How to start a conversation: 5 things to say after "hello"

Don't know what to say? Don't worry! In this video, you'll learn easy ways to start a good, useful conversation. You'll learn how to choose topics for conversation, and I'll teach you the questions you should ask to start enjoyable and meaningful conversations! You're going to have fun, improve your English, and make friends! What could be better?
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TRANSCRIPT
God, I love your lips, Angelina. Hi. James from engVid. I was just thinking to myself: Well, I know it's very difficult to practice English because you don't get a lot of practice with English speakers, but if there were a way I could teach you how to get past "Hello" to make the conversation grow and perhaps have the other person come back and talk to you, that would be of great value. So this lesson is about how to get past "Hello" and make a beautiful conversation flow. All right? I'm going to use Angelina to help me later on when I do an example, but for now I will tell you more. See? He's like: "Tell me more. Hmm. I'm interested." And so am I. All right, so let's go to the board, shall we?
I'm going to give you five conversation openers. You've said: "Hello", where do you go? Personally I hate this because I teach and I hear people say: "Hello. My name is James. I am from Japan, Tokyo." The conversation is essentially dead. Dunh-dunh-dunh-dunh. Don't know if that's the wedding theme or the theme from Star Wars. Doesn't matter. You understand. It's killed. Nobody cares. You've said everything that they need to know and then they're done. So why don't we do something that actually gets them to open up and want to tell you information? Okay?
So the first one we're going to do is this one. I like this one. It's so easy, it's so true. Look for something that someone is wearing or has that you actually like. You're not going to steal it, so don't think about that. But what I mean is you like. You like the t-shirt, you like the jeans, the ear rings or something, you're like: "Cool", because that will be sincere. "Sincere" means that you really mean it and the person can feel that from you, so they'll want to share with you because you're being honest with them. All right? So we look here, number one, walk up and say... So it's like: "Hello. Love your __________ (jacket, t-shirt). That is so cool." Yeah? "Where did you get them?" or "Where did you get it?" Notice I didn't say: "Where did you buy it?" because some of the coolest things someone's going to be wearing won't be from this country. It might be: "Hey. I was in India and I picked up these beads. Yeah, it was really cool. I was outside this ashram and..." And now you've got a conversation you didn't even know. Or it might be: "Oh, I was downtown in the hippie section, you know, and it was really cool, there was all this art." You've started a conversation. If you say: -"...buy them?" -"At the gap." Finished. So: "Hey. Where did you get them?" Let them say "buy". Don't bring that up. Okay? Follow that up with right away... As soon as you say: "Where did you buy them...?" It's true... It might not be true right now, but it could be true, you say: "Because I really have to get a cool present", or: "...an interesting gift for my nephew/my brother/my sister/my friend." Right? Or girlfriend, whatever, or your wife. By saying that you're saying, well, one thing, you have other friends. But number two, you're giving them: "Cool". You're saying whatever they're wearing is interesting, cool, different enough that it stopped you to talk to them. By example or by extension, that means added on you're saying: "You're kind of cool, too, because you're wearing it and I think it's cool, so it's got to be cool and only a cool person would buy it." Right? This is why it works, you've given them two compliments. Who doesn't want to be complimented? First you're saying I'm wearing something cool, then you're saying: "I need to get something cool, and clearly what you have is cool." I'm probably going to talk to you and go: "Well, you know, thanks for saying that. I liked it because..." And conversation started, and now you have an opportunity to maybe later on talk more, and that's how you get your practice.
Number two, how about this one? "Wow, you are _________ (tall)" or: "You have _________ (really bright eyes)", or something that has to do with the physical body. The first one was about things. Physical. Now we want to talk about physical. And you followed that up with: "What do you do?" Huh? Example, you see someone, you go: "Wow, you have amazing skin. What do you do to make it so clear?" Okay? Hmm. Or: "Wow, you're tall. What do you do? Do you play sports or anything like that?" Okay? You follow it up. This is the follow up, as I said: "What do you do?" But why does this work? Now, notice this is green and I have green up here.

