How To Stop Hating Yourself!

Recently Self-Hatred or Self Loathing has a been subject a lot of you have asked about. So today, we're going over ways in which we can stop hating ourselves.
We hear it all the time.. You just have to believe in yourself, or say some positive affirmations each day it will make you feel better. Or one that I mention frequently, you should talk more nicely to yourself because it can improve your mental health. While all of these things are true, and they can in fact help us feel better about ourselves, it can be hard to go from, you are so stupid and lazy! To...You are amazing and so good at everything!
Cause suddenly saying positive things just isn’t going to work. Sure we can say it, but we aren’t going to believe it, so we aren’t going to keep doing it. It can feel like a waste of time and frankly, stupid! Since we know talking more kindly to ourselves is key to fighting anxiety, stress, depression, body dysmorphia and many other mental health issues, how can we change the way we talk to ourselves without feeling like a total fraud? This is where bridge statements come in! They bridge the gap between the negative and sometimes downright nasty thoughts and the positive ones. And here is how they work....
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[@kbkoolaid1]

Thank you! I've been struggling with feeling unlovable and having a low self worth. This video helps so much.

[@emmajohnson1744]

Kayla Bear oh honey I feel the same way too. Nobody loves me and I think they have a good reason not to as i am ugly and sometimes they’d say I am stupid too. Yes I admit that I am ugly but I don’t think that I am stupid in the same amount they might think. At the end of it, I know deep within that I need to love myself even though I am ugly and stupid. Because usually even ugly things and stupid ones deserve some love out of compassion with how much they have to deal with. I will love myself and create opportunities for myself even though no one did that for me. Please, love yourself and create good things for yourself. I love you all.❤️❤️❤️

[@killertruth186]

I honestly had felt that was true to me as well.

[@Katimorton]

I am so sorry you have been having such a hard time.. but I am glad the video helped!!!! xoxo

[@kbkoolaid1]

@@Katimorton thank you 💜

[@NenaLavonne]

Kayla Bear 🦋 You are enough. You are lovable. You are not alone.

[@pickledoe212]

“We have to live with the idea that our negative thoughts that could be wrong. Thoughts are not facts, they are not based in research, and they are not unbiased” wow... just wow... that hit home. 🥺🖤

[@TheLundraAlliance]

Laci Johnson Facts seem hard to discover at times too. This is a good quote.

[@killertruth186]

What had me the most, is the part that not being loveable and not being happy was just a negative thought.

[@jm-gq4oo]

Then the negative actions are the product of the thought .....enough actions and U are in a dark place ....were before they were only thoughts ! Gold comment your right ! Good one !!!!!🌹

[@Katimorton]

[@melissaharkins22]

I have an issue with the "not based in research" part. When I have a negative thought like, "I'll always be a horrible procrastinator" or "I'll never be consistent with exercise and be fit" it is based on history, therefore based in research. If it's how I've always been, it's a good indicator it's how I always will be. I know that's a completely unhealthy negative mindset and I don't like that it's my response to the comment but that's the mind I'm living in unfortunately. Would love feedback.

[@rm.makes.me.smile_]

Something I've found that helps me is when I think something bad I catch myself and add the word "sometimes" to it. For example: "Oh my god I'm so ugly... sometimes. Not all the time, but sometimes" Or "I make such stupid decisions...sometimes. Sometimes I make stupid decisions, but not all the time. Maybe this time I did, but maybe next time I wont" This may or may not work for others but it's helped me feel a lot more open to the possibility that I'm not as sucky ALL the time as I think I am.

[@TheLundraAlliance]

RoseyRoses sometimes is good idea

[@wax9007]

Every person is distinguished by aspects of his personality, as each person has a key and a way to overcome his problems. Very good that I have done

[@rm.makes.me.smile_]

@Halberdier You're welcome! Hope its successful for you

[@jennifer7648]

Thank you so much!!! I know that will help me for sure😊

[@dogslife4831]

Love it ♥

[@paleobc65]

I’m glad Kati finally took on toxic positivity

[@valhalla1240]

true. As an ex-anorexic, I don't think the solution is to start loving everything about your body, but to change your system of self-evaluation. Looks aren't that important. There are more aspects to your body than looks, like health, fitness etc.

[@carolineoconnor2461]

@Hi ??? Why ???

