If you want to achieve your goals, don't focus on them: Reggie Rivers at TEDxCrestmoorParkED

Former Denver Broncos running back Reggie Rivers discusses how focusing on your goals is the one sure way NOT to achieve them. With humor and insight he goes on to explain how focusing on your behaviors is how you achieve goals.
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[@raphaeldayan]

1. Set goal 2. Forget the goal and determine the process you need to achieve the goal 3. Fall in love with the process 4. Do the process without thinking about the goal 5. Eventually, achieve the goal

[@gaiusaugustusgermanicus471]

raphael dayan it kind of proves the point of a quote where it says “It’s not about the destination that matters,it’s about the journey that you take that truly matters”

[@sanandkrishnan9172]

@@gaiusaugustusgermanicus471 true

[@sowebgrasoftwarecompany6233]

Raphael Dayan thank you for your comment. am really blessed

[@arjunvijaysodimalla8923]

You cleared a mental block to me today.. Thank You so much

[@pradhumngautam1310]

Nice.

[@jamessullivan5181]

You'll never climb a mountain looking at the top

[@ayusa8493]

@James Sullivan well summarized.

[@browser37]

James Sullivan great quote

[@drutter]

I was always taught "you can only climb a mountain by looking at the top", and as I've gone through life I've found it to be true.

[@JewardJayOfficial]

You'll never climb a mountain looking at the top.

[@carolynaitken7632]

Jeward Jay I didn’t say look at the top I said look at where you’re at not up or down but where you are at!

[@vandannhidao6365]

I will understand it like this: ”Success is not something you pursue. It is something you attract by the person you become.” - Jim Rohn

[@robertkosen436]

✔️✔️✔️

[@potterylady44]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@devilsoffspring5519]

Another way of putting it is, "Enjoying the pursuit *IS* the success, becoming wealthy is the bonus check."

[@1953sharoha]

Absolutely

[@MrSridharMurthy]

Law of Success ! ( Attraction) Yep !

[@ogmac1804]

Don't mess up your goals by putting yourself under pressure. Everything is so much better without pressure. You will love what you do without the expectation of success. It's all about feeling good about yourself. This is your Life.

[@Michele-tu3xl]

Very true

[@DanishKhan-kg8os]

Summary: Steps 1. Set Goals 2. Dont focus on the Goal 3. Focus on the Behaviours that controls the Goal. 4. Reach your Goal!

[@fran-yt4ok]

Thankyou :)

[@firouzkarim7842]

StrkR Muzik I hope you make it man.

[@febedahre7315]

thanks

[@user-ti2xi9bd4u]

Danish Khan thanks you saved 10:41 mins in my lige

[@koolsamie]

Danish Khan so true... to your name as well..!!

[@Tbessix220]

My mentor once said "Focus on the process, falling in love with the process is the secret to success." if you wanna make money, don't focus on the money, fall in love with the process of making money... (whatever is your plan)

[@lamarlamar5792]

I agree this #100%

[@leonwong1448]

Thank for your summarizing；）

[@yook112]

Zanshin

[@nhuphansharing9304]

Tbessix220 wonderful ideas!

[@mk-mi3lu]

😎wow

[@geethaanuvanahally4089]

Every TED talk is a precious lesson for life

[@user-sl3kq7og5l]

My Summary : If you wanna achieve your goals, focus on controlling your actions/behavior towards yourself or other people. Don't focus on the goals itself, but focus to enjoy the process that will lead you to achieve your goals instead. Ex : i wanna get a fit body, so i do exercise. I focus on exercising that day and feel good at the moment. I focus on the part that i can controlled, which is controlling myself, my consistency. Try to enjoying the workout while thinking that i've been closer to my goal. ^^ Just in case if you're in a hurry, hope it's helpful :)

[@marsheilasie4496]

Thanks, thats very kind of you :)

[@uyentu8100]

So great !!

[@twinklelittlestar6460]

God bless you☺

[@robertmcgarr23]

Great summary. Appreciate you taking the time to write it out.

[@potterylady44]

Yesss hun thanks!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@jeremyngpiano]

This talk reminds me of a Jim Rohn quote: _“The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them.”_ When we focus on the behaviour as Reggie puts it, goals make us a better person. That's the real gem of setting goals. It's not whatever we set out to achieve, but rather, the person we grow into as a result.

