How to Stop Being Socially Awkward.

[@rmart1192]

"...or when they say something you dont understand, ask them a question." Me, asking "what?" for the 27th time because I can't hear them 🙃

[@princess_zulica]

my friends started getting annoyed and ignore me atp bc of this

[@victorh.8156]

My go to is “ Speak up a little, I’m deaf from my left ear” even thoe I’m not, usually gets them speaking louder😂

[@Murfeynews]

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[@princess_zulica]

my mind freezes and i have no charisma. i stutter and i cant think of anything smart or funny to say. i understand i have to focus on others, perhaps thats my biggest problem, but i freeze. im too stuck to think about anything else and im tired of hating myself for it. just talking to others wont bring some inner me ive been missing for a long time. edit: I think i found out why i feel terrible about myself. turns out im not a shitty person, I just have unrealistically high standards on myself and how I should be in social interactions. I think I need to be ontop of every aspect whether its being charismatic, funny, kind, yada yada, but no one really cares.. as long as your nice and you can make people smile here and there, your an amazing person. my standard of a good person was wayyyyy too high so if you never feel like your ever enough, maybe your just being too hard on yourself. maybe you are enough.

[@1Za5203]

I feel you😢

[@princess_zulica]

@1Za5203 hopefully we get through this 🙏

[@brucewallace444]

Like he said, you have to practice, practice, practice. The more you get out there the less nervous you will be

[@1Za5203]

@@brucewallace444 what if Im tired of trying?

[@brucewallace444]

@1Za5203 If you want to give up, no one is going to stop you. Just know that it is achievable for anyone. The longer you stay of practice socially, the harder it will be to get it back. You can change your life starting tomorrow. There will be awkward moments. But if you don't do anything then in 5 years you will be the same, or even worse. If you put in effort and get out of your comfort zone, then in five years, you can be extremely charismatic and charming.

[@renegade-master29]

Been surrounded by the wrong company makes you socially awkward

[@WHlFF]

I’m not nervous. Everyone just hates me

[@lyadderouazi4219]

U okay bro? 😭💀

[@WHlFF]

@@lyadderouazi4219 so funny man

[@blueischiii1575]

Are you sure? Often times we think people hate us because we hate ourselves.

[@ethanredd3342]

The story we tell ourselves is never true, stay strong brother

[@humanperson3365]

@@blueischiii1575 people hate me AND I hate myself, it can be both you knwo

[@braydoncoker356]

You don't have to be interesting, you just have to be interested 👍

[@dylancarter6211]

I’m tired of practicing it’s been this was ever since I was a child I never made friends everyone always leave no matter what I do or try it’s hard to keep going when there’s no reward for trying I give up

[@epieon943]

Don’t give up. You got 1 life in this world, make the best out of it. The more uncomfortable you are in a situation the better the progress.

[@mobgamer6346]

Tell me about it! Whenever I make friends, they just end up leaving me or I have to leave them. It’s so hard to make and keep friends, especially when you go to a new school and have to start all over again.

[@melillo1227]

Just accept that's who you are, maybe you're autistic or you're just awkward. You could develop a sense of humour towards this awkwardness and see it in a new light and joke about it

[@rhytmicexistance]

I have a method. I usually find my self in awkward situation where there is a joke that you I funny and want to share but nobody laughs at it when I tell. So if you think you are fragile and afraid of being broken just dont care. Think of the others are not that strong, neither rock solid... they are fragile too. And they are not the one to judge you. I am not saying that be angry at them... but none of this will matter in 30 min. They are not as important as you think, and you are not that important too... just don't care... another failed joke, huh... who else got a good one

[@Jesus1Loves3U]

It's okay. Jesus can be your friend. He loves you and cares for you. He died for all of us. Consider turning to the Lord and you will not regret it❤.

[@animalfun304]

Guys ,this is absolutely true ,dont make excuses even if the only thing you can manage to let out is a simple hi do it ,yes feeling nervous while doing it is completely normal but keep doing it and overtime you'll get used to it , good luck on your journey everyone ❤

[@lv4984]

It's been years I tried and almost nothing changed, I think I'm definetly damaged

[@Andres-gp4gn]

Don’t give up Brah. I’m on the same boat. As long as you keep trying you shouldn’t feel bad or hate yourself.