[@HansBjorgman]

@Hi Bye.

[@racheln8563]

Yeah, that’s about as bad as being constantly told to smile.

[@StudlyStudmuffin]

@@valhalla1240 "looks aren't that important"... You can say that because you're not ugly.

[@genn7828]

“I’m so annoying and that’s why no one likes me” “I might not actually be that annoying and unlikable”

[@Katimorton]

Exactly!!! xoxo

[@ProvavelmenteYasmin]

@Velma Olden Them you should analise yourself, see what you're doing to annoy them, so you can see if they're indeed right and you may do slight changes to stop annoying them.

[@bellaandsevy5338]

This video COULD be the start of people’s recovery, just maybe (Edit Holy Crap thank you I did not expect that many likes thank you)

[@Katimorton]

It's possible ;) xoxo

[@minthint269]

I tried the positive affirmations but it was so stressful because I didn't believe them and it didn't feel like it was doing anything. Thank you so much for mentioning this, it takes the stress off of going from really negative to really positive.

[@dogslife4831]

I can already see how you succeed in my mind

[@Katimorton]

I am so glad this was helpful!!! Yay!! xoxo

[@QuranwithRain]

I agree. I just felt like I was lying to myself which made me feel worse

[@moonwizz]

Feelings of unloved and alone.

[@louise6119]

Sometimes I feel as if I don’t deserve to be kind to myself and I don’t deserve anything that’s happy and that’s hard

[@jellyfish5569]

I have that. I try and act tough but i dont want to be weak and i hate myself sm that i dont deserve any happiness in life only misery

[@seaofsolace]

I feel the same way. I grew up in a very unhappy home and unfortunately, happiness is out of my comfort zone. I am trying very hard to make it my new normal.

[@PaulFerguson-t2x]

I'm with you there.

[@sarahjo5570]

My positive affirmation for today is actually along these lines: I believe in the person I dream of becoming.

[@dogslife4831]

I like the idea You are generating hope via a positive selfimage you desire

[@KeifusMathews3]

Self-Hatred is my main cause for my depression so happy you decided to talk about this, get some popcorn folks and enjoy the message, thanks Kati~

[@Katimorton]

Of course!! I hope it helped!!! xoxo

[@KeifusMathews3]

@@Katimorton Everything you say has helped me and I'm trying because the women I love Tricia Roberts deserves us to make it thru the storms so Thank you from both of us!! Happy holiday's

[@liveuser8527]

​@@Katimorton but whayIF im still a pretty ugly and unattractive male?

[@Thelostmcmotorcycleclub]

The main cause of my self hatred is my curse of sudden skill loss, my terrible genetics & terrible luck. Also it’s because everyone else is better than me when they don’t deserve to be better I’ve put in more time I literally should be everyones superior in every way at this point, no reason at all I shouldn’t be. I will not stop comparing myself until i get what i fucking want & stopping comparing myself would mean I’m settling mediocrity which is the same as giving up, why would anyone settle for mediocrity when they could be everyones superior? I sure as hell wouldn’t settle for mediocrity, i bet on that.

[@라면은맛있어-o7w]

Me too

[@dwayneneckles]

This came right on time. God is trying to tell me not to give up

[@dogslife4831]

Yes, focus on positive truths "Truth will set you free" - Bible

[@_just_TK]

staybalanced you got this! ❤️👍

[@bethany-b2pkfilms792]

I believe in you

[@VeridianCityCards]

He is and so are we! We are with you

[@Dino_Skull]

Amen💛

[@jennifer7648]

I was abused by my dad every single day for 18 years, in every way except sexually just because I am a girl and not a boy like he wanted. Every day I heard from him that I was stupid, dumb, would never amount to anything. For many years now I have been struggling to regain my sense of positive self worth and self-esteem. This is the first time I have ever heard of bridge statements. Thank you tremendously for this!!!!

[@kerryirving2949]

Jennifer ❤️

[@rscott2247]

Letting go of my toxic mother has been an important step in reclaiming myself. Only I can claim my identity.

