how to transform your self image

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

The community has just hit 200k members. I appreciate every single one of you. Thank you for all your support. No comment goes unnoticed and all feedback is more than welcome. May we continue to improve our mental health & social skills together. Until death do us apart. Lew x

[@mrnice7570]

I can't believe how well put together you are ( mentally/spiritually) for someone so young. You young sir will go far

[@GamerOX1000]

Found your channel recently, been watching tons of vids and have really enjoyed em! It's like if someone combined all the awesome things I learned in therapy with genuinely useful self-help skills. Commenting mostly because it keeps coming up in passing but is actually almost touched on here: at 2:30, you point at how self-image is broken into different categories, and you include a 6th for "sexual" (but describe it by describing it as gender roles). I'm nonbinary (one of those "they/them"s) so gender was always one of those things that felt like dividing by zero - it made no intuitive sense, and the longer i'd spend trying to make sense of it, the more likely I'd be to get frustrated and give up. No combination of parental figures or people I looked up to or internet knowledge seemed to make a difference; at best it felt like some arcane knowledge where if I did the right rituals and gaslit myself into embracing the ideals laid out by someone else, then I could finally "fit" somewhere. But ultimately, I always felt imprisoned in a glass box of other people's creation, which I forced on myself because everyone else was doing it (and also seemed equally as miserable, so obviously it must be NORMAL). I'm writing all this out because while I've never felt acknowledged in your muchacho/a sign-off, that's fine (society actively tries to disregard people like me anyway, it's not a you thing), but here you pretty directly gesture to it without actually going into it at all. I'm curious to know why - I personally don't have any sense of this mystical 6th aspect, not in myself and not in other people (I can identity descriptive qualities that others attribute to masc/fem, but I don't intuitively make those associations on my own). So I'm genuinely curious if this is something you think people deeply have a sense of, or if it's more something people begrudgingly accept and then force onto themselves so as to make the distinction mean something to them. I know plenty of people who deeply intuitively know what "box" they belong to (to the point where they choose to make their lives hell by aligning with what they know to be true about themselves, to the ire of society that "disagrees" with their existence), but most people don't seem to be that way at all. You seem like a kind level-headed guy, so I'm curious to know what you think

[@jinjerlyapotatobe4629]

Thank you for everything that you do! I appreciate all of your videos and the insights from it! Thank you so much!

[@Puff942]

You just explained the entire last year of my life in one sentence.

[@Gtokkk]

use bigger text on the whiteboard? It would make note-taking simpler....

[@johnwebster9312]

Big fan of the content with no music and no ADHD jump cuts. I feel like its detox for my mind.

[@akaSimplex]

As someone with adhd I second this

[@AllThingsConsidered333]

Same! These vids have good info, calm presentation & not overstimulating, pleasant voice to listen to.. ADHD + multiple chronic tick infections that affect my nervous system and make me pretty sensitive to sensory stimuli..

[@zltakc]

the adhd jumpcuts are usually more distracting instead of engaging, despite what those creators think

[@Dontknowmyrealdad1]

That will come later, 1 step is to plagiarise others peoples work from books, internet etc. step 2 once the subs have plateaued is to make the vids more slick while repeating content they’ve already made. Who would of thought so many in their early 20s would have so much wisdom 🤔

[@KingaGorski]

It's a calmer style for sure 🙌

[@ricolearns]

My golden rule is this: If you're thinking too much you're not moving enough.

[@MrcMcx]

Poor advice that is pretty much bro science, you just become exhausted and unable to ward off the negative thought patterns. I've been regularly exercising for 15 years to the point of exhaustion and it hasnt helped

[@ximenaMartinez-st4wf]

@@MrcMcxgotta start making them money moves then

[@akaSimplex]

@@MrcMcxit’s not bro science it’s malleable advice. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to run a marathon or do 15 muscle ups whenever you’re ruminating, the point is to focus 100% on something external. Even just breathing exercises. The mind obsessively worries about past/future, but you can always re-centre yourself back to the present moment by focusing on the physical. Although I still had a breakdown a few hours ago so you probably shouldn’t listen to me lol

[@MyChihuahua]

Work smarter, not harder

[@ibrahimkarasis8274]

Damn.

[@luhohnel]

I’ve noticed that people with low self-esteem attach their identity to the mistakes they make. While people with high self esteem just make peace with the mistake and say, it’s part of the game.

[@signedupfordoconly4275]

Yeah so how to undo that?

[@luhohnel]

@@signedupfordoconly4275 fake it till you make it ?

