How to stop mentally escaping

[@mostafa275]

"You can escape from your responsibility, but you cannot escape from the consequences of escaping from your responsibility."

[@Roddy556]

That's good

[@minhtram696]

god, that's harsh u knoww

[@kenandurrance3470]

Wow..What u just said….the quote..was a slap in the face from reality..so much it physically hurt in my gut because I’m now living with the consequences from ignoring reality and responsibility my whole life. And let me tell ya…it’s not a life ya wanna live .

[@kenandurrance3470]

You can’t. I’m now suffering the consequences from ignoring reality and responsibility my entire life. And let me tell ya…it’s not a life ya wanna live 😢

[@emilyantonia197]

This is life changing. I’ve been a chronic procrastinator even though it results in so much anxiety and self hatred. I was told that I procrastinate because “I don’t care enough,” or because I’m “Lazy,” when actually I’m a huge over-thinker. I get completely paralysed by my own mind and the sense that if I think about it enough I’ll be more prepared. Submitting is letting go of your thoughts, your attachment and just focusing on the act. It completely simplifies it in a way that makes it less daunting

[@CardinalTreehouse]

Check out neurodivergence, it explains a lot of this.

[@prapanthebachelorette6803]

@@CardinalTreehouse both of you guys are right

[@snuppl512]

Same here man...

[@sanoifsiuanb]

Perfectionism 🫠

[@medzahra9405]

@@sanoifsiuanb can you a little bit developp how it related to perfectionnism

[@darklyclad]

I can't articulate how effective this man is at articulation and communication, he's phenomenal to listen to.

[@wantedpwner]

There is pauzing in his talking (pause pause pause) and there is EMPHASIS in the WORDS he is trying to make sure you HEAR CLEARLY. (pause pause pause). These are common TACTICS, but also nice is the fact (pause pause) that he is able to SPEAK without STUTTERING (pause) and talking in such a fluent way.

[@peace_larva]

IKR!!

[@goodlifesince90]

Hard work = excellence

[@shuibabdullah4932]

he really is

[@kipptrummel2476]

and thank gawd every other word isn't "like" or "um"

[@Beach_flower]

My dad is in his mid 70s and has worked out (nearly) daily for 40 years. When I asked him how he had the motivation, he said “I don’t. I turn off my brain and I drive to the gym. I don’t let myself think one thought, I just go. Then once I’m there I get it done and I feel better.” He’s in such great physical health and it’s helped his mental health too. It still took me a long time to follow his advice, but when I do it really does work.

[@zayedahmed2009]

thats amazing man, thank you for sharing

[@huzar7336]

May your dad be blessed, thanks for sharing.

[@Ma-rh7fd]

I am French, with no talent for foreign languages. I was actually pretty bad at it. In 2020, I started watching these videos, first to take control of my life, then to improve my understanding of English, which was catastrophic. And today, this is the first video that I can listen to completely and understand the meaning, without any subtitles. So I just want to thank you. Thanks to your work, I'm getting better at different things : organization, getting things done, cutting out the mental… and english. It was unexpected for me, so sincerely : thank you for these quality contents. I wanted to understand them, so that motivated me.

[@Igloo5555]

You seemed to have written that with very articulate grammar, I believe no punctuation mistakes and spelled everything correctly! That’s tremendous progress for just under 2 years work and having “no talent for languages”!

[@kornel9093]

Based comment. 👍

[@SirShmoopyofAwesometon]

Most people who speak english as their first language have a difficult time understanding it and do not write as well as you did in your comment, so kudos to you.

[@Ma-rh7fd]

@@SirShmoopyofAwesometon Ahah I checked several times before posting this comment… And I'm not sure it's perfect.

[@Ma-rh7fd]

@@SirShmoopyofAwesometon I didn't know "kudos", thank for this new word :)

[@sparkymularkey6970]

It has taken me years to internalize that it's actually my anxiety that causes all of the "Ugh, I don't want to do this thing, it's going to be so hard, it's going to take me forever" thoughts of procrastination, and now that I know what it is, I find myself acknowledging these thoughts and what they are and then letting them go so I can just get to work. It's been a game-changer.

[@philthad8906]

Hi there. You do the work now, just by beeing aware of those thoughts? It sounds so easy.

[@sparkymularkey6970]

@@philthad8906 Hello! Like I said, it's taken me a long time to finally get here, and I still struggle with it from time to time. But what makes this mindset shift work so well for me is that it takes my attention away from the anxious thoughts themselves and instead places it on the awareness of my own mental workings. Instead of being trapped by thoughts of "ahhh, I don't want to do this, it's going to be so hard," I now think, "Oh, this is just my anxiety. It's not real. I don't actually know if it will be hard to do because I haven't even done it yet. Let me find out for myself."

[@philthad8906]

@@sparkymularkey6970 Thanks for the reply. Good that you found a strategy to get into action =)

[@jewelsking4756]

Have you ever looked into ADHD testing ?

[@sparkymularkey6970]

@@jewelsking4756 I did! And it turns out that I am a textbook example of ADHD. 😅 I'm on medication and it has been helping, for sure.