[@liveuser8527]

Why are you defining yourself based on the opinions of someone who clearly has problems? Not logical

[@jennifer7648]

@@liveuser8527 Well, no matter how much I really don't want to, the things my own dad said made an enormous impact on me. He's my dad regardless of what he said or did, which means I had to endure it for a large part of my life. When it comes from a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or someone else you are in contact with every single day, it leaves a very lasting mark on you. Due to being screamed at by him about my grades, I now have anxiety about my current school work come up when I get behind, that I never expected or knew would happen. It isn't something that will go away quickly. It takes a lot of time and healing. Possibly the rest of my life. So please don't make comments like this that are very toxic and dismissive of what a person has gone through.

[@Pharagill]

@@liveuser8527 What's actually not logical is lecturing others on a topic where you are clearly ignorant.

[@MatRoush]

"It's POSSIBLE that" Kati Morton is the greatest person on KZbin.

[@jamesgentry13]

Nah too much toxic positivity

[@lastpidigit9]

girl you made me cry at work, please never stop making these videos, you are a ray of sunshine

[@cathykley7238]

Yep bridge statements are very effective stepping stone. Funny, my husband started me on bridge statements and we didn't even know that was a thing! Lol Now I've been able to switch over to positive statements that I almost half believe! Progress!

[@TheLundraAlliance]

Cathy Kley ^_^ yay

[@Katimorton]

Yay!!! That's amazing progress!! xoxo

[@annagajda5079]

When it's sometimes hard for me to get up from bed and I think "I can't get up. I'm so tired and scared and paralised and I don't want to do anything" I start to think instead "You are able to move, it's possible for you to take this one leg out of bed, and then another and so on" and I focus only on this task - to get up and do anything. It's something a bit different from what you've talked about, but it's also kind of a bridge statement to the one "I want to get up and do things".

[@dogslife4831]

Try to exercise in the morning, as soon as you get up It will feel impossible, but its not true Compliment yourself for your self-discipline afterwards Sooner or later you will look forward to do exercises in the morning Exercise spikes your adrenalin and other good stuff in your body Evetually you will sleep easier, which will make you get up easier Setting you up in a postive spiral This technique was useful for me and has a good chance to work for you too

[@karengallagher3608]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m feeling this exact way today

[@macandcheese__]

"maybe i could, some time in the future, be lovable and happy" is literally the only thought that's helped me live this long.

[@dogslife4831]

Everybody loves Mac & Cheese

[@_just_TK]

Dog's Life true story! 😹

[@DarisT-qc1fw]

I came here searching for how to stop hating myself, but after watching, I realized that I don't hate myself, but I hate the circumstances that I'm in and I resent the people around me.

[@madipetrowski7712]

I've had countless therapists tell me to talk kindly to myself, but I couldn't just all of a sudden start telling myself I'm amazing cuz I won't believe it. This is what I needed. More therapists need to say this.

[@PaulFerguson-t2x]

You ARE amazing👏

[@OhighOSkater]

2 days after starting to give this a shot, I do feel like it’s helping. I could never just tell myself “I’m great” or whatever and believe it, but the bridge thoughts really do help. Thank you for making this video. I appreciate you and I hope you’re doing well

[@hellofriend2109]

Do you have advice on getting overwhelmed? I get extremely overwhelmed very quickly and often go into extreme emotional states or rage and I’m paying way too many bills for things I ruin in those states

[@cathykley7238]

When I was more healthy, I used to run until I calmed down. Rage, grief, overwhelmed, whatever extreme emotional state I was in. Plus some music that matched my emotional state.

[@andrewgoodwin9385]

You might have ADHD. I had it for years without realizing it. It's real and screws up your Life.

[@dogslife4831]

I knew this very well Good advice I read and applied: Your mind can only think of one thing at a time, set your mind on positive truths (Read positive books) Breath slowly in and out Give yourself commands: Be calm a relaxed for a few minutes Exercise until it becomes manageable Then attack the route problem in your thinking with counter arguments (I wont be able to 💣 I am able to do....!!!!)

[@cathykley7238]

@@andrewgoodwin9385 I figured out that I have/had/improved Childhood Emotional Neglect and Childhood Emotional Abuse. Once my emotional needs were finally being met, (People have emotional needs?? Whaaaaat? Who knew?? Lol, I sure didn't) a large amount of that subsided. I can now identify most of my feelings and can figure out what's going on, if you give me a day or two to think about it.

[@killertruth186]

Sometimes I do get overwhelmed with some scenarios. But my most recent is marriage and love.

[@NowUndefined]

"I don't deserve to be loved or happy" It's like you crawled into my head to pick this one out.

