How To Stay Strong When Life Falls Apart

[@EmmanentDoom]

I’ve been a month sober after daily marijuana use, it’s been rough but I’m so glad I did it. I also went on keto to lose weight (weed = munchies = weight), so I have a lot of energy. I feel like I’m rediscovering myself. Still have some friendships to mend that fell apart from the addiction, and that’s been tough. Writing letters has been my go-to.

[@crewboy23]

Do you have those very vivid and intense nightmares people experience when getting sober from that stuff?

[@EmmanentDoom]

@@crewboy23 no, I have always had night terrors that crop up when I’m stressed. Like wake up screaming because I think something is in the room type of night terrors. Getting to sleep without weed is definitely harder though.

[@legslikewhoa]

I can’t believe this is the first comment I’m reading. I relapsed two months ago and it has been ruining my life. Need to quit again but I feel so overwhelmed.

[@zeth13073]

@@crewboy23 you can't be serious? Nightmares from stop smoking weed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mimimonster]

Wow! Congratulations! Good luck to you and your progress

[@alainawilson1033]

As a caretaker of schizophrenia - Dr. John you were 100% spot on about that.

[@Raminakai]

I related very much to the caller who moved far from her hometown. Mine was 3,000 miles. I grew so much and was stretched beyond my imagination. I am glad I went, am now a stronger and wiser person. What I realized is that I liked who I was, and the place , I came from. It felt like many of the people I was forced to interact with in the other location, wanted me to be someone I was not. Fighting to be me was important; I backed myself up. I had to be put in that situation to realize I was worth fighting for.

[@patriciaegan7244]

You know what’s great, your Son is still talking with you.

[@patriciaegan7244]

Many of the problems start with a break down of what a person knows or finds out about their lives. To the caller, I hope you find successful help for you, your Son, and family.

[@akramdinzly7777]

People can said those words to stay strong but it ain’t easy

[@philipgermani1616]

They mean well when they say this, but when you think about it, it's the strong telling the vulnerable to be strong. it's easy for them to say.

[@amyzweber1406]

It's important to borrow strength when we feel like we don't have it in ourselves. Borrow from a 'healthy' friend, a family member, someone who knows there is a higher power to draw from. The most important thing is that the person(s) you choose need to be a trusted source. I reach out to Al-anon for this, but there are other sources. It's imperative you REACH OUT!!

[@tinam761]

Eddie, his 🧠 brain can heal. My son has had drug induced psychosis, PTSD, anxiety…. When he has been sober it can take a long time to heal, but he has come back to “normal”. I hope this gives you hope. My son smoked A LOT of pot, meth, and LSD. Something we have noticed in our family is a sensitivity to processed foods (fast food inevitably will bring on depression) , too much sugar and caffeine affects us as well. A healthy diet, rest, exercise… taking walks outside… those things really help. In the medication front… be EXTREMELY careful if the medication he is taking is a benzodiazepine. Xanax, diazepam… DO do research. They can end up causing WORSE anxiety. They are for VERY short term use. My 🙏🏼 prayers are with you … he can get better … a healthy lifestyle and therapy will help tremendously.

[@sunshine3914]

This is true of the brain, as well as the body… for someone who is young… like under 30.

[@terashaking4119]

Dr. Delony, great job with the father who called about his son's mental breakdown. This program is so beneficial from an educational standpoint. Your empathy and transparency are top tier.

[@elizabethmalin4566]

Haven't listen to the whole thing yet, but the dad needs peace as well. I hope he gets some help as well.

[@telsamace7211]

Hi, I just want to say how much I appreciate your programs! I just listen to your extremely wise advice, uncovering the deeper layers, so many things hit home to me, just amazed at your sensitivity, the way you apply yourself to the callers, it is so upbuilding. I love it that it's not wishy- washy, but solid, real and challenging! Thank you!

[@Mysterious_Moon]

It sounds like caller 2 w/hub AND caller 1’s son was are property managers, plus all the other stuff. With certainty, both of them are out of their minds stressed out. I almost lost my mind too during COVID in that position, with 8 years under my belt. People treat that PMs worse than garbage and if you have no boundaries, you’re finished. Don’t go back to that industry. Don’t live on-property- no matter the discount. Sending love your way!

[@patriciaegan7244]

To the caller that missed her family; sometimes it’s better to distance yourself to find out what you want to do. If you move back home, I hope you find your right path.

[@rosamoreno4794]

Weed and alcohol is a gateway to break downs and harder substances 😕

[@GwenMotoGirl]

To Eddy, I claim to know little, but I do know this. Changing my diet to mostly animal products - fattier meats, eggs, butter, bacon, good fats (no sugar, no grains, no processed foods, no inflammatory foods) - dramatically impacted my mental health. Food matters for mental well-being. I’m praying for you and your son. As parents of adults, we can feel helpless when they are hurting.