[@elchristianez_]

One small line from your video that I think should be emphasized more here is that sense of euphoria when you actually "submit" to doing the scary or hard thing. Its just such a rewarding rush of accomplishment that only fuels and accelerates your willingness to continue to do it more and more. After standing on the cliff staring down for so long, psyching yourself out, when you finally plunge into the cold water the surge of dopamine and "I-can-do-this-ness" is such an empowering feeling for getting over this mental block. As always Joey, fantastic video. Thank you for articulating these ideas so well,

[@StreetHierarchy]

Freak.

[@zDuality]

Nice point.

[@miguialvarez]

In my case, after doing the scary or hard thing, I don’t feel euphoria. I see that it wasn’t that hard ore scary at all, and that there wasn’t no reason to be scared and putting it off and procrasrinate around. Actually, it makes me sad, to see afterwards all the energy and time I wasted procrastinating.

[@PipeScholar]

Good point, well said

[@elchristianez_]

@@miguialvarez Actually yeah, I totally get where you're coming from here. I guess there's quite a distinction between doing a hard thing that you know you have to do, and one that you want to do. The euphoria usually comes from the latter, but I think the sense of accomplishment can still help drive to conquer the former.

[@Lizzifer7]

**Saves to watch later list**

[@lym3250]

Did you watch it ?

[@megharajesh9013]

watch it now

[@kelvinalmeda5999]

Same

[@zadeeen]

I know, I was tempted to turn it off🤣

[@mshsmshs97]

😂

[@miteydee]

What a wonderful take on the "just do it" mentality. Sometimes you already know the answer but need to hear it in a different way. Really appreciate this, thank you for all you do.

[@W0lskaap]

Agreed, 'just do it' sounds like you have to force yourself, 'submit' makes it easier in that you don't have to overpower your procrastinating mind, you just give in to what you already know you should do.

[@webbedshadow2601]

100%, well said 🙏

[@seanaaron7888]

You didn't say it explicitly, but this made me think of the concept of letting go of our ego. My ego holds me back from doing things I know are beneficial in exchange for instant pleasure. I need to feel bigger than I am, and this makes me unable to relax into my obligations. I love the idea of submitting in this context, that's a real game changer. Awesome stuff as usual!

[@k.vandaele851]

Take a look at Eckhart Tolle if the topic of losing your ego interests you.

[@philthad8906]

And how are you doing so far with this method presented in the video?

[@balintvarga5146]

That's a really good point as well, the ego. Facing that cognitive dissonance of "I could have and should have done this earlier" feels bad, that's when we need to be honest and forgiving with ourselves.

[@wedeservedit]

@@k.vandaele851power of now completely changed my life

[@likhithmanjunath7213]

Very similar to the concepts in the book Creativity by Osho. Erase the ego, and let the Inner Intelligence make the spontaneous, intelligent and creative decisions.

[@currentfps160]

To be honest, I already knew all of this, but I forgot. Desperately needed this reminder. I can actually remember now how I used to think about things that I would tend to want to procrastinate. I guess I kind of realized that there were two sides of my brain that were battling about procrastination, and I realized that while it FEELS easier to procrastinate, its actually just as easy to, as you put it, submit to your rational, disciplined side. Thank you sir for what you do it really helps.

[@socialfreak2]

Here to remind you ❤

[@currentfps160]

@socialfreak2 thank you!!! I forgot again

[@socialfreak2]

@@currentfps160 NP! :)

[@socialfreak2]

@@currentfps160 NOW DO WHATEVER U NEED TO DO!!! LIKE RN 👍YOU CAN DO THIS I BELIEVE IN YOU!!! :D

[@umtalsi82352]

@@currentfps160 reminder

[@everybodydigacheese6408]

This video couldn't have had better timing. I am working on an assignment due today and had 15 days to work on it. Every single time I do this, which is every single time, I ask myself why. I had time to work on it throughout the past two weeks, but I wasted time complaining, worrying about it, and regretting not being more productive. Not only that, it is something I have chosen to do, and I even enjoy it, but I still procrastinate. The idea of submitting to the discomfort first to enjoy the reward later (playing video games, watching a movie, or THIS video) really appeals to me. I'll watch this video once a week until the idea sinks in. Now, I'll get back to my assignment.

[@Lyonessi]

Did you indeed get back to your assignment?

[@A.Peacock]

@@Lyonessi They might be to busy to reply. Doing that assignment perhaps.

[@Lyonessi]

@@A.Peacock they might've come to realise they're not who they could be because of wasted time on KZbin, sold their belongings, moved off the grid and is extensively finishing all the assignments they never completed.

[@j.jarvis7460]

The biggest reason I couldn’t do assignments is because I didn’t even know where to begin. The entire trip from beginning to end had no structure and until you find how structure your assignments/find a system you’ll feel the same way. It sucks and I hated it.

[@scrapjob]

i like the reverse videos of him showing us what not to do, makes me feel very insecure when i reflect on my past and present.