[@MichaelChernik-zf2fy]

Goals change behavior. I understand he concept he will continue to develop. He is on to something. The goal is not where you are now, but what you want, what you want to be. Law of attraction. that is the purpose of goals. So he is contradictory. He admits he sets goals. When someone gets serious either by nature or wanting to change and stick to the goals, tweak goals as you go along; this changes behavior When you focus on your goals, you will see what behavior you have to change. You you say you will do something you have to do it. his talk reminds me of a Jim Rohn quote: “The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them.” When we focus on the behaviour as Reggie puts it, goals make us a better person. That's the real gem of setting goals. It's not whatever we set out to achieve, but rather, the person we grow into as a result

[@RobertSpiller]

Not only that Jeremy, but Jim also said work on yourself more than your goals, and this is what he's talking about. Focus on becoming the type of person that will achieve that goal. That makes a lot of sense to me.

[@JunayedHasanAyon]

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[@22261697]

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[@RobertSpiller]

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[@silyu97]

"future is just a concept. it was never exist... life is just an eternal now" -Alan Watts

[@mrbigd75]

sinusoidal abomination i felt that 1

[@violetsky1285]

Yes!!

[@donandmaracapili1384]

Amen

[@bhargavranjankaushik9262]

You don't attract what you want, you attract what you are. This talk just exactly taught this

[@BibleBlondie]

1) Focus on what’s in your control - your behaviours 2) Our goals are outside of our control 3) Focus on input which will lead to the output 4) Goals require the participation of other people that why they’re never in your full control whereas… 5) Your behaviour is fully in your control

[@shinhyeokhur5899]

The man's got some comforting inspirational voice.

[@QuickTalks]

Summary: "The secret is to focus on the behavior that will lead you to the goal and get your mind off the goal. Focus on the process, not the goal. You can control 100% your behavior, but not always the exact outcome of the goal, so focus on what you can control, not what you can't"

[@elfarjiikram9899]

Truuue

[@bollywood2492]

if he said it 1 line it will save my 5 min

[@ducdeur8941]

Thank you!

[@prakashachary2181]

It's geetha upadhesh..

[@LouisePetit2002]

1. If you want to achieve your goals don't focus on them. if you spend too much time focusing on your goals, you'll never achieve them. you alone can do behaviors, and behaviors are things that you focus on in order to achieve your goals 2. if you focus on your goal, you won't achieve it. Instead, you have to focus on your behaviors. your behaviors are what is in your control So, when I sat a goal, I say " What can I do today that is going to help me to get closer to that goal? " ; " What can I do tomorrow that is going to help me to get closer to that goal? " and " What can I do this week that is going to help me to get closer to that goal? " i'm focused 100% on the part that is in my control.

[@bismillahmarketingberkah]

think big, act small (step by step)

[@quike.5249]

1) you can control your behaviour 2) focus on behaviour required 3) write down goal Ask 3 questions What can I do today, tomorrow and this week to achieve x goal

[@RayAngeloRamilo]

first of all, this guy is very charismatic, I admire that. and what he's saying is probably true. For 3 years now I wanted to be a rapper but never focus on how to be one. I'm going to try to write my first song tonight. wish me luck yo.

[@projectsuperstore4049]

How did your song go?

[@morganthem]

You should like tongue twisters then.... I'm a vocalist, not a rapper, but diction is everything. Well not really but it is important.

[@18marisol]

RayAngeloRamilo best of luck

[@dmemon7722]

How did it go?

[@saltypsychosis4093]

best o luck

[@tarikay93]

This goes hand-in-hand with the words of Bruce Lee: "A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at."

[@Simran-qu5ny]

This video teaches me two things. Firstly don't focus on your goal, focus on your actions or behaviors which help you to achieve your goal. Secondly, the things which are not under your control, don't worry about them. Just focus on yourself. Be sure you are doing right, right for you which is not bad for others, and everything else left for God.

[@themacocko6311]

Pretty sure God had nothing to do with it

[@jennyzhang3088]

This is so true. I always set up goals, I mean so many goals. But I have never think about how to change my life styles, attitude, or behaviors to actually make some changes. Now I learned. I am so glad that I swiped to this video today. It inspired me a lot. Thank you.

