HOW TO "TRAP" AN INFJ (INFJs brace yourselves)

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[@Wenzes]

What experiences have you had with someone "trapping" you as an INFJ?

[@MegaCyberleader]

I dont have friends, nor will I fall for those stupid tricks, although id love to trap me a good women.

[@LindaChapman-u2c]

My comment would probably disappear & your channel might be adversely effected if I actually answered that. Maybe someday I can share it. I'm terrified to talk to a man or attempt to find one to talk to again someday after losing myself by trying to fit into his world & the consequences following my family evermore.😎

[@sagebay2803]

My WHOLE family of origin....years of gaslighting, manipulation, etc. Had to go no contact for my sanity!

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

This guy who didn't want to work but simply relied on what his parents worked hard for. I mean I get it but earn your own

[@kharysmaharris449]

responsibility and neuturality

[@MrYosefwales]

My ISTJ spouse has to remind me, "Wherever you are- be there".

[@lindateuling7862]

i understand how we INFJs have to be careful. Very careful. A few years back I got into a relationship that looked like it was going to work wonderfully. We had some important things in common and I thought it was going to work out well. It didn't. He was looking for security and for help with issues that I wasn't equipped to handle - and it didn't take long to see that. I was very blessed to have some good friends who also knew him and helped me in my decision to end it, and who provided me with good emotional support. INFJ that I am, I know how to encourage people realistically - it's helped me as a teacher. And the willingness to help people can be something positive to add to a relationship. But I also know that there's a limit to how much we can help anybody and I think we INFJs have to remember this and bring it to mind a lot.

[@Diane_McDon]

“Help Me” is like the Bat Signal for an INFJ

[@aquariusstar7248]

😂😂😂😂 Krytonite!

[@Diane_McDon]

@@aquariusstar7248 true 🤣

[@amjPeace]

The day I realized that every single friendship I had was with people who were all about take, take, take while I was dutifully doing the give give give with no regard for my own needs, that was the day that I was able to turn my life around. You raised so many good points in this video, Wenzes. Thank you for doing the difficult job of putting all of this stuff into words!

[@sagebay2803]

same! Txs for sharing.

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

Same here. I had absolutely no idea that relationships had to be mutual!!!

[@l0I0I0I0]

Humm... we can only help people who want to be helped and are open to growing. Learn who they are and who they are not.

[@airam-sj2172]

I am finally learning to choose myself first. It's been a painful process where I have to door slam some people in my life, including family members. But I feel at peace now. I just wish them a very good life away from me.

[@Dave-jo1hf]

This type drains me and I don’t have a lot of patience with them anymore. I tend to steer away from them pretty quick.

[@mirsaes]

Then why are you here if it drains you? Interesting...

[@cinatone]

I’d like to add to the pain one. 18 months abbreviated…dated a diagnosed borderline personality disorder woman for 5 years. When I was devalued, she was aware of how I cannot refuse helping someone I love, she told me about the diagnosis. Seems innocent enough, right? Yeah, but it was a ploy to discard me and have me holding on because my pain was secondary to what I felt she was experiencing. I’ve lost myself and found myself in this period. I learned way too much about personality disorders. Now, to be fair to myself. She could tell everyone about the diagnosis, in hopes someone will be as gullible as I was. I think it was one thing she saw in me as she missed so very much. I literally had to change my name and move to another state. And as for introverted intuition, good luck trying to explain this to anyone. Explaining how you know things that aren’t human. Just trying to explain that there was intent as she told me a diagnosis when she didn’t have to. For a disorder that is highly prideful, there’s no reason she’d state it without a nefarious motive. Or explaining how you could tell in the words of her text message to a friend that she was lying. To be clear, I wasn’t grilling the psychiatrist for her diagnosis or anything like that. She came out and said it. Even did a bit of therapy for it. But it was all the work of a master architect with the brain of an infant. She’s only good because it’s repetitive and trial and error. That’s what makes these types of people so hard to deal with. Their plays are so simplistic, you’d never think anyone would try them. Her thing was to isolate me in a new city, serve me a restraining order (in order to make me a hostage in the city), left me with 6 months rent I couldn’t afford, and have me fired from work all while she looked to replace me. During this time I was forced to surrender 2 dogs (the hardest thing I’ve ever done) and became near homeless. I’ve been holding in a scream for 18 months. 😢 The silver lining is that I know I’ll be ok. Wherever I go, even without direction, I will find my way. What makes it difficult for me is that I’ve trouble finding anyone I can talk to that doesn’t show me their ignorance in spades, immediately. Luckily I am good at self healing. Or maybe I’m not. Who knows? 😮😂😂Also, I am Batman! (Sorry, couldn’t resist. I haven’t told a joke in the week I’ve been in Denver). “Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Weep, and you weep alone”-Ella Wheeler Wilcox

