How to Turn Erectile Dysfunction into an Opportunity to Reconnect | Empowering Midlife Wellness

[@johnpalmer5614]

Thanks for sharing your knowledge as I had prostate surgery 20+ years ago and haven't had an erection since. This was devastating as I go ballroom dancing and I am frightened to have another relationship since my wife passed 12 years ago. You have given me confidence to talk about it to a prospective partner as previously I viewed it as a deal breaker. Now I see it was FEAR on my part - fear of telling the truth. Why was I so hung-up on not being open i.e. humble and being able to share my innermost thoughts. All I was doing was sharing a facade of what I want others to see. Now I am starting to realise its love that's important, not performance. My philosophy is now beginning to focus on the three qualities of LOVE - TRUTH - HUMILITY. I can teach these to a 10 year old so why do I find it hard to follow these as an 85 year old????????? Please continue to share your knowledge openly and with much care

[@ckc7315]

My husband stopped wanting sex at age 40 ! It’s been 20 years!!!! I moved out of the bedroom & now we are like brother and sister. I feel so cheated out of a very important part of my life. He would not ask the doctor for help. Men need to talk about this, and not just walk away from their partner.

[@richardpauly1635]

Doctor and counseling weight issues

[@lindyfrank5342]

He could have atleast helped you....even without an erection...he does have a hand and fingers. I used them when I couldn't get hard. And pleased this woman very well thank you. You have to be willing to be creative.

[@sheilamassey3]

😂 couldn't help but laugh when you said ed is something that has come" up "😅. So thankful he's got a good sense of humor to put up with me ❤

[@jamieraegro]

Thanks so much for getting right to the point

[@lamarinaelche]

Susan, you are nothing less than an Angel. To hear a woman speaking in such depth about how a man actually feels deep down about experiencing ED, is so refreshingly welcome. I, like many guys, have, at some time, experienced an inability to either achieve, or maintain an erection. It’s normal, it happens, like earache, stomach upset, tiredness, stress, fatigue, etc. Women experience temporary vaginal dryness , perhaps by not yet feeling sexy enough to naturally moisten their vaginas for action. It happens. In our busy lifestyles, we don’t allow or make the time to love one another, we’re too tired, too stressed, and oftentimes, just can’t be bothered! Men are biologically coded to mate to increase their gene pool, and so many men need to retain that ability to mate, in order to feel useful , to feel like a real functional man should , and to lose that seemingly simple ability to achieve an erection upon being aroused visually ( in the main) , or mentally , by touch or words, is absolutely devastating to a male. His very existence in this world becomes questionable if he loses his ability to become aroused for sexual intimacy. It’s the reason he’s here on earth, to help populate it. Now that may be true, or may be a society enhanced expectation of his presence, to always possess his manhood, his ability to impregnate a female. It’s a little known fact that in the animal kingdom, the human male is the only poor sod with a mechanism of erectile arousal that calls for him to be totally stress free, relaxed and feeling good, before he can get an erection. Getting that erection relies on a chemically activated opening and closing of a valve in the blood supply to the penis, this whole process governed by the pleasure centre in his brain. Blood naturally flows into and out of the penis to maintain its structure and cellular activity as in all the other organs in his body. For an erection to form, though, depends on his sexual control room in his brain to firstly identify a mate, become sexually interested enough in him or her to induce a chemical reaction to take place that, in effect, partially closes the output valve of blood leaving the penis naturally. This has the effect of causing a backlog of blood to remain within the penis , which gradually fills the ‘up till now’ empty spongy columns on either side of his penis. The more aroused he becomes, the more blood is prevented from leaving the penis , and diverted to continue filling the sponge like columns, enabling a firm erection through the pressure of retained blood within those structures. At any time during this complicated process he should be distracted in any way, feel unsafe, unhappy, worried or concerned about an issue , or simply not feel particularly sexy, the whole process falls flat , that valve we spoke of just opens up , the columns empty and the penis rapidly decreases in size. What a bummer! So many things having to happen just right, in order to become ready for sexual intimacy! All other animals have a muscle contained within a sheath that simply slides out for sex and retracts when it’s all over. That’s just so totally unfair ! Okay, I may have over simplified how human males differ from his animal counterparts, but I’ve covered the basics and accept I may not have covered the subject enough for a professional view, but satisfied a general question of how it all works. At the wrong end of my life, in my early 70’s, I find myself alone, again, just when I would particularly enjoy sharing my life with a woman. Just to hold a woman would be an amazing experience for me right now, probably way above intimacy, although I certainly haven’t lost my interest in sex. I look back on those times of cuddling up on the sofa watching a film, sneaking up behind her whilst she’s busy doing something to make our lives magic, and ending up making love passionately. It’s a man’s way of showing just how much he loves her, and what she means to him. How just her presence makes him feel like a real man should, functional, useful, protective, a soul mate, someone to feel completely safe with, and to enjoy intimacy with, without fear, but with extreme joy. I found that I just could not leave this video until I had viewed it completely because Susan actually mesmerised me! She’s an amazing looking woman, with an unbelievable health professionals understanding of her subject , particularly as she’s actually professionally trained to look after females more than males. Interestingly, in her treatment of predominantly females, she’s researched and can truly understand how a man feels, in complete contrast to how a woman feels, with their seemingly inherent distrust of men who appear to have lost interest in them, blaming themselves, sadly. Susan, you’re by far the best bridge I’ve ever seen between the male and female psyche, you are truly amazing, and I hope that you have someone in your life that tells you that, every single day - if I could meet a woman just like you, I would be overjoyed and feel so blessed xx

