How to Set Boundaries with Difficult Family (and not feel guilty) Day 6

[@Kris_Reece]

FREE Toxic People Survival Guide krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guide

[@DesireeHeck-y5q]

?Is this free toxic people survival guide still available?

[@AmyVerran]

If it’s in my power I’ll do my part

[@AmyVerran]

Dated covert narssistic. And mom did I cause this

[@AmyVerran]

You are such an angel

[@AmyVerran]

❤

[@Cross-Examine]

1. Be conclusive. 2. Be clear. 3. Be compassionate. 4. Be consequential.

[@Michelle-06]

What I have learned is that if someone can not respect your boundaries regardless of it is family or not! You better do whatever you need to do in order to keep your peace of mind. If they don't want to change and you know you are going to be taken out of character??? Or course leave that person alone! We need to keep our hearts right in the sight of God. Do not allow anyone to take you to that level where you do not have peace! Stay with God the Father! Pray for them and keep your distance!

[@donnadallariva8377]

Setting boundaries with toxic family ,Amen 🙏

[@Maria__57]

Beatifully explained..how to set boundaries...

[@lindachallenger1554]

Well said🎉

[@lystrahypolitejames1638]

Suppose it's your spouse

[@Maria_7440]

​@@lystrahypolitejames1638I don't know your situation, so I can only offer advice from my own experience. There was much neglect and emotional abuse. I finally had enough (after many many years). I told him "I'm not doing this anymore unless we put Christ at the center. He's my number One. I want to walk this journey with you, but I will absolutely do it alone if I have to." While my husband is not yet saved, he has at least agreed to come to Bible study online with me and my ministry every morning, for several months now, and we've grown much, much closer. We've both been changed by many heartbreaking trials, and we know that we will never be the same after this, but I do have hope now that my husband's soul will have been saved, and we will come out stronger, sweeter, gentler. Always be very clear about putting Jesus first. You can never go wrong with that. Hugs, prayers, and much love🫂💜🕊️🙏🏻

[@daniels7781]

My sister is my mother's FLYING MONKEY. She is working hard to cause More chaos in our lives after going no contact with toxic narcissistic mother has always claimed to be a Christian... She is relentless , will stop at nothing to destroy us, I'm her first born child who is in my 60's. It has been a 44 year battle and she now has sent my sister to do her evil. We're trying to leave the state and move on away from this toxic hate filled family. God bless you 🙏 0:30

[@Twiddledup]

Oh I feel for you! I have a family much the same! My mother is 80 and still going strong!

[@amoeb81]

Same happens to me too... 😢 my sister simply won't see past the manipulation and it has gotten to a point were I am anxious when she comes over and my wife also dreads her. She became an extention of our mother.

[@destinyalanna]

So grateful for this channel as a Christian who suffered from enmeshment and codependency with family!!!

[@Emily_Paris]

There was a time I moved to another state without telling my mother. She was so mean and emotionally abusive. I cried for a long time while driving. I didn’t talk to her for 2 yrs. When I came back home 2 years later, she hugged me and was so happy to see me. She had repented. I’m glad we worked things out between us because she passed away last Nov. I love my momma. I miss her all the time. Rest in peace Mom.

[@Maria_7440]

Praise Jesus. You stood your ground, and you will see her again. I love my mama too. She's still with me, and I try not to take a single moment for granted, while still keeping loving, firm, healthy boundaries in place. Jesus is my strength. Hugs🥲🫂🕊️💜🌹

[@Stalkedbyapsycho]

I’m so thankful for the support of my siblings as I pulled away from my drug fueled, narcissistic mother. They have given me nothing but love and support during this time as they completely understand why I won’t have our mother anywhere near me ever again. When they invite me over for family events, they make sure to let me know that mom won’t be there. Having their love during this difficult time is an absolute blessing and I will cherish it always. I’ve made myself very clear. No means no. There is no forgetting of what she’s doing. I don’t accept her excuses or lies concerning this. I wish her well in life, but that is all

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm so glad you have your siblings. May God continue to bless you on your journey.

