How to Stop Negative Self-Talk

[@castleanthrax1833]

If you are struggling with problems like this, look at yourself in a mirror, and look into your eyes: tell yourself you are a good person. Use your name. This really works. When an adult talks down to you, they often look you in the eyes, so turn the tables. You must look yourself in the eyes, use your name, and do the opposite of putting yourself down. Most of all, smile. Be happy. Good luck, and remember, you are a good person.

[@Daigankun_holyspiritual]

Aww this cheers me up

[@chillyourself4880]

Even if you arent good for others youre good for yourself

[@chillyourself4880]

Other people to me are fight or flight response and faking to get a benefit because of trauma

[@chillyourself4880]

Stupid insencere world

[@Jello_o7]

This comment made me shake almost cried thats embarrasing lol 😂

[@askel6498]

The worst part about negative self-talk is that all the things your inner critic says feel like the absolute and undeniable truth, while everything positive someone else or yourself say to you feels like a dirty dirty lie.

[@guardianeatos]

I feel that sometimes they are too blind to see who I truly am. That they are lying to themselves about me...

[@deeps6446]

Exactly, I feel most of the time, if someone compliments me that its sarcasm, I haven't fully fallen into the pit yet but I think I might be on the edge so I'm trying helping myself to be a bit further away from it

[@HoracioNelsin-qu6kc]

Thats precisely how I see it. I really abhor other people encouraging me for, lets say, an important exam. I appreciate their kind words and encouragement, telling me I'll pass the exam, that I know everything, and if thats not the case, theyll still be proud of me; it's that they don't know how well I actually know it, where are my flaws or my lack of knowledge. That's what makes me sceptical of their view of me, and encourages to listen to my draconian inner voice regardless of all the positive feedback I've received. No one knows me better than myself and that discourages me from thinking people's feedback is genuinely accurate, rather than dishonest or distruthful (some people have genuine intentions, but your voice knows exactly where and what you lack, and in an attempt to improve that in yourself it talks to you in this manner, which isn't always optimal regarding your self image)

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing your insight. I completely agree that the inner critic's words feel like absolute truth. In your opinion, how do we break the cycle of the inner critic and realize that what we say to ourselves may not always be true?

[@AshantiH502]

Yes, this comment right here. ❤

[@M_Uchiha]

It was the total opposite for me as a "gifted kid" turning "normal". My parents were so positive to me that I always felt the pressure to stay smart to be loveable.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing. How has that love affected you in the long run? Do you think it was overall positive?

[@M_Uchiha]

@@Psych2go I love my parents and they really gave me a lot I am thankful for. And I definitely always felt loved. But I also got characteristics which are negative, because my mother tends to be overprotective and anxious. Now I've been diagnosed with anxiety, so that sucks... I'm really afraid to do a lot of things, especially to do mistakes or to chose a "wrong path" with life decisions. So although I've grauated at the top of my class and finished my bachelor's with the highest degree possible, I feel like I won't be able to use that "potential" I have, because I just feel stuck. People like employers, professors, teachers always frightened me and I will soon finish my Master's and will find myself on a path without a goal. I always stick to structure and I am afraid to try new things. That's why looking for a job will most likely be the worst time of my life...

[@CandyHatsuneWolff]

@@M_Uchiha You're not alone, friend. A lot of us gifted kids struggle with anxiety, depression or other diagnoses. Hope things get better for you.

[@knightorange8148]

​@@M_Uchiha Lucky

[@Prodigious1One]

That makes sense. Do you feel more balance now?

[@foxyloon]

After years of depression and traumatic events throughout my life, I often find myself falling into that pit of negative self talk over and over. I had this belief that I was supposed to just carry on, counter those thoughts every time they came up, but that inner critic simply refuses to stop no matter what I did. I didn't realize this until watching this video, but truly the only thing that reliably helps quell those negative thoughts is talking through them with my group of trusted friends. Time and again, I find that those harsh and cruel thoughts weren't true at all, and being reassured of my positive traits helps immensely. Don't ever be afraid to reach out, to speak honestly about what you're going through. That kind of loving support is a bigger healer than one would think.

[@metarunner514]

Hope you’re doing better now man!

[@foxyloon]

@@metarunner514 Thanks, I've come a long way, although I still struggle from time to time. Things will get better in time.

[@bingchilling495]

hope you are better now mate

[@bruintjesuus]

Silence furry your feelings don’t matter your kind doesn’t matter

[@spectra1096]

I'm glad you can talk to someone all of mine left

[@TheycallmeJasJas]

As a someone who is super self conscious and has a lot of insecurities, i find this video helpful

[@clownie5991]

Wait how is the video helpful if you haven’t watched it yet???

[@emnems3022]

Me too :0

[@Thehjhhhhhggttyg]

Don’t worry you are loved ❤❤❤

[@promeneuzivotu117]

​@@clownie5991 sus

[@serendipity...6226]

@@clownie5991 I’m confused

[@sarry419]

Between my infeniority complex and the waves of gaslighting from close people turning my thoughts and self image dark. I needed to hear this tonight.