[@armorvestrus4119]

What a wonderful woman you are you have so much understanding of human emotions. Just listening to you talk could make anyone feel better.

[@philomenawarburton8332]

Thank you for all the work you have done on yourself over the years that have brought you to this amazing video ....

[@BernhardSchwarz-xs8kp]

Adorable the way you present this topic. Congratulations and thank you. The fact is - orgasms don't get triggered in the genitals, but in the brain. Unless you can connect intellectually with your partner and share mutual feelings - it is almost impossible to get what you expect from a sexual relationship. You are so correct - a man's inability to perform - if he and she are willing to talk about it - to overcome that obstacle can be a topic that brings both closer again. The couple sticks together and fights together that enemy - ED - and once the enemy is defeated - both celebrate the winner - the love, the desire, the passion, for each other.

[@roypeaden4338]

Oooø

[@Dave-x8j]

I think this is a great video and thank you for producing it. I'm thankful that you are a mature woman (I mean this in the most complimentary manner) with lived experiences and not a fresh out of medical school 27-year-old unmarried female who has literally been a student her entire life up until then. I also love how you bring your own version of vulnerability and humility to this talk while also including some of your self-doubts and sensitivities. It made it a very "human experience" video and not some unknown doctor talking down to a bunch of laymen neophytes. Because you are a grown-up, you made me want to listen to you and I didn't feel emasculated about the way you addressed it. One of the most hurtful things is also one of the most obvious for men. If a woman is not " into it" or particularly excited, she can tell a white lie or fake it, use some lube, ask for more foreplay and no one even blinks - all normal. For a man, all of his parts are on the outside, on display, and both you and she know something is not working. No place to hide. It feels crushingly humiliating and shameful. Further complicating this is the fact that one of the main ways to get it taken care of is discussing it with his lady, a doctor, Nurse Practioner, PA, or pelvic health professional which feels even more emasculating, as most of the aforementioned are overwhelmingly female populated....more hurdles for men to have to get over. I also liked that you mentioned sharing books on a topic as an easy segue into perhaps discussing it. My wife has done this with me with a book about the languages of love. She sneakily but lovingly has read a couple books over the years and then just left it on my night table hoping I would pick it up and then maybe it would spark a conversation. Sometimes it has even worked I think another barricade for many men seeking treatment on this issue is the fact that it's called erectile "dysfunction" instead of something a little more positive like Erectile Function Issues...maybe EFI...erectile ebb and flow?? As far as I know, very few men have entire dysfunction or impotence. As you said, erections can come and go, they can be strong, moderate or weak. They may work sometimes they may not work so great other times based on the medicines he is on, whether he had a few drinks or not etc. There are many things that can impact the male psyche and body. For the female, who happens to be caring and doesn't want to hurt her partner's feelings, she can sort of fake it till they make it, not to be rude, I just don't know the right words here. If a woman is not feeling sexually excited there are easy very socially accepted fixes to that don't involve shame like using lube, or a little more foreplay. If a man isn't ready it is obvious, crushing, and humiliating (you can't fake an erection, while a woman can certainly fain excitement) and affects the man's sense of masculinity. This is true especially guys over 50 who were not raised to be in touch with feelings and self-image. For younger men, there are various scripts to be and feel masculine in today's society. Older guys only have one or two versions of masculinity they are socially permitted to present themselves as. Sad but true. You make an excellent point about explaining ED as normal, it happens for various reasons, age, medication, psychological