[@engvidJames]

What's next? Watch my new lesson on 5 questions to get the conversation going! These questions lead to deeper conversations and help you get to know people better. kzbin.info/www/bejne/a3-tZIafbNVmpNE

[@tirofijo11]

I believe that having good intentions or having love in your mind and heart these start up lines for conversation are great , but this talent come naturally to those that are positive and confident. Great Content love it. I use this with out even realizing it. Complimenting people, asking how and where the are in route too. There's many more we can list but being sincere , nice , actually listening to others, naturally positive energy and vibration can create a wonderful time together.

[@llamasugar5478]

In the example conversation, “where” shouldn’t have an “a” in it. All the same, I am a new subscriber and very much enjoy your teaching!

[@wouldanyoneelselikedtobehe676]

Is that a worm or what? Please tell me more

[@hollowtip4068]

I need a lesson on using would have or would had...lol

[@bonginkosimadi7899]

James I really appreciate your lessons, more especially on how to read effectively. I would deeply appreciate if you can teach us a lesson on how to summarise effectively as well.

[@FluffyBunny9002]

I complimented someone's jacket and then followed up with saying I need to get my nephew a gift, and that person told me they also watched this KZbin video.

[@volpage77]

😂😂😂

[@mecoder9910]

Lol

[@leo7335]

Hahahahahahaha

[@mcveigthojeda9296]

Lmao 😂

[@Khushi-xq7uc]

busted

[@SuperBodet]

"if you don't do it to your mother or your sister, don't do it to another woman" THE BEST!

[@Nature_Music_Positive]

Gold words!!!

[@SuperBodet]

I'm doing nofap

[@dominicgarcia8107]

I read this the same time he said that I was freaked out😂

[@longingheart77]

Nicky Larson hahah

[@Hdo30H]

feminism intensifies..

[@Sphinx_00]

11:09 This one is actually really good. I'm on my high school minding my own business then my classmate sit right next to me then say "Hello, do you think medusa has pubic hair?" and was like "yeah maybe, why u ask?" and he was like "Do you think it's also a snake?" then I got curious why did he think it that far. We had like a 2 hours conversation then we became friends lol. I'll never forget it.

[@TheArcher143]

lol

[@bensonplayzyt]

Lmaooo

[@isxlatediced9640]

That’s a looooong talk

[@gdc6153]

Yes you two are made for each other🥴

[@kayveeproductions2957]

Let him hit?

[@francissu9325]

Sir, you’re no just teaching English, more importantly, you’re sharing your cheerful mindset in an excellent way. Thanks!

[@Rich-in-Sodium]

Introverts: *takes notes but might not even use it at all*

[@Vizzu]

Introverts: how to start hello

[@frasernorth6568]

I'm English, but I'm still here because I'm catastrophically bad at conversations

[@user-eu9hm6bs9f]

I know all the theories, i just never like anything on anyone (including myself), and i hate sharing my own feeling. Conversation dies in all languages.

[@dingdong1519]

hello

[@Acemancello]

Write that down, write that down! *Puts notes in filing cabinet never to be seen again*

[@sbm.4]

And here we are preparing for human interaction after being quarantined for so long

[@Turtlesp5000]

🎯

[@sbuckle1171]

Exactly. Like learning to walk again after having a cast on your foot for a very long time.

[@allpraisewebb1142]

Lol

[@meow-ee5gl]

Your pfp explains it

[@milotic2173]

True wade, true

[@mohdhairi7454]

When his channel have millions subs, he just go straight to the point, no gimmick, no flashy intro . Jusy pure content . Bravo 👏

[@MeneTekelUpharsin]

True. Straight to the point is rare these days

[@preciousdouglas6656]

Hello

[@jimboulaya]

4.4 Million and counting, he is surely on top of his game.

[@Remoteflpr]

I loved the explanation of starting a conversation. The funny thing for me is, I hate being the first one to introduce myself. I’d rather they be the first one to ask. So I just don’t hand it out until then; because I’m shy..😆

[@_conquered]

Same

[@firewave9]

Same here

[@Julianghhji]

Same

[@perf3ctdrum]

Daaamn same here lmao

[@cloroxbleach6402]

If you don’t mind me asking are you male or female?