[@SixStringsCovers]

Setting up goals take too much of your energy because you think about them all the time and you are going to be disappointed if you won't achieve them. Start focusing on your progress instead and enjoy the process and also the little things in life.

[@GetSetFly]

Goals should be just set to provide a direction you want to go. Plan of action is what you need to device next and focus on working towards it in order to achieve your goals. Actions have magic in them!

[@keshardev6633]

Hey gaurav bhaiya 💕 If you are reading it please tell in any one your vedio that how you attract your subscribers to watch your each and every vedio because I think you have a magic in your voice 🤩, literally the same I feel for ownself too 😉 but the way you but the tadka 🍝 of sense of humour and joy is just Awesome! 🥳

[@VikasYadav-hf7eo]

Ji bhaia that's true!

[@thientruongcong5262]

gthshha

[@ayusharyan3312]

Ohoo

[@natashamerline]

But is it healthy to keep looking at your progress?

[@DoubIeRose]

I've heard countless ted talks and at least for me this is the best one.

[@monsterhigh1975]

i am watching this because of your comments.. :D

[@monsterhigh1975]

i am watching this because of your comments.. :D

[@almas1081]

DoubIeRose and mee 😉

[@krystonjones]

DoubleRose: Damn! I was about to say the exact same thing. Now I will have to focus on speeding up my commentating, to get you back.

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[@sonyclaystation]

I read the title and instantly found the problem within the way I was working. I think about where I want to be so often that no sort of work I put in feels as if I’ve done enough. amazing ted talk

[@ichi_san]

This was nice. Everything seems so much more achievable when the focus shifts to behaviours instead of things that are out of one's control

[@TheRealAbrahamLincoln]

Thanks for this message. This is a much better approach to success than having some motivational speaker yelling at you for an hour telling you that you just need to want it bad enough.

[@DavideParadiso]

haha youre awesome abe

[@PamelaGiacometti]

Haha this made me laugh. Nice one! :)

[@mdc2132]

😂😂😂😂

[@marliemarlie1922]

😀😀😀😁😁😁😄😄 you're right

[@louisnathaniel5424]

Thanks Abe!

[@RahulGupta-ju1tm]

A wonderful wonderful speaker. :) So calm and confident. It is pleasant to hear him speak.

[@PhilosophicalBum21]

+Rahul Gupta Yeah! He was a very affable, easy-to-follow speaker. Love his speaking style.

[@pratyushpriyadarshi8130]

+Rahul Gupta I like how he does the switch from Calm to imitating an angry person.

[@nitishmaan7444]

I think he unknowingly explained "Karmanye vadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana"

[@loankim565]

After watching this video I feel like I am going in the right way. Keep going, loving and contributing to the world then you will receive what you deserve. "Go with the flow and enjoy the process" Thank you so much for such an inspirational sharing :3

[@AnhNguyen-pw1wp]

❤

[@englishwithtaryar6044]

Don’t focus on your goals. Focus on your behavior. Control what you can. Don’t control what you can’t. Make your behavior out of best today , tomorrow and coming week. Thank you Reggie🎉❤

[@ChineseIrish]

I found this to be true in my life. There are so many goals I didn't achieve because i was so focused on them I wanted them as fast as possible, which meant doing unenjoyable behaviors (lots of cramming) and eventually quitting. But I also got a black belt in Taekwondo when that wasn't a serious goal. I just liked hanging out at the club with my team mates so I trained everyday. (Enjoyable behavior) Making the good behaviors enjoyable I think is the key to a good life.

[@munnaahmed4148]

Wow.. Very interesting...great plan...

[@parimtm]

But what about a great life?

[@rheasapanizales3872]

ChineseIrish wow! Thank you for this👍🏻

[@investment90]

the same :)

[@violetsky1285]

Basically you've to be in a state of flow of passion and love and enjoyment. The outcome of success is inevitable and you wouldn't really be as happy as much as you're happy actually doing the little things consistently with happines and enjoyment

[@mineonlyhooves]

The greatest advice ever given. This is something tangible that actually works.

