How To SURVIVE The Honeymoon Phase of SOBRIETY (Episode 220)

[@johncesare2931]

Good morning Jae, and everyone. Today is 180 days for me!!!🎉

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Woohoo 180 days!! You've got this! 🔥🔥🔥

[@gwillis01]

Congratulations. Keep the positive momentum going

[@johncesare2931]

Thanks folks! Today is 192...

[@rondipotter]

36 days,I'm gonna keep going!!!!

[@gwillis01]

Keep up the good work

[@Gunner_Ray]

So proud to say that today is 100th time that I decided I wasn't drinking today. Last month was my 40th birthday, and first sober one since 16. If anyone is doubting if they should go sober, if they can maintain. Believe! You CAN! do this!!! You are worth it! Much love to everyone who sees this. Congrats to whatever day or even minute you are on!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

🎉💯🎉

[@RinoSchiavoCampo]

That's what's up! Keep it up Gunner.

[@WhoAteThePeach]

I drank one evening after two months sober. It was a mistake and it wasn’t worth it at all. I ran back to sobriety. Now a week sober after that one evening lapse and very pleased to be sober. I have no desire to drink at all! 🎉🎉🎉🎉. I feel confident now that if a slip up occurs, which I now don’t intend it to - I can get back on track. 😊

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on resisting temptation

[@simoncochrane6190]

Coming up to my first year here and it has been equal parts absolutely amazing and terribly difficult. My honeymoon phase ended around 4 months then things became difficult. I had to walk constantly for at least the 4 months following that but I now feel comfortable in my own home again. Staying vigilant!

[@luke-b8k]

OUTSTANDING Simon!!!! Congrats!!! And ya cannot make a great omelet without breakin a few eggs........it is how we deal with it NOT the circumstance we are dealin with.....STAY SRTONG!!!

[@simoncochrane6190]

@luke-b8k thanks very much man! Whichever way we deal with it is not the important thing, what's important is that we are coping, and not drinking

[@luke-b8k]

@@simoncochrane6190 amen brother!!!

[@FallicIdol]

Congrats!

[@mattjohn4731]

Coming up on 5 years and it's hard. I also quit zoloft and weed. I am irritating friends and fam because my conformist tendencies are gone and I tell what I *really think! Such as there are no good billionaires, cable makes you ignorant, and the US was on the wrong side of every "war" the past 80 years. Oops haha but honestly that's where my heads at and it doesn't help to deny these things. Avoiding free expression makes me feel "crazy" but I am getting exercise and supporting others in recovery.

[@BradParsons-n8s]

It was about the 4 - 5 month mark for me. The main symptom was irritability at work and boredom at home. While I had been making noticeable progress in evolving my Sobriety, the shine was gone. Note: when I say evolving I mean going from simply not drinking alcohol to actually using Sobriety to help me make positive changes such fitness, eating well, etc. I came across info on PAWS (Post Acute Withdrawal Symptoms) and one thing I learned is that PAWS can be triggered because we somehow still believe life was better while drinking. The key was to re program my mind to the fact that life Is better without alcohol. I started writing short affirmations in my IPhone Notes and would recite them while relaxing. An example is: "I am thankful I don't need to consume the addictive poison that is Alcohol. I Am Now Free."

[@brutalplanet7BoonesOverstock]

Very helpful comment post. Thank you. I am at the beginning stages of feeling this way. I appreciate a tangible thing to do to point me in the right direction.

[@Misr93]

5 days sober here, after 18years of intense drinking, first festive then damaging every aspect of my life badly. The empathy here is amazing good luck to me and everybody. I feel positive things already (less tired with 5 hours of sleep sober than 10 drunk..thats already something !) I believe every small win is important😅

[@GreenSmog17]

I usually start struggling 3-6 weeks into my sobriety. The 'honeymoon' phase does start to wear off and the urges start rearing their head. But pushing through that is defo worth it and I wont give up at being sober as much as i can be because the benefits are amazing,

[@timhemlin9556]

My honeymoon phase ended around the beginning of summer. Now on day 305. First year in sight and only mildly concerned about navigating through the Bermuda Triangle of the Heart--Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's. Sail on and stay strong, friends!

[@gwillis01]

Keep up the good work.

[@ydoicare2000]

Hi jae. 26 days. Just admitted to hospital for surgery. Gall stone broke apart. Send good thoughts my way.