[@ilikeplant6011]

me: wow, how do you get your hair so shiny? person: I'm bald me: yeah!

[@briefingsdn8101]

hahahaha

[@Vertutame]

​@@briefingsdn8101 I cut it everyday

[@dhoragunanmuthalali3885]

😄

[@tiffanylee2011]

hahaha

[@mintheinoo4651]

I polish my head

[@lucasdelaporterie4802]

You don t teach english , you teach Life man! Lucas 🇫🇷

[@necromonta2761]

but in english :)

[@chirurgiacosmetica]

Greatest comment ever

[@Sarentoliezyl]

It is! I idolized him now

[@razza1580]

Goat comment

[@mtb_kev]

@@chirurgiacosmetica mmmmm....... sure....

[@jdrice5134]

One of the most genuine I’ve found is simply asking “how was your day?” Stating your name then asking that is one of the most honest conversation starters

[@evangeline4966]

Some don't want to give too much details to people they don't know and just say "good". This only works if you're trying to make a conversation, not withstanding the response or the other person is quite extroverted.

[@jdrice5134]

@@evangeline4966 very true didn’t think about that. I just thought it was genuine

[@preciousdouglas6656]

Hello sir

[@RandomMcRandomness]

​@@evangeline4966 Nice way to say that's a BORING QUESTION. I totally agree. It's so boring!!! 😉🤣

[@BigS4mu_]

I would like this man to teach my kids how to talk and get in to good conversations with people.

[@dropoff2986]

Why don’t you just learn for yourself? This way you can teach your own kids..

[@trueblueryu5713]

If your kids have or will have reliable access to KZbin in some capacity, make sure these are some of the videos you show them first.

[@winterwarden]

this video so mediocre like damn just let them go out and talk to people. kids are natural learners dont put a lid on it

[@ken-ny3nh]

Dude, your kids are an extension of you. They copy what they see. Think about that, everything they learn starts from you! So, you learn this first and show them by putting it into practice for them to see. That's all, man. Stay safe out there!

[@PlanetC64]

"Listening more than you speak is a skill" YUUUUUUP!

[@sobervision1049]

@Icewulf if you never listen people won't feel like talking to you. That may sound like peace but it hurts you more than you probably think

[@jeremiahfyan]

Working at retail gave me this ultimate ability lmao

[@gdc6153]

Try telling that to my Son🙄

[@aladeochuko5596]

I was commenting on when I come across you and all what you just said in your comments is great and amazing, I will like us to been a friend's, is that's okay with you..??

[@8000watts]

Even those who’ve grown up with English as their first language, should watch this. This is great stuff, man!

[@bulobakika7418]

Hello

[@mauriceware2323]

@@bulobakika7418 pppp ppl that can p

[@mr.bhewjew3212]

That’s exactly what I am doing

[@niquiidlewood9326]

Lol, me! 🙋🏿‍♀️

[@lavieestbelle6068]

Totally agree, he is an excellent teacher.

[@saulgster]

I'm a man and I love that he took the time to speak to us directly. Respect and kindness towards women as well as anybody else is most important.

[@ivy_savage69]

4 million subs hasn't changed his methods, nothing can stop this absolute Chad

[@mrfunk9758]

This guy is like the Bob Ross of English 😂

[@jezdelion7729]

Looooool!

[@mrobitwice77]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Smokeynagata69]

This was actually a very cool comment

[@rickydellaway543]

Nice👍🏼

[@dreammeer2068]

Would like but unliked to leave at 420

[@GODSPEEDseven]

James, this isn't just useful for someone learning English, but for someone like me, who is shy and gets nervous when approaching someone. This video is extremely helpful! Thank you.

[@Boomin4u]

“I’m not a player I just crush a lot” -This guy

[@nofriends3904]

rj

[@xpertkidd1150]

Big Pun lol

[@jeffalbillar7625]

I just listened to that song yesterday.