[@luhohnel]

@@signedupfordoconly4275 in all seriousness. apply the practical step he gave us. And when you visualize your ideal self. Visualize you taking losses at the chin.

[@Aliasaliasaliashh]

​@@signedupfordoconly4275it starts with trying.

[@ElleJeane_]

it’s in the video. You did watch it to the end?

[@ENSO-wildsound]

"to love yourself, behave in ways you admire". Lewis @31.40ish. Absolute. Gold.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

I would love to have claimed these words but I believe it was Irvin D. Yalom who said them first ahaha!

[@GREEN-SILVERSTREAMOFLIGHT]

@@NewelOfKnowledge

[@GREEN-SILVERSTREAMOFLIGHT]

Our thoughts influence our feelings, and our feelings control our actions. --Bob Proctor

[@xg2513]

12:06 So to summarize, my brain is constantly trying to gaslight me (based on a few past bad experiences) into thinking that all future things are bad because they were bad one time!

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

hahaha, there you go!

[@KingaGorski]

Our brain always wants to predict the probability of future outcomes based on the evidence provided from past events. In order to change, we must focus primarily on possibility-on what we can create in the future moving forward-versus our tendency to always look back to past "proof". 💡

[@lori1760]

​@@KingaGorski your comment resonated with me. You seem knowledgeable about this so I was wondering if you could give me an example of focusing on the future vs past

[@KingaGorski]

​@@lori1760 Hi Lori! Happy to expand. Say you have a goal you want to strive towards. Because of the human brain's natural negativity bias (focusing on problems and potential threats to our safety and security), we automatically tend to steer our thinking towards negative "what ifs..." What if this fails? What if I embarrass myself? What if I never amount to anything? These negative "what ifs" are almost always tied to past events where we experienced things not working out the way we'd hoped, so we predict the likelihood of future outcomes based on what we've already experienced in the past. "If it didn't work out then, why would it work out now?" Instead, with that knowledge of the sneaky ways our brain plays tricks on us, we can train ourselves to think in more beneficial ways to help us grow and create new results-at the very least, summon the courage to take action, regardless of the outcome. We can intentionally guide our thoughts towards ideal future outcomes that would serve us in a more productive and better feeling way. Leaning into positive "what ifs..." What if this succeeds? What if I gain the confidence I desire? What if it works out better than I imagined? Future thinking = Possibility Past thinking = Probability Is that helpful? 💡

[@KingaGorski]

@@lori1760 Hi Lori! Happy to expand. Say you have a goal you want to strive towards. Because of the human brain's natural negativity bias (focusing on problems and potential threats to our safety and security), we automatically tend to steer our thinking towards negative "what ifs..." What if this fails? What if I embarrass myself? What if I never amount to anything? These negative "what ifs" are almost always tied to past events where we experienced things not working out the way we'd hoped, so we predict the likelihood of future outcomes based on what we've already experienced in the past. "If it didn't work out then, why would it work out now?" Instead, with that knowledge of the sneaky ways our brain plays tricks on us, we can train ourselves to think in more beneficial ways to help us grow and create new results-at the very least, summon the courage to take action, regardless of the outcome. We can intentionally guide our thoughts towards ideal future outcomes that would serve us in a more productive and better feeling way. Leaning into positive "what ifs..." What if this succeeds? What if I gain the confidence I desire? What if it works out better than I imagined? Future thinking = Possibility Past thinking = Probability Is that helpful? 💡

[@charthers8903]

I love to see young people take on the original self help concepts of the 70s - back then it was all about identity, none of that ‘just grind bro’ superficial bs

[@KingaGorski]

It all starts with our identity 🎯

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Hahaha, thanks for the comment! I do wonder when it all changed from identity focus to just grind bro. I guess when social media became a thing, showing other people how hard you work became the new status symbol - which caused people to want to be like the grind bros - so the grind bros would offer the advice of just grind. ahahaha. one big grind cycle! Anyway, I'm rambling. What do you think?

[@jamienotamy]

Your babushka exercise made me realize I love that I will stop everything to help someone in need. My two favorite things I've ever done were rescuing a cat dumped in my neighborhood on a below-freezing day, and giving a car-less coworker a ride to the hospital to visit her mom on mothers day. When I did those things I felt 100% clear-headed, confident, and calm. I would love to feel that way about other aspects of myself. Thank you.

