How to Talk About Herpes When Dating | Real Tips for the Conversation!

[@mackelly4581]

I'm going to watch this after work. If this might help anyone with disclosure, I start the conversation asking if they've ever had a cold sore. Or chicken pox. Chances are high they say yes.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s a good one. 👍

[@danielboone72]

This is sooooo nice to know!😳

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🙏

[@PossumLover1111]

Glad to read things worked out "swimmingly" with your client. Preparing for a conversation with someone about Herpes or anything serious really is important if done in a mature way as your client did. Great video as always.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes! Thank you!

[@ssiegreen5292]

Brave subject matter - kudos for bringing up something this difficult to discuss. Would you recommend to discuss sexual diseases in person or via text/email or phone conversation? I think it's one thing to discuss casually when you know you're clean and have the expectation that your potential partner is as well, but another issue altogether when you know you're having something and need to tell the other person, or when the other person drops that bomb on you. I'm honestly not sure how I would react, or how I would prefer to find out [other than that I would want to know well before I consider going to bed with you, or gods forbid - am already in bed with you].

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I don’t feel brave. Actually I don’t really think it’s difficult to talk about. But I know some people do. And you know me… Always realizing people are different and trying to be helpful. ;-) I don’t think it matters, whether you text them or tell them on the phone or in person. As long as you give them a little bit of time to think about it before they have to make any decisions. I guess that would be determined by whether you believe it’s an act of bravery and how difficult you find the conversation. 🤎

[@knickandchester]

If I got a text like that, wouldn't work. Conversation in person much better. If people are close enough to be physical, they should be brave enough to discuss things that may cause rejection. That being said, best situation is to get serious and comfortable enough to get testing done and show your partner. People can be unaware they have anything to pass

[@CoffeewithCarey]

It wasn’t about bravery. It’s just how some people communicate. Everybody’s different. And it worked out just fine. Like me, She didn’t think it was a big deal and was willing to avoid a week of intimacy a few times a year. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ceejay9663]

I've run into 2 cases of women admitting to me they had H~ prior to contact, if you know what I mean. When with someone new, it's always wise to ask point blank about STDs. It's saved me multiple times! Sorry, but that was the kiss of death for me; I just wouldn't accept the risk of contracting it.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yeah, you have to know your own boundaries

[@averagegoy]

You whores dont deserve respect. Shame use to be a useful tool. ​@@CoffeewithCarey

[@SpeCialeDDoC454]

This is topic for concern. Most people have it, snd people are incentivised to lie.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

No, most people don’t have it and most people don’t choose to lie.

[@Ashbyee]

Beware of dating “down” if you have something like H or maybe a chronic illness. One may feel less deserving and accept less than behavior because the other person is taking a “risk” or “willing” to accept you. It is a very complicated vulnerability and there are some very cruel men (and women) in this world.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s horrible! And like always our self-confidence and boundaries are key!

[@Wookinpanub235]

I can imagine how many people would outright lie about not having STD’s when they did. That’s one thing about the idea of dating that really scares me. I know I personally would break the ice by saying I have a body count of 1. Same woman since 14 years old. Then I could say I’ve never had any diseases and hopefully the date would be comfortable sharing her stats along those lines.. If she gets real quiet, nervous and starts looking left to right in panic then I guess I would know.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Honestly, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. There’s really no reason to lie plenty of people feel like I do.

[@bernadinegatling5990]

I think Herpes would be the least of my worries if I was having unprotected sex. What about all the other STD’S that people carry that causes cancer and reproductive problems? Also, don’t forget about the AIDS virus. I say if you are planning to have unprotected sex before marriage then be women or man enough to discuss the possibility of having Herpes and other sexually transmitted diseases. To keep from having to discuss your sex life in detail the two of you should go get tested for the major ones that you may not know you have at least six months after your last sexual encounter. Then your discussion would be have you had sex with anyone within the last six months?Hopefully they would answer truthfully, but still get tested and still use protection. I am sure there is a test for Herpes virus too.

[@Wookinpanub235]

@@bernadinegatling5990 My Dad told me some scary stories about his navy shipmates in the Philippines in the lates 50’s after sleeping with prostitutes. Scared the hell out of me.

[@danielboone72]

@@Wookinpanub235 I think it should be a law where you get a tattoo above your private parts stating which STD you have. A doctor should approve it. When you see it….RUN🏃🏻‍♂️

[@n3xt0n3xt]

Just say yes with an honest conversation, some great music, love, and the best sex. I don’t regret any time I spent with her

[@CoffeewithCarey]

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