[@DesireeHeck-y5q]

My situation exactly...l can so so relate with you Stay Strong and stand your ground...Now...I just need to take my own advice🙄

[@nikkibenz7187]

hello, count yourself fortunate, this message has helped me to have the strength to totally cut my sister off, the manipulatives lies are too much foe me, im done trying with this type of personality! im the youngest of 6, my sick toxic older sister has discredited me with the rest of my siblings, ith made up lies, and is believed by all except for one brother who said shes been a liar since childhood, the rest all believe her lies about me, again all made up, i avoid her, yet she chases me down so she can try to picks fights with nasty words and subtle inuendos etc., , but once i learned what she was doing, Jesus and avoidance is my weapon against her demonic spirit that has taken over her soul, i fed into it since it started the ones that believe her i!n my immediate family has never once asked my side, so i just wanted to say you have a very forward thinking family who really care for you, i will never be defeated by her satanic issues, God protects me, im determined to get thru this, my sister only starte this behavior in 2018, before she was my best friend, i dont take junk off anyone im a tough female veteran so i have gone off on her, but that only upset me, because her bad behavior happened all of a sudden, so I believe it maybe a mental health issue like alzheimers or dementia, i ove my sister and hope she gets help, I just saw your comment and wanted to reply, take care and Good bless and hope your mom and my sister gets help!

[@leoburgunder9201]

My experience is the opposite. My completely enmeshed siblings sided by our BPD/ NPD mother. No possible boundary was possible. Had to just walk away from a lifetime of toxic behavior and attacks on my wife and kids. Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Bright man have a great duet called "Time to Say Goodbye" that sums it up nicely!

[@ZeldasMask]

Saying no has been a game changer

[@zabraarms3865]

Yes, Boundary and Respect is very Important! If you don't follow that, they will walk all over you. Especially Family & close friends.

[@ElizabethCosta-j7g]

I so get it. I have allowed other's to disrespect . More like make them happy to like me. Not what God wants us to do. Thank you for sharing. 🙏❤️🇺🇸

[@leelindseybleshoy3861]

I could say that I stumbled across your KZbin videos but, instead, I will say our Comforter guided me to find you. I am grateful for your video advice. Thank you so much.

[@ngonigriffith1491]

I have a sister. I love her, I don't like her. She has badmouthed me to others in the past. She is currently homeless, has 4 dogs that she won't give away and is coming back in town this week. My mom has told her she doesn't want the dogs around, but she doesn't listen. She left town, and is now coming back again. My mom once again told her the same thing. I am waiting to see if she is going to disrespect her again. My sister is physically, emotionally, and financially draining. I thank you for your Christian perspective on dealing with toxic family members.

[@johansen2bfree]

What you share here is vital in both family and at church. Sonship and royalty is a part of our identity as believers in Jesus. Setting boundaries is therefore biblical self-care, as we should love our neighbours as ourselves.

[@amylink7199]

In my case, I was direct. My husband was direct and my toxic stepmother just raged. The lies and the gossip didn’t stop. Their biggest issue with me was that they didn’t like the way that I did things. They didn’t like my churches beliefs (not as Baptist as theirs). They don’t like mine and my husband’s careers (we have CDLs). And, they would gossip. It was extremely toxic with no change ever. We eventually just walked away. We hate it, but our family has been 💯 better for it.

[@kw3113]

First time hearing this one and it was Gods timing. At 59 I set a small boundary with my mom so now she’s ghosting me and my sister the enabler is telling me I need to honor my mother (oh yes mom and sister claim to be Christian) which in my family means apologize to her and then prepare to grovel and be verbally and emotionally abused until she feels better. So in two weeks it is a baby shower time for my first grandchild, moms first great gran and of course her flying monkey my sister. Between now and then I will be watching this more than once. 💞

[@alerdman2002]

I totally understand love only allows the abuse to continue its only by letting go that God can heal ,not so with a narc I hear, although Chris Reese says all things are possible with God and I believe that I am learning to practice these principles and all my affairs, whether they change or get healed is not my concern I pray for them and I protect myself I will not be a doormat , my mom was one, I people please Turf for 60 years, I woke up to wondering how long this had been happening well all my life, I was always damned if I did and damned if I didn't recovery for me has been a new Awakening I respect myself and try to take care of myself I too will be practicing this when I go to my grandson's birthday party