[@Psych2go]

We're so happy to hear our video has helped you. Whenever you're feeling stuck or giving yourself negative self-talk. Replay this video. As always, thank you for your support and your donation to support our work further!

[@theabelstick3495]

For someone who is usually lonely, this video is just what I need to hear and watch. Thank you Psych2Go for this video for bringing light to my rather difficult situation I'm in.

[@LoveJasminex]

Same af

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the kind words. Are you doing okay? Are you getting the help and the resources you need?

[@theabelstick3495]

I don't really think so, I haven't told anyone that I personally know about my difficult situation that I'm in. Kinda something that I keep to myself but I know that I'll be fine, I've made friends before and there are people who care about me so calling myself worthless isn't a possibility

[@LoveJasminex]

I’m not sure if you are speaking directly to me or Abel but I’m taking this as my sign from the universe lol I am on Medicaid so my options are within that realm. I have been attending therapy consistently for the first time in my life (I am 26) for the past 3-4 months, as well as in my second semester of nursing school, so multiple psyc courses very recently & currently. I have struggled with my mental health my entire life (ED being my most debilitating symptom) and never received the attention or assistance I desperately needed. I very quickly got an ADHD diagnosis, *FIREWORKS IN MY BRAIN* because I FINALLY had an explanation for my dysfunctional executive functioning. I always knew I didn’t function typically, but I lacked the necessary surface level education of mental health (as did many others at that time) to have any clue of what I was actually battling. After trying a few different meds, I am taking adderall consistently and it’s working for me, for the most part. Yesterday was my late fiancés second heavenly birthday, he would had been 27 and our daughter was only 5 months when he passed, she’s 2 now. I have been emotionally out of it for the last few weeks. I believe continual traumatic experiences exasperated my symptoms for both ADHD & OCD. (I have not been medically diagnosed for the OCD but I am getting all of my notes in order to present to my therapist and psychiatrist.) My issue is…. I am almost positive I have OCD as a comorbidity, but the recent discovery has added a whole other level of anxiety (for lack of a better word) to being clinically diagnosed with mental illnesses. I just want to be 250% positive, preferably with some kind of clinical testing, that I am NOT being misdiagnosed and more importantly improperly medicated. I like my therapist and I benefit somewhat from the sessions, but I feel like I need (and I don’t know how else to say this 🤷🏽‍♀️) a more HEAVY DUTY, well-seasoned team to analyze my load. I was unaware until recent personal experience that the prescribing doctor (who usually has more education & common knowledge on psychopathology) does not really go too far in depth with you and is more so focused on the medication only. Which means I am counting SOLELY on my therapist, who I feel like is very general and surface level, to properly diagnose me. I know there are probably many others who feel this same way, but my QUESTION (reason for this narrative) is….. -How do I go about finding a provider who SPECIALIZES in ADHD/OCD? -Is that request far fetched for me, being that I am on Medicaid? -Lastly, I have been internally battling with myself since I started this mental health journey, that I’m overthinking it, and I just need to accept what the doctors say without second guessing them. But the opposing side of my brain that I resonate more with, lol, says that my concerns are valid. And I should try my best to find someone (or a team) who is willing to put the time and effort into digging up my entire life, debilitating symptoms, symptoms I present with but am unaware of, and potential contributing causal factors and actually STUDY me as an individual. Something just tells me that’s far fetched and would only occur in a very expensive case study. But then I think to myself, “so am I just going to accept whatever they say? …After only a few short months of (what seems very surface level to me) therapy sessions?…. without even considering or discussing in detail any of the major life events I have been through?…. or important biological history???? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE ON THIS SUBJECT AS I AM INCREDIBLY DESPERATE. I am a struggling 26yo single mom who has never been this motivated to change, just trying to navigate through life and I understand that a healthy me is a healthy we… (Sorry this was unintentionally long) MY NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IS BREAKING GENERATIONAL CURSES WITHIN MY FAMILY, AND DIRECTLY HANDING MY DAUGHTER A PSYCHOLOGICAL TOOLKIT THAT WAS NEVER OFFERED TO ME. BEING THAT ADHD AND OCD HAVE GENETIC RISK POTENTIAL, I WANT TO EDUCATE MYSELF, SLOWLY BUT SUCCESSFULLY “RESTRUCTURE” MYSELF, AND PREVENT MY OFFSPRING FROM ENDURING WHAT I HAVE FOR YEARS.

[@theabelstick3495]

@leonmagala8332 No I'm not! I'm good! I don't like getting yelled at...

[@Mzammer]

I criticize myself harshly because the things I say about myself have been proven true over and over. People might deny them but then they'll just prove them right later again. There will be times where I'm like "yeah theyre right I'm not that bad" but then it just sinks back in how wrong that is.

[@allacotoi1755]

As a man thinks in his heart so is he. Keep practicing positive self-talk and it will get better. You can do this.

