How to Tell If You Are an Introvert

[@theschooloflifetv]

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[@ojxolape]

INFJ 🍵

[@Gleamiarts]

I think I am an ambivert, but I am not entirely sure

[@AllIsWellaus]

Its 2am. Cannot sleep. Plan to purchase the book when I wake up. Only in my fourths am I understanding more about my introvertness. I can relate with what you are saying.

[@niramlkunkari9221]

Explain in simple language. Pl change the voice explain method

[@timothyernst8812]

I took a FFM personality test. I believe the factors were scales between 1 - 100 (I'm not sure scoring a 0 was technically possible). On extroversion I came in at a 3. Wasn't much of a surprise.

[@SheldonEvansx]

*Not all introverts are shy just as much as not all extroverts are confident.*

[@ThisIsMyFullName]

I was going to say this. It seems often introversion is directly correlated to shyness or social anxiety, which this video also leans on. Being an introvert doesn't mean you're out of control with your feelings when you're in a crowded space, it just means you get exhausted faster and feel a need to rest your mind by being alone.

[@Firuzeh]

Absolutely👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

[@JabezFuutonSpecialis]

Unfortunately I represent the stereotype, being uncomfortable in large groups

[@MsLozeh]

Exactly, I quite enjoy a party but as long as they only happen once a month at most

[@yasmingoncalves4541]

YES! thank you

[@mdzuracka]

You know you're an introvert if the lockdown brought you peace and comfort. (omitting the news) 🍃📚🕯

[@DrewRueDoo]

YES.

[@cuac5869]

Honestly I'm the only one I know that isn't complaining about staying at home.

[@perhaps5095]

It sucks having an extroverted mother. I haven't felt any peace this whole quarantine

[@utilitymonster8267]

For a true introvert the lockdown didn’t change anything in your life

[@Coronaboii88]

💯💯💯

[@lorenachavez5629]

I used to think that being an introvert was something that needed to be overcome. People would say, “One day, you’ll come out of your shell.” “One day, you’ll learn how to be outgoing.” The problem is that I believed them. But now at nearly 30 years of age, I realize that there’s nothing *wrong* with introversion. I’m not “just shy”; I’m quiet sometimes and that’s fine. Different doesn’t equate to wrong!

[@louie_24]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@sagittarius5466]

Very well said ❤

[@MrJoon360]

This was exactly my experience. So many people just labeled me as "shy" and made me feel bad for being a quiet person. I kept thinking there was something wrong with me

[@gabrielsanders9709]

Facts

[@lotusfomalhaut9950]

If someone tells me "one day you'll come out of your shell" someone's gonna get comatosed.

[@iTyler888]

I think most introverts know if they're introverts. The real question should be "How to live in an extroverted world as an introvert."

[@denisedoumbia1691]

You don't

[@Youbeentagged]

It is quite easy actually. Interact with as little people as possible.

[@dsouza19Leroy]

That's a good question indeed. It's always a nightmare when everything is setup perfectly for extroverts and you have to try really hard to do it or avoid it

[@vanegary]

There is a book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, it is written by Susan Cain. It answers that question. I found it really useful and insightful.

[@weiss588]

Good question

[@NateTheKang]

Don't get me wrong, I like my space. I just get lonely sometimes and many people don't get that

[@evrensaygn1017]

Not everybody is wholly introverted or extroverted, it is a spectrum. And everybody needs somebody, it isnt about being introverted.

[@Beanie--]

Same. Like, There's a big difference between being alone and being lonely lmao

[@TheBlackB0X]

Unfortunately being introverted and human is a dichotomy. We long for strong bonds, but another angle I think is that relationships these days are weak, so all the fake relationships are even more exhausting.

[@theghost3061]

Loneliness is the best though

[@PRITZ060191]

Hi Nate. It is the same for me too. Introversion causes me to have less or no friends, and then at some points I feel lonely and crave to have company and friends..

[@bananasean5145]

I'm an introvert who excels at being extroverted when needed. But I would happily be alone my whole life.

[@justine6848]

Lol..I felt that.

[@cuac5869]

I'm still in training

[@morisco56]

Same

[@lanvan11]

mushroom crepes That's not called introversion, it's called quarantine.

[@QUEEN-rs1zf]

Same but i need friends.. I feel super lonely

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ― Oscar Wilde

[@poweroffriendship2.0]

Good quote.

[@grapeboi9256]

I always heard people say that but I don't even know what being myself is even supposed to mean.

[@somespecies]

But theoretically, would I choose to be me that is very flawed or become like someone else that is not?

[@luisterrust]

Yes love the quote! Embrace your gifts!

[@stablestoic1491]

Dig it

[@kingsmerte3629]

I truly realized about how introverted i am because i've been in self-isolation for months and couldn't be happier with this lifestyle

[@starkookie969]

i feel this

[@starkookie969]

this was probably the best and happiest time in my life because i didn't interact with anyone 😍

[@meowsterperson4483]

I miss quarantine

[@epik639]

Same as long as I can talk have contact with my friends and outside and be healthy I okay with being alone in my house reading and other stuff I like to do.

[@Talkinglife]

Need quiet to concentrate. Are reflective. Are self-aware. Take time making decisions. Feel comfortable being alone. Don't like group work. Prefer to write rather than talk. Feel tired after being in a crowd.