[@derekking9084]

My motto lol

[@joshhayes4323]

Balllla shot cawwwwlaaaaa 20 inch blades on the impaaawwwlaaa

[@barbarosseferde]

James you are not only a great English teacher but a wise brother for me at the same time who is telling special hints about the life. I watch you to relax and have a rest when I got home... Please don't stop making these videos... Many thanks...

[@evanhoffman3574]

If only all teachers taught like him, great content

[@gdc6153]

Right😂😂

[@eureka2122]

Ikr

[@mello.1483]

@Dracco Princes sometimes teachers are boring, confusing or sometimes mean. It’s not always the student.

[@natalyoswin5753]

you are the best teacher i've ever seen) thank you so much )

[@jacob014]

Oguzhan Gezer i tought i was only the one from turkey who watch this channel 😀😀

[@kerimbeyfini1551]

me either

[@jacob014]

Ulaş Albatu to be honest i already know English and it is enough for me but the I am just watching this channel just because if I learn something new

[@jacob014]

Ulaş Albatu türkiyeden bu kanalì takip edenler bir birimizden haberdar olalım mesela Ben truzimciyim ve bu yûzden ingilizceyle ilgileniyorum ya sizler?

[@kerimbeyfini1551]

ben bir öğrenci olarak, İngilizce'mi geliştirmek adına bu kanalı takip ediyorum. bence çok profesyonel bir hoca.

[@smokeynagatastillthegoat9622]

Been practicing my socializing lately with complete strangers. Anxiety is still there but I have indeed gotten better with words

[@a1productionsva]

Be proud of yourself for putting in the effort. Most people still in stage 1............... like me! 🤦🏾‍♂️💀

[@juicyfruitjay]

@@a1productionsva ugh same. So true kudos ^^^

[@merlinseryim2159]

@@a1productionsva same here i even have trouble keeping conv with strangers.;(

[@Activeuser07]

How do you start off usually ? Lol

[@luckylee5026]

Me too😖

[@24kche]

Thought this was Ron Artest showing me how to get these breezys

[@cqptainbear]

Its the head shape that really does it

[@Boomin4u]

Catch me taking shit and this comment from the crowd :p

[@test-ky8tu]

Not metta world peace😂😭😭

[@antdeeziak2120]

Kinda looks like a mix of usher and Metta world peace lol

[@blackiechan18]

No cap

[@luke7842]

I don't know why I just watched this whole video as English is my first language... You're a very compelling teacher

[@ducanhduong6526]

hello. love your money. where did you get them?

[@fupingzhao6072]

haha

[@whatamio-o9112]

lol

[@Flyerstone]

Nice hint right there, lol...

[@cescmunoz4689]

it* (it's uncountable)

[@amandareis5502]

lmao

[@foggiboi6969]

I grew up American knowing englishs but always had a hard time starting or continuing conversations thanks James!

[@inkcross879]

As a tall person, being complimented about being tall isnt exactly an effective conversation starter. Its not something we worked towards or had a choice in the matter, i feel people liked to be recognised for their efforts (height isnt one of them). Also, most of us probably got that alot growing up, so it becomes a boring topic even if you are genuinely sincere about it.

[@williamwallcroft2559]

Quite relatable your comment is.

[@_Just_Another_Guy]

If you're in Asia, it is seen as one of the preferred traits lol. They like tall people there cause 99% of the population are under 5'8".

[@onetallgirl1369]

I was thinking the same thing! I'm also tall and I actually hate when people come up to me and say " your so tall!" I know this I have lived with myself for the last 31 years! lol!

[@movements5139]

@@onetallgirl1369 how tall are you ?

[@onetallgirl1369]

@@movements5139 5'11

[@user-tg2yr2ht5i]

I am from Canada and English is the only language I speak. Some of James’ videos I’ve been watching lately are useful even for me! You can learn a lot from James.

[@AsaanHai]

Excellent, Brother.....

