half and my husband has done all these things you mentioned, although I’m not innocent of stubbornness either. But every time he hurts me (always communication-related itself), and I softly or in tears explain how he hurt me, he is uncaring about my feelings and defensive. I believe he cares more about his ego than about me. And we haven’t even been on our honeymoon. I’m wondering if I should stay in this or else these are my warnings to get out. 😢

[@robgtz7750]

Bro you hit the Spot!!! Thanks I know what to do!!!!

[@SpankyyNinja]

This video is literally describing everything i've been doing wrong.... literally describing exact things I've said out of frustration that I don't even mean. She has responded the exact way he is saying. I'm long distance right now and getting out of the military in a couple of days. I really want to change and i want things to be better and I feel like it will be once I have this burden off of my shoulders and we can finally live for each other. Where am I going wrong?

[@KennyJStylinz]

What if your wife admits to not loving you anymore while away from you on active duty, I believe it would be a lot harder to fix with minimal communication

[@IDispatchtraining]

I’m going through the same thing right now

[@pro5702]

This is very insightful - the problems are not the problem. But, are not dismissing, defensiveness, lack of acknowledgement, and failure to understand. Aren’t these under the rubric of communication? So communication is the problem? On a different topic. I wish you had some videos on her gas lighting. Thank you for the generosity of you sharing your insights.

[@letsspreadtheword832]

Wife left me almost 3 weeks ago. Been together 13 years we have 7 kids together. I'm broke my promises about changing and never committed to it. She now says she doesn't see me that way anymore and feels pushed away. She says she wants to believe me but like always when she comes back I lie. I'm much older now. I'm 33. I'm matured a lot more from years ago. I've changed and she sees a little change too but I'm not sure what more I can do to make her feel un pushed away. I've changed for me yes and her. This separation is a real eye opener. I lost my twin brother August 16th she left me this month October. After my twin brother passed there was a division between my mother and family at the funeral. I dont speak to them anymore. I feel alone and I would always call my twin brother for advice but now I can't. I'm at my lowest. Can you help me please 🥺😔

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@letsspreadtheword832]

@@GeoffreySetiawan I watched the video. I left a comment. I dont know who to ask maybe you can help me. With me spending time with my wife like Dr appointments or us going to the zoo or out to eat would me showing her attention and being nice would that help her move on vs me leaving her alone and not spending time with her or texting her?

[@letsspreadtheword832]

@@GeoffreySetiawan I made a collage video of us together throughout 13 years. I made her her favorite food earlier this evening got her her favorite dessert and a rose after whe was done eating I showed her the video I made. She like it but I guess I was expecting more. Maybe I set my hopes up too high. I would like to share the video I made of us. Maybe you can tell what you think about it. Sorry for the late reply. kzbin.info/www/bejne/fXbFqmqbr9SDr6s

[@noobs2007]

I put everything I could into saving our marriage, but it became clear that my husband wasn’t willing to put in the effort. Instead, he spent his time in online gaming and with people who only added to our issues. Despite my efforts, his priorities were elsewhere, and the relationship suffered as a result. my 18 yrs of marriage is ended

[@jeffroberts743]

Maybe I'm missing something but after hours of thinking back I can honestly say not one time has she ever said there was a problem or tried to fix anything. It wasn't until after her affair came to light that she ever mentioned there was a issue with us. I agree with with a lot you say but in my situation I'm not sure it's true she has already to to fix things in the past. If she did I don't know how.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Jeff Roberts, And it's this very way of thinking that will not allow you to see just how much and for how long she actually tried to save the relationship. Remember, we can't solve our problems with the same mindset and thinking that created the problems in the first place.

[@RyanMeyerink]

She doesn’t want to try anymore. It feels hopeless to her. Likes my changes. Put me in the friend zone and I blew it asking for another chance.

[@the_hooks]

She needs to see the changes not hear them.

[@peregrine162.]

So, if they feel no safety about communicating with the partner what is the reason to instantly cheat with another male? I don't understand.

[@Bishop355]

It wasn't instant. It was already in the works

[@dwwolf4636]

@@Bishop355 Still a failure to communicate.

[@thetruefusion7874]

This is my situation what do i do now? How do i repair the emotional safety

[@northerncaliking1772]

What if I'm in aca recovery going to school to become successful and I am very compassionate because I was raised by my mom. My girl says I'm too loving and she's embarrassed of me in front of her friends. I've changed my clothes walk and everything. She is obsessed with appearance. I have really tried everything.