[@AshantiH502]

I freakin LOVED this video! I almost cried because for the past couple days, this is what I’ve been on. Negative self-talk. I’ve spent my WHOLE life like this. I internalized the HARSH words said to me and felt like I deserved it. When people gave me compliments, I would say “Thank you”, but I feel like I didn’t fully RECEIVE the compliment because I didn’t believe them. I’d look at someone else as beautiful or talk to others kindly when they were harsh with themselves, but I’d beat myself DOWN. But I know that inner critic is just a compilation of negative words, trauma, and hurt you’ve experienced in the past. My counselor told me, “Your thoughts are JUST thoughts.” Just know that those thoughts don’t belong to you. You weren’t born with that negative self talk. It got inherited from your parents, friends and etc, due to their own unhealed trauma and they projected it outwards. This made me feel NOT so alone. You are loved, special, and AMAZING. Much love to you all. ❤

[@sydneyleanne4222]

I silently struggle with these problems. I wish I could feel comfortable to tell my parents this ☹️

[@irene_f.]

I hope you do share your feelings with someone- maybe a grandparent? Your mom or dad? Someone you feel safe with to share your feelings. It's not always easy to share our feelings but it is important so you can feel better. Negative self talk is so unhealthy because you will start to believe it.

[@andreidobre1239]

Who do you trust the most? The one you trust is the one you should talk to. Do not ignore your problems. It makes things worse.

[@bruintjesuus]

Then go tell ‘em coward

[@beans07]

I still deal with negative self talk to this day, but I’m getting better. My parents are the biggest help to me

[@davidcohen26]

Wow that is interesting. Because they are normally the cause for our negative self talk. What do you think it comes from ?

[@beans07]

@@davidcohen26 I don’t know but I’ve had extreme anxiety since I was really young. Sometimes a problem can be no one’s fault.

[@davidcohen26]

@@beans07 Ah ok. Me personally I do not use the word fault anymore. I prefer the word cause. Since nobody teaches parents how to treat a child the right way. I learned a lot through inner child work about my anxiety. Are you a water sign maybe ? All the best

[@mstwilight1612]

@@davidcohen26 are u a Cancerian?

[@Poliebear]

Thanks psych2go and the team for making these videos! I’ve learned so much and how to love myself a bit more :) this video really helped a lot! much love for people having a hard time right now❤

[@Psych2go]

We're so glad that the video was helpful for you. Which part of the video resonated with you the most?

[@kiyokowilkinson158]

Yes , I agree I needed help with this issue in a major way . I appreciate the easy way to get advice that helps this much from a you tube click. Thanks again for all your help @Phyc 2go !

[@I_lov3_Xiao]

In 2021 I was at my lowest point. It wasn’t until a few months ago when I decided to get better. It was a long process and I’m still not fully healed yet, I’m doing really great and I’m really proud of myself. I used to self harm and not take care of myself, but I’m about 2 months clean now and much more confident. This is proof that your self destructive thoughts and negativity affect you. I know it’s hard but please try your best to stay positive, remember that you matter and suicide is never the answer. It’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Love yourselves and stay safe❤

[@randomgavin9811]

This hits a lot- It's weird but I almost felt like crying because of it, like not sad tears, not completely tears of joy, but it's a great thing to share. Thank you.

[@charmedasian1]

As someone who navigating through the dark tunnel, there is light that guides your way out of it. Thank you for this. ❤️🙏🏻

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for the kind words. We also want to ask, how are you doing? Are you able to navigate your way through the tunnel? Are you getting the help you need?

[@LessThanLucid]

"You are so much more Then what's been done to you And I know I'll tell you what I will lift you up when you need it And hold you down when you want me to All the things you feel you can feel with me It's real and true" -Pendulum, by Machinae Supremacy

[@TeaRexInACup]

I've got a very good friend that has been working on my negative self-talk for a while. I've not done enough to show them appreciation for that, and I've not tried hard enough on my end to stop it. This video really hit me where it counts; I needed to hear it today.

[@reading4ever_]

I was needing this. My worst trait is negative self talk thank you for making these types of videos ❤

[@Das_Pickles]

Not a day goes by that I don't hate on myself. I doubt I'll ever stop, but as long as I keep on going, I know I'm stronger than my own hate. Thanks for the reminder and the Christopher Robin quote at the end.

[@Sportsgrump]

Not everybody likes pickles but there are some who LOVE pickles

[@banana-xz2nw]

just moments ago, negative self talk made me bawl my eyes out. then this video popped up.

[@chromaticdragon]

This video hit just about ground zero with me. I've been destroying myself for decades... though I am fighting to become better and kinder to myself, it's an up hill battle to say the least. I've reached out to friends and had them turn their back, I've reached out to family to get silence in response. So... I've turned inward to find the strength to fight these 'demons' and become a better person... though I am getting tired of the struggle, your videos give me strength to push forward thru it all. Thank you.

[@rickilee9218]

You echo me.