feelings, relationship issues, alcohol, and male body shame. I hate how society seems to think that women own the market on body shame. It is not even a conversation men can engage in with women or other men. Since "ED" is normal, and if we want men to feel more comfortable talking about it, the name erectile dysfunction absolutely has to change. Many medical professionals are cutting off a potential market and path to healing. That's the conversation we need to instill, that's the type of normalization we should be shooting for. Not something that forces/shames the man into addressing his failures by calling it a DISFUNCTION - that's just a bad start and causes most to simply do what men do...they shut down. Something else we as a society need to be aware of is that women are programmed to talk and share and reach out for help and assistance. In the US male experience, all of these things previously have been socially discouraged. They simply don't happen and haven't in the past where vulnerability and intimacy were seen as female things. Perhaps in the future, we will get better at this and give social permission for men to share and talk. It is likely to miss my generation, but my kids may be more relaxed and open to this. As you can tell I feel pretty strongly about this and it has impacted my life. My wife and I had issues for a number of years she slept in another room and we just stop trying. We are trying now in our late 50's (married thirty years), even though neither of us is as cute or thin as we used to be. We both have body-shame self-image issues we have to deal with. One final note that I hope makes some older guy feel comfortable. Don't be afraid to introduce a vibrator into the bedroom as this may be helpful to both partners. I was very ashamed of it and initially felt replaced like I was no longer needed and it felt like I was truly admitting complete failure. I'm adjusting to this now and it has been helpful. For me, I don’t want it to look like a penis because that gives me a bad feeling for some reason. I’m sure it is my problem, but I just feel either threatened or resentful of it if it looks like a penis. It conjures of notions of feeling compared… At least to me. Just a regular plain looking vibrator is better for a lot of guys and nobody really talks about it. That was embarrassing to say, but I hope it helps at least one guy out there to know there are others who feel the same.

[@latinaalma1947]

Thank you for your courage in commenting....very valuable insights...Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychology professor

[@Dave-x8j]

@@latinaalma1947 Dr. Sybil. I sure hope that writing out my feelings is helpful to you in your practice as well as some other guys.

[@latinaalma1947]

@@Dave-x8j Thank YOU...I am dating an 82 yo man with this problem we are coming up with ways for a lovely physical intimacy....penetrative sex is not necessarily the only happy sexual response...and couples should NEVER give up on touch...elderly people are often not touched even platonically by ANYONE except health care workers...affection is a need and so is touch....

[@gloriayouchisonbrown7734]

You are so right about touch and the importance of it, it is so healthy

[@snail847]

Whoever You are: Thank you for this long comment!!! I mean it !!! It didn't seem long at all because I was very interested in what you had to say. Thank you again !!!

[@tinachavez5489]

My husband is 73, I'm 64 have been married 47yrs. and he has ED. He's very old fashioned and was shocked he opened up to me about this. I truly thought I was the reason he couldn't get a normal erection if at all. We are closer than ever and our sex life is AMAZING and fun!!

[@TheLc-21]

thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear this video today

[@helenmoon3954]

Hi this is the 72 yr old female again. Be kind to him help him deal with his problem. I was so surprised my husband was so honest about his problem of ED. We have worked on this together. We have a beautiful loving intimate relationship as well as sexual. Lots of fun to be had Also have watched and researched on ytube some very open “sexologist “ videos which gave us much more information

[@Dave-x8j]

Helen, which videos did you find the most helpful?

[@lindyfrank5342]

You're a very understanding and good wife.