[@MrGethevs1980]

I've been like this for 9 months she has filed for divorce and this Thursday seen her out with another man she said it's only been a couple of weeks this has totally broken my heart We have been married for 16 years with 2 beautiful daughters I'm just broken 💔

[@gordonramsayshorts3002]

Sorry man 💔

[@DorotaMartaDzikon]

My wife give up after4 months start her new life in separation time. No words wish her best.

[@DonJam-m7f]

I tried I failed, I took her to counselling even after she threaded me with calling cops. But now I gotta let her go

[@jimjam_games5783]

I needed this. It couldn't have come at a more important time for me. Thank you

[@jimdye7431]

i keep doing the oposite of the correct thing, im hysterical i thought she would never leave.

[@brianawd]

This is exactly what I have done to my wife over the last 3 years. This is why she has asked for space. I see she definitely tried multiple times but I was so stuck in a depression from my mom getting sick and passing away. So I’m now trying to save my marriage and working with a therapist to help me get out of my depression so I can be a better husband and father.

[@chazgriffin5582]

wow I need to hear more you of your advice! almost everything I didn't do right I meant to and truly want to she is so important to me and our children.22 years I know I can be better I know that I want to help her and me and that she's not alone and after watching this video I can see why the hell she feels like that and why she is leaving. thank you

[@spartans-82]

my wife wants a break up.. she wants to have some space for herself.. what should i do?

[@Vainnx]

jus give her a lil bit of space but also understand why she wants the space and tell her tht whenever she’s ready to talk tht u will be there for her. also acknowledge the mistakes you have made tht would push her to wanting space

[@Vainnx]

hope tht help and also hope yall work it out cuz ik the feeling

[@808Affliction]

I admitted that I was wrong and Improving each day on my communication skills. I would speak in a upset angry emotion and say things I didn’t mean. So now I breath and think about the situation and come back and start a conversation instead of saying thinks that come into mind when I’m upset/angry. It has been about 2 months now and I have been really good and my patients is way better. At the same time she still wants to get a divorce. I never ever raised my voice at her but the things I say really hurt her. I’m just crushed. She wants a divorce and already thinking about selling our house soon. 🥺

[@808Affliction]

She also told me that she doesn’t know if she is ready for a marriage, she doesn’t know what she wants in life and have baggage issues that she needs to solve on her own. Soooo it all started by my communication skills but now it’s that and her personal issues. I told her we can fix these problems together like a team like a married couple. But she still wants to leave. 😣

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Matty, Checkout this video below and see if you can relate and be sure to comeback to me with your thoughts. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqjdp4R7opuMd7c

[@davidbaker8251]

She does not want to save the marriage and is already in another relationship. She tossed me aside and dont event have contact on normal bases. Now i even have limited contact with our duaghter. Im suppose to change me and she dont see me on a daily basis. There are so many things going on and i dont want to lose her.

[@the_hooks]

Do it for yourself and not for her.

[@joshuamac6302]

I really hope that you let her go.... already being in a relationship is BS!!! And I'm sure she needed to make some changes as well, I know my wife needed to as well, saying communication wasn't attractive. 😮 WTF?!?!

[@franksaletta9188]

Hello Geoffrey I know this video is aimed towards long term relationships. What if you are in shorter term relationship and are broken up at the moment but still living together? Could you give me some insight on how to creat that emotional safety and creating that hope if she doesn’t want any part of me? Thank you in advance looking forward to some guidance.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Stop thinking your situation is special or unique. The process to rebuild safety & trust remains the same.

[@brendadean9291]

When I found out my ex husband was involved in an affair I filed for divorce. I knew I would never be able to deal with a second infidelity. Our marriage was on the rocks anyways.

[@josephercastor8026]

Youre so young to be so good at this. I was going to dismiss you based on your age. Bravo. Good video!

[@Langley_Ackerman19]

I'm tired of being responsible, ALL THE TIME. i've had enough, I want to focus on myself now.

[@Lauj.85]

This resonates so hard with me. Hopefully it isn't too late for me. But if it is, I know the changes I make for myself well help for the next relationship. Thank you for this content.

[@LaliiiLaliii]

My husband started the divorce and we already signed it. 😢

[@reesebenitez4826]

So what advise do u have for the guys w/ a wife that have alcohol & addiction issues ?

[@evatatus]

You failed to mention that you could be trying and trying to make her realize how much you love her yet she is still detached and then it turns out she was lying the whole time while having an affair with her chiropractor

[@oivatikkunen405]

Everything what you sayed are so accurate that it feels like you can read Peoples mindes. While watching your videos i have realize everything what i have done wrong. But i think it is too late to safe my relationship. however now im more wise so i can build better relationship in the future. So thank you for selling your knowledge.