[@HAHA-kk2xy]

Lol

[@andrxid9548]

@@kingsly3690 same, can't find any answers to that for some reason

[@Theguywithspectacles]

@@kingsly3690 which slave-

[@liammeharry]

Fear as a motivator only works for so long

[@jimkon1479]

And it makes the viewer ask "do you see yourself in this situation?"

[@malikvion]

Imagine how many people mentally escaped clicking on this video

[@magdalenaysiak5617]

Everything I ever achieved in my life was done with minimal reflection. Overthinking just makes everything harder and held me down. Thank you for this video it reminds me to just go on and not waste my time with rumination.

[@RachelWeeping]

Rumination GOOD WORD

[@bunk95]

Are you a slave?

[@randomdorito1666]

You have literally changed my life and perception of reality with this video. I've struggled with depression and anxiety for many years, which made me live in a state of constant worry and fixation on past and future events. I would always be tensed up and would strain my throat just to speak since I was never relaxed. This is because I was "fighting" the negative feelings of discomfort in my body and mind. After you said the word "submission", what I thought to be my reality just shattered, as I actually let myself accept everything and repeat in my mind that "I'm gonna be ok". It's a very liberating feeling, as for the first time in years I am feeling connected to the present and feel as though I am ready to take on new challenges. Perhaps I have always been like this, but simply needed a reminder and a pat on the back. Thank you so much for this video! Hearing those words meant a lot to me.

[@RachelWeeping]

As I've always said, "Tonight it will be dark the winters here are very cold and my life will NEVER BE OK.

[@abigail5728]

How are you now?

[@vv7299]

​@@abigail5728most likely still in bed, watching videos like this

[@Shkoop]

I recently fell into a deep hole in my life, overwhelmed with financial insecurity and a general disdain for the position I currently am in my life. I felt hopeless, almost falling into the deepest pit of despair. When this video showed up on my feed, it changed my life in a way. I realized I had all the resources to turn things around and felt motivated to make a change and developed a more positive attitude towards making decisions that were good for me. Thank you for all the hard work you put into your videos. You really make a huge difference in so many people's lives and that is really meaningful. Many young people these days living on their own don't have proper access to therapy or emotional supports and in a way your videos help some people go through their own healing journey.

[@RachelWeeping]

I'll wager my pit of despair is deeper than yours. Hell, I had to have an elevator installed just to get out once in a while.

[@nathalieschulz1238]

It takes me some courage to watch your videos because they always make me question my lifestyle and call me out for not living the life I'd like to live. Thank you so much, your content is authentic and helping me become a better person.

[@RachelWeeping]

Compared to what?

[@Zippo_1234]

You did a really good job of put into words that awful feeling of not being able to enjoy anything because of the guilt and lack of presence in the moment that escapism and procrastination brings. Very relatable, it is difficult to make any progress by trying to use logic against your own sometimes very irrational mind

[@samsonspin3256]

bro has basically answered all the problems which i thought were exclusive to me I have on a daily basis

[@tiryaclearsong421]

I think another thing I needed to learn, in addition to submitting to doing the task, was acceptance that a task might not be "finished" today. I'm writing my dissertation, currently writing the literature review and setting up some experiments. This is a multi-year long project where each task is a week or month long effort and the subtasks can be difficult to properly "chunk" into something that could be considered today's most important thing. It's a little nebulous. Read and summarize one paper might be too little or too much depending on the paper and the other things going on that day. Sometimes making "sufficient" progress for the day is hard to pinpoint and time has to be called when progress has stalled. I had to learn to accept the incomplete progress as "done for today" even if nothing was truly "finished". I kept that chronic anxiety and escapism even when I had done my work. I never turned it off to the point it interrupted my sleep. Accepting work as "finished for now" was just as important for me as learning to submit to making progress in the first place.

[@ajalipio1]

this is relatable..

[@robinmoreno76]

I tend to avoid your videos out of shame. Your points are so on point, these things at least in my family its so alien. You’ll be called a fool for having feelings and not being mature enough to have killed them yet. Im starting with exercise, more meditation and work on my responsibilities and accept all these pains my body keeps giving me. Life has taken it’s toll on me but i still have faith.

[@mikstury]

Yeah, sometimes family is just to teach you who you shouldn't become in life and what mistakes should you avoid. Good luck on your journey!

[@paulaelizabethg]

"...submitting to the highest version of yourself..." That is beautifully said. Thank you.

[@priyankachoudhary3694]

This is actually what people need who suffer with this chronic existential crisis of not being who they are supposed to be and that feeling drains all the joy. But you are the first person i came across who explains it so clearly.

[@RachelWeeping]

In the great book of John, we are warned of the day when we'll be laid beneath the cold clay. I write this from my grave. Been dead since '69.

[@rosepierce9382]

Rachel, are you okay? I am seeing you a lot under the comments here.

[@abigail5728]

@@RachelWeepingpeace be with you. I know it’s a lot of work to get better.

[@jessibrown181]

This is the problem I’ve been dealing with for years now. It’s so hard to explain to people how you have the “motivation” to do all these good things for yourself but when you face them it’s so hard to actually do.

[@juliaforsyth8332]

ADHD in women can cause these problems. Of feeling very overwhelmed at even simple tasks.