[@EingefrorenesEisen]

As an extrovert traumatized into being an introvert, I've been struggling with crippling anxiety lately. I have hyperempathy, and growing up, I watched a lot of hatred, malice, and people I cared deeply for suffering around me. It became my life goal to make life better for them. As a 30 year old artist now, there are so many ideas and dreams I wish to convey, things that my soul cries out to release and be known, because I want the world to be a better place. I want people to feel the joys in life that I have, to share and celebrate their wonderful experiences, to relish in the endless possibility of the pleasures of existence. I want others to see life is so beautiful and amazing. I want my art to convey that, to be proof of it, to give people a reason to keep going, or to be better to themselves. There's so much suffering in life, and I just want to make it better for people. And yet, I can't convey even the tiniest fraction. Even what I have time for, after lonely days of working for so little because my traumas prevent me from holding a good job, is not ever even close to conveying even one pleasant thought or experience to its full potential. Because I am either incompetent, or so burdened by trauma that I can't -- or both. So I give up, or I just endlessly make pages and pages of unrefined doodles, trying to find an idea that sticks, trying to make one thing that captures that essence, trying to make one thing that makes others as happy as it makes me. I don't get good rest. I don't feel rested. I miss work, I skimp out on responsibilities, self care, socialization. Trying to have something worth presenting, worth being. I'm just exhausted. I've been having ideations of suicide. My friends are already burdened with enough information, and therapy only does so much. If anything, when I talk openly about how trapped and incompetent I feel and why, it only reinforces the feelings.

[@yougotme7794]

This i what I needed for past few years i been walking through this tunnel without anyone I can't even understand what was going on i can't even tell anyone and now I hear this i really cried.i just wanna thank you for existing, for being there

[@latoyamcghee1524]

Thank you for this information as someone that has low self esteem and beating myself up this is very helpful!!! Keep up the good work you are very appreciated ❤

[@Psych2go]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dayanarosmie7383]

Being negative has been part of me, I've never thinking about getting rid of it because no matter how it's already in me becoming my flesh🙃 sometimes it can be so frustrating but usually I just go along with the negativity because I've never believe anything can work out anyway.. But from this video I realize that although Ive always been negative but it does not bother me too much because there are people that still care about me and they are my strength💪🏻

[@Center-t1o]

Idk if this will help anyone but I’m 30 and have been so abusive to myself since I was probably 8 or 9 years old. Like bad bad. But I’m getting a lot better because…. I changed how I thought about all this. I decided one day I’d imagine I have this evil “me” that lives inside me and I imagined reconciling and talking with it. Vowed to finally decide to work together, asked him for help because I need to turn my life around and if I don’t, then we both will die. I imagined he willingly agreed to start saying positive things. We fist bumped and now he’s helping me out. I’m encouraging myself more and it’s a positive feedback loop, it actually feels great. I’d just say you have to shift from judging yourself to focusing on what challenges are in front of you and external and work with your inner self and inner critic to change your life

[@waffle6454]

My biggest problem comes from comparing myself to others, even some of the other people in this comment section. I feel like the other people here have suffered much worse than me, so I shouldn't be complaining. Of course, this doesn't make my experience any less painful but rather more because it makes me feel like I'm not "suffering correctly". I'm not really good with expressing this sort of stuff, so hopefully this makes any amount of sense.

[@aure..]

I always talked greatly about me because i was scared kf having negative self talk and today ip very proud of me i found myself great for me and i seriously hope you all will be able to feel same as well Because everyone deserves to feel good and happy❤

[@KJ7Tillymann]

I do struggle with negative self talk, and having friends has helped a lot. But I tend to cycle through friends pretty often. Through a combo of leaning on friends that aren’t truly there to help and also neglecting the friends that truly care. I also have some big trust issues. Not to whether or not my friends are going to back stab me at any point, but instead I feel as though any friend with a compliment is just being nice or telling me what I’d like to hear. I can never take a compliment for what it’s worth. So unless the compliment is given alongside evidence to back it up, the compliment does nothing to back off the endless negative self talk. I loved the animation in this video btw. It was cute, simple, and it used the darker color tones to fit the subject matter really well. I hope I see it more :)

[@sombraunknown285]

Damn, I was just going through this right now. Crazy timing Its been a whole year since I last cried and watching this really touched me

[@nikylebisnath1810]

This thing has troubled me since I stepped into school for the first time. I was often the one pushed aside when it came to activities, from teachers and other kids (so-called friends) that are never there for me. High school was even worse, felt excluded and had to do things I know is wrong to just fit in. At the end, in my final year, I lost my granddad, during my final exam. At that point I realised nobody deserves me, those guys and teachers that excluded you should never be a part of your life, it's your life, you are in control. So when everyone was celebrating saying their goodbyes, throwing eggs and flour at one another, I ran away home, and from that point, 9 years later, not one person even said Hi to me. Yeah so that is that, making friends is very hard for me, only work colleagues and friends that live in other countries that share a passion for wrestling. I used to being alone, but I find comfort in having friends overseas, however I lack close friends.

[@bruintjesuus]

Oke mister anti social

[@Sakura-paj8]

Just keep on focusing on yourself and the present moment, be passionate about the things you love, someday someone will be there for you, good luck

[@4nubi5]

Congratulations on over 11 million subs, you guys deserve it, love the channel

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for the support!