[@lindathomsonpolzin7286]

Susan, i bought your book on audio and thoroughly enjoyed it! I look forward to seeing you pretty soon as well. Linda

[@stevenhigby3512]

I am 61 years old and have ED. But I think a lot of it was due to me having celiac disease. So, my Dr put me on the pill and that took care of the problem for me. And I am fine now.

[@Dave-x8j]

Good news to hear

[@judybogle7426]

Steven, what was the pill ? My husband also has ED

[@stevenhigby3512]

@@judybogle7426 Tadalafil 20mg but you only need to take half the pill. I take 2 hours before. And it works really well.

[@lindyfrank5342]

It's called old age and not having a partner who should be helping you.

[@lindyfrank5342]

@@stevenhigby3512 the injections are the only thing that has worked with me...they hurt but it's worth it...

[@John-eo2bq]

Those stories are so beautiful 😥

[@bobmorgan5636]

A beautiful video ... My first wife's compassionate response was "I want a divorce.. get the **** out."

[@Seems_To_Me]

Consider using a penal pump with constrictor. It is a great tool, you can have post-play in addition to foreplay and play. Humor and addressing issues with a scientist's mind set can help.

[@jeralddyrek1780]

petter pumps are very dangerous to use and can actually destroy vital spongy tissue. You both should go down to Gym a few times and inhale the Male/Female Fumes!

[@lindyfrank5342]

The penal pump helps with the excersise...but if you do injections and then use the pump it really hurts...

[@tedclapham4833]

I have suffered from Total Erectile Dysfunction for over twenty years, when it first began I saw a specialist he asked if I was a diabetic and I said, yes type two. Without testing or even examination he said he couldn't help me and sent me away, he was the only specialist in my city at that time and I couldn't get a second opinion.

[@gloriayouchisonbrown7734]

Intimacy is so important and sometimes you have to use your creative imagination Which helps the person with ED.

[@lindyfrank5342]

Funny the last women I heard use the word intimacy...was anything but. She was a tease. Walked around naked upstairs yet wouldn't let me touch her anywhere.

[@ronaldwigglesworth]

You are so right thanks.

[@helenmoon3954]

Hi we are in our seventies. He has ED and myself vaginal dryiness and itch. There was no sex for a long time. I had first stage Prolapse went to a “prolapse physio” fantastic outcome. Exercises for that increased blood flow. Lots of moistureising as well. Sex is now twice at nighttime and in the morning everyday. He also uses a lubricant and some natural honey tablets work.we are now very open about whats been happening. There are now more erections and more sex. Your information is spot on. Everyone needs to keep healthy and exercise. It’s the best sex we’ve had in fifty years of marriage 😘

[@jeralddyrek1780]

Thank the Heavens for the BEE!

[@Cas3620]

Wow! Lucky you!! What does the honey do?

[@erichkupec154]

Hello Susan!

[@grandmajane2593]

It happened to me. Ex. said it was my fault and got visciously angry. He refused to discuss it. I moved upstairs then out the door to divorce.

[@sewaynessamuel1787]

Dear Dr. This is really important video. I appreciate great it is my problem and I need more information please help me . Thanks with respectful!!

[@terryrose6208]

It's very important to men to be able to perform in the bedroom right up until death. I understand that it's not always possible. I tried to explain to my ex that we needed to discuss these issues and find answers and alternatives. And a lot of women will not encourage their partners to keep trying regardless of performance. My ex was no help whatsoever. Her response was to find another man (men), which she did.

[@jeralddyrek1780]

To your Ex, you were no longer her "MAN." Why? I'm certain you asked yourself that question multiply times! Both women and men respond to Pheromones' of the opposite sex. After two years of marriage the odor of each mate becomes indistinct and begins to dissipate. Nostril excitement is where it begins. Go where the younger women hang out! Bars and various restaurants' cover up these natural odor's so stay away and experience fresh young women's Pheromones and this should bring you to your Manhood. Females can do the same! Wake up and smell the Roses! P.S. Remember, when female wants it, she isn't going to give Damn where she is at!

[@ckc7315]

If I could have gotten my husband to talk about it, we could have worked it out and done different things. Intercourse isn’t everything. He didn’t want to try other things. It’s been 20 years, I gave up. We stayed together, but there is just nothing there but friendship.