[@sjb5092]

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[@icekurimu1688]

Sj B 😂

[@venyoktaviany7990]

This video is also one of the best Ted Talks I've ever heard. It's also one of the first Ted Talks that actually made me laugh out loud despite having to read the translation. What speaker Reggie Rivers said is absolutely true. We should not be too focused on our goals, but focus on the behavior we do to achieve these goals. In my opinion, having a goal is important because if someone has a goal then he will inspire himself to do better things. Successful people certainly will not be like that in a short time. What most people see at a glance as wealth, a great career and accomplished goals are the result of hard work and busyness that takes up a lot of time. In this video it can also be concluded that the first step to achieving a goal is to set a goal, then set that goal aside and determine the process that will be needed to achieve the goal, after that love or enjoy the process and do the process without thinking about the goal so that in the end we will be able to achieve the goal we want. Cheers to all of us!!

[@random-sv7rz]

Ted× talks is the best thing I've ever discovered full stop! 🙌

[@grazryan]

I'm so inspired by this talk

[@frankfierro6451]

yes

[@julieta7790]

same

[@pussnboots2271]

me too, but I just don't understand because if your trying to get into something like selective schools test or something, you have to work for it and study for it to get in, you don't just go to that test empty minded you have to go to that test thinking your going to get in and you've worked so hard for this.

[@terezasebkova775]

+Letty! Look I'll give you an example okay?:) You want to get the test and make it, you set a goal for yourself, which is the test. But you can't control the grading or whatever. You only can control how much work will you put in. So he's right. Don't focus on the final grade, focus on how much work you do and how you study. (To make it.) Hope this will help! :)

[@grazryan]

Tereza Šebková Very well said...

[@lavidaesplendida]

This was amazing. I've realised that my biggest mistake in life has been exactly this... too much focus on my goals and not enough attention to my daily behaviours and action to achieve them...

[@MrFischvogel]

A clear thinker and great speaker !

[@newlife.vanessacalfan]

soft spoken kind and inspriring soul. thank you

[@jeehooahn9114]

This guy would be a great guy to be friends with.

[@nicholasc.5944]

he sounds so chill

[@markd2797]

TED TALKS YOU HAVE IMPROVED MY LIFE SO MUCH! THIS ONE IS... JUST AMAZING. Simple, to the point, not boring, relative... 100% on this one :)

[@cynthiachebii2523]

Me too

[@arpitsharma6075]

One of the most basic and honest principle, Thanks Reggie. And yes, I have seen it work.

[@jackhart9289]

This was an important reminder that I needed today. Thank you ❤️

[@saniahsan]

He was 100% right; I can tell this from my own experience. At one point in my life, I was so much committed to a goal, that I almost forgot I have a family who love and yearn for my attention and yet I ignored them and totally focused on my goal. Guess what? I failed to achieve it; then I felt totally ashamed of my behavior towards my near and dear ones and totally abandoned my outside responsibilities; I went from one extreme to the other extreme: both are problematic and are prone to failure, depression, and/or anxiety. At another point in my life, I ultimately achieved something, something of a kind that I have been waiting for so many years to get, and this is the first time I got something like this. But when I achieved itm I felt relaxed and slowly but surely retired from my responsibilities, since I already achieved it! I deserve rest now. However, internally, I was not happy either, because I was questioning myself: does it worth so much struggle, pain & sacrifices? I mean, I didn't really enjoy much of the process I had to go through to achieve that goal, most of the steps directly conflicted with my personality type (I had to do a lot of acting to conform with the crowd around me though I didn't like those type of people), yet I forbore for the sake of that goal because I was thinking: how awesome that goal would be! If I achieve it, its joy will definitely let me forget about all those sacrifices, etc. But the opposite happened. I felt that the joy was momentary, as compared to the actual pains of the process. In summary, I realized that if you don't like the process, no matter whether you achieve your goal or not, you won't be satisfied/fulfilled/happy. So love what you do rather than loving/focusing on your goals.

[@dylansituma8881]

Very true

[@Alm.H]

"It's the journey what brings us happines not the destination" -Peacful Worrier.

[@priyankadhariwal409]

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[@aditisuryawanshi1967]

His voice is so calming!

[@user-jq5iu9bs5b]

Reggie is so confident. I love it!

[@Darlagayle]

This seems like it's something obvious but there's just something in the way he says it that enlightened me so much. Thank you!!!!