[@Rodrigo-rd1]

Extroverts can also do that its not like we are impulsive on shit

[@blueflame204]

@@Rodrigo-rd1 I don't think they meant it that way. I do agree that most of what they wrote is likely more prominent among introverts, but thats not to say extroverts don't experience similar things at all. They definately do

[@LuisSierra42]

It's yin and yang bros, nobody is 100% extrovert and nobody is 100% introvert

[@elenol1310]

@@Rodrigo-rd1 True ,i hate the whole Introverts unite and lets all put all extroverts into baised boxes , great ! People are different :)

[@SharKB]

Some of the features are more suggestive of social anxiety or shyness. Introversion, social anxiety and shyness can co-exist but are three different entities.

[@livinlicious]

They describe Social Ineptitude here. And mix and match popular words to claim an agenda. Its all wrong.

[@timrosswood4259]

@@livinlicious Agenda? Tell me more.

[@davidvelohue9258]

This is a surprisingly misleading video, from a source that is usually very impressive. It is is describing a unrealistic relationship between introversion and social anxiety.

[@mechouilli]

When I go to parties, people immediately know that I am an introvert. So when I open to someone and share a conversation about our passions and such, they feel special; like "when a cat asks you to be pet" kind of special. LOL

[@toniamakeup]

that's so truth, i feel this so much, but also, i let myself overthinking if i'm being bored or i'm talking too much and soon after i'll stop the conversation, often in the most awkward way and i'll try to never have eye contact with the person i spoke to.

[@白キロ]

I bit you like wearing mask, cuz it make you feel like your wearing an invisible clothes I'm an introvert btw

[@mechouilli]

@@白キロ You're absolutely right! I even wear glasses for this exact reason :P

[@wingdoris]

Hello introverts, I’m curious..how many of us are we here in this planet? (I’d never have said this if we were actually in a meeting...)

[@ali2633]

👋

[@lakshacc5954]

👋

[@TheBlackB0X]

Introverts unite! And then split up into smaller meaningful groups of 2.

[@cibinthomas4007]

Ask me again after the pandemic is done

[@Rafirufi]

Hello

[@darkhoodchief]

Other people: " *Why don't you want to come to the party* " Me: To be honest, I don't know.

[@lyndsaybrown8471]

Me: Cause I don't want to answer questions like this =/

[@UmbertoDavidPanda]

Your comment summarises my entire life. Thank you

[@Tillu_dream16-39]

because I don't like explaining myself and you wouldn't understand,so just let me be me...

[@camez2345]

@@lyndsaybrown8471 Me: Because I don't feel like coming up with answers to questions that people only ask to be talking and not because they truly care. -- which is not to say that that's everyone, but it's usually enough people to make the time exhausting. "What are you up to these days?" Ugh. Sometimes I feel like it would be better just to carry around a laminated sheet of answers to the small talk questions, and then if people still want to have a conversation after reading those, great. But to answer them 10 times in two hours, no thanks.

[@intheotherworld.8713]

I *should* go to the party. But the problem is I really, *really* don’t *want* to.

[@tracik1277]

Spent my whole life being an extravert. I'm exhausted now and have loads of cringe moments to look back on.

[@livinlicious]

You spent your whole life being a dick. Not being extroverted. Yes, you look back in cringe if you make mistakes. Thats why we have the capacity to learn, and stop doing those cringey behaviours. Has nothing to do with extra/intra-version.

[@timrosswood4259]

@@livinlicious Who said anything about being a dick? You can be embarrassed by harmless things.

[@aaroncain4452]

Plenty of moments to reflect upon now

[@elenol1310]

Sameeeeeee , now i am ambivert

[@Beanie--]

Same, only I'm an Introvert.

[@ellajo1209]

Lockdown has been wonderful. As an introvert living alone, never having to go anywhere or see anyone during quarantine has been the kind of bliss I only ever used to dream about, lockdown made it a reality and I loved it.

[@engr.jessydecastro3161]

In professional world, most of introverts are underrated and underestimated due to their silent nature, such that being timid is a weakness to your bosses. 😔

[@hijodelsoldeoriente]

True. That's why I am surprised there's a need for talks just to inform people about what really introversion is psychologically speaking. All that misconception when in fact there are notable "successful" persons from various industries who identify as introverts. Such as Elon Musk, Zuckerberg, Warren Buffet, and JK Rowling to name a few.

[@Elesario]

A good boss will recognise the value in an employee whether they shout about it or not. Sometimes the right thing for a role is quiet competence, being self sufficient and trusted to deliver a task well. I suspect many introverts will tend to fall into roles where exhibiting extroverted behaviours isn't really required.

[@Elesario]

I feel I should add is that many corporations tend to focus on progression paths that make becoming some kind of manager the end goal. Introverts can be good managers, but I suspect extroverts gravitate to those roles much more; which can be make the extroverted cultural bias in workplaces much stronger.

[@TheIMMORTALKAHNHD]

Extroverts during lockdown = wahhhhhhhh whens it over i miss ppl!?! Introverts = yeah so not really much has changed for me

[@clarkevander]

I have become more introverted as I got older. I walk around in a mall alone, I crave reading, I now hate it when there are too many people, I try so much to avoid parties and gatherings.

[@PrecisionPulseCapital]

Technology can definitely be included as a main driver. It’s designed to make us more introverted and as a creature as one individual the more we learn about are body and it’s interaction with the universe we begin to crave the feeling of being alone. The dopamine or serotonin release from being able to release in a world of chaos. Social media and the internet overloads us more then social interaction. Are brains resort to introversion for the release or the break.