[@princendaba]

I just want to take this time to thank and appreciate the host of this video. I was looking for a video that could help me with setting boundaries with my siblings who are often toxic. I watched a few videos before watching this one which were terrible because they only focus on romantic relationships. While I was watching this one, I was really pleased to hear your Biblical wisdom on how to deal with this topic the right way. I have subscribed. 🙂

[@deebullock9284]

Haha...tried so many times to set boundaries with my narc mother..she even asked me once, "what are boundaries?" I gave up and just deal with her in a very very limited capacity.

[@Victoriousandbrave]

Run sis!!

[@SuperMichelleDJ]

My mother is the same way. I told her recently that I love her and hope she gets better from her current health situation but would only talk to her on the following conditions, none of which she accepted. I told her and wrote her, that these are my boundaries I have set and if she won't respect my well-being or behave in a way conducive of a healthy relationship, there would be no relationship or contact. I haven't spoken to her since. I've set these same boundaries with other family members and told them not to use how they treat my mother as an excuse for getting me involved. I will only help people who truly show that they want to help themselves.

[@SuperMichelleDJ]

My mother is the same way. I told her recently that I love her and hope she gets better from her current health situation but would only talk to her on the following conditions, none of which she accepted. I told her and wrote her, that these are my boundaries I have set and if she won't respect my well-being or behave in a way conducive of a healthy relationship, there would be no relationship or contact. I haven't spoken to her since. I've set these same boundaries with other family members and told them not to use how they treat my mother as an excuse for getting me involved. I will only help people who truly show that they want to help themselves.

[@justapseudonym7]

I have taken being clear as being mean because of how cruel my family was in demanding things. But by God's grace I break through this

[@kimberlyberger2865]

People need to understand that when you place clear boundaries it is the best way to be real and loving to other people. It needs to be done briefly and to the point and it needs to be said in a loving way. Then they need to adjust. At first they will be a little put off but they will adjust if they love you. I learned to set up boundaries and it's the best thing I've ever done in my life. We have to understand that our own happiness is just as important as somebody else's.

[@bronwenw6384]

I have tried and tested going to family gatherings and just being myself, trusting that in time the Light will reveal the Truth about me while I have been lief about by my husband and his family. This unfortunately almost caused me to lose my salvation due to ALWAYS having to forgive the same offenses repeatedly by the same people. I eventually, after two decades, had minimal contact and engagement with my in-laws. This helped a little, yet I had to cut all ties with all of them, since my husband kept spreading horrible lies about things about me. They all believed him, which in turn, led to them (my husband included), openly disrespecting me and insulting me, even at funerals. So, going no contact is the best remedy for toxic people.

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

2 Tim 3: describes horrible people, and the final instruction there is: AVOID THEM!!

[@fortheladies771]

How did you lose your salvation? I’m confused about that part. Why would you lose your salvation for trying to cope through abuse?

[@jasminelaflor9773]

I literally just started this as well! Would love to know how the no contact started as far as the result of no contact: Did you have any in-laws trying to contact you in the midst of this no contact? How are you now?

[@Maria_7440]

​@@fortheladies771Possibly because it gets harder to forgive. The enemy wears you down, the more abuse you take, and allow into your life. Eventually, even your health will suffer. I praise God I've had an extremely strong support group to keep my feet firmly planted in the Word and in my faith, while the LORD was exposing all the darkness from the narcissists in my life. I was surrounded by them and didn't know it. I would not have made it. But God had much mercy on me👑🛐💜

[@discerningtruth6848]

I can attest to this horrible behavior by my relatives. However, the fact that I have set comes in line with slander, back biting, gossiping by relatives who have a form of godliness and denial of the power thereof from such turn away. Oftentimes the usual followers of a cousin whose liken too "packs of chickens clucking along. Whenever confronted the leader of the pack Oftentimes she cries as though she's the victim and not the instigator of the family. I am not moved by her tears, but others are. Pray for one to another. 😊

[@angelakilcrease1448]

Great message

[@amandadeforest7635]

I think you are one of the most incredible people I've never met, lol! I have learned sooo much from you this week. THANK YOU!!