[@frits8986]

This is your excellent brother?

[@AsaanHai]

@@frits8986 Do you have any problem???

[@donjrduckify]

@@frits8986 The word "BROTHER" is used mostly by Black men or Black women to other Black Man in recognition that we may have different families, and I don't know you and you don't know me, but wecame from the same place therefore, we are family. Or it can be used in any race to show a feeling of love and respect for the other man such as a friend." My Brother" is more than blood relative, it is love!

[@SAINTxSZN]

@@donjrduckify A lot of southern white men say brother

[@kenpachi950]

@@SAINTxSZN southern men use brother a lot no matter color lol

[@jarrodbai]

This video, along with a number of your others, has been extremely helpful in overcoming my social anxiety. Thanks for the knowledge!

[@borntwice4724]

This guy is good, I can only imagine him at a club.

[@bogdanstanivuk1775]

Maybe more of a cafe thing than a club bcs music is often too loud to speak normally and you have to scream in other person's ear in order for them to hear them

[@gdc6153]

No shit. He probably going home with a brod every night😂

[@paulofrances2908]

Wing man

[@Breezisdead]

This guy's information is solid. But like another person said here above in the comments I don't these tactics are best using a club setting. Got loud music alcohol so many different other factors that don't lend to a real conversation

[@hayatullahtayeeq5086]

friendly teacher, i love your accent, and actions during teaching.

[@sharonmohalland4244]

Love your style of teaching James.

[@gdc6153]

Homie is dope af

[@SaraMohamed-wt4bf]

For a person who was and still quarantining...you didn't teach me conversation openers, you actually taught me how to survive when it comes to me going out and need to talk with a human being. You're very loved Mr. Too much respect ❤️

[@RamyTheGreat]

"I love your lips Angelina" is now my ice breaker.

[@zion6898]

this man been on my recommended for a good minute guess i’ll give him a sub

[@aimeeevans1817]

He’s teaching a lesson. I’m like, “damn look at that worm illustration on on the left!” Lmao 😂

[@rozziec.3197]

Me too. What’s up with the worm

[@gdc6153]

Yall probably failed English😂

[@DevSA874]

😂😂

[@WJessiM]

James I think you’re a beautiful human being. You teach me the English language beautifully. Every video is an enjoyable watching experience. Thank you!

[@altheafoster632]

James got knowledge and wisdom and understanding never get tired of listening to him

[@kuzan421]

me: tries to avoid every conversation in life KZbin recommended: How to start a conversation

[@youdontcare1872]

lmao so true

[@morganstarchild5359]

Haha right!

[@tylergreene9316]

This should have more likes.

[@dorothywelsh100]

James, the more I listen, the more I learn. I am working on reading 15 minutes a day. Thank you!

[@MRphipps54]

I’m a native English speaker but James has great videos for everyone.

[@MissPigments]

James, you have such a soothing voice and it makes me want to watch all your videos.

[@victor_nunez_20]

Y can’t our teachers teach us this, this is my first time focusing to a teacher 😂😂and I learned something new and new skill😂😂🙄

[@engvidJames]

Watch the sequel to this lesson: when to END a conversation! Learn 4 signs someone wants to stop talking, and expressions you can use to end a conversation politely. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmenZX-Xjc-Gis0

[@kleina126]

If you read this James, i want to say thanks for your videos. You have absolute skill, the right bit of humor and a good respectively view on communication.

[@missv9101]

James: *makes video for non-native speakers* Me: *takes notes despite being fluent my whole life* 😂

[@yayyyzzz]

This is fantastic. I am a native English speaker but my parents aren’t so even though I know English, I always feel pretty lost and inept with certain social situations and expectations and cues and carrying conversation. James you are an incredible teacher!!

