How to Stop Feeling Jealous in a Relationship | Christian Dating Advice

[@Melanie____]

I never noticed ever my two boyfriends have a wandering eye.. and the last date I went on the guy had a wandering eye. I think it’s respectful for guys to not have a wandering eye or to be too flirty chatty to a girl.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Really enjoyed that video and how you all opened up about a potentially sensitive topic. When I was dating Morgan I would sometimes get jealous when I felt like she was laughing at my friends more than me. I came to realize she just loves to laugh :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

Paul and Morgan oh that’s such a good example!😍

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yeah! :)

[@blisskissed8527]

I needed this today -- no kidding I came onto youtube looking for a video about this and there it was! THANK YOU for being humble and sharing -- such a blessing! Watching this again... and again...

[@TiffanyDawn]

BlissKissed wow!! Praise God! I love how that works!! So glad it could encourage you. Praying God encourages you as you work and talk through similar struggles!

[@mamatofive1]

Nice to see you back!! I’m so glad you decided to talk on this. It’s been the #1 issue in our marriage (me being jealous). After 9 years of marriage, I think I’ve got this under control, but I definitely tend this way. My husband would have no idea til I told him, and it was so important to talk it out. He is a people watcher, so he’d always notice people, and I can definitely relate to what Tiffany’s saying. I’ve also figured out that jealousy is related to your love language. Because quality time is my first love language, for a long time it bothered me when he had ‘quality’ time with other women, like at work when he had no choice but to be with her all day. Quality time is not his love language, so that meant nothing to him. Just something interesting I realized! 😊

[@TiffanyDawn]

Mama to Four oh my goodness I had never thought of it related to love language!! I’m also quality time - what you said makes so much sense!! Thank you for sharing this!

[@allison_JR4E]

Great point about love languages - I can see how that would make a difference as well. :)

[@KarenMelsert]

Whoa! Thanks for commenting this, I never realized the connection there :)

[@wordforlife1585]

You could also say don't be jello but be mellow. Jello is wobbly and weak but to be mello is mature and wise. God bless you both.

[@allison_JR4E]

Thanks for sharing! I agree that most men do not even realize how much their eyes look at or follow women because they are so wired "physically", whereas women are so wired "emotionally" that they usually look at and follow their husband. I love what you said about what they do with that "looking" that makes the difference. One thing that has helped me with dealing with insecurities/jealousy is to speak all the scriptures I can find about God's love/acceptance because His word going into my heart removes any 'roots' of fear/rejection. Here's to hoping I get an introvert as a husband, but it seems our Father sometimes likes to bring opposites to 'balance' his children out, LOL (*ah, a girl can dream, right?!*) Much love and may blessings to you all! :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

Allison B. Love hearing this! Yes it’s so good to have that love at the root of our soul!😍

[@VihanDamaris]

You're super pretty Tiffany! And thanks so much for talking about this. I really appreciate the honesty you and especially your husband were able to open up to both to yourselves and to us! I'm not personally in a relationship but I deal with a lot of jealousy between family and friends out of unrooted insecurity and it's great to even realize that and be able to work on it through your pointers. God bless your marriage.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Vihan Damaris awww thank you!! And yes that’s so true - it’s amazing how jealousy can affect every type of relationship. Praying God gives you insight!!❤️

[@VihanDamaris]

Tiffany Dawn thank you so much!

[@gracechemali1193]

I love how you guys can tell each other everything you feel that's amazing and so healthy! The fact that God is always your focus is so inspiring God bless you!🙏❤

[@LovedHappy]

Ah I love how candid you guys always are! This is such a sensitive topic. Love hearing your personal experiences and how you work through this :) yess don’t be jelly, be melly😂 we haven’t struggled much with this but the few times I’ve felt overlooked etc I’ve just talked to my husband about it and that was super helpful. Also earlier on in our marriage he has some close girl-friends he would talk to and I had to let him Know I wasn’t comfortable with that, and he totally understood. Those friendships have taken a backseat (plus life is just so busy with kids) and now we will call that person together or hang out with them together if we do. That’s what works for us!❤️

[@LovedHappy]

Also welcome back!👋🏻💖

[@TiffanyDawn]

LovedHappy loved hearing how you guys have worked through these things! Yes the friends thing is something we had to talk through as well. It was so funny how different our expectations were at first f what friendships would look like! Talking about it helped a lot.