[@strwb3bi]

Now this is what i call high quality content Thank you

[@KingaGorski]

Ya this was excellent 💯

[@jetyadav5425]

Ever watched Nero Video

[@KingaGorski]

In order to transform our self-concept, that's a massive point you made that's all too easy to gloss over: in order to change, a key aspect is learning to *interpret things differently.* In the messy middle of personal alchemy, that shift often requires us to go against every fibre of our (usual) being, depending on the automatic programmed thinking-feeling response that's flooding us in the moment, depending on the circumstance. It's no small undertaking, though that being said, *change is always possible.* P.S. Huge congrats on 200k! Yoooooo! 🎉

[@AceH1gh]

Never in my life I thought that I will take pen and paper and write notes about youtube video 😂

[@LiaBouzo]

lol same, it brought me back to my interested student phase

[@lukehd4081]

I will admit that I subconsciously h8 myself and it has manifested in repeated self-sabotage. This is the cycle I want to free myself from.

[@valca3867]

Same

[@vooooooooooooo]

Im in process of self healing my childhood traumas and while waking up for toilet i got anxiety attack, went on yt to distract myself and this video showed. Video was not what i needed, but the way you spoke felt so natural and precise it completely resonated with me, and i went trough your videos, your explanations helped me deal with trauma 26 years old. Because it happened when i was 5 this fear took away all my urges and all my self and i was living like nothingness all my life. I finally got to it, accepted my emotions, understood it, explained it, and felt such ease that i just cannot express how thanfull i am. I never stopped fighting, i got over depression, self destruction (because i hated my empty self), drug and alcohol addiction, but there was always this ugly trauma that would just sweep away any urge or instinct, emotion, desire i had, and i was pretty much clueless and helpless until now. I want you to know how big thing you helped me to discover. I want to donate to you, if you plan on making patreon ill be first to sign up. ❤❤❤❤

[@minnies782]

This was brilliant. I really like your style! Simple and focused. Music, animations and other extras are not needed when the topic is interesting and necessary and the performer is charismatic. Thank you!

[@KingaGorski]

Charisma goes a long way!

[@punoarbya.152]

and funny aswell

[@littlesquishy9951]

I’ve been really struggling with my self image for years, mostly due to bullying and an abusive relationship. I struggle with PTSD and depression, and I’m neurodivergent. I hadn’t realised until a few months ago that I really don’t like myself. This video was so needed thank you! Im going to try harder to be the person I want to be, and not just the victim of everything that has happened to me, because I can be so much more than that!

[@ElleJeane_]

You sure can, focus on one small step at a time, break it down to short mind shifts.

[@0761x]

i’ve been in a really dark spot, and this video helped me immensely. thank you

[@ElleJeane_]

❤

[@Bluevioletsoul]

I've been looking forward for this, let me get my tea, snacks and notebook ready 🍵📖 thank you!

[@KingaGorski]

Taking notes! 🖊

[@keithrockefeller9808]

when you teach me this way, u make feel sensations and the teacher i ever wanted, lewis, i want to send my heartfelt thanks to you, its a blessing having content from u, greetings from kampala uganda

[@WOLV]

The best video I've seeing so far about self-image and its connection to NLP. Very well explained, nice communication from you to us, and actually really useful. 💪💪 Keep the channel going mate! The knowledge and info you are bringing to the table is pure gold

[@KingaGorski]

Really appreciated the dive into NLP also 🧠

[@wraith8323]

For those of us in a dark place with no one, it impossible to express how much of an impact these sessions can have on outlook and possibly changing the current reality. It is deeply appreciated 🙏

[@valep987]

Each and every content you share is just immensely valuable. Your explanations are so illuminating, thank you so much for your contribution. I’d be extremely grateful if you could clarify this for me. At 32:52 you mention ‘the new type of person you would like to be’. Now, as a person trying to reprogram their self-image, my approach in this process is not striving to achieve an ‘ideal me’ - a.k.a. a new, artificial self image- but rather find a way to know who I really am and accept all the actual traits of myself, even the ones I might not like. What’s the relationship between finding our true self and transforming our self image? Thanks a lot, keep up the good work!

[@mennaayman9689]

There's this best friend that I had growing up in a foreign country for 17 years and for some reason I had to leave after high school and go back to my country. Anyways. 15 years later, he came to visit me in my homeland and I was so nervous and clumsy the whole time he was there and he pointed it out which hurt my feelings. I realized the reason I was acting this way is that I was afraid he wouldn't like the person I've become because I don't like her. So I guess believing something about yourself makes it true to others as well. I want so much to change the image I have for myself in my mind.