[@martinhernandez2065]

"I want to be the very best" First thing that came to my head "Like no one ever was"

[@jhanelledionne8236]

To catch them is my real test

[@EpisodicEagle]

To train them is my cause

[@godsparcethelord5604]

I will travel across the land

[@prav2568]

Searching far and wide

[@TheGaara802]

Each pokemon to understand

[@gloriaairlog5783]

NEVER say to me:“wow you’re so tall, do you play basketball?“ I haaaaate it so much

[@julioalarmo839]

I know i got you bro. But when someonde do that its because want to talk with you and they are interested on you. So take it as a positive sign.

[@user-xq2fz5tz9t]

What people said to me: "You're so tall, you must be so long down there" "As long as you're happy then that's good" "So long, my friend"

[@scullik9542]

@@user-xq2fz5tz9t Yeah but she’s a girl so that’s why she don’t when guys say that

[@tee-moneysalis9251]

Are you tall???

[@DayTripTookItTo10]

Who tf hates ebing tall

[@flvffcinna]

Hello sir, this just popped up in my recommendation. I do not regret clicking on the video. The way you speak is very captivating. I always don’t know what to say after “Hello”, thanks for helping. Have a nice day sir

[@camelo1495]

My problem is after the initial questions I am genuinely bored of the interaction as it goes no further than my own interests. Breaking this ingrained habit of losing interest is not easy and it has continued to do harm to my interactions with people.

[@breechoi5489]

me too

[@azinafifi5421]

Your teaching is wonderful and what you teach is useful for me in learning English. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@billywells3320]

My man teaching English and manners. I like it!

[@Yomi_0402]

As an introvert, I found this very helpful! Thanks!

[@benjaminngopwaamos6878]

This is great not just for people learning English for the first time, but also for people who have trouble kickstarting conversations.

[@danielmaylett1710]

"Hi! Do you consume enough calsium and vitamins?" Smooth

[@alt842]

Joe Rogan would approve

[@MeneTekelUpharsin]

@@alt842 Why?

[@mirza_saabb193]

@@MeneTekelUpharsin he's pretty big into natural supplements

[@susanparker9916]

These are great tips. I teach students with autism. Many of them are highly verbal but lacking in social skills. Directly teaching these kind of tactics helps them a lot.

[@teresacoombs1917]

That's wonderful, God bless you.

[@gdc6153]

Keep Up The Good Work

[@aladeochuko5596]

Hey Susan.. How are you feeling today I hope your day is as bright as your pretty smile today.

[@agbaclinching1242]

Hello

[@dottimuchow2944]

Years ago I took Dale Carnegie course on "How to Win Friends and Influence People" which taught how to have conversations. Great course material.

[@basilmuyawala]

I just love how he teaches and I’ve been binging his videos.

[@jadenlee2616]

James, you are the best English teacher that I've never seen before! All your lectures are extremely helpful for me! Keep updating us and thanks for your efforts!

[@6d6575]

As a relatively tall man, don't ever ask someone if they played sports.

[@mynamesjeffhardly]

I'm sure you get that all of the time lol just like short people get short jokes

[@jmm1817]

So did you?

[@alejandromayorga8614]

I am also tall, 2 me is a very boring reoetitive and boring question

[@Mhoohing36]

Honestly. I’m 6’5 and 😶 is my face when I hear that

[@rellbachanal2751]

Honestly....like I get they were complementing my height to a certain extent but it doesn't being up much of a conversation especially if you don't play basketball😂

[@simplelifeq]

I'm 32 years old and this lesson is the best i ever had. i'm recommending it to all my friends. Thank you sir

[@Malandro218porvida]

As an introvert is interesting to see all the work that goes into having a conversation

[@mattj1556]

James from Japan: Why does he keep using me in his examples.

[@bruno6027]

James may, aka bim

[@olukenyosamuel3658]

😂😂

[@shikohliza]

Now that u caught him,let's see how the conversation will go down.

[@Flyerstone]

I really like your videos, I don't find them boring.