[@fartypoop2036]

I started taking cold showers almost 3 - 6 months back with a months gap in the middle. Whenever i wake up for school, it feels like I feel like shit whenever i think about getting into the shower but, i dont think that ive ever missed a day where i had to take one just because i was in the moment and centered myself. I listen to music when i am doing this is and to know the feeling that you are doing something that is good for you and is something everyone else would not even try to do is extremely rewarding. When you are in the moment and not thinking about your inner resistance, everything feels much more calmer and it will help you feel more happier and fulfilled as a person. Thanks for this video joey, i have an exam tomorrow and was escaping by listening to music and just letting my resistance get the better of me.

[@AJuresic]

I once read this idea from psychology which stated we seek distraction, thus escape, on purpose. Why? Well, in one of my videos I explained how we prefer to keep ourselves busy to avoid uncomfortable feelings rather than facing reality. But I believe in the long run the pain of regret is higher than of facing discomfort for a short moment by taking action. This is what I remind myself of everytime I'm avoiding the thing I should be doing.

[@Justineyedia]

"Rather than be void of purpose, man will make the void his purpose" Nietzsche

[@chanhnguyen81]

It depends on the situation and the action too. I believe people usually escape reality or do silly things to avoid having to face difficult encounters because of trauma or bad experience in the past, or due to a lack of interest in what they are doing. Also taking action is pretty vague because I agree that being distracted and not being able to finish a task and feeling guilt, later on, is way different from making a life-changing decision such as deciding to propose to someone, quitting your job to start a business, etc... it's not simply as "Just do it" just because.

[@mostafa275]

"You can escape from your responsibility, but you cannot escape from the consequences of escaping from your responsibility."

[@pentree986]

Knowledge that we likely will regret in the future won't necessarily make you take action in the present though. What's the solution?

[@youmakemespeak3t]

It's because if you realize you exist and you are so focused on your reality. You'll go crazy

[@ActionPills]

Summary for my future reference on my notes, sharing here too: 💣 Procrastination and escapism can lead to chronic anxiety and a lower quality of life, affecting everything we do and enjoy 💣 Unresolved issues from the past affect our present 💣 Procrastination affects our entire lives 💣 Change the order of tasks to change the narrative of our lives 💣 Submission is a tactic to overcome suboptimal behavior 💣 Submit to discomfort to overcome it 💣 Submit to discomfort to stop procrastinating and make better decisions

[@CynicalScorpio]

Tip for cold showers: Start the shower off the temperature you normally would, and gradually decrease the temperature throughout the shower until it's cold

[@benreppert]

I agree, especially being in college. It’s funny how so many of us college students escape or distract ourselves with instant gratification. Submitting to the difficult and power through it with focus is something I am attempting to grasp. There are many vices that many fall prey to, same as I, but I want to overcome my fears/faults.I want to become my best self, it is a long road, but I am up for the challenge

[@namitamekala7315]

you can do it. i graduated this year and am on a journey to overcome the vices i picked up in college. sometimes it is a lonely journey but it’s worth it. good luck :)

[@emily_nelson]

This is so true, it hurts. It reminds me of the part from The Screwtape Letters about how, when we don't want to face up to certain things, we'll allow ourselves to be distracted by anything, even if we don't like it, leading us to someday reflect, "I now see that I spent most of my life in doing neither what I ought nor what I liked.” I get that way all the time--I'm putting off what's important, but it's not like I'm enjoying life in the meantime. Thanks for your suggestions on how to rectify this!

[@notsomuchhere1387]

exactly, it feels like my life is just on pause until I end up doing the thing that I need to be doing

[@Darksoulsnoob]

Joey your stuff just gets better and better…you’ve just convinced me to finally start studying for an exam I’ve already failed twice due to procrastination!

[@TheKarebear666]

That's awesome! I'm doing the same thing. Keep at it!

[@hamzahussain7794]

Failed thrice here...going 4th time..I just watched this video and like always I have procrastinated away all my time and only 1 month is left. I have lots of panic attacks and anxiety always, I don't know what I am gonna do, I have this fear that its my 4th time and only 1 month left, I just dunno man. Sorry for the rambling, this video is really really insightful and I am gonna start using this from now on

[@stemstability_baytiaram.4290]

​​@@hamzahussain7794I actually feel you, because I've gone through the same thing over and over again and failed, I feel so terrible about it and the feeling of a big rush of anxiety just keeps coming it hurts. I want to get over it so I can succeed the next time, I do believe we can overcome this feeling one day

[@RachelWeeping]

If you've already failed twice, you don't wanna do whatever the test is for.

[@lciav]

I’ve experienced this when I’ve gone on walks and it’s cold out. I hate the cold, and when I resist it I feel tense and uncomfortable. But when I accept the cold it actually feels pleasant.

[@shizoree5884]

He just never fails to blow my mind, yeah sure you can "relate" To things but this guy breaks down every difficult situation and makes it seem so simple and everything he says is just so effective

[@RachelWeeping]

Like what?