[@fanban2926]

I became more confident once I realized I was introvert and not weird

[@clarkevander]

@@PrecisionPulseCapital that's not the case for me but anyway

[@opheliacloser6255]

I am an ambivert I think. Sometimes I absolutely love huge parties and many people and social interaction. But sometimes I prefer to stay at home, relax, be by myself and especially reflect on what has happened in the "more energetic phases". After social, exciting events, I like to spend some time alone reflecting. But too much time alone is also not good, I feel bored and uncomfortable. For me it's all about the balance.

[@larine5012]

Yes! I can relate

[@johnny_roots]

You are not alone ✌🏽

[@nathanjohnpalaogaming4872]

Metoo, yet i am more of introvert than extrovert

[@kalentchia4939]

Niceee

[@m.offord4836]

Sometimes it’s hard to tell if I’m an introvert or just have anxiety lol

[@deepu_btbx]

I think I just have so much social anxiety I started to like being an introvert

[@m.offord4836]

@@deepu_btbx Honestly same

[@Nillowo]

Why not both? I can tell you from experience it’s just cranking either one of them up to 11

[@regitaand]

They said those two are a total different things, but i dont know where the difference is :/ i just admit i have and experienced both

[@Thelittleclipstore]

take a cognitive test .. behind the myers briggs types theres functions and that will tell you

[@MechanicWolf85]

I just love being invisible, not being known, not existing in everyone's world Im an observer, I can tell you stories of others but not my own

[@purplehood8418]

This! This hits home for me.

[@twinkletale5548]

Story of my life. Telling of other stories.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

[@docfabz]

How does this quote relate to introversion? I'm curious

[@quantumquackery]

docfabz He was famously misanthropic. He spent most of his days alone when he could.

[@oblivion9568]

@@docfabz Those who dancing - refers to introverts spending time alone in a happy way Dancers considered as insane persons - refers to the judgements like "he is so quiet, he won't mingle with others" made by people around introverts The seeing persons can't hear music - refers to the people around introverts who don't know how to spend time joyfully alone Hope you get this 👍

[@beautyforashes1635]

Lol

[@stablestoic1491]

Introvert checking in. Generalizing here, but I've noticed Extroverts seem to have wholeheartedly drank the koolaid that culture and society has to offer, while introverts intuitively know its laced, but drink small amounts to build up a tolerance. Glad I was born a Nov introvert. Life is good.

[@lilgay12]

Stable Stoic anyone can decide for themselves to conform to society or can be raised like that. I don't think a correlation like that really can be made.

[@stablestoic1491]

@@lilgay12 Generalizing.

[@HolyKhaaaaan]

Mobs are formed by people that want attention and have an insatiable craving for it, combined with undirected outrage.

[@camez2345]

@@HolyKhaaaaan ... and a need to be "heard," for validation. I wonder if most bumper stickers and logo t-shirts are bought by extroverts, to make sure the world knows what they believe in and to possibly make connections based on that.

[@janette499]

great way of putting it ! I felt this

[@DB98000]

Thank you for this. I went out with a bunch of new people yesterday. I Felt very out of place and not good enough. I needed this reminder that just because I'm not extroverted doesn't mean I'm less than.

[@nikostic]

Found this quite stereotypical. There's so much more to introverts, and then there are the assertive types.

[@watcherx2592]

Nowhere did it say this was EVERY introvert. You may have some of these qualities, very few or none. Others like me, this described me completely. Stereotypes can be based in truth.

[@nikostic]

@@watcherx2592 No need to be defensive. Nowhere did I say this was it. I agree with your view, but was expecting this to be more. Good for you if it described you well. As for me, wasn't the most accurate.

[@MehakSharma-vi8kz]

@@watcherx2592Stereotyping is generalising, which comes from a place of ignorance

[@jhgreen14]

I am completely this stereotype.

[@LuisSierra42]

@@MehakSharma-vi8kz Stereotyping is an actual tool the brain uses automatically (subconsciously) because it makes it easier to assess whether you can trust someone or not. I guess the problem is when you equate an stereotype with what a person really is

[@barneyy6942]

This is so good and I love that you used "I" in this video. Also love that you shed light on so many of our traits. It makes us feel included and recognised. Thank you. :')

[@debbiesmith5513]

I tried most of my life to be an extrovert because I thought that I was an extrovert. I've learned later in life that I am actually quite introverted. Honoring this has greatly improved my life and kept me sane. Unfortunately, you are right, the world in general neither understands or appreciates us introverts.

[@charandeepkaur4613]

I personally like to think about this topic in terms of mental stimulation one can handle best. An introvert (like myself) gets overstimulated quickly and start feeling overwhelmed,meanwhile, an extrovert requires more outside input to function efficiently. Introverts may not be shy and feel quite open to a bunch of good friends, it's just that they thrive on concentrated focused energy as opposed to paying attention to several places at a time. Also, one should think for oneself by removing any outside impetus and really try to understand their subjective personality. We are more unique than we seem to know and first person subjective point of view conveys a lot. Hope that helps :)

[@thewiseturtle]