[@andrefasching1332]

I had my bi awakening just recently after two month of struggeling with increasing mental problems. This would include screaming into my pillow, drinking hard booze, althought im not drinking alkohol, hitting my own head simply to make the pain go away and endless self discussions. During the last two weeks i started to rethink my past relationships and came to the understanding that i had wonderful relationahips with women, sexually and emotionally. Accepting that i find males too attraktive was relieving. Now im dealing with some post bi awakening thoughts. Its again very confusing and i find it very hard to keep track of it but im meeting up with some friends today so they may be the first people i know i can openly discuss this with Additionally its scaring me a bit. I informed myself online and found out that bis ironically suffer from low acceptance among heteros and especially gay people.

[@creativebetty3815]

I used to be too mean to myself even if it was not related to me. I remember those days that I used to look at myself with hate in the mirrors. I'm always aware of situation and know how to get better and not to act myself like this but it's always hard to do those things. I'm having flashbacks from my past but I'm learning how to deal with them and I'm not that mean to myself now and when I feel sad now I looked at mirror and tell myself what kind of situation that I'm in and explain what did I experienced in past and what is the healthy way of this. It's always make me feel calm after explaining everything than I tell myself I'm proud of how am I. I'm going to be 16 this year and knowing the fact that I need to heal my own self because no one come and help me, it just hurts. But if I need to tell something to who have read this far be proud of yourself no matter what. For this I would love to see what make you proud of yourself. I go first. I'm proud of making an effort to read book I'm not going to explain why but if you want to it's fine for me and I love to read it too. Never forget that you always worth living so be kind for yourself.

[@thexyzer]

I have so many insecurities, but your videos help. I’m glad your channel is here

[@necromasker666]

I was happy as a child. Riding karts. Playing wii. Just bein stupid. My teens were the worst. I had severe autism and depression and anxiety. During school, it's often impossible to not feel like I wanted to stop talking since I'll never be as cool or interesting as others. Year after year, it got worse. I don't know what it was, but mom tried to do everything, but get a therapist for me(ig the school was that expensive for me). I never felt like I was ever happy. All the kids looked bright and can talk while I stick out like a sore thumb. Sometimes they seemed nice, sometimes they didn't. Even my crush just seemed to not like me and instead pretended to be my friend. My parents would often talk about how expensive the school was, so I decided to skip few trips so that I don't make them spend money on me, a broken child. Covid was a nightmare as the girl I liked committed suicide; I never ate or talked with anyone for few months. My dad thought that the relationship was ridiculous and she never loved me, even going far as to call her a lying bitch, as if her bully calling me derogatory stuff using her account wasn't enough. I somehow changed. Thru the help of an old friend, my relative who I now consider my brother, I developed. I made friends I never thought I would have or have hobbies that I do rn. It seems as if the good times I spent on the last 4 years seem even more enjoyable now. SO SUCK MY BALLS THE VOICES INSIDE MY HEAD

[@Foutainoflife1]

My friends and family have a tendency to turn to me for advice and a voice to encourage and lift them up but I don't have a go-to person. There have been plenty of times when I've felt as though my only "friends" are my self-talk and my bed. I've spent many days wrapped up in my bed and trapped within my own negative, self criticizing thoughts. I struggle with this almost daily. The only thing that keeps me holding on is the love I have for my children but sometimes that critical self-talk jumps in and starts to wonder if them seeing my struggle has done more harm than good. I wish there was a switch inside my mind that could just turn it all off or at least change the dialogue. It amazes me that so many of the people I love bring their hurt and problems to me because they feel I lift them up. They never see that I'm drowning but then again, I don't let them see that. I don't want to burden others with my problems. I think a lot of times what I'm really doing is giving them the advice, support and encouragement I wish someone would give me. I have empathy for everyone but myself. I am an INFJ and I get trapped within myself often. Oh well. It is, what it is.

[@samanthakim5035]

I'm in this stage for years, I made it worst. But sometimes, I just look in the mirror and say good things, it still takes me time to be the person I want to say. It's hard to type this because it somewhat triggers(and a bit uncomfortable) me, still, I'm going to do it anyway.

[@nurzahidahrashidi]

I literally teared up by this video. Ive always been fighting my low self esteem for over a few years and the negative talks are something people dont even care about. I say outloud Im stupid when I do small mistakes and my parents dont even try to tell me Im wrong to think that. It makes it worse but I know what Im saying is bad. I just cant seem to stop... The final words in this video helps me alot... I hope you continue giving light to those still stuck in that dark tunnel, Psy. Thank you

[@coreydavis4106]

as a nearly 30 year old with intense self hatred and no help at my worst , this video rings loudly. i protect everyone but i bare my own difficulties uncared for slowly falling apart

[@heraldberg9469]

Every time I got rejected by a woman I fancied, I'd start talking negatively about myself, saying things like, "it's just as well, I'm just a loser, anyway, no woman ever wants me, I'm not attractive to them, I'm not tall, I'm not skinny, no woman pictures herself with me, in her arms, in her bed, I only get put in her 'friendzone''"

[@Max.Sinister]

Great video. I did TMS treatment after being treatment resistant, and it really stopped the majority of the negative self talk. It helped also in that it was just easier to make friends, slowly formed friends with people who care. So it's weird how it happens. It's almost like we need a push first.