[@dogslife4831]

Read Rabbi Twerski's books Part of being happy is being a spiritual person Spiritual person is someone who becomes the best he/she can be in the current situation

[@luckywright7285]

I've always found bridge statements to be extraordinarily helpful! They allow you to feel "not perfect" without everything hurting so much. Healing takes time and for some of us, is constant.

[@bagelhog4967]

This seems like a more realistic way to combat low self worth. I will try to work on it! Thank you Kati!

[@dogslife4831]

Success awaits you

[@Katimorton]

Yay!! I hope it helps :) xoxo

[@hopegold883]

But the first step is becoming aware of when I use negative self-talk, which is almost constantly. Or maybe this is just you just make a blanket statement in the morning and evening? once you identify the put downs. Oh! Worth a try.

[@dogslife4831]

@@hopegold883 Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Book by David D. Burns I found this book useful

[@admirbarucija2018]

This is something I’ve struggle with for years and need help with, thank you so much for uploading this Kati!! I’m thankful for everything that you do ❤️🥰

[@wax9007]

Adapting to reality and contentment is the best treatment for facing life’s problems

[@admirbarucija2018]

anas That’s true, though certainly easier said than done :)

[@wax9007]

@@admirbarucija2018 I am optimistic and do not worry about something. There is no person on the face of the earth that does not suffer from problems, but the solution is to adapt and coexist with reality.

[@admirbarucija2018]

anas I’m glad to hear you don’t tend to worry, and that your approach works for you. Everyone goes through struggles and we react to them in ways that work for us.

[@wax9007]

@@admirbarucija2018 I was very pleased to speak with you, I wish you a happy life good bye

[@berry7590]

What sorcery is this really!!! She’s reading our minds folks . 😂

[@TheLundraAlliance]

berry lolololol

[@ghostie7790]

I always feel like therapists read minds. Lol I just searched this the other day bc I’ve been feeling like shit lately!

[@dogslife4831]

😀

[@_just_TK]

MAGIC!!!!!

[@Katimorton]

hahah!!! It's like I have ESP! lol!! xoxo I hope it was helpful :) xoxo

[@csewell77]

My therapist and I work on this a lot (it can be really hard to truly innately believe overly positive messages when your brain is so negative to you constantly). You hit the nail on the head that one of the hardest first hoops you have to jump through is even entertaining the possibility that the negative messages could be wrong. Thank you for all that you do Kati.

[@mossyvoxel]

I’ve been practicing this method for a while now, though I never really had a name for it. It took a while before it became a solid habit, but it’s been pretty helpful in curbing my negative thoughts

[@storytellerhut3488]

I think this is so helpful. When your inner voice is always mean and nasty we don’t believe it when we try to make it kind and nice. This has helped me in small parts of my life. I can look back now and think, “wow, I never used to be ok with this, now it isn’t so bad!” Or “Last year, I felt like such a failure I didn’t see how I was succeeding here and here.” It has to start small. Thank you Kati, for explaining this so well and showing us how to move out from under those icky voices in our heads!

[@narutogoldylocks]

Thank you so much for this. I had never heard of bridge statements, and I think they'll be very helpful for me. Saying positive affirmations always feels like I'm lying to myself, and since lying is one of the things I loath the most, I can't seem to bring myself to stick to stating positive affirmations.

[@stephaniescheiderman7072]

Katie you always open my eyes to new perspectives I have been recovering from an ED for 2 years now and my BIGGEST struggle right now is fixing my internal dialogue I am so thankful for this video I have never heard of bridge statements before and I am going to start with them today!

[@picklehari9531]

I have had narcissistic and unavailable parents. Right now, I have had started a company, founded multiple communities and yet I have failed at all of them. I know for a fact that I am just 20 years old. But these constant failures has drained me of any energy and willpower to continue. There is this voice inside somewhere that tells me , that I won’t be loved if I don’t achieve anything significant.

[@_just_TK]

Hariraj K Kati has several videos that may help that I’ll link below! kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJaZinVnnKh3j7M kzbin.info/www/bejne/oX3NdWqtqKmkaac kzbin.info/www/bejne/aqanfaSCaN-rqJY kzbin.info/www/bejne/p2nTcnqJZ7t7abM

[@wax9007]

Sometimes a person's repeated failures and the repeated shocks to which a person is exposed make him hate himself and pessimistic much of the future

[@sirdopaminesjournal3292]

True, but we have to fight against the negativity despite the pattern of negativity we've experienced in the past.