[@annawrobel6746]

OMG, I feel you. My ex have schizophrenia with BPD and bipolar tendencies. He did the same. Seems like all mentally ill people operate in a similar manner. He even approached my immediate family and friends to paint a sad picture of himself. Oh man, I am so sorry you have to suffer so much. Maybe a decade or two in asylum could help you. There are some good ones in Switzerland, they could euthanize you if it goes out of hand.

[@cinatone]

@@annawrobel6746 you had me at “euthanize”! I think that a big issue, for both our situations. Is that these disorders operate outside of honesty, so gauging what the actual issue is, is near impossible. Which makes treatment near irrelevant. And it really sucks for the likes of us. 😞

[@annawrobel6746]

​@@cinatone Yeah, the only way to end this cycle. May you have a easy passage 🕊️

[@braxtonmills1235]

They are definitely risky be very cautious. Avoid them borderlines. It's wild I only recently learned of them.

[@auntylinda7640]

Yes, it may be an illness, or disorder, but the damage they can do is still as destructive 😢

[@smolville]

Trapping an INFJ in a no-win scenario is something that you don't want to do. Accuse them of doing something that they didn't do and they don't want to tell you who did.

[@bamgold4677]

Thank you this just saved me a lot of money. It was very hot in the US. I wanted to buy Fans for all the employees and it was hot. I bought one fan for some employees and got approval and thankful thanks. But I should not go out and spend hundreds of dollars on fans.

[@bamgold4677]

And I'm a fellow employee. More higher ranking but not my responsibility.

[@karieification]

Doing something as a one-time favor that sets a precedent. Job description or personal relationship expectations accumulate to more and more. INFJ job description expands to many unrecognized and uncompensated out of bounds tasks. Bend over backwards and get in trouble when the last straw breaks.

[@rhondac98606]

My siblings do this to me all of the time; I finally slammed the door on them!

[@user-qo6sf9mz7l]

I have always been the person to be called on to help others and protect and spiritual save them and in the end get abused and or hated for doing so I have always felt deep empathy and compassion for others and I have learned truly hard lessons for my love peace ✌️ and harmony to others I became the whipping post for that reason but still I feel I need to continue on my path to spread my light regardless of the hateful hardships that life throws at me peace ✌️ to you all with lots of love and harmony Godspeed to all Amen

[@WillfullyWondering]

Thank you @Wenzes. Once experienced, though, it becomes embedded. I wish I hadn't had to learn the hard way in reference to the work it took to understand and reform the emotional response created by the internal wound endured. Pay attention folks, this is life-saving for those that are de-motivative and lack the willpower to push forth after being tricked; typically due to self-depreciation and a lack of awareness to the fact that we are human and to err is human. We might be deep and intellectual, but that doesn't create a failsafe of infallible processes. It merely implies that we have the capacity for, once applied, intractable detachment towards manipulative influences.

[@1nONLY_DRock]

Pizza works too. At least it works on me.

[@renciadevilliers6077]

Mmmm, cheese 😅

[@monicarockwell28]

Your videos are really spot-on and helping me through a tough situation I’ve recently gotten out of where this was exactly the case.

[@Bohobabe17]

I know I was trapped with my desire to help that person. They also became aware I was slowly distancing myself and then actively used manipulation…mirroring.

[@laurie6644]

Ohhh.

[@braxtonmills1235]

Yay im proud of Wenzes. My favorite part was 17.00-20.00.

