How To Tell Your Wife She's Wrong

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[@Jerma-O]

As a man who follows Jesus, I can relate to this guy. My marriage isn't exactly the same as his, but there are moments 😢 Honestly, getting grace and mercy from people is hard to come by. This is why I CONTINUE to follow Jesus even when at times I don't understand Him. Jesus is kinder than people.

[@Gwaycee]

Amen brother. Jesus is my best friend, He and I often have serious conversations and I feel Him answering in various ways.

[@redhood5264]

Im a guy, and yea its kind of tough to have an issue with my lady, because if im upset about something she does or says, I have to find my calm to express it in a way that doesnt make her scared, then comfort her through the heavy subject, and reassure her that I wont leave. These are not bad things in abstract, but it makes the priority of me having a problem always feel like it sits lower on the rung than how she feels. Like my feeling will always be secondary.

[@wileinemurrell1565]

"I know its hard...let it be hard while relying on the Lord!" Yvette, Yes! 🎉

[@ShanaLark]

Omg I was literally gonna tell you this quote! 😅🫶🏾🤗✨✨✨

[@igbeci]

Anaya jamming during the theme song was such a special moment!

[@rebekahkingbello9560]

❤❤❤😊 It was!!

[@juniorcapital3084]

Hi Yvette and glen, I'm a 26yr old single male from south africa and have been listening to the pod since 2020 but have never commented. This episode got me to comment coz OMG! This is a powerful conversation. Now we've had plenty of powerful discussions here but this one takes the cake coz its like GOD gave y'all a full circle moment with this one. I have laughed , cried and prayed for both of yall and chocolate babies especially around the times of episode 98 And now hearing you guys have this moment just made me so happy for both of you. You've taught me how to communicate in my relationships, you've taught me HOW TO HOLD/APPROACH A MEANINGFUL CONVERSATION in my relationships and a whole lot more that I won't have space to share here. It's been beautiful to watch both of y'all grow in GOD and LOVE and glen for the fact that I can't even go back and watch/listen to old episodes (coz of how toxic you were) just wanna say I'm proud of firstly the black boy in you and the grown ass man you've morphed into. I will be joining the community, I love this wedding party. P.S. I'm still not in a relationship coz of the things I learn from you guys, GOD is working on it though.

[@juniorcapital3084]

Forgot to add, Yvette you are literally the definition of a rock. You are so strong so much resilience, patience and grace , that king is blessed to have you queen

[@siphesihlethebeautifulgift]

You’re so right. Their relationship at those 98-101 episodes and their relationship now is worlds apart and it’s been beautiful to watch their growth and learn as much as I’ve been able to learn through their journey

[@Jerma-O]

As a man, I found you guys on my own. I show my wife you guys.

[@hazaiahgold5269]

My wife told me about Frank Puppet while we were dating in 2019. I saw clips on the gram and thought we need this for our kids bro like the black Jim Henson. I rap, so not to far ahead the homies told me about this guy called Beleaf was one of their fav lyricists and to my surprise it’s the same person 😂 listened to most bro projects and randomly came across y’all podcast on my algorithm so I put my wife on. We’re going on 3yrs married this Sept, expecting our 1st child in a couple wks and y’all blessed us w/ your transparency and family. Would love to meet y’all one day. Oh Glen, I’m from PG. My wife from DC. May God continue to cover your family🏴🖤

[@MTM-f6q]

Love how Glen gently fixed Anaya's hair and acknowledged her art work. That shows Anaya how daddy is always looking out for her. Beautiful rainbow Anaya. Blessings.

[@dlamar44]

Let's be honest. Women have a hard time being accountable for their part of the breakdowns that happen in relationships. It's takes a really long time for them to accept that their behavior needs to change. Whereas when women express their grievances, they want men to just see, hear, and adjust immediately. As a man that has been through this, it is extremely difficult to deal with, and it affects how close we can be in the relationship. Relationships are mirrors, and people hate to see their own flaws but love to call out the flaws of their partners.

[@taneyahunter8815]

My husband and I talk about this often. We have three young adult sons and we've shared with them that neither one of us are right 100% of the time. We have told them that they are not always wrong in their relationships and that women have stuff too. I really think that we as women need to do a better job of calling our sisters out on their crap so they are used to hearing it.