[@MoFan-tk4dp]

Me too i always feel i messed up after trying to communicate the way i talk is awkward

[@felixstone3.14]

True gonker moment 🦹‍♂️ #damegd

[@Shhhhyas123]

😢😢

[@kristinknowles8665]

People think I’m on drugs cause how weird and nervous I am. I HATE people thinking that it’s so annoying.

[@dr.a2160]

I really like this advice. This is exactly what I am doing. I honestly don’t see any other way. My thing is how to recover from the awkwardness and move on without feeling like a complete loser. I had 3 conversations today all of which were, to me, painstakingly awkward. I guess you have to push through the toughness, pay attention, and learn. When it’s a singular incident I don’t feel so bad, but when it’s a person I will see again….I guess for that instance, the positive aspect is another opportunity to get it right. Ultimately I do believe I’m far more awesome and sociable than I think.

[@oluwatimilehinakinlade1782]

You said my mind. The feeling or belief that i can become really sociable keeps me going. It's really tough right now but I can't allow myself to give up. Thanks for sharing!

[@Nbs.joe13]

I ask a question they look at me like I’m stupid🤦🏻‍♂️😂

[@dp1087_]

yeah I know how it feels

[@gyasialexis9429]

Awwn hmmm

[@iMetalSnake]

Because you probably don’t talk too often. Your words are more powerful and people tend to listen more when you speak less.

[@Tienzu1]

I tend to latch on to what people say and overthinkand dissecting the interactions to such an extent its exhausting.

[@GlobeofBeauty]

I am social death. Can't think of anything to say ever. I can just be sitting there in silence for 5-10 mins trying to think of literally ANYTHING remotely interesting to say/ask. My energy is so low that most the time I just give up on saying anything and come off completely unenthusiastic. You know how some people are just bad in person, but when they get online like discord they can be funny and know what to say. That's still not me even online with friends I've know for years I still never know how to converse.

[@Wannabechefwannabe]

Me too. My mind gets so blank around other people. I hate myself sm. You're not alone.

[@Prutam]

How are you doing now?

[@kalilah7288]

Ik you think it's ridiculous or like hell nah, but it's seriously work, and find the technique + you practice it you'll make it. I've been there

[@nekochan8523]

Oh yeah it takes a lot of time if you don't know the technique

[@xxxsahi8012]

How do u do it???

[@kalilah7288]

- break those walls in your thoughts, bcs those people aren't really that bad. (ps: Approach the light people) - relax don't trying to be lit, people tend to respect the chill and the polite one p.s approach the light positives kinda vibe first. @@xxxsahi8012

[@GeaDaya]

How ?

[@kalilah7288]

Reading all these comments get me deja vu, if you have tried going out there free yourself but still not seem to work out. My suggestion focus on yourself and start the self love journey or the "be the best version of you" journey. Good luck you're not alone

[@Redmirax]

"get the hell out man, and practice" yeah.. no

[@baxis525]

Real

[@ron357]

This is really good advice most people love talking unless your also talking to a socially awkward person but thats how you get them to open up and feel comfortable with you just seem interested in what they have to say

[@Name-hu1yn]

I stopped going outside.

[@pacificosur8960]

Your advice is an energy draining situation, makes no sense asking what they like or not !

[@lawrencemccoy24]

This isn't the best advice

[@shimmer8289]

Yup he don't understand extroverted introverts. The way he talks sounds condescending to me. We all know these disingenuous tricks. Thank God I'm retired alone and have no need for people in my life.....dramaaaaa

[@Crabs69]

I just don't care about anyone but my family 😂😭its hard to be social when you don't care but you need to be social to fit in

[@beaisjustagirl]

needed this.

[@Kishlakstan9000]

I’m not even socially awkward I just damaged my hearing from turning up the music too loud so now I have to ask “what?” A million times 😭

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Like I just wanted to block out the world tho... My ears: u got it 👊

[@trish87563]

If practice were sufficient, don't you think we'd have solved the awkwardness problem? I get out there and try to meet people, and I practice, but it's not exactly working. And I've been practicing for 43 years. I ask questions, I get interested in the other person, I show empathy, etc. But A) it doesn't generally get returned, and B) it hasn't made me less awkward.