[@malouskids]

Thank you Reggie! I recently had Weigh loss surgery June 9th. In Oct,2015 my first weigh in at the Bariatric Center I weighed 299. I am 5ft 3 in. Today I weigh 249. Your speech is teaching me to focus on my behaviors not on my goal. This speech really spoke to me.

[@Paolaandreaxx]

Congratulations 😊

[@mzsnayem1731]

congrats. and remember the attitude.

[@trivo3949]

@@mzsnayem1731 thanks you

[@riyarose4514]

He spoke so well ! Great ! Just loved it!

[@soumiabenrekia5796]

He is the best speaker I habe ever listened to.

[@gianfrancow2850]

one of the most beautiful, life changing videos I've seen on youtube.

[@isa_1997]

So he's basically saying: if you want to be something in the future, live today in the best way to be that something. Now, that's a lesson I've learned some while ago and life keeps confirming it to me. Thanks life.

[@princeprem6820]

Yes you are Right 💸

[@TheWilDOn31]

If you keep THINKING about the goal you drive yourself nuts - you feel it's too hard somehow and that frustration affects you and stops you. So I think this video says quite clearly: set a goal, start working on it, and forget about it. Simply forget about it ...

[@chinasacasmir]

If you focus too much on your goal, you will never achieve the goal- you will have to focus on the behavior !!!! Heard this at the right time in my life😌🙏

[@anshusharma1983]

There is a verse in Bhagwat Geeta which is a Hindu Scripture. That goes one step further to what the man is saying. The verse says- कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन। मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि॥ You have the right to perform your actions, but you are not entitled to the fruits of the actions. Do not let the fruit be the purpose of your actions, and therefore you won’t be attached to not doing your duty.

[@anshusharma1983]

Hey Rock Scripts This is very tricky to grasp. It means that you have the right to do your duties, but your duties are not linked to the fruits of your action. So do your duties, but never expect any results because you have no right over the results. This is the core psychology of detachment and sanyas. We have a saying in hindi "Neki kar dariya mein daal'. that means do your best and then throw your actions in the river.(forget about them)

[@johnedgard861]

+Anshu Sharma Keep your primitive savage scriptures to yourself.

[@nipunramani]

+Anshu Sharma Yep, there is also Lord Krishna who cited this verse to Arjuna before the battle in which he was fighting against basically his Mentors and Caretakers who nurtured and sharpened him during his childhood.

[@johnedgard861]

Nipun Ramani Krishna and Arjuna etc does not exist. Your entire 1 billion Hindu gods are all myth. Wake up. Idiots.

[@nipunramani]

Roen Spacy Chill brah, just sharing tit-bits of knowledge. It's something I read in Turning Pro by Steven Pressfield. Great read, pick it up next time you go shopping in non-fiction genre.

[@dmoneyhustler1486]

I have never failed. I have found a lot of ways that won't work, Never failed. I refuse to accept that I am not the best at what I do in life. Whether it be my job at a gas station, or doing lawn care part time, or creating electronic dance music, I pay extra attention to what I do, and always focus on learning new things, and always enthused to discover ways that won't work. You will not feel like the best at what you do until you declare it, once you have declared it, and have accepted that, you must prove it, by learning from every mistake you make, with extreme perseverance, you will get to a point where you say "WOW, look how far I have come!" just by being enthused about the fact that you are the best, and ready to prove it, and every mistake is just a part of getting to the mastery you declared at the beginning. People will hate on you, and prove you are not worthy, but that is just fuel for the fire. Take what they say and prove them which you have already declared and accepted in your heart. Most importantly love yourself. It's easier said than done, but you will lack faith in your ability's until you learn to love yourself and have extreme self value.

[@dmoneyhustler1486]

Dan Wilson Accepting that you are not the best, and in progress to be the best is what prevents you from moving forward. In order to actually make progress, you must accept that you already the best, and the proof is already in your heart, but for the people to validate that, you must do what ever you have to, failure means progress.

[@Richietek318]

Today was my first foray into commodities trading and I lost a lot of cash in 4 hours. Your comments gave me a different perspective and I don't feel as bad. Much appreciated.

[@therealme1518]

Dan W That truly is the secret of success! And success is never a straight line but full of twists and turns-with that attitude you can successfully navigate your way to your goal.