[@Kris_Reece]

That's so wonderful to hear. :)

[@XxXx-dp6jb]

I tried that. Short and straight to the point answers. Didnt bring about any change in him. But I stopped believing it was me.

[@KayWeezy317]

Ms. Kris, I just wanted to tell you thank you. Thank you for choosing to share your wisdom with us. Thank you for being here 24/7 with your videos available for us anytime we need them. You didnt have to wake up and decide to share your fruit, but you did! From the space of your comfort, you have touched and transformed many lives and potential generations. I want to thank you, as a woman, a mother, and a sister in Christ. May God keep you well and protected as you share and bless his children. You are truly a ROCK-STAR!! Much love from Tennessee

[@guilaretiban659]

I’ve been struggling with this, Kris. And this has given me hope that I can still do something about it. Thank you!

[@user-fs6ou3fk9p]

You're 100 percent correct. Unfortunately, I was raised in an environment and a time where I was expected to acquiesce to my elders, and I am a woman, and that is what was expected. It's hard, but I'm now setting boundaries. They are "christians" but are responding very badly, gossiping and causing horrible problems. I'm working on my response after I've been clear with my boundaries. Pausing is key for me.

[@SuperMichelleDJ]

So you've actually seen that they are not real Christians. It's a big red flag when they won't value you as a woman. I would walk away from them, never to have anything to do with those people again. i've personally learned the hard way that the people you will meet in heaven one day are the people you want to spend your life with, not the people you won't see in heaven. not that we are meant to be filled with hate because we are to love our enemies. but this does not mean we have to be friends with and have contact with literally everybody.

[@beateschaefer7563]

Extremely good and helpful biblical teaching on this very difficult issue. Thank you so much🙏

[@nausheen_nishat435]

Even though I am not a Christian, I really loved this whole video. Keep up the good work❤️

[@philipmelcheck4565]

My mother has been treating me this way for the past 32 years; I have been trying to break free from her narcissistic behavior...

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

trying? who dont u just go NO CONTACT? end of problem!!

[@johnlothian3440]

@@Lauren-vd4qethat part! Couldn’t have said that any better

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

I dont understand pple that put up with such crap. Ive gone 100% no contact with my older sister bc of physical abuse; and 95% no contact with my other sister due to complete failure to respect my requests in our negotiated reconnection regarding her contacting my kids/hubby. She agreed then renegged then denied she ever made such an agreement. so bizarre! @@johnlothian3440

[@keithstewart7514]

Trust in GOD & GUT Only. Going no contact with my 85 yo mother has been challenging. MoMster got a birthday card & call & with some luck she might get a MoMster '$ Day Card next.

[@paulettedarocha-boltney910]

Hi everybody-greetings from Cape Town, South Arica. ThankQ Kris- I fully agree with your teachings - Stay Blessed

[@juliagetty-gordon2500]

Narcissists don't see the errors of their ways , and are terribly rageful ( evil)

[@81realtime]

Great truth bombs on how not dealing with it creates a worse situation which is not the creation of the boundary breaker.

[@rjoettesquire9358]

I am so grateful for you! I am getting free & I am going to seek emotional & spiritual trauma counseling.

[@justapseudonym7]

I have family members that are very prideful and stuck in their ways (potential narcissists). I'm going to try to set boundaries for my sake, so I can grow, and try my best not to care how they react. I think I struggle with codependency.

[@digitalwasabi2]

Thank you so much and God bless you. You just shine a light on the tactics of my toxic mother, which I understand until now what she was doing. This is so liberating. I’ve been under so much false guilt!!! GOD BLESS YOU and thank you again.

[@vaggelissotiropoulos4140]

"i am with you, Kris!" amazing video! thank you for the wisdom and sharing it with all of us! much needed!!!

[@vickioliver1098]

Usually I skip over the music at the beginning of all video's, this one, while fast forwarding caught my heart, it is beautiful. Went back to the beginning and listened to it twice, bookmarked video just for the song, gonna listen to it often, especially on tough days. I love your biblical advice. Job 23:10 But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm so glad you're enjoying the mucis and the content! Thanks for watching.