[@lyyovbenyaohuhul409]

Sou INFJ. Tenho 47 anos e sou separado. A vida a dois ou em família é extremamente difícil para mim. Inviável para falar a verdade. Não aprendi a viver sozinho, foi na solidão que eu consegui me conectar com minha verdadeira essência. Me dou muito bem comigo mesmo. Me amo de paixão. Não existe espaço para outra pessoa na minha vida. Complicado para muitos, muito simples para mim.

[@user-rc2xs5ti2w]

O mesmo.

[@lindateuling7862]

Voce vai ajustar. Nem sempre é fácil, mas voce consegue. Vale a pena.

[@vincentkretzschmar4988]

It's profound how much joy Wenzes videos has given to my life

[@bamgold4677]

17.00-19.00 was wow amazing. So many gems in this video.

[@gloriaadu5485]

Thanks. sometimes we have to take a moment and reflex.on us i know the saying. feed a man a fish he eat, for the day. but teach him how to fish, he eats. for life.I'm a giver. give give. and they take. so i decided to take a vacation. on giving, just to see the out come. i can't change people, i can only change me. there are no two finger print alike.

[@laurie6644]

But it's so Hard to Change, huh?

[@muhammedshahbaazp6603]

"But, I Always know home is where I am" 💯

[@macoeur1122]

I'm totally o.k. with "more in the here and now" because it speaks to the "location" of the physical "here" and also that Sensing folks' attention is more likely on the present moment...or the "now"...Especially the Se types. The Si folks are more here & now too but not as much in the "now" as Se types are. I'm not a fan of of the phrase "More in the real world"..... I feel this is a misnomer. I much prefer "more in the here and now"...and even "more in the physical dimension" would work..because it's not that our attention is in some "unreal" dimension...or that we're lost in some kind of fantasy world...just zoning out....but the phrase "more in the real world" always seems to conjure up this image.

[@MegaCyberleader]

I had to let you go for my own personal growth, and dont get me wrong, I luv the shit outta you. But Ill be trapped to no one.

[@elenab8296]

INFJs are unique people.

[@user-om7if1pf3l]

You explain this well. 🎉❤

[@jeffm7020]

JUst remember that no good deed goes unpunished.

[@laurie6644]

That's depressing.

[@natureglimses]

Very good 👍 thanks a lot ✨

[@patricioeb]

Gracias 💥

[@bradleyberentz3214]

nice guy from California ( 👍 )

[@TheRiannaMarie]

I’m with an INTJ and he is totally a lot less present than me smh it is hard to get him to focus on the here and now. Always in some future vision in his head and it’s very hard at times.

[@bamgold4677]

Well he probably wants to love and take care of you. If you two team up you could put your vision into reality.

[@OzmaOfOzz]

What's it like being married to an ISTJ? that is so mind-boggling to me because they are so different than us infjs especially since they're Si dominant and Si is a demon function for us. I've always bumped heads with dom/aux and even inferior Si personality types. I'm genuinely curious how you two complete each other, i mean no disrespect ❤

[@suemaz9846]

I’m married to an estp which has the exact opposite stack. I’m really interested in more info on these relational pairings. Thanks Wenzes!! 😊

[@eminak4351]

You say you don’t, but you wish you could. 😅

[@stephenfegely]

Gnosis #INFJ 🦉

[@JustRyanFromNola]

Let me know if I’m allowed to speak into this from a different angle,as I find it a bit dangerous to speak on Jung’s theory of types without referencing him. You do well with it ,ad usual,no criticism. I too am very familiar with it,but from experience,it’s several levels deeper than the typical approach to codependency. Let me know,otherwise I’ll leave you to it without disturbing your work.

[@stephenfegely]

Yeah

[@robondrums4541]

Just curious, why would you post this topic? Are you trying to enable people to disrespect or harm infj

[@auntylinda7640]

Believe me, people don't need instructions, they know.😢

[@nathancolegrove3066]

Wubbalubbadubdub...

[@philipsalomon6987]

24 minutes. Come on😅

[@braxtonmills1235]

It's valuable every minute. I loved it.

[@HISGlorySunflower]

so many of you with your youtube platforms are scavenger vultures and you are nothing you speak of. you who love your platforms, voices, and so-called popularity?

[@kanahchi]

Not this one

[@denialdier]

This one is real