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on twenty six days of sobriety

[@pbc1232]

I think I'm currently in the Honeymoon phase but knowing it ends helps me prepare better. The goal here's longevity, not another high.👍💯

[@jenibracher2733]

I've drastically reduced the amount of alcohol I drink, but on occasion I limit myself to 2 drinks before dinner when out. I get that happy feeling I just can't seem to get otherwise. Makes me feel young and carefree like I used to feel. Once I get a taste of that feeling, it makes me want to drink more but I hate the consequences so I stay the course. Will continue to pursue hobbies to increase mood without the after effects.

[@FallicIdol]

I am closing in on 6 months. The honeymoon passed and it got tough, but that dark cloud is starting to fade, too.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

That's awesome to hear - keep pushing through!

[@CristianRacansky]

I really like your videos. Been watching them for a while. I've been sober 6 months.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Well let's keep the momentum going!

[@garthreid3925]

Watching what?

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@garthreid3925 "your videos"

[@gwillis01]

Building a new habit follows a predictable path. First, the initial burst of enthusiasm. Second, the first big obstacle. Third, renewing and reinforcing your decision to overcome obstacles to change for the better.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Did you enjoy all your comment responses from the channel today? 🤣 I got a bit behind

[@gwillis01]

@@GettingSoberAgain I'm merely glad that you check the comment section frequently. Only do as much as you have time for. Remember to sleep and eat and pray.

[@Kevin64123]

This channel has been a great resource. Thanks!!!

[@TheLaw365]

8 days in and I am definitely having cravings. I just started watching your videos from the beginning but this one spoke to me. I am in the honeymoon phase and super motivated, but I think this will set me up for success later. I will probably watch this a few more times in the coming weeks. Thank you for putting these videos out!

[@suzettebogueroberts972]

Thank you for this video! I am two weeks in today (12/23) and definitely feeling the "honeymoon stage." I am not naive and know this will pass. I appreciate your tips and support.

[@RinoSchiavoCampo]

Everyone is different. I only share my experience. There is no "one way". In the loss of the pink cloud and working through all the tricks and lies my addiction tried to get me back under it's lash, I found the wisdom of the steps. I stayed in touch with "why" I don't drink anymore.

[@Bill-o4f9p]

I find it hard around the 3 months i start losing the its so great being sober usely wen my job starts stressing me and life stress creeps up unfortunately i find it hard getting passed that few months then end up relapseing then will beat myself up over it this time for 100th time trying trying to just rough it out and just accept life will happen and to push threw there light at the end so anyone struggling or feeling hopeless just keep up the fight stay strong and no there r people out there routeing for your success took me awhile but finally realized im not alone in this battle inside my mind against achochol.these videos really give me the motivation to keep going forward and that my choice not to drink is a good one

[@derkaiser420]

I have over a year and a half and I was always told about the pink cloud. I just never got on the damn thing. That is what worked for me. It took about three months for reality to hit me but it was also manageable. I was also told that you never have to get off of it either. Either one works. Sobriety is like paying rent, you have to pay everyday. There is no day off, no rest period, everyday you have to do something.

[@timburton9514]

Almost 11 months! After month 4 or so, I learned I needed to find a new way to relieve stress. Vodka had been my go to for years! Well, I’ve really gotten into fishing, hunting, and collecting Swiss Army knives. I may be addicted to them

[@itsmeaimster6698]

I’m about two months in now. I’m a little nervous about staying sober thru the holidays but I’ve made it thru my birthday and several dinners out so I think I can make it! ❤ Short term goal- stay sober thru the end of the year.

[@Californialiving831]

5 1/2 weeks Sober 🙏

[@aleksandraziva157]

my honeymoon faze goes away at 1 month mark every time I reach 1 month I start to get angry foggy atm I cannot sleep for the life of me at night I don't rest at all but I'm not sure if it's from the alcohol onestly but I'm still sober I'm even afraid to say so I don't jinx it but I cannot bring myself to drink again even in my worst days which lately are quite a bit is like life it tryng to force my hand to drink by throwing s&it in my face I'm so scared of drinking it cuts of my craving but and I find myself going to the shop and not thinking about my what used to be favourite little bottles that I could hide so easily I would advice people like me to collect money as a hobby 😅 that's what I'm trying now collect as many as I can and just remember life is hard sober but it's even worse drunk if you want to forget go to sleep don't get drunk if you can't sleep like me exercise till you can't anymore and eat a big meal and it helps a little 😅 I got to the point where some of my family members and friends give me deep looks to see if I had anything and I'm trying to hide it they can't believe I'm sober every day IT FEELS SO FREAKING GOOD 😁

[@EniTumyic]

@@aleksandraziva157 have you heard of punctuation before?

