How to Tell if a Guy is Gay

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[@JackFelixnAtlas]

All we gays can agree on one thing.. It sucks having a crush on someone straight

[@zacharycoltrane3128]

Jack FelixnAtlas yep

[@Cinehotties]

Jack FelixnAtlas Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@JackFelixnAtlas]

Cinehotties, I am lol thank you😊

[@thenotoriousk.i.m5684]

Yeah lmao even worse when they leave town so you just think about what could of been

[@ntokozonkosi9770]

It's like a straight guy crushing on a nun

[@ruzzelladrian907]

When my gaydar doesn't work, I switch to the please-be-gaydar.

[@michaelrodgers6973]

If yo he passed upbhettingvpusst

[@scotsmuscle]

mine also doesnt work lol

[@nicolodelucia8743]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@animesimplord749]

Mines switched

[@tumslucks9781]

Why not try the gay bar? They're guaranteed to be gay! 🏳️‍🌈

[@Mikelaxo]

Also straight guys always talk about girls within the first 2 hours of hanging out with you, so that's another thing to look for...

[@Maius26]

First three sentences if they know you're gay, or you are good looking.

[@sonquatsch8585]

it's so true...but be careful, sometimes guys will mention their girls to let you know ahead of time, if something happens, remember i'm straight. it could be either or. also it is a test to see if u are in the same boat. if u say my girlfriend this or that, then if u two end up in bed, you both feel safe. if u are gay and are comfortable with a one night stand, talking about a girlfriend, if u can pass for straight, could land a straight identified guy.

[@thenaturalpeoplesbureau]

This does not necessarily signal to gay guys that you are not open. One dude was always trying to you know, lure me to a sauna saying some girls will come, then only he is there. Or make subtle advances. I basically never noticed it, which obviously sent mixed signals. It was until i went to a club with a female friend, that i noticed that all sorts of dudes were hitting on me. I just thought they want conversation. So i did not close my boundaries.. She started to hint they were hitting on me, and only then did i realize what was going on, haha.. It s kinda cute, but now at least i can give stronger signals without being you know, mean. Haha, once i was sitting there with her, and because we were not a couple, they must have thought im available or something. He asked me some questions (which i did not see as advances back then) and she said to him "He is not gay". And he smiled and left. Those dudes in the club were totally nice though, but the little man who tried to bring me into compromising situations (sauna, inappropriate questions) really was creeping me out. Honestly i never noticed how many guys noticed me, until my friend Tadeja t old me about it. In regards to girl talk, not sure that helps to draw my boundaries. I did that and they did not stop.. Now that i can notice it, i can be much much nicer to those who try.. Without giving them false hope. Also once some1 asked me in a bar if i would come with him to a gay bar, i politely declined, smiled broadly, and thanked him for the flowers. He said "damn" and walked away. I basically watch this video, because apparently i did not learn to have my own boundaries, and want to understand the thing better. And yeah that is true, when i talk about topics im interested in, i could talk hours to somebody without t alking about sex or girls. Simply because im immersive. So dont confuse openness with interest. I did not differentiate and this lead to many weird situations. glhf

[@HouseOfWanda]

Yeah even as a bi guy I would not randomly start talking about girls, just out of fear that the person might get a clue that I’m not straight

[@101sanford]

@@HouseOfWanda im a big boy man

[@dela_ruthh]

“We don’t have he’s acting like a girl or she’s acting like a boy anymore- they’re acting like themselves” 🤗 well said, thank you!

[@hexum7]

Dela Hini Yeah, well, the contestants on RuPaul's Drag Race might beg to differ.

[@dela_ruthh]

Well, I don't know, I suppose it's all a matter of perspective. Gender in and of itself can be viewed as a social construct, in which gender roles (pertaining to Western society) have been defined throughout an amalgamation of popular Western cultures and traditions. This, however, does not make one culture's approach to gender identity and roles any more valid than another. In that way, the contestants on RuPaul's Drag Race are simply embodying the ideas of the gender norms in their societal context, therefore playing into the construct. In other words, gender is what you make it because it is culturally defined and then internalized at the individual level (which can then have more serious psychological effects, in regards to self-esteem, etc). Sex, however, refers to an individuals biological assignment, and we could go on about how sex is different from gender, but hey, this is just a really sweet KZbin video and there isn't any need for facetious banter. I appreciate your comment but I fail to understand how it's relevant to what I said and to the video.

[@hexum7]

Dela Hini Well, you are right in that the contestants on the Drag Race are ( mostly) presenting as the cultural expectations of female gender, as defined by our society- and, in fact, not really just the cultural norms, but highly exaggerated and pointedly expressed aspects of that norm, that we assign to gender- for example, there seems to be an unwritten rule that they wear extremely long high heels- but that is an expression of femininity unique to western culture - many other cultures do not associate women with high heels at all, and those that do often adopted it from Europe and America. But, I wasn't referring to just the performances. I recently binge watched a season of the show, and one thing that stood out in the narratives that was almost universally true of all the "queens" is a history of having been ridiculed, persecuted, and even rejected by their own families for being too effeminate, too girly. This was true, even for the youngest ones. So, their drag personas are a way for them to take that pain and humiliation and throw it in the world's face. To say, yes, I an a boy who acts like a girl- and it's fabulous. _ these aren't transgendered people (for the most part) who identify as female. These are cis males who the world would destroy for being too much like the opposite gender. And, yes, that's all a bit too heavy for a comment on this video. It's just that due to the binge, it was very much on my mind. I apologize for messing with the mood. You may now return to your regular video comments

[@dela_ruthh]

I love your response! Thank you for putting down the knowledge and speaking respectfully!

[@hexum7]

Dela Hini thank you for being kind. If not for that, I might have just left the one sardonic comment and not have given myself the opportunity to express those thoughts

[@JimL94]

How can you accidentally meet a cute guy and he's also gay!? This never happens to me!!!

[@ainulyaqin5243]

He's hot, that's the reason

[@perfumeidv]

same Jim, same

[@themuffin3461]

Mariano Di Piazza how is your gaydar? My friend says that he doesn’t know what he is and I want to help him

[@themuffin3461]

Mariano Di Piazza Thanks he said that he’s grateful for your help

[@DaySights]

Good for u people bully me :(

[@MrTunapie]

I just watch their eye movements when in a crowd, who are they looking at. Works every time.

[@Jacy_-nn1hr]

If he says hes gay... No wait. That cant be a sign. Thats too obvious.🤔

[@zacharycoltrane3128]

Jacy _1419 so obvious that its a definitive

[@KoldingDenmark]

Oh no, I have a friend from military, who would tell girls that he is gay, to make them loose interest in him. Do I need to tell that they most often didn't respond the way it was intended? He was so cool with me whilst in the service while I was in the process of coming out.

[@Cinehotties]

Jacy _1419 Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@JimL94]

🤣🤣🤣

[@kiky.mp4]

That ain't a sign... That's a damn welcome mat

[@HML2004]

This is difficult. I was visiting the optometrist and he kept telling me to keep my eyes open and stare at him.

[@quentinlomelino2538]

Huy Le wtf

[@rionilo3191]

Huy Le Lolololololololololol

[@helpmesatan4941]

I snorted when I read that

[@AwesomeAlexAdam]

Huy Le Yup! Your optometrist is Gay

[@seamusogradius6263]

That is why I like going to the optician, he looks into your eyes while standing really close to you.