[@pic5637]

I’m really thankful for the both of you. Gosh this video, and you both being honest, is so liberating as well as comforting. As a man, I’ve seen myself being jealous and insecure and I recognize that it has nothing to do with anything really that my fiancé is doing. It’s issues in my heart and the narratives that I allow to play in my mind. I recently opened up to her (which as a Christian I really was thinking like James said, “Mann jealousy is bad, I hope it goes away.” Plus in the church you hear leaders saying, ohh if the person you’re with is jealous, they’re not the “one” and that’s annoying to hear. It breaks you down and makes you feel like somethings wrong with you) anyways, so I shared these things with my Fiancé. At first of course it upset her, and it annoyed her because as she told me, I Love You, and you’re who I’m with. But later she was very understanding and helped me through these feelings. I say all this to say, even tho I really was scared to open up about these things, gosh... you have to talk about them. In my heart I felt like true resolution will come with communicating about these things. If you don’t, eventually, some way or another the will spill over somewhere in your relationship. My fiancé told me this by the way. So, great video. I was on here feeling bad about opening up and if I did the right thing. Again, thank you both!!!(:

[@nilisaarkward7429]

YASSSSSSS This video is amazing! You guys are so real & I appreciate the openness. Also I think the counseling advice is great. I literally thought today on the way home, “I want my mind to change about how I see life and people. I don’t want to be the same anymore” as in I want to stop seeing the world through past hurts and insecurities. It’s so interesting how you mentioned that we can keep telling the same story ... very encouraging stuff 💗 As always

[@TiffanyDawn]

Nilisa Arkward that is so cool how you have that desire to change and grow!! That is so beautiful!!❤️❤️❤️

[@britterz483]

I totally have those same exact feelings and I know it's completely self focused and prideful. I know that wasnt mentioned but it's true... We're totally only thinking about ourselves when we are feeling like our husbands aren't giving us enough attention or are giving another girl more and better attention. It's tough! It's been one of my biggest struggles in life!

[@TiffanyDawn]

That’s such an interesting perspective! I hadn’t thought about how focused I was on my own insecurities - instead of looking at the big picture and trying to see things from James’s point of view. Thanks for sharing this!❤️

[@britterz483]

You're welcome! And thanks for your reply. I don't know how you're doing with it now since the video is older but I'm definitely gonna pray for you specifically cuz I know EXACTLY how it feels! :)

[@sofiasandoval3500]

You are so humble! I can't think of many people who would share theirs struggles as you guys do! Thank you!!! Love you 💖

[@TiffanyDawn]

Sofía Sandoval ❤️❤️❤️

[@foodforthought5712]

I am not trying to be rude or disrespectful at all to either of the people in this video, but I do disagree with some of the things. I think it’s completely normal for people to get jealous when they see their partner engaging with someone of the opposite sex and especially if they are attractive. It doesn’t mean the person is insecure who is experiencing the jealousy. It means their partner is crossing a line and is acting too flirty or too familiar with someone that you may not even know. When you are in a relationship (dating or married) that you actually care about, you HAVE TO conduct yourself in a different way. You don’t get to go throughout the room intensely engaging people of the opposite sex. You’re in a relationship now, and you have a partner that you can deeply engage with. You should appreciate that instead of feeling deprived of social interaction with certain people. In fact, if the Holy Spirit is indwelling you, you should feel convicted by your actions. We are to honor one another, and to honor is to deeply respect somebody. I don’t want to have to tell my partner to respect me; that defeats the whole purpose. If that happens, I’m breaking up with him. That might seem extreme to a lot of people reading this, but it’s really not. It is not our job as a man or woman to teach our partner how to love, respect, and honor us. And if you are married, pray for your spouse and tell them the truth. Ultimately you want your partner to respect you because they want to, not because they have to. When you understand your identity in Christ Jesus, and how valuable you are, and how loved you are by God, you will naturally not put up with bad behavior from anyone. You will speak the truth and you will move on with your life knowing God has good works and good things for you to do for his kingdom. I don’t want to spend my life analyzing situations and recuperating from being treated badly by someone I love. There is someone out there that will love you and respect you and honor you. You won’t ever have to fight for or compete for his or her attention.

