How to stop comparing and start competing | Brett Ledbetter | TEDxGatewayArch

[@successmindsxt]

View your rivals as sparring partners that help you become better instead of viewing them as your enemy's.

[@varunv2584]

View your sparring partners as your opponents so you will take it more seriously and it feels more real rather than some silly tango dance.

[@MakeDemocracyMagnificientAgain]

View your rivals as for what they appear to be moment by moment and don't get lost in mental mindf*ck!

[@aint.sarcastic]

This is all I needed to ignite the fire in me. I want to be competitive in a healthy way and it fuels the drive in me.. thanks alot ❤❤❤

[@joeford5181]

I feel alive. Thanks.

[@ethangilbert7305]

If you strive to get better than you can help others strive to get better. When others become better than you, then all it means is that you have more to learn and that’s exciting

[@franzhaas5597]

Finally a TED Talk that actually had meat in it and not somebody trying to sell themselves. I actually learned something from this thank you

[@kavitaiyer9971]

Brett's Ted talks are some of few good ones, that actually gives you some actionable content.

[@fulophuller1390]

"In competition we go head to head, trying to get the best out of each other, that's the point of competition" - Dan Bailey

[@marlonbravo9466]

Great video! This video deserves more views.

[@MrKevin1144]

Comparing is competing

[@christinalim2320]

Kevin Settle Well comparing is more telling someone that they are worst/better than you while competing is more actually trying to be soo much better than someone

[@PersianLeonidus]

Competing is active. Comparing is passive.

[@Ruh714]

I needed to hear this, thanks😔

[@japonesa5186]

Good Monday chat.... let’s do this!

[@shakiagriffith2898]

Great message! I need to hear this message.😍

[@REEMA721]

My coworker is my partner and I really love this idea, because I want her to succeed but but I want to be more successful. Thank you for this.

[@yallitsfay]

We watch this at the beginning of the soccer season and when Abby said “the reality is” all the returners started laughing because our coaches say it all the time and we were all like “it’s spreading”

[@user-kh5un1jj5s]

100%

[@edalogo7605]

This is mind blowing mindset for me

[@pintooo1359]

This is great. Thank you!

[@andrewjoyce7374]

7:15 A season of Life by Joe Ehrmann illustrates Compete With not Against!

[@shankerbhatt307]

This is a very well presented talk. I recently did on competition in education. I am not a pro-competition guy but you have some very good points. There is much to discuss on this. Being competitive to me is not something that can be accepted simply. It’s like the side effects of antibiotics. People may keep taking it even under a doctor’s prescription but would not accept that there is a limit to it. And, when that limit does arrive - it arrives when even big guns end up at the other spectrum of age and capacity - how that serves them without having gone through the training into self knowledge. Bruce Li is a great example and he did it well as a competing as well as self seeking legend. There is much to learn and exceptions won’t suffice the discussion. Self seeking is what would help actual competing (I would rather use, playing) without comparison. Thank you.

[@isynciswim7382]

This guy is a genius!!

[@Engineeeer_1]

perfect

[@andrewjoyce7374]

3:00 "Don't pray that God will use you. Pray that God will make you usable" -Andrew Wommack

[@kamerondonaldson5976]

except the only thing standing in between me and claiming success is other people's interference. not to say help is categorically unwanted, just that most people do not intend to help but actively try to hinder, or if they do try to help they are so incompetent at it that they make matters worse. i've been on both sides of that experience too, i myself have hindered and incompetently helped others.

[@elidel3299]

Eneriged my mind

[@SeenaTabatabai]

So when your feeling lazy use others got it, come on now you guys know the rule there are no rules you absolutely dont need anyone as motivation, there is probably a universal law that benefits the other person over you if you use them as motivation, you know what...it is called the law of compensation.

[@hetedeleambacht6608]

can we translate that to relations between countries worldwide?? Piece on earth is not impossible if you think of it this way

[@el-chapo8094]

Moving

[@-khelfallah5032]

what do you guys think?

[@GaryDuell]

Competition in sports is fine because it's almost entirely in public view. But the less public our behaviors are the more likely we are to compromise on what's ethical and legal, especially in capitalism. Those are key words, "healthy" and "rivalry". Collaboration works best for large, broad and long term problem-solving.

[@anybodynoname8767]

His talk isn't so clear, so what does he now want?

[@fazilates808]

instead of going against and being hateful about what someone has achieved. respect him and his work and try to be better than him and thankful that there is someone who pushes you to the limit.

[@aleenasaha986]

Tres fooli napsty

[@el-chapo8094]

That's what's that🥰

[@el-chapo8094]

Sam doesn't do that☺️💗🦸

[@TheBasedAustralian42]

There is absolutely no way that Abby chick is the best soccer player in the world! Are you serious?

[@rocketman_75]

How about saying thinking, ...Joe's your competition, "Hey Joe, give me your best shot, give me something to shoot for". Is the a healthy thought? You're wanting Joe to do his best and you are saying it will that his best effort to outperform you. Are you not giving your competitor positive encouragement?

[@3lo0osal79]

زين بس لا

[@rationalistfaith]

Good talk but "Abby Wambach" is best soccer player of all time?! How can you say that when high school boys are destroying women's pro soccer team? Again, good talk, but try to stay objective rather than pick samples that pander to PC culture. Else your talk will become stale as quickly as political trends come and go.