[@dogslife4831]

True Somehow we manage to overcome that and future us wins

[@kerrylarmand6301]

Oh. My. Gawd. How DO you do that?!!??? This is such a hard thing to talk about....even harder when you've thought this of yourself for a VERY long time......Kati, you are so MEANT to be doing what you do....THANK YOU im going to try this " bridge thinking" this week.....

[@viviane_casella]

That is very good! The fact of admiting new possibilities can do wonders, it's the crack that allows the light to come through and starts to crumble the false concreteness of negative core beliefs.

[@TheLundraAlliance]

Viviane Venancio or maybe give light in the darkness we feel maybe hmm

[@dogslife4831]

Yes, crack that wall open let it crumble The light will shine bright soon

[@Raz337]

Ugh. I can't stop watching your videos because I keep seeing ones pop up that are relevant that I keep obsessing over. it's helpful with trying to trust my first therapist that I'm seeing.

[@_just_TK]

Legend71377 so glad ur giving therapy a try!

[@crashkamio5819]

Boy this was a needed video. Especially the one about mot deserving happiness. Gonna try this! Thanks Kati, you're awesome.

[@hebaelwassef]

Wow a smart advice.. I always find it hard to shift 180 degrees from negative to positive and even when I do, I don't believe it and its useless statement. I have never thought of bridge statements but I think they would really help and be more believable. So thank you❤️❤️

[@bethany-b2pkfilms792]

0:09 "wel-come!!' Idk why i always love that so much 😂

[@goodandgreen]

Thank you! This really struck a chord with me, I have atypical face features and I am diagnosed morbidly obese- it’s hard to get myself to imagine that I may not be as fat or as ugly as I think I am.

[@somethingsomethingsomethin8366]

This is actually such an amazing video. It's all about taking small steps, but that's not so easy if you don't know where to even start.

[@krystler7703]

This video was SO helpful! Every time I've tried positive affirmations I'll try it and immediately thing "yea, right" or "bullshit, shut up idiot" or "see that's why nobody wants to be around you" (I'm so mean to myself inside my head) but this is a great technique to try and get past the hateful voice inside my head!

[@edhoover42]

Now I'm wondering why none of my therapists suggested this (as those diametrically opposed self-loving phrases do seem so hard to believe)… Thank you for bringing this up!

[@dogslife4831]

I think people that climbed the ladder themselves will know what work in practice Where others might only know the general theory

[@untappedinkwell]

One of the best things that has helped me on my bad days is the concept of neutral: If you're having a tough time, or saying a lot of negative things about yourself, or it's a bad mental health day--maybe the goal isn't to get to good. Maybe the goal is to get to neutral. Bridge statements are essentially the self talk equivalent, which is really neat. I'm partial to the "I'm a person" or "I'm a person who..." ones. I think they probably come after "I may not be x"--and they go kind of like: "I'm ugly"-> "I may not be as ugly as I think"-> "I'm a person, and my appearance is only one part of me." or "I'm useless"-> "Maybe I'm not useless all the time"-> "I'm the person who feeds my pets, and that has value."

[@shauny8367]

Missed the “Welcome!”, you know, à la Kati 😂

[@AxelLRX]

Are you French ?

[@shauny8367]

Axel Leroux No, I’m not. But I can speak a little French :)

[@gill426]

Me too, I love it! :D

[@Katimorton]

hahah!! It will be back.. don't worry ;) haha! xoxo

[@AxelLRX]

@@shauny8367 oh, I asked because I am

[@bullynator]

Bridge statements are a very good start to begin having more compassion for yourself. The worst and hardest critic regarding your deeds and looks isn’t another person, it’s you. Remember, literally everyone has flaws and you’re not the one to expose yours. Just try to be a better version of “you” tomorrow, that’s sufficient. If you are too hard on yourself and feel unlovable you let the wrong people in your life, you’ll get exploited and abused. Good video!