[@aprilbotten8060]

It is so amazing 2 find a true Christian KZbin channel with someone who has struggles I can relate 2 and seeing u with ur husband and how much u love each other makes me hopeful that i am lovable and seeing how God has helped u has given me hope so thank u

[@TiffanyDawn]

Your comment made me so happy!! Thank you for sharing this, and how God is using this to show you how loved you are, and to give you hope! :)

[@kaitlyne1153]

A lot of relationship advice weighs me down but I really appreciate your sweet positivity, godliness, and honesty all at once Thank you!

[@user-gg9jy1oi2n]

Tiffany - what an interesting thing insecurity is!! I deal with massive amounts of insecurity. Being cheated on more times than I can count and dating excessively lustful men, etc etc. It’s bizarre in a sense for me to see you, someone who is beautiful, fun, wise, and (seemingly) confident deal with jealousy too! Thank you for opening up about this and for the advice. It’s like talking to a big sister ❤️

[@UnAshamed2010]

I totally get you. It’s something I struggled with at first, and even once in a long while now. We even have had conversations about who we have been “attracted” to (in movies, in real life) and what are attractive about those people. Talking it out really helped.

[@andreamoscoso4065]

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[@MatandEst]

Love hearing you guys' perspective on this! Thanks for being so open! I think in any relationship open communication is the most important thing - being able to tell the other person how you feel and them being willing to listen to why you feel that way! Love this! - Est X

[@TiffanyDawn]

Mat & Est - ChristianVloggers yes so true!! That open communication is the key 😍

[@dayanashiplett5274]

Please do a part 2 to this video. This is so good and I love your willingness to be vulnerable. ❤️

[@hannahmiller7347]

This hits so close to home. I struggle with expecting my bf to not see other women as desirable. But if a woman is desirable it really just points out that she is disciplined, in her power, and I can learn from her how to be more desirable myself. Its so humbling. I really struggle with self hatred which is why I'm not as desirable as most women...I don't take care of myself, I'm not joyful and alive and feminine. Sometimes I get so angry at my bf I want to flirt with men just to make him see what it feels like.

[@minju3492]

I'm sorry to hear that. I think what helps me is to think about how God sees you. What would he say about you as a daughter of God?

[@hannahmiller7347]

@@minju3492 I think God would say, turn my fears and flaws over to God so I can be freed from the weight of shame and allow God to work through me in my heart and actions so that I can feel gods eternal love for me ❤️

[@holdontohope7286]

Liked the video! One thing that wasn't talked about was ... does he get jealous?

[@missmlb3842]

Hey guys! I really love how you both approached this situation. It all depends on the heart,or motive, of either the wife or the husband when speaking to someone other than their spouse. We humans are quite complicated especially as women who are very emotional. What we have to be careful of is exactly what you said, "painting scenarios in her head." And a lot of times that's just Satan planting a seed of doubt. It's okay to admire Beauty. But it's the second look, then the third look, that we have to be careful of. One thing I learned from someone very special to me is this. If I have to force or make this man pay attention to me then I'm going to find myself having a difficult time holding onto him when I married to him. This is not the situation with you as a couple. But if someone is not married to someone I mean that's a sign already that they might need to reconsider the relationship (my x). It is a sign of disrespect in anyone who is doing it again and again. My x boyfriend did that and then would make me feel like it was my fault if a guy looked at me. I would graciously smile but hold onto him tighter so onlooker knew I was with him. Again it's okay to admire Beauty in someone and if the husband gets to admire Beauty than the wife must get to admire Beauty but both have to reconsider the second /third look. You both are in the public eye and you are also standing for Christ in the public eye. You better believe that Satan will use this to tear your ministry down. Beware of that- Satan will use gullible women or men to try to tear your name down. One look or an extremely long conversation with no accountability can open a door you do not want to open. What you both have to do, I would pray, is ask God to guide you when either of you are talking to someone of the opposite sex. Why not stand with each other ? Why not hold each other's hand a lot of times that will eliminate any kind of weird situation that could be trying to pop up. It's just some helpful hints that I hope help. Doing these kinds of things will strengthen your marriage and will bring a different type of bonding that will make your ministry even stronger but also impenetrable by the enemy. I love your transparency and your honesty. Both of you have a unique way of showing that. I love how you talk to him in your marriage. That kind of communication is important. Billy Graham never would go to restaurants or be seen alone with a woman at public places unless it was with his wife. It goes both ways. Pray for ways in which both of you can honor and respect each other and God while interacting with people.God will work POWERFULLY and your marriage will grow deeper.