[@marialange9509]

I fear a lot of people if they are going to hurt me,or gossip about things I tell??

[@mrguy420]

I mean I personally don’t know your situation, but from my experience people usually don’t care enough to actually hurt/gossip about you unless you’ve actually done something bad to them. Of course there will always be people who might do that, but it will only happen once or twice and they might think about something you’ve said for 5 minutes max. In my opinion I don’t feel it’s worth it to let others minuscule opinions weigh me down to the point of being scared to even start a concentration. However I do understand where you are coming from and this advice is a lot easier said than done. I hope you become the person you want to be!

[@marialange9509]

@@mrguy420 Stick to myself,and know very few..not trying to bring drama,or invite it..

[@mrguy420]

@@marialange9509 i understand that if you don’t know/ are friends with the people around you, it can seem very scary to try and socialise without drawing negative attention, this is a very real feeling. If you do want to socialise with people, but without judgement, it all comes with experience. One thing you can do is go to somewhere where you don’t know anyone and no one knows you, and try to speak to people. You can build it up, starting by asking someone what the time is, to asking someone how their day is going. All this depends on how much you are willing to do, and while it’s good to push limits, try to not stretch yourself too thin 😊. At the end of the day, I believe the main thing that matters is how you view yourself, because it’s your life and you are the one that’s living it. I hope this helps, even in the slightest, and even if it doesn’t, just remember that you aren’t truly alone and one day you will find a community for you!

[@mrguy420]

Also I found the video, How to stop caring about what other people think by Leon Hendrix very helpful

[@lolcow_president]

@@mrguy420People will gossip about you if they hate your guts, even if you’ve never done something wrong. I’ve dealt with so many evil, sociopathic people.

[@Disqualified_Identity]

Practise is almost always how you get better at something. Learn to properly manage your negative self talk and then take the leap. Say yes to some of the social opportunities that you've been turning down. Choose social settings that allow for free flowing conversation. Dont just go watch a movie with someone. Go out for a coffee and chat. Join a creative team of some kind. Do you play an instrument? If so, try searching for other musicians who would like to jam. It doesnt matter what your interests are. Opportunities for social interaction exist anywhere you'd expect to find people pursuing their interests.

[@Edgy.wedgy.edgy1]

I would love an explanation and example I also understand it may be hard to come up with one

[@CoinCollectorUAE]

Imma fix it too man

[@Travis.william]

"Hard time making friends " Him: Ask them questions💀

[@NouahGarrett]

Best way to overcome awkwardness is to make people scared of you. That's how I do it.

[@XxReeses]

Ty my social skills suck

[@Rose-tg5yd]

1.3k likes with 0 comments lemme fix that

[@connectwithgrowth]

Let me make that 2 :)

[@shimmer8289]

People bore me, I'm not curious about them. I'm not even curious about my siblings. I practiced the MASK since 18. I'm not nervous just uninterested.

[@kuesvzly7336]

I speak when i needed to speak, but when it comes to mingle with groups, Nah it bores me out

[@ryndaman2855]

I did that because i dont like people to ask question to me. So i keep asking them question until they annoyed lmao

[@imnotsleepyo__o]

Ahhh that's why I don't have friends, I'm not really curious to them😅, but I want to have friends though😭

[@kimchi2093]

Sometimes I feel like I’m overloading the other person with questions when I do this lol, anyone else feel the same?

[@_Yombo]

The interrogator

[@aditilasor1]

But I can't do this that's the problem

[@ten25.]

Thank you

[@manu8098]

Socially akward introvert me🙂

[@amk4606]

Same ❤

[@Zardy_]

Lemme fix that too

[@Lmfdora]

it's not easy to keep the peace, it's not easy to find people like you see and need to avoid other people who are bad influencers who will fail at life and makes us introverted

[@JoeyG-o8r]

it's also not that hard. Most people are decent.

[@JK-nj3bt]

Easy to say when you live in a city but i don't...