[@susieneufeld1436]

Reveal, deal and heal. Makes sense. I love your answers to the questions in the end of the video! They helped me to see my situation in the right perspective. Life's tough challenges are life lessons for all of us. Some can take it and learn from it and allow it to shape them into better human beings and others will choose to take offense, push back, react and go about it their own destructive way and actually make the situation worse. I choose to learn from it and allow it to make me a stronger and better person. I love all your content! ♥️ So much wisdom! I have a question. ???At what age should a child still be under their parents authority and obey them in everything? If you're a saved, 22 year old and the Holy Spirit tells you to do the opposite of what your parents are telling you to do, should you ignore the Holy Spirit and still obey your parents in everything? In my experience, years ago, I chose to obey my parents and I suffered traumatically. Should we not always choose to obey God rather then man, even if they're our parents? The Bible isn't very clear on what age a child is free from their parents authority over them. Is marriage the cut-off point or is there an age?

[@mirnacudiczgela1963]

I think you should first obey God if you are sure He is calling you to do it, especially at 22.

[@AmatiinBC]

In the Bible it talks about the fighting age of men starting at 20. I would say this would be a good age to go by. Now i do think that for women it is different. If it is a godly/ God fearing relationship you stay under your fathers covering until marriage. I do think, though, that if it is not a godly relationship you follow what God says and take His covering.

[@beyondallreason-du4pq]

Thank you so much... now I can set boundaries without being a jerk...

[@rochelleirelandofficial5969]

Thanks so much for doing these videos! I love how you bring it back to scripture and give practical relationship advice.

[@sherrilynn8043]

Sorry I missed the live, but watching now! Thank you Kris for your guidance, YOU are such a blessing! God bless!

[@melissarain9138]

I’m happy I found your channel. Thank you, your advice is helping me with my toxic in laws.

[@annettepeltola8615]

Thank you! Such a blessing to listen to this video now. My husband and me are invited to my elder sister tomorrow. Haven't seen her for a long time.

[@mhba4866]

Wow I love it, a beautiful song while waiting for you to start. Thank you Kris. Bless you.

[@maypl4171]

I love your podcasts, this one particularly. You have helped me to be more resolute in what I need to do. God bless you in the work that you do

[@researchound]

I love the clear balanced advice! I really needed to hear this today! God bless! ❤

[@deyajairaflores9631]

God bless. Amazing explanation on how to set boundaries.

[@rachaelmwota3896]

thank you am really struggling with boundaries on family members ..

[@kurthanke5788]

As I get older, I tend to vision in my mind, lashing out at idiotic family, and/or friends. But, thankfully, it stays in my brain, or the lack thereof lol Now, I've decided, with toxic people, the best thing to do is to ignore them, and kick them to the curb. So many more times, than not, these people are worth getting mad over. For me, I have to realize, that lashing out won't solve anything. Again, for me, ignoring them will. Hold your head high, and basically, turn your back on them. Also, the woman who was hesitant about going to a wedding, due to her daughter's stupidity. That's easy, so don't go. I do not care if it's your granddaughter. More than likely, she's aware of her toxic mother, and what she says about her grandmother. So, she should understand.

[@doreenmattis9467]

When Toxic Family Want to Come to your House Checking on your Furniture Calling other family Members to discuss your home Rifling through your Personal Items even stealing your stuff you don't want those people around youBoundry is the best method to have you don't Miss them one bit

[@veroniquelange7902]

Dear Reece, Your channel is my helper in the middle of my hurtful awakening. How do you manage to stay in the same house with person, that repeatedly destroyed (or I let destroyed… working on that) your emotional stability even showing signs of change, when your thoughts are clear, your emotions kind of align also but your body is reacting like crazy since you’re seeing the truth. The fears of the body are so strong that I can’t control them with my mind. My body is now kind of over-reacting from the accumulated stress through the last 15 years. So, even if I work on my boundaries and boundaries communication, my body is in panic mode. I still need to stay for a while, looking if true repentance is happening and take care of the children and organise a proper possible exit.