[@valeriamejia5154]

I just love how real you both are!!!!! 😄

[@MySonshineLife]

Thank you for being willing to open up and be transparent! Surely your labor of love and work in the Lord is not in vain. Would love to hear more on this topic, as the Lord leads you both!

[@nikitaa_03gaming38]

This is definitely a issue on my marriage because I just recently been jealous since We got married,it’s something I been trying to work on but it’s hard. I’m trying to get a counselors to help me out but I’m scared because I’m not the types that want to talk about my problems to anyone, and I don’t trust people so easily.

[@TiffanyDawn]

It IS hard - I agree! It's a hard thing to work through! I'm so glad you're trying to find a counselor even though it's not something you're normally comfortable with. That takes a lot of courage and is so important! If you're looking for a counselor, I do have a company who sponsors me, and who I highly recommend - you can learn more about them here! - www.tiffanydawn.net/counseling ❤️

[@selflessloveministries]

Ahhh haha I needed this!

[@tumochilboshi8220]

I enjoyed the video and thank you for the advices!Lately, I feel jealous towards this girl that my boyfriend talks to. In their conversation he’s so talkative and chatty while in our conversations, it feels so forced and so quick. I told him how I feel and he responded that I’m the one he loves, and he sees that girl as a little sister. I’m really grateful for what he said, however; our conversations stayed the same, dry as a desert and theirs is still chatty and lively. Of course I tried my best to carry on in our own conversations but after a lot of tries and things still stayed the same, I just got tired. I don’t want him to not talk to his female friends , I just want for him to be talkative to me as well. I do want to talk to him again about this topic, but I feel that the same thing will happen again where nothing changes. In our relationship, I can’t help to ask myself is there something wrong with me? Or something I’m not doing? Because I feel like he doesn’t care about me or my worries. I’m praying for the Lord’s guidance in our relationship.

[@foodforthought5712]

It doesn’t sound like he really loves you. That doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you though. I think the best thing anyone can do is to be themselves. For me, as a Christian, I want to renew my mind and have my thoughts, actions, and words lineup with how Jesus was. If I’m doing that, and I’m being myself, and somebody is not interested in who I am, then we are not a good match. There is someone out there that will love you and think you’re the best thing ever just like you are...and you won’t have to try to drag a conversation out of him because he’s going to love being around you, and spending time with you, and talking with you.

[@tumochilboshi8220]

Food For Thought thank you! God bless!

[@sshep0904]

OMG Tiffany, this literally happened to me this weekend and I remembered this video. My bf is a total extrovert and loves talking to other ppl about their opinions and points of view. I'm more introverted. I felt forgotten on our road trip with another couple. At one point I felt like I tried to say something and he kind of ignored comment. We talked about what he could do to make me feel better and I remembered this video you mentioned your husband holding your hand etc. Can't say I did'nt show my jealousy for feeling ignored/ forgotten by my significant other but I'm trying to work through it and accept who he is too with these tools you shared. Thanks for your video & honesty. I love watching!! 💓

[@tilliecooper4858]

Thank you so much! I fight with jealous so much. I don’t want to have that in my life because I know it’s not of the Lord. This helps so much thank you again! God bless 💙

[@chinonsoibe2384]

You guys are real. It’s hard to find Christian couples who are real and honest .

[@serenitybacon1501]

Girl, you are gorgeous! You both are a beautiful couple!

[@micaela6648]

This was such great advice wow!! I'm shoookith..I really need to change or else our relationship is going to end

[@tracyyvon225]

They said melly. That's awesome.

[@tessathornton4786]

God bless you both! thank you so much for this video, I really needed this. Also you are so beautiful inside and out. Thank you again 💕

[@DavidJMunoz-kn2qh]

Well, that happens to Bald Guys like me also... Hehehehe. But well, it gets better when I bend my knees to God and pray, and talk about how I feel in that moment with my Wife, who I know that loves me very very much. I think those advices are pretty helpful, I wish you can expend more time about this issue in the future, is essential, I believe it can leads marriages to divorce in worst cases. It has to do with our own insecurities, but my honestly response to that, is that you need... we need to see ourselves, as the Lord sees us. We are the Children of God, and He cares for our relationships, He cares about their sons and daughters and He is in control of everything, even our own circumstances. God bless you all!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this! :)

[@singing.winnie]

You guys are such a blessing.. Do you know that?