[@journeytowellness7096]

This is so incredibly helpful! You absolutely nailed my self talk when it comes to just “tell yourself positive things”. Honestly, I could never get the idea out of my head that I’m just bullshitting myself and knew better. I have ADHD and depression and since my diagnosis and learning about the executive function problems ADHD causes, I’ve definitely been a lot less harsh on myself. One of the things that pissed me off the most was how easily I’d forget something I was JUST thinking about and used to call myself every name under the sun. I mean, how could I be so stupid to forget my coffee mug at work AGAIN!? Once I learned that working memory deficits were extremely common with ADHD, I’ve started to become more able to correct myself when I call myself an idiot as a knee-jerk reaction. I just remind myself that I’m not actually stupid, that I have a memory problem that’s going to cause me to forget things often. However, when it comes to parts of my depression, I have a real hard time adjusting my self talk. I’ve been working with a therapist for a bout 1.5 years now and I don’t remember him teaching me about bridge statements. Thank you so much for this!

[@brookerodriguez9489]

Hi Kati I just want to say thank you. My parents are currently looking for a therapist for me, and never would never even know I need help if it weren’t for you. I had so much anxiety about opening up but I started watching you and taking your advice. So thank you so much for everything ,hope you know that you basically saved me from this dark abyss I was plummeting into. Maybe because of the way you inspired me, I might get help and stop being so anxious

[@_just_TK]

Brooke Rodriguez So glad your getting the help u need! Can I tweet this @ Kati on Twitter?

[@theskipper34]

After having a terrible week due to being stuck in my own head, this was a great topic for me for today. Thanks Kati!

[@Katimorton]

Awe I am so glad Jeff!!! xoxo

[@dogslife4831]

I also make the mistake of sometimes getting stuck in my thoughts Try doing more positive actions It helps alot for me

[@princeofb7383]

Katy thanks so much for explaining this balanced approach. As someone who struggles daily with depression,, addiction, overeating...I have a lot of negative self talk in my head so it was great to learn about bridge statements!

[@cagla0239]

Need this right now, thank you!! 😕💖

[@NenaLavonne]

Çağla02 ♥️

[@maggied3188]

"just because we have a thought over and over, doesn't make it true" that made me immediately cry. thank you for making this.

[@AbdulazizMaiof]

Thank you for your amazing videos.

[@LoreMIpsum-vs6dx]

Wow! This is the most powerful and helpful idea I've encountered in a LONG time. Thank you Kati!

[@locke_xp]

Soon I'll be telling myself "begone, thought!"

[@TessVonKaam]

@KatiMorton Kati! This clicked for me tonight! I’m in therapy for a lot and have a ton TON of negative thoughts, beliefs and narratives. What clicked is “I can say bridge statements and REALLY believe them”, which has given me a huge wave of hope. (I’ve been struggling with suicide and self harm so hope is a big deal) One of my bridge statements: I’m barely open to the possibility “I will BECOME open to the possibility ‘I will learn to handle my emotions even if the intensity does not decrease.’” I can say that and be 100% authentically believing what I’m saying and it’s not a negative thought. That for me is a HUGE breakthrough. I can’t thank you enough

[@kozofit]

Nice to see you nominated for a Streamy! You truly deserve it! I appreciate you!

[@Katimorton]

I appreciate you being here!

[@taram4756]

I listen to your videos and you always say the words that make so much sense. I have Major Depression, GAD, PTSD from childhood trauma, and I was recently diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder. I have been going through multiple therapists over the past couple of years because they always seem to be the wrong "fit" for me. My symptoms have gotten so bad that I actually feel afraid of people when I am in public. I used to be so strong and in control and now I feel like the entire medical community has failed to help because I keep trying to reach out and get help only to be shut down. Where do I go? I have Medicaid and I need better mental health care.

[@ryantrue4844]

Great video, I've had my mums friends say they are so surprised and proud of what I've accomplished and what I've done but I'm just here thinking I'm useless and worthless and hating myself for it

[@OhMandy079]

Ryan True same people tell me stuff all the time this stuff and my natural reaction is ugh they are just trying to be nice..why do most of us these days feel this way I don’t understand but even tho I feel the same I’m here to tell you that you are worth a lot in this world and you are wanted here and no matter if people do hate on you there is so much more love from others we need to look more in to 💚

[@dogslife4831]

What helped me: Do a lot of positive things and compliment yourself Next time, you have evidence that you can..... Slow and steady process

[@Alex-el7xr]