[@eddiej9270]

So I’ll tell you this. I’m 18, I have always been aware that I’m gay and when I finally reached the age of 18 (about two months ago). A month ago, I met a guy at my friend’s. The first time I saw him with mask on, I was laying on a hammock, we looked at each other for one second as he was walking into the kitchen, I thought about him since then how he was so handsome and that was it. Later on, we were drinking, I kept looking at him and he kept looking at me, even everyone in the room could see the intension between us even when they were drunk. We realized that it was our second time meeting. What my friends said was that he is straight that he has always dated girls but if you look at me and him at the same time, you will say I look straight and he looks gay because he’s a pretty fem boy, and I’m more like a regular straight guy. His voice and the way he talks give it away but in a cute, baby way. Everyone agrees that he is cute like a baby. Everybody girls, boys, gay, straight, lesbian... everyone agrees he’s cute, and I so love him for the cuteness. After done drinking I had to go home and he didn’t want me to leave. Fast forward, the second we went drinking again was at my house and while my two other friends are lying on the floor, he and I had our first kiss, it was like 4 seconds. After that night, we kept thinking about each other everyday but we didn’t text anything about that night. And after a week later, we met again and I decided to talk it out. He admitted that the first time we met he noticed everything I did, how handsome I am, how I walked, how I talked, how I smiled, and that the first time he has feelings for a guy. So we kept texting, about 2 weeks ago, we had another talk about how he finds the answer if he is gay, or bi or straight, he said he is confused, he doesn’t know. All my friends think that he is trying to hide himself, Idk, but he said he’s not sure if he’s gay or bi. After another week, I asked him if he has decided yet, because keeping me waiting is going to hurt me only. I wanted to know if we should be dating or just being friends, he decided that we should be friends because he is afraid that if he’s dating me while not knowing what his sexuality is and when it won’t work between us, we will lose the friendship..... Now we are friends but we don’t talk, actually we try to stay away from each other, and I feel hurt. He was my first kiss, I was his also first kiss, and all the sweet moments we had, kissing cheeks goodbye, playing games together, cuddling, and the loving caring texts... because of all of that, I can’t unlove him. I don’t know what he’s thinking right now, I visited his profile everyday and one day his bio said, “I always leave a spot for you” idk if it was for me but we used to talk by changing on our bios, it was fun. But I keep telling myself that he doesn’t really love me so that I can get over it. I admit that I can’t unlove him but it's getting better everyday. What I’m telling you is, loving a straight or confused guy is hurtful, especially when you both done kissing, cuddling, texting, admitting feelings for the other but still not even a thing.... that hurts.

[@1220MrCool]

I am so sorry to hear about what you have gone through. It definitely sounds like this guy really takes a strong attraction in and strong interest in you man. Also I think that you need to stay away from his social media, take some time for yourself, and perhaps talk to a therapist about how you feel hurt. You deserve to feel happy and love your life more; hang in there!

[@gabrieeuluzumaki6155]

@@DJDeezNutz but he’s not the one who’s confused the other guy is and that’s hard, being in love with someone who doesn’t know its sexuality is rather painful, so it’s always preferable to be in love with someone who knows their sexuality and isn’t conflicted about their likings or preferences, hope you got it

[@valmiro4164]

Sexuality is defined by arousal, just ask him what he jerks off to.

[@thevaccinator666]

That's beautiful that you connected and I'm sorry for the pain you must feel about this. Do you know if he has come to any conclusions about his sexuality since then?

[@eddiej9270]

@@thevaccinator666 i don’t think so, as far as I know, he hasn’t been in a relationship since, but I got over it. Another part of the story is that my friend, who is now my ex-friend, told him not to date me, he said to him “you shouldn’t be with him if you aren’t sure of your sexuality!” but that friend told me, he said “i told him that because he cared about you, I don’t want u to get hurt” lol he cheated, talking about a good relationship. Anyways my ex-friend and the guy are pretty close, so I didn’t go all the way telling the guy not to listen to him, just kinda accepted. One time, me and the guy were cuddling then that ex-friend asked the guy if he liked me more than him, of course the guy said he liked me more, than the friend suddenly changed face, then for a moment he whispered, “i used to like you” while we being confused, he stomped out of the room, and the guy ran after asking questions, I was left alone and saw what he tried to do, like what?? He was in a relationship at the time and had the audacity to do that. The next day I confronted him about why he’d do that, he said “i’m kidding, it was a joke haha” I’m glad I kicked that kind of friend out of my life.

[@ptboy18]

Probably the best thing I've done is not assume anyone's sexuality. Just talking to someone without the intent to decipher them really sets guys at ease. People can typically sense an ulterior motive. I know it's the opposite of what this video is about but just my experience.

[@mxslick50]

Good advice..and BTW you're hot. :)

[@vincentruvo6988]

Guys are intrigued about other guys' sexual identity. It's just normal and natural.

[@101sanford]

@@mxslick50 hey baby

[@len1045678]

I agree i rather keep a cool head if is he is if he isn't oh well.. usually i dont chase straight guy.. but recently one have come in my life just to be my friend, but.. i picking on sences i never felt before, the grip in his hand shake and deep look into his eyes, intimate conversations etc yet he love and enjoy baging girls.. like what do u want🤣🤣

[@thenaturalpeoplesbureau]

Dont assume, ask. Thanks

[@IthrielAA]

I'm gay and none of these "signs" apply to me at all.

[@Belikel]

He's pretty into stereotypes me thinks.

[@thanksyou9650]

hi,, hugh I miss u

[@alcerdemon9768]

Then start acting that way dummy

[@leebennett1044]

😂

[@nanayawlucifa1230]

pls call me [phone]

[@Nash1a]

Re: Eye Contact. Twice this failed to be a correct indicator - in fact, the only two times I judged a guy by eye contact were BOTH wrong. I think this is a thing that varies with culture as well. In the US yeah, straight guys don't generally maintain prolonged eye contact but I met two different guys (possibly both were South American) who both made prolonged eye contact and seemed overly friendly and yet both were straight. So NOT a universal gay thing.

[@martincichocki9908]

It's not that easy! Im gay & have messed up with my "gaydar."

[@alw.8849]

yes and that eye contact thing can get you in some trouble

[@shiell6360]

Same😂

[@crazymacedonianboi]

yup 😂😜

[@s.a.8548]

Musicmann1022 Your COUSIN'S son? So your nephew? Um...?

[@TheMatube12]

"Gaydar" is asinine. Masculine gay guys, and feminine straight guys exist.

[@loneaxolotl]

I came across this video and watched it because I think my best bud is gay. We're both muscular just like you and I'd say he's pretty good looking too, but some of the stuff you mentioned were there. He's not fond of talking about hot chics & stuff. We always hangout with friends but mostly just the two of us. I recently became single and he doesn't have one, just some hookups he's been bragging about. He's always handsy, but I don't mind. We've been bros since diaper days. He likes to cuddle when we're drunk and half ass naked. Does he like me or something? If he's gay, I want him to tell me. I'd gladly support him. Nothing will ever change between us.

[@oscartaylor9379]

Kage Krôss I bet you the farm he is gay. You totally described me when I was young with my straight best friend/ roommate,except for the half-naked, drunk cuddling. I was never that invasive or bold. Trust me, he is not that unaware of himself whenhe is "drunk ". If you are not interested, be kind but firm and consistent with body space expectations and with letting him know your true preference. He was testing you by touching you too see how or if you respond. Good luck and value the friendship above all, if it lasts once you inform him. Also, have the discussion away from alcohol so that it is clear. Good luck and Peace

[@PK-hx9ny]

dude, you're kind of hot, you could make anyone gay

[@loneaxolotl]

P K Really? Thanks!