[@shizoree5884]

@@RachelWeeping like everything you know those behaviors you have and really struggle with but fail to find a solution for. He pretty much explains those actions that you make unconsciously in turn making you conscious of them and helping you fight the conditioning of your brain or it's just a self help video and I'm overly analytical

[@douskey.studios148]

Great video. I think a deeply-rooted reason we procrastinate is because we have our own internalized expectations of how the thing should go or turn out. I have learned to make the activity as small and unimportant feeling as possible, because that makes it bearable to begin (even if it's a big deal). When we make the activities we want to do and goals we achieve out the be bigger than they are, we make them too intimidating to start because of our fear of failure. Minimizing these things makes it easier to submit to them, and allow ourselves to start. And usually once we start, we see how we are capable of doing them. In chemistry terms, you have to lower the activation energy needed to begin a task. What is the smallest possible piece you can bite off to begin? Momentum can begin from even the smallest of effort.

[@euku1]

Thanks for your comment, I’m glad I’ve read that

[@AbbysalWarrior72756]

I have a huge problem with this

[@mikek7660]

Bro im holding back tears. 6yrs divorced and i turned 39 this summer. Slowly recovering from a back injury and struggling with having my daughter live with me full time again since March (admittedly with support from her mom which i appreciate but i always fear some ulterior motives due to our past). 6 years of feeling so stuck and lost and always taking the cowardly route of avoiding and escaping my problems and responsibilities. Thank you

[@ddanikong]

when i was like 10-11 yrs old, i had this "just do it" mentality. i lost it when i fell into depression at 12. I'm now 14 and i'm trying my best to bring that mentality back again. your videos are really helpful thank you so much

[@angelicaa2314]

🫂🫂

[@dittatoo]

Kid, keep doing what your doing, educate yourself, and keep this mentality, you can

[@DarkyMeecho.]

Keep going..... I remember adolescents a tough place to navigate but don't be too hard on yourself, never let the inner strife make you think that's all there is

[@nolanwolfe]

I’m also 14 - nearly 15 - and can relate to you dearly. I believe in you and hope you keep trying 👊

[@Rays91546]

I'm finally at a point in life where I'm ready to take responsibility. The topics in this video are something I've been coming to terms with for a while, quite a while actually, but I did it. One of your best videos on this channel. Thanks for everything!

[@xTheBeefHammer]

This honestly couldn’t have come at a more appropriate time for me. I am going through this exact thing right now (if I’m honest I’ve been doing it for years) where I can see the life I know I could have if I just went for it. I don’t know if it’s because I’m scared I’ll mess it up, or if I don’t think I deserve it, but it’s like watching a movie of your better life play out without you in it.

[@amihere383]

That’s exactly it. It’s like in the moment I’m just so afraid that I freeze up and shut down. Later on I’ll know exactly what I wanted to say, but couldn’t, and just be mad about it.

[@rae.......]

I loved this video! I start my day by reading a memo I wrote stating the one thing that I want most in life. I then proceed to go about my day doing the most important tasks first and so forth. It's not easy and I've only just started doing it recently however through doing so, I am no longer a slave to seeking pleasure from things like KZbin and Netflix. I've submitted to the 'cost' of achieving my dreams. Once I'm done with my day and look back on what I've completed throughout the day, I tell myself that I've lived a life in line with my wants & values. This has really helped with my anxiety. Starting my day with my memo and knowing why I have to do things that are difficult makes it so much easier to get them done. Plus if you get the hardest things done first, the day gets easier and easier until you can finish it with a reward of your choice.

[@medzahra9405]

Can you develop what is memo

[@ahmedm.rubiee]

I have been doing this submission for a while now. I guess I just discovered this myself after years of suffering. What you say can’t be true enough. it is about letting go of the feeling of resistance. And that will make you submit without conflicting with your own mind! 👏👏

[@kellyfagala3426]

This is the mindset I use to get through things that are physically painful (like going through labor & delivery for my 4 children!). Let it hurt. I accept that the current (usually temporary) situation is painful and that I cannot fight my way out of it. I yield to the river. When I stop fighting it, wishing it was over, trying to make it stop, I find that it is easier to endure. It seems less big, less bad. Still uncomfortable, but tolerable if I let the experience be what it is instead of fighting to control or change it.

[@Wegath]

Acknowledge that the work you are suppose to do is difficult. Feel the feeling of tension Let it go Do it anyway❤ Submit

[@welovfree]

Rational debates with my brain and the questions asked beforehand can be answered sometimes one step into the thing I want to do. So 100% agree with the "submit" strategy!

[@kurtramos9190]

Thank you for uploading this video during my sister and I's finals week! I have a couple of assignments I just started making up mere hours before you posted this. Love how you included the cold showers talk & the golfing footage. You really have a way of encouraging people to move forward without fear. Thank you (KZbin algorithm)!

[@helenarosno]

this is basically the “just do it” mindset lol. it is very effective though. once you start to shut out all of the arguments and anxieties that come with doing something and just do it without thinking, then it becomes easy. that’s why planning and meditation are so important.

[@5yrniki]

exactly!