There are multiple meanings of "introvert". I break them down into four primary categories: physical (first person/self), emotional (second person/companion), intellectual (third person/community), philosophical (fourth person/universal). Social anxiety, which is what Alain always talks about, including here in this video, is the emotional, second person, type of introversion, being cautious/fearful of one's companion's physical expressiveness. Physical, first person, introversion, the more classical type, is being cautious/fearful in one's own physical expressions. I'm that type, where I don't have a lot of energy to physically do things, and tend to be clumsy. Intellectual introversion is the sort of type who tends to let others lead and mostly sticks to the politics and ideas that they've been taught, instead of being weird and innovative in problem solving. This is less common as a term, and tends to be thought of more of a follower, or "nice person", than an "introvert". And finally, the philosophical introvert is what we usually call an "uptight" person, or a "worrier", as they don't feel comfortable with the universe, and what it's physically doing, as opposed to a "free spirit" or "go with the flow" type who just kind of works with the universe, and sees the good in challenging situations. Each of these is a separate dimension, so you can be an introvert on any of the four levels, or all of them, or any other combination. For the record, I believe Alain is physically, emotionally, and philosophically introverted. He's intellectually extraverted, though. Which is why he's always coming up with new approaches for solving his problems.

[@PapaSeed]

Being an Introvert isn’t the same as being socially inept.

[@omgitsmetimes3]

Agreed. This is the first School of Life video that I disagree with. I'm an introvert and, although I don't enjoy partying or things of that nature, I'm not afraid to engage in social interaction. I just rather be spending time doing other things. I believe that introversion is commonly confused with social anxiety or shyness.

[@satan317]

But it can mean being. I am terrible in socialize but also because in some environments, people aren't itneresting for me, but if I force me to socialize with them, some things like in the video can happen, also the fear of being rude with them. Being introvert is also not have experience with strangers.

[@ashutoxh]

Introversion and Extroversion are not binary but a spectrum

[@giftyosas5152]

Ash sounds like anxiety is in the mist

[@bircruz555]

Not at all. I think a good deal of introverts would gladly immerse themselves in any social gathering if there was something genuine and interesting about it than just your ordinary boring cookie-cutter type of talk gleaned from the tv. Nothing original, nothing authentic about show your cock feathers type of draining party. It is mostly about bs-ing and faking it.

[@khalidahmadmir9812]

High five✋ to all introverts staying inside of their homes.

[@mjolninja9358]

Khalid Ahmad Mir I’m homeless

[@justinjaeger1554]

So are the extroverts tho haha

[@lemon_boi5558]

@@mjolninja9358 lol

[@MsDoryLinda]

To feel seen and understood is what we introverts want. The delight I see in comments to my videos tells me us introverts definitely need to support each other not only accept our disposition but find ways to live in a society that tends to celebrate the opposite to what we are.

[@gapoochigapoochi]

Love how the extrovert is shown by a dog and an introvert by a cat. I wonder what animal is ambivert???

[@vumanhtung]

A fox I believe 😂

[@camez2345]

Pigeons

[@andreamagyar7776]

A tiger ☺

[@ananamouse3028]

Raccoons!

[@lyndsaybrown8471]

Frog

[@loworochi]

I was extraverted when I was younger but as I got older I became more introverted and developed social anxiety. Now I’m a shell of my former self. My little brother has always been an introvert, he’s open up he’s shell in more recent times.

[@Rodrigo-rd1]

Mate you seem like us extroverts are loud and party a lot and crave attention. It really isn't like that it's just that we prefer more social contact and having fun with others than with ourselves. I also like having walks, but what makes that walk even better is if I'm with someone else. I also like eventless days but with company for those days.

[@Beanie--]

It's just stupid stereotypes. Like, introverts aren't just quiet shy little weirdos in the corner that absolutely hate human interaction and are only obsessed with reading books. I'm honestly not a shy person and I like being around other people. yes, I like being alone but I too can get lonely, I just need my alone time afterward to recharge. Also, I'm not the biggest fan of reading although I do like creating my own stories..... We can also be just as loud and annoying as anyone else.

[@Newvintagecollectibles]

Beanie you hit it right on the nose

[@Gepstra]

@@Beanie-- Agreed, I'm the same. But I think the important part of your comment is the recharging bit. Most of the time we don't need the socializing but it's great when we do have it, and afterwards we need a pause. Other people i.e. extraverts need the interaction to recharge.

[@gdswghdsCjiirwe]

Introverts make their own energy by doing things alone, and spend it by socialising. Extroverts get their energy from being around others, and run out when alone. Thats why introverts can only be around extroverts for a while. They steal all our energy, even if we enjoy their company.... like the walk you mentioned.

[@doc2kiwidig663]

Gepstra that is bang on! 👍

[@svenskbonbon]

Some of these are not signs of being an introvert, but shy. I’m an introvert, but I’m very good at public speaking and social interaction. I just need tons of time to recharge after social interaction.

[@poweroffriendship2.0]

I'm also an introvert but I can able to speak to someone.

[@luisterrust]

Yes same for me. I am introvert but started a confidence channel as well.

[@luisterrust]

Mr. Friendship same for me!

[@PapaSeed]

Exactly, no two people are the same.

[@sugarmountaineer5383]

I think I’m an extrovert who always ends up resorting back to being an introvert....like I’m cool talking to strangers and making small talk but I don’t have many friends and actually feel I recently lost friends bc people were “suspicious” when I didn’t want to I dunno be on Instagram and perform our relationship...I also feel like people are generally uncomfortable with genuine intimacy and I’ve had a lot of situations where I want to get deep with people but everyone just wants to keep everything surface and performative and it sucks...I’m an extrovert but I’m also not fake and don’t have the energy to pretend to be anything other than what I am. I’m lonely but only for the right company and am done compromising on being myself in favor of having people superficially in my life, I just want true friends.