[@loganberlew3191]

If beennonndates where my date has said I was “Flirty” with the waitress, but they seem to fail to realize that I’m just an outgoing friendly person who’s nice to almost everyone

[@freemandiaz5123]

Ack! This is so 100%!! What a source of frustration! I notice everybody and everything in public. It is of male need to protect. I am often accused of not giving full attention.

[@celinabarrera7819]

Ugh you are spot on. I am struggling with self worth. My partner is amazing. I need help!

[@TiffanyDawn]

It really can be so hard to work through jealousy! I'm praying God provides some awesome wise people who can walk beside you on the journey :):)

[@FarAwayDistance]

Missed your vids ❤❤❤

[@TiffanyDawn]

FarAwayDistance ❤️❤️❤️

[@syrenatorres4463]

I am really happy you guys shared this video!!! It helped me a lot! I can relate to some of the points you guys touched! I was in a relationship and dealt with some of these things but now I’m a single working on myself so I’m so happy you guys shared this it was very helpful!! 🙏🏼😁

[@haleyklapp8797]

Does anyone else struggle with depression and hurt that your partner still notices other people and you’re not the only one who is pretty in his eyes? I know that sounds crazy I’m probably the only one🤦‍♀️ It just hurts so much and I want freedom!!

[@mercyjune9554]

you are not the only one i am the exact same way. somehow we need to find healing though :( but don’t worry i 100% relate.

[@BloomIntoFaithWithEmily]

I can relate to you so much Tiffany! This was super helpful. Love this video and you two so much😀 ps. The editing in this video is amazing!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh yay! That's so encouraging!!

[@headcase31780]

I hope he is being more attentive to you. Your insecurity is normal, and he should adjust his behavior as well and be mindful about how he makes you feel.

[@TiffanyDawn]

headcase31780 oh yes he definitely is SO much more aware of me now. I think it’s something a lot of guys aren’t aware of doing, so it’s super important to talk about it. ❤️

[@christywoelfel838]

Wow this is SUCH a helpful video! Thank you sooo much Tiffany and James! I love the perspectives you guys bring

[@TiffanyDawn]

Ohhh yay!! That makes me so happy that it was so helpful!! 🤗

[@sequoyah5996]

I am in a talking getting to know type relationship and found i was jealous of his own family! UGH. I just refocused so that i was happy that he was spending time with them ans focusing his attention on one thing that way when i am with him the same is true :) Great advice!! :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

Horse Lover love hearing how you handled this!! ❤️❤️

[@carolinewang5935]

This was super helpful. Thanks Tiffany!

[@JORACASEY1921]

My husband tends to really look at other girls. And anytime I try to talk to him he denies it. While I’ve grown enough to understand that mean look at attractive females, I still am hurt by it. Especially when I know he has actually cheated on his ex wife before and lied to me about smoking until he got busted. How do you distinguish between your insecurities and an unhealthy relationship?

[@foodforthought5712]

You are definitely not being insecure. Unfortunately we live in a society where we say “boys will be boys” and that includes them looking & lusting after women and not taking responsibility for their actions. Men are actually not “visual” as everybody says. There’s not one scripture in the Bible that says that men are visual. That is a bunch of lies that have been fed to us through movies and TV programs and magazines etc. and even from the pulpit of churches. People excuse their lust for being a man as, “ I’m visual.” Jesus said that if a man even looks at a woman with lust that he has committed adultery with her in his heart. God is telling us that we should not be viewing people that way, and if a man respects you and loves you, he’s not going to do that to you. He’s not going to do things that make you feel insecure and unloved. Instead, he will do things that make you feel secure, appreciated, and loved. And he won’t do them just to placate you; he will do them because it’s the right thing to do and he wants to love and honor you. Let me ask you a question: do you think that God would make men visual knowing that it would harm a woman for the rest of her life? Do women really think that they have to put up with being treated poorly because a man wants to say that he’s “visual?“ That would not be the basis for a good marriage. God gave men a desire to pursue a godly woman. God gave women a desire to respond to a godly man. When operating in lust, a man will pursue any woman, and a woman will respond to any man. When operating properly, the man and woman will pursue and respond to each other only.