[@o0LoveLove0o]

wth did dan Wilson say

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[@JJ-zy3zv]

this is so true. whenever ive applied this to my own life i've achieved amazing outcomes

[@rudygoofysrh]

Thank you for sharing. It always helps to rewatch it and get more clarity.

[@iyaphasomfongo7285]

This is so legit. We spend too much time wanting outputs but really what builds is the process. Trust the process and focus on it. Look at how to get there. Think about it as becomming a better you then just getting there because I want to be like this etc .

[@coryr7183]

i recently was wondering whats the process wahts there to do to get thru it ??? anyway good point that it often requires other people often with diff goals

[@pastor_labhpreet_paul]

In conclusion: Focus on process not on Results.

[@danielparlered3944]

I would say progress instead, but yeah pretty much

[@PT-vg3xi]

If you are way too focus on your goal, you will only think about the result and if it is not the good one, you will get disappointed and eventually you will lose your track. Instead, you should focus on your behaviors and even if u face smth bad, just take it as a lesson or step to climb higher and continue your process. Take control of what you can…not the one you cannot…This video makes me realize this…Thank youu!!

[@longguitar4194]

Well, this channel is too good for me to learn English I can hear it over and over again to improve my skills like listening, speaking, grammar, my communication, my imagination, and a lot.

[@Bigboss-xe6lm]

You are doing great!

[@aprilslmb908]

same;)

[@mindfreaker300]

Change yourself first then the goal is coming. Nice talk.

[@lauratan4392]

Sam Abu Awww You got the point!!

[@rositarose7928]

when people mock at you. means you do something.

[@rositarose7928]

L O nice to hear

[@fodaygbondo8292]

good advice

[@FaFa-bw1mm]

that's so encouraging n positive:)

[@LessonsInLife]

You need to believe in yourself even when things aren't going right. Get outside your comfort zone and learn as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

[@X3000Chan]

? When people mock you it means you do something? Can you rephrase that? I don't understand what you mean.

[@aftersunset3915]

this is amazing. I read Atomic Habits and the Power of Habits and then I watch this I realize how important focus to something that we can control and the result is gift from our habits

[@rainonov8667]

So great. I'm grateful to hear this talk

[@thamestrinity]

10 minutes in my life had never passed so fast

[@dendichiu9370]

“Its like a finger pointing away to the moon. Dont concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory.” ― Bruce Lee

[@Angell_Lee]

Bless this man, thank you!

[@neeta3322]

The way you speak is soo amazing. I love the way you are.

[@notesqueries4335]

Real, lasting growth can come from small changes. I've recently come to understand this and how it has played out in my life. I've seen example after example in my own life of writing down goals and completely forgetting about them only to go back years later and realize that I had achieved those very goals. Not because I had forgotten about them, but because I had focused on the behaviors and not on the outcomes. Focus on behaviors and the outcomes will take care of themselves. Excellent talk!

[@Emma_Ahn]

totally agree. the mindset, focusing on behaviors, processes instead of focusing on goals make me try to do new things and motivate myself. besides, I could be more resilient from bad results. love this ted

[@aztec3201]

So true , never really looked at that way befor , focused on the moves first so you can reach the goal later!!!!

[@sudhanshudeol3149]

BEST THING I EVER HEARD ON THIS PLANET............hats off to u

[@sun.sh.in.e]

THIS WAS AWESOME!!! Very concise and he even threw some humor in there! I enjoyed this talk.

[@airparris]

Jasmine Jackson agree

[@loas3967]

Preach!

[@danieltonga6052]

There's a key to this talk that I think is overlooked... He mentioned that when he heard "If you want her to be your girlfriend, you got to ask her yourself," he, in essence, heard, "Yes." Or in other words, he believed that the goal in his head had already been achieved. The speaker here mentions over and over again that if you want to achieve your goal, you need to shift your focus from your goal to your behavior--on what is within your direct control and influence. However, a potential pitfall here is that people lose sight of the goal and focus too much on self-management and change. Without proper guidance and direction in changing our actions, people can overwork themselves or put in too much effort and yield little to no results. It's like putting forth a lot of effort into jogging in place... Wearing the right shoes, eating a good breakfast, getting a good night's sleep, and getting a good stretch in... You're working really hard. But you're going nowhere. But once again, the key here is to not "not focus on your goal," but rather, to "believe as if your goal has already been achieved." To see ourselves in the future, having already achieved the goal successfully. This visualization technique is a powerful one that helps outline the path to success, and helps us to see the changes we need to make to become the victor of our goals. This allows us to "focus on our behavior" correctly and in an efficient and productive way that will lead to results. This can easily be related to principles that Stephen R. Covey teaches in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.": Begin With the End in Mind and Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern.