[@luvmifro1003lovesfamily]

I think SOME women have this issue. I don't like conflict and I don't like unspoken issues in my relationships so I'm constantly checking to make sure we're good. And because I have great relationships, my ppl aren't asking me to make personality changes, but habitual changes. Some I'm still working on and some I've done better with..but I enjoy having those conversations honestly

[@Jerma-O]

I also want to say...I appreciate you'lls vulnerability on "seasons" of how rough marriage can be. A real enough perspective! Your male supporter 😄

[@Afrikah2911]

I think the community is going to be soooooo great for men because of the monthly men only sessions. It’ll be a safe space where they can voice their opinions and get advice without it being broadcast and causing their mates to feel attacked. This episode also caused me to look at how I react to criticism and it’s definitely something I want to work on.

[@tierramonique]

Glen saying "I'm NOT saying I don't want to be with you. I'm saying this behavior is not appropriate." is sooooo good. Because I have dealt with abandonment issues anytime a guy would point out something I'm doing that needs to change would automatically, in my head, be received as rejection or that there's someone else he wants to be with or you don't want me. Instead of receiving the correction as my partner loving me enough to point out my inappropriate behavior. I had created a fantasy of how the relationship is supposed to go and instead of facing the reality of the relationship. The people pleaser in me would shut down due to the expectation of wanting my guy to always be happy with me. But that's not the truth I should lead with. The truth is if i do something that feels disrespectful to my partner then he has every right to come to me and address it with an expectation that I will hear him and correct my behavior so the relationship can continue in a healthy way. Thank you Glen and Yvette for this transparent and vulnerable conversation. I grow every time I watch the pod. I wish I was more aware of my flaws as wife before the divorce. But I'm glad I know now so I can be a better wife and friend to my future husband. God bless you , your family and the vision of your podcast/Brand.

[@thebossdawghomie]

I know it wasn't intentional, but having an entire conversation by proxy is one of the greatest marketing tools I've ever seen 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@jasmineherisse-packard7330]

I have never been married yet. But this is a lesson I have had to learn in my close sisterhoods/friendships. Had to learn the skill of not thinking that people see me as a failure of a human because they point out a moment or a habit where I have failed. And I agree that Ivette is correct when she says it feels like it’s so big in the moment when it gets pointed out. Sometimes it can feel like the person is telling you that they’re done with you because they’re pointing out the behavior. but that is a trauma response and it’s not ever as big as it feels as long as we are willing to grow

[@Afrikah2911]

Also I just learned that I’m the reason my battery is messed up… I listen to my radio for an hour with the engine off every day during my lunch break 😬

[@conveyingculture9]

😂

[@BAmazing92]

This was such a good episode! Glenn was able to help me see how my husband may feel sometimes and I can definitely relate to what Yvette was saying and how she can react at times. Praying this new awareness will help me respond better to my husband so I can hear what he’s saying and not feel attacked.

[@anomalysa3]

This was my husband trying to tell me about my family 😩 It took me a minute to get it

[@ItsBrittany.]

Oh gosh. I be trying to tell my husband about his family (almost 3yrs married) and he just thinks im crazy. Im like bro what!

[@itbemaggieg5665]

Girl..its tough especially if you’re a single parent raised child

[@anomalysa3]

@@ItsBrittany. I realized I was in God’s way trying to tell him. As soon as I stepped back(telling hubby the stuff I was peeping 😂), I prayed for God to reveal and my MIL ended up telling MY husband how she hates both of us . Now we’re no-contact with her now

[@anomalysa3]

@@itbemaggieg5665 yes! It’s always the guilt trip for me

[@luckerlynemaxis]

This was a real conversation, because just wow. It was real

[@ethelnshakira2639]

Wow guys! Long time supporter and first female commenter from Uganda here 🇺🇬 The goal is not for us to still be married...but really trying to focus on what God wants to do through us. Going to keep coming to this 💛 thank you for sharing your life with us Glen and Yvette.