[@joshuagleeson4776]

It's 'just do it' but in a way that tells you how to actually do it. 'Just do it' is kinda meaningless when you think about it, but this video presents that idea in a way that we can properly conceptualise and, at least in my experience, see taking an active role in how we approach our responsibilities.

[@5yrniki]

@@joshuagleeson4776 YESSS!!! I AGREE 100%

[@ritchiewong16]

Hi Joey 👋, It’s good to see you back on KZbin! What I’ve learned from this video is that once you start acknowledging that the task needs to be completed despite its difficulty, not only would you end up feeling surprised that you did it, but you would also feel more empowered and confident in yourself than ever before. Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗

[@SoarLong]

I think the biggest moments of joy that I feel in life come from finally doing the task that I was so afraid to do. All of my vices that hold me back in life that provide positive emotions and even working out and jogging. Those activities never give me that feeling in my body and that boost of happiness that I get after I do something I knew I needed to do but was terrified of it. I'll be on the verge of a panic attack and fighting nausea right before doing a task but afterward I am showered with these positive emotions. Its a very specific kind of feeling, you can identify it if you pay attention when it happens.

[@ajalipio1]

u did well. keep it up!

[@mehditate]

I'm 28 and I have been escaping everything for about 6 years of my life, I just didn't have the support for it or the help I needed. Life hit me pretty hard. I'm actually coming up with a resource that helped me become the man I am today. I used to live in Miami around street violence, I used to eat $3 a day, 25 cents noodles, expired toast and canned campbell tomato soup. I survived the Boston Marathon Bombing which was a few feet away and I saw all the blood the people screaming and I was alone at 18. I also used to live in a room with no kitchen, trash bag as a window and bugs crawling on me at night. I also took boxing to protect myself and learned how to defend myself and channel my emotions. Now I live in a cabin in the nordic woods of Sweden where I go down to a lake to breathe and heal my past and I post on KZbin to help others who need it the most 🙏🏽💜

[@trevorfranks69]

I saw you turn into a grifter instead of finding your own niche.

[@Ballardd21]

Crazy how underrated his videos are. Glad to be part of your community, Joey!

[@FrootKat]

Weirdly I’ve found that when I lean into discomfort I find comfort, and the previously perceived comfort of TV, avoidance etc starts feeling icky, too warm, too soft, smothering. At one point I listened to “Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins and “Hell Week and Beyond” by Scott McEwen and the stories they had were so extreme that it felt wrong to not seek discomfort afterwards. Thanks for continuously amazing content bro.

[@kyliechen8732]

Goggin's mentality of "embracing the suck" is essentially echoed through the idea of "submitting" in this video. Great insights.

[@FrootKat]

@@kyliechen8732 yeah, exactly. And the suck is rarely as bad as you imagined once you’re in it, anyway 😃

[@hallyhop]

I appreciate this video so much, thank you. Reminds me a lot of what Adriene says from Yoga with Adriene. She says the hardest thing is getting to the mat. And as someone who could never get into consistent intermittent exercise habits for my whole life. I finally decided to “get to the mat” and her videos guided me through my first month, then my first year, and my second year. I’m still doing yoga every day and it’s been well over 850 days. Yet I’m still such a procrastinator and so prone to escapism into all sorts of media. This video really helped me to breathe and see this similarly to ywa’s “get to the mat” and I feel that this will help me approach that discomfort with mindfulness, let go, and just do the thing. Thanks again 💜

[@neongreen3232]

I get the idea but to me this feeling is the opposite of submission. I actually feel like the one in charge as I face it head on knowing that this is what I'm supposed to be doing. One the contrary, procrastination feels like submission as I get the feeling I can't escape it even though it's not I want to do.

[@cai_ryn]

Articulate, concise, empathetic, presents a problem and then actually tries to solve that problem all in just about 10 minutes. I can’t express enough how much I value this video and I’m so grateful it was recommended to me. Some things I learned through others, through experience, some I’m still trying to work on and some I’ve really improved at. But this video puts all those concepts and thoughts and realisations into a very neat package. Thank you for the reminder but also for deeper understanding. I think this video is going to help me so much ❤

[@AnvilCrawlersGaming]

It's uncanny how you manage to release videos just as I need them or would appreciate advice, on very specific things I'm feeling about my own productivity. Thank you for your videos.

[@Sumbee]

The submitting reminds me a lot that our higher self is always there guiding us if only we could tune out from mental chatter. The “knowing” that this is good for me comes from a deeper place. That is your intuition guiding you. The desire for self improvement is something I’ve come to understand as a natural part of being in touch with your higher self. But it is no longer self improvement the way that we conventionally think about it. When you are aligned with your true self, as opposed to the mental chatter, you naturally want to do thing that make you feel better in a natural way. An even more simple way of looking at it could be that you just feel like you want to take care of yourself because you are in touch with yourself. This is what I got out of your video. Thank you Joey.

[@Ean951]

You put words to my thoughts. I am so happy that I have been following you for awhile, because I have realized my purpose is to be this. An inspiration. Thank you!