[@lindyfrank5342]

perform? I thought it was about HER NEEDS? So if you don't get an erection or ejaculate there's no orgasm? I beg to differ...

[@lindyfrank5342]

@@ckc7315 If you're frustrated she is gonna be frustrated too. She has to be willing to do hard work in stimulating you.

[@KutWrite]

That's how I've approached my situation, to the joy of several women... and me!

[@physiotherapistpaulina9340]

your eye look beautiful in this video btw. Yes, please keep talking about these things. Having sex with one partner for over 20 years can get very dull and impact the intimacy. Separate beds is awesome when they start snoring all the time. Sex does not need to be at night!

[@richardpauly1635]

Sex can happen anytime anywhere

[@leroydavis7854]

good afternoon I got your book today. I must admit I have not had sex in the last 20 years I'm 75 years old my wife passed away last April 2022. Due to medical conditions we did not have sex. I love my wife and we found that just holding and being there for each other was enough. I got your book today I am looking forward to reading I met a younger lady last month. I have told her about my sexual dysfunction with ED. I explained that it is more to companionship and sex I do work out three times a week two hours each time. For 76-year-old man I think I'm in good shape I do smoke. But I'm trying to stop. The young lady I am talking with would like a sexual relationship delayed. Cancel? I do have the pill. Maybe it will help? Looking forward to reading your book hopefully can

[@bobmorgan5636]

Show the book!!! What is it??

[@3hotspuds]

I think it is Secrets of the Sexually Woke

[@renakrotz3491]

Enjoyed this video and the info about ED. Me and my boyfriend are both widowed he 7 years and no sex for two years before that due to his wife's ovarian cancer and treatments. He gets so down on himself because he can't perform. We talk openly about the probable reasons diabetes, prostate cancer and radiation and do enjoy intimacy other ways. He has tried the meds, supplements etc and really gets discouraged - any suggestions.

[@ReconRat3]

Too late. Prostate removed in 1996, age 48. Been 27 years. No erections nor orgasms since. Pills, pumps (several types), injections all failed. Marriage trashed. All the Pollyanna talk aside, would take back my cancer-addled prostate in a New York minute.

[@elle3662]

Chaaaz, In my experience with working with men ( I am a sexological bodyworker) who are in recovery from prostate cancer/ surgery, is that they can orgasm & multiple ones they just don't ejaculate. If you are focusing on what you lost ie the ability to ejaculate and have a full erection you certainly are missing out on any pleasure, satisfaction/fulfillment. Sad that you had 27yrs of chasing after an erection and missed other ways of being creative in bed. I can assume that your sexual menu had very few dishes to enjoy. Hence your frustration and sense of loss.

[@jeralddyrek1780]

Try autohypnosis! Make the imagery exciting!

[@HartmutWSager]

[to @chaaazgould4828] Dr. Susan H-S did a great video here with very important points, but unfortunately, she, like most others on this topic, omitted one critical detail, the very detail that is giving you incurable ED. When the erectile nerves that pass right along the outside of the prostate are severed during prostate removal (or destroyed by radiation treatment), none of the famous pills can ever restore erectile function. Those pills can only have an effect when the ED is due to psychology or lifestyle (bad diet, no exercise, etc). When the erectile nerves are severed, only direct influences on the penis can sometimes work, like inflatable penile implants or certain drug injections into the penis near its base. You have my sympathies! It takes a mature, loving, committed woman to stay with you in this situation. Fortunately for me, at age 73, my erectile function is still fully intact, and yet, for the last 2 decades, I decided that any future wife will undergo a deep discussion with me about "what if I ever have a nasty prostate operation and permanent ED". I promise full continuing commitment, love, and intimacy to her if she ever suffers a great calamity (loss of breasts, something vaginal, etc) and I want the same in return if I ever suffer a great calamity (prostate removal with incurable ED, loss of testicles, etc). My last wife and I made that kind of two-way commitment to each other (I lost her for an unrelated reason).

[@richardpauly1635]

You need to be a great oral and use vibrator

[@sandman6988]

good video!!

[@bobmorgan5636]

The marriage vows should now include " "until impotence do you part..!"