[@abby999]

i don’t wanna keep waiting for a marriage with communication like this😭…but i will

[@mr1m020]

As a man I found your podcast after first finding the beleaf in fatherhood videos. You do have male viewers that came here organically 💥

[@Dr.AlexandriaWatson]

Whew this was a hard episode to listen to and I don’t have the answers for how to dissociate behavior from attack on who you are at your core as a person. It’s hard for the person feeling attacked and hard for the person expressing their disdain. I think safety with the person expressing disdain is huge tho. If I don’t feel like I’m in a safe space with someone who truly loves me and seeks to understand me it’s VERY hard to not brace myself against a potential threat/enemy. ESP when no one else in my life has given me that same feedback. & just because your “married” and work well as “partners” with the logistics does not mean you emotionally feel that level of safety. So yeah hard situation to crack with just two people alone

[@MaggieMagnoli]

This comment! 💯🤍🙌

[@suziesmith9076]

Safety is soooo important but when I speak to my partner or even brothers in Christ about emotional safety it feels like I’m speaking Japanese…they just don’t get it

[@nepps6766]

Lmao Theo is Odee funny 😂 Yvette’s chocolate baby story tickled me 😂

[@anomalysa3]

My husband actually introduced y’all to me 😅

[@tiankapharaoh544]

The joy of the Lord is my strength AND Yvette talkin about “You ( Mr. Glenn) do a good job of loving me like God loves me” and “ I really do believe that I get to experience the love of God through you” - that sent me y’all! Always sharing amazing content w us!! 🔥🔥🔥

[@thebossdawghomie]

I came here from AO, and bookmark some videos in case i have a woman to share them with some day

[@AskIveSolar]

"ok I have a problem" that was GREAT. That pushback was futile!!

[@TraciReeder-ej3cd]

As a woman listening...that was very well said... It sounds as if having a normal conversation with his wife would be detrimental to the marriage. Maturity comes into existence at many different points of life. For her, it's gonna take a while 4 self-awareness, She hasn't reached yet

[@rehydn]

Glad to have y’all back man! 🤝🏼 appreciate you guys

[@bernardjones1615]

"The source of your happiness is toxic, and you're drinking it with no filter." Lord, have mercy!! If you can't say a word, just wave your👋 Y'all are speaking into my situation.

[@africanqueenami4568]

New subscriber yall transparent asl 😂 she cant even hide her reactions and he cannot stop expressing himself love it and the intro 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@TheRealDavidJones]

That minute 23 hit hard. Thanks for the transparency.

[@rosilandmalone5421]

I've not tuned in for a while and happened to catch this episode. Yvette continues to be gracious and so very patient... bless you ...

[@KingDeeba]

if the car is running idle you can sit in the car with the radio on, but if the car is on with the engine off the battery will die

[@lovefromsaf]

I feel nobody ever talks about it being the other way around. Typically the women appears one way but some how I mostly relate to the men’s views.

[@brittanys1982]

Incorporate God more!!! Read the Word together. The Word says that troubles will accompany marriage and parenthood. You two are beautiful and I’m praying for your success. There ain’t nothing out here in these streets. Please put God first and do what He says to do and love one another and be quick to forgive one another. I love you guys and am praying for you and your family!!❤🙏🏽

[@ashantiafricana9559]

I think because women will “deal” with so much but not speak up so when we do or when we act out we feel justified cause “ you don’t know how much I deal withhhhh! “ especially as a black woman it’s such a toxic trait! We do things and don’t even realize how negative it is… I told my husband the other day I’ll let you take the car… language like that , I’m unaware but to him it’s like he has to ask for permission when I didn’t even mean it that way luckily I was able to correct myself. But yeah it happens on both ends but us women do struggle saying I AM THE PROBLEM LOL

[@ItsPersonalwithAshleyElle]

Yesss! I am in need of mentorship!!!! I am looking forward to this community

[@MomsMoneyMindset]

Always love the intro! And Anaya Zai joining makes it even better 💕

[@ciarab.3409]

Aniyah, hey beautiful!! I gave my daughter the name Aniyah as her middle name because of this lovely couple ❤❤

[@martebooks]

This was my husband who was bleeding every time he went 💩. Me: THIS IS NOT NORMAL. Him: IT IS for ME every so often! .. (🙄🙄) until it landed us in the ER with his hemoglobin being 4.5. Three pints of blood, 5 days in the hospital, a colonoscopy and one hemorrhoids surgery later, he agrees it wasn't normal. Lol. We made an agreement to never dismiss each other again. I pray that we keep it forever.

[@nakiaskinner4968]

Just say in a respectful way honey im not sure that's right but let's figure it out.

[@Nachos_Dimension]

Shout out Yvette on trying her darnest to understand out point of view when interacting with women in relationships LOL She was kinda proving bros point multiple times.