[@AGFuzzyPancake]

There is an introvert/extrovert spectrum. I don't think anybody should ever feel confused about why they have mixes of extroverted personality traits and introverted traits. For what it's worth, you seem thoughtful, modest, and mature; like somebody I would want to be friends with.

[@soadepp2416]

I feel u, mee too ...

[@rudig5698]

Our society isn’t formed for introverts 🥺

[@glitzy5214]

Agree I hate high school.... :(

[@livinlicious]

Our society has no preference for introverts or extroverts. You have a disadvantage when you are SOCIAL INADEPT. Which means you havent trained to be socially skilled. Yes, if you are fucking lazy to learn how to work with people, why and how they work, and what you need to do to work with them, yes YOU WILL have a disadvantage. Just start and go to work.

[@luisterrust]

I’m introvert as well but decided to change how people see inroverts and started a YT channel. If society isn’t formed for introverts, let’s make our own change 😊💪🏼

[@glitzy5214]

@lolitsivan I'm not into sports

[@glitzy5214]

@@luisterrust Good luck man!

[@okellie]

you always upload about what’s on my mind? convinced y’all are psychic

[@BrainsApplied]

You're most likely an introvert if you liked the lockdown

[@dorothy7657]

Posted this exactly when i needed it. School of life is a genius.

[@mrloop1530]

Introversion and shyness correlate in one way: When you are made to feel something is wrong with you, because you "live in your head", you are in danger of becoming shy. I speak from bitter experience. My shyness more or less evaporated when I found out that nothing is wrong with me.

[@ralfderreptiloid1203]

Thank you very much for this important lesson! I myself always described me as an extrovert untill some time ago. I always felt guilty for not wanting to meet up with friends sometimes, go to parties or concerts. It's not that I never want to, it's more that I often enough felt misplaced in the past. There always comes a moment when something in my mind clicks and I suddenly change from an extrovert to an introvert. I become kinda quiet, begin observing and listening rather than talking. It's like I'm having enough and need some time to regain energy. But I never thought that this is an okay thing to do. I hated myself for that. It was not untill my ex girlfriend broke up with me two month ago and heavily criticized and humiliated me for who I am. I felt so deeply hurt that I realized something's gonna change if I ever wanted to accept myself again. This video was very helpful, like so many other videos on this channel. Thank you School Of Life for giving me so important insights to myself!

[@mesmerino]

I am an unusual creature, an extrovert with social anxiety. My natural tendency is to be outgoing and enjoy the parties but I am deathly afraid of rejection. I ended up adopting introverted tendencies after my lousy upbringing from my parent. They taught beat me when I did something didn't approve of and taught me acceptance from others is more important than self acceptance. It just made me fear rejection more and more.

[@ojxolape]

A great book I’d recommend is Laurie Helgoe’s Introvert Power. Had to refrain from highlighting the entire book!

[@mariejames1135]

😂

[@cibinthomas4007]

Ojuolape Pls do, if you’d like..

[@cibinthomas4007]

Ojuolape Pls do, if you’d like.. I’d love to know the highlights of the book

[@ojxolape]

Cibin Thomas haha I actually have about 3-4 pages of highlights in my journal. I plan to make a video about it soon actually because I do have a KZbin channel. You can check it out if you’d like.

[@vanegary]

I haven't read that one, but I really liked "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" from Susan Cain.

[@latelydawnIII]

cat is the accurate character to represents an introvert...

[@Venom-rr1vg]

Yup its genius

[@alaingumarangii5375]

Although I like going to parties, hopping on to moshpits to the sound of rap music, hanging out with friends and going out occasionally, I am an introvert. My social skills are decent, or maybe less, but I can’t stand small talk. I am friends with a few people I can trust and most of the time, people will tell me that I am quiet and would ask me why so. The question I’ve been asking my whole life however is whether I am introverted since birth because I used to be an outgoing kid, although I was shy at first, but I’ve experienced bullying here and there and it caused me to distrust people. When my family immigrated to the States, it was difficult for me to talk with other people because I speak Tagalog and only understand a bit of English. Now, I just graduated high school and looking back at my life, I have made a few but trustworthy friendships in my life and most of the time, I was quiet. I know this is a lot but if someone can relate to this, let me know your story :), and if you have something to say about mine, do so as well!

[@Mahmood.23]

You just summed up my entire life 🤣

[@sebastianelytron8450]

Why don’t introverted trees want to be chopped down? They don’t want to dialog

[@Nomadic_Inquisitor]

Not bad

[@xMckingwill]

Just LEAVE RIGHT NOW

[@noobrebuilder8260]

Good pun

[@dooovde]

"are extremely wary of jolliness or group fervor"...you expressed that so brilliantly...made me smile

[@jeremypalaad6685]

Hello fellow introverts (I am not expecting a reply because you know - introverts hehe)

[@bohenian]

H... Hi...

[@kuuly3334]

N-nice t-to me meet you *hands shaking*

[@googiegress]

Hey, I noticed you also want to hang at the edge of the crowd like me. Let's grab a few plates at the buffet, hoover up the other introverts, and relax in a low-expectation lounge circle around the fire in the back yard.

[@nathanjohnpalaogaming4872]

Oh hi. Another human being.