[@finngamesknudson1457]

Story where nurse told wife “use it or lose it” is too funny. I said same thing to my wife and her response was to call me “silly boy.” Almost got out of bed and walked out - permanently. It is a difficult topic and belittling only makes it more difficult.

[@Dave-x8j]

You bet it's difficult! Fully agree. No one would have blamed you for having those feelings. It is likely the most challenging topic for men to discuss or approach. Few things feel worse.

[@lindyfrank5342]

The macho thing really is NOT to ejaculate...but orgasm without it. Tantra Sex gets it...lots of others don't.

[@lindyfrank5342]

@@Dave-x8j And few men discuss it.

[@nazarethluther7560]

Thank you for this video. My partner and I used to have an incredible sex life. But he has ed that has gotten worse. But how do I talk about ed with my partner after we have already had huge arguments over it recently after not having sex for over a year.

[@nazarethluther7560]

Also, I have been feeling so undesirable and wanted that I just couldn't hold in my feelings anymore. He says that I hurt him which would normally break my heart. However I recently found a masterbation tool that he had been using, so this defies all faith and trust I have in him. If he can use that but can't be with me. I'm so broken hearted over this. I have been searching for answers as its killing me inside and I'm ready to end the relationship. 😥

[@GwenMotoGirl]

I understand. In a better scenario, our partners would openly discuss. My (ex) husband was not at all open to talk or explore other ways of pleasing each other. Instead, he shut down. He agreed to counseling, then stonewalled and refused to even do small homework assignments. It’s painful and I lived with him that way for a decade until we finally divorced.

[@lisarichard2145]

Am testifying for the good and lovely kind work #drraysolution have done in my life with his natural herbal remedies Cured my Ed” $$$$$ Reach out to him he can be of help to you or loved ones ❤

[@lisarichard2145]

@@nazarethluther7560 Am testifying for the good and lovely kind work #drraysolution have done in my life with his natural herbal remedies Cured my Ed” $$$$$ Reach out to him he can be of help to you or loved ones ❤

[@Dave-x8j]

@@GwenMotoGirl tragic. And sadly this is the only script for elder men have to deal (rather not deal) with intimate issues concerning what he inevitably will define as a masculinity issue.

[@ameerzaman8254]

Hello doctor my case is opposite, when mine once erected then keep erected for hours,plz tell some medicine,i m very much in trouble

[@wtw100]

You did not talk about psychological ED.

[@jeralddyrek1780]

Having sex is a relief situation and much less than making love which can take several hours. Learn the difference of the two acts. Making Love is the true sexual act, and both can have orgasm even while the Male is Half Erect. Yes! I am a true Heterosexual Male! Proud of it too!

[@lindyfrank5342]

Serveral hours? With injections you are hard for a minimum of 60 minutes...I'd say that's enough.

[@lindyfrank5342]

how bout limp? I was and I did...

[@jamieraegro]

Women don’t usually have orgasm thru intercourse anyway. Just need to find new ways to get him there outside of intercourse. So you can get more creative. It really can be more intimate

[@tonywyyuen1]

We should accept that having ED is fine & will happen to men sooner or later. Men can still please their partners (till orgamsm if they want) with hands, mouth or toys etc.

[@JacobWillumsen]

Yes we can. But that is not having sex, that's is giving sex.

[@mscorrell]

I have ED.

[@genebloom8145]

My wife won't talk about it

[@ediewall6360]

I just wish it were called something else. My name, Edie, is now a disease.

[@richardpauly1635]

Edie anne use middle name.nice pic I don't think you make him have a limp he be hard

[@lamarinaelche]

Edie, I so sympathise with you , because your name is a beautiful one. Just spare a thought for the guys because who needs an embarrassing ailment that suggests that it’s existence is due to a ‘dysfunction’ of that guys body! Erectile Dysfunction should be renamed Erectile Difficulty, to take the stigma out of it. It’s a professionally created descriptive name which again, like so many medical terms , de humanises medical conditions to suit science. One of my other immense dislikes is the term ‘ this unfortunate person ‘ PRESENTS’ with ……….. etc. He or she is NOT a performer on a stage , they are not presenting anything , they are indicating by their very presence, an observable medical condition. The word ‘Presenting’ suggests that in some way they are deserving of being marked out of 10. Reading my late wife’s medical notes from medical professionals dealing with her breast cancer suggested that they were dealing with a medical curiosity , NOT A HUMAN BEING ! It’s about time there was a committee who monitored medical terms and their effect on those individuals and relatives to which those comments were addressed about. Some medical descriptions are just inhuman , or dehumanised in the interests of science, which apparently requires no such connections to exist.