[@lessthanthreemetal]

Newel - you are the best content creator for our generation on KZbin. Keep it up.

[@KingaGorski]

Agreed, stellar stuff ✔

[@jetyadav5425]

Ever watched Nero Knowledge

[@GratitudeHealth8888]

Really connect with your energy man, we are similar and both like scarves. The work you're doing is beyond valuable and in good timing. Zen

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

my fellow scarf man. I appreciate you.

[@KingaGorski]

The energy is chilllllllll! 🧘‍♀

[@GratitudeHealth8888]

@NewelOfKnowledge my life is changing for the better, I'm learning to be here for myself and care for myself from a whole new perspective. I feel like we would be neighbors in an alternate reality. I'd like to support what you do as my life stabilizes. To give back, because of the value received, beyond grateful. 🙏

[@progressiveparadigm]

Having autism alongside generally messy neurochemistry, I feel like I've been praying for something instructional for this for so long. Got out the pen and paper for this; much love and thanks mate.

[@beanrunnerWA]

Each of your videos gives me 1% that I retained and use. That 1% from each video shifts my course 1%. Thanks for the little nudeges in the direction my dreamz.

[@suzanneainsley2414]

All the 1% add up, think where you'll be in a year 🙌

[@rodamohamoud4845]

my advice for everyone is love yourself and be compassionate and kind to yourself as you are with other people. i listen to Louise Hay and am slowly healing and loving myself. love snd light to you all.

[@Chaaante]

I’m only a minute in, but you have a beautiful voice. It’s incredibly peaceful.

[@sokkatomeson7561]

i am legitamatley failing to notice the difference of your hair / facial right now you keep bringing it up but you look spiffy across multiple time periods thanks for making all these videos

[@Rachel-kf6fn]

Same😂

[@Simonriley291]

It might be of 44 mins but it took me more than 2 hours to understand and relate every points with my life and it's quite practical and I found it helpful, I'll try my best to get out of this time of my life. Thank you.

[@MisterJingo93]

Once again the right topic at the right time. I can´t stress this enough, but I really think what you do is more important than you might even think.

[@KingaGorski]

Lots of wise people out there. Lew is definitely one of 'em 💡

[@SHUBH1]

Inside out 2 really explained this concept of self very well

[@0piumaeternum]

i need to rewatch. the one thing that burned into my mind what that mantra that plays for each flower for riley’s personality; when met with a big experience one of the strands are plucked which reflects how she felt about herself in that moment.

[@dannerbanner2343]

Thank you so much for this video! It has helped me understand why I sometimes struggle to make genuine connections and friendships with others. I’m going to use this knowledge to reprogram my thoughts and develop better friendships. Keep up the great videos!

[@kittcompton]

As a woman self help is my jam. And I absolutely love being taught by a smart, attractive and sexy teacher as yourself. I have to watch multiple times because I keep getting lost in your vibe and miss the message ❤

[@King_WhiteWolf]

😂 Well shit, imma straight man but I suppose I can admit he is a handsome fella, and his voice is certainly easy on the ears.

[@enwe6487]

@@King_WhiteWolf It's the very specific tonality for me - yeah he's handsome and his voice is nice, but I love the easy going, positive tone that has something sinatra-ish in it - makes you feel like evrything is pretty good and going dandy, what else!

[@neenz_m]

If the gender roles in this comment were swapped, would this comment still be appropriate? Just something to consider.

[@jwilsss]

⁠​⁠@@neenz_m I don’t think it’s appropriate this way round either.

[@jasonfinnerty5711]

Guys can handle it

[@Entwicklungshustle]

I just want to say that the fear of f.e. a job interview is not always based on past experiences, based on the personality or anything else like that. I was very afraid of a job interview even though I had literally not a single reason. I would take every outcome as it is, there was not a single scenario I could come up with that would make me feel bad during or after the interview. That's where I realized that my fear is literally the same like my fear from spiders. I know that both my parents are very afraid of such things (job interviews, calls and such stuff) and I think epigenetics played it's role and I inherited that from them. It is a fear that fully disappeared after the second job interview, so, I just want to say, sometimes you are just born with a fear that you can only fight (but absolutely most of the time the reason lies within you)

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Absolutely.

[@patriziaaa]

I love how you are getting better and better at Spanish in every video. And thank you for the videos you make. One of the best channels for self-improvement I have found so far.

[@Melih_e271]

I definitely needed this. I will watch this video once again and take some notes, it will help a lot. Thank you!