[@TheTester-bi3tp]

It's always refreshing hearing a unique take on a concept that's been rehashed so much. It's like a wake up call/reminder to keep taking action

[@TheOnlyJMS]

I wish I found this video earlier! I never knew procrastination can effect you this badly, I felt so light and free yesterday after completing years long left tasks. Amazing video! Thank you ❤

[@Smileguy21]

You watched it 4 hours after it was uploaded. I dont think those 4 would have changed anything

[@newchangeunlisted_viewer5594]

I am a 19 year old (almost 20) Asian American boy (man?) I took a CNA course and it was finished over a month ago, i have put off and procrastinated taking the State Skills exam. Meaning I still don't have the title i put in so much work for. I have been escaping, and i have done it for so many years that I recognize when i do it. This video came to me at the right time, which is a little unsettling But i am grateful. Idk why but it really helped. I think i just needed someone else to say it out loud for me. When I procrastinate, the feeling of not having done what I should have done Subconsciously affects my life, for as long as I leave that thing not done. When I do pass this test, I will go back to normal, but until then I will be escaping. I gotta stop and get things done Thank you

[@phyllislin7421]

Super timely and really needed to hear this! Thank you! I think because of the amazing deals for Black Friday and Cyber Monday paired with some stresses in my personal life, I've been online / online-window shopping a lot, picturing how much 'greater' and 'happier' my life would be if I just had this one item. Ultimately tho, this is just cheap dopamine and it's a distraction from my reality; I just have to face it head on. Love the message of this video and happy to see you back! Hope you are well!

[@louiemalgre2797]

This is life changing. I used to just escape mentally. Now I escape mentally by watching videos on how not to do it.

[@jonny_-uz9pm]

This is exactly what i realized a couple weeks ago. For me it was even more extreme. I didnt do any of the Things i was supposed to do and it affected all of my life. My relationship with my parents and all other people. I now have this under control and it feels so amazing

[@dugongsdoitbetter]

Holy shit!! This is something I haven't been able to vocalize!!!! These undone tasks have robbed me of memory and serenity. There are so many things that I don't do that I forget what the task is but my mind can't forget the anxiety associated with it. My body is in a constant state of "there is something I haven't done". It is so bad that I don't have a good aptitude for remembering. It feels like I "blackout" sometimes.

[@SESD95wot]

I actually never had a problem with procrastination, and looking back, maybe it was because one of the most valuable things my dad teached me. He always used to say: "If you do your obligations first, then you can do whatever you want after that" or for the short "obligations first, fun later". There is no better feeling in the world that to live with the sense of accomplishment. (3:12)

[@CodyAlushin]

You have no idea how much I needed this video, at this specific point in my life. Years and years earlier, too… but I REALLY needed it now. Thank you.

[@fernandolemus5965]

Thanks for this video, actually came at a perfect time, I'm currently experiencing it, trying to find a way around it, it's tough, for now I've just been brute forcing though it, some days it works, somedays it doesn't , anyways thanks for the wake up call, you videos always help me clear my head

[@JDSanchez-ke2dz]

Wow, I felt like he was talking to me. I needed to hear this - and always enjoy listening.

[@manojkanna0268]

This channel is so great.Instead of talking motivational crap,it gives practical way and approach to the problems that noone talk about it.😊

[@BioMedEd]

The biggest problem isn't the submission. It's overcoming the exhaustion of years of "supposed to" s. I find the removal of the "supposed to" be the most beneficial. Reframe these issues as maintenance of tools and systems. For example, it's not that you have to take your trash cans out every week but you get to dispose of your trash from your property once a week. Phrasing it as an option instead of an obligation opens up a freedom

[@940351579]

For the past month I've been ascribing to the mantra of "let it suck" while working out. It helps me stop resisting the burn and fatigue. It's been remarkably effective, allowing me to push much farther than I thought I could. Personally, I can say the idea of submitting as presented by this video is a strong tactic for overcoming the resistance of change.

[@RachelWeeping]

I prefer Jim Beam

[@deathshadow5316]

The submission joke killed me. Amazing video as always.

[@noneofyodamnbusiness]

The way he gives the informations, the editing, the humor.. and how realistic he is.. truly inspiring :) u helped me alot men! Thanks 💗

[@Tyoxy]

I actually took a break from writing a research paper to watch this funny, little KZbin video and went back to writing afterwards instead of putting it off longer. Thank you.

[@Oscar_Lagrosen]

I love this video Joey and this is how I keep myself from not procrastinating but instead working 93 hours a week. Just feel it and label it as good. Few people understand how powerful we can become if we choose to interpret everything that happens to us in our own favor every time

[@Nat22880]

Watching this, I realize that I ‘submit’ to my tasks at work all the time and that is why I feel so emotionally rewarded when at work. I frequently find myself ‘submitting’ to what is considered the more grueling or time- consuming parts of my job as I would rather do them than leave them for a coworker to have to trudge through. I just hadn’t dared to apply this same thought process to my own life. Submitting to my tasks for the sake of not just other people but also for my sake sounds like a wonderful idea, and I think I’ll start now.

[@Zetaku3]

This has a lot of acceptance vibes, accept things as they are, and do what you can do to get the results you want

[@kosmasfit907]

This is one of your best videos and it deserves more views.. Thank you !