[@graceperiod5352]

Lol 😊

[@Lene1973a]

I dont agree it never has to do with the woman. Sometimes things happened between the two. You have to look at these things too.

[@jameselliott7729]

You are a very Gorgeous woman

[@tomtom-by8rs]

I talked to my pharmicist about Viagra. I asked him if I could get it over the counter. He said "Yeah, if you take two"

[@elaineughrin4212]

O

[@grantfleming4120]

I see no help here, given up.

[@grantfleming4120]

To long to read, no real answers.

[@walkingwithdogs8547]

ED is nothing like how a female has to go through menaporse!! So why men can be so selfish..o and yes Im a male.😁

[@jeralddyrek1780]

First of all Doctor Smith. You best observe your Skin Blushing (brachium, chest and neck) while giving your lecture! Second: You are very nervous, tense and somewhat insecure in your voice as it quivers during your lecture! Please review your lecture! learn to Hypnotism and learn to use "Your own Stories" that a client will use to automatically recall when needed. You are a very well preserved and attractive women that a man should appreciate looking at! Trouble is this! You don't really understand just how brutal the Female is towards the psychology/physiology of a Man. And, don't forget what our Current Laws are doing to Man but not to Women. I know you wrote a book as so many others have had before but just listening to your 26:04 minute lecture doesn't excite me to purchase it. I'm 78 years very young, and going strong because I taught myself how to visualize the situation! And works on everyone (Male & Female)! Good Luck Dr. Smith

[@Cas3620]

You were harsh here. Show some respect.

[@jeralddyrek1780]

@@Cas3620: You obviously no very little about the Male Gender! When doing a video lecture, the host must consider everything that will be in the video! My criticism is to upgrade this fine women, then the doctor stuff is second Charlene!

[@HartmutWSager]

​@@jeralddyrek1780 You are a real jerk. Dr. Susan H-S does not need an upgrade via your advice. She did a superb video (as attested to by others here), and I saw no tenseness or insecurity in her presentation.

[@Cas3620]

@@jeralddyrek1780 Jerald, why do you try to be intimidating when all I see is weakness?

[@prohm1]

Your comments were so inappropriate. Had no value other than feeding your hungry ego. Your 78 years old and still haven't grown up. I was embarrassed for you. You are a very small man. Dr. Smith I enjoyed your Professional advice, and I admire your courage to show up and provide such excellent advice, particularly to the females on such a sensitive topic and how to navigate it with their male partner. Thank you for a job well done. I'm 70 and Grateful!

[@scottcarter1076]

I am diabeties I have ED. Please help

[@richardpauly1635]

Ask doctor change diet

[@lindyfrank5342]

I'm doing a lot of reading and discovery after surviving a RADICAL PROSTECTOMY...lot's of myths have been destroyed and the truth of what we go through post surgery is coming to light. Instead of being aroused visually and audibly after surgery you begin to now be aroused skin to skin...through touch/physical. And you wait for those nerves to reappear and heal. Some of said from 18 months to 3 years...and in some cases 4 years or never. I found it fasinating that between the erection and the ejaculation/or in our case orgasm....with no ejaculation, is where the real ORGASM exists. And if you don't get to the ejaculation/we literally expel air instead of semen, it's ok...that's where the real orgasm lies. They are two seperate things....ejaculation and climax. I had never heard that before. I would like to know how all these bible thumping men who have had a radical prostectomy climax without an ejaculation or even an erection? I have...and I've stimulated myself...which is recommened by most doctors. Don't they call that masterbation? LOL...guess if they want to continue a sex life...they have to have stimulation...

[@Puddlepiratesince1953]

opportunity LUKE TWENTYONE THIRTYSIX

[@jeralddyrek1780]

Such a shame using a mythological writings of a Bible. Look here! Luke. Samson & Delila is only about the causative factor's of your only God Hormone within so look there first about your problems!