[@NMTotra]

how to finish "I want to be the very best" by singing pokemon together obviously! that would the best way

[@teabone2313]

My thoughts exactly

[@bitofwizdomb7266]

I don’t have problems starting conversations . Always curious about others but I’m aware enough not to be intrusive , aggressive, or out of place . I know my boundaries. I’m genuine and kind :) Just interested and curious about people

[@ian1697]

are you wearing 3 shirts

[@user-kb3if7uk2h]

ian clark omg im laughing out loud

[@iiiverson]

hahahaha😂

[@yeariel7279]

LMAO

[@ariesariesfearless4810]

@@user-kb3if7uk2h hahhhha

[@saidkhrach6521]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@user-hx7mi7ml8u]

It’s not “negative” to be shorter, but some people in society make it so. I don’t like it when some people especially, point out that a man is “so short” and make fun of it. People can’t help their genetics, what’s wrong with being “short?” Really tall people probably don’t like hearing all the time, “You are so tall!” Some people think just because a person is naturally “thin” that they can point it out to them. “Hey, string bean.” But, they wouldn’t like it if some thin person said to them, “Hey, fatty.” People should be more sensitive on how they approach topics about people’s heights and weights.

[@lionobama1397]

being tall is being a "good" thing while its the opposite being short, everyones opinion find that tall people are better than short ones (not mine) so usually calling someone very short or very tall may vary their reply

[@da-railsmith8828]

A lot of people on social media need to watch this!

[@MellowDarkflower]

Me, an introvert Me: Hello, how're you? Them: I'm fi- Me *ends conversation*

[@raphaelb5237]

Thats not an introvert thats just you being weird man

[@ReceivedYou]

For me it’s like this: Me: how are you doing? Them: good me: *spends an hour trying to think of topics to bring up*

[@slaughtershawt4354]

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[@MeneTekelUpharsin]

@@ReceivedYou While trying not to be too cheesy or too cynical

[@igorjevtic206]

This is so much more than conversation openers! Thanks for this great video!

[@YoriwangKoKoMoN]

This video not only helps us with starting conversation in English, but also with one in our mother tongue. Especially when i got to have a blind-date with someone ... this would not be the way you intended James i guess.. But this would also mean that your video always helps in many other ways not only with English. So THANK YOU SO MUCH for all your wonderful videos and i will catch up with every single video you published real soon!

[@toddworley2803]

I think you're great at what you do and very important in today's i phone society. God bless you James!

[@billionairedreams1894]

Thank you~~ have been watching your channel for couple of weeks ago and it's really make sense and it really help me through

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the sad thing is that im not even from a country that doesnt speak english..i just cant speak to people

[@Vinaykumar-bf8hj]

MissesKitty same with me

[@CupOvTee]

You can. Asocial people need to be immersed in hobby. You can't randomly pop up on someone and ask them where did they get clothing. You need to have a strong on-going hobby that made you and another asocial being close. After "Oh, hi, you're doing this hobby as well.", he or she might reply "Uhh, yeah, umm, I've been doing it for (almost) that many years.". Then you ask a question, he or she reply, and after third question if he or she stays to talk, you'll find a common topics, otherwise he or she will go running away in terror of communication. :D

[@arquielmencia4083]

My advice to improve this is heard a song that you like in English and get the lyrics and follow up and read the song and try to sing with artists, do this couple time daily and you will noticed when you try to talk to somebody is gonna be easier you word is gonna come out right away. Try to get a job in McDonnal or any fast foot merchandise

[@franciscorivas4036]

Maybe you are shy. Let's talk to me

[@amansur1]

You can use these tips with any language...

[@guiegberto9296]

im impressed, he's an amazing teacher! looks like if i was in a real class! Congratsss!!!!

[@ryanwakefield617]

Even as an English speaker this is nice advice. I know it may seem weird or odd. But I have an issue with knowing what to say and believe it’s a social anxiety I have where I just don’t say anything. So these really are great tips to get the ball rolling and have a connection made without being about main topic.

[@rdd4563]

We're in the same boat, man. I'm looking for beginners guides to conversations cuz I suck socially, I actually thought up something like a theory for this stuff, I was raised by my mother but she just gave me a phone and let me raise myself. I think a key factor to people growing up is their upbringing, as a kid, were you chronically online?