[@loneaxolotl]

Oscar Taylor He has a girlfriend now and I'm kinda shocked! I'm mad at him because we don't get to hangout as often as before. But I should be happy for him, right? What is wrong with me?

[@hpatdh077]

Kage Krôss it's normal to be jealous of a friend when they get a gf/bf. Because you won't be hanging out much with them. Being gay, it happened to me when my female best friend got a bf ( and I'm not even remotely interested in women).

[@jbc8220]

2:39 My repeat button is broken😂

[@izimations]

Ahhhhhhh. *If that happened I'd die due to gay panic* Agghhhhhhhhhhh

[@mangofrugt1]

sameeee I paused it

[@WillMruzek]

I'm glad I'm not alone in my level of stalking...err, research...

[@saebica]

Will Mruzek stalk me.

[@dalmatianluvr]

Is this really anything different than the "personal safety suggestions" out there to "run a background check" on a potential date? Looking somebody up IG or FB or a hookup app is nothing at all. Welcome to 2017!

[@michaelkylow4411]

What if the guy is amazing, looks gorgerous, is pretty smart, seems like is gay... but has no social media? :(

[@Cinehotties]

Will Mruzek Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@pog395]

Will Mruzek yes!

[@fideidefensor6427]

The biggest give away is the eyes. Watch their eyes and who they're looking at and how intensely. Like if he's straight he'll likely eye up anyone woman that walks past but if he's gay he'll pretty much only pay attention to other guys 👀

[@rc388]

Fidei Defensor but how do you check the guy out without looking like a creep? I mean if I'm staring at him staring at other guys

[@fideidefensor6427]

rc388 Dunno, but if you figure it out let me know cause I know who's gay but at the cost of them thinking I'm a complete creep 😂

[@omgbitchimsoshook2717]

Fidei Defensor this is true

[@aabelmendoza]

I've met guys that look at woman and also sleep with men so I don't think this works

[@Ridorana12]

Abe Lincoln they might be bisexual or pan sexual instead of gay

[@haustreviance]

You are insanely attractive.

[@erik8600]

He's really hot.

[@helpmesatan4941]

Its not legal to be that hot

[@santinogarcia6836]

@@helpmesatan4941 can we arrest him?

[@101sanford]

@@erik8600 hey big man

[@101sanford]

@@erik8600 hey baby

[@thomasmoeller3446]

If he closes his eyes when you kiss him good night. When he asks "Do you have a condom?" When he calls you "daddy" and you are not related.

[@s.a.8548]

Ew about you ARE related

[@TheMatube12]

Why would you be kissing him goodnight if he were straight?

[@dudeitssalt4249]

@@TheMatube12 you gotta give your homies a goodnight kiss. Homies help homies

[@eric-vu1jy]

“An I can’t believe you kiss your COCK at night....”

[@pixxel17]

The fact that you have to add the “not related” part makes me shake my head

[@oyodavis1830]

eye contact is the best communication if a person is gay,

[@ohyeahyeah-xt1zr]

The information tht this guy is providing.... I came to the conclusion that you have caught the BIG GAY. Im sorry but theres nothing i can do. Oh yeah yeah

[@charlesh8522]

Martyr Loxe A lot of hate comes from a place of fear. Fear of being outed or being gay.

[@jorgieyacap1993]

@@joel8708 it has differences you know , when a straight person looks at you with a lust most probably , i mean not just lust , like he admires , he adores you...

[@jorgieyacap1993]

@@joel8708 aw sad , but your story is bullying , not admiration its different though

[@jorgieyacap1993]

@@joel8708 you know what , if a guy makes fun of you in a very bad way ,its not love or admiration. I know there are some guy who will probably love you , and if a guy admires u thats not hundred percent they like u,so dont assume so much ,learn to let go and move on , if they tell you they like you and you feel its sincerety go, but if gut gets a very bad instinct ..let go..thats all i could advice.im not perfect u know ,but i learned it from my past.

[@solofhxcjccsubliminals5483]

Im a lesbian why am I watching this.

[@arkboi2145]

How I can tell if a guy is gay: He goes out of his way to ignore me and pretend that I don't exist. He won't even look in my general direction. Additionally, I generally don't find them attractive. How I can tell if a guy is straight: He goes out of his way to say hi to me, is really friendly, and he looks at me and smiles back. Additionally, I'm generally attracted to them (which that feeling Isn't mutual. FML).

[@jonp1952]

IKR. Bonus points when they seem to worry about you more than themselves. Kills me every time.

[@ljoker3006]

It's funny how gay men and straight women have completely different views on straight and gay men. The women tend to think gay men are perfect, caring, and hot while gay men tend to think that about straight men.

[@ljoker3006]

Duff Clem Not finding gay men as attractive doesn't mean he's self-hating. Think about it: There are millions of more straight men than there are gay men... Because there are so many, it means there's a higher chance you're gonna see a hot straight guy than a hot gay guy. I think he's just not into feminine gay men just like I'm not and there's nothing wrong with that.

[@ljoker3006]

Duff Clem It's his general experience. If most gay or straight men are like that in his town, then he has a right to generalize. Obviously not all gay men are like that but you can't blame him if every single guy has been like that for him. Uh, if he generally only thinks straight guys are attractive, it's safe to say he's into masculine men only and not the feminine gay men he's met. Not all gay men are feminine, of course, and I'd say a majority aren't, but some are and I think those are the type that are mostly out of the closet.

[@gabriellucas5494]

Lesbo Joker. Agreed, Im bi and masculine men are definitely more attractive to me

[@ifreakinlovepop]

It's 2017. Everyone's a stalker to a certain degree.

[@PiggyBankGaming]

Lorenzo Paolo Garcia It's 2018 , Now everyone spits in Suicide forests...

[@6193derek]

There is a difference between stalking and looking up. Stalking is when they reply to every Facebook post you make for 3 months in a row, start friending your friends, and showing up at events you are at. Stalking is creepy. Merely checking out someone’s profile is not stalking.

[@boshlovely2002]

Derek (D-Rock) Birch I think the definition of stalking has changed a bit, because as far as I know in the early 1970’s and back if someone knew your age, height, where you’ve been recently and u didn’t actually know the person that would be considered a stalker But then again we willingly give that information now

[@cainvarner]

I still feel alone😑😢 literally no one is gay where I am... I can’t tell anyone.

[@treefiddy5424]

Join the club

[@josequiroz5948]

😑

[@101sanford]

@Roland C whats up big man

[@okimlistening2u]

Andrew, your eyes were sparkling the entire time you were talking to me on this video. That's great..........Ray

[@babygirlholley8859]

okimlistening2u I seen the same thing thought he was sparkling at me 😰

[@Cinehotties]

okimlistening2u Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@ibmsst]

Give me a break

[@micahhenley589]

*Here is GOOD NEWS:* Jesus Christ died on a cross to save people from their sin according to the bible(God's word). Then Jesus rose from the dead, 3 days later, thus defeating death. Anyone who believes this will not perish but will have everlasting life.

[@explosivewaffulz3585]

Godzilla John fuck off with your morbid fearmongering

[@Jacy_-nn1hr]

I love this Kind of Videos Advice 1: stalk him everywhere😂😂

[@Cinehotties]

Jacy _1419 Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@JimL94]

LOL

[@101sanford]

@@Cinehotties hi baby

[@heyitselijah2076]

Me: I want to have a girlfriend! My Heart: Nope :D Me: What? *Falls in love with straight guy bestfriends like a boss* *Hurts his own feelings like a boss* *_Gets depression like a boss_*

[@zzz-vv3og]

Hey It's Elijah my life story

[@somekid1488]

This is a mood

[@randomname7708]

Hey It's Elijah basically my life lol

[@kingstonosaris4610]

I didn’t know this was my life story

[@travisbruley3555]

Curtis Gause can I ask you something

[@aileexquis3206]

social media stalking is a common thing, but its kinda complicated if he's Bi.