[@Danarchz]

It hurts to know I feel like I can't talk to anyone about my feelings. I'm too nervous. I try not to think but I do. I feel burnt out and I can't do daily routines as much anymore. :( It makes me cry almost everyday thinking about this. And I talk bad about myself to other putting myself below them.

[@riccardopelino]

I remember the first time i started talking bad about myself... i wanted to socialize more so i began playing soccer at school and to push me over the edge i kept repeating "the ball is more important than me"

[@M.A.G-x4g]

Unfortunately I can't say enough about my current situation just because I don't know language well. But at least I'll try. My history with depression or any other disorders began quite a long time ago. Even at school, I was very often left alone, crying and just feeling unnecessary. I didn’t have any friends at that time, except for a couple of people, one of whom betrayed me, and with the other we just parted ways to study. After entering the university, I finally fell apart: I thought about what happened and what I could not do / say and cried a lot. I didn't make any friends in the new place, and since my parents were quite far away from me (and my relationship with them was not the best), I really suffered from loneliness and problems with my studies. And so it was until I wrote to my girlfriend on the network. Personally, we never talked, but we were in the same conversation on the social network and already at that moment we've met. In the end, no matter how strange it may sound, we fell in love with each other. We tried to support morally and simply did not leave. She was for me that very ray of light that illuminated my path in the darkness that then swallowed me up. But, apparently, I made too many mistakes and offended her too many times, as a result of which, after a little over two months, she wrote that we could not be together. From that moment to this day, I exist as if in a nightmare. Every day for almost a month I torment myself with thoughts about her, about those plans and dreams with her that, apparently, will never come true (and all other thoughts have not gone anywhere) and cry ... I am alone again, and it’s hard for me endure it. I sincerely hope that we will reunite in the future, but every day my faith in this, as in everything else, is shaken. I so badly want to take everything back and, if not change everything for the better, at least relive it all over again. I will give anything for this, if only not to rot in four walls, as now. Thank you for the content. He has been helping me a lot lately. And finally, be happy guys... With Love from Russia ❤️

[@unmemorableusername6582]

Yeah, peoples words are hurtful. I just try to remind myself I am NOT responsible for their negativity. They are.

[@violetjackson943]

This was beautiful I started to feel this more and more with the people that want to willingly be with me and any with me. Even as I write this it hard to not speak negatively about my self which is a Teri lie thing to do but we aren’t alone. ❤

[@CarmineKar98K]

the first minute and 30 seconds summarized everything I feel and go through on a daily basis and that is truly tragic...

[@furryoftheyear]

I've gotten to a point where any genuine care or compliment doesn't help me and in some cases can make me feel worse. The other day I had a full on mental breakdown because someone in a video said that success is not money, but leaving a positive impact on the world. That is true, and it hurts me so much to know that I used to actively make everything worse. I lost everything and everyone I had, and I'm still punishing myself and strictly seeking external validation for my past mistakes. I'm still trying my very best to disconnect myself and my identity from who I used to be. I'm also getting therapy for the first time in 2 days and I'm hoping it helps me achieve that. These videos have helped me, even if only a little, on my path to recovering from all the trauma. I leave positive sticky notes on my wall every other day, and self hate isn't all I think about anymore. More than anything though, I've helped myself, and it's kinda sad that I'm the only one who can say I'm proud of me, but at least I can now.

[@HidaAtarasi]

I’ve spent a long time energising myself by self-gaslighting, and reviewing past traumas, and riding that steam like a nuclear reactor. But the toxic waste sticks around a long time, and is just as radioactive. My promise to never again inflame myself is battered, but hasn’t been broken, and I keep the tools of self-abuse on hand, so that I can continue to CHOOSE to ignore them. Conflagration will always be my vice, so I better get used to ignoring the draw.

[@rebekahcampos4019]

Thank you ♥ I needed this

[@Psych2go]

You are very welcome! Hope this video helps cheer you up

[@OddWomanOut_Pi81]

I've read that oftentimes the ones of us born with heightened intelligence tend to be more prone to being severely unhappy...I believe that's true and have really developed a very clear understanding of why that old saying, although cliché, "ignorance is bliss", is true on so many levels. Knowing more can be a burden and can contribute to toxic bouts of negative self-talk...is the point I'm making. 😒

[@SkullDark1]

I really appreciate this useful information.

[@Dazzle835]

The voice is soft and soothing.