[@aleksandraziva157]

@EniTumyic honey no I didn't I left school when I was 13 to get a job to pay the rent for me and my drunk mother before we end up on the streets...again I was constantly abused since the age of 7 by my mother but I made it I got out and i would like to say that I could not give a flying sh!t about punctuation thank you very much I'm happy I can even read and write 😅 in the future don't judge people by so little 🙂 stay safe ✨️

[@angelamercedes5136]

Thank you for this. I'm on month 4 and definitely notice feeling suddenly off and wondering what is wrong with me. Your suggestions are extremely helpful.

[@robertmason6366]

You're a gift from from divine provenance. 😊

[@GettingSoberAgain]

😦😮😯😲😳🤯😇👽

[@luke-b8k]

AND need I say......great tips Jae.....THANKS!!!!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

✋HIGH FIVE

[@luke-b8k]

day 18---- and I feel OUTSTANDING!!! have NO cravings NOR ANY desire to drink whatsoever..........i recommend reading Dr Allen Carr's "Stop Drinking Now".....has helped me immensely!!! also changing me routine from old ways AND have identified trigger thoughts, this is a useful tool indeed!!!! i thank you Jae for this channel & videos with the MOST excellent suggestions & tips.....also the supporting replies from the crowd here.......Celebrate Recovery is a Christ based AA themed group support weekly meetings.....here is a tip from me-----replace the tools in your utility belt with positive & positive tools.....THANKS to ALL of Y'all & you Jae!!!!

[@joemyatt4067]

90 days in, and as the 100 mark creeps in and with me moving to a new town for work and all the stress that comes with it kicks in I were relieved to see one of your videos pop up on my feed as I go into a pub to meet my new colleagues. Stay blessed! From the UK

[@sabo6070]

It’s that 3-4 month mark when things feel off and than into gloom town. Ugh, no getting around it. Each day get up and try your best, than do it again. Only responsibility is to go to bed sober. Than it passes …. For me it took over 2 years to pass. The length of time is different for everyone I think.

[@chrisdubs121]

Im back, im finally sober again. I let myself drink with some friends and it snowballed. I had it under control for a few months but before i knew it i was drinking every day. My girlfriend who i wanted to marry left me and now im back on my path of sobriety. I dont know where life will take me but i know i will be sober when i get there.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You have a great attitude. accountability is key!

[@markspann]

Frances here day 27 I'm gonna keep going. Thanks for your videos. They helped me get going again. I've realized this is about 10yrs I've been trying different processes treatment 1/2way houses etc. I'm trying again and hopeful.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You are doing awesome Frances. Keep going! 💕

[@julenebotes18]

Honeymoon ended about month 3.... I paint alot and prefer to stay at home. You helped me alot!!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Yahooooo!!! Happy to help!

[@juliemorris6916]

Ty so very much for this.

[@svenjurgenson5442]

great stuff! i did not even know that pink cloud and is that it feeling is a real thing, i thought that i just have it .. thanks for sharing!

[@echo123.0]

I loved the honeymoon phase after cravings went away then after I hit 3-6 months feelings and looking healthier❤7 months honeymoon was over and intrusive alcohol thoughts came back intermittently

[@ChrisMahon-lq2ec]

I'm 135 days sober today.. iv been under this dark cloud for bout a week now, and today is the day that I convinced myself that I should start drinking again,.... " I didn't drink" but now I got a new battle in my head now,, this craving ,and the depression and stress it all fuckin with me now.... I was so happy in the beginning, now not so much... this is getting tougher, I hope this passes soon.....

[@sccgproductions]

Recently had a sobriety detour and now I’m back here trying to get sober… again

[@Neil_down_south]

I did too (planned, but proved I can't control my drinking). Today is my day 1.

[@echo123.0]

Thanks Jey!!🙏✌️

[@Kevin64123]

Working on 4 months 19 days.Im 60 and drank for many years.