[@mister0sir]

Aile Exquis if hes bi then that means you have a chance

[@Cinehotties]

Aile Exquis Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@AntAciieed]

Please don't drag us Bi's into monosexual drama

[@viki7268]

they weren't

[@spadrine]

Andrew, the video was informative and entertaining. I'm really impressed how good your camera presence has gotten since you began. Everything was perfect including the volume (my usual peeve) lighting, and effects. And you're never boring. You're seem to glow with confidence and humility. Thanks!

[@superbuneary8819]

its just all about their vibe and energy. when u interact with them just try to feel the atmosphere aroud the 2 of you and the way you make him feel and vice versa, ya know.

[@thenaturalpeoplesbureau]

Testing waters is ok, but if you dont ask directly, then you just cause issues.

[@jaaesonn]

lmao....I like the super obvious sign where they drunkingly make out with you at a party 🎉

[@Cinehotties]

Jason Ditangco Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@LonelyCinderella123]

Maybe I'm just lucky but from my experience half of the guys out there are just 5 beers away from bi-curiosity. Don't try it if you genuinely like them because the day after they will most likely start avoiding you.

[@geovannyz7238]

Jason Ditangco and if they're not drunk and it's at your room or someone's room is that a sign?😁😆

[@siegeldude1]

Straight guys have made out with other guys when drunk, so i don't agree with you on this one. I"m transsexual, but before my transition I made out with a lot of staight guys.... in college, etc...

[@grimreap8835]

Jason Ditangco your gay???

[@snowrider48]

Ever since I trained this guy at work I thought he was giving me the "eyes". he always wanted to talk and chill if we had lunch break together. We would hit the gym together and he would always complement my arms and squeeze them. Weird things that normally straight guys wouldn't do like rub my shoulder and back, like he did. ....Then he sent me ass shot on Snapchat with his tongue hanging out. I thought for sure this guy has to like me. He found out that I was gay from a coworker. I know he asked at least 3 of my coworkers. He asked them multiple times, "are you sure he hides it so well."One of them asked him if he was gay and he got very defensive and then they poked back and said "so you are bi?" He still touches me though. He still acts the same towards me but said he likes girls when I asked him. I told him I don't believe him. I'm so mind fucked. What straight dude acts like this!?!?!? I think he's just scared to be outed.

[@jamesyeh8508]

DeanThat is the weirdest straight acting....

[@saebica]

Dean though I lovr those moments, it's not worth it.

[@motjon]

Welcome to the gay world. You will not believe the amount of "straight' men I've encountered.

[@marcusoconner2805]

You should just ignore him, keep away from him. It will lead to nowhere.

[@constantinechow4450]

Maybe just sexual harassment, no matter what is your gender

[@flexabigg1]

Well...I'm gay. You're cute and my gaydar is broken.

[@elkstrooper4651]

Terry Kissinger hey terry

[@flexabigg1]

@@elkstrooper4651 hey.

[@bisexualmale1484]

Hey Terry

[@YoungCarWiz]

Hey bisexual male

[@Oekofutziwow]

The best way find out whether someone is gay or not in my opinion is observation - If he just won't stop looking at hot dudes passing by he probably is 😜

[@Cinehotties]

Xsamplez Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@Oekofutziwow]

started kinda tough - came back from the bar-waiter job 2 hours later than intended but the woman that celebrated her 30th birthday tonight had a great time and because of that I had an awesome time too ...and the tip wasn´t bad either :P #spread positivity! hope yours will be awesome aswell! :)

[@theonionsystem7779]

Unafil Syntax yeah but it also depends on how they look at other guys as well.

[@theonionsystem7779]

Unafil Syntax but that is you, I am different.

[@ABC_DEF]

Some of the men I work with I have known for twenty years and consider them friends, but I have no idea whether they are gay or not. We are all in our 50s, and of course they are not on Grindr (neither am I), and if they have facebook they won't reveal it there (neither do I). They may be gay, but they don't go to gay bars, or attend Pride, or wear fashionable clothes, or listen to pop music. Not everyone who is gay is public with it, or makes a big thing about it, and not everyone lives their life on social media.

[@hpatdh077]

ABC DEF are they single, do they talk about women all the time, do they look at women on the street? It's not hard to figure out man.

[@shiell6360]

Even if a gay man is not so open. It'll be obvious cause when instinct kicks in😂 little signs will appear for example the eye contact. Eye contact is really obvious. When you walk on the streets with a friend and he suddenly look over at a guy for several seconds. There could be it.

[@TheMatube12]

^You can have eye contact with anyone for any reason. And to the OP, if you don't have Grindr, how are you so sure they don't?

[@TheMatube12]

@Nifan, not everyone talks about the gender that they are sexually attracted to. Plenty of straights that don't bring up girls.

[@markledesma3251]

ABC DEF i am in my 50's and did go to pride a few times, los angeles, san francisco and toronto, living in los angeles i have frequented 1350 in long beach, melrose spa and kohler in downtown los angeles, sad to say basic plumbing in silverlake is gone, i dont do well at the zone or hollywood spa, other good choices are tomkat, heisler park and the stretch of beach by the boom boom in laguna beach though keep an eye on roving cops and occasionally a chopper, in my 20's sex in the car, garden grove with the adult bookstores was cruisey so is the parking lot fronting ripples in long beach, craigslist came much later, eye contact worked for me very well.

[@debashishdas2068]

Your video remembers me a guy in my office whom I used to have always an eye contact. A very deep, unavoidable eye contact. He was really handsome and didn't have so called gay features! I always thought if I could get to know him more, but pandemic has stopped that flow. One day I was just coming out from restroom and we were face to face. The moment was so sudden that your all guards fell off. We spoke for the first time and he had a such a charming smile.

[@alisarsour8552]

My sister was out on a date with her boyfriend and he got drunk and she caught him kissing his male friend.. My sister still didn't understand and was wondering if he was gay.

[@kyokazuto]

Ali Sarsour صرصور Alcahol makes people do many things.

[@gustafstrang7191]

Have you heard about bi sexuality

[@jestonycanete7672]

Hahhahaha

[@seanhunter4297]

Bisexual. My ex-gf's bf before me would kiss guys but would go all the way with girls...interesting..

[@jestonycanete7672]

OMG I only try but I'm afraid on sex hmmmm I really virgin

[@richardportman8912]

The most difficult time was telling my friend . I never did care about what my parents thought. My 2 brothers are straight but totally cool. My sister supports Trump and is the girlfriend of a married straight adulterer. But me and M were friends for many years. Finally, he asked me, are you gay? Seriously, this is after 25 years of friendship! I began to cry and told him yes. But then the conversation was interrupted because we were at a gathering. Everything turned out fine. I was afraid if he knew I was gay, he wouldn't love me anymore. But he still loved me for sake of our friendship.

[@frigglebiscuit7484]

wtf did this have to do with saying your sister supports trump?

[@michaelhorath6851]

@@frigglebiscuit7484 He mean his Sister is crazy !!!

[@franklin7243]

Worst thing to know about your gay crush is knowing that 1) he’s straight and 2) he’s homophobic

[@shawnchew767]

Well lots of homophobic guys end up gay like me. I was never homophobic but internal homophobia hit me pretty hard and then one day I’m like okay why are you hating yourself? And now I’m gay 😂. I can’t believe I was “straight” for so long…

[@jameshaag3564]

I truly love your videos. The way you talk is just so calm and comforting and I always put your videos on to listen to while I play video games or do homework. Thanks for all of the content you've made. It's helpful in so many ways.