[@kiuphotography3702]

I really need this... I'm going throw a really depressing times and all this videos help me a bit more

[@TuNgoc-vn3jh]

Facing many bad news makes me feel broken, i just cry and criticise myself but after watching this video and reading many comments i feel strong and believe in myself, so thank you❤

[@dawnburris6412]

I needed this today! Guilt from the past keeps creeping in and I can’t seem to escape it. I’m so hard on myself it’s ridiculous! I’m not that way towards others! I really need ways to work on this! 😢

[@alicekingsley7311]

I'm at the point, where I think crying is useless. I feel nothing and I almost always self-deprecating everyday. Especially at work. But no one really cares and I have no friends anymore, so whatevs. Hopefully others will find solace.

[@princesslightning5447]

I deal with this every day…

[@yeleaaane]

so comforting, thank you!

[@Psych2go]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@janecelee1713]

Before therapy, I used let negative thoughts consume me. I believe it's due to the way that I was brought up. The adults who have outdated/ toxic mindsets would say awful things to me if I fail to meet their expectations. I didn't hear a lot of encouraging word growing up. Also, having a sit down conversation with a kind, patient, and wise person to reassure you/lift up your mood and impart words of encouragement wasn't a thing. I just ended up nurturing those discouraging thoughts whenever I had experienced failures, came across a tough decision or just out of the blue inner monologues. Now, I saved a list of positive affirmations to remind that I'm not whatever negative thoughts that plagued my mind. I'd like to ask the most intrusive thoughts, "why are you still here?"

[@nealwailing3870]

I'd be lost without my harsh voice. Being other than negative about myself just doesn't fit... I am alone....

[@ravenhissplays4525]

I hate how I’m so comfortable with negative self talk. It’s like a snuggly that makes me feel whole even though I know it’s bad for me.

[@DancMach1988]

Wow!!!! Amazing! The final words are from Christopher Robin in "Winnie the Pooh's Most Great Adventure". I grew up with that movie. A twist in this video I did not expect. Truly beautiful. Well done.

[@killedbydead2953]

Im an existentialist,and i am still dascinated how other people have such problems. I dont understand how people can be so...blinded. and yet,refusing help with opening their eyes so often. Well. I will do my best,to spread your videos and help out. Thank you so much for existing

[@blueblaze5160]

I wish I could, but the biggest issue is that my brain is hardwired to think logically and objectively about the situation, and viewing the negative things I say about myself as objectively as possible, it is clear that all of them are true, and all have a wealth of physical evidence to support the negative aspects. As long as my life remains as it is, I will continue to view myself in a negative light, as that's the only realistic conclusion I can make. As long as I continue to view myself in a negative light, my life will remain as it is. I am stuck in a symbiotic state that can only be broken by lying to myself, but lying is awful and would only serve to feed the negative aspects more. I still think I'm going to get over it eventually. I just don't know when.

[@bane2486]

Aight never shared this. I'm a 17 yr old guy..and,let's just say I'm not that type who would bitch on someone,be on social media all day,like others..I like being alone,and that's what I like,and due to this,I have less people whom I can call "friends". My parents do love me,but then as stated in video,they have their own insecurities. I had that child trauma since then and had only my grandmother to share,who also passed away in COVID. So currently I'm all alone,and just today only I was talking so negatively I wanted to kill myself.. and then this video popped on my notification bar. I'm so grateful to yall that u made this video .I really needed it a lot,and I had tears while I was watching this.. it felt like someone was there. Thank you very much Psych2Go

[@percubit10]

I tell that to myself all the time. I have been telling myself all the time, I have been a hermit for a long time.

[@144_The_Sheep]

When doppelganger start to talk with myself & my brain start to arguing with.

[@indigo_neo]

absolutely beautiful. the visuals are spot-on, especially from 3:06-3:10. thank you for this, i've struggled with this for years now.

[@johnins0mnia584]

Currently cuddled up in my bathtub without any water just thinking and listening to these videos.

[@lef2617]

I‘ve been struggling with this for years, some years more some years less. Recently, its been worse. But, after these years of being silent and keeping it hidden inside, I‘ve finally found enough courage and told my parents that I‘m having mental problems again. They reassured me that they are there for me, and if I needed to talk or just cry, I can always come to them. No matter if they do something else, if we have guests or if it’s the middle of the night. And that I shouldn’t hesitate to say what’s going on in my mind, especially if I physically hurt my self (which I do some days) or if I notice that I‘m becoming suicidal again (which fortunately isn’t the case right now). They also told me that I shouldn’t worry that I‘m bothering them with my problems because I feel like they have enough problems in their lives already, since in your lowest times, you have to be selfish. On top of that, I‘m going to a psychiatrist next Friday to see if something is wrong with me. Seeing my best friends „family“, I‘m so grateful to have my parents. Guys, it really helps to talk about your problems. If you don’t have a good relationship with your family, then talk to your friends. Even if you don’t have friends that you trust enough, there are hotlines you can call who will listen and are available 24/7. You just torture yourself when you keep everything inside. Stay strong and reach out for help! ❤

[@Kittiesinclair5]

My version is ‘theres no point in trying to do something because others always just sh*t all over it anyway and criticize everything I do’

[@kawakebcookie5826]

Thanks that is really helpful ❤

[@dystanysam9896]

This is a huge problem for me that why I’ve always had a hard time keeping .a job because of negativity self talk ,so I’m trying to saved myself & break the chain so I can stay at my current job .