[@kuuly3334]

@@nathanjohnpalaogaming4872 OwO neko from GD

[@kot3291]

there can be so much in things if we let them resonate properly i really hope this statement can help an extrovert understand not only introverts world but more than that

[@christine-xs6lx]

I guess lots of people don't understand the term 'introvert' correctly. Being shy, being afraid of parties and people is all about social phobia/anxiety. Introverts are all right with everything, they just get tired of people quickly, they prefer to work on their own, they are concentrated on their inner world etc.

[@kimroberts7006]

I could be in quarantine forever and it would be the best thing that ever happened to me. I've been working from home for five months (after working for years in a very public space) and now I cannot imagine going back. The mere thought of it now fills me with anxiety as I do not miss the daily human interaction whatsoever.

[@samuelusrestrepus]

"-I know too little people. -I know too much people. I guess that we are both too alone." From "Citizen Kane".

[@LITTLEEXPERIMENTCHANNEL1]

This checks all the boxes for me. Some variation in the environments too, not just reliant on a single algorithm based on a video explanation. Introverts can be confused with dyslexia for people who can't write or read in another complex format that supercilious extroverted people fondly point thier finger on the problem as a resolve for inability or It's just genuinely labelled for them for a future prognosis with no diagnosis. (Been there, done that)! For the workers who have to brave the world with the same condition bravo to you making it back from the front line out there! There is evidence/data that draws the bow back as being a repercussion of childhood difficulties (isn't that a cliche)! What clouds the genuine ill fated warriors in this mentally challenging yet fundamentally weird world The condition targets our social absence and replaces it in creativity. It's never going to pay the bills however if the world needs help, Never far away..... just haven't been out in a while. (Winter is killer)! Introverts are not a movement, a protest, a control mechanism! There is individuals that abuse this condition for reward/NHS contributions that confuses the outcome for genuine sufferers to get the help they require the most. I can never say: "your not on your own"

[@SethColby69]

everybody being upset for being forced to stay at home because of the pandemic yet the introverts are like "oo , christmas came early"

[@person1858]

yep

[@estefaniaandreinasalguero2580]

No because everyone else is also at home 😩😩😩

[@Swapnil5]

Absolutely! This is heaven on earth 😝

[@dat1guywitdat1name]

I love the video great job. I completely agree with this. The way peace and nature are compared to noise and people sounds amazing and makes me want to go for a walk through some nature 😍

[@samantha-jaynechapman2950]

I wish, as an introvert, my wishes were accepted. Instead I was passed over for projects at work, and asked why can't I just do small talk and blend in. I've accepted what I am but you get shunned in the wider world for it.

[@janetstraw191]

Absolutely brilliant description of ‘introvert’!

[@ziksy6460]

I've been job hunting for a while now, and I hate that employers tend to have a bias for extroverts. Every time they ask me to do a personality test, I always just game it so I come across as an extrovert. It's BS.

[@bolivar1789]

1. People tend to judge the way you love them, by the number of hours you spend with them. But it would be much more fair, if they added to the equation, the amount of time you spend thinking about them too! If you met a friend on Monday and you are still writing down details of that conversation on Friday, it means that you are still innerly "paying attention" to him. It is an effort that you make on your own, but it is in the service of that friendship and will hopefully make it more profound. So basically, when people accuse you of preferring your own company and therefore being egoistic, they forget that when you turn to your inner world, you are in a place that includes them too. 2. The other day I heard an interview with the director of the movie Parasite, Bong Joon ho. They asked him from where he gets the inspiration for his movies. He gave the example of his movie Okja. He said: " Oh I just saw a pig". That's it! He saw a pig and then he saw a whole movie about it in his mind! Well, of course, not all of us are so creative. But some people who spend a lot of time in their own world notice things that we may not, and they find ways to show them to us too! ( In fact it would also be perfectly enough if we could for example, just manage to see the flower when we see the flower! But we are often too distracted and all over the place, precisely for not spending enough silent time alone.) 3. An introvert can help other people to save a lot of time.Take the example of a nerd who loves watching documentaries and taking notes. This is a weird, but beautiful story: A nerdy person meets a woman on a train who talks about a rare disease her husband has, to which the nerd replies: "Oh I saw a documentary about it not long ago, and I wrote down the name of the doctor who has a new approach to it. I could look into my notes and tell you his name." Here is the point: Many people aren't fortunate enough to have the time and peace of mind to discover new things in several different fields everyday. An introverted nerd who has that privilege and who is generous enough, may have a lot to offer. 4. Maria Popova is a wonderful example too. She spends most of her time alone, reading books and making incredible connections all across different disciplines: philosophy, psychology, art, science. Millions of people read her wonderful blog " Brain Pickings" and discover treasures that they themselves would never have had the time to dig up. 5. Ultimately whether we are introverts or extroverts, we have one thing in common: we all seek for "connection". This quote by Theodore Zeldin is the best description of what feeling connected feels like: " The kind of conversation I am interested in is one which you start with a willingness to emerge as a slightly different person. It is always an experiment, whose results are never guaranteed. It involves risk. It 's an adventure in which we agree to cook the world together and make it taste less bitter". Well if we wish to cook the world together, we will need to bring the ingredients from "home". And " home" is our solitude. 6. If you have people around who don't understand your need to be alone, you can share these two conversations with them. They are very profound and beautiful: - Susan Cain, "Introverts, Power and the Quiet Revolution", Good Life Project podcast- Pico Iyer, The Urgency of Slowing Down, On Being with Krista Tippett podcast Thanks a lot for this most consoling lesson and for the beautiful animation!