[@evansonfleurima5111]

One of the best episodes I have watched.

[@andreahennessy-welcomecppb8625]

Great show!

[@ty6015]

The stacked up episodes 🔥

[@Secrets2shay]

101 sessions are dope def do that!!

[@abawitx]

Having Anya in this one was super nice❤❤

[@suziesmith9076]

Finally 🎉 you’ve been missed! Glad you guys are back and well

[@AlwaysLime]

I’m at 15 years and I’m just starting to be awake to dysfunction and wounding behaviors in our marriage. I’m working on it! I think I come across as Glen a lot.

[@anomalysa3]

How do you work on trust in that season?

[@avelatshali5975]

Thank you for the vulnerability, Family. A lot was said on the side of men being the receivers of neglect, hurt, dismissal from women. This conversation was so important and teaching. I'm only already dating who I wanna marry but this counts in our relationship as well. How men's feelings can be overlooked, misinterpreted or just not acknowledged. Thank you so much for this!!! I've been watching for like 3 years now but this episode finally catered to the mans experience and how they can be recognised and given grace, is amazing. Thank you. I'm female by the way lol. Love❤❤❤

[@kelairahstancil1914]

I love you guys your literally the only healthy relationship I have ever seen or known I’ve been watching for 3 years now but have seen every episode and I know you guy have a real life outside of this podcast but please tell us everything I want to know what acceptable to accept in a marriage a relationship. The only hardship I know of is Infidelity and to hear you guys talk about your relationship and that’s not an issue. You guys bring up things like finances and idolatry and how you wanna raise your kids. it just made me want to believe in loving again.

[@jadanation4246]

This episode felt like morse code lol. I’m glad y’all are back and still at it❤

[@Dr.AlexandriaWatson]

& what’s the community lol cause Yvette I need understanding and then to listen to all this again to possibly get this epiphany we were supposed to receive from listening to this on how we might be doing the same thing 😂

[@summerrain6125]

Daaang. Yall gotta really vulnerable and real on this episode. Jeez Louise yall givin a realistic view of marriage...that it's not all rainbows and butterflies 🤯😬. And that married people have their doubts too.

[@bendunn227]

12:12 commenting- RELATABLE

[@meganrussell3585]

i sooooo relate to this lady the man speaks of…. it takes me getting out of a “shame cycle” to be even able to hear my man’s heart in giving me constructive feedback. glenn saying “i have to pull away” (basically to get yvette’s attention) this is interesting to me. one thing i hope for in my marriage is that we can be lovingly direct when something happens which is either knowingly or unknowingly hurtful. the passive/ pull- away/ shut down approach is hard to withstand as a people-pleaser enneagram 2. it feels like punishment to me. currently, i so appreciate and try myself to be well-timed and direct when someone else’s behavior is (in my opinion) hurtful, anti-productive etc.

[@cocoachenille]

Good topic !!! 👌🏾

[@diorshaw213]

Praying for your relationship and family always. Thank you for being vulnerable.❤

[@nineth_sapphire2504]

The dialouge after the podcast has ended is GOLDEN.😂😂😂

[@AneesaYanette]

To Yvette's defense, I did not know this either. I'm a woman in my 30's and I used to sit with my car idled all the time until the battery gave out on me. Unfortunately this was an expensive mistake but its not common knowledge. At least no one told me this... I know now though.

[@AlwaysLime]

Yall helping me and mine

[@natalienoel2311]

My nosy-self wants to know what the "idol" was because Ivette seems so faith driven. The cryptics...SMH (though I totatlly understand privacy) What could it be? Also, hearing about experiencing God's love though your spose is beautiful.

[@abbasjoy4785]

Family of origin

[@speakonit9955]

When she said he does a good job of loving her like God loves her....I'm done She's so far go.He has really trained her to idolize him

[@josephkangandjera2054]

Hectic😂

[@speakonit9955]

To call your daughter Helpless on this podcast.... smh

[@speakonit9955]

Whew...Y'all are so brain washed by this guy.

[@Afrikah2911]

I think the community is going to be soooooo great for men because of the monthly men only sessions. It’ll be a safe space where they can voice their opinions and get advice without it being broadcast and causing their mates to feel attacked. This episode also caused me to look at how I react to criticism and it’s definitely something I want to work on.