[@danielbeverly2147]

Many times they just find someone new. They will complain about your behavior to justify being loose.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Daniel, I guess you can be right in some cases. But in the cases I work with (1500 annually) this is not the case. Your partner is just looking for someone who can poses certain tools, qualities and have the ability to work through difficulties and challenges. I find that when someone can make themselves irreplaceable that is when you partner no longer wishes to look elsewhere. This is correct for all of my clients here below. kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@kalimbaayinde25]

That’s a lie!! I tried talking and asking and begging for things to change. To acknowledge me as a person. No woman who loves you just goes out and cheat! She gives you PLENTY of chances to get it together.

[@fordshojoe8080]

​@kalimbaayinde25 that's also a lie. You're basically saying if she cheats uts your fault. Kinda like victim blaming. Woukd you say the sane if she started physically abusing him? Would you say he deserved it? If he cheats is it her fault?

[@edmacias4032]

I have a very unique situation with my wife and I’m not sure if your program will work. Is there anyway I can share my story with you to see if the class and program would be worth it ?

[@ssjcadic]

Can I have hope if she just moved on? We just broke up for 1 month after 5 years relationship

[@christyworkman1191]

This is 1000% right!

[@andre168]

If my wife tell me that she willing to go to divorce so I can have my happiness and don’t have to be angry since I keep finding her to lied to me over small matters. It’s her compulsive lying that keep repeating over and over. Because of this, I lost trust in her and always suspected my wife is hiding lots of things, could be an affair which I know she isn’t that type. We have been married for 24 yrs. I’m very disappointed and hurt, knowing she is opening the divorce option and it start to eating me up, being suspicious and anxious. What would you advise? Thanks.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi andre168, Start here and feel free to follow this video up with any more questions you may have. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gnyTmH1tpKuWn6c now

[@marks5740]

It's too late for me ... I lost the love of a fantastic woman and mother to my 2 teenage children.. Need to watch these videos before you break up... Once she stood loving you virtually have no chance of working it out ! Lost so much

[@rtjuan9383]

My husband said he is leaning divorce have been threatening me and doesn't see future in our relationship.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi, Come take a look at so many of my clients who once thought also that divorce was the only thing left. Until they found me and my program and began to start to make massive changes that lead to massive results. kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@Stralia_Silvuh]

I’ve made all these mistakes, can I still try?

[@gooseiify]

Why wife says I dont change and she regrets marrying me .. She said she wants a divorce . Idk how to move forward from this

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Goose Crispy, Take the path so many of my clients have chosen when they were in situations just like yours and start to turn things around. kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@xItsDJ]

Does this happen on both end’s I know I was like it with her and she was like it with me but I struggle with feeling things so I pushed it back and she’s emotional so I can do the work to improve but is she doesn’t wouldn’t it still be the same? The blame one is what she does to me I probably try to sort the problem as soon as possible

[@moustacheamore2237]

Thank you very much, very valuable

[@MoonChild13]

I'm a woman and it's my husband the one that doesn't even want to try :(

[@kevensg1]

👌 your content is on point as always.

[@Poipounda007]

Really aqesome video! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@marks5740]

Geoffrey just proved women are hard work ! 🤣

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

I think I proved that relationships can be hard without the proper mindsets and tools. It is easy once you learn.

[@marks5740]

@@GeoffreySetiawan , you have indeed proved how to make things work in a relationship. I used to say happy dick , happy chick .. When i should have said happy wife , happy life ! Paying for it now !

[@andresaovelastegui3122]

I started following and watching your videos today. You are amazing 👏

[@gregcoleman9677]

Very true. Excellent.

[@elchulon154]

I want to try this but can’t afford it right now 🙁

[@jlinkq]

Well my wife doesn’t want to try anything she wants a divorced. She said no chance, she tried many times but it didn’t work. Time to move on

[@homeoffavours]

What happens with a husband who is too proud to make the wife happy coz he is so attached to the siblings more than me, he exposes me sp much to the siblings and they attack me verbally and he doest care, he always say i overreact

[@dustinshinn218]

Is there a chance you could talk louder? I love to listening to these when I'm working on myself, my Physical appearance. When I'm cleaning the house. When I'm just trying to shut out all the other noise. Trying to connect within myself to my deeper emotions an to hers and how I made her feel during all this. When im just trying to change. Not just for her but for our kids as well. Your voice gets drowned out sometimes. There's nothing wrong with rewinding the video. Just a thought.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Dustin, This video is one of my older videos. Since this, I have purchased a new mic and set up better audio quality. Thank you for your suggestion.

[@tb100875]

You are a blessing.