[@smellycyatt]

Lua, I absolutely love reading your comments. Is there any other platforms where u write your mind out? Would love to know

[@bolivar1789]

@@smellycyatt Hello there Smelly Cat! Nice to meet you! Thank you so much for taking the time to read all this and for your beautiful words. Unfortunately I don't have a blog, but I thought I could tell you the four blogs that I love reading: 1. Brain Pickings 2. The Book of Life ( the brain of this channel ) 3. The blog of the wonderful podcast " On Being with Krista Tippett". 4. Tim Ferriss' " 5 Bullet Friday" I have subscribed to them and I receive their weekly Emails. I find them very enriching, consoling and helpful. I hope all is going well with you. Stay safe and healthy! Many greetings :- )

[@nibe8412]

I really appreciate all of your comments! Please keep up your work! You have many interesting opinions and some really good suggestions for films and books. Thank you!

[@bolivar1789]

@@nibe8412 Hello Nibe! Thank you so much. It is very kind of you to let me know! It is a joy to watch these videos and share what comes to mind with fellow subscriber friends. Sometimes you reach some people, sometimes, if you write in the evening, your comment gets buried and nobody gets to see it. But still, if one can reach one person who may feel a little better after reading it, it is worth the effort. Many greetings and best wishes :- )

[@katr.9902]

I think you're confusing introversion with social anxiety.

[@luisterrust]

Yes they are so different. I’m introvert but started a channel so it is a bit more complex 💪🏼

[@opheliacloser6255]

I thought the same when he was talking about the thoughts about going to a party. That sounds like social anxiety. Introversion is, as far as I know, getting your energy from alone time.

[@livinlicious]

The fundamentally wrong claim here is exactly this. They claim that social ineptitude is introversion - which it is not. You are not introverted, you are socially untrained and unskilled. Luckily any skill can be learned by practice, time and effort. Confidence comes from competence - which means work.

[@carlystevenson950]

Agreed! I experience social anxiety sometimes but am otherwise extroverted when I'm not anxious.

[@mjolninja9358]

Ophelia Closer Parties or any large social gatherings are draining for an introvert. This is why most introverts who’re aware of their tendency to get drained so easily chooses not to be in the gathering.

[@anwargaffoor6121]

I would have never imagined. Well , great notes! Thank you for sharing.

[@LyndseyMacPherson]

I remember being "diagnosed" as an introvert as a child. It was subtly framed like a sort of defect. I've spent my whole life railing against it, with public speaking engagements, rehearsed conversation techniques, and generally painting on the face of an extrovert. I have to wonder how different my life would be had I been told it was a perfectly great way to be. Heh.

[@gozdepatlican4751]

I'm an introvert undeniably. Everything in this video relates so much to me! I have always felt like an extraterrestrial because I do not share the same extrovert pleasures with the others. It is very relieving to see/hear that it is OK to be the way I am.. Thank you very much!

[@lilgay12]

hello guys

[@Sundus-B]

Heey

[@alastairpearce3078]

Yoo....

[@kawhiyoumad]

that's a lil gay

[@rizaaliyah]

Hi sal

[@max__pain]

Look, an extrovert

[@areeshab2539]

As much as I love ur videos, I lowkey miss the old style of animations u had. Much love 💓

[@lonesharp1106]

Here on time since I am an introvert that watches youtube all day

[@ChellyTheGreat]

I’ve JUST realized this and this video put it into words greatly!

[@leorandomnickname]

I did one of those personality test in my job, got 90% introvert.

[@francesca112]

I used to be ashamed of my introversion but now I realize that I am so free as I don't need people around me or special things to do just nature and time to let my thoughts go where they want to. I am not dependent on anyone (other than my children)

[@giuseppeagresta1425]

Nobody: Me: Why do I see furries everywhere

[@jamesseby7953]

Lol literally me in the first 5 seconds of the video

[@coreyfriedrich7936]

That's the life of an introvert

[@SeSmokki]

"Nobody"

[@yf1001]

This is 100% me, you absolutely nailed it. Well worth a sub 👍

[@marshawoods4983]

Well I’m 72 years old and I can tell you, are used to be a social butterfly for years but in the last I’d say eight years? I hate everybody equally ha ha Ha not really, But I enjoy time to myself immensely

[@sam.2094]

Honestly I feel like a group of 3 friends is the perfect amount for hanging out with. I don’t feel pressured to keep up the conversation bc there’s others, but I’ve also noticed that the more people there are, the more effort I have to make to involve myself. At a certain point, I become that person in the corner

[@whedonobsessed]

All the Introverts in the club say EEY.... LOL JK we at home in bed.

[@kevjun252]

I used to try to change myself to fit into my extroverted colleagues. But only after I finally realized my introverted nature did I find happiness. Going out without anybody else to hamper your freedom is such a joy and enjoying peaceful weeks with no one to talk to but your dogs is paradise for me. I am grateful my few close friends accept that I can't hang around them that often but still nothing changes when we do meet.

[@kawhiyoumad]

Last time I was this early... Jokes on you, I've never been this early before.

[@PracticalInspiration]

Pretty much summed up my life and needs in 5 minutes!!

[@knoven-]

Dammit even KZbin thinks I'm an introvert, I'm just shy :(

[@Kalorag]

fyi, shyness is in way selfabsortion, you are overthinking what other ppl will think of you, if you let go of that shyness goes away too... I was shy, and one day I told myself, hold on, ppl are shit, why the hell would I care about there opinion, especially of me that they know next to nothing about... fuck ppl :D boom, no more shyness.