[@iansmith1965]

Thank you so much! Psych2Go!!!!!!!!! I have struggled with this problem for years and years, having been raped and abused at an early age, then suffering through it with parents who didn't give a shit. The little "Inner voice" that sometimes says.. "Maybe you deserved it" or "No-one loves or wants YOU!" You are doing a momentous compassionate service to humanity with these videos; and, whoever produces and writes them deserves the Nobel prize for service to humanity!

[@ClawsAndTeeth]

I'm more prone to tell myself "What makes you think you can think like that?" or "Stop being so self-centered, you idiot!" I do it ti keep myself in line. Surprisingly effective, actually.

[@msdixieblues]

Needed this and thank you.

[@steph7960]

During a therapy session the psychologist stated that often your punitive words to yourself are the words of one or both parents? At that point....it all made sense.

[@mindset-matters2]

In shadows deep, where whispers lie, The bias blooms, a clouded sky. Negativity's favored hold, A lens through which our thoughts unfold. I was so inspired from your channel that I made one myself. I hope it'll bring some value in people's lives.

[@chidubememma-ugwuoke9660]

Exact day. That’s now my internal monologue

[@sinivainio3642]

As a uncrowned queen of negative inner dialogue I'm crying watching this... Thank you so so much for this upload, it came exactly at the right time 🖤

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much. We hope that the video gave you some relief from the inner critic! ❤️

[@TheNonameHousehold]

Ooh... an unfinished black and white sketch style, I love it! ⬛💟⬜️

[@KRbopper]

My negative self talk hits me each day.

[@ZhiangabrielBabaran-ij1ie]

This video teach me to care to my self and dont care to my own self talk

[@andreidobre1239]

The quote at the end and this video in general was much needed. Thank you for this video.

[@Psych2go]

You're so welcome! Thank you for support our work by watching it!

[@andreidobre1239]

@@Psych2go You’re so welcome too for the support! I also love the new animation style.

[@songbirdrebel5895]

Thank you so much for this video.

[@Amirisphere]

I want to assist those I love, but I'm TIRED of being a disappointment. IT sucks beyond measure when I know I'm not being of assistance to those I love, and it sucks even worse to keep doing the same crap that keeps me stuck. I'm tired of always doing my best, only for my best to not be enough. I've hit a point where I literally get tired of myself because I can do better, and I DON'T. I have said I've wanted to do things to change the world, but it infuriates me to know that I still lack, and I'm constantly getting in my way. I just want to be happy with myself, man. It's difficult as hell to do when you've got people counting on you, and, like I said the first time: When your best is not enough. When the ones who care for me are putting forth the effort to make me a better person and I give crap in return. Screwing up for me is one of the worst things because I have an issue living the crap down. I just don't want to be a damn nuisance.

[@mstwilight1612]

I was putting effort to make my ex husband a better person, in the end he devalued me and blamed for everything, saying that he has worked through his childhood cold mother trauma with me, (although he often said that I love too much), and I’m the negative thing that he wants to cut off from his life, making my anxious depression even worse. Lost about 4,5 kilos in 4 months. Damn manipulator

[@oreomaster5873]

Seriously, thank you for this video. I feel a lot of people including myself needed this :)

[@Psych2go]

You're so welcome!

[@gwennieee]

This made me cry so much. Recently, I have been really down, and I can really relate to all that has been said. I really hope someone will come and save me. Thank you for the encouraging words.

[@CountryGirl-ev7bv]

I just wanna acknowledge the artwork in this video. It is so great ! Whoever worked on this, nice job ! These images are so meaningful I had to watch the video twice because I was just not listening anymore, I was only admiring and feeling the drawings. They actually spoke to me more than what you were saying and when I listened back, only made it even more powerful and close to my own story. There are some really great artists in your team. I just hope these images didn't come from your own stories though. Keep up the great job 👍

[@michaelmccoy7644]

I'm speechless. I have no words. I didn't know that I needed to hear this. Thank you so much

[@nazeehaislam138]

I've been doing negative self-talk often lately, this video has helped me alot! Thank You Psych2go ❤

[@rufoisaiahbracamonte338]

When I was little, my parents are toxic that they dont want me to have a chance to have free time and mom manipulated for not doing homework. Until now my mind is set cuz of toxicities in our relationship to prevent from any worst situations in life. One day that my brother doesnt want to change his mind that he keeps on rejecting me for those wrong doings

[@mumboexeyeye4240]

Thank you, so very much for these kind words. I was surprised to find I was tearing up by the end. Feeling noticeably better now.

[@teto85]

Thank you very much for this.

[@CapitalismEnjoyer1]

This video is amazing thank you so very much!

[@astralicxindy]

You always put a smile on my face when i need it, thank you

[@leehuff2330]

Every time I see that light at the end of the tunnel, it turns out to be the headlight of the oncoming train.

[@blaireofhylia1572]

My friends all abandoned me again last month. I almost believed these ones would stay