[@disneyshield]

Jimmy Haag I agree! His voice is relaxing and always keeps my attention. And the content he puts out is informative but also entertaining! He's the best!

[@Cinehotties]

Jimmy Haag Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@TeecherChardie]

😎

[@immorley]

Andrew flexing in a tank top just made my week:)

[@ddarko08]

immorley same!

[@Cinehotties]

immorley Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@Nintendo641200]

I like how now we can tell if a guy is gay thanks to the help of you. Since, I was trying to see myself as I ran into my fair share of bi, ace, and straight guys. Gay ones I don’t run into very often.

[@momolight3406]

I’d say pay attention to their voice, if they are into you then their voice is likely to change around you. Also body contact. I had this one friend who would always touch me but swore he was straight, recently I found out that wasn’t the case. And body language is a big indicator, like if someone is blushing when they talk to you, if they have their bodies pointed toward you, if they are really open. It really isn’t hard to tell when you look at the right signs lol

[@EstevanQuintero]

*prepare to melt at **2:38** lol* thank me later 😊

[@chrisevans869]

Estevan my heart skipped a beat when he did that 😍😍😍~ if only I can flirt like that...

[@Cinehotties]

Estevan Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@notme3381]

Ugh. Thank you. 😘

[@JohnSmith-io4wm]

OMG; why didn't I look for this comment before! 😍

[@kevin080592]

wooooooh! thaaank you

[@Beautytrends77]

My nephew just recently came out and I always knew that he was not attracted to women just by the way he acted. He was in a long term relationship with a girl for about 4 yrs and I always knew it wasn’t going to last and one day he will come out. I just wanted him to admit it so he could be happy!

[@keanureeves8969]

If you wish to chat with me , write me on my email [e-mail] or WhatsApp ‪[phone]‑3744‬ ...

[@MrMustard2U]

You can tell from the STRETCH MARKS AROUND HIS MOUTH...

[@edwardconnelly4350]

Hmm

[@anti-socialwaffle155]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@eric-vu1jy]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA exactly!!!!!!!

[@crabulous113]

Or if on the weekends he can’t walk.

[@soccerislife6108]

I read that as "scratch marks" I was like I dont get it. I'm not Into that shit😂

[@clover7359]

There are plenty of people who fall in the category that have no behavioral indicators that even hint at them being gay, like me. Everyone always assumes I’m straight because there’s nothing about me that indicates otherwise. There’s a lot of people like that, which is why the best way to find out is to ask.

[@clover7359]

MuseDuCafe not really. You don’t have to be gay for that to happen. I’m basically sayin that I’m immune to gaydar. There’s a good amount of us like that too.

[@frigglebiscuit7484]

@@xAlphaBxtch saaame. i dont have any real revealing points, and i dont say much, so people really dont know, unless they ask.

[@101sanford]

@@clover7359 im avaliable

[@Securo-Bytes]

Not easy is some places to just ask

[@gabrieeuluzumaki6155]

I agree with you why create a crazy creepy story about a persons sexuality and not ask them personally if they’re gay/bi or whatever, but of course if you’re interested in or trying to run away from the person, because it can also be offensive

[@smokey1255]

When I finally came out in my mid 30s I realized it was ok to look at guys, it opened a whole new wonderful world. I went to a mall with some friends and realized there was eye candy everywhere. I noticed who the guys were looking at. If they were looking at other men, I was pretty sure they were gay. If they were looking at women or just briefly glanced at me, they were straight.

[@jonnychingas5757]

I like to look at weirdos like you that doesn't mean I'm gay

[@stephenproulx175]

Same! Im facing this right now. I'm 33 and married and it's tough to come to terms with

[@ChiefJeyEf]

@@stephenproulx175 Come to terms with what? If you don't mind me asking.

[@HongKongKasper]

I am gay and I have this guy friend at school that I really like, but I do not know if he is gay or not. It is really hard to tell and I have got no clues. Not even a stereotypical one. He does not follow any gay person or makeup guru or fashion designer or whatever on Instagram and Facebook. He does not dress gay or wear makeup or got any gay friends. The only clues I have is that he seems to be best friends with a girl and so am I. He sometimes acts a little gay such as posing "gay" in Snapchat pictures and he often uses the word fabulous. I know my assumptions may seem very stereotypical, but there is just something about his charisma that makes him seem gay.

[@rickdorsey3990]

Actions and mannerisms mean nothing honey. I don't get into all that jazz and drama that you motioned, yet I am still gayer than a bag of birds. My partner is even less stereo-typically appearing, yet he is just as gay as I. Some of us boys just like to be boys and like our boys to be boys too.

[@robertlueras5240]

Your profile pic throws me off

[@witchtrials_]

dont waste ur time and just ask him ffs... don't be like me who liked a guy for a year without doing anything..

[@ssjono2753]

It's the Eyes! It's always the Eyes 😂😂😂

[@mmr7484]

And often the eyebrows

[@jonclarkson5911]

No.

[@jonclarkson5911]

MR R no

[@k.nadien5295]

Easy just ask him... anything else is just crossing personal lines

[@neeliad769]

K. Nadien what if they keep saying they aren’t?

[@lj7593]

@@neeliad769 then they ain't gay ?

[@danduffy3025]

L.J. They could be in the closet my guy

[@seansswamp]

Dan Duffy ikr

[@keavinmurcia7026]

Doesn't work if they closeted gay tho, they would most likely always say no if you ask, i know I did lol

[@liamcainap352]

Your muscles are amazing

[@Cinehotties]

The Liam Lioness Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@bsfbestshortfilmsonyoutube]

he's on Grindr 5 feet away !

[@mariomedina8323]

C

[@mikazukiml3531]

Channel 88 You Tube go to him and enjoy your self

[@Hecatonicosachoron]

Yeah, but grindr distances can be way off.

[@EJW2003]

It’s creepy, but check who they follow on insta, Facebook, tiktok, etc. If I see 2+ basically straight soft porn accounts, I pass (not worth it to see if they’re bi or not), if I see a significant amount of pretty girls who they follow, I usually pass. Now, if I see a bit too many “men’s fitness” accounts, or straight up openly gay guys they follow, them I pursue lol Let me know if this works for you 😅

[@millevenon5853]

Not full proof. Many straight guys now follow a handful of gay guys on Instagram

[@normancross1515]

I'm thinking, if he gropes you . . . THAT'S a dead giveaway . . . . . 😂 😂 😂 😂 Have a great week, Andrew! 💝

[@Cinehotties]

Norman Cross Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@normancross1515]

Not doing so badly. I'd be doing better if it weren't below freezing here! (I hate the frickin' cold!)

[@ilagwithaccuracy2652]

Ellis Same, so they say.

[@daviswetter]

Norman Cross lmaooooo I’m gay and my friend told me he’s bi so in school it’s wild

[@zachskiles8059]

Ok I need another opinion... what if he gropes you even after claiming he’s not gay? That’s still a giveaway right?

[@PhillipWayneButts]

Number One way to tell- Pay attention to what he is looking at. If he's checking out guys, distracted by some hot dude, says Hello to a cute stranger when you're walking down the street, then looks over his shoulder to see if they are looking over their should...