[@peace7225]

8 minutes in and I'm not really hearing simple practical implementation... I believe intuition and follow your intuition... Everyone will have their own inner soul guiding them... Stay strong and firm... And sometimes no contact is necessary... That is a boundary

[@EkHiba]

Hello guys, I am 17 years old, and all my family works, so I do not see them all day. I have taken on the responsibility of cleaning the house and taking care of myself, from preparing my food and going to the grocery store, for five years, and despite my busy school schedule, I was trying to wash the laundry and clean the floor. And washing clothes, as well as disposing of garbage, and my two sisters prepare dinner, but my family always criticizes me if I do not do anything, and despite the boredom of this sacrifice and the loneliness that I suffer from, they do not appreciate this, and yesterday my mother scolded me because I had not cleaned the air fryer in a while, and I know that I I don't do my job to the fullest, but I try, and when she reprimanded me, she told me that if she wanted to, she would force me to prepare bread at home instead of buying bread every day because it is expensive. Likewise, she just did not want to force me to prepare dinner instead of my two sisters because they are tired from work .......

[@alerdman2002]

I like it... That's a New Concept I always thought it was my job to get them to agree with me LOL because my opinion was all that mattered self-centered selfishness am I part and I'll only cause me more more headache and resentment, to allow people their own feelings and their own police and response has been freeing for me I Joan Cota has helped me alot but I really appreciate a Christian attitude towards my codependency thank you Kris.... The awareness is freedom but the practice is still rough around the edges I searched her that intimacy and family relationships and it's never been there I believe Letting Go letting God will make that happen and it is happening small baby steps but I don't trust the toxic

[@sallybrasilianheart2806]

I’ve learned not to ask but to tell. I.E. not “May I spend the week with my daughter?” but “Here’s what I plan to do: I’ll be at our daughter’s house this weekend.”

[@SuperMichelleDJ]

Don't be surprised if the person in question replies back and tells you no.

[@angeladegomez8134]

Absolute excellent ❤ Thank you 🙏🕊️🙏

[@LinaCardoso-b3x]

Thank you so much for this very useful video. I needed this v much . I have toxic siblings and their toxic spouses who are very dangerous to me and my kids .

[@StacyWare-vs4kl]

I truly have a legitimate what if it's your own children that bully you and talk down to you and never lift you up but you're the one that does it for them what about them I still pray for them but there's so much of me that wants to react knowing they are better than

[@robinallums4541]

Beautifully said🌹

[@gayanekepenyan5691]

i’m so blessed by this. thank you for sharing such wisdom

[@elizabethkhatchadourian5991]

So clear, thank you, blessings ❤️🙏🏼💖

[@AmyVerran]

You have changed my whole life. I’m 63. Keep getting abusive men. I’m bipolar and add

[@gte251]

I'm with you Chris 😇🙏

[@Caligrl1044]

1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone fails to provide for his relatives, and esp ecially for those of his own family, he has disowned the faith [by failing to accompany it with fruits] and is worse than an unbeliever [who performs his obligation in these matters]. John 13:34 A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 1 corinthians 13:5 Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it. Seek Christ for his counsel.

[@tabitharoberson3575]

Love it. I'm struggling with this daily. I have boundaries. My husband is stuck.

[@violetlyananyi458]

Thank you for these valuable teachings.

[@imanuel6306]

Ó pai Deus, santa Mãe Maria, ata o meu coração ao teu ensinamento, concede-nos o milagre da alegria neste meu padre, cobre-me de outros ensinamentos, não me deixe voltar

[@m.slater493]

Thank you so much for making these videos Kris, they have saved my sanity ❤️. Thank you and God bless xxx

[@JohnDoe-id9hi]

Great information and amazing how unbiased just factual information that's easy to relate to your life. Very helpful and thank you for making videos to help others.

[@kellyjones5133]

Thank you. Very clear, good, information for boundary setting.