[@KennyLothar]

I´ve been following your channel for a while now and just wanted to say thank you. The way you approach ideas & concepts and find such strong, fitting and relateable symbols for them is highly impressive! It seems to me like a lot of content jumps from the roots to the logical conclusion of a certain challenge, whereas you are emphasizing the process of encountering it. It really helps me in understanding and sparks my own emotions and thoughts on the topic. Chapeau and keep up your great work! Lots of love & respect from germany

[@ZetTroxX]

I follow stoicism and I realized the point of this video too: There is a voice inside of you that guides you. Fighting it creates pain. Submitting to it breaks all the chains.

[@mitchhug96]

Yep, submitting into crying after watching this. Can't explain how much this helped me with some "irrational" fears today. Thank you. 💙

[@meghnachatterjee491]

I can’t believe that I was talking to my husband this evening about the exact same thing! I was telling him how I’m realising this so late in my 30s and I had let this happen from age 15-30.

[@bryanchan8438]

Thank you for everything you do!

[@eliwilson1146]

Doing a smidge of mindfulness meditation, this is what you notice. You don't always have to fight the thought. You just acknowledge it.

[@brian_unx]

Nailed it again, man. Sometimes I even procrastinate watching your videos now because I know they will make me want to put in more effort to change haha. I will see you have a new video and be excited about it, but then put it off for days, convincing myself I need a whole day off or something for the 10 minute video. It's really annoying how the most effective thing I am at doing is doing nothing. Crazy brains!

[@michaelgilchrist851]

Wow! This is too accurate in describing that feeling of “I shouldn’t be here doing this”and I’ve never quite made the connection to procrastination. Thank you for articulating this so well!

[@5yrniki]

A really good way to combat the cold in a cold shower is to simply pretend that the cold is mint, mint leaves, fresh lemons and refreshing, icy water on your body. The sensation from chewing a mint is simply just on your body. You feel the mint. That way, showering is more fun! :)

[@ryanspicturebook]

Social media hasn’t helped too much, I’ve made so many excuses. I didn’t spend enough time at home I have made excuses for years. I want to fix myself and fix this life.

[@apr670]

Beautiful video very helpful in understanding the zoning out behaviour. I don't know how to put it but, currently I am working on stopping myself from zoning out constantly, by consciously volunteering in meaningful (sometimes) conversations and I see some changes, but it is a constant work in progress

[@virajbhale3143]

I really want a Joey Schweitzer podcast at this point. The stuff you come up with is just brilliant. The simplicity in everything you say makes it even more meaningful. love it!

[@irate08]

I'm a very big procrastinator and this is the exact video I've been waiting from years and now I finally know what exactly to do to overcome it. Thank you so much sir🛐 Lots of love from India sir🙏 Edit: I submit🙂

[@barbapaulinee]

Procrastination is like waiting for “the worst” to pressure us to do the thing we’re supposed to do instead of just accepting the fact that we’ll end up doing it anyway. We have to understand that the task is not about ourself but for the good of our sake. Start it now, perfection is just something to be considered about.

[@TrupimOkiemTV]

I never thought about it this way, but it makes sense now, that I've started doing things differently some time ago. By differently I mean faster and without fear, and I did some progress I feel awesome about. Also I've been working on shadow integration and stopped blazing on daily basis. I'm hitting the gym soon, I'm in constant contact with personal trainer, my brother's very good friend. I'm certain that's not everything, but have no idea what has changed. And I feel excited and energized about these changes and plans. Try do things differently, guys and gals. You never know what will work.

[@webbedshadow2601]

This is the greatest help video I've ever seen, maybe the greatest that has ever been made, not exaggerating, no one else I've read has ever explained it the way you did, and it makes total sense, that the answer we need is not a rational or logical one, it's an emotional one.

[@hugfal-animepiano1178]

Sometimes i love the yt algorithm

[@teejaykaye]

Shit. As a chronic procrastinator and perfectionist with ongoing depression and anxiety (trying to get therapy for it) I think I really needed this video. I struggle so much with making myself do anything important. It feels impossible. I never feel like I can enjoy things because I feel like I am not being productive enough. Even for things I love. Man. This video hits hard.

[@wesleyvanpeer1988]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on procrastination and its impact on our lives. It's interesting to think about how our past actions can continue to affect us in the present, and how our tendency to put things off can impact our overall quality of life. Your suggestion to do the most important thing first in order to change the narrative of our lives is a great one. It can be difficult to overcome procrastination, but finding emotional tactics, like submission to the task at hand, can be a helpful way to overcome it. Thanks for sharing your insights!

[@GodHelpMe369]

When there’s a disagreement, someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So I engage in any and every disagreement in a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me... Never ends up being me! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose a part of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways.

[@saadwani9175]

Last time i was this early, I still had hair

[@eternalyt5175]

Been watching this channel for years, and while I might have improved in some areas of life, I've been going through a rut. This really might be the video that has struck a chord with me. This is just a reminder to come back to it whenever I find the opportunity to.