Thank you for making this video. Ive been seeing a psychologist and an Occupational therapist for a few years for migraines and anxiety, and this is a problem ive talked with them about. Its nice that you talk about bridge statements, as its a journey, not just a flick of a switch

[@kakyoinsfsb]

Kati is the most sweetest bean. Just the way she says "Welcome!" warms my heart so much. ❤

[@gracetrapani1143]

i love these bridge statements, they are a lot more believable. and we can inch closer and closer to the positive stuff

[@alajlan2012]

In other words: give acceptance for your current version of your self, thx for your great content ❤️

[@MikeyC19836]

That first Bridge Statement Example you used..... EXACTLY What I needed to Hear. I'm using it now. Thank You! and Merry Christmas!

[@AnnaG1996]

Katie, maybe I’m just emotional right now but you have no idea how much your psychology lessons have helped me through life. Wanting to cry thinking about the impact you’ve made. Please never leave KZbin.

[@_just_TK]

Anna Gleason you got this! 👍❤️

[@anyasilka2325]

Thank you very much!! Extremely helpful! Just hearing your confident and caring voice and your information helps!!! 👌🐎❣💪

[@dontcaretochooseone]

Interesting approach. Thanks. When I feel noone wants me, I then think I probably don't like my self and the thoughts go on in more negative things like body image etc.

[@elsietheordinary721]

I’m glad I found your video. I was getting ready to go to this Christmas thing. I was putting on my makeup and realized that I literally look like a clown with my cystic acne and severe dry skin. So I went into a depression and just sat on my couch and cried because of how ugly I am now. Got on KZbin and saw your video. Now, I’m thinking to myself, “oh, it’s possible that one day I won’t be ugly.”

[@kasiam9724]

The 4th one really hit close to home for me.. I'll write it down and put it up on a wall to start building that bridge right away! Thank you Kati! Xx

[@LucretiaPearl]

Currently working on bridge statements. I thankfully don't hate myself, but sure as heck have had issues feeling pretty or more than cute. It's gotten better over the years, but it's still a conscious effort to see the beauty in myself. As always, your content is so helpful! 💕

[@Brandon-dk9sn]

Love this woman. So helpful and understanding.

[@theedrecoveryproject]

Thank you for sharing these tips! ❤️

[@jcat7553]

Never used or heard of bridge statements. Thank you Kati!! Will try 👍🏼

[@jennamartin5913]

Thank you thank you thank you! Bridge statements..... yes yes yes! Anxiety and depression are nasty BUT this will really help me. Gonna try this!

[@osse1n]

Answers to big questions lie within. We just need to gain courage to look those up. Accepting and understanding that we can only work with whatever we have.

[@TheLundraAlliance]

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me Maybe explain that last sentence a bit more?

[@osse1n]

@@TheLundraAlliance Dwelling on things that we cannot influence/change is insanity. We have to accept what we have and work with it to improve overall living situation.

[@Un3arth1yGalaxy4]

Ive fought the negative thoughts battle already but now I have a friend who thinks they're not worthy of love and happiness. This video came at a perfect time.

[@darstar217]

It’s possible that I could get a new job and succeed at it.

[@dogslife4831]

Sounds correct

[@smcd6101]

This was so helpful!! 😃 I’ve struggled with depression most of my life, and I tried telling myself those positive self-affirmations but I was afraid that I would become a narcissist over time because it felt like I was pretending that I have no flaws at all. This advice is a realistic way to encourage ourselves without letting our egos get puffed up. Thank you 🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@malink2658]

What if i hate myself to the point i feel physically sick? When i am not doing great at school, my social life is in shambles and so is my sense of worth, i feel like i’m literally going to throw up. Even when looking in the mirror i feel disgusted and nauseous. It’s very difficult for me to even step outside of my house at times. I don’t really know what to do since i’m only 17 and my parents would become so worried if i would bring it up.

[@wordmeaningsforyou]

Kati, you're truly the patron saint of mental wellness. The work you're putting into bringing so much awareness about our mental failings is truly worth applauding. I love your work and it inspires me to be useful to others too! Much love and respect!

[@passion76pj37]

Thank you so much for this video it's extremely helpful.