[@noahwright4599]

Thanks dude. I'm a straight man and people ask if I'm gay all the time, especially women I'm interested in. I grew so insecure about it that I grew an intentionally ugly beard just to give off straight vibes. It may or may not have worked. I recently shaved it to move on from an ex and the issue seems to have come back. But you know what? People like you help. People who confidently and sincerely say that actions and appearance are not the cornerstones of sexuality. I find it inspiring that you really do fight for the freedom of both gay and straight men to be themselves comfortably and unapologetically.

[@thenaturalpeoplesbureau]

I can totally relate to that. Im a bit bisexual, but i can only embrace, kiss, or feel for women. And because i am a bit non conformist, people assume im either gay, or what not. Both gays and women. Yes, this severely fucked with my confidence. It destroyed my selfesteem. So gay stereotypes and bi erasure basically stigmatized me, and made me and a lot of people unhappy. I prefer to not have a beard though. I want to find myself attractive. So no beard. Im not willing to pay such a price. But it comes with the cost, of some women thinking im gay. Why does nobody ever think i could be bi? Most bisexuals would never have anything with a man, besides the occasional blowjob. If they ask me if im gay, i shut my boundaries. If a gay would ask me instead if im bi, i might just give him the best head he ever had. But they never know, because they assume. Assuming about other people never works.

[@gabrieeuluzumaki6155]

@@lilly3953 u seem to be the guy who makes fun of people like him that isn’t gay but looks like it and trust me that’s not funny or entertaining you ought to stop right away with this shit

[@Beaks30]

I really do relate to what you are saying. The eyes does do the talking and it's not easy for me to tell someone I'm gay. Watching videos like this makes me envious

[@nwlman]

I met my now husband in 1985 when we were 16 he came into my work place it was eye contact, he was exactly my height age and build, blonde to my dark hair. Still together

[@TMK687]

A lot of guys hit on me and assume I am due to my mannerism, fashion, and personality. However, I am straight. My best friend acts entirely opposite of me, and everyone assumes he is straight, even though he is gay.

[@plays3270]

I tried walking up to a guy and asking if they were gay. Did not turn out to well for me.

[@markledesma3251]

pLaYs wrong approach, compliment him on anything

[@GBuck0798]

Andrew, you're so amazing! You, Mark E Miller and Ethan Hethcote are by far my favorite KZbinrs of all time!!! Keep being incredible!

[@irwanbiskut]

Garrett Buckingham andrew looks like mark and ethan combined!

[@ohwow4377]

And they are all 😍😍😍

[@alansan7431]

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[@RamessesIX]

Years ago, a bisexual roommate of mine and I bumped into a gay friend of his at the cinema, and he was all bummed out about a serious crush of his, "Well, if he is straight, yada yada..." We were just both shaking our heads at the sob story. Finally, the gay friend, started paying attention to our speed bump sighs and said, "What?" We each told him, if this guy is a friend, that is what is important. The question is authenticity: Does he maybe like you in "that way" or not? Whether he is gay, bi, or straight, genuine friendship is so much better than all those shallow illusions and what amount to ego issues, trying to make his time and love available to you without taking the time to glide up on him in a sensitive way. Maneurisms? Yeah, all this round and round is enough to give you a stroke. Is love even important to young folks, any more? I never found any love connected with "hooking up", but I found a good bit of quality time with friends who eventually were okay with "benefits".

[@brucesarver9328]

Yes- hard to decipher - especially if the person is Bi. Usually 'over time' you can figure it out by like different 'bread crumbs' he drops!

[@Iceflkn]

I've been assumed to be gay for some crazy reasons. Background to know... I'm a disabled veteran with PTSD that might have been gay from childhood but had abusive parents growing up. My 13th birthday, my dad pulled me to the side to warn me that if I ever went gay, he'd kill me. I knew that meant it. No idea if they saw something or just wanted to head off something they didn't like the idea of. Who knows? I got married at 19 years old and had 3 kids right away. Never really dated before this time. The marriage lasted 22 years before I finally filed for divorce. Also, I never cheated in the marriage. I have been divorced 10 years now and initially thought I would hurry up and remarry a woman since being married was all I knew. Ha! The dating world really sucks and I got educated FAST about women being every bit as bad as the men they complained about. Who knew? Along the way I decided to go to a mens and womens nudist resort. Got with a couple or two.... Okay, I got so much couples action that first weekend visit that I never got to sleep in my own tent. Was told several times that while good-looking and rather manly (deep voice and all), it was my approach and relaxed attitude that made me stand out from all the other single men. Basically, I'd compliment a lady on her hair or her clothes or such. I never went straight for the, "goodies". Plus I love to dance and guess I'm pretty good at it, which some ladies seem to really like. Anyways, this was also the first place I got to play with guys. Seems most of the married men who invited me to enjoy their wives, were using it as a chance to try something with me. So I explored a bit and found it all to be rather fun. Thing is, I had no idea if I was truly bisexual or leaning in any certain direction. I continued to chase women and was doing pretty well, according to my friends stunned disbelief. Again, I think it's simply my approach and lack of creppy guy attitude. Two years ago I had a nasty breakup with a gal that went stalker on me, so I gave up dating altogether. Thanks to my PTSD and issues I am working to overcome, when out in public with friends, I no longer find myself even trying to score on anyone. Nor do I find myself responding when hit on by a guy or a gal. I just have no real sexual desires at this time in my life. Not that my sex life was something I ever shared. Seeing all of this, most of my friends have assumed that this means I've gone completely gay, even knowing about my PTSD. As of today, I'm not sure what label I would put on myself but feel like it would be a waste of time to do so anyways, as people can be fluid in their sexual lives and I'm no different. Eh, people will think what they want to and there's little you can do to stop them from doing so. So, I hope this might give a slightly different perspective.

[@benokballatan963]

Nice story sir

[@kjpeters6975]

Bruh your life is very interesting.....but from what I’ve read your more curious saying the least. I wouldn’t say your bi or gay or str8. Your somewhere in between those areas. Bi-curious?

[@keanureeves8969]

If you wish to chat with me , write me on my email [e-mail] or WhatsApp ‪[phone]‑3744‬ ...

[@kamilamuradymova9569]

Hi, probably, you were disappointed in relationships overall and decided to focus on something else like career, hobbies, etc. Maybe if you meet the person you will real like man or woman everything will come in the order. What do you call PTSD in your situation flashbacks from your career or marriage?

[@stephenproulx175]

Your dad was wrong and insecure

[@andreaslindenau1190]

I think "touching" is the best way to find it out ! By the was: are there really gay quarters in N.YC ? I thought that there are lots of gay people in San Francisco .

[@kbg12ila]

Yes. The eyes. I've seen those before. Sometimes I make the eyes, like in a more obvious way to see how they'll react.

[@nicholashamilton7983]

At the end when you talked about mannerisms I appreciated that.

[@gldi8hr]

I’m personally and physically awkward often mistaken as a gay guy while I’m actually 100% into women only, there hasn’t been a single time I felt myself attracted to a male as I feel for females or got involved with a male, actually the idea of hooking up with a man disgusts me. And many times my sexuality is attacked among other things such as my moral, etc cause it’s people’s interest both straight with lack of confidence and gays who are unhappy with themselves and/or wanted to hook up with me. I agree on not being the most manly guy but that doesn’t make me or anybody else gay. Not to mention there are 100% gay men who are more manly than me as not every lesbian woman being masculine, same applies to the straight universe, man and women 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@nycdan95]

The gay bar in my town is called the "leaky life boat" lmao definitely staying away from it

[@melaniemoore2945]

Dan Lacker lmfao

[@Cinehotties]

Dan Lacker Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@nateluthor4643]

Dan Lacker hi

[@yingmainaf7580]

Dan Lacker lmafo

[@OLDS98]

You cannot define him by the neighborhood he lives in anymore especially in Houston. It used to work,. but not anymore. We also cannot generalize anymore either. It is really hard to tell unless you get some sound clues.