[@joshuamartinpryce1237]

Comfortable living comes from personal feelings and desired emotions and a perception standpoint. What i mean is life is what you make it. Everyone has the ability to change lives and take focus on what is important. God is important and the Holy Spirit is an introvert who works like an extrovert. The best form of vert is both. Its influencing and engaging with others with the aim of causing good and refraining bad.

[@ch1ckem796]

Imagine being late for a school of life video 🤢

[@luisterrust]

I am an Introvert but people think they are just shy and forgotten. I will prove otherwise! ❤️💪🏼

[@10.000]

I practiced guitar for a year and a half avery day for 5⌛hours+. Observe my peogress🚀 Good luck!

[@hello-ie5bl]

Lets be honest this quarantine is a blessing and wishing it'll just go on forever

[@Pertplus]

So true. Thank you Covid

[@Aurelia2147]

I'm an introvert and still I've decided to become a part-time waitress.... (And yes, I love Jane Eyre!)

[@Elesario]

I find in this current time of isolation that the fact I'm naturally an introvert makes it easier for me to spend long periods by myself; but after a while I still miss some of the social contact I had in my life. It's always been that I take pleasure from the infrequent gatherings I attend, but I also recognise when they become too much to handle. Potentially against type in some situations I'm often the most outspoken person in the room, usually when I have ideas I feel I need to share, or something important has been missed in a conversation. I'm not sure where I picked up this habit, probably because it became rewarding to do when I was in education. I remember well the time I had a massive anxiety attack about the need to do a presentation in front of my teachers for part of my course, and essentially hid from doing it; but these days I don't struggle with that kind of stuff much at all, and to much larger groups. It's not something I find exciting, but I've realised the fear of the thing is so much worse than the thing itself. Small groups suit me better than large gatherings, and I rarely try to be the centre of attention. I've noticed that some people, often extroverts, naturally act as the glue that make groups of people come together and have fun. Trying to be that kind of person truly would be incredibly draining to me. Not being an extrovert doesn't mean you don't care deeply about the people in your life, and want them to be happy and fulfilled in whatever way works for them. You just might not shout out to the world how much you care though.

[@johnd3421]

I am kind annoyed by people saying that introverts can't be too loud when they just feel uncomfortable speaking out loud.

[@v.a2282]

And when I speak, they go Wow! She can speak!!

[@livinlicious]

Its just plain wrong. Introvert/Extrovert has nothing to do with how loud you speak, or if you are brave and/or NOT shy. Introvert/Extrovert is how you process data. There are enough shy extroverts, who are loosers, as there are socially skilled introverts who are sucessful. This video is wrong, because it claims that SOCIAL INEPTITUDE is introversion. Which it is not. You are not introverted, you are socially unskilled and untrained.

[@camez2345]

@@v.a2282 Ugh. That's the worst.

[@fanban2926]

I became a lot more confident when I realized I was introvert, now I can actually talk property and I do have some friends. Knowing myself is something I love, I love exploring my comfort zone and expanding it. One day I shall walk forward to a stranger and ask if he/she wants a coffee, yes just like that.

[@tanvesh8330]

I don't have money. so, I am an Introvert ✌️😒😒

[@sardonicsophisticate3974]

I envy people in lockdown alone. My kids used to go to school and my husband the office giving me personal freedom and time to be alone most days. The first six weeks I was trapped with a mother in law who didn’t respect boundaries and tried to take over running my household and parenting my kids. She would often barge in to my room when I was desperately trying to be inside my thoughts while meditating. I had to seek therapy and I’m still coping with ptsd months later.

[@caffemocca8855]

This is one of your videos which I disagree greatly. You basically just described social anxiety and lack of social skills instead of introversion. I'm introvert yet much more assertive than most extroverts I know, especially when it comes to formal or work-related things. I avoid parties because they are useless and waste of time, not to mention that most people are just too boring for me.

[@3erusa]

Thank you for this, I always thought I was weird and I need to change.

[@gulsumkurt1446]

Just say this: "i am introvert"

[@therandomthoughtsofaninsig5492]

This. I've always thought that introverts are not insensitive to social dynamics but in the contrary, they're extremely so. God, I love how this channel clears my confusion and articulates my thoughts more coherently about this kind of stuff.

[@srishtimishra19]

I'd like a moment to thank whole coronavirus and lockdown stay home thing, which made extroverts realise that what it feels like getting drag into a personality zone, which is not you... Regards, Introvert here.

[@Vectif]

Love this video. It's what I needed. This is very accurate. I love the animation too!

[@eureka3112]

How to tell is this a personal attack or no

[@tracik1277]

Ask yourself this simple question: Is Alain deBotton one of your personal circle of acquaintances? If so, have you done him any specific misdeeds lately?

[@livinlicious]

Dont be. Its just wrong advice/explanation. This video is a description of Social Ineptitude, which has nothing to do with your person. Only with which skills you have learned/trained yet. Luckily any skill can be trained. It only takes time and effort.

[@evrimpekaslan]

Spending 4 years at home because of a bad liver disease and a liver transplant surgery, I understand that I'm an introvert. If I was an extrovert, it would be unbearable for me to stay home such a long time... I was an architect (who hated her profession) and I'm retired now, I draw whatever I want whenever I want, I colour some adult colouring books as I like and I read as much as I can. I write in my blog sometimes. I spend time to improve my French and Classical music knowledge. It's nice to be an introvert 😊