[@genevievedobson6351]

Thank you so much, this is really helpful to hear :)

[@victoriaullrich]

I’ve missed you Tiffany! I’m glad you were able to take off the holidays, but I’m so glad you’re back! I’ve been checking for a few days now wondering when you’d start posting again. I guess as a follow up video idea could be for those of us that are insecure. How would you go about becoming more secure and confident so that we don’t fall into the insecure jealousy? Not sure if you’ve done a video on that idea or not, but I would like to know your thoughts. Happy new year. Can’t wait to see what content you post and where your channel will go :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

Victoria Ullrich ❤️❤️ I missed you too!! That’s such a great question. I’ve only done a couple videos on this topic, although you may have seen them already, but it’s something I’d like to do more on eventually 😄

[@TiffanyDawn]

Victoria Ullrich here’s one: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hnexgGmMhqx-p6M

[@TiffanyDawn]

Here’s another: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWKZiKp8qsqjrcU

[@TiffanyDawn]

Victoria Ullrich and one more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3LNZYNjrcxoaLc

[@erinjoyce9762]

Thank you for making this video!!!!

[@msisajewel]

Wow! Thank you for being so raw about such an awkward subject. I thought it was just me that felt like that LOL

[@carolayala1841]

Good bless you guys!! You both are so cool. Thanks for the time and advices. 🤗❤️

[@berthshemeshhasing6347]

You both are amazing 🥰✨

[@weezbeez9440]

Thankyou so much for this, this is exactly how I feel Tiffany

[@annalayman9780]

Having the male's point of view is so helpful!

[@AmyAlways]

Enjoyed this - thank you for sharing your story :) May God bless you both 🕊

[@britnipoole3349]

Thank you for this❤️!

[@aliciaarias9262]

Thank you so much need to hear this

[@dirtywashedupsparkle]

Guys feel jealous too, of course. There's this jealousy of one person over their boyfriend/girlfriend getting along better with their friends of the opposite sex. I'm getting the idea that this could be out of insecurity or an ungodly jealousy sometimes, at other times a godly and normal jealousy that comes as a couple are adjusting to relating to their partner in a closer, more exclusive and intimate way than with friends of the opposite sex, who should become less. Perhaps it's the growing pains of adjusting to that change.

[@TiffanyDawn]

I love how you described it as the "growing pains" of a relationship - that's so good!

[@harryschlitz4067]

Kudos to both of you for bringing this up, Blessings. However Ladies I want you to know that there are THREE Women in a Man's life at all times and no I am not talking about His Mother, Daughter, Grandma, Sister, First Cousin. I am saying ANY Woman from his 2nd cousin on down between 18 to 99 is open season. Oh the three women, FIRST is the wife & or significant other, SECOND is his work wife, he might have already done something with her and or is trying to arrange a work conference 3 time zones over to be with her, she is the # 1 contender 2b the "wife or significant other" so wives and s.o. be aware. THIRD Is the chick you meet on the street during free non work time, it could be at the party in a quick one on one conversation with her to try to "read" her, also include waitresses, bank tellers, grocery clerks, fast food order takers, gym rats, mall rats, rent a cops, bar flys, church girls, the list is endless. And let me assure you Ladies, no such thing as an innocent conversation between us and a female NEVER. JMHO.

[@Kaxxonxbox]

No dislikes ! Love it 💕

[@gabriellagrimaldo6335]

So my personal experience with jealousy is not just the guy, but the girl he is showing attention to. Mostly because my first boyfriend cheated on me with a friend. That being said, yeah there's problems with the guy but I look at her character and find fault with it, making her the bad guy as well in my head. This occurs as well with crushes who choose someone other than me to be romantically involved with. I start picking at things about her even though she might be a great person. How does one overcome that and change the narrative?

[@GraceUponGraceProductions]

Really good stuff. Single pringle but this is such good info to take in!! Love ya'll so much!💙

[@rawr333r]

You guys are adorable

[@jcrodriguez0131]

I have a jealousy issue, I'm a guy, and I feel like rn that my girl should only think I'm cute, attractive, and good looking, so I'm trying to see if I'm right or wrong and to what extent, and asking God to help me, anyone have anything to say to me about this?

[@iFURYx]

Thank you so much for giving me this tips like really I am with my first girlfriend and I have never ben so jealous never in my life I trust here with all my life that she is a loyal person because that's what she showed me but sometimes I just get jealous because she talks about here past and if there is a dude in it I get jealous I just think that yeah he probably look better and all of this if I thi k joe about it it's stupid I am either here because she loves me and I won like you guys said I dont really have to worry and tha k you for this video it helped me calm down because I am overdoing it tha k you

[@carmelacoates3240]

Jealousy is a issue but also the bible talks about lust of the eyes being a common problem with men and them being visual. Generational and ancestrial spirits can cause unknown attraction that draws someones attention to each other and too often women are blamed for jealousy.