[@mjohnson9563]

I totally agree. I'm in Austin and there is not even a gayborhood here. I used to live in Denver and did not live in Capital Hill and most people who I knew who lived in Cap Hill were not gay.

[@feminized2gemini861]

I’m not a stalker but I love visiting your page 😂

[@elkstrooper4651]

Feminized2 Gemini hey

[@ratedjay7]

It all depends on what vibe you are putting out as well. I find that the more I put out my gay vibe, the more noticeable someone may respond to me and in turn the better I am at telling if they are gay and interested. Always be putting out gay-vibes and they will come boys!!!! Trust me!!!

[@michaelmilligan7099]

That prolonged eye contact means “ let’s go do it “

[@keith2o9]

My heart just melt when you/he did the “the eye” contact. Imagine that in real life.

[@Onlythebestt]

i get called gay because apparently i'm handsome. I don't get offended really i just get annoyed by how many people say it.

[@KauaiRod]

So subtle.... flexing them arms at the end of your video....😜

[@Cinehotties]

KauaiRod Hello i hope you are having a wonderful day! :)

[@ronsmith2241]

I knew a guy, married to a woman for many years, a father and a grandfather, held a very senior position in a Baptist Church for many years, but never a very happy man. Then I discovered he is gay. After I found that out, he never spoke to me again before he died. So sad. He acted straight for a very long time.

[@Hotspot87]

Ironically, the cute guys I tend to crush on, end up having a locked Facebook account, or have no facebook at all. So I had to find out the hard way that they were straight... The last guy I liked, had some feminine mannerisms, and ended up straight. lol So you definitely can't count on stereotypes.

[@lowwfeh]

3:13 you have definitely never met Brazilians. We are all, man or woman, gay or not. Very touchy 😂

[@larsedik]

I've been to Brazil, and I also noticed that the men tend to ignore the women in string bikinis, whereas in the U.S. men would gawk at them. Brazil has more than its share of beautiful men.

[@quincymagoo6134]

I want to meet a Brazilian

[@justme7625]

Da Best i want to meet a Brazilian man then

[@SubZero3965]

FOREAL BRO, being a Brazi I get this ALL the time. People thinking I am when I'm just nice and touchy 😂

[@loveprimetimepokemon]

no no no!! literally all straight guys i talk to stare into my soul and im always the one that breaks it

[@mccommas2]

I like what you did with the pallets. I always look at them and think maybe I can put a piece of glass on them and make them a coffee table. I like what you did better with the shelves.

[@Sami-jq5ts]

When Andrew did the eyes I melted and I wanna feel...

[@gregoryforrest8970]

Great video totally correct, my experiences straight men generally always like to talk about women, how physically attractive they are, blowing whistles on the street, seen so much of it, unless they are incredibly shy but usually if a guy isn't doing that, that is a sign they might be gay and usually are, however even if they are the other issue is they may not like you physically so you can get the brush off which is also and issue these days, just trying to make friends with other gay men can also be difficult at times.

[@AussieBum80]

The facebook and instagram 'stalker' theories are good. But aren't some on private? LOL

[@isaiahnichols3125]

My big huge crush laughed at my jokes and makes eye contact when he does...I literally called myself dumb thicc im front of him and he laughed ugh I’m still confused still think he’s straight...I hate life

[@jamesk8390]

he seems sus

[@user-jv1cl2fs6m]

One great sign is when you pass a hot guy and there's the "really quick eye contact but still good eye contact" and you look back and catch them looking back at you too... It's a wonderful sign, but just because they do that, does not mean they're ready for anything beyond that! TRUST ME..I'VE LEARNED IT THE HARD WAY!

[@adik4309]

Ok I’m a straight girl but trying to work out if my crush is gay or bi, he basically arches his back a lot, he’s also introvert, shy, nerdy so he’s hard to decipher

[@HannahG-nk2mf]

This was the most awesome version of this video I’ve seen done, and it’s been done a lot on KZbin

[@elkstrooper4651]

Hannah G0123 hey

[@dewey70]

When his eyes linger.

[@keanureeves8969]

If you wish to chat with me , write me on my email [e-mail] or WhatsApp ‪[phone]‑3744‬ ...

[@IPSxvx]

So im in a situation with a guy and we have only known each other for a year but he showed signs when we first met. Calling me daddy, touching my thigh, and smiling and looking at me. But we made different friends through the school year and grew apart until I decided to add him on my social medias. He added me back and we started talking sending drawings on sc and he told me I was beautiful. One day he was walking with me to our school bus and he kissed me on my cheek and told me he was bi but idk if he was joking or for real. So one night on facetime with my friend I tell her im going to tell him I like him. So I did but all he said was "Your not the only guy that has had a crush on me" What does that even mean? But ever since I told him that he looks at me in class, smiles at me sometimes, and sits by me for no reason but to sit by me. When I sit with our friends he stares at me but he has a girlfriend. What does this mean? Does he like me? Or is just really friendly?

[@AlrightyMister]

tristin 0oo0 I know this is from 7 months ago, but to me it seems that you shouldn’t concern yourself with wanting to be with him, because if he kissed you while he was with his gf, it’s likely he’ll cheat on you.

[@thatb1h855]

Sorry to break it to you, but this guy sounds like he’s leading you on, or keeping you on the side in case things end badly with his girlfriend. So just uh try not to give him what he wants, your attention. And I think he is Bi.

[@bencuraza6503]

Frigglebiscuit LMAO

[@stitcheswithandrew]

Honestly I can always tell by a guys smile - it's never let me down yet. On a sidenote, I need to know these straight men wearing croptops...

[@indyenna]

If you don't like labels for sexuality...you will never know who is really gay or just without a label for their sexuality.

[@chetyoubetya8565]

Don't ever go up to any adult and ask if they are gay.When they feel they want to tell you then you will know.Any other time its childish and really not your business.

[@happeeboy9581]

Don't go up to children either

[@chadlindsey1512]

Your eyes get me everytime. You could probably convince me to do almost anything with that look.

[@thomphoenix1982]

Stereotype central here... and this guy clearly loves himself a bit too much!

[@ben132448]

I'm gay and act very masculine and straight extremely introverted and my brother is very flamboyant and gay very extroverted but he's as straight as they come.

[@daviddavid2758]

Lmao being masc sucks no one can think you're actually gay

[@kimbapibnida693]

this is kinda what i neeeeeded 😭 i like a guy who has a twin, the one I like is masculine and his twin is kinda flamboyant....

[@thenaturalpeoplesbureau]

Im bisexual, and on some days extremely masculine, on others very feminine - but im only bi in that i like to give the occasional BJ.. Other than that i have zero interest in men. But people assume things, and this makes it difficult to date. Gays hope im gay, and im not. Girls sometimes think im gay, because i behave anti cyclical and look a bit feminine. In this way the gay community has made dating for bisexuals very difficult. I cant feel anything for dudes. Nor embrace or kiss them. All my fantasies revolve around women.. And occasionally dick. So their feeling is not wrong - i love women with strapons. And i like to give head. To both. But the way gays and stright girls are socialized makes them confused about us bisexuals. Just because i reject outward superficial masculine status and symbols, does not mean im gay. Never assume, always ask. And dont ask if gay, ask if bi or gay. Then at least i have an option, and know im not wrongly categorized. Which turns me on. Knowing that you understand that other than giving blowjobs, im never interested in dudes, i can let go, and go on my knees without any fear.