[@nattfreitag]

Thank you very much for your content, it's so pacific, calm yet so important. One thing that helps me a lot to bring my unconscious to the light of knowledge it to freely journal asking 'why' and write down whatever comes to mind, do an analysis and compare if what I think reflects on material reality ( such as how people respond to me or what are the consequences of my acts ), keeping in mind a positive action - emotional process and I'm not always wrong about what I think of myself, but helps me to be more flexible and understand where I need more attention, such as insecurities . Helps me a lot !

[@Entwicklungshustle]

17:20 I think that's a very important point and that's why I want to explain it a bit more. Also I like explaining. Every situation has no value on its own. When a loved one dies, someone insults you, someone gives you a present or whatever. All these situations are like a stone dropping onto another stone. No value, just molecules moving around. YOU, who perceives the situation, create the emotion in your head. YOU give it a value, YOU create the responding emotion. When someone dies, that is not sad. It makes you feel sad. When you play a game, the game is not fun. You experience fun while playing it. And not archieving something you worked for isn't disappointing and doesn't mean you were too lazy. You interpret the situation in a certain way, so that you conclude that you were too lazy and that disappoints you. Emotions are ALWAYS a representation of reality that is also heavily biased based on your personality, past, believes, etc. DO NOT BELIEVE THAT ANYTHING YOU FEEL IS THE ACTUAL REALITY

[@jenmdawg]

Almost right. You need to live a little more and see why the death of a loved one is sad no matter how much clinical stoicism or nihilism is involved. How one carries the involuntary, natural and unavoidable grief is what matters.

[@Entwicklungshustle]

@@jenmdawg it's good that you say this, because, even though we create the emotion in our brain, that does absolutely not mean that you have full control over them. Realizing that emotions come from our brain only helps to disconnect from a situation, but of course, depending on the situation, sometimes you cannot just disconnect and throw away the emotion. I would personally say that I am mentally prepared for a death of a loved one, but due to lack of experience, I, of course, cannot be sure there. But what I want to say is, I honestly don't really know ehat can help a person, who is suffering under the loss of someone. Sadness in that case is also hardwired in our brains to some degree, so I guess, to some extend, you cannot do anything and have to 'endure' it (when the pain doesn't fade, then there is a reason for that that can be found and solved). So what I want to say is, the emotion is still being created inside our brain, a situation itself is just a situation that everyone perceives differently. But that doesn't mean that you can just say "the emotion comes from my brain so I just turn it off" or something. Depending on the exact problem, it can be incredibly much more difficult

[@valca3867]

Thank you, mate!

[@nittani.]

I have to agree

[@itwaslegendari]

i expected this to be a whole lot of nothing like many other videos like this on KZbin but oh my god I am actually amazed at how good and helpful this is

[@jmrumble]

I love that you use an actual whiteboard, but also edit the video to remove the whiteboard things that just take up extra time like drawing complex things, erasing things, realizing you accidentally used the wrong marker that one time and having to scrub over it with a real whiteboard marker and then erase that a couple times to get the marks off, and making silly jokes about your drawing skills to fill the time while drawing is happening... So basically - it's like school but more engaging :) Every stroke you actually show is either making a point or serving as a transition into a new part of what you're talking about! And because it's a whiteboard and not an animation, it's easier to not get distracted thinking about how the animation might have been made or how it could have been done better. Keeps the focus on the topic. (Had to write this up for that same purpose xD Now back to watching!)

[@ceasedubiety]

i am not running away, i am running past them towards the destination

[@bumman117]

Build self-esteem by doing esteemable acts

[@trimp9939]

I really can't say enough how valuable this channel is to me. Some of this information you share is enough to draw emotional responses. Thank you for all your effort in your videos, they certainly make an impact.

[@GogosUTube]

I've been excited for this one! Thank you for this upload.

[@krejziks3398]

There is a reason why forgiveness is so liberating and, imho, the best feeling in this world. On top, next to love.

[@minashah9933]

Absolutely brilliant. Only channel where the videos are full of substance, not air and chatter. I’m actually taking physical notes, crazy!

[@strwb3bi]

really appreciate all the work you put into the videos❤

[@chewablee]

thank you so much for your advice. you inspired me to buy a whiteboard myself a while back, and once again you've babushka'd me into becoming a better person. i hope you know that unlike videos where i feel as though i've already listened to their self-help tip a million times over, your knowledge is refreshing and charming, and it makes me feel genuinely interested to learn more and experiment myself. it brings out the warm and fuzzy feelings of accomplishment :)

[@lukehd4081]

Great video mate, this really helps me to set real goals.