[@benrex7775]

I also notice girls, but if I don't know them well I avoid them a little. Because I don't want the attraction and I don't want to look creepy. At least that's what I think it is. That's the opposite problem.

[@notmynaam5489]

I love this video

[@SungJongiesMine]

I’m just like James. I notice people and like to people watch. I don’t watch one particular person but if I sit down to a restaurant I like to look around to see who is around me, see what people are ordering or whatnot. And my ex has insane trust issues so he always accused me of looking at other guys lustfully. And he’ll bring up someone I don’t even remember looking at because it wasn’t lustfully, it was probably just a guy who had a bright shirt on and it caught my eye. Anyways my ex wasn’t a believer so breaking up was a good thing.

[@TiffanyDawn]

That sounds so hard! I'm so glad you were able to see the struggles in the relationship and figure out what needed to happen.

[@A96B6]

1:48 land mine bro walk carefully. Love you guys.

[@A96B6]

Very insightful

[@TiffanyDawn]

A96B6 😂 for real though!!! Poor James and all the land mines he has to maneuver 😂

[@Clauds71]

So helpful thanks guys 😊

[@wendywesley9220]

I agree lady

[@tabitha.mwihaki4964]

Gurl I am going through the same things 😰

[@TiffanyDawn]

I'm so sorry you're going through the same things! It's so hard to work through this. I definitely found counseling SO HELPFUL. Jealousy is something that hardly EVER comes up in my relationship with James anymore, and counseling made a huge difference in that growth for me!

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[@angiezamora4066]

Tiffany, are you by any chance Catholic? I've watched a couple of your videos and you remind of Crystalina Everet. Look her up, she's an awesome speaker when it comes to chastity before marriage and things of that topic. John Paul II is also great. He wrote a book titled "Love and Responsibility". It's really really amazing. Blessings! Thank you for your videos

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh thank you so much for this encouragement! I haven't heard of Crystalina, but she sounds awesome! I'm not Catholic, but I LOVE Catholic services - they are so rich and beautiful! I grew up in non-denominational Christian churches, so the liturgy is all new to me, and I love how deep it is!

[@rightbrainintrovert7764]

Obviously not in a lustful way, but rejoicing in the beauty of God's creation is beautiful. Do we not stare at God's creation in sunsets, animals, babies? What is more worthy of looking at in awww wonder of God's beautiful creation then the male and female beings! Women don't realize that they have probably already spotted out and analyzed the beautiful woman in the room long before their boyfriend or husband did. Are we as women looking at other women rejoicing in their being as God does saying, "behold it is very good!"? My prayer is that you (all the beautiful ladies out there) continue to root out envy/ jealousy from the heart and pray to see every soul thru the eyes of God and also give your husbands some slack because in the end, his sins are between him and God, our call is to love them. The closer we draw to God Himself and allow Him to love us, the less we will want to take from our spouses and become self- donating to them. They will desire us more from that because we will be filled with true love, God's love! God bless you all!!!

[@natalialuckup1082]

Love

[@BROTHERJONATHANBURG]

FATHER JESUS BLESS ALL GODLY SOULS AND THANK YOU.... FATHER JESUS WILL RETURN IN HIS TIME AND KNOWS THAT HE HIMSELF IS GOD REPENT & BE BAPTIZED EVERY ONE OF YOU IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST FOR THE REMISSION OF SINS AND YE RECEIVE THE GIFT OF HOLY GHOST!!!

[@hangmaimai5698]

🤗🤗❤👍

[@iamURHO]

Hello! I admire your faith. Lord please give me a Godly partner. Like please!!!!! That is ONLY if you want me to be married. 😊 Thank you Lord. -Zea S.

[@celinesbaldrich460]

Sorry guys I feel like this is a lot of bolony and this is making excuses . Men naturally look at women. Lol no your husband like to look at other women period. Not say he cheats. Sesame Street relationship crap

[@lokinggoodbrowneyegirl9557]

STOP MOVE ON RACHEL RIO HERNANDEZ. AS HES SAYS HE DON'T WANT YOU NO MORE. LIFES ENDED WITH YOU.

[@mak88119]

The best way to stop feeling jealous in a relationship is to NOT be in a relationship. Avoid the pain and stay single.