[@opposeless]

Lemme fix that as well

[@tatsumaki9397]

God gave us social anxiety because our charisma is overpowered.

[@bbqq013]

I do all the time dawg I’m just boring as hell

[@nannacat978]

Noooo I’m scared to get out more 😭

[@anonaka131]

So how is your day going

[@baxis525]

@@anonaka131very good question 👍

[@ruthruth152]

Thats dumb a** advise. Life isn't a popularity contest. Only seek those who you can and those who value you back and who can be there for you in rough times. Everyone else doesn't matter.

[@PainfulGrowth]

Stop thinking about yourself while talking to people.

[@danivoi]

Lemme fix that also

[@Captain_hadley_49]

No no one would want to be my friend when I try they hate me for it if I was gone no one would care

[@StephenHopkinsVaults]

I’m 36 feel trapped indoors . My social skills are zero just dunno what to say my voice is boring monotone

[@ymaaw3735]

Read this on Google Social Anxiety and Small Talk: The Nuts and Bolts of Small Talk. It helped me.

[@MosammetRim]

I lost My words when I try to talk with other 😂

[@ReoaL.]

I have the guts to speak especially if somebody approach me first and have interesting topic but how about I don't have something to say or in other words my mind gone blank? How to deal with it

[@connectwithgrowth]

Respect and embrace the silence. Maybe the silence allows the other person to come up with a subject.

[@unitedstatesofamerica8304]

I make friends easily but I jus can't talk lol

[@nirahana4832]

Personally I get nervous but I try to keep the conversation going, but I think I’m a,ways want the other person to like talk to me and not go quiet because aise that makes me feel like maybe they don’t want me there or something, I know that’s kinda unrealistic to always be talking to one another but that’s just how I feel and sometimes most clmmonky the other person stops talking to me and igores me unless someone else starts talking , right now I think they just don’t want to be friends anymore .. Also I’m not real,good at phone texting with others I just feel uninterested and kinda bored texting and waiting for the other to reply , so sometimes I just don’t talk on the. Phone and just rely on meeting outside connections even though I know I have to talk to them on text to like connect more , do you have any advice on how I can like be more interested in texting on phone online .?. Sorry if this is unreadable 😢

[@ymaaw3735]

Social Anxiety and Small Talk: The Nuts and Bolts of Small Talk. Search it on Google and read it. It'll help.

[@Quackmire1]

Dream are far from reality

[@JB_Voo]

I try and then I lose conversation and then they don’t talk to me I need help to stop that any advice

[@leiaspiderman7295]

I'm doing this all the time doesn't work

[@DoSooCheol]

I found my people in comment sections

[@HiYesThisIsJake]

I miss the old Jordan

[@milkyuwu7557]

Didn’t help he broke up with me.

[@RickColeman_M3]

Good

[@ilikeandloveeverything8711]

this guy basically is saying “get the fuck out of your comfort zone and feel like an open wound”

[@Muhib_Gaming]

They just laugh with their friends ij front of me

[@Universalone78]

Some people are born to get hate or being sad.

[@oliverrowley4405]

Not true. Your mindset is the reason people dislike you. Stop with that blackpill nonsense because the pill is not real. Nobody is doomed from the start. Just try to improve the things you can such as your mindset and muscles.

[@LiLRoNBeats]

What’s the point if we’re not talkin about important shit

[@ahmedeltaib6559]

It didn't work

[@schak6946]

Ok

[@felixstone3.14]

*y v*y I hate when i agree with jorden

[@Vanilla_cherry_coke1]

My guy doesn’t get social anxiety 😟

[@OrunitaVivi]

I've never liked Jordan Peterson in a v-neck

[@Namaste693]

I just don’t find others interesting 🧐

[@John-yh3je]

Not true, that's just your anxiety convincing you not to do anything or like anyone.

[@normansmith9009]

if that's true why even try to not be socially awkward?

[@memebers757]

Lies

[@uppertile5542]

*finally makes friends* "the friend's friend cuts them off for being around me"

[@purinsann21403]

As an aquarius, This is really helpful

[@AutisticDigger87]

Bullshit

[@katherinealm]

Oh hyy