[@admperry1]

Amen. Just found your channel, lots of information to digest, a blessing indeed. :)

[@DeniseRobinson-d6m]

I have already commented on the fact that it takes its toll after 60 years of putting up with these family's, for me walking away just leaves the problem buried and stuffed inside!!! I have to express my innermost feelings or I feel like I am gonna burst!! By saying nothing I get the feeling it's letting them win?!! I Bel eve u have to use confrontation!! I hope somebody understands because I feel like I'm going around the same mountain over and over? Enough is enough!!x

[@theartzscientist8012]

She speaks exactly as I do. Jesus leads us to his God. If someone didn’t want that, he left.

[@nancyhjort5348]

No fuzzy lines. This is good stuff.

[@traceyseymour2652]

Thank you for your ministry. You have helped me so much ❤

[@sophieinspires]

Kris you are amazing I denied a test because it was dangerous adter that my mom gave the order that they should do that trst on me that ended with me in ICU she never repent and today I said to her that if she do something again that put my life at risk I will sue her and that an advance directive will be available so that she can't take more decision on my life of course she was upset because she is very controling but I needed to put boundaries to protect my life she didn't respect them the first time and I ended in ICU so I now warned her that if she harm me again I will sue her

[@ta2505]

What about those who have used so called "boundaries" to punish you? They require you to tow their line or they cut you off. Weaponising these strategies is so damaging. It makes it difficult for me to even hear that word now because of how it has been weaponised against me by a toxic narcissist

[@Joyjoy-ih1ie]

That's narcissistic abuse. Boundaries, real boundaries create peace. They are not harmful.

[@marymurphy367]

That's interesting, under compassion, 'the root of bitterness' 😢

[@HotSeat17]

Micah 7:5-8 [5]Do not trust in a friend; Do not put your confidence in a companion; Guard the doors of your mouth... [6]For son dishonors father, Daughter rises against her mother, Daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; A MAN'S ENEMIES ARE THOSE OF HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD. [7]Therefore I will look to the Lord; I will wait for the God of my salvation; My God will hear me. [8]Do not rejoice over me, my enemy; When I fall, I will arise; When I sit in darkness, The Lord will be a light to me. 🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏🙏 Psalms 141:3-5 [3]Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips. [4]Do not incline my heart to any evil thing, To practice wicked works With men who work iniquity; And do not let me eat of their delicacies. [5]Let the righteous strike me; It shall be a kindness. And let him rebuke me; It shall be as excellent oil; Let my head not refuse it. For still my prayer is against the deeds of the wicked. ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Thanks for addressing the inside stuff.

[@sunnyflorida12]

Your videos are always so meaningful to me! You are helping me to learn to set boundaries with consequences.❤

[@LALady1]

Definitely gifted in this area! ❤

[@TuletteBitner-t9o]

I'm ready to dive in

[@zion367]

Such a great video! Thank you and bless you!

[@firstclasslady1719]

Thank you for the advice

[@annettepeltola8615]

My job is to put up godly boundaries....

[@aaronruiz365]

I'm with you Kris

[@annettepeltola8615]

If it is in my power I will do my part.

[@Nobitaaaaas]

Im with you Kris ❤

[@tamievans498]

I'm with you, Kris

[@alexisdunham113]

Compassionate ❤

[@Simone69214]

Thank you for this video 🙏🏽.

[@juditharsenault2131]

My ex husband was always touching me or commenting about my butt or something. He would get mad when I said don't touch me and my butt is none of your business. Finally I went no contact. He thought I wasn't serious until he wouldn't leave my property and I called the police. He tried sneaking over to my house a few more times but he left and never came back. I ignore him if I see him and now he ignores me. He makes me nauseous. He hits on every woman he's around and gets inappropriate and it's disgusting. He sees women as sex objects. He cut trees with his boss on Sigourney Weaver's property in Long Lake NY and he made inappropriate comments to her. His boss fired him. Plus he argued with his boss about cutting down the trees she wanted cut because they were still alive.

[@klk1868]

Thanks for sharing.

[@KimberlySteenbergh]

I’m ready❤

[@soupafly3742]

Amen lady! U r HELPING ME!! GOD BLESS U

[@OvertonFarm]

???? I love your videos! Could you address this very difficult situation? My husband and I are taking care òf his 91 yearl old mom with dementia. His mom has been an extremely co-defendant person her whole life. Her daughter has become a very narsasitic toxic person. It is now our job to protect Mom from her own daughter because of valuable land owned by Mom. The daughter thinks she can just claim the land as her own while her own mother needs the money for her end of life care from selling the land. The daughter is creating SO much drama with her selfishness. We need to set boundaries not only to protect ourselves but to protect Mom from her own daughter, the monster she created. We do have DPA but the daughter has still physically taken over the property by living on it uninvited. Now. We are caught in jumping through legal hoops to "evict" her from the land she never had permission to live on in the first place. Ugh! ????

[@frenzyviz6296]

I have to leave this video at point one, because I need the codependency one. All my life I have been bullied, ridiculed, & suffered consequences unless I was a people pleaser, to the point I have no confidence at all in relationships. It perhaps doesn’t help that I have Aspergers, but people’s disapproval or criticism destroys me…. Then I hate myself for being weak, but if I occasionally try to stand up for myself, I feel guilty and any conflict is “my fault”. I very much doubt that anything is going to change now (in my 60s) but I will watch the video and see. Whenever suggestions are offered, I always know exactly what people will come back at me with, hence my doubt. What is the title of the codependency one? I can’t find it.

[@ROM.1089]

I understand I just started standing up for myself with my family a few years back and all hell broke loose when that started all hell broke loose soon as I started standing up for myself, to this day it is still a shock without God I never would of made it through.praying for you sorry it's hard for you it hurts deeply

[@justapseudonym7]

I struggle with the exact same thing. God has been working on me since the day I became Christian and left my Muslim upbringing. I'll never forget the day I told my mom I was Christian. That was 4 years ago and I'm still struggling with standing up for myself but it gets easier day by day. Have faith, God will do the good work in you and release you from this bondage

[@ROM.1089]

Good for you, Jesus loves you, it's happening everywhere Christians going through some kind of stress, or harassment somewhere, my family has been good it's different lately, Thank God♥️🙏

[@AlbinZysk]

this video is really insightful! you've shared some valuable tips. i do wonder, though, if setting boundaries can sometimes lead to more conflict in families. like, isn’t there a chance it could push some relatives further away instead of bringing everyone closer? what do you think?

[@MeghanNystrom]

Woowww the hair up is Gorgeous 😻

[@justsewit_tk5477]

???Was I wrong to tell my mother that she was abusing my son after she hit him (we were at her house) for telling her that his body was his own and he could make up his own mind??? ???Was I wrong to go no contact after my mother told me that Grandmothers took precedence??? I have been no contact now for 5 years after YEARS of toxic abuse and I could see it happening to my children. My mother is very controlling and thinks that she can parent my children, making my husband and I feel invalidated. I heard the voice of God telling me it was time to go that night after she told me that Grandmothers took precedence. I AM the parent! ??? Who is the boss of the kids when they are at the grandparent's house and the parents are there too???

[@Michelle-06]

Stop worrying about how that person feels. Your feels matter. Especially when it comes to your children. Yes children need discipline however people need to learn to explain things to children not just hitting them for not understanding something is just wrong. You need to do whatever you need to do in order to keep your peace or mind and stay in good standing with God the Father! I have learned it does not matter if it is your family members or not. People need to respect your boundaries regardless of how they feel about you as a person. That is not apart of God's will for you to be physically, verbally or mentally abused. You deserve what God has for you not to be mistreated.

[@TheHelenhunter]

I'm in the same situation except I live at their house rn cause I'm a single mom and going through chemotherapy. It's caused so much strive already and of course destroyed my peace of mind and sanity. My brother yells at me while I'm going through chemo about what a bad mother I am when my son who is on the autism spectrum doesn't obey him immediately. Then I'm the bad one for intervening and protecting my child. And they call themselves Christians. I loose it cause I won't let any of this crap come near my child, then I feel guilty and distanced from God. I would move out but can't due to my condition. It drives me crazy I just wanna explode. I'm pretty sure that all this emotional torment is what gave me cancer in the first place.

[@cathmorr]

@@TheHelenhunter So sorry you are going through this. I will pray that your situation changes for the better, prayers for your health as well. I pray, read the bible to have a great relationship with him. He is always waiting by our side. God bless!