[@truthoversubmission4237]

Body building is a really fun hobby! And youtube has endless free content that makes it interesting

[@BreakawayHolidays]

23 daya sober feeling amazing never back to poision again thnks jae

[@brutalplanet7BoonesOverstock]

Will be watching this one several times this week. Also, will be taking notes next time.

[@Bda28590]

52 days so far. I'm going to YMCA 6 times a week. And trying to stay busy. Anxiety so far has subsided.

[@flyingtiger112]

Here I am again... Am I the only one who can't fall asleep or even sleep through after 3 weeks of sobriety?! One commentator mentioned that the alcohol is out of ones system within 3 days, I would argue that it takes up to nine months to get the biochemical processes and hormonal systems back in order to sleep and fall asleep like we did as in our youth. Up to nine months. What a perspective. 😐

[@marilyn3711]

No, you are not the only one. Some of us just take longer. At least 3 months for me to start sleeping better and a good 6 months for anxiety to improve. I was always so jealous of people whose lives were completely transformed after a month of ditching the alcohol. But it's worth the wait!

[@tomlyon3273]

Actually it took me over 4 months to feel good again. I keep remembering its way better than how i felt as a drinker

[@Rastafarian_Rambo]

thank you so much for the kind words

[@Tiya7980]

235 days sober🎉...

[@SuzanneMonteleone]

Your advice is very helpful

[@Rastafarian_Rambo]

3 to 4 yess

[@danielladani3242]

67 days ,the longest time iv gone without alcohol in th last 5 years.. The honeymoon phase ended about a month in...

[@enjoy1ife]

The election derailed me, and I realized that’s the second time I’ve let politics derail my sobriety journey. I’m feeling so comfortable with my view of myself as a sober person, I’m even envisioning my future self maintaining sobriety through the holidays and global traveling, but I recognize how quickly that view can be pushed aside with a strong trigger. I’d like to improve my accountability and have a sober mentor, but AA meetings is something I can’t seem to feel right about. The whole higher power part doesn’t sit well with me. Any ideas on finding a mentor that’s not part of AA are welcome.

[@AllenM.Ponsen]

No honeymoon phase. Jesus is the way. Sobriety is the best drug.

[@williampaneque3647]

Day 103 today

[@GettingSoberAgain]

💪💪💪

[@mattjohn4731]

Hey Jae, kudos. I got a topic idea. Anyone lose interest in popular music and stuff? Cliche party lyrics like Life In The Fast Lane or Kick Start My Heart. I can't help but suspect the writers invest in for-profit prisons! That literally happened with hip-hop!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@mattjohn4731 I've been saying this for years, about the perpetuation of crime and violence in popular culture (mostly music), as an incubator for the private prisons. BlackRock and Vanguard are the biggest investors in private prisons. CoreCivic is one of the largest private prison corporations in the United States. With some states are being funded to the tune of $50k per inmate in these institutions. And cheap prison LABOR is an entirely separate conversation. So much corruption. That's why I have any mostly listen to exclusively instrumental music and music outside of mainstream culture. It's just the pied piper leading the lost. Buy this, wear that, drink this, behave this way. It's complete brainwashing and unoriginal!

[@amritaamanita]

How to maintain sobriety amidst societal/ecological collapse?

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Working on what's in your control in your own life is always a great recipe for staying sober. There has been and there will always be societal and ecological change. The first person to fix is us, and our ability to adapt and make necessary changes for our survival and longevity.

[@gwillis01]

Things are always imperfect. There are always big problems. However, there are always blessings. Control what you can control. Fix what is in your neighborhood, your street, your city.

[@simoncochrane6190]

The best thing to do is fix ourselves. We can’t control everything but we can take responsibility for our sobriety ❤

[@MrJaay06]

@@GettingSoberAgain very well said. Focus on the things we can change.

[@luke-b8k]

@@simoncochrane6190 agreed!!! we can't control what we cannot control BUT we can control ourselves AND our actions/reactions.....STAY STRONG!!!

[@HardlyCoping]

I am coming up on 5 months sober & almost derailed last night during the election results. Fortunately, I was able to keep reminding myself of my progress and not to give up at a moment of stress and anxiety. Today hasn't been easy, but I'm not ready to throw it all away. Cheers.