[@nthoney4557]

How dare you click dislike. This teacher is real good. A real good teacher. Those people dislike the video are wierdo. You are a awesome teacher. I mean it.

[@spanglishasmr4328]

This is so easy and clever to implement, that im genuinely shock on how effective it can be on a conversation

[@joeadakurugu2775]

Hi James! I love your teaching strategies, so useful. MUCH APPRECIATED!

[@kellycavalcante8526]

You're the best man teacher that I have seen. Actually, that I have watched teaching all of us. Thank you so much. :D Your lessons are awesome.

[@facu_avm]

I came here expecting to learn more english, but ended up learning how to be better at socializing 😅👍🏼

[@1stgenwealthy]

His voice is so soothing 🥺

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[@danielhernandezflores594]

Thank you, James. I enjoy your talents and skills for teaching.

[@lukemillar6461]

I’m in sales and I’ve been using your videos to help me keep clients engaged and it’s been helping a lot so thank you!

[@clockywork]

What an underrated channel. Excellent

[@corazonazul9514]

I’m learning alot !! Thank you Sir James , GOD bless you .

[@chuckg.7791]

I love your knowledge sir! I've been working on getting my verbiage back in tact. I definitely appreciate you for this.

[@leratomzondi1157]

I love your accent, intonation and the way your voice connects with your viewers

[@exploreventures101]

You are not only english teacher, you teach good and nice conversation

[@lamthikimoanh5717]

I really love your lessons. It's useful and interesting. Thanks!

[@waterlaw6474]

I really love all of your videos so much! I keep on watching every single of it like I'm watching a movie marathon 'cause you're so funny! and I love how you've been able to explain or use simple words for us to understand everything you're saying. Thank you so much, I learned a lot! ^____^

[@LegendaryLdawg]

This dude is a legend. Love his energy!

[@zukai2596]

Thanks James! Great video even for native speakers to practice coming out of their shell.

[@nathanbrannan5228]

Do you have a method for exitting a conversation smoothly, without it being awkward? I'm working on this problem. I just need the basics in order to pick this stuff up.

[@MrHuddo]

So is this someone you're romantically interested in or a platonic friend? Either way, brevity is always your friend when trying to pique interest in someone else. In layman's terms, a good but brief conversation would go something like... You: Hey, what'd you have for dinner? Other person: Haha, that's a strange question umm I had spaghetti, what about you? You: I know I just like food, umm I had blah blah. Other person: Omg I love that food blah blah blah At this point they'll be genuinely engaged with you, because EVERYBODY likes food. You might think it's weird but I use this exact dialogue all the time including on my current girlfriend (we've now been dating almost 4 years). The number one thing to remember is DO NOT LINGER. Make it seem like you have to be somewhere even if you don't, but whilst you're with the person, give them your undivided attention. Always leave on a good note, don't wait for it to get boring then leave...

[@nathanbrannan5228]

Dah Dah Short conversations like: Me: Hey what's up? Other Person: Nothing much. How about you? Me: It's going pretty good. I was wondering if you wanted to hang out on Friday? Other Person: Yeah sure, just let me know a time! Me: (I usually say something, but when someone pauses for a long time and doesn't walk away or back out of a conversation, it gets difficult to continue conversing for me)

[@TheToneBender]

Nathan Brannan Art of manliness has a video on it

[@nathanbrannan5228]

Ricky​ K, thanks!

[@irisbailar3980]

If you and the other person seems to be done talking you can just say it was great talking with you, maybe we can have coffee and talk more later. Or you can just say you have somewhere to be and also say you enjoyed talking with them. You can start with it was great talking and finish with you have to head to wherever you need to go. Example, I enjoyed talking to you. Maybe we can meet again sometime, I have to go to work or class or home. Just be honest. Say what you would if he or she was a good friend.

[@the4th975]

Stranger: tell me how you would finish this phrase: “I wanna be the very best” Me: that no one ever was!

[@17thsubject]

This is amazing. I’ll watch a vid everyday. Loving it