[@Jerryjustjerry]

First of all, love the presentation😂! And well said, it gives me a new perspective on how to achieve goals, he’s not telling to NOT have a goal or NOT to have plans but focus LESS on your goals. This is a pretty good mindset because in my book, if we focus on our goal, we lower down the efficacy of our behaviour. But this had me thinking, as to what i define goal, anything and can be behaviour, we should actually focus on SMALL goals; in terms of whether you’ve done it irl or not, whether you did control what you can, rather than asking a yes or no question on the BIG goal.

[@vongsokmony9881]

Thank you Reggie River !

[@raj8717]

he is 100 percent correct it all makes sense

[@fazsaeed]

"I am not worried about anything that is outside of my control. I am focused 100% on the part that is in my control. If you want to achieve your goals, don't focus on them. If you want to achieve your goals, you have to focus on the behaviours that are the building blocks, that get you to your goals." - Reggie Rivers

[@farmeenkhan1978]

What is behaviour

[@potterylady44]

@@farmeenkhan1978 actions...the way you move

[@lordwelb4161]

You are right.. God bless you

[@bill.Latham]

Thank You " Follow the process, and the results will follow"

[@gangstersayfock]

I have watched this talk two years ago and it really inspired me! I really agree with Reggie Rivers! I have learn a lot of this ted talk and I have focussed more on my behavoirs and not my goals. It helped me very much to become more succesfull and look different to live. I focus now more on my own behavoir and my positive habbits. I have benefit a lot of the research of Shawn Achor to become better in that. His "20 second rule" helped me to be better with positive habbits and avoid bad habbits.

[@LiveProfound]

I was walking around thinking about how to achieve my goals. I decided to watch one of my favourite videos on the topic. I opened my laptop and logged on to youtube. I 'accidentally' clicked somewhere, the page was still loading. My intuition kicked in and something within told me to wait. This was exactly what I needed. Great talk Reggie Rivers! Thank you! :)

[@bravofoxtrot5857]

YouTransmute the same happened with me.. 😉

[@rawenmiyazaki734]

YouTransmute OMG SAME 😂😂😂

[@patrickwalsh8592]

so much clarity in this inspirational video , you focus on the obstacles that impede on your goals, which is, we focus on the behaviors we can control , that's where discipline and consistence becomes a pleasure.

[@leop1830]

Focus on the behavior to reach your goal rather than focusing on the goal and do nothing. This is common sense but this is one of those things that is not common specially is seemingly common things like parenting or improving skill. Thank you to this talk for pointing my eyes to things already right in front of me.

[@amirjamili5327]

Setting a goal means a behavior change and Reggie explained it well. in fact that CHANGE is what to creates improvements we achieve at the end and we refer that with a special word "GOAL".

[@Storczie]

This is great. My goal is to become a pro gamer for esports and my goal is to be good enough to join the pro's. But since i always focus on winning the games which is a 5v5 game, i cant control the people in my team or enemies. When i lose games i feel that i will never reach my dreams. But from now on i wont focus on winning, ill focus on improving and becoming good enough to win games no matter how hard my teammates make it or how good the opponents are. I also suffer from short temper so thats something i could improve on. Thank you!

[@Storczie]

Feybred Yes :)

[@gametangia]

K -Leif Storcy Haha blaming teammates is the worst you can do. Always focus on yourself, what did I do wrong, what can I do better. teammates are just circumstances you need to work with. If you get carried its great but you should learn how you couldve carried yourself, if you lose you need to think about what you couldve done to give your team a better chance of winning, Its about small advantages. I was stuck in silver for 2 years, and then in 3 weeks (holiday, i played almost 18 hours a day) i got to diamond 2 by focusing on ME. and this is good enough for me i enjoy this level of play. Long story i know but i feel like with my experience it could help you. GL and i hope to see you in the LCS

[@socccorbot]

K -Leif Storcy My goal was diamond. I've been stuck there for 2 years, and then I started not caring about getting there. I just played for fun, (I smoked weed at that point which made me not care) I started rising in elo, and eventually got to diamond, which tbh, was kinda easy. Stay calm control yourself, and motivate yourself and ya teammates, hopefully ill see you in TSM next year xd

[@abubakarsiddique2447]

+K -Leif Storcy hey ,if anyone else wants to learn about ways to reach your goals try Sarparder Subliminal Starter (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my brother in law got amazing success with it.