[@thenaturalpeoplesbureau]

@@daviddavid2758 being a more feminine bisexual who likes 95% of the time only women, sucks equally... And yeah, i suck ;D

[@jamieb9168]

The co-worker friend l like is straight but I also suspect he is a little bit bi-curious. It's complicated because I'm married to another guy and all 3 of us work together at the same factory. The co-worker is married to a woman and has 3 young kids. I've known him for a little over a year now. And over that time he's seemed to drop hints. The biggest one was when his wife was out of town and we picked him and his two younger kids up and went to a fair in another town. At the fair there was a little indoor reptile exhibit. One of the guys showing the reptiles was obviously gay (mannerisms and voice). A week or so later at work, me and the co-worker were talking about how gay people can find women pretty and how straight people can find someone of the same sex attractive too. Then he actually said "Remember that guy showing the reptiles at the fair?" I said "Ya." Then he said "If I were gay, that's the type of guy I'd like." To me that was a huge surprise that he said that. Then what he said next was even more surprising. He said "Even my wife thinks I'm that 5 or 10% of guys." I'm not exactly sure what he was saying but I think he was saying that his wife suspects he's bi. The one in ten or 10% statistic is usually for gay men. Meaning 1 in 10 men are gay. But he's been flirty with me at times and I've watched a LOT of KZbin videos to see if my suspicions are true. And, YES, when we're on break or lunch at work I can see him checking me out from the corner of my eye. There was an incident in November of 2022 where he was off work for the whole month because his wife had a medical emergency with a severe asthma attack. She even required a breathing tube. And these are people who are only in their early 40's. After he came back to work in late November, I could tell he was really focused on his wife. But it wasn't long before I noticed him checking me out and making flirty comments again. Me and my partner also take turns giving this guy a ride home each night. Then, just recently he decided to join the local YMCA to start getting in better shape. He brought the paperwork to work with him and I honestly think it was to get me interested and to join. So during lunch one day, I went over and looked at the schedules for different classes and the sheet with the sign-up fees, etc. Then, a few days later I joined that YMCA and he seemed pretty happy. So now we are working out together. And I am also fairly certain he admires men with muscular builds. I'm stocky but I also have a muscular build. And when we talk, I can see his pupils dilate, which tells me that he likes what he's looking at. But this past week he wasn't able to make it to the gym but was keeping in contact with me via text messages. And at work he was telling me that he miss all the days this week because he and his wife are having difficulties. He said they've even been talking about the possibility of divorce! Then, just in the past day or so he's been asking my opinion on having a tattoo of his wife's name removed from his write. He started out by humorously saying he was going to get a new tattoo. Then he showed me the tattoo of his wife's name and he said "I'm thinking of putting the word "Void" there." So I'm in a really peculiar position right now. Here we are working out together at the gym and he's confiding in me that his marriage is on the rocks. And I can see tiny cues that he may be into me. And he knows that I'm attracted to him. Back in the summer of 2022 he grew a beard and was looking super hot. I think he did it to kinda fit in with me and my partner because we both have beards too. But one day he came up and we were talking at my work station. And I told him..... "Ya, when I first saw you were growing a beard, I was like "He's lookin' pretty hot!" And his response was "Ya?" He didn't seem offended at all and I could tell he took it as a compliment. After he was off work for a month and then came back, he decided to start fresh and shaved off the beard. But he still keeps a short chin beard and lets his stubble grow for a couple days each week before shaving. He's tall too..... 6' 5" and has blue eyes. And he has such a nice personality. At first I wasn't too sure because he's into outdoor stuff and likes all those survival type shows. He's actually gotten me into watching a tv series called "Alone." Where people are put on Vancouver Island in the dense forest there. And whoever is the last one remaining gets $500, 000. I'm already on season 4. So, YA, this is my big dilemma. I am so tempted to ask him if he's just a little bi-curious. But there are KZbin videos that say I should let him make the first move. Otherwise I could embarrass him. There's a good KZbin video by a guy named Patrick Morano called "How to get a straight guy." It's funny but he does make some good points. Ok, well sorry for writing so much but please let me know what you think.

[@zaxele]

Long posts like this are usually copypasta but if it's real, maybe you can also drop hints like asking about how he and his wife are doing and what he thinks about a family like yours, or jokingly say that if he was gay or bi he would also be your type. If he's divorced then invite him to dinner and stuff like that.

[@jamieb9168]

@@zaxele This wasn't a fake post. I just like to write in a lot of detail. A lot happened since I first wrote this message 6 months ago. The guy is an alcoholic. He went for just 6 days treatment. But his marriage was already on the rocks. Then he found out that while he was in treatment, his wife went out drinking and spent the night at a girlfriends' house and left their young kids 11, 8 and 6 home alone for the night. When he found out he got into an altercation with his wife. She called the cops. The cops slapped a restraining order on him. So then he moved in with me and my partner on the condition of no drinking or smoking weed around the house. We also were working out together at the local YMCA. He was doing good but very paranoid about his wife being on Facebook all the time. So then he started going on a couple dating apps. He met a woman a few years older than him and a bit heavy set. I tried to tell him she was just a rebound girl. But she became obsessed with him because she knew no other younger, good looking, 6' 5" tall guy would go for her. She started lending him her car for him to take to work. I nick-named the car the "boomerang" because it always ensured he returned to her. He would drive 45 minutes back to her apartment after work and started staying at our house less and less. Eventually we knew he wasn't coming back but he left some of his stuff here. He finally came and got that at the end of May this year. He's being super irresponsible. Him and this girl both quit their jobs and got jobs 90 minutes away from her apartment thinking they'd easily find a place near work. That didn't happen so they're driving 90 minutes each way to work. He called me a couple times asking me to give him a good reference if a potential landlord called. I never got a call. Since he's met this chick he drinking and smoking cigarettes again and isn't working out anymore. And he kept delaying his court case to deal with the charges the police placed against him when he had the altercation with his wife. He said he kept delaying the case to punish his wife but, it made me super angry because he was also delaying being able to see his 3 kids! He kept posting on Facebook about going on trips with this new girl and meanwhile he hadn't seen his kids in over 3 months! He's a loser, a deadbeat dad, an alcoholic and using this chick to live rent-free and use her car. I've lost any attraction to him. Besides he told me he's 100% straight. I blocked him on my phone and Facebook and hope I never see him ever again. I just feel so bad for his 3 kids though. They are gonna grow up to resent their dad. Especially the oldest, who had just come "out" as bi-sexual. He tried defending his mom during the altercation and his dad raised his fist to him and told him to "back off." So the wife told the cops that and there was a restraining order from being able to see his oldest son too. So now I can see some part of his oldest son feeling like his dad left because he came out as being bi-sexual.

[@zaxele]

@@jamieb9168 (I also tend to type a lot but many ppl told me it's too long so I'm pretty sensitive about it.) ugh those alcoholic. My father is one of them. They're always the abusive one. My mother and I have been traumatized by him, mentally and physically, so much that we swore we'd never let him go back to live together again. One of my closest friends has the exact same story with his family and the alcoholic/abusive father. I feel so sorry for that guy's family and you, but if that's the road they chose, they can't be helped, unless they want to do it voluntarily, because drinking and smoking can really damage the brain, and it's very dangerous if we force them into rehab. The outcome would have been so much better and different if they weren't willing to destroy themselves like that, in an ideal world the three of you would have been a company. You're awesome and decent. I wish you all the best.

[@lommylomhillier8115]

I'm straight but everyone always thinks I'm gay

[@alexharbula4930]

No straight man wears a belly shirt