[@iw9338]

Yes, IBS gone, anxiety and depression are gone. Eating beef bacon butter and eggs 😅

[@GwenMotoGirl]

@@iw9338 IBS did not go away for me, but I still consider my changes as excellent. I’m glad you found healing!

[@oliviachampommier5481]

My family member was diagnosed with drug endives psychosis from marijuana use and was in a mental hospital for a month where we thought she was going to have brain damage. Then about a year later was diagnosed with bipolar disorder mania

[@patriciaegan7244]

I appreciate this call. I’m not sure, but it seems when it comes to mental illness, although many might argue this, mental illness is still not mainstream in the medical world.

[@BookReviewswithMeredith]

This is the perfect timing thank you so much

[@basednwhitepilld]

Real estate and property management takes a certain type of person and can be extremely stressful. He needs a different job immediately

[@brightpage1020]

Dr. Deloney, what do you think of Dr. Amen's work with brain imaging?

[@tonipetrova]

To the first caller, I don't think marijuana the problem (I am not endorsing it either). I think your son has too much on his plate, more than he knows how to handle. Maybe he wants to do well, to make you as parents proud, do what he has been taught to be "right and good" but it seems that he does not know how to handle failure. He may not want to disappoint you, but at the same time he is overwhelmed. You can work with therapist, or have a talk yourself with him to let him know it is OK to make a step back at work, have a job that involves less responsibilities. At 21 you don't have enough experience and resilience to handle the same level of responsibility and withstand pressure as if you are 25, 31 or older. If he changes his job to something less intense, you will see immediate change. Life is not a a sprint, but a long-distance runs. Learn to carry just as much as you can handle, no more no less, so that you don't crash but rather grow with time.

[@SarahStar00]

This is really good advice. Thanks for sharing.

[@brennanleyen]

Anyone else notice Delony trying not to show how exciting Samantha’s voice is? Pull it together Delony! Lol

[@codeymccray8278]

Cbd with thc gives me really bad anxiety. Really bad shakes and Sweats

[@BeingLifted]

Yeah, it sounds like Kody's son is going to be A-OK. It doesn't seem that his son got heavy into anything really harmful and addictive, including alcohol. He got hit with a lot at once and at a young age. I'm sure a lot of our prayers are with him (for as long as this video is being viewed!), mine included. ✌️💜💚❤️💡

[@DebbieBennett-p5v]

The father with the son that is having mental issues die to drugs its heartbreaking. It hits home for all of us with children that is being controlled be satan. We

[@lilinsulatorchick9665]

The last caller has my empathy. Being the wife/partner of an addict (especially seggs) is a hard position to play. And just like john said, its the fact that he looks you dead in the eyes and says "my needs are more important than yours". Thats something alot of addicts do, feed their addiction with complete disregaurd for anyone elses feelings. Now, i can half way understand a drug addicts reasoning because the have to stay high to function and may be sneaky to curb the shakes.. but sex addiction doesnt physically hurt their body, so they continue to offend just to do it. Which can really mess with the wife's head. Especially because shes supposed to be the one in line to fullfill his desires, but he goes elsewhere. Its a psychological burn. And whats even sadder... is that this is so common this day and age. Seggs addicts are given a plethora of temptations and the week ones cave. And the spouse is left crumpled up in the corner.

[@TheDriller100]

this dad needs help .. his falling apart

[@elizabethmalin4566]

2nd caller so vague.

[@apriltownsend8463]

You must've been in Arkansas LOL

[@calisworldcalisworld2152]

My husband has no sex drive, so he says, which gives me body image issues. And I watch porn to get myself buy. I don't feel like I'm in a loving marriage at all, I just long for him to give me physical attention but he doesn't. It makes me think he's getting it somewhere else. It's very lonely 🙁 🥺

[@joesillamanrs7189]

I’m so sorry for you. No sex, no relationship. He has to be into porn. You gotta reconnect somehow!

[@blueseptember2174]

​@@joesillamanrs7189porn is the cancer of relationships and also filled with darkness.

[@KingandServant]

Pinball wizard

[@tomnohmy1273]

I'm alot stronger in my work outs

[@lah189]

Christ is the answer to all of this.

[@jeradkiester698]

Ladies, if you can't fit in your wedding dress, you don't respect your husband. Men, if you can't retire your wife, you haven't earned a trophy wife.

[@brennanleyen]

That’s disgusting. Women’s bones actually spread during child delivery and even if weight is lost, there are changes. It’s a stupid saying and stop saying it

[@rebeccamurphy3251]

Please don’t marry. Woman’s hips grow in size during pregnancy and stay that way after childbirth a lot of the time, you can even go up in shoe size. Grow up.