[@andresaovelastegui3122]

Yes, he is

[@montavictoriam4044]

everything u said is true ! whats catch-22?! plz

[@dwwolf4636]

Both views can be true. If previous attempts from her side at communication have been made in a manner that did not convoy their intent....what am I to do ? Read her mind ? I've tried to provide material to help us communicate better ...but nope aint read a bit.

[@AliA-be3st]

Exactly! Didn't Einstein define the definition of "insanity" as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome.

[@JoseLopez-ip8hn]

How do I get in contact with you? My wife is already out of the house and leaving the state soon and she's afraid to get burn again basically. But she's set on moving on and divorcing.

[@MsquinnyM]

The statistics shows that men initiate Marriage and women initiate Divorce 😢 There has to be some truth what this guy is saying. Many say the woman wants things their way and that may not be necessarily true. Women want to be emotionally connected to their spouse. However, some men are emotionally unavailable to understand the needs of a relationship outside of the norm. The words have to at least align with the actions that are being produced otherwise it causes confusion. Many don’t really put in the effort to water the marriage to make it grow. They become lazy lovers who sell false promises. Then when the woman continue to address things it’s not her nagging she is begging to bond with you in a different level. It’s beyond the provider, supporter, breadwinner mindset. We are partners it’s a team

[@gsmith46]

mediation at end of august. any chance?

[@gee_419]

I kid you not if you just listen and set your pride aside this really works

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Gee_419, Yes, as many of my clients have realized if we bring our pride and our ego we will never ask ourselves the right questions. Gee_419, what are you finding most helpful after being humble to realize that we have a lot of room to grow?

[@joneday9131]

What about if your wife already filed for divorce and never told you and now you need to battle for custody

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Jon E Day, Again nothing ever changes. The only way that a relationship is over for good is when both parties are not willing to make the changes needed to repair was was broken in the relationship. Also, when I say this I am not talking about being "willing" I am talking about actually making the right and massive changes first.

[@joneday9131]

@@GeoffreySetiawan thanks dude... has anyone you worked with been able to reconcile while in the midst of a family court custody battle with his wife without discussing nor giving him notice rather to finally serve him 30days AFTER she filed a case in court for divorce, support custody , attorneys fees, AND to top it off has made allegations of father being unfit so she can have full custody of their child(ren)? I mean I don't see how much more than rock bottom no chance for a comeback of a relationship can even get !!? Surely husband's attorney would advise him of his best strategy on how to "gain leverage" and if there are false allegations typically they would raise a credibility issue. This would inevitably damage wife's character which she most likely won't find "attractive"... I mean if you want a challenge Geoffery, I'll tell you don't look any further. Yes I know everyone says it but you'd gotta admit, this would take the cake!! Lmk, I can't let my baby girl down... I'm in if you're in!

[@CoramDeo1977]

Amazing content.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Great! Glad you are enjoying it. Thank you for your comment and support.

[@Lina126y]

I don’t agree with this. Wife left to follow a dream… too tired to explain but it has nothing to do with my situation

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Your wife left not because he went to follow a dream, but because there wasn't enough emotional & psychological safety to go through the journey of following her dreams with you.

[@Eric2000ad]

What if I’m not in the home she made me leave the house

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Eric Taylor, The majority of my clients have been have left home or their partners have left home. Nothing changes, the process stays the same. Take a look at Jason he was separated for over a year and he is now having massive results. kzbin.info/www/bejne/fKDbm4SVg6iojNE

[@taneyat6_33]

Omg you described me in the marriage. I tried so hard.

[@DMVBigBusDriver]

Why is it always the husbands fault as if the wife is perfect

[@Demonoicgamer666]

Then you say your opinion and if they are still not wanting to work on things then you have to accept it. Being irreplaceable is impossible because there’s 8 billion people in this world and at least 10 are going to be exactly like you.

[@Lun602]

I need your help 🙏🏼

[@inserter400]

When is it too late to attract her back ?

[@TheMichaelCardoza]

HOW DO I GET A ONE ON ONE WITH YOU?

[@bernielady5164]

What are the changes he should be making ?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Bernie Lady, Come join me here in my free 90 min master class to learn these changes. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@140ex5]

Maybe I am a high value man? I do everything, pay bills, earn the money, cook, clean, fix the cars, do all hone repairs including appliances. And maybe she’s low value and doesn’t appreciate it? Uh oh say you need to “change”. Change to what?

[@philipramsden4975]

Man, I've been in that boat for years. I go to work, come home, and cook dinner while she plays on her phone. I keep everything up around the house, maintenance, take care of the cars, the yard is immaculate, do projects for her that she finds, but I need to change somehow.

[@eddiehernandez7806]

The same can be said on the reverse