[@mohammedtaibani5090]

K -Leif Storcy you should try counter -strike GO

[@bth2012]

THX. Goal is not in ur control. But action/behavior is in ur control. Focus on the building blocks.

[@nurlisasyahmil7315]

I'm very inspired by his talk..gonna focus and think about my behaviour this time..u go girl!

[@theycallmepotatoma]

Jarang nmpk org sini tgk ted ex haha

[@SyahmiRafsan]

Hahaha ramai ja bruh

[@marchseventdumeda5226]

Le_ Apip yow jangan salah wkwk

[@debadulkhanraul8517]

Don't think about anything. Know what you do there and focus on enjoying going and doing it

[@ManojKumar-mw2kv]

A goal is very easy to achieve if you know the path heading towards to goal. The problem with 90 % people is that they don't know exactly the path of destination they want to achieve or they don't stick to it untill they reach to eat. Goal is all about overcoming about path. A goal is final bit or step of your destination. Actually goal starts from the stage where you take first initiative to achieve your goal. Every step determine your goal. So it is more important to stablize yourself on path than being worried about achievement. Think and make an action plan correctly before you start it analysing every strategy and pros and cons of your path. once you start your journey just keep moving ahead. Never be afraid of and be worried about obstacles. Every failure is teach you something which tells you you have done something wrong before and a failure gives you another chance to think and improve. I have more to write but I think it is enough for today.

[@cherryblossom9482]

Great talk. I can sum up the message in his talk. ‼️ Taking ACTION & ACCOUNTABILITY is more important than merely setting the goals ‼️

[@0LOTR]

Practical and inspiring ! I love his humor too!

[@kkmatt]

When I read the title, I was SO in disbelief that he was serious that I clicked on it and watch it immediately. I'm SO happy that I did because what he said is something that I am putting into practice right this minute. And he's hilarious. I love that this was short and to the point and he used a very interesting life example to show explain his idea. Great TEDtalk.

[@zhonlino]

The best speech so far

[@Mezzykins]

Personally I prefer other ways to think about it. It is great to have goals that you desire and that are measured only by you (ie don't measure to be the fastest sprinter in the world - measure to break the 10 second barrier at 100metre sprints). But, you need to know that everything starts in small steps and you need to plan out how you are going to do it. If you do this and you know you are going to have tough times, then there is nothing you cannot achieve. Not having either can set you on the path to failure (1. no goal or a goal given to you by external influences means the path you take may lead you somewhere you don't like. 2 - No plan of action will mean you see a goal as impossible but nothing in life is impossible). Balance is the key in all walks of life :)

[@tjkim688080]

+Tony O 국민투표를 ㅡㅡㅡㅡㅡ 국민투표를 잘 할 일이 잘 할 일이 잘 할

[@kelmirahvillavicencio2987]

focus on the process and the numbers will follow 🙌🏼

[@charismagalido2281]

The words that I really need to hear. Thank you!

[@LessonsInLife]

“Despite your past, no matter your mistakes or shortcomings, you are an amazing human being, capable of greatness and worthy of happiness.” Andrea Pennington

[@babzking303]

One of the best TEDx talks I have watched to date, brilliant.

[@mliu7712]

this is one of the most important ted talk i ever watched! learned a lot! thanks!!!!!

[@godfreyshimbo4251]

Thank you so much 🙏. Really opened my eyes

[@What-sr2pk]

this is the best tedtalk Ive ever heard like seriously. I was getting sick of planning "6hours a day of studying". Cus it seemed so big and scary. Now when I think about it; controlling my actions everyday and not thinking about anything else will get me where I want. Instead of saying "6hours a day", saying "What can I study today to get better" will make the process easier for me. Thank you!