[@davidprescott3758]

“I don’t deserve to be loved or happy”. I... broke down crying reading that. Because I sometimes i really think that way. And I want it to stop. I’ve tried positive affirmations, and they are very ineffective because I don’t believe them for a second. I hope these bridge statements can help me get a good start ❤️

[@habibflaha702]

Hi kati.. Your videos on psychology Are my favourites I love your voice And the way you speak You are very helpful and nice person Thanks 😊

[@michaelsharpe4217]

Extremely positive statements can also get you into trouble. Like "I am better than anyone else". I work as computer programmer and I used to say to myself "I am brilliant". I finally realized this caused problems, because I was always trying to impress people or setting unrealistic goals in terms of my career. I did some thought on how to replace the statement "I am brilliant" with something else. I came up with the new statement "I enjoy analyzing things and figuring things out". This was helpful because I could focus more on doing my job correctly and not trying to impress people. I found little situations where I could analyze something just for my own enjoyment or it helped me understand something that was related to my job.

[@_just_TK]

Michael Sharpe so true!

[@snowwhenson8066]

A perfect video for the holidays! Thanks Kati I needed this!!!

[@Telenaus]

one thing i do is keep a kind of mental list ,, & a physical one of accomplishments big or small.. & i look back at both,, it helps me recognize that hey my thoughts lie a lot & that alot of the time i had just basically forgotten the accomplishments. its not a perfect system but it does help

[@marionoschelmuller1718]

I think those are a really good thing. It feels right to me. I automatically started to use them when I started to release shame.

[@alisonmercieca1465]

Wow! I live in the conditional tense because I’m loaded with low self esteem and confidence, except when I’m talking to myself, when I make very harsh definitive statements that I know to be BS, but can’t not believe (the double negative is intensional there). This gives me hope Kati. Thank you, look forward to trying

[@soyyo4154]

ThankYou so much Kati, you have such a great way of communicating complex issues in an easily understandable manner. THANK YOU.

[@whoeveriam8942]

Oh Kati. This video is so helpful. Thank you. I realy needed that "bridge" between positive or negative thinking. Because "positive" thinking like "i am perfect" leads me to other negative thinking like when im not making it as perfect as i wish i would do.... So true.

[@kujmous]

Thank you, as always, Kati. This particular one is a battle I have.

[@ShaneBlackheart]

A lot of this is what I tell myself every day, and I can't seem to just do the positive talk I'm expected to, mostly because my history of abuse tells me otherwise when I try. Like, how do you reverse something if so many have told you you ARE that thing you're saying? My parents always told me growing up to 'think positive thoughts and you'll be fine.' THIS, though, this video is so much more helpful. Thank you Kati.

[@dogslife4831]

Do positive things and compliment yourself afterwards Afte a while you will have hundreds of evidence that you are a neat, self-disciplined, decents human being Just positive thoughts are like balloons Possitive thoughts about your positive actions is solid Think of the movie "Up!!" Attach your balloons to your actual positive actions 🏡 🎈

[@ShaneBlackheart]

@@dogslife4831 that's a good idea :)

[@spoofx7105]

This seems a lot easier for me to do than just telling myself I’m pretty, smart etc. every day.

[@susiju9906]

Thank you, Kati. I struggle so much with self-hate, this video comes just at the right time. It opens the possibility to be kinder with myself, maybe...possibly.

[@carly_xo]

Maybe I’m not as big of a waste of space as I think I am 🤔

[@suzanneberger8202]

Yes it can help and it does need practice! Will give it a shot thanks Kati

[@Nicole-Gh]

Anyone else pushes these "bridge statements" away whenever you catch yourself thinking a bit more positive than usual? Like sometimes (rarely tho) I look in the mirror and I think that I don't look as ugly as let's say, other days, but then I tell myself that I look the same everyday, same ugly face, and no matter what I do it's not gonna change :( Basically, I dont wanna put my hopes up

[@mysticdreameryvp]

This is definitely a needed video. I'm always struggling with being positive about myself. I've always tried the positive affirmations, but like you said I don't believe them and just end up quitting. So hearing the one about not deserving love and not deserving happiness hits home. I struggle constantly thinking that one. I'll definitely have to try and use the bridge statements whenever these thoughts strike. Thanks for making this video Kati.

[@serraapple]

This was so amazingly helpful! Thank you so much!

[@amiejobe7010]

Awesome topic I’m On a recovering journey from a childhood trauma and yrs self love is a most and it’s easier than we time believe me ❤️🙏🏿