[@dylanrupprecht4031]

I am grateful for your content, sir. This is so helping me out right now, all your videos this year have been a guiding light in a dark time of my life. Please keep up the great work 💜

[@MinisterAngel777]

Thank you for the video, your presence helps me to be grounded. You deserve everything that this life has for you. 777

[@quoi1957]

This is the first time in my life that I truly feel I’ve learned something important about human complexity and also about myself. So, I would like to thank you, and I also want to say that this is my first time commenting on KZbin because I don’t usually do this, but I had to because you’ve really changed my point of view. This is also the first time someone has really explained something in such an easy and pedagogical way. So thank you. Thank you, and just continue doing what you’re doing right now. It’s amazing !

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Thank you :) I'm honoured that this was the first video you commented on :)

[@Al-fatihSayed]

Exactly what I need right now

[@opeoluwaalo8366]

Formula: I AM THAT WHICH I SAY I AM. Thanks my friend, for this in-depth reminder. Mohammad Ali on my mind when I think of self imaging…

[@spontaneousbootay]

part of the explanation in 2 helped me to clarify a point ive been working on. why we obsess and like you said think negatively, its yourself feeding emotion into a thought. thats why its important to examine your thoughts without judgement and this allows them to pass smoothly.

[@mvandell]

Brother you are so talented and so appreciated. I have been focusing on bringing awareness and conscious understanding to myself and others mainly through embracing the peace that lies within and letting our self perceived often low self images melt away in the love that is at our foundation of life. This is very powerful work you are doing and i for one am extremely grateful to you.. the more tools we have at our disposal to bring ourselves into balance and non prejudice towards ourselves and others the better! Thank you 🙏❤️🔥💯

[@CorePathway]

I would add that the language of the subconscious is feelings. Our conscious mind translates this into thoughts. Practice and rehearse the feelings that support the thoughts that will create the results. Feelings first.

[@3star515]

What if there are no past positive experiences to recall that relate to what you're trying to change? Examples: You've never had a positive experience trying to start a relationship or even positive answers for asking people out on a date. Same when applied to friendships. Or you've never had any major achievements that you can even acknowledge as some kind of success in the world or even just a personal victory. A lot of what you're talking about seems to require something from the past that you can grab on to as some kind of proof that it is in fact, possible for you. I can definitely see this working for the majority of people, you know, average human being today. What of the extreme cases where there's just not much or maybe even nothing to latch onto?

[@bumman117]

I seriously appreciate the hard work and energy you put into these videos. I learn a lot and it really helps to give my long term mental health goals real hope.

[@anjali8803]

I absolutely loved your Detailed explanation as if you are my college professor and the dedication omg ❤ I really satisfied my curious brain the way you fragmented and explained with most realatsble examples. Loved it!

[@GregoryMathieu-d1u]

I’m subscribed since a while now, but this video was special. As you posted that you were currently editing it, I set time apart for your content, took notes once you published it and now I’m happy and ready for change. Thanks to you, mate. Muchas gracias amigo mío as you’d prolly say and have a wonderful day, Dieu te bénisse

[@laralebeu36]

Amazing video! One thing that I noticed about NLP is that it does not work directly with inner children psyche parts (see IFS) which hold the belief systems that are of the past and are now limited and dysfunctional. Without shadow work NLP can be used to repress those belief systems without liberating the stuck energy that is still stored in those limiting beliefs. What I take from this video is that NLP and shadow work need to go hand in hand. Thank you for this gem of a video!

[@janny.p]

How do you heal the inner child

[@jennodine]

I think I’ve been doing this for the past week or so without knowing I was. Thank you for a great lesson. I agree with the comment about how pleasant is it to watch a video without a zillion cut always and background music. It’s like makeup - less is more. Simple elegance. Yes.

[@nouramoustafa7898]

Thanks for ever little details you have covered.. but just want to add one thing is that fear and anxiety comes from the fact of protecting our selves from the unknown what is coming for us. Thanks again ❤

[@cheerfulgoth]

You have no idea who I am or why I watch your videos, but I have been watching for a long time. As a former psych major (studied psyche for years and always felt like “but yeah, I’m not interested [well, not exactly true] in dealing with fucked up people, I’m interested in the greater scope of humanity and knowing why they follow the patterns they do) I have been nothing short of impressed with the knack you have for distilling basic, but crucial, concepts into something consumable by the masses. Kudos to you! I was hit with a heavy blow at 6am whilst at work, from an unknowing colleague. They asked me about someone who is a friend of mine but they asked in the past tense. I’d been “off-island” for 4 days and focused on the person I was visiting, so had no idea that my friend had taken their own life whilst I was away. Fucking gutted. Had to wait my 10 hour shift to go home and begin to sort my shit out and your video popped up and I thought, yeah, fuck it, I like this dude (sorry, California girl; only recently been brought to my attention that I refer to lots of PNW folks as ‘dude’ hahaha) and although this vid didn’t have much to do with the grief I am navigating, it still brought me comfort and, honestly, awe at the breadth and depth of the human experience that you consistently cover in your videos. As a woman who is days away (Nov 5 😭) from her 51st birthday, you make me long for the wisdom I would have benefitted from years ago, in spite of the fact that I started out in psychology! I’m sorry this was so rambling, but I am dealing with some raw fuckin’ grief but wanted to give you some feedback since I watch (listen, really) to your content regularly. Damn, son, keep up the excellent work. When I have the money I will absolutely support you on Patreon.

[@kowissss]

THIS IS SO GENIUS I HOPE IT WORKS WITH ME!!!!!

[@R4KT1M]

Good video lewis. If we can change our concept of self, then our surroundings will change easily. This is the science behind success, many people get rich can't explain how or why they got rick except consistency, hard work. The working of sub concious mind is the science of success n failure.

[@jeffreylevongo4959]

I appreciated this video. Format and presentation was simplified to an extent where it removed all the fluff and I could understand the concepts easily. Well done🙏 keep up the good work❤

[@laugt440]

omg I need a sticker of that dog drawing 10:18 🐶 thanks for the amazing video!

[@stustrange6647]

I just subscribed to your channel… absolutely brilliant content! I’ve got very high self-esteem, but your video is causing me to ponder just how much smarter I could have become if any of my teachers/professors were as brilliant and able to deliver content as well as you!

[@marlasinger2810]

I have appreciated every video of yours that I have watched so far! Thank you for being you. Thank you for helping me be a better version of myself.

[@dedarren87]

Love, love, LOVE the content/info/presentation/personal anecdotes/politeness towards ppls time/personal rapport building!! I mean, seriously!? INCREDIBLE!!!?? 🙌🏻*Whew* you name it.. list keeps going I'm honestly blown tf away!!!!! 😅🙌🏻 Absolutely amazing !!! Based on practical, like actual science, as well... Genuinely genius!! 😍 This channel is HIGHLY underrated 🙌🏻 ❤❤❤ Love it!! Love your methods not to mention, style !! Don't ever change!!! 🎉🎉 Can't emphasis it enough lol 😅

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

thank you :)

[@schoolneverteach]

I needed to hear this. Reminds me of a comment by friends saying I apologize too much and I tend to come across as needy of help....

[@chrisscrossing]

I'm a content creator as well as a licensed mental health professional and a clinically trained hypnotherapist and sex therapist. This helps everyday people to reconnect to their best selves and it's effective. The main thing to recall in my honest opinion is to keep at it until you see the changes and then continue to keep it up. So often my community members make the mistake of wanting a quick fix or trying something once or twice and when it doesn't work immediately they give up in frustration or exasperation which I totally get...and, it's one moment one breath at a time.b

[@bakujahn6430]

I have no idea who you are, where you are from or what you do but this video showed up right when I needed it. Thank you very much stranger.

[@MrZigljasin]

Hey man thank you so much for your videos they have literally been a lifesaver since im going through a break up after 8 years of dating. Im depressed and fcked up but little by little following some of your advice im getting on the right track. Again thanks muchacho!

[@WhitneyMorris-iz7ei]

I had an epiphany at around 22 minutes. Thank you ❤️

[@42Maat]

Thanks!

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

thank you :)

[@carriewalker4284]

Thank you so much for your content. This is my favourite video so far! Super interesting and I love your humor sprinkled throughout. Adorably you 😄

[@Cinematografun]

38:55 The part about blood pressure really took me by surprise, are you telling me the most I talk about my ideal self the more lethargic I will feel? Please explain further that balance 😅

[@sofiadiazzzz]

amazing video!! everything you said was gold, I loved how you explained it!

[@narthasis89]

I love your videos! I have watched bunch of them, and the knowledge in them is amazing also with practical guides 🤗 but all the time I was wondering if you know NLP, because many theories you talked about reminded me of NLP /find out how your brain works and then reframe/adjust it as you want, for example how to overcome overeating, laziness, fears etc./ And Here it comes 😊💪

[@donragnar8430]

Never thought I'd learn about transforming my self image from Christian Bale method acting as a self help youtuber/psychologist!

[@valca3867]

Thank you Lewis!, this video helped me. now I know what's the problem that I'm dealing with. without realizing and have zero knowledge of them! Before!.

[@djmileski]

Thanks for the monumental presentation. Skills. Very helpful and enjoyable actually

[@djmileski]

Improves fragile narcissism. Well said 31:38

[@Isa-vl6qr]

thank you for this comment lol i think or im pretty sure im a fragile narcissist and this is kind of confirmation of what i need to do :D

[@maderastuff]

Isnt it crazy how naturally unsuited the human mind is to probability & uncertainty? Cant wait to start anchoring my mudras & emotions to market triggers! Bro idk if you trade markets, but your mental game would suit it well. Much appreciated 👵 (baba emoji)

[@morpheus.speaks8871]

Lovely man, what an eye opener ❤

[@guilty_pleasure-qn6be]

Do you know what fives me the fuzzy feeling? Your sense of humor. :)

[@5thgrdrz]

your videos have changed my life :)

[@shanu6478]

REALLY REALLY ENJOYED WATCHING THE VIDEO LECTURE, MADE NOTES TOO. SELF AWARENESS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING OUT THERE, THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR KNOWLEDGE. WROTE ALL THAT IN BIG CAPS JUST TO LET YOU KNOW I AM GENUINELY APPRECIATE OF THE EFFORTS AND THE KNOWLEDGE. WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR INSIGHTS ON MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING... People daydream either as a coping mechanism to escape the hard reality or to relive experiences which may have a bad influence on them maybe to act out the way they must have acted Plz make a video on this a detailed one like any other i sometimes suffer from this

[@Noukz37]

With great videos, come great (as in large) comments: It is so refreshing to see this kind of simple YT video. Who says that each one has to have incessant seizure inducing editing, expensive backgrounds, multiple cameras, SFX and 3D animations? What YT is lacking is pure humanness and humour. And whiteboards! I'm positively surprised that most of your audience is male. That is quite reassuring because most dudes desperately need to work on changing and reprogramming themselves. This is coming from a male mediation teacher, who held lessons and workshops to people of many cultures and backgrounds, but "unfortunately" mostly women. This was a lot to take in, but considering the importance and the scope of the topic, I'd say you've condensed it pretty good! I'd just like to add something simple that always works for my reprogramming - I assume I could be wrong. Even about myself! One-word mantra of the year: Maybe.

[@oliviaclark8233]

Lol i love your videos, the way you make them and how you talk about everything

[@tiffanymilanese4696]

Even though the concept of self worth seems simple- it’s so complicated! Thank you for breaking down the hours of research you must have done for us in your informative video. I’ll be sure to apply ‘maintaining a positive attitude’ as well as being more self aware that my present view of a situation is based on past experiences and how I subconsciously view myself. If you can just wave your magic babushka and find some information as to how an alexathymic person with terrible interoception can recall positive past experiences and how those experiences physically felt I could fulfill the other portion of the reprogramming and be all set 😝

[@JanaSzIsBasicGlitch]

Acctually I think I am on the path... Because today was the day I discovered that some groups make narc behaviour from every little thing and that they should check themselves little bit on that, also, I know of it, but I no longer vibe with the environment of it, because it is too much from left and right and even if it is help at some point on other point it is kinda negative clutter

[@julie-anneoconnor8027]

Brilliant, very informative and useful, definitely can take some things away to try. Thank you 🎉

[@janny.p]

I just realised that The Identity I have doesn't serve me anymore but I've been keepin it since 10 years... My past defines me too much and keeps me from getting a good future. I'm diving into psychology for years but I still keep sabotaging myself. And man, I'm pretty tired of myself being like this. I used to like talkin about myself, now every time I meet someone new and they ask me about myself, I'm like "Nah... I don't know who I am anymore even though I was so sure in my past who I was... I really need to reinvent myself. So just tell me about you instead?"

[@Tomy_Yon]

I sure do have a different image of myself than others do. 😊

[@Kane.JimLahey.]

The clearer your goals are, the more specific the better. Do away with vauge goals. It is time, for real goals, for real progression. Rodger dodger.

[@kris_ty685]

I kind of disagree with this. You can set goals, but you can not affect the outcome only the effort you apply. I think this idea that we must always be trying to achieve something to improve our self image. I think just being mindful and experiencing the present is the only goal because all the other stuff may or may not work out in the slightest.