How to set Boundaries with Family Around the Holidays

[@charvankerck3426]

memories of shared Christmas with whole families are treasured. blessed are families that take time to celebrate together. even if it is NOT ON DEC 25.

[@JustMeJustMe2024]

I'm so thankful for your insight and that you put these videos out there. I have been living in a family with unhealthy boundaries and expectations for years. It has lead me to pray for my children's future spouses and their relationships and pray that God will guide me through those relationships in the future as a mother-in-law, so that I don't have all the tension, stress and arguments that my mom has had with these issues. I feel your videos have been an answer to those prayers! Thank you so much! So many people need this knowledge & guidance in their lives.

[@Jess-kn8vl]

People learn the hard way that times are changing and that other people have their own moral and ethical obligation to themselves to leave any disrespectful behavior if it has a pattern of not changing.

[@Fayth_Marie]

I so wish I had had someone explain this to me before getting married. Thank you so much for this insight.

[@nicolekee1]

for all the parents out there...this works both ways don't let your kids push you around and guilt you into things on the holidays either when they are adults...this conversation is great but one sided assuming it's the grown kids controlling and deciding what to do on the holidays...maybe your parents are tired and don't want to have to do everything or host everything either!!! I absolutely loved going to my parents house and they loved having us...they are the best memories I have with all of my kids and family. I do not know what is going on now why do we give everyone permission to disconnect...go see your family and invite your parents over you'll miss them when their gone it's a few days a year

[@desireesdolls]

What about Landon's family?

[@SouthernJustice-h8t]

bit hard when my entire family was toxic and had no where to go did finally got out

[@Archimedes1988]

Every situation is different. There is so much depth to the inner world of the individual. And there is so much complexity to ruptured family dynamics. Estrangement should be reserved as a last resort, or in situations where there is severe and/or ongoing abuse. The vast majority of our relationships can actually be maintained carefully with our own good boundaries.

[@godsplan2873]

How do you handle new mothers not allowing ANYONE touch the new healthy baby??

[@manyblessings917]

You just gotta respect the Mama. Her Mother instinct has kicked in full force. Her hormones are driving her need to nurture and protect. That developing bond between Mom and baby needs to be protected and it involves unseen but real biological and chemical hormones affecting milk production, the ability to release the milk (called let down), quality of milk, etc. Additionally, she may be going through some post partum issues where she has some anxiety and scooping the baby up by others who mean well may cause the mom more stress, affecting her milk supply. It is best to put Mom and baby's needs first, above the need to handle the baby. My first born was a premie and was in the hospital for weeks. Everybody held her. Although we are close, she does not have the same bond with me as I have with my other children who were not held by all the nurses. I had post partum depression and went through a terrible time, even when we got her home from the hospital. I was distressed when others would take her. It affected my life markedly for the worse. Just respect the new mother's wishes and have grace for her. You do not know what she is going through. All the best to you.

[@manyblessings917]

One more thing. Minister to the mother. If you serve her and care for her, it will go a long way with her feeling secure and comfortable allowing you to carry the baby. Don't expect that she will but caring for mom really helps Mom relax and feel secure. Don't scoop baby up and if you feel Mom may be more receptive to baby being carried always ask and let Mom know it is ok to say no.

[@EBM0424]

Like the other commentator said: you just got to give the mother time and space. She’ll get to a place where she feels comfortable with that. I did. I was annoyed the first few weeks with family grabbing my baby. I just wanted to be alone..I just pushed a baby out and need my peace 😂 so I can understand that.

[@godsplan2873]

@@manyblessings917 thank you very much for your time and comment dear, God bless.

[@godsplan2873]

@@manyblessings917 great suggestion thank you!

[@ShreddingFinn]

Not for nothing, but traditions today are not the same. We go to the Diner for Thanksgiving, me my wife and daughter. It used to be a huge event, several families, various hosting spots, now its 70 minutes in and out, same for Christmas, we are getting a pizza tonight after church, used to be a HUGE family event, made it magic. This is a bad argument

[@godsplan2873]

@@ShreddingFinn I feel ya, it's so